Do Not Prevent The Woman From Going To The Masjid Part 2 – Umdatul Ahkam

household, the head of the household, as the most in the Muslim household, is the husband is husband. And

even though he should not prevent her from going to the masjid.

But he she is required to at least ask permission. Unless it's something that she's used to going, let's say, for example, he knows that she's going she goes that during certain time, but there are certain specific time and already, right. But let's say all of a sudden out of the blue, she says, You know, I am going to the masjid. She can't just go out of the house. And he's like, Hey, where are you going? You know, it's really good advocates, proper advocates. Some of the scholars are mentioned, it's mandatory. Let's call it this really proper advocates for a woman to ask permission from her husband? Can I go to the masjid, even though she knows that he can't prevent her?

Like, he's not supposed to prevent him. But still, you know, the thing? What's the benefit of it? If he's like, if you know, he's not getting he can't say no, anyways? Well, in the relationship, in a relationship, men and women are different. For men and women are different. When a woman comes and asks permission, it gives him a sense of, you know, authority in terms of like, he feels like, hey, that's something of respect. And that's something that a man husband usually, like, you know, feels that he is deserving, and he's taking care of the household, you know, show a little bit of respect. So it's a show of respect, and record and having good manners with your husband, and who you are

with your spouse also. And, you know, there's there's so many things of course, there may a hadith that mentioned how a when the husband should also be respectful towards his wife, and should treat her. In fact, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, hydrocal Mikado communities are equal.

From the NSA, the best of you are those who are the best towards your wives, and I'm towards you, a woman, and then the best towards my woman. And so it goes, but it also goes both ways. Like, there's also sometimes you know, nowadays with,

with the wave of modernism and things like that, a lot of speaker Imams do, and they don't mention this side,

the side of what was the which side, the side, that a woman should also be very respectful, and seek permission, even though it's not permissible for him to prevent her from doing so. And that's why

the Scholars have said you either step then it right when he, when the Prophet saw me that step, and when,

when she asks permission when she asked permission. And so some scholars based on that.

They say that it's mandatory. Other scholars have mentioned that, if he already knows that she's going Of course, that's permission. Otherwise, that's the default. So there are certain types of, there's a, there's a if there's, it's already known, like, you know, you know, you know, there's an event going on,

in the masjid. And she says, Okay, um, you know, I'm leaving right now. And even her saying, I'm leaving right now, and you already know, she's going to the masjid. You know, that's, that's her, at least to let her know. And it's also, how about a woman a man? Like, cat does she have? Does he have to ask permission? It's also good advocates. Hey, honey, I'm leaving to the masjid right now. Just to let her know, also, just to let her know. So it's not like, it's not like, she's gonna say, Oh, don't go to the masjid. But she might say don't go to the masjid today. Because, you know, I, our daughter is sick, and I need to do this and that, there might be a reason for it. But that's the you

know, that's not the default. That's not the default. So the first thing is that if she if she is going to the masjid, she should at least ask permission. She should otherwise what's the use of this hadith, the Hadith mentioning that when she asked permission, it's an indication that she shouldn't be asking permission.

Otherwise, like, just go, he can't prevent you. Just go, sisters just go. He can't prevent, you know, ask permission. Even though he's not allowed to stop you if he doesn't have legitimate reasons. And there's no digital music. He's not allowed to stop you. But at least ask permission, ask permission. Okay. And the another benefit is that it is permissible for a woman to go to the masjid. It is permissible for a woman to go to the masjid. You might say Well, that's a given in some cultures. In some countries, some towns the massage it's do not even have a woman section.

