Omar Suleiman – The Road Less Traveled Sh. Road To Revival Conference 2012
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The speakers emphasize the negative impact of social media on people's lives and the importance of finding purpose and achieving goals through love, success, and personal growth. They stress the importance of finding a way to produce meaning and produce meaningful experiences, finding one's own happiness through the experience of life, and avoiding negative impacts on personal and professional lives. The speakers also mention a recent panel charged with loss of words and faith, emphasizing the importance of finding a way to be productive and serve a lost cause.
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Usually our idea of being bloodied is walking into an eye hop wearing a bowtie,
right? Or wearing the coffin, a place that's never seen above and they think that you're an injury or something like that, like that's usually what we take as money. Right? And that's it. We've limited to that. We limited to that. This is what about Orban is looking weird. woba is not fitting in, right. But the concept of corba, from a from from the Sunnah of the messenger from the Sahaba is really so much more profound than that, especially considering that the prophets have a lot more
money but that Islam started as something strange was the Yoruba came up with that, and it will go back to being strange as it started the pool guide and what about so there's the valley guaranteed in paradise for the strangers. And this type of being strange did not just start with the revelation of it, by the way. In fact, I want to take it back to one individual who is so admired. Although he never took Shahada in his life.
He never took Shahada, but he's an illustrious individual in this team. And that is the denominator
of the
day, the problem of profane Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam talks about him about what he used to see the the actions that he used to see from him before he received revelation. Right. And that's gonna be back, it'll be low. It has some narrations and things of that sort. But essentially, they did not operate through faith. He's the nephew of a hapa. Right? So Bob is the father of his brother is the brother of his father. Although it was his cousin, his son decided to proceed with a loved one and one of the time guaranteed paradise. And, you know, he comes from a very, very, very powerful family, a very, very proud family. And they normally no favors from the group of people. A
few people that recognize to hate even one was was voice other was not preaching. They recognize that there's absolutely no way that all of these idols that we're worshipping, represent God, that there's absolutely no way that calling upon anyone other than a loss of habitat is going to do any good. And so they came together. And there's different areas that eventually different people want to come to NOFA is obviously always responded that how our beloved rejects or they get a lot of rejection, right, people that were that were that were troubled, right, by this idea of silk. I will regularly alongside I will never worship tonight, it never works with denials, Pamela from his fifth
round of banking, when he was young, his father of about a half an hour the alarm, put him in a room and he told him, you know, you need to make amends with this with this god of yours, you need to worship them. So I started talking to him. And he said, nothing's coming out of you. You obviously mean absolutely nothing to me. He never worked with denial. So these men went off, you know, studying what was the what was the natural, you know, religion to study was Christianity and Judaism and things of that sort, right things that at least represented monotheism in some form. But they didn't know how to fake was a totally different level. Because not only was he curious what he said,
but he was so affirmed in his domain that he was publicly relevant in recommending grace, for not practicing joking for not implementing so he's, and
he narrates this about himself as a young man, and he used to he used to attend the festivals, but not partake in any of their activities. Right. And whenever they would serve to the Prophet slicin of meat that was slaughtered in the name of something other than a loss of penance, either he would simply refuse it. So someone says I remember one time, I was sitting down and they were passing around me and the prophets lysozyme simply refused it. Then it came to
me and say, ignore our stood up. And he said, a loss Pousada sends down the rain, a loss of habitat, it creates the animal for you a loss of habitat and provides the animal with the vegetation and you worship the animal instead of a loss of
use. You slaughter this animal in the name of something other than a loss of time. What's out, right now. Remember this, above the father model, the loan was always the one to run to tortures ate, he would always be the one to slap him in the face and kick him and spit on him and tell him to go away. Right, he had that rough character. And that's not only a loved one, I've had some very touching Pamela she narrates a very, very touching incident. Think about this. She says that I saw it as a normative innovative, putting his back to the carrabba one
They were doing their rituals and saying no one is on the religion of Ibrahim on Instagram, except for me, none of you either listen to what he wanted, he stood out, and he wasn't being arrogant, but he was preaching to me that none of this
none of these idols are from the tradition of the bodies.
