Learn How To Forgive
Channel: Waleed Basyouni
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Alhamdulillah Anna Ahmed who want to stain who want to start a funeral home and older will let him and surely I'm pushing him and say yeah, melanoma. Yeah de la phenom Obaidullah who wanna you will follow her the Allahu eyeshadow Allah Ilaha illa Allah who the Holy hola Sharika Why should Wanda Mohammed and Abdul Hora Surah Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala Nabina Muhammad wa early he was sabe he was Selimiye Lahoma to Sleeman Kathira, a MOBA, or praise due to Allah and His praise and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his family, his companions and his followers until the day of judgment. I bear witness that Allah is the only one
worthy of worship and Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam his last and final messenger and I suddenly magical the Allah unsaid. One day I was with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he was wearing booragoon No journey, Yun HollyWell hasha hasha l bought, it's today. It's like a type of garment around his neck and on his shoulder long. It's similar to what we call today maybe a long coat or a long rope that people used to wear on the top. And he said it's made of a very rough material, you know, not one of these smooth materials, rough materials. And it's this thick, on while the prophets of salaam walking with me. A Bedouin came from behind. I was walking past and he grabbed the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi wa sallam, and the way he grabbed him he grabbed the two sides of the rope and the garment and he pulled the prophets of Allah salam from that rough materials. And it's almost like you know when you choke someone, but he will pulling the profits or Salam to the extend an assert, I can see already mark on the profits or salams neck
from this rough material. Then he looked at the prophets of Allah, Allah Salam, and he said, Yeah, Mohammed morilee mean madula Give me from the wealth or the money, that it belongs to Allah. It's not your money, it's Allah's man. So give it give me some money. I need help. I'm poor and I need help.
In Nabi SallAllahu, Sallam looked at him. And in that resource, Allah smiled. And he looked at the companion, he said, give him he's a neat
and maybe salatu salam in this incident, he demonstrated a high level of self control. And another level of letting go, and forgiveness and tolerance sal Allahu Allahu alayhi wa sallam. He is indeed the best of manner sal Allahu Allah your audio Salam.
And he basically salatu salam, and thus following the footsteps, and is the same lap in the same manner as up the prophets and messengers before him. But as he was Salallahu Salam, the best of all the prophets, he was the best in all areas. The concept that I want to talk to you about today is the concept of learning how to forgive how to let go. And that's something that is not easy. And it's easy to be said, the word forgiveness and let it go on. And you know, I move on and all these easy, but it is hard, really, when it comes to reality.
When I read the story of use of RAS set up the whole entire chapter of the whole person to talk about the suffering and the plotting against user that at the end of the surah
after all this at the end of the surah they just tell the Brother, forgive us. Just few any few lines before that before this line. Please forgive us before just few lines before that. They were saying Oh, Binyamin is a thief like his brother use.
And it's no remorse. But at one point they said you know what? We wrong and you're right. Forgive us. What did he say? Carla? Three beliau Are you do you ever feel Laguna Kumu who are humble raw he mean? Use have said there is no blood
aim on you today. May Allah forgive you, He is the Most Merciful of the merciful
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and in Nabi SallAllahu Sallam use the same verse and this phrase, he used it after he conquered McCann, he saw the leader of Croatia after all these years,
all this years, 13 years in Makkah, and now 10 years in Medina
or nine years in Medina,
eight years in Medina, suffering from the plotting and of Quraysh. And the animosity of Quraysh.
rider in the lane almost 20 years, are they 21 years.
And he said, What would you what he told them? What do you think I will do to you? They said you're our cousin, your brother.
Then he said, I will say what use have said to his brothers, let the three Valley Camileo no blame on you today. May Allah forgive you and he's the most the most Merciful of the Merciful.
In Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam demonstrated this in many in many occasions.
You know the story when the prophets of salaam was sleeping and a man sneak
into the camp of the prophets of Salaam, and he picked the prophets of salaam saw it was hanging on a tree. Then he woke up the Prophet SAW Salem like this putting the tip of the sword on the process Salam throat, and he said, Yeah, Muhammad wake up.
Who can protect you from me today? The process of Allah. And he said that the the land starts shaking. And he was shaking so hard and he dropped the sword. The person picked the sword. And he pointed to him and said, Now who can protect you from me?
What the person did, he said, Let it go.
When the Sahaba came to attack him and I said no. Let him go. He forgave him. You know, when he conquered Haber,
a woman put a poison in his food, Salah Salem. And when he took the first bite
that the meat spoke the bone spoke and it was America said Yeah, Rasul Allah in nemus, MUMA. I am poisoned, don't eat me. Then it may be so some spirit whatever he took, but it was filled with sauce. So the person already have basically absorbed some of that poison in his body. That's why two of his companion died.
