Tim Humble – The Muslim Family #28 – The Rights of Children Before They Are Born

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			leeuw Alhamdulillah lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Abdullah he was solely Nabina
Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi edge main as salaam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh. As
always, we begin with the praise of Allah and by asking Allah to exalt dimension and grant peace to
our messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, to his family and his companions. We're now up
to the stage in this course on the Muslim family, where we are going to start talking about the
rights of our children. And we had established already when we spoke about the rights of the husband
and the rights of the wife. Is it from the Hadith that is mentioned regarding salmaan and faricy?
		

			Probably Allahu anhu. And the advice that he gave to Abu Dhabi
		

			when he said, In Arabic alayka haka? Well in fck, alayka haka, while he elica alayka haka.
Throughout the Kula, the hoppin haka, and the Prophet slicin said sada Sandman, indeed your Lord has
a right over you.
		

			And you yourself, your body has a right over you, yourself has a right over you and your family have
rights over you. So give everyone who has a right over you. They're right.
		

			And so it's no surprise to learn that our children have many rights over us. So I'm going to start
by asking you a question.
		

			Where do you think the rights of the children start chronologically? So what is the first rate of
our children?
		

			Try and think maybe around the time the child is born, just before that, what is the very first rate
that our children have over us in terms of
		

			terms of order?
		

			So inshallah you had some time to think about that. It's very interesting that many of the scholars
of Islam they mentioned that the first right of the child is to choose a righteous spouse. So the
first right of the child, actually as before the child is born. In fact, it's before the child is
even conceived. The first right of the child is to choose a righteous spouse. And this is indicated
by the height Ethan potty and Muslim from the Haida vihara. We've heard the Hadith before, and in
every Salalah Hollywood cinema and now Anna, who called Tonka mala Turrialba, imagine how he has to
be how would he Germany How would he Dini her father? Be there to Dean Teddy Betty attack? The
		

			Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, a woman is married for one of four things, for her wealth,
for her reputation or family reputation, for her beauty, and for her religion. Father follow up that
indeed.
		

			So the one wants to be successful, and the one who wants to get the blessing and the Baraka the
success, that is the person who should choose that Dean should choose the one who is married for the
sake of her religion.
		

			And this tells us that if we look at the right of children, to begin with, our children's rights
start with choosing the right spouse. And if we choose the right spouse, that's the best start that
we can give our children by the permission of Allah azza wa jal, so that's where the rights of the
children begin. And this is also indicated by another Hadith that we have heard the hadith of
market, salah and the hadith of also NSP Malik in different wordings, but we'll just mention one of
them to xojo why dude, and why loot for any more casual become, marry the woman who is loving and
will pay you many children, for Indeed, I will boast of you. I have you have my own mouth, the
		

			numbers of my own. Now here this actually this hadith has a strong evidence in it for the point that
we raised. And the with the strong evidence is in the Hadith where it says for any more Kathy don't
become, I'm going to boast of your numbers. I'm going to boast of your numbers, some of some of the
integrations mentioned in your capital and become an MBA that I will boast of your numbers to the
prophets. Some of them mentioned NEEMO casiotone, because I will boast of your numbers in front of
the other nations.
		

			The prophets I send them will only would only take pride in that which is good in the sight of a
loss pinata. So he is not the pure number that matters to the profits or loss
		

			I do sell him for him to be pleased. And for him to speak of the huge numbers of this oma in terms
of, or in front of the other nations or in front of the prophets, yamaki. It's the righteousness of
them, and the correctness of them. That's what matters to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
So it's not the pure numbers that matter. But rather, it's the numbers of righteous and upright
people. And that is a strong evidence as it relates to the prophets eyes and seeing tell Wedgwood
why dude, and why would marry the woman who is loving and will bear you many children. And that
shows you that the the rights of the children and all the righteousness of the children starts by
		

			choosing the right spouse. And so here hopefully, you can see the connection between those two
things between the statement as always, your word would elude choosing the right wife, the one who
is loving on her value many children, and then the fact of the Prophet size and we'll take pride in
the numbers, the huge numbers of this Omer yarmulke, and that will only happen when they are
righteous or righteous offspring start by choosing the right spouse.
		

