Backbiting and Slander
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It's amazing that one of the Sahaba by the name of Mies came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he said prophet of Allah
I have transgressed the limits with Allah. And I committed Zina.
So I want you to purify me.
And marriage was a married man.
So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam three times he turned away from him, as if he's saying to him, you know, you go and repent between yourself and Allah. But Max felt
of the sin that he has committed. So he insisted he said yeah, Rasul Allah, I want to be purified in this dunya so when he insisted the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam executed the penalty, which is stoning to death.
And he was stoned to death.
And after that, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was walking and some of his companions were walking behind him. And two of them engaged in a conversation. One of them said to the other,
Allah tala, Allah had an insane
What do you think of this man? Had satara who Allahu
Allah subhanaw taala has covered him.
Well, I can know about it, and your Gemma Karachi mill killer, but he insisted to be stoned
and to be treated as if he's a doc.
The Prophet sallallahu wasallam heard the conversation.
A few minutes later,
the prophet Selim stopped. And on the side of the road, there was the curbs the body of a dead donkey and the porcelain stop there. And he said, he said where are the two people who were talking about my eyes? They said, Ask prophet of Allah. He said, Come close, and I want you to eat from the dead body of that donkey.
They said refer Allahu Allah, Allah, May Allah forgive you who would eat from that?
He said, What do you have said, is worse than eating from that dead body of the donkey.
Sometimes, we say you know what we're going to speak we're going to say anything.
And you hear something and you just take it from the mouth or the tongue of someone and you spread it. And the last Partha talked about this in high detail. If
the slandering of I shall have the Allahu Allah said, in tone ob is in a T comb. You receive the news with your tongue now with your ears, and then try to think about it if it makes sense or not, if you have evidence or not, and you just repeat what you heard.
That's very serious.
And Allah subhanho wa Taala when he talks about the Muslims, he said, You should have thought good about yourselves.
So panela as if he's saying your brother is part of you.
So for the purpose of this football, I'm just going to share one idea with you. But I'm gonna elaborate with some Hadith to explain a serious disease. It's not
disease of the tongue
only. But it's a disease of the heart. Because the time is nothing but the spokesman of what's inside you.
So Allah subhana wa tada instructed her gerat so number 49 is number 12.
His calling and as I said before, when you get a call from Allah subhana wa tada Allah will call us as human beings in three ways is that he will say you have any Adam, eight times in the Quran is addressing everyone, believers and unbelievers. And he might say, Yeah, you're nice. Oh, mine are all people. He's talking again, to Muslims or non Muslims 20 times in the Quran. But what Allah subhana wa Taala says, Yeah,
he's not talking to anyone. He's talking to those who claim to be believers, those who watch everything that comes out of the title, because they remember what the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam said, Now you keep going to him for non suicidal See, nothing, nothing would be the main reason for people to be grabbed on their faces into his farm, except the harvest of their time.
So Allah subhanho wa Taala, in this ayah says,
claim to be believers.
Stay away. Avoid assumptions in
most of the time, we assume that's a sin. Allah subhanaw taala use the word Islam, not them. It means it's something deep inside you.
And then if you start assuming, what are you going to do next? You're going to start spying to prove your assumptions. He said, Well,
so don't spy
because spying is a major sin.
Then, what's the next step? You assume and you're mistaken, you start spying, you start by biting. While I
do look back by one another. And the next part of Daya is the most horrible scene in the Quran. Look at the image
allies asked you to imagine this is the dead body, the flesh of a dead body of your own sibling, your brother or sister was wrote to you and he would ask you to eat from it. Would you like Alice's *ery to move? You would never like that. You will hate it.
So what should we do? What
be conscious of Allah I don't think I'm going to just say anything.
But a lot can hear you. A lot can see you alive signs you to angels who write down everything.
In the Lucha Libre Rahim Allah is opening the door for you. He has done this. Go back to Allah. Allah is not only time is the word, because we do this most of the time. Every time you go back to Allah, Allah will accept your Toba and allow it's already with his mercy.
We do not understand the danger of backbiting.
The Prophet sallallahu wasallam in the Hadith
in the lab, Dalai Lama will tell him
in a hurry for a person might have thought a word just a word.
And you don't care what you're saying. I'm just killing time.