The product they brought the woman, that Jew woman who given them the food and she cooked for him. She asked what's the part of the sheep that the Prophet Muhammad love the most? They said, Al KTF
which is basically that shoulder.
Then he said to her, why did you do what you did?
Then she said, I was trying to test you to see if you're a prophet or not. Because if you're a true prophet, Allah will tell you, God will save you. And if you're a liar, you deserve to die.
Obviously, if you're like, if this done to you can imagine this done to any president or king or leader? Or do you? Would you Would you believe that what the President did the CDR or so he said, let her go.
He forgave her.
I mean, demonstrating that that's another level.
And if I think about anything that made the prophets of Salaam and everyone who wants to learn how to forgive, there is one point I saw so clear,
concise, consistent and repeated in the stories
that Mohamed Salah Salem and those who want to be like Him, they need to learn that all their actions, what they do and what they don't do.
What they give and what they take, what they say and what they don't say. They will do it for the sake of Allah.
The moment you learn how to live like this, the moment forgiving will be so easy because you don't forgive because of yourself. It is because of Allah.
So no matter what it is, you will be able to let go and to forgive and to move on.
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Allah says, Marsh, walk first race to agenda that is bigger than the heavens on Earth to the forgiveness of Allah. That's the motive. Then he said those people who this is the goal, this is the mindset, this is what the do whatever they do for
what is their character traits, one they give in the time of ease and a time of hardship. You might say, Why in the world would you give in a time of hardship, logically, you should hold my money, you should keep it, you should save it. But when you do it for the sake of Allah, your calculation is different.
Never forget, one of the brothers in this community came to me and said in COVID time, he said, I lost most of my employees I'm about to fire to let go or to basically
let go all my stuff. I'm just making God that I can keep them. Because I don't want to close the door for risk for them, provisioned for them. But yeah, I can't. It's hard.
And now the time for me to give my yearly donation
to the mustard, and to some Islamic organization that I get.
I it's hard. But you know what I took from my saving and I gave?
And I don't want to Yes, not maybe as much as he gave before. But I gave I still committed.
Logically you see this no makes no sense. You should save your money. You don't know what's the future. But when you do it for the sake of the sake of Allah, the thing you calculate things in a different way. And 100 Allah bless him with more jobs.
And more money.
In the business and right before he died, he told the Companions whoever I've done anything wrong to forgive me and whoever have done wrong to me is forgiven.
When it came to hustle and bustle we
are full of meaning. forgiving people is the best quality that can be ever exist in a believer.
And today, I know we hear a lot about what's this prophets of salaam dead or said in regards to this. And we never get bored with these stories. But I want to share with you in this hope about examples of the Sahaba of the lawn and the successes and moving on and the history and the life of those saw a role model for us.
And there is so much wisdom and so much of what I'm going to be sharing with you today
to see that this is something not only profit capable of but also people who follow the footsteps of the prophets of salaam can do it.
Once Abu Bakr sadaqa the Allah on call Allahu Raju, La Sabana Cosette Ben yet Hello, Monica cabrach Kanaka Bri correct whom I can't bet on Mariana
a man told or Bucher I'll curse you. I'll say things about you bad things about you would follow you until you enter your grave and it will go with you to your grave. Oh, my grave? No, it will follow you to your grave.
Your curse and your bad words will follow you and follow me to my grave.
Because it will be he meant it will be in your record.
Remember Tabata? The Allahu Anhu said right before he died Kulu nurse MiniFee Hill.
He said emerald Allah and anyone that ever said or done anything bad about me or do to me is forgiven.
Remember the law I'm given excellent advice. Carla either submitted Kelly Merton to the IC for the SEC. If you heard someone said something bad, something bothering you. Something insulting, felt insulted by, you know, he said Allah is Allah, Allah and said what you do.
Anyway, that means Yanni just go down like this, let it go fly over your head.
Don't let it head to your heart. Don't let it stay in your head. Just just you know, try to maneuver and just let him pass
no matter how subtle they allow and Safin.
He found the thief in his tent stealing from him and that fee from the other camp. So when they capture him, the police are people in charge of the guarding his tent.
They said he's from our enemy let's cut his hand off. Because as you know your own soldier you cannot cut their hands off or, or apply punishment to them during the war because you need the soldiers. Okay, he said from the enemy, let's apply the punishment on him. He said no, but as to Allah, Allah Allah Allah has rallied for dunya Allah. He said No, I will forgive him. Maybe Allah will forgive us and cover us in this dunya and in the Alpha
Shana Shipman bass once in one of the classes on teacher shuffling beds.
In the night, he heard noise in his house. And you know, he's the Grand Mufti has a official position Saudi Arabia. So you always have guard 24/7 at his house.
