Tim Humble – The Muslim Family #49 – Keeping Ties With Your Relatives

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			Today we're going to start a new segment and this is the last section of the course. And the topic
is the topic of Scylla to Rahim, keeping ties with family members. And after we've now talked about,
we started with marriage, and then children, and then parents. So as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam said from a dinner kit, I didn't check, then the closest one and then the next closest
one. So the natural way to branch out now is to look at the wider family members, and to look at the
topic of syllable rhyme. If you do have questions, you're more than welcome to Ask them related to
the material that we've done in the Muslim family course by emailing [email protected]. And make
		

			sure you put them Muslim family in the subject, line inshallah. And we will make at least one
episode at the end inshallah, to cover the questions that people had about the course be in the Lion
King. So the topic for today is Scylla Torah, him keeping ties with family members, and this word is
made up obviously, this is two words this phrase Scylla and Ryan. So how do we what is the meaning
of each of those of each of those words? So, first of all, Brian lova 10 linguistically, it refers,
of course to the womb, the word Ryan, it refers to the womb. However it is then used the word is
then use after that, for any one that you have a tie to through your mother or father.
		

			Anyone that you have a tie like a blood tie to blood relations, that's what the word or Rahim is
used for. And
		

			we've heard that a lies which are right in the beginning of the of the of the course, we spoke about
how Allah subhanaw taala made Benny Adam nessa, Ben will say Allah made for them a nessip, and a
sale he made for them ties through blood and ties through ties marriage. So what we're talking about
now are the ties through blood. And that is why it's used for all taraba the people who are close to
you from your relatives, who are related to through blood ties through your mother or through your
father. And as for a Silla
		

			sweater, it means to connect the word itself it means to connect from lasala you're suitable it
means to connect and hear the scholars they say that they give it by example, they give for example,
the example of a car with tawassul and the example of in farkle mal spending on them to give the
example of visiting them they give the example of communicating staying in touch with them.
		

			So how do we define exactly what is meant by the Scylla? to keeping ties? How do we we've got some
examples some of them say that it means to visit them some of them say means to be in touch with
them, some of them say that it means to offer them money when they need it. So how do we actually
define it? So here we can define it by Majira be here a lot of
		

			what the earth they have defines a narrow set
		

			what people understand to be Sylar, that is
		

			one major IV healer of Edna who Katya for Katya. And whatever the understanding or the order of the
people is that it's cutting off family ties, and it's cutting, because here we don't have a clear
definition for what is meant by a sinner by keeping the ties. So here it goes back to an earth
		

			and goes back to the matter of what people understand what is commonly understood. So for some in
some societies, it might be commonly understood, for example, that certain relatives, you, you need
to visit them. Let's say for example,
		

			On eat, and that is considered Scylla. And if you don't visit them, it's considered coffee is
considered cutting off from them. In other places a phone call would suffice the fact that you phone
someone or you, you know, you have them on an instant messaging you message them from time to time,
there's no strict definition. But it is my job to be here or what the earth
		

			specifies a what people matter out of it in us what the people come together. And and it's commonly
understood that this is what it means to keep ties. That's what it means to keep ties. And what's
commonly understood that this is cutting off, then that's what it means to that's what it means to
cut off. And that's why some of the scholars they said it is every action that you do towards your
relatives, that is considered a means of keeping ties and and not pushing them away and cutting off
from them. Sometimes this is by offering them wealth, sometimes it is by taking care of their needs.
Sometimes it is by serving them, sometimes it's by visiting them. And sometimes it is by
		

			communicating with them. So here we have a comprehensive discussion, every action that you do
towards your relatives, that is considered is is among the things that people consider to be keeping
ties, that doesn't cause them to be pushed away from you, and doesn't cause them to be cut off from
you. Sometimes this is worth its money. Sometimes it means that when you know that one of them is in
need or has a debt that you try with whatever you have, and certainly you have enough to pay it off.
But whatever you have to help them out financially, sometimes they you know, they have a need for
something, you know that relatively they need something and you go and you try to help them with
		

			that need, it could be any kind of need, it could be that they need to do something or achieve
something, or they have an a problem somewhere and you go to try and help it try and solve it for
them. It could be by serving them I when they come to visit you by you putting out food for them,
and giving it to them and serving it to them. And it could be by visiting them and it could be by
calling them or messaging them. And that's why even in this time,
		

			the understanding of service or RAM could be affected by things like technology. Because before, it
might be the case that perhaps a person would write a letter. Now you could communicate with with
even distant relatives instantly with great ease. So I would encourage people very strongly. So
Paula, we talk about the dangers of social media, and we talk about the dangers of the internet. But
there are some amazing above a higher means to good in the internet and social media. Use it to keep
in touch with your relatives use it facilita Rahim for keeping in touch with people, they would say
this person is a really good relative because we see them keeping in touch with us on social media.
		