Now, something very touching happens there. Imagine this man did not hear the clock did not hear the data being recited. Right. He didn't have enough knowledge or Dr. Husayn back then somehow, no one was telling him about us now. But look how passionate he was about it. And look how isolated he was.
One time I watched him, and after he said this to the people after he was telling the people, none of you were on the religion.
He said Allahumma he made the actual loss of hundreds and he raised his eyes to the to the summit, and he said, Allah, lo, me, Abdullah, au, would you like to be when I can be
said, Oh, blah, if only I knew which way was the best way to worship you? I would worship you with that. But I don't know. I don't know. Right. And then another narration, he cried, and he said what he loved
me, he
guided me to that which is pleasing to
Allah much amazing. And I would beat him and spit on him, and kick him and insulted and humiliated him and tell him don't come back and disown him. You don't belong to this family. You're a disgrace to grace. And Zane would keep coming back and saying what he would say. And not only that, without
the iron, that tells you that whenever the girl who was buried alive asks the young baby girl with us would be asked on the Day of Judgment for what crime were you killed. Without that they did not just think there was something wrong with that practice to bury the young girls alive. Today, though, the alone time you would go to the outskirts of Mecca because the practice was to take the baby girl to the outskirts, dig a ditch, dump her they're very hurt, and it gets a lot you know, I wish to be hang your head in shame and try to avoid you know, talking about it. This was a disgrace. Pamela, look what it sounded Zayn all day long. without hearing a single message from the poor
Anderson wouldn't go into all of those people, and would say, Don't bury your daughter. I will raise her. I'll take her
without anybody, without any I, without any scholar, without any precedent, at least that he was aware of. I'll take her out, raise her hand a lot. And he would take all of these young girls, he would raise them until they would get to a marriageable age and then he would marry them all.
Right. Now, I will say became so annoying to the people of Mecca that alcopop had had enough of them. And I really hated him and tortured him so bad that they thought they love and no one was able to speak.
And they went looking for the truth. So he went to a shop. Right? He went looking in the area of a shop to see if maybe the Christians and the Jews could give him some knowledge that he could figure this out through them. And he wasn't satisfied. When he realized that the prophet SAW A lot of it was set up, was about to come out from the land that he left zenonia alone and I'm headed back that way. Just like some none of the alumni. Let's say he was heading towards Mecca. Somebody would head towards Medina, right later on. They the only one who was making his way back on the way there he was ambushed. He was killed.
So his son sorry, says to the prophets all along it was
Yasuda Allah, you know what my dad was like? You know what my father was? Like? He didn't say that Mr. Mohammed on sola. Right. He didn't notice them, you know, when he was like,
you know, what was? What's his situation. And one of the problems lies that I'm saying.
A lot of it was that I'm certain that on the Day of Judgment, an average profit will be standing. And behind him is his own man. I have seen Zayn or the amount of time when he will be standing by himself as an omen alone, a nation alone Subhan Allah that's how honored he is in the sight of a lost hand. What? What was it that that stirred that up and save all the alumni that gave him that passion? It was
it was the effort the intention, I want to be good. I want to please you Oh Allah, as the mandolin player he lost that that would eat Illa
Allah I don't desire except to desire what he desires.