He wakes up as usual in the middle of the night or the way before Fajr to pray, and he heard some noise.
So there is like a bell, he, you know, he pushed the bottom, alert the police he came and he said there was some noise in the back.
The police went and they found the thief actually was trying to steal something from the backyard.
They captured him. They never informed chambas About what happened.
He prayed Fajr and he said to the soul to the guard, what happened? They said there is a thief stealing this love from the backyard. Then the shell said what happened to him? What is he said we took him to the police station. He said no, go get him
to my house. Go get him.
So they went and they got him from the gap police station back to the Bahamas. And he said to him, What did What are you doing? Miles said I didn't know what your house chef.
I was just looking for something to steal so I can make some money. He said why you wouldn't make this money. He said she will lie and never steal my life. You can look at my record. But I need the money. My mom is in hospital on them. He made the story about like, you know,
that has family members, his mother or something like that needs money to go back to his country and to pay for her hospital blah, blah, blah.
Then the chef said to him
how much is it? He said 4000. Rael, at that time, that's a good amount of money. Then the chef talked to the police. He said you let him go. He will be kicked out of the country. Then the Shia, give him $4,000 4000 real
is it don't steal? Ask. There is much halal. You can get whatever you want. He gave him the money.
And he let him go. So he took exit only exit visa from Saudi Arabia and Ben to come back.
Five years later, this man came back to the Saudi Arabia with a new passport, whatever.
Then he came to Shetland boats
with an envelope. And he gave it to Sharon Bastian was immediately recognized him. He's blind. But from the voice. Are you the sponsor? He said yes. So this is the 4000 rail that you gave me.
I'm an honest person. I really still because of my mother's situation. And I work hard and I made the money. I made the commitment to go back sort of it to pay you back.
Because of the way you treated me.
Then the chambas said no, I don't need the money. You can keep the money or honest man doesn't but don't steal.
That's not how this is achieved. I would never do that. But I came back asking for one thing from you.
He said what he said I want to work for you.
And actually that person was shuffling bus driver until the shift died. He's one of his drivers.
And He only told the story after the Shambo has passed away
learning how to forgive people make you win people so many times. I've done medical no Marwan was in a fight with Natasha. And he captures so many of his soldiers. So the broad them tight, their hands tied behind their backs in front of him. Then he looked at Raja and one of the Muslim scholars at that time said What should I do to them?
Then he said
Yeah, I mean, cut back Allahumma To Him
be another fora Kallie him? Yeah, I mean, I mean, Allah have given you what you love, which is to win the battle.
To capture your enemy so now do what Allah loves.
He did to you what you love, now do what Allah loves. Then he said what is that? He said to let them go and to forgive them and to give them a second chance
then he said you all free to go Don't ever pick up
a sword against the Muslims again
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up yet most of you are an authority kind of not a yesh your coffee I'm going to be Darwish to Philadelphia who am I forgot I had a lot to fit Fisher demeanor were both in his soul him oh they are for in LA no Catholic woman as Allah fina be act thirimanne and Natalya Allah huffy
it's gonna throw reported the Devin Ayyash used to say bad things about I'm gonna develop and they'll cool he's older, known wolves respected person in the Kufa I'm gonna knit up but I actually used to say bad things about him. So I'm gonna never once met him in the street he said, Hey, take it easy. Don't talk so bad about me. Just don't talk too much bad things about me.
Keep keep a space for a piece or one day we might make it up one day maybe we will forget and forgive each other.
You know what, there is nothing much better. When someone this obey Allah and the way he treating you is to obey Allah and the way you treating him or her I'll say that again. Is nothing better when someone disobey Allah by the way he treated you in return you obey Allah and the way you treating that person.
Don't be equal. There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness
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a mentor told him once.
Latifah Rosa nilotica Allah he will lie I will focus on you.
I hate you so much and I'm going to focus on you expose you talk bad about you. Trash you
today, just no online yet nothing that he is basically you are my target.
I will free my time for you.
at Sephora Honda, like Ross Perot, Allah had has shown. He said that's not freeing your time that you're occupying your time with the worst thing can be ever occupied with. Then he said to him, Are you threatening me? Then I'm Ross and I'm not. Carla. Yeah, I'm wala Hallo tackle Kereama. Let us manage them in Yashraj *a wala Hello, Tasha and lintas Mahamuni Kalama.
He said to him, Yama, be careful.
If you say one word our return with 10 I will say 10 I'm not smart. He said son. If you say 10 You will not hear one from me
the weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong
i That's why I'm gonna last was a strong man.