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like they don't have a woman section many like I know some massages, some of the older massages in in the UK, you know the the uncles that are coming straight from the Indian subcontinent. When they establish a masjid, they didn't have a woman section at all whatsoever. Because in that culture, the woman just don't go to the masjid. It's just you don't go to the masjid. And many massage, it's the older massage is a smaller massage. It's because of the small space. They didn't want to designate specific areas for the message for the sisters, because most of the time they're not coming. They're not coming. So some of the massages are not very sister friendly, very sister friendly, but as

Muslims, of course, we should try to make the masjid a place that is welcoming for all for, for born Muslims, for new Muslims, for the elderly, for the youngsters also, it's a place where people should be should be church should be made to feel welcome that they feel that they have a place also. So that's why the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, as I mentioned, he had a specific door just for the women, just for the woman to go in so that there wouldn't be any intermingling in the masjid and they prayed in the back. So there's a place for them in the back. Even in the sizes that don't have designated places for a woman, for a woman to pray. The back of the masjid is the default designated

place for a woman. The you know, when they pray their prayer area, and so it's permissible for because it

is permissible for her to go to the masjid because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said

if she wants to go, don't stop, don't prevent her from doing something. Which means, of course, it's permissible for her to do so. And of course, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned also he said In another Hadith, he said the condition he said, Well, Leah rodina taffy, that was

the filat that means definitely that is what let her wear that which is

that which is

tough unites meeting something that is not attractive, that you know, that attracts, that is

attracts men, you know, like anything that will would cat would gather attention. And he's able to gather attention. And tequila means also that she doesn't put anything on that would attract attention. And amongst those things, that some, you know, some people like to go out with perfume. So while you

don't go out with perfume, or anything that would attract the intention of men looking towards her, or knowing that she's nearby from the scent, and so forth. And that would be something that would not be permissible if she goes on these conditions. So let's say if she's not dressed properly, if she's not read dressed properly, or she is she has perfume on or she's not.

You know, she's not dressed Islamically with Islamic garb or dress, dress or clothing, then of course, the husband is obligated to prevent it from going.

Or just tell her say No, don't, don't go like that. If you want to go, then change your clothing, wear something proper. What's improper, you can go I'm not preventing you from going, I'm preventing you from going in that condition. Because the prophets of the lies have said, well, your original tefillah they'll go out without garnering attention, whether it's visual for sensual accent. And so another thing is, what's another benefit that we get from this hadith. Another benefit that we get from this idea is that men are the caretakers that means men are the guardian of the of the woman in the house in the household, the mean meaning he's the head of household. And when we say head of the

household, that he has the final authority as long as that authority is being used, not in a haram way in terms of telling people to do that which is impermissible and so it indicates that an elder rial Wilaya lol Mara. A woman a man has authority over women and ALLAH SubhanA wa chalices or regional Ohkawa Munna Allah Nisa, region

Men are a woman. That means they are guardians and caretakers, a woman's, they're the ones who, you know, they, they, the men are the head of the household. They bring in the money, and they take care of the family, and they take care of the woman. Regina Luca salmonella Nisa, Dima Hama, la abou home Alaba. Because of what ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada has favorite one over the other, won't be unfair for me because of what they spend of their wealth. And that's why there are responsibilities also, with authority comes responsibility. In order for you to have that authority, you must be taken care of your family, your household, you pay the bills, you pay the rent, you take care, you bring you you

put bread on the table, you got to work hard, we work hard and you take care of that. And as a result of your you taking care of the financial responsibility, you also have the final authority and authority in your household also. And so

rigea Luca, when Allah Nyssa Bhima Fabiola from Allah Allah who bow well mana mom. So another

benefit that we can extract from this hadith, the scholars have mentioned that that means

so if the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, if you're if your wife

seeks permission

from you, to go to the masjid don't prevent her, which means that it is permissible for him to prevent her from going anywhere else, if he feels that it's not appropriate.

If he feels, it's not appropriate, like okay, I want to go to so and so's house. Can I can I go so and so's house? Yeah, if there's a dispute, you have the final authority, I prefer you don't go. And in this case, then the authority, the final authority should be with the husband. Because the prophets of Allah said, if your wife seeks permission to go to the masjid, so other places, what's the best place you can go?

The best place you can go into the masjid the house of ALLAH SubhanA. Allah, they also have a lot of Hanworth Allah. So other places, if you feel it's not appropriate for her to go on to say, oh, I need to go, I need to go shopping, you might say, I don't want you to go, I take care of it.