And we love that juicy stuff. Have you heard this? Yeah. Tell me. Give me more.
Did you hate yourself? No, somebody told me. That's called what? We have three major sins. One of them is called Riba backbiting.
One of them is caused by
lying. One of them is called, if you just hear something without verifying, and you start spreading it,
the three of them are major sense.
So why do people do this? Because they don't realize that is the major cell. And it's one of the reasons that we take the person to hellfire.
So what are the reasons of Riba? And what's the meaning of Riba? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
was sitting was when the Sahaba and he was teaching them. He says,
Do you know what's the meaning of lever? And out of respect, look like many of us today Mashallah. We read the book or read something Mashallah we become scholars and Muftis.
Allah, what a pseudo alum
and surah number 14 on 49. Sahaja is the soul of Adam. It teaches us lots of etiquette in Islam.
This is Alan his message of no best, he says a lever.
When you say something about your brother
that he doesn't like to hear. And the word the Rebbe, linguistically speaking comes from
you meaning you speak about someone who's absent. He's not there to defend himself.
We're saying his slim, older saying his this or that. And it's real. He's cheap. He's miserly.
He's a bad person, whatever it is.
When you say anything that's real about him. This is lever.
And the best evidence says, Those people are very cards. Because when they speak in the absence of someone, and if that person shows up, they're gonna stop talking. That gives you exactly the evidence right there,
that they're doing something wrong.
Or they try to hide from other people.
So the professor Selim said, while I'm here to see him at a school, if you're not saying something that's real about him.
So when you say something that's not only your brother or sister, that's lying. That's another crime. Another major sin?
Half or half between? Is and if you just hear something, and go around in the community, have you heard about this? No. Did you see it with your own eyes? No. Have you heard that yourself? No. Somebody told me that's if
and that's what happened to is or their loved one.
So one of the reasons of Lima is not fully man, why the man hopefully the laws origin
is the weakness of a man and you're not aware of the power and might of Allah subhanho wa Taala don't read what Allah subhana wa Taala says
good deeds right away multiplied many times. But there's also another one here, writing down everything bad that you say.
The person who's hiding from people and doing this
number 59. Number 49. Tell my slaves I'm the old forgiving the old merciful. We love this idea. But we don't like to listen to the next idea when
and my punishment is severe too.
So who is gonna shower with his mercy and forgiveness who was gonna punish
so I can see him
I can hear me
a bit too conscious of that.
That's number one. Number two, when you're sitting with friends, you want to share in the Judy's in the juicy stuff. Have you heard about this? Oh, yeah. Let me give you my two cents. I'll tell you some parts of the story, add some spices.
Allah subhanaw taala is awesome the people who will be admitted to soccer
One of them is, well.
If people are talking about someone, we just give our two cents and share.
Number three of the reasons of eba
as I told you, assumptions, you assume something, go and verify. Ask the person himself.
Because you will be asked in the Day of Judgment, if you make any claim. Bring your evidence. Bring your proof.
And when you talk to people, you have to give them proof too.
So what if somebody is coming to bat by someone? What should I do? I'll teach you what Jane had been Joshua yellow and headed. And these are the people who have stuck with Allah. When they talk to her about
who is spreading rumors. Someone who is praying right behind the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. You can imagine that it could be someone right behind a man who's spreading that.
the chief of the hypocrites, he is the one who's spreading that rumor saying that he has committed adultery.
So when they ask you, Jane have been Josh.
She says, follow seminary, or boss hurry. I protect my ears, and my eyes will lie he now
all I know about Ayesha, she's a good person.
So if you're asking about someone, and what you have seen from him is good. That's what you should say.
Even if you have something to advise that person I told you before, don't talk about me. But talk to me. That should be that should be your slogan in life. Don't talk about me. Talk to me, because talking about me is backbiting or slander, or if three major sins, but talking to me, you're gonna give me advice. And the pastor said a demon was
the is giving you advice. That's the shortcut, go and advise him, then things will be rectified, rather than going behind his back and talking. These are not the believers. This is not the character of a believer.
Another reason is a disease of the heart jealousy and grudge.
When some people see someone at work, who is being promoted, doing a good job, he gets the trust and a lot of people what do they do? They have grudge and they have jealousy in their hearts. So they go around and they bad mouth him.