			The next right that our children have over us is for us to make dua to Allah, even before we have
children, for Allah to give us righteous offspring do something easy. It's not something difficult.
It's only a few words. And it doesn't require any any hardship. It doesn't require any difficulty.
And yet, how many of us neglect to make dua for the righteousness of our children.
		

			And yet this is something that was from the sunon of the NBA from the the the established sunon of
the prophets alayhi wa Salatu was set up a lot as I said in Salt Lake and Ron is number 38. On al
Qaeda Zachary Europa. kohlrabi heavily millionaire Dune cavalry et al Qaeda, in nikka. Semi are here
Zachary are called upon his Lord. He said, My Lord, give me from you, the re attend tayyiba
		

			good offspring, offspring that are for you been that are good people that are righteous people. So
panela from here, what we can see is we can see that the Prophet alayhi wa salatu salam, they called
upon Allah before even having children, before even their children were conceived, they called upon
Allah azza wa jal to give them righteous children. That is a small thing that we can do to benefit
ourselves and to benefit our children. And it doesn't require any difficulty or any hardship from
us.
		

			And this to our it should not it should not be only before we have children, these two as should
continue throughout the life of our children that we continue to make to our for them and we
continue to ask Allah subhanaw taala to bless them. And one of the beautiful examples of this is in
Surah Ibrahim, the example of Ibrahim what is highlighted by him or Abidjan, her then Bella amino
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			or be in the hoonah Valentina kefir Amina nurse. The mentality I need for India who many women are
signing for in NACA for Rahim, Allah azza wa jal told us about to Dr. Ibrahim, when Ibrahim said My
Lord make this city a place of safety and keep me and my children away from worshipping idols. So
how will this do our Avi Brahim was made an alliance with generals best after he had a smile because
we are told in the next ayah from what Ibrahim said Rob banner in the skin to mingle Ria dbyd
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			He said, My Lord, I have left some of my offspring
		

			in a valley that has no vegetation near to your sacred house, my Lord so that they can perform the
prayer. So cause a group of people to come to them and provide them from the fruits so that they may
be grateful. So Paula, look at how the concern that Ibrahim had for his family,
		

			and the two are that he made for them. So he made the dua
		

			for allies, which helped to keep them away from a shake from making it partners with a lot and
that's of course, the most important thing. And that's the greatest thing that a parent can ask
allies or gel for their child for all
		

			I like to keep them away from making a partner with a lot to make them good Muslims people have to
hate people who worship Allah azza wa jal alone. This is the most important thing that any parent
can want for their child. And it's way more important than their worldly life. But he brought him
didn't neglect to make do it even for their needs in the worldly life. And Ibrahim's panela he left
his family in that place in Makkah, Lee okay masala for the sake of the Salah, and that shows you
how important the prayer is in the religion of Islam. And then he made to our all our cause a group
of people to come to them and provide them from the fruits so that they may be grateful. He even
		

			made to ask for what was the muscle have for them the masala dounia We are the things that they
needed in their dunya but he linked it to the religion that all our give them these things so that
they may be grateful towards you. So it wasn't purely for the sake of the worldly life. But give
them these things that they need in this world so that they can worship you and that's how they're
doing I should be it should be a servant for you in your deen. It should be something that helps you
to progress and to get near to align your religion. So he may do all for them even in this in these
needs that they had. And then the IRS continue until we are told that Ibrahim said Raja Annie Maki
		

			masala tea woman's jewelry at robina what a couple of banal fiddly when you are at your wedding
meanie Naomi Acoma hyssop My Lord, make me from those who establish the prayer and likewise my
offspring, and my Lord accept my
		

			my Lord forgive me and my parents and the Muslims or the believers on the day when the accounting
will be taken. So this is from the most beautiful day that a parent can make for their children to
two out of Ibrahim, which nobody what the knee and nabooda snom keep me and my children away from
worshipping idols and they do it by him Robbie Gianni McQueen masala to you. I mean, it's already at
Robin our takapa to our benefit while he while he do what he mean, he only Acoma ASAP. My Lord make
me from those who establish the prayer and from my offspring. And my lord accepted to ask you to
make to make the children from the people who established the prayer. They keep away from schilke
		