Like, what do we take care of everybody? You're not to go? I'd rather have you stay home. And you have the right to do so. You have the right

as the husband to

to have such, you know, to have such authority. And so that's what some of the scholars have extracted.

Also, based on this hadith, but what about

what if she needs to go to

she needs to go do something that's, you know, like, that's good. Like, like going visit, joining relations, going to visit her mother going to visit her father.

She is he allowed to prevent her from doing so?

Is he allowed to prevent her from doing so? If,

of course, if something is mandatory,

if something is mandatory?

If something is mandatory, she has to do it

based on the orders of Allah subhanaw taala. Then of course, now you have a conflict. Like for example, I'll give you an example. Okay.

What if she needs to go visit her parents and joining relations is mandatory, right? It's much sooner than joining relations is mandatory.

And joining relations, let's say for example, you have sometimes you know, the family, the family, they have a gathering a whole side of the family, her side of the family, maybe some relatives have come over, and maybe her mother needs help. Right? And if she doesn't go help, that's like that's really bad for the family in terms of like, her mother needs help. And she needs that then joining a relationship is something that's mandatory. And in this case, if it is something that's mandatory for her to go, then it is not appropriate for him to prevent her from going.

Do you understand? We go into the muscles sooner, and it's not even it's better for her to stay home anyways, but you don't prevent. But what about something that's mandatory?

For it's mandatory, of course, it really depends on the circumstances and situation also, that you're not preventing her from visiting her mother or

You're not preventing her from visiting her father. But if there is, you know, if she's going all the time, to the point where she is not fulfilling her obligations

at home, then that's a different matter. Right? So but if she needs to join in join relations, then if we if you know, if she needs to go visit her, her aunts and uncles, you know, because of because we said, joining relations are mandatory. And if this is the case, then then it's then you have to let her go.

Right, you have to let her go. But if you feel, sometimes, your wife being in some people's company, causes harm for her. Because they're always backbiting and they're always, every time she comes back home, it's always a problem.

Because there's some women who like to cause problems at home. They're like, they don't like it, especially sometimes you have some women who don't have husbands because their divorce. And you know, like, they want misery likes company, like, as they say, they want everybody to have problems, too, right?

They want everybody to have problems, like, hey, you know, like, and sometimes it's because of that, right? And so there are some gatherings where it might be harmful for her. And you know, that that gathering, there are some people there, that every time you know, they're always, you know, speaking badly, or trying to make feel feel sorry for her. Like, oh, he was, you know, if my husband would like that, oh, my gosh, I would be gotten out the door the next day. And people like that, you know, if you're trying to cause problems, you feel that's the case, then you prevent her you like, I'm not preventing you from visiting your parents. But hey, in that gathering, I don't like those people,

you can go tomorrow, when they're not there. Anytime we help your mother anytime. But you know, with the that company, those, let's say your cousins are coming over, I don't feel comfortable with the kind of people they are, right, in terms of their Deen. And in that case, it's going to cause problems and break up the family. Why? Because what are you trying to do in joining relations is mandatory. But if she goes, it's gonna break up your family. Right? Then you stop up you can you can prevent her if you feel that that's going to, that might be the reason for it so far, maybe the reason for it and Allah subhanho wa Taala knows best. So

in terms of so in, in summary,

you should not prevent her from visiting her family. But if visiting her family, some people no no. So family can cause problems for your family, then, then you have the right to do so because then it cause it has an opposite effect. You're not enjoying relations, you're breaking up family. And that's why there are some people, some brothers mashallah, you know, they want to get married, right, and they get when they want to get married, they're already married, they want another wife. If you know that, if you get another wife, you're gonna break up with this family. Right? You want to enjoin relations and increase, you know,

you don't have to seek permission from from from your wife. But if doing so, you know, everyone knows, you know, of course, if you ask permission, I don't. Very few women will say okay, go ahead, go marry another sister.