All I want is what's pleasing to you. I could care less about, you're talking about peer pressure, seriously, look and say, Well,
what more you know, what more do you want? What kind of peer pressure have these things awkwardness, awkward looks, right feeling out of place amongst our families and amongst our communities and things of that sort. What what longer does have we face compared to a lot of mine who was going through, right, but he only wanted what was pleasing to Allah, Allah to Allah. And so by default, he became a stranger, he became a buddy. And also also lahardee was set up such that Alice had a title is not going to allow all that to go to waste. But the puzzling thing again, How did he know what to do with the girls? How did he know all of these things? Because once upon a time, it says, what this
is the take home message, what did Athena jaha do Vina and at the end amongst
those who struggle and strive in our cause, we will guide them to our salute to our paths. And these super are not like the cylinder shaped bomb. Right? the paths of CEPA. There's only submitted that we never say suited up. These super all leads are submitted that it's not different religions and these types of things. It's not you know, it's not that it's not different schools of thoughts, you know, are different schools of creed or stone, this isn't what it's talking about what you're missing the complete point. But a lot of what's out there will guide a person to a son, and a son in different areas. Because we were not all created the same way. A loss of Canada was added did not
create everyone to be a scholar and a day, a lot of Canada wins out of the concrete everyone to be a generous person that's always going to cut the chunk the big chunk, right, that's always going to rescue the fundraiser. A lot of times not treating everyone the same at a loss of hundreds, I did not treat everyone with the same abilities. But a loss of pattern. What's added gave everyone a means of elevation. And a way that that person could be elevated in His sight somehow, there is no person in here who has that loss.
The story of the woman who used to have epilepsy in the time of the Prophet slice Ella, right she used to fall she stop seizures and fall and the profits whole lot money was stolen would tell her, you know, when she asked the pilot's license to make up for her career, the prophets lie Selim said to her well, I can make your arm and you will be cured, and it'll be over. But if you are patient, you will enter gender. If you're patient with it, you'll enter gentlemen, that is permissible. You didn't ask for something that's wrong, you can ask for your help. But if you're patient, this could be the best thing that ever happened to you, because this is guaranteed gender for you.
You know, someone came to my mind.
And if you've seen Abdullah from Saudi Arabia, who's paralyzed from the neck down the video, what are your three wishes and these types of things. So Abdullah, is a dying in Saudi Arabia, who before he became paralyzed, was not a very religious person, he almost drowned and he had to have operations, things of that sort, and the loss function, and all of his body, neck down. And now he dedicated his life to death. Right and his videos on YouTube, I don't care if you have the hardest part in this audience, or in the world, you will cry, you will cry if you watch that alone. And you watch the way he answers questions the way he talks about his life and the way he reflects
unbelievable. And somehow, you know, in the Middle East, he'll have 1000s and 1000s of people shoe, scholars in tears, wailing. Why? Because that's how powerful His story is. that a person even in that situation, found a way to please Allah subhanho wa Taala, he found his power, right, he found his way. He found his what he found his his part of exile, he found his role to play in this life. And it was to tell everyone else basically, your hardship is nothing and my hardship which is much greater than your hardship is nothing, because the last panel to Allah has given us enough to be grateful for.
Right. And I was I was thinking to myself somehow along and imagine a Muslim who was born in a household, right where they've been taught that their entire lives. And this happens so many times the first mini crisis they faced in their lives, they wanted to get married to a person that didn't work out, they start saying a lot doesn't exist. Why is God doing this to me? Who was a lot? Why does the law hate me? This whole you know, and then they throw out everything they've heard their entire lives out the window. Why? Because they faced the mini crisis, not a crisis on that scale. When the Nina Jaya novena, then at the end of Sudan, those who strive for the sake of Allah Subhana
Allah, Allah will guide them Allah Subhana Allah will guide them to their Path of Exile. A Lost Planet, Allah will guide them either from the Dorf setup either from the drop down either from the door and whatever it is, they will find their men and you know what, as well for us, I just was mentioning an alcohol and
they'll find it
Through their parents that starts at home, right? Those who are closest to you, those who are in your own household are most deserving of seeing the religiosity that's that's affected your life, this, this, you know, inspiration in your life, they're most deserving of seniors.
Right? You find it through your parents a lot of time to get you older, sick parents, you find it through a brother or a sister that was falling, and you were there to help them. Right? You find it somehow. And that makes you different. You know why? Because you're looking for the pleasure of who you're looking for the pleasure of a loss kind of what's out.
