Tim Humble – The Muslim Family #32 – The Way The Prophet ﷺ Nurtured Children

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			hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Abdullah he was sola Nabina Muhammad wa ala
alihi wa sahbihi edgeline Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. We begin with the praise of
alarm, we ask Allah to exalt dimension and grand peace to our messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam, and his family and his companions. were speaking about the obligations of the parents,
towards their children, and the rights of the children over their parents. And we came to this huge
topic of a tarbiyah this topic which relates to tarbiat, nurturing, and educating and teaching and
preparing your children for their life, which is to come both the life as it relates to religion,
		

			and the life as it relates to their worldly life in the light of Islam, in the light of Islam, and
this topic of tarbiyah, as we said, there are beautiful examples and we mentioned the example of
local man with his son. We brought out some of the benefits that are found within the ayat to deal
with the advice of look man to his son, and now inshallah to Allah we're going to look at an example
of the tarbiyah of the Prophet sallallahu IE Wiley sapio. Selim towards Abdullah
		

			Abdullah burswood all the Allahu and Homer was a young boy, when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam was alive. And the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam used to give the children a lot of
attention, and particularly used to give attention to Abdullah the Ibis or the alarm on Homer.
Because of the closeness, they were closely related to one another, because of the love that he had
for idolizing the Ibis. And because of the fact that he saw in abalone, Ibis, that knowledge and
wisdom that was far beyond his age, even though he was very young at the time, the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was alive. And we have a Hadeeth in which I believe now best narrates
		

			the advice that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave to him. And this is full of benefits
and points relating to a tarbiyah islamiat tarbiyah Islamic nurturing and raising up of children and
educating them. So the Hadeeth end up delivering a bursary the Allahumma and now call Quinta hall
for Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a young man. He said I was behind the Messenger of Allah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam one day.
		

			And this is from the habit of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he used to people used to
ride he used to ride
		

			or ID if any, with with someone on the back and we have the the hadith of more either bingeable the
well known Hadeeth in which he mentioned this, that he was behind the prophet SAW Selim on a riding
animal, the prophecy seems to share his riding animal that's one of the humility of the prophets
Allah Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he would share his riding animal. And he's to give
attention to the young boys and the young children and give attention to advising them and nurturing
and ultimately, look at the benefit that that had as it relates to abdulghani Ibis.
		

			tabletten, Ibis became one of the great scholars of Islam, he became one of the most knowledgeable
among the Sahaba, in the Tafseer of the Quran, in matters relating to Philip and Hadeeth, while the
Allahu anhu Law and the Prophets I some invested in him when he was just a small, young boy. And
that shows you the value of tarbiyah really doesn't it, that you have a very young boy, a very young
child, a young boy or a young girl, and you put that effort in, and you put that you give them that
time and attention, in order that you reap the fruits and the benefits of that much much later on.
And it's even narrated with regard to Abdullah the Ibis that some of the he had a friend from among
		

			the inside, and his friend from on the inside, kind of used to make a little bit of fun, you know,
as to why he was so studious and why he was a friend would say we have a long list of people like
Abu Bakr and
		

			we have the major Sahaba you know, nobody needs the young boy who is apt to live in a bus. And that
young man from the unsired he said that he passed by up to live near a bus in pif when he was
teaching the people that people had gathered to listen to him and many of the Sahaba had passed away
and Abdullah
		

			Bass was there teaching the people in tarrif rhodiola. And at that time that young unsightly he
realized the value of all the effort that Abdullahi bass was putting into learn and study. But one
of the benefits we can take from the story is the investment the Prophet size and placed in abdomen
and bass to teach him and educate him even though he's a young boy. Because when he now the Prophet
testament, his job is to convey to convey the message. And he realizes that one of the most
important aspects of conveying that message is going to be the young people, because they are the
ones who are going to hear from the prophets Isom and, and be in the light and live for a long time
		

			to be able to convey that message directly, as opposed to live near bursted when many of the Sahaba
had passed away. And he continued to narrate the heidy directly from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam that he had heard. So this tarbiat shows you the the value of investing in the total view
of our children, the young children, they are the ones who are going to represent us and convey from
us when we have passed away. And they're the ones who are going to continue inshallah, that
righteousness, and the eye and the lessons of Islam, and teaching it to their children and their
children. And that's the sadaqa jariya that you want from your offspring. That's the, that's what
		

			you want from your offspring. And that's why we ask, or we find in the Hadeeth, that when a person
dies, all of their deceased except for three, and we mentioned, or Well, I don't need a ruler, a
righteous child that makes two for them. And so we mentioned earlier when you're into therapy, and
knowledge that has benefited from mentioned Salahuddin geria, a continuous charity, so all of these
things can come together in the therapy of a child, to be of a child can be sadaqa, jariya, can be a
continuous charity, as people continue to benefit and offspring apart more and more their children
and their children and they keep on benefiting from the lessons you gave. It can be knowledge that
		