Very few women are going to do that. And it's not mandatory upon you to, but you have to be honest, like straightforward enough, you're not man enough to tell your wife that you're not mad enough to get married to a second not. You know, you have if you're, if you're a man enough, then at least you know, man enough to tell you tell you why. Right. And then if you're, you know, if you're, if she's a mother, she's okay with it or not, but it's not going to break the family. It's okay to marry the second one, you know, and it's part in Islam, it's permissible.

In Islam, it's permissible. So but if you know that it's going to break up the family, and then this is going to cause more problems. You're in joining relations here and you're breaking up relations here. Right. So that's also that's not something that is

that's not something that's praiseworthy also, it's not something that's praiseworthy, but at the same time, you know, everybody, everybody's different. And sometimes you have, you know, of course, the sisters might, you know, you know, everyone knows their, their wife, right, some some people, like you know, you get married, you know, that's got its hold over. And sometimes they'll say it's over, but it's not over. Right. Right. Sometimes they say it's over. No, that's it. No, but it's not Inshallah, you can make it work. So depending on some, some people, hey, they don't have any they can't even take care of their family. They don't even take care of the bills. They don't even pay

for anything and then they want to go get married.

That's an

Have you done work? Right? If you're not paying for anything and you help your wife is also helping if you share, you have the same account, like, like, forget about.

So we tell you, right, you have to be our own attorneys, you have to be the unit, the Guardian caretaker, you have to provide. Like, if you're not providing, and she's providing, you're gonna get another one you want her to help provide for the other wife to, like, you can't even wait for her. Right? You can't provide for her. So how are you gonna? How are you going to make that work? And so if you're not able to be just for what he did, I will mail and you can't be Justin what? To just move on. And so

another benefit

is,

of course, we said it's not permissible for a man to prevent his wife from going to the masjid. Amy said she should ask permission, but it's also not permissible. And the this this is this is her right? Some of the scholars have mentioned

that, you know, this is this is something that is it's not haram, it's just disliked to prevent her from doing so. But the stronger opinion is that when the prophets of Allah Allah Islam said do not do so they don't do so if she's still going out with the proper etiquettes of going to the masjid and going out with the proper condition. Another another thing that we benefit from this hadith is the we learned from that Abdullah Omar Radi Allahu Anhu.

When he said,

You know, when his son, so I'm going to prevent them, but they're not the same. He was very, very angry. He was very angry, and he was angry. He was it was something it wasn't something that's like personal, it's because this, he was angry because he prioritize the word of Allah and His messenger.

He prioritize Allah and His messenger. And then when you say that, you know, I'm gonna prevent them when the prophets of Allah Allah, some said, don't prevent them.

Like that show that indicates

that he did not like the fact that his son was going against the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu anyhoo. So I'm straight on another benefit. Is,

is the benefit that we get from here? Is that when you're speaking

about you know, but the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. About the Quran, about the deen have manners, and speak in the best way you speak in the best way possible. So don't just

the fact that the reason why I believe there, Omar Abdullah, who was very, very angry at him is because he apparently contradicted the word of the Prophet salaam, directly, the way that he said it was very, very inappropriate. When he said, By Allah, I'm going to prevent a woman. Like I'm just telling you don't prove the Prophet Salam said, Don't worry about a woman who has imagined and you say, By Allah, I'm going to prevent them.

Allah Allah, maybe if you were to say, like, Father, the woman during our time is not they're not the same, you know? And then I will prevent my wife from going to the masjid because you know, what they're doing in the masjid. Right? So, you're not, you're not clearly opposing the Hadith of the Prophet some of

your mentioning with, with etiquettes and so when it comes to the Hadith of the Prophet sallallaahu. So, with the rulings with the, with the opinions of the scholars, like Have some manners have some etiquettes you know, like if some if someone says like, say, the Imam Shafi said this Imam Abu Hanifa, who's whose email he says human only events happening, like who are you, compared to the most happy to say such words? But if we are saying is that correct? Yes, he's human.