And that's what the horiba is. And unfortunately, what happens is, is that we have, you know, sometimes we live lives that are so purposeless that when do we feel horrible? When we're in an environment that actually means something? Right? When you go to the Muslim people are talking about religion too much, you as a Muslim sometimes are uncomfortable, right? Like, hey, let's talk about something else. You know, you're and part of that is is the fault, the older generation, we turn the massages into. And by the way, from the love for America, again, you think division is bad here, go to the UK.
Nothing, nothing like that. But we feel horrible in the West. We feel uncomfortable. We feel uncomfortable for Islamic convention. Sometimes people are talking about religion too much. You know, if our friends start talking about me too much, you're weirding me out, man. You know, why are you being like this? Right? It's supposed to be the opposite. We're supposed to feel awkward and uncomfortable with things that are displeasing to Allah subhanho wa Taala. But I guarantee you, many of us as Muslim youth, let's face it, we feel more comfortable in the grocery store with the liquor right behind our backs than in the monster.
Right, we feel more and more by the message that we would have in the in the grocery store that's been accepted that but you know, this is weird, this whole talk about Africa, don't talk about death too much. Right? The days of disease from chemo law, what we used to gather the scholars of Medina every single night in his office to talk about death. very pessimistic, right. That's how we would think like, that's too much doubt. Don't talk about that. Don't talk about too much. Right? It dampens our moods. And that's not the attitude that we should have. The attitude is, what can I do to please Allah subhanho wa Taala? What can I do to have a meaningful life, a meaningful life, find
meaning in my life, find a purpose in my life, where I'm not just sheep, you know, where I'm not just doing what everybody else is doing. And where I have enough confidence and enough self esteem to try to build my own identity not because I have pride in myself or my own abilities, but pride in who, but who is the Tila pride in the loss of Hannah woods, Allah, He has given you the deed that He has given you finding meaning, once you have that as
a vehicle.
Once a person is thinking about something, when you're deeply thinking about something, everything lends itself to that thought everything around you lends itself to that thought, right? You're thinking about a loss of data, this means something to you all of a sudden, right? A person that you would have never looked at before means something to you, all of a sudden, things start having meaning that otherwise would have had no meaning whatsoever, it would have had nothing to do with a loss of habitat in your mind or your perception. But now you're thinking, now your interest has become pleasing the loss of
a loved one, either by your league, right? guide me to what pleases you. And you know, as analog, because I don't want to have the very practical talk, which was given by a follow up a very practical talk with a very impractical talk. I remember once reading a book about it was it was conquering your depression, something along the lines of conquering your depression, right finding purpose in life. And basically the author, and I remember his last name was Addison. I remember his last name was Alex and I was thinking about it all the way here. But the author, what he was saying is that there's this perception that you need people that you need, you need companionship, to be
happy. And he said, That's not true. He said, there are three elements of happiness, something to do, something to love, and something to hope for something to look forward to. He said, If a person has those three elements, that person will be happy. And every time you see a depressed person, that's because they might have excelled in two of those categories, but totally filled that one. So for example, a celebrity or an athlete or someone who achieves, you know, fame and achieves money and lives on all of their live streams and their lifestyles and things of that sort.
Once they get up there. They have nothing to hope for anymore.
My goal was dunya, and I got it. And you know what, it wasn't all that it was made out to be. I might as well go kill myself. Right? I might as well do drugs until until I die. You know
done in a pinnacle state in some hotel room somewhere, right? Why I lost something to hope for I lost meaning something to hope for that was gone. And imagine some how to love the highest rate of suicide in this country is for the class that earns over $250,000 a year, the highest income earning class in this country has the highest suicide rate.
I'm done, I've got nothing to hope for. And then you've got other people that, you know, the goal is to work through retirement, Mashallah sometimes you meet youth and stuff like that. And then they get involved in some pyramid scheme and stuff like that, and some marketing gig, right. And my goal is to be financially, you know, financially independent, and to retire by the age of 25. Good. Good job. Good luck with that, buddy. You know, what happens when people retire?