Even if he thought I'll kill him. I'm an adjunct my seminary we had about
one of the most amazing statement that I heard in regard to this issue. Without even me talking about the Allah who said
either Kadota Allah do weak federal alpha and who shook Rondell Kurata Ali
yesterday. I know the Allah on set. If Allah gives you the ability
to win over or to
win against your enemy,
the way you thank Allah
for that blessing is to forgive your enemies
Allah give you the power you broke him, forgive him and move on.
Allah give you the power to divorce this person has let it go forgive them. Allah give you the power to take your money back from that person. How to thank Allah for allowing you to be like this way is to forgive that person.
You got your right and just move on and your life
how Raja Ali Abdullah Hussein look at his grandson, Ali ibn Hussain Ali was walking out of the mustard one day and somebody came to him and he cursed him said bad things about him. People
From from every corner Why did you say this? To the grandson of the Prophet saw something?
he said, Son, what you don't know about me is way worse than what you know about me. But that hamdulillah Allah cover my mistakes. What do you need while you're so angry?
What is it that you want? The men filled Chai then he took him on the side and he gave him money. And he gave him $1,000 home and he gave him like a shower was on his shoulder. He said, Take this, just be happy, whatever made you upset with me, just either told me or just forget about it. Whatever you heard about me
is not true. Basically. It's not an easy journey to get to a place where you forgive people. But
it is such a powerful place because it frees you.
It makes you in control not controlled by your anger and group and grudge and frustration and hate mail loss pinata Allah make us among those who are able to forgive on a massive metal Mustapha, Rola honey Welcome Mr Fierro.
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sometimes you need to learn to when you forgive is to always think about the positive side.
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we're in assault Tara cook. We have money they're all they all was hanging around with you hanging out with you your money because free meal and out environment free Starbucks free dinner free rides you know you didn't pay guys they give you food they do this gift blah blah blah traveling your money they all hang always hanging around you
but when you are poor when you don't have much money money is not they don't even contact you. They don't even care about you.
You know like you see how we don't do that but just for a joke. Like in Ramadan Hills reach out to certain people. Hey, how you doing blah blah right before I'm online? Yeah, sure. Because it donation.
I don't do that. But just as a joke. Some people maybe do.
I don't know what about life means.
Okay, so as you said, when you don't have much money, we don't see them around. What a worst friends you have.
Chef, I love this kind of attitude. He doesn't want to poison himself from inside, because you can think about it this way. And you build on this and he became frustrated and angry. But look at his reaction.
He said la had I mean Karami him. You're shown and if he had no clue what he mean, Noreen? Well, you fire the opponent if he had an Adze and be me Nah, no, that's actually they are good people.
They come when they know that I am able to serve and to help. But when they know that I can't and I will be embarrassed and I will be in a hardship and I will have to go all out of my way because I have to take care of them.
They know I don't have the ability to do that. So they don't come just because they don't want to embarrass me.
You see how he received from a completely different perspective
a man said something bad to someone. Then he wrote him a line of poetry. cannula insert Annie a Nilton EB masa teen fella called Savani and Neha thought to be Balika.
As much as I'm heard about the bad things that you said about me, but at least you thought about me.
Abraham not have said look for 70 excuses for your brother. And if you couldn't find one, just make the last excuse is that what that I forgive you? Even if there is no excuse? Because forgiving is not about excuse forgiving is about even you have no excuse. I forgive you. And some some other people said make the excuse that you couldn't think of an excuse.
This not being dumb, by the way. That's not not somebody wants to protect his heart, her heart from being poisoned
and filled with anger and frost
ration for no reason.
That doesn't mean that you don't take your rights that didn't you know hold people accountable. That does it for somebody means something along to me, forgiving him it doesn't make that person my friend.
And if somebody did something back to me, it doesn't mean forgiving it means call us we hang out tomorrow. No, I let it go. But you know what?
I want to come you going away I learned my lesson.
Yesterday, Danny lamb Buddha Raju had their coffee Hustla 10 Alina and Murphy at nurse what Elijah was Americana home. You will not be a noble person until you learn two things. You don't look at what people have in their hands and you will let things go.
When you forgive, you heal. And when you let go, you grow.
May Allah subhanaw taala then you make us among those who grow in manners and give us the ability and the strength to forgive. May Allah subhanaw taala to forgive us what ever mistake that we have done, what people know of our faults on what they don't know, and to guide our parents and to guide our children and to gather all of us into nuttin name may Allah subhanaw taala to bring peace and tranquility and prosperity and safety to our homes to our community to our country or since city and to the Muslim world and to the world and we ask Allah subhana wa Taala to make the the coming days and our live better than the days that appears behind our back and we ask Allah subhanaw taala to
keep us on Islam and Sunnah until we meet him while he is pleased with us. Along with him now suddenly we're selling them alberic ala Nabina Muhammad Ali, he was so happy when when Satyabhama coma