			benefits and and continues after you pass away. And it can be a righteous child that makes to Allah
for you. And some of the scholars expanded that statement, while a little silent on your daughter, a
righteous child that makes to AF for him to include even the students of the teacher, because he is
like a father figure to them. And so they make dua for him, like the child would make to offer the
Father. So all of this is it shows you the value of tarbiyah and giving attention to the young kids.
And it shows you the error of those people who say that don't don't give attention to the children.
That you know, for example, they say to the Islamic teachers, why are you giving your attention to
		

			these little kids, anyone can teach the kids, anyone can teach the small children. This is not the
prophetic methodology of topia, the prophetic methodology of topia is to focus upon all the
different components of the society, but to give that time to the young children and to give time to
educate the young children. So at best the rates of the Prophet size alone, he was riding behind him
and the Prophet Tyson turned to him and he said for kylea hood, he said, all young man in ni or I
Lim aka kalimat, I'm going to teach you some words, the scholars of tarbiyah, they take from this,
that from the etickets dos loop of tarbiyah, from the means in which you can give tarbiyah and the
		

			etiquettes you can use is to tell the child that I'm going to tell you something important. Now I'm
going to tell you something important. So that evening, bass was ready to memorize it, and to
understand it and to implement it. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him these words
he said to him, for the latter half of
		

			he said, f of Allah, half of is a command from a health and have meaning to preserve, to protect to
God, to keep safe and so on. So how does this command work for the law? Because Allah subhanaw taala
is only your homies he doesn't need anyone, and he is in his Worthy of all praise. So Allah subhanaw
taala doesn't need anyone. So how do you implement this Command F of Allah, meaning God, everything
that Allah has commanded you to God? God the commands of Allah, God the limits of Allah, like the
statement of Eliza gel Hof weevil, Allah swallow wort he was celerity will start waku boo lillahi
carnitine God your prayers, especially the middle prayer,
		

			especially the middle prayer that also prayer and stand in silent obedience to Allah subhana wa
Tada.
		

			So here for the love of God, all those things that are like commanded you to God, God the rights of
Allah, God the limits the who dude of Allah azza wa jal.
		

			Be careful to to stick to the things that Allah has commanded you to stick to like the prayers and
if you got those commands and those limits of allies or agenda
		

			Then Elijah Zelman, Jin Suleiman, the reward will come that will be similar of a similar nature to
the action that you did. If for the latter half of the
		

			year for the latter half of Allah will God you, you got a lot of commands, okay, you're careful to
follow them. You got your prayers, you got the limits, you stay within the limits set by Allah, you
got all of those things and Allah azza wa jal will guard you and protect you.
		

			For the law, her tecido to jack God again, for the love of god the commands of Allah, the rights of
Allah the obligations of a lot that allies put the limits that allies put for you. And you will find
a lot to be in front of you. You'll be upon the steer out and stuck in the straight path and the
destination, you will reach you will reach that destination that you wish for that destination of
Paradise, digital to jack and Allah subhanaw taala will guide you upon his straight path until you
reach Allah subhanaw taala you reach what is with Allah from his paradise and his reward. Either
said, ltfs, Allah Allah, and then he taught him if you ask, then ask Allah
		

			and this is a wonderful
		

			advice that relates both to an act of worship and even and you can relate it to the more I'm a lot
with the people the way you deal with the people ask for the acts of worship than it is to make all
of your and your esteana all of your seeking help to be from Allah subhanaw taala he cannot border
what your kind of stay in you alone we worship. And you alone we ask for help either ltfs Elina, if
you are going to ask, then ask a loss pinata. And that is in those things which only Allah azzawajal
can do. As for asking a person who is alive and in front of you to do something that they are able
to do, like asking the person to help you with something, could you help me lift this? Could you
		

			help me do this, then this is not forbidden. But the more you avoid it, the better. And that's why
we can even expand the statement of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam to cover even the matters
of where it's not forbidden for you to ask someone, but it's not good for you. It's not healthy for
you to ask people like that. But the main meaning here, there's a law that if you make to make to
our to Allah, if you seek help seek help from Allah. He that says, If you ask, ask Allah, what is
the antidote for staring below, and if you seek help seek help from Allah.
		

			And here like we said, that it contains dua to Allah alone. And that is the RNAs for Eliza alone ear
canal Buddha can sustain. But it also contains that that concept of self reliance that we have in
Islam, or at mode and a neffs, which really we shouldn't call it a legitimate enough self reliance,
we should call it trusting in our law.
		