And the only person the only one that we follow the only person that we follow when we know that it came from him, you know, that we follow without questions asked is the prophets of Allah. He is infallible in terms of the rulings of halal and haram. Yes. What you're saying is correct. Yeah. But that's the Imam Shafi you're talking about. He told us that he's only human. That nodige Elohim. Rita there are men and we're met. Yeah.

They're whether they're men and women, like the way that you're speaking is very, very disrespectful.

very disrespectful when it comes to the deen. Another benefit. Well that's why Abdullah normal Radi Allahu Anhu. He was very angry at his son, Bilal Hassan Vela, because the way he spoke after hearing the word of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And so

another benefit

is that the province of Ontario some said, let them know, email masajid ALLAH, do not prevent the female servants of Allah, from going to the houses of Allah Subhan, Allah Allah. And so this is an indication that when the prophets of Allah said the female servants of Allah, and here, it's an indication also that they either wonder that your wives, your wives that are with you, they're not slaves. They're not your slaves. They're the slave the servants of Allah. They're the servants of Allah subhana wa. So you have no right to prevent them from going to the houses have a lot to hammer.

Right? So this is also raising the status to say that women are slaves and servants of Allah is something that's praiseworthy, and also, it's an indication to say that they're not slaves with you, like slaves and times you, you don't have the right to treat them as if they're slaves. Like you have authority, but they are the slaves of they are the servants of Allah, Hema, Allah, that am now email Allah masajid Allah, don't prevent the servants of Allah, from the houses of Allah. See, these are not your slave. These are the servants of Allah. So they want to go to the houses of Allah, you let them go to the house of houses of Allah subhanho wa Taala Anna. So this is also like a very,

very

subtle benefit that we extract from the wording that is used by the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And

he mentioned also

is is,

is is the fatwa sometimes, you know, different in terms of like, like, whatever the time is change. Can somebody say, no, no, women are not allowed to go to the masjid

times that we're living in right now. Nope, don't go.

Don't go.

By default, the default is you cannot prevent them from going. But if there are other factors that are also parts of the dean

that would prevent him from going then those factors have to be weighed in also, depending on what's going on in the masjid, let's say there's a time there was the massages are, you know, like people are doing things are haram? Well, there will be that in the massages or gatherings in the massage. It's then of course, in those situations, you don't prevent them by default. But those situations and circumstances the ruling is different. So let's say for example, you know that the people going to the masjid right now, it might cause problems if you go to the masjid because they have a mounted celebration. And if you go some people might look at it as an approval from your side like oh, look

at this. He's you know, someone who, let's say, let's say the Imams wife, like and, or and or you know, and then and there's some groups of people maybe they're celebrating and they're like the you know they're doing things haram so maybe if someone who have that influence, right? Maybe not his Masjid maybe the

Imam and this masjid and then there's another Molad celebration or something that's been haram that's happening in another masjid. And then your wife says, I want to go to the gathering of the masjid. And if she goes people might say, Oh, see?

Even his wife wait right even the moment ago his wife and that's I mean, it's okay. Right? It's okay. Look, he allowed his family to go. That means is okay. So in this case, the ruling is different. It's not because you're preventing it from going to the masjid. It's because of what's happening in the masjid that might give a perception that

a halal is haram or haram is halal and vice versa and Allah and Allah subhanho wa Taala knows best.

So

you might say okay, when we said when we said that,

a man

the husband

is allowed to prevent

his wife from going, you know, like anywhere else. Like if, if he wants to if you feel

are uncomfortable with going somewhere else besides the Masjid.

Why is that the case? What's the difference in the masjid and outside anon Masjid? Well, because the massages, you hear, you know, the massages are heartless there are talks, these are places where people can benefit and are reminded of Allah subhanho wa taala. And other places, maybe there's no benefit. Maybe there's very little benefit in it. And so there's no benefit or even there's harm, then you prevent. But the default is the massage it's generally what's going on in the masjid is generally something that is very, very beneficial. And if it's something that's very beneficial, of course,

this this is a this is something that you allow her to go but is she allowed to go when she's in her menses? That's another topic, inshallah. We'll get to that into our law, so the woman going to the masjid in their menses. So another thing is

another benefit that we extract from this hadith

is that when the prophets of Allah and Islam said he might Allah masajid, Allah,

Allah, like, let him know EMA Allah email Allah masajid, Allah, this.