They want to put him down thinking that this is going to elevate them.
But well it doesn't.
Another reason for Heba is hubot dounia waha buryatia
the love of this dunya and loving to show off and to be in the front, loving to fame. I'm so and so I'm doing this
when you have that big ego inside you, it drives you to do this. You try to put everybody else down. So you raise your ego.
Okay, what's the remedy then?
What's the remedy of Riba? Take what I said and reverse it.
Have the taqwa of Allah.
Fear Allah and remember that Allah subhana wa Taala warned us. He said, Why do you know
There are two interpretations of the word wild? Why are you doing shoddy?
It's a great warning from Allah subhanaw taala Be careful. Don't know this. But if not best, it's even worse than that. And why word in future Hunnam? tester Ito? Gentlemen?
Can you imagine that? While is a spot or a valley in general, out of which journalists seek refuge with Allah subhanaw taala against the punishment
in that spot in the in Hellfire
who are the homeless? Who are the new Messiah? These are the two forms of Riba
you can do by action
by talking by imitating someone, sorry, by acting.
If somebody is disabled, you try to walk like them. That's Riba could be in the body itself.
You talk about somebody that is like this is slim, that's Riba. Somebody like this is obese. That's Riba even though he is yes, yes. Would you like me to say this in front of him? If he were to walk now in front of you? Would you continue what you're saying? Or are you a coward? Be brave.
So what's the loser? This is the Luma is by talking. And part of it isn't even when you say something behind somebody's back, and they are not there to defend themselves.
Can all of us fall into Lima? Yes.
Our mother of believers I
was sitting with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And Sofia's name was mentioned.
And then she extended her hand by saying has to come in her. And she pointed like this, you know she's short. The Prophet Salaam Salaam strays, turned red, and he was angry. And that's the real anger. We should be angry when allies disobeyed. We should be angry when injustice is being done in front of our own eyes. And we're watching it doing nothing saying nothing.
So the processor, never got angry for himself.
They said about him said Sir head Majnoon. He told us not to go not to go down to the level of those who backbite and slander. No.
But his face turned red. Why? Because Sofia was not there to defend herself. He says
you have uttered the word. If it was to be mingled or mixed with the water of the ocean, it would change it. Allahu Akbar. Did I actually say anything? She used body language. She just mentioned that she thought is severe salt. Yes.
Can I say about somebody who's salt in his absence? No, this is Weaver. What about when you lie? without evidence? That's both. And
that's what the LM did right away.
remedy number three, instead of sitting with those who love juicy stuff, sit with the solid.
Because if you're sitting with people who are backbiting
your homework is two things. Try to change the topic.
Tell them listen.
We don't we don't need to do this.
Allows watching us a lot can heal us. There are two engines here writing everything. Let's stop doing this. If they insist. And you sit with them, you are part of them.
You have to leave. If they don't change the topic, you have to leave had a hold of you had eaten away as a last hurrah until they change the topic. You can join them if they're soon or do something good.
Read about the history of the righteous people. When they were bad biting, what happened? and hustle and bustle of LA.
His maid came to him and he said, our labor, you know back by to do last night. He said our time. Did he do this? He said yes. He said Okay, you know what? The dates arrived now prepared a nice plate of date. And I want you to wrap it nicely and give it to him.
So he gave him a gift. So the man came back to me said, Did you hit the right by by to do he said yes. He says you're giving me dates. You're giving me a gift. He said yes. Because you don't know what you're doing.
You know what you have done? You gave me the best gift on the Day of Judgment, which is your good deeds.
It's not a big deal if I give you some dates.
Another reason Also, think about your apple.
Think about your IRA
the people who backed by
They have three punishments, one in the dunya, one in the grave, and one in
what about the one in the dunya
the Prophet sallallahu Sallam told us in the Hadith by besides infantry inside tirmidhi, he said Yama,
Aslan, all you who claim to be Muslims, when I'm here totally man, but a man did not go into their hearts led to the Muslims
do not harm the Muslims.
Try to follow the shortcomings and talk about them.
whoever tries to do this, Allah will be the one to defend that person.
Allah will follow your shortcomings.
Allah subhanaw taala will embarrass him and disgrace him even deep inside his own house.