			And you know, they ask about us and so on. Perhaps they call us or video conference or whatever it
might be. Ultimately Islam didn't put a specific definition for it to make it general for the things
which people in your society in your culture, consider to be skeletal right, considered to be
keeping ties. Of course, that doesn't enter into the harem letter at Lima looking female serial
Holic, there is no obedience to creation disobedience to the Creator. And likewise, as we said,
blah, blah, blah, there should be no harm caused, which is a harm a shadow harm should not be caused
to the person facilitate
		

			such that he becomes poor gives all his money away, and then suffers because of it. But what people
in the culture in the society typically considered to be similar to Rahim, that's what you have to
do. So So terrarium differs from culture to culture, in some cultures, there may be a very strong
demand or very strong emphasis, and that the expectations of the relatives are very high. And in
other cultures, the expectations of the relatives may be very small, you know, maybe very small. It
could be anything to to things like visiting or going to a wedding, when there is a wedding in the
family. That could be a kind of celestial realm. Again, we can't go into the heart on and we can't
		

			go into that which brings about extreme harm upon someone like he has to travel to the other side of
the world and he doesn't have enough money to be able to do that. But
		

			the if it's within the ability, and it's not falling into the Haram, for example, going to the
weddings, many cultures consider this to be a possibility that if you go if you don't go it's
considered that you are cutting off, it's up it's a copier, it's an act of cutting off MacArthur is
considered that your your your question?
		

			off from them. And it may be down to the way that they are trapped in the home. It may be down to
how much you visit them call them. So I handed in that that the topic is one where there is
flexibility. However it is it's important that the relative doesn't feel like they're being caught
often know that within the limits of the Highlander and we don't want to fall into the hierarchy and
we can't be creation and disobedience to the Creator. But we generally speaking within the limits of
what allies made halaal we don't want our relatives to feel like we don't keep ties with them. And
no doubt the relatives are of different levels in the sight of Allah azza wa jal and that's why
		

			Allah subhanaw taala told us what all are hammy bow to whom Allah be balding fakie tabula.
		

			In Allah hubby Cooley Shea in any
		

			allies, which has said at the end of solitude and fact that the old our hand the relatives are of
different types bow to whom Allah be bout, some of them are more deserving than others in the book
of Allah, in Allah have equally shaken it. So no doubt, for example, the parents they have a place
of precedence, as does all of those who have the title, a wallet on wallet like a jet agenda, the
grandfather and the grandmother, and the brothers and sisters. They're not all not everyone is the
same. Your brother and sister is not the same kind of sealer, as you're going to have for your
relative who is your second cousin twice removed. No doubt the two of them are not going to be the
		

			same. We're all our homi Bhabha, whom Allah be better than Vicki Tabitha, the relative some of them
have a higher status than others. There have many different levels of each according to the
neediness at each according to the society and the expectations and so on. So even your distant
relatives, it might be something as simple as
		

			being in touch with them over social media, sending them an occasional message, maybe a group
message where you message out to all your relatives, swapping everyone as well asking about them.
It's a small thing you do and with the people who are closer to you, it may be that the expectations
are greater. For example, siblings, brothers and sisters, the expectations may be greater and
higher. Because all our ham davon Ola people, some of them are more important and more deserving
than than others.
		

			As for the obligation of Scylla, to Rahim, in the Quran and the Sunnah, the obligation of keeping
ties with your relatives, Allah azza wa jal, he told us in salt All right, well, levena sirona Mr.
Allah will be here you also we are showing our homeboy a half one so Allah he's up.
		

			Eliza gentle, he told us those people who they keep ties with what Allah has commanded them to keep
ties with. And here the scholars of Tennessee they said men are Rahimi well kharab from their family
members, that and they're the people that are close relatives. They keep ties with what allies
commanded to keep ties with and they have Hachette of allies, which are they fear Allah based upon
knowledge, and they are fearful of a bad account. Until allies we just said oola akella home or
COVID de They are the ones who will have the final abode of Paradise because they keep ties with
their relatives and that's what allies which I mentioned about them. And Allah subhanaw taala. He
		

			also mentioned later on in Salta, right? We're living in a town called La him in badme. therapy.
Tyrone amatola will be here your sir? Well you've seen when I fill out all ecola home Allah Allah to
Allah home Zoo allows us those people who break their oath to Allah after they had established them.
And they cut off the ties that Allah commanded them to keep ties with from the relatives, and they
create great corruption on the earth. They are the people who will be cursed, and they will have the
worst of aborts the fire of Johanna Maria villa. And Jubail even more time, radi Allahu and narrated
from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to he said, Leia tahirul janetta car there that the one
		

			who cuts the ties of his relatives will not enter Paradise will not enter Paradise. And then
Murrieta, one of the readers from the Heidi if he said that Carla, Sophia and Sophia and he said
Rahim Allah to Allah yarny call tr Rahim. He means the one who cuts ties with the family members lie
the whole agenda, they will not go to gender. Now what does it mean they will not go to gender,
		

			identity or gender or is that they will not be prohibited from gender
		

			evidence about forever and ever.
		