			And then trying to do as much yourself as you can. And that's a principle in Islam. And it's
something the Prophet sighs I'm taught strictly to the Sahaba of the Allah I know that you put your
trust in Allah and you try to do you try to, to do as much yourself as you can and not to ask other
people. Even though the primary meaning of this is the Prophet size is indicating to him a towhead.
calling upon allies which are alone, seeking help from Allah azzawajal alone ESL TFS arena, if you
ask them ask Allah, why it is time to fester in Billa. And if you seek help and seek help from
Allah, and how many people fell into schilke, Villa he as well because of this, so many, in fact, if
		

			you look at the Muslim, the majority of the issues in the Muslim Ummah, have people falling into a
shaky at actions of shitcan polytheism. It happened through this, because they didn't ask allies
which are alone. And so they took to make into it other than Allah as a means of reaching Allah. And
they didn't seek help from allies alone. So they sought help from the things which Allah had not
permitted them to seek help from. So this really is a vital lesson for every Muslim and it's a vital
part of the total view that the Prophet system is giving him a tarbiyah in terms of tawheed he s
ltfs la la ye they're starting to fester and Billa if you ask them, ask a line if you seek help and
		

			seek help from Allah, and also to be in terms of his or her luck and what I'm allowed with the
people, that when you deal with the people don't be with the people who is always asking, don't be
from the people has your hand out to the people what you want something, go and ask what you want
from Allah as origin and that has an aspect of the bidat which is a towhead. And it also has an
aspect of the morality, the actions and the dealings with people and that is that a person tries to
avoid and keep away
		

			From what is in the hands of the people, and to put their trust and their reliance upon Allah
subhanaw taala alone then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he taught Abdullah Arbus wireless
and met Allah which Tamar at Allah in federal cabbie sheet in Lemmy And Pharaoh Katie lebih sheet
and Clyde ketubah hula hula I know that if they're all on they came together to benefit you with
something they wouldn't be able to benefit you with something except that a lot written it for you.
		

			Whether we HTML Allah Yoda rule cabbie Shea in lemmya, don't walk up in BA in Cod, ketubah, hula,
hula lake. And if they all gathered together to harm you with something, they wouldn't be able to
harm you except with something that Allah had written against you roofie it
		

			was a fetish sort of depends have been raised, and the scrolls have become dried. The Hadith is
narrated by Timothy rahima Hello, Thailand is German.
		

			But here we see the prophets I some teaching are delighted now Thus, the practical essence of the
belief in our cultural Kaaba, practically understand that if everybody comes to benefit you with
something, they're not going to be able to benefit you with something acceptive alized, which has
written that for you. And if they come to harm you with something they won't be able to harm you
except with something that Allah azzawajal has written against you. Look at how the profitsystem is
preparing us for the things that he's going to go through in his life and the difficulties that he
might experience in his lifetime. And the fact that he puts his trust in Allah He asks a lie, he
		

			turns to Allah and he seeks the help of Allah. And he doesn't concern himself with the people either
in benefit or in harm and he detaches his heart from the people and touches his heart to Allah
soprano Tada. So there are lessons in this that are both practical in terms of Islam and tauheed and
ibadat. And there are also lessons in terms of how you deal with the people and how you behave
towards the people. And there are narrations in other than a tirmidhi in other than German activity,
in which the Prophet sighs him said to me, I burst if Avila hurt. tgt. anomic got the rights of ally
you'll find a lot in front of you to our ruff Illallah he for hardcore advocate fish should come to
		

			know Allah when things are easy, and Allah will know you when things are hard. So have a look at the
benefit that he's giving to Abdullah bass, both in terms of worship and in terms of living your life
and just preparing him to survive in the world. That know Allah when things are easy and Allah will
know you when things are difficult. Now the words if you take to worshiping Allah azza wa jal and be
firm upon that worship, when things are easy for you, Allah will be there for you when things are
difficult for you. So he taught him that you're going to experience difficulties, you're going to
experience troubles, don't seek benefit from people don't seek, don't worry about harm from people,
		

			and make sure that when things are easy for you, and you're in a situation of ease, that you turn to
Allah, and then if you do that, then Allah subhanaw taala will be there for you when things are
difficult. And the Prophet sighs and continued his advice, he said Weiland and namaqua Kamiya con
Leo see back when I saw baccala Mia, can you take what I learned and Nasr on a server where an alpha
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			he said know that whatever missed you was never gonna hit you was never going to be for you. And
whatever has before and knew was never going to miss you. Unless another a different wording of the
same concept that the people if they gather together, they wouldn't be able to benefit you with
something except what Allah had written for you know that whatever happens to you, was never gonna
miss you. Whatever mistake was never going to happen to you. And that gives a person it gives them
confidence in themselves. And it gives them trust and reliance upon a lie. So imagine how settled
your heart feels. When you understand this concept. You just feel completely and utterly settled and
		

			completely and utterly at peace with yourself. I know that what is going to happen to you, I'm going
to go out and try my best. I'm going to go and strive and struggle and work and try to find a means
to get near to Allah and find the means to benefit myself in this world and in the hereafter. But if
something happens to me, I know that there was no way I could have escaped except to try my best put
my trust in Allah. And then trust that whatever allies decreed for me, that is what is going to be
the right opportunity for me. And whatever miss me whatever happened, whatever didn't happen to me.
I'm not going to start wasting my time in this dunya and using up these vital breaths that are the
		

			you know that the right hand man they are your capital that you trade within dystonia, those limited
number of breaths that you have before you die. So I'm not gonna waste that time by worrying about
what didn't happen.
		