So the October 5 dounia and
the person who is doing this will be embarrassed in the near
us for the punishment in the grain, the promiseland passed by the grave and he could hear some people are being punished inside. He said, in Humala, you either ban the ban if you can be am huduma
African as I have been a nurse been the NEMA. Basically the person I mentioned one of those who were being punished in the grave. He said one of them used to go and monger rumors and spread you know backbiting amongst people
torturing the grave.
What's the punishment and
the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said to the Sahaba
Do you know the person who's bankrupt or broke from
his muscle knows best? He said
Oh, sorry. Let me correct myself. Again, they gave the logical answer.
They give the logical answer that you or I might give, who's broke? Who's a bankrupt person going to aloofness Safina melodrama hola Mata This is a broke person or bankrupt person is somebody who doesn't have money he doesn't have shelter he doesn't have a place to live in
the past Salim said no, that's wrong. I'll move
don't talk about this Don't think about your
piano he will come into that judgment muscle often was
used to pray and fast and you know
a bankrupt or broke is nothing this linear. History is meant to be a test. When you have the other day you don't have but it's about he said someone who will come was Salam Yamanaka but with that he will have bad virus. Someone took the rights of someone, you know, has beaten someone. So these people because they couldn't get the rights back in the dunya. Allah will give it to them. They're in the ACA. These people were almost going to gender but there's something called shuttle mavala there's one last checkpoint before gender, they're going to be broken and so yeah, Allah, we want our rights today.
So those people will take their good deeds and if they run out of good deeds, the bad deeds of the person who is weakened the denier couldn't take his right will be added to that person's bad deeds so he will be taken back and he will be thrown into Hellfire Apollo howdy had our staff
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I will conclude, Is there like a far can I go back and make Toba? If I'm a person who bites? Yes, but one thing should remind you be aware of your Acura which is more important than your dunya. If you're doing what you're doing, to keep a position or to gain some money, or to get the love of people or the trust of people, this is not going to get you anywhere.
Always think about your Acura because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said when he was taking into the night journey, and the ascension to the seventh heaven, He said acquirement of off Roman Rojas, I saw people they have very big nails made of copper. Yeah, Machina was your home was so Dora home. And they are literally picking their faces and the blood comes out and bringing their chests for call to your jabril manha Ola. I asked jabril. Who are these people? He said, These are the people who backbite in the dunya. These are the people who slammed her in the dounia. That's the punishment and so what should I do? four things. If you can go back to my first football when I came
to this Masjid, I talked about Toba. I said there are four conditions for Toba. Number one, three relating to Allah number two, one relating to your fellow human beings, as for the one relating to Allah subhana wa Taala and apply them stop that sin. Second, when you stop that, stop it only for the sake of Allah, not because you will be embarrassed or disgraced. Because Allah knows what's in your heart. Number two, and
feel regret and remorse that you have transgress the limits of Allah, and you ended up eating the flesh of the dead body of your brother or sister. Number three alhazmi Aki da da, da, da, da dah dah have a strong resolve and determination not to go back and do this again. That's what Allah, Allah will forgive if you're sincere. But there's something else. Allah will never forgive. When it comes to the rights of the people. You have to go to that person and ask Him to forgive you.
You have to go to that person and ask him if he doesn't forgive you. Allah would never forgive you. This is what we call as the bra if the man
was the bra, meaning you give back the rights that are due to people. And you go and ask the excuse, say, I have wronged you have talked behind your back, please forgive me.
We need to understand that. It's only Allah who knows what's in the hearts. So I'm publicly asking all of you, if I have done anything good. During my stay in Ottawa, it's from Allah subhanho wa Taala. If I have my own shortcomings, and I failed to give advice to someone, I failed to answer a phone call by someone what I failed to answer an email to someone, because I'm only one person who can do all of this, I did my best. So please forgive all my shortcomings. I'm asking you in front of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And if anybody if anyone has anything against me, I would rather ask you and advise you come to the front here and take it from me before a day when there will be no money
and there will be no children that will be of avail to you, and advise myself and all of you. Stop slandering. Stop.
Stop backbiting. May Allah subhanho wa Taala purify our hearts. Aloha mattala. Now what is how do you determine the lack of Fatah? Wa even illustrata wa Merida Alicia feta well I made an alarm while I did when I even illustrata Walla
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