This is an indication of the reasoning, the reasoning, what's the reasoning? So this is this is in in fifth week?

What's an ALA to reasoning? Why, why? Why should you not present? Why? Because they are the servants of Allah, not your slaves, that you have authority, you have authority in your house, you're the head of the household. But if he wants to go to the house of Allah,

her Creator, her Creator,

then you don't prevent her from going.

Because this is her Creator, Allah subhanho wa taala. And so that's why the, some of the scholars have mentioned one of the benefits that we extract from that is that when he says the law firm, they'll say email. It's an indication that you have authority. Yes, in your household, but if he wants to, that's your house. But if she wants to go to the house, the house of Allah knows of her Creator and your Creator, then you have no right to prevent her from going. Because you are serving lots of behind with that also. You are servant of Allah subhanho wa taala. Also, and the prophets of Allah, as I've said, In another Hadith and cyber fighting Muslim, what will you do one Hyrule

but their houses are better for them?

Their houses are better for them.

So what should you do? Well, if someone wants to go to the masjid, your wife wants to go to the machine don't prevent her. But what should you do shouldn't remind her that maybe she forgets that, you know, when you play at home, you know, you get more reward, right? She goes, but I still want to go, Okay, fine, go.

That's fine. Yeah, you go. But you know, when you play at home, but we used to hold a pharaoh praying at home is better for you. It's better for you. So just reminder, if you don't want her to just at least, to remind her that praying at home is better than better for her. But sometimes, at home, a woman is not getting any knowledge. She needs to seek knowledge. She needs to seek knowledge. I mean, the default is that when you come home, you should be teaching your what.

Whatever you learn, you teach, wherever you learn, you read whatever reminders you received, you remind, but if you're not doing your job, or sometimes you're not even going to the masjid.

Then of course, she has to learn because learning is valuable for a lot and aliqua, Lima slum Palom, seeking knowledge and then is mandatory upon every Muslim. And of course, this encompasses also male or female, Muslim, male and female, so I feel they're not getting their education, Islamic knowledge, then you allow her to go to the masjid. And she should go to the masjid to learn if she's not getting at home. But the default is that you should be going to the masjid whatever you learn, you will teach her you tell her and nowadays Alhamdulillah we have like I'm here. And there's some sisters mashallah who are listening, and they're learning also. And in this case, you might say

sister you

say to your wife, honey, maybe

you know that it is stream you don't really have to go. You can just listen. But I still want to go, you know, I still want to go ahead. Do you let her go right? You let her go. And you don't present her and Allah subhanho wa Taala knows best. So next level

We're speaking about prayer and congregational prayer. The next Hadith that we're going to be covering will start off started off tonight tonight, but inshallah we'll continue it next week is edito Abdullah Abdullah Omar also, this is Hadith number 67 or 68. From Abdullah no matter what the Allahu Anhu McCall, Salah to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Roctane

I prayed with the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to rock as before the word for Rakata in Banda and to rock us after the war for Rakata invalid Juma and I pray to it archives after Joomla Hua rock it invalid McGraw and I prayed to rock as after maghrib for rock I attained bad Malaysia and to rock as after Isha. And in another narration from another world raesha while Joomla for Salah to man V sallallahu alayhi wa sallam fee Beatty has for Maghrib Isha and Juma I prayed with the messenger and with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in his house, Buffy Laughlin and in another narration, and of neuroma Radi Allahu Anhu makalah had definitely Hafsa Hafsa narrated to

me and then the visa Lolo I knew he was gonna use Ali Sajid detainee, her FIFA trainee by them yet to learn the prophets of Allah Allahu wa salam used to pray to light rock after the onset of, of Fajr for a few men after the onset of budget meeting what was Fajr time but they didn't pre budget yet.

When the beginning of budget time, look at it sat and Hulu LNAV.