			To me, oh, I shouldn't what would have happened if only I had got this job. If only I could have
done that, if only I would have been able to do this. If only I could have had that if only this
would have happened if only I didn't go there and if only I hadn't done this, all of these words of
low and if only How I wish and how I would and I could have and I should have none of this is
teaching to our bus. Don't waste your time in this whatever do your best work hard Whatever happened
to you was never going to miss you and whatever mystery was never going to happen to you. Why them
and then Nussle on top and know that victory comes with patience. If you want to be victorious and
		

			unnecessary, usually it means victory over your enemies and general victory. You know the victory
Elijah and US will lie what factor when the victory of Allah comes and the conquest that victory It
comes with a sub comes with patience.
		

			He's teaching the value of sub like Look man, taught his son the value of suffer warspear Alana saw
back Be patient What? What afflicts you and what happens to you know that victory? Victory comes
with patience. When you bring patients allies which gives you victory when alpha Raj America and
when you have hardships and calamities relief from those hardships and calamities comes along with
it. If you're going to have a hardship relief is not far away, understand you go through a hardship
you go through troubles, relief is is not far away, relief comes along with it, what you saw, and
along with hardship comes ease, along with difficulty comes ease. So whenever something is difficult
		

			for you, I know that it won't be long in sha Allah before something easy will happen to you. Before
ease Allah will make things easy for you. These are life lessons. And this is why when we said that
tarbiyah is about preparing your children for their life ahead. This is this is the meaning of the
word to be preparing your children and preparing the young people around you and educating them and
giving them the knowledge and the lessons they need, that they're going to need as they grow older.
And as they live their life and after you pass away. And they continue on that job and that
responsibility that you have given them and they pass on that knowledge and they continue to make to
		

			ask for you that ultimately they need these life lessons. And what a beautiful set of life lessons
This is that victory comes with patience. And then along with hardships and calamities. There's
really every time you're in a hardship or calamity remember, relief is not far away. Don't despair
of the reef. Don't despair, that allies are generally never or don't despair that a lot of the
relief from allies which Enola Gay assuming rohilla in the coalmine careful. Nobody despairs that
Allah will relieve them from their calamities except for the disbelieving people. As for the Muslim
they never despair because they know that no matter how bad the calamity is, their allies will send
		

			them a relief Allah will give them the relief from that calamity. And a person knows that when
things are difficult, there will come a time when things will be easy. Look at the seal of the
prophets lie Selim. Let your children learn from that seal, and learn from the biographies of the
companions, the difficulties they went through, and ultimately allies which are brought back and
brought it back to ease. And an example of that, like we mentioned that the the Sora sort of Nussle,
Elijah inositol law, he will factor
		

			when the victory of Allah comes and the conquest or eight an essay to put all of you Dini lay of
words, and you see that people come into Islam into crack in crowds. This is an example. Look at the
hardships the Prophet sighs and went through 23 years of hardship upon hardship, and yet Allah azza
wa jal, every time there was a hardship, Allah brought ease, a lebra ease until in the end our lives
which are brought to people into Islamic crowds. So he's teaching us these life lessons, and
preparing him in this way for the future things that he will experience the future difficulties that
he will experience and also how to go on through his life. And like we said, whenever we're talking
		

			about the worldly things, we're talking about them in the light of Islam, what will make a lot
pleased with you? I mean, for example, poverty is a worldly thing, ie being poor or being rich, it's
a worldly thing. But how do you handle that in a way that is pleasing to allies, which and that's
when we talk about therapy and the worldly matters. We're talking about therapy in a way that brings
you near to Allah, in response to the things that you experience in your life. So I'm going to
conclude this episode here in sha Allah, Allah to Allah. We're going to go on to talk about
principles in therapy. So we're going to look at some AR and ahaadeeth inshallah, that are all solid
		

			principles as it relates to tarbiyah things you have to remember when you're trying to nurture and
raise your children inshallah, to Allah. We're gonna continue on to give examples of that inshallah,
we'll talk about educating your children in terms of Islam and how you educate your
		

			Children in terms of the worldly life, inshallah all of that is going to come up in this course on
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