			If they came with it tawheed they were people of tawheed and they fulfilled the minimum conditions
to remain within Islam. They will not be prohibited from gender forever. However they will be
prohibited liat whole genetic author do hulan A Walia. There'll be prohibited from entering gender
with the people with the people antigen. And instead they will be punished to the extent that they
cut off from their relatives. And no doubt in the law. They all feel like it'd be way off. I do know
that academia sha Allah doesn't forgive you make a partner with him but less than that he forgives
for whoever he wills
		

			and can so Pamela This is worried should eat it's a severe threat of punishment. liat whole agenda
today that the one who cuts ties with his relatives will not enter will not enter gender. And allies
which I said for what I say to Intel were later and to see to fill out do to cocktail or Hanukkah,
or that he can live in Allahumma la with a somewhat of a Cylon. So Mohammed between is number 22 and
23. So what do you think will happen if you turn away you will corrupt the earth and you will cut
off the ties of your relatives. They are the people who Allah has cursed and he has made them death
and he has blinded their eyes. We have a hadith which explains this ayah from the hadith of Abu
		

			hurayrah the Allahu anhu Allah, I know Carlos Carlos autolyse all of it was in Allahu Allah called
Hulk Hata Ada Fela Minh home calmative Rahim for Carlat. Allah created creation. And when he
completed the creation, the rhyme the womb, I stood and said hi there mahkamah ed Miller cochlea.
		

			In this place, I stand to seek refuge from the ties of the womb being cut allies or gel Carlin and
Mr. Tuttle, Dana and arcilla man was so lucky. Well, Ty Mankato Araki call it Bella
		

			Eliza jelly said yes. Would you not be happy that I will keep ties with the one that keeps ties with
you? And I will cut off the one who cuts off ties with you. And the Raheem the ties of the wombs of
the womb said Bella, indeed, Carla for that kalecki Eliza said this is what you will this is given
to you. Some makalah Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam ikura in shape to them for help I say to
him in a later and top seed will fill out the water to our hammock on the profits. I said then read
if you wish to say to interview later on the idea that we spoke about that would you be
		

			what do you think would happen if you turn away that you will corrupt in the earth and cut off your
family ties, so panela allies which will give the ties of the relative such a position that allies
which are promised to keep the ties with the one who keeps ties with them? And to cut off from the
one who cuts off ties with them? and Abby hooray are underrated from the Messenger of Allah
sallallahu and he was sent him that he said, Man, can you help me Nabila? Who will you only ask you
for your cream wafer? Or men can a mean or Binda who will do me really fairly acid rahima
		

			or men can a mineral be lay will your meal earlier fairly alcohol high urine earliest would be
higher underrated from the Messenger of Allah I said that he said whoever believes in a line the
last day, let him be good to his guests. And whoever believes in a line the last day let him keep
ties with his relatives. And whoever believes in a line the last day Let him see good or let him say
something good or remain silent. So Pamela, the Prophet says in link this to a man being able to
mean that the man in a line the last day, you can't complete a man, a large IP, the obligatory man
until you keep ties with the until you keep ties with your relatives.
		

			And ancestral the Aloha generated the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Man I
have a new setup. Lahore fury SP y Yoon se Lahu Fie, Ethel E. folio ceramah whoever would wish for
their provision to be expansive to be open out for them. Lots of provision, lots of wealth, and
whoever would wish for their age, to be lengthened for their lifespan to be lengthened, Felisa
rahima let them keep their family ties and the Heidi theism tougher. canalis narrated by Al Bukhari
and Muslim because we said with regard to the parents this even includes the disbeliever among the
relatives, America
		

			assalamo Allahu anhu narrates Samir toward us all ally Salalah while he was Silla mia kulu Jihad en
I heard the Messenger of Allah say some say openly, Lila separate without he wasn't concealing it.
He said in
		

			Abby phoolan les soup eolia he enamelware Lee Allahu asylee who meaning while I can now homeboy
Haman Sabu happy Bella Leah
		

			I might have been an officer of the Allahu and human race, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam he said, he said, I heard the Messenger of Allah Sai Some say openly, not secretly, that
the family of saw and saw are not my only idea not that don't let them think that I am to the family
of saw and saw. They have that connection to me, rather my way to one that is Allah azzawajal on the
side to help the believer the righteous believers, however, they are my relatives, so I will keep
the ties with them. The shows that that the Prophet sighs and kept the ties with the relatives even
though those relatives were not believers. Even though ally social was his word he and the
		

			believers, the righteous believers they were his companions rhodiola went home. But at the end of
the day, he still kept the ties with the disbelieving relatives. And that's why he said well I can
let him run him but they have the ties of family over me setup Ooh, happy Bella. I will fulfill
those ties that they have with me and I will keep those ties that they have with me because they
have the ties of relatives over me even though they are not from among the Muslims. In the next
episode, inshallah Tada, you know, go on to talk about keeping ties with the one that doesn't keep
ties with you. And dealing with difficult relatives. And whether we can take advice and guidance
		

			from the book of Allah and the Sunnah of the prophets, I send them to help us to deal with these
kinds of situations. That's what Allah made easy for me to mention our lanos best wa Salatu was
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