			they established the prayer and also Ibrahim made to Allah for them and what they needed in the
worldly life and made for them to be from the people who are grateful to Allah subhanaw taala. So
all of this is from the evidence of the Sunnah of the Prophet alayhi wa salatu salam as it relates
to making dua for their children, both before they have children, and all through their child's
life, making dua for them and asking allies origin for them. For most importantly, they're our hero,
meaning they're to hate the worshipping of Allah alone, and their performance of the prayer and so
on. And also for what they need in the dunya on the condition that that makes them from the people
		

			who are grateful.
		

			We have another example also in the crowd we have many examples but another example we can highlight
of the day that a parent makes for the child or to either the parent makes in relation to their
children is a statement of Eliza gel was seen in Santa bydd here Santa hemella Tomahawk or ham or to
Korea, her Wareham law if you saw the whole seller through Mashallah. And we commanded man to be to
have a son to be good to his parents or to be have excellence towards his parents. His mother
carried him in hardship and give birth to him in hardship. And the time that she carried him at the
time that she weaned him is 30 months in length. hotter either Bella Bella Albertina Sena, until
		

			when this person reaches their age of maturity and they reach 40 years of age, color or below zero
need an escort are near medical Leti and anti la while actually they are an RM LSI hantuchova what
else Li feasel realty in the tuber to La courroie in immuno muslimeen when he reached the age of 40
years old and he called upon Allah My Lord, give me the ability to be grateful to you for the
blessings that you have blessed me with and those which you bless my parents with paler Look at the
beautiful day to ask Allah subhanaw taala to make us grateful for the blessings of Allah and our
children are blessing from Allah azza wa jal make us grateful for the blessings that Allah has given
		

			us. And it shows you that even though our lives the one that gave you the gift, without the help of
Allah, you can't even be grateful for the gifts that Allah has given. Or Allah make me grateful for
the blessings that you have given me and those that you gave my parents
		

			and give me the ability to do righteous deeds that please you were asleep, leave it and make my
children
		

			righteous, or correct, my children bring about righteousness in my children all of these can be
taken from the word what are slightly fever reality.
		

			bring about righteousness me through my children,
		

			in the tuber to LA cower in the middle muslimeen I have repented to you. And indeed, I am among the
Muslims, those who have submitted to you. So this is another beautiful example of that a parent can
make for their child Well, absolutely physical reality. And that would apply, whether that child
Eve, whether that child is righteous, or even if that child is has gone astray, or has gone away
from what the parent would want, this sentence will also literally physical reality, it would apply
to all of them bring about righteousness, from my offspring will also leave his or her Yeti, in the
tube to a lake Indeed, I have repented to you were in the middle muslimeen and I'm one of the
		

			Muslims who have submitted to you in Islam. So so far, we've talked about two rights of the children
the right of choosing a righteous spouse, and the right of the of the child for the parent to make
to ask for them before they are conceived after they are conceived after they are born and all the
way throughout their life from before they are even conceived all the way until the end of their
life, that parent continues to make dua for their child. And that's one of the most important
reasons of success as a parent in terms of the way that you look after your child and, and the
outcome that you get from that by the permission of Allah is
		

			still talking about the rights of the children that come before birth, from the rights of the
children that come before birth, our rights. One particular right that relates to the etiquettes of
intimacy, I believe now best Robbie Allahumma, underrated color Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam low and a Hydra home either Raja and yet Tia Allah who call Bismillah Allahu murjan Nibbana
shavon where Jen Nabi Shelton Amar das Oksana for India who in new del bainer Houma wallet on fee
valic lemmya daughter Rahu shavon Avada this Heidi's narrated by Al Bukhari and Muslim in the Ibis
rhodiola, one woman rated from the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, that he said, that if a person
		

			if one among them, when he went to fulfill his desire with his wife, if he were to say, Bismillah,
In the name of Allah, or a lot, keep the shape Han away from us, will generally be shaytaan, Mrs.
octina, and keep the shaitaan away from what you provide for us I from our children, then if Allah
decreed for them to have a child from that action of this, the shaytaan would never hurt them ever.
		