Okay, and it sat and this was usually the time that I would not enter upon the Prophet sallallahu. So in it. So what is Hadith? This hadith mentions about the robotic, the Sunnah, or robotic. Where did the prophets of Allah pray? How many did he pray? Because you have different opinion amongst the scholars about, for example, after doing a gym after Juma did he pray for or did he pray to? So you have many areas saying to other than that saying for but then some saying for us? I'm saying to So did he pray for that he prayed to that now that's clarified? No, he prayed to hear and I was with him in his house and he prayed to there also. So scholars, the scars I mentioned those of narrative

for because they started praying the muster to rock as they saw in praying to rock as again and after he was at home when he finished Juma, for example. And so he prayed for, but many people, some of those who never add to that didn't see him pray at home, because they were with him. So they pray to God pray for and so what are the sooner that are allotted? Meaning the sooner because the sooner that are the casual the sooner that the prophets of Allah used to pray before which prayers which prayer? did he pray? How did he pray them? Like for example, to record before Fajr de pray them? There were these two long records short work and so we're going to be covering a lot actually, about

the Sunnah prayers in sha Allah next week. So the next Wednesday, we'll continue with this hadith. And we asked Allah Subhana Allah to bless us in our time, and to prolong our life in His obedience. And we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to teach us which benefits that which benefits us and benefit us from that which He has taught us was so low and then Ebina Mohamed Salah Ali Hassan yourself so how Subhana Allah Houma? We have Nikesh.

Anybody have any questions and

Charlo? Yes

they do.

Why do some women don't a woman did not want to they don't want to share?

They don't but the default is that it's permissible. And you have to understand also you look at the society right now. Like even in the Muslim society, how many sisters? Like literally just look at our community? How many sisters do you know who don't have husbands?

How many brothers do you know who don't have wives?

Like, you know, the the you know, there are many there in terms of like there are many older sisters that don't have to don't have husbands and there's nobody who's going to want to marry them. Sometimes they just, you know, like, you know, they sometimes they have children, and especially in our communities now. Like, if the brother wants to get married, he just goes to to Africa because Asia goes back home and gets married. And who's going to marry the sisters are here who need husbands to take care of awesome and there are throughout society.

Throughout history, men have always, women have always outnumbered men, especially in times of war. times of war. I know like in Cambodia, in Cambodia, the, you know, after the Civil War, there were many women who didn't have husbands so many because their husbands died. And war. And usually in wars, the husbands, the men are the ones who will be killed more, more so than the woman. Right. And so you have a lot more women and I actually I, there's a, there's a,

I was,

you know, when I was in Cambodia after the Civil War, there's some sisters that came to me and said, they said, you know, they said,

like, you know, you got to speak to the men, like, look at how many women who don't have husbands in this, in this, in this village here. Like, even if every man married was already married, we will have 1/3 left, like, what do you expect this woman that she says, you know, like, listen to me, like, Yeah, I know, like, it's, it's hard, financially, and she goes, I'll take care of him, you know, help me find a husband.

Like, even, you know, I'll take care of him. Like, I'll take him I don't really like, even though I noticed this responsibility to take care of me, but you know, I'm already taking care of myself. It's okay. But you know, my children need a father figure also, you know, and she needs, you know, she has also your needs also. And so that's why,

you know, in many societies, like in this society, especially in Wuhan, Allah, like, a man can, you know, can have girlfriends and left and right and so forth. And, and, you know, it's his right as long as but then when somebody wants to do it properly, with obligations to take care of them, is Oh, no, no, no, that's not that's not good.

Right. That's not good. And, you know, your sisters also have to feel feel for the sisters who, who don't have any husbands. You know, there are many husbands many, sometimes they're good sisters. And they got married to someone who was bad. You know, and then it doesn't last long, but the sister is really good. But because she was already married, nobody wants to marry her.

Because she was already married my wife, nobody wants to marry her. So you leave the sister who actually needs you know, so if somebody who has the means and capacity there's nothing wrong with it.

I mean, the sisters might boycott me after saying all this

truth has to be said right.