			So Pamela, what a beautiful etiquette, small remembrance. And this shows you that the remembrance of
Allah is in every situation Allah Cooley had, this is the time when, in terms of intimacy, you would
think this is the last time that a person would remember our last panel. And yet, look at the
rewards of remembering a lie. So check that before the person engages in that they would say
Bismillah In the name of Allah, or Allah, keep the shape Han away from us, and keep the shaitaan
away from what you provide for us I the children that we that we might have from this with a child
that we might have from this. And if allies or decrease them a child from that action of this, then
		

			the child will never ever be hurt by the ship. So what are right it is over the child for just a few
words, right? It is over the parent for the child, that the parent just says those few words at that
time. Perhaps our last panel to Allah would keep the shape on away from the child because of this
action of the parents and so truly the parents is not right. It's lame, but it's not befitting for
them to forget this to our and then to, you know, Subhanallah they they might have the consequences
of that as it relates to the shape on affecting affecting their child. Now, what does it mean
though? For the shaitaan to affect the child what does that actually mean? an amendment no we are
		

			him allowed to Allah He raised from alcohol, the Al Rahim Allah Allah to Allah and he said, What am
Yeah, mille who I hadn't? ll Romani Fiji I'm a totally wild west West it will
		

			call the reality said no one from the scholars held this hadith to be completely general meaning the
shaitaan will never harm them in any way will never give them any Westwater will never give them any
cause of deviation or misguidance. None of them held this to be absolute in every way rather than
the profit sighs Miss talking about specific kinds of harm specific any specific things that that
relates to that child, but it's not complete doesn't mean the shade pine will never ever harm them
in any way, and will never ever whisper to them. They will never suffer Westwater they will never
suffer harm they will never suffer misguide
		

			Some of them said that it means that the shaitaan will never possess the child. Some of them said
that it means that the shippon will not misguide the child and he completely away from the path of
Allah azza wa jal and other things but Allah here, what's important we take from the statement of
our call the Al Rahim Allah to Allah is that this isn't isn't something and isn't something general
that it means that they will not be harmed by the shape I've ever in anything, but it means any a
particular kind of harm that will not happen. But still even even if it is a specific kind of harm
that will not happen. At the end of the day. It is absolutely a small thing for a parent to do that
		

			can benefit their child in a huge way from the rights that the child has over the parents is for the
parents to do righteous deeds before they are born. And after they are born and to keep away from
the harem.
		

			And from the evidences for this is the i o we mentioned is sort of the tool will Edina Allenwood
Tibetans Oriya, to whom the man in and how can I be him sorry at home? What am I let's now whom I
met him in shape. khulumani mbmi cassava Rahim. Those who believe and their offspring follow them in
a man, we will cause their offspring to reach them to join together with them to be joined together
with them in paradise. So ultimately, the righteousness of the parents is something which can have a
very positive effect upon the children. That's what we understand from this is one of the things we
can take from this is sort of taught that the righteousness of the parents can have a big effect
		

			upon upon the children. And likewise in sort of calf alized told us
		

			what can a boo Homer slyly hear those two orphan boys who they had a treasure that was buried
underneath that wall and clearer and more said they came and they repaired the wall. What did a
light switch has see for the reason that those children got that treasure? What can a boomer sila
their father was a righteous man. And likewise in Salt Lake and Milan in a number 34 were allies we
just had to re attend bow to him and bow will allow Semyon ID offspring, some of them from others,
meaning that the righteousness of the offspring came from the righteousness of the parents will love
will send me an idiom and Allah is all hearing and all knowing. So there is no doubt that the
		

			righteousness of a parent is something which can have a big positive effect upon their child. Now
ultimately, we need to understand something, we need to understand that a light switch as well as
your was your tone with Wroclaw, nobody will be made to bear the burden of another person, nobody
will need to carry the burden of another person. We're not saying that the child will be punished or
because of their parents or their parents actions. But when the parent is righteous, this gives me a
great deal of Baraka to the parent and to their children. And the benefits of the righteousness of
the parent can continue on to bled to be blessings for the children by the permission of allies
		

			origin, so everyone will be will be treated fairly and everyone will be given a fair chance by Allah
subhanaw taala. But there's no doubt when a parent does righteous deeds before the child is born,
after the child is born, when the child is young, when the child is older, this is a reason for
Baraka to come to that child and a reason for that child to have ease and blessings. And there are
so many ayat and a hadith which indicate this. And we've mentioned some of them, for example, the
statement of allies which reattempt babraham in Bath
		

			that will allies. We just spoke about it and Ron, and he spoke about the wife of Emmeline and all
that she made allies, which I said thought reattempt about today, they are an offspring, that some
of them came from others, the righteousness of the the parents led to the righteousness of the
offspring. So give your child the best up. I mean, give an example, in the worldly life. If you were
to save up some money for your child, and put that money sort of in a trust to help your child does
that mean your child will never be poor, doesn't mean your child will never be poor, doesn't mean
that they will, but it gives them the best possible start, that you could give them in the worldly
		

			life and you save some money for them. You made a pot for them so that they could buy the things
that they needed so that they could manage maybe in that transition between their education and
their job, and you had saved that money for them. It doesn't mean that you're going to protect them
from poverty. But it does mean that you have done the best that you could do for them. And
ultimately, you can't say you've done the best for your children unless you are that righteous
parent that sets that example for your children and tries to to to do good deeds and righteous deeds
that bring about good for your
		

			Children and bring about good for your family and Baraka for them.
		

			And likewise, we can take a principle and this principle, you have to understand it right? We have
to be precise in it, that the harm that a parent does can have an effect upon their child. Now,
again, how do we understand that in the context of the statement of Eliza gel, well, it was your
turn wizard, ah, no one will bear the burden of another person. So no one will bear the sin of
another person, nobody will carry the sin of another person, no child will carry the sin of their
father, no child will be punished Yokoyama for the sins that their father or their mother did. But
that doesn't mean that they won't be a consequence, and an effect to the harm that is done. So let
		

			me give you an example. Again, outside of the children, the parents just to kind of illustrate what
I mean here. If you take the example of someone who is smoking,
		

			the person who's smoking, the sin is their sin,
		

			and they smoke in front of someone else. And that person doesn't, you know, doesn't encourage that
or doesn't do anything to facilitate that. Then the sin is the sin of the person who is smoking,
right? It's not the sin of the one who is not their fault. It's nothing to do with it. But does that
mean that that one who is there will not have consequences? Does that mean that they won't get sick?
No, they could get sick from it. They could suffer from it. They could have a sickness or a problem
happens to them because of it. Because ultimately there's a difference between carrying the sin of
someone and suffering negative consequences. We all suffer negative consequences because of things
		

			that people do. For example, in the Heidi the one of the mothers of the believers when she said Anna
helical Athena sila Hoon, will we be destroyed or messenger of Allah when there are righteous people
among us? The Prophet sighs him said Nam either cancelled or Hubbert? Yes if that if the corruption
in society increases. This is another example of the fact that
		

			a person can suffer consequences because of things that other people did. That doesn't mean that
they will have the sin of it, that doesn't mean that they will be treated unfairly, they will have a
chance to make it right they will have a chance to turn to Allah subhanaw taala and they will not
carry the sin of their parents. But that also doesn't mean that they won't suffer consequences. So
ultimately your children can suffer consequences because of the harm that you do. And that could
have an effect and effect upon you upon your family and upon your children. But they will never
carry your sin they will never carry the sin of what you do. But ultimately they can be affected by
		

			the consequences of the actions that you take and hopefully that is clear in distinguishing between
those two things. That's what allies are gentlemen easy for me to mention in this episode, and in
the next episode inshallah. inshallah, we're going to continue with the rights of the children we
have many rights still to talk about. And until now, we haven't even reached the topic of the rights
that come after the child is born. That's coming up in the next next episode, inshallah, to Allah
analyzer generals best or Salatu was Salam ala nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi h mine,
Salaam Alaikum. If you're enjoying these videos, and you'd like to keep up to date with all of the
		

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