You know, what happens when people retire, they get bored, I need something to do. My life has lost meaning, you know, I need to start walking around, I need to start getting more, you know, involved athletically, I need to do more exercise fitness, I need to go play ping bingo tournaments or something. Right, but I can't sit home, right vacations are nice for a week or two weeks. But once I'm sitting, I mean, it's like, you know, all of us, all of us want to be able to have that day where you can just sleep in, right and not have to worry about anything and not answer the phone. Or at least that's what I look for. Right? A chance to like lay back. And okay, I'm going to sleep in
today. And I'm going to go back to sleep a little bit, all of us like to do that once every once in a while. It's a problem, you do it every day, right? But once in a while you're asleep. But imagine what happens when you stay in your bed for an entire week. It's miserable. When you're in the hospital, you get depressed, you're not doing anything, right, even if your condition is over, when you're not doing anything. That laziness has now turned into depression, because you're not doing anything, you're not productive anymore. And at the end of the day, every single human being has to feel like they're producing, they have they're doing something in life, right? My life has to have
meaning. And when you look at the Sahaba of the prophets, they always found a way to please Allah, they always found something to do. There was no way that you can tell one of the companions of the Prophet slicin just take it easy. And you know, we'll talk about that in two weeks or something like that. In fact, we're trying to tell them, you know, to calm down they would insist right it tells
us you know, don't read them every single day the whole plan is finishing the whole plan so I can do it no finish in three days. Some somehow they Yes, they were capable. But as soon as I said knew he was gonna burn out so finish to put out over three days if you want right praying one third of the night don't spend the entire night in prayer fast every other day Don't fast every day. Why
can they accumulate Pathak right? Don't be like a person that he would say later on in his life. I used to pray to them. And then and then I stopped, right I got burned out. Because you always need something to do and
insist and say, I can do more, I can do more, I will double the amount of time with the Prophet size. And I'm literally told him that we're all doing that we're, you're weak, you don't have any protection here. People aren't gonna beat you silly. He couldn't help it. It was in his nature. Why? Because he had a purpose. He had a meeting now. So he went out. He did that when he got beat silly. And you know what, he did it again and again and again and again. Meaning purpose, something was there now. You don't count it. The logic tells the province I said, Take everything, everything I'm giving everything and it says no, hold on to some of it. You're not elected button.
You're awesome. But you're not on the bucket. Right? Not many people can do that. Right. So apologize. I'm sorry. I'm sick. It probably keeps on with you. So okay, I'll keep some of the spoils from from Hollywood. Okay, fine, just keep something right, keep something that's
constantly had purpose and meaning. And it wasn't just the Sahaba it was anyone who followed in their footsteps. And he doesn't know we don't even have a lot to add up. This might blow some of you away. If you know anything about the amount of knowing you'll know that when you walk into a library, almost half the books are written by him. Right? The the work that he's been able to produce in almost every area, beyond the sleight of hand masterpiece out of buying a notary for those, you know, when you are buying a notary we can teach courses on the 14th even though we do right, right and Phil, you know, the Muslim and all of that. Do you know any moment No, no, he died
in his 30s in his 30s you know, seriously when you think of someone like him out of nowhere, you're you're thinking about the guy with the great beard who's sitting there was barely alive in his wheelchair, right? I've spent all these years you know, putting myself
In this position now, now I can write books, he died in his 30s. He had purpose he had meaning, right. And he didn't have to indulge in the things that are meaningless, but unfortunately, are being thrown out every single day from the dunya. Why? Because once you once you have purpose, once you have meaning, you always have something to do. Right? Something to love. And this was I remember reading this book, so often companionship, you know, it fulfills this category, that fulfills the requirement of this category. But it's not the only thing. If you love something enough, then you don't need anything else. If you love something enough, when you love the last panel, it's out of
enough. And you don't unfortunately, I'm not in a category where I love the last project enough that I'm completely independent of other things, right, independent of other people, those types of things. And I don't think anyone in this room is but we should aspire for that. But the more you love us accountants out, and the more you excel in the other two categories, the more you find to do, and the more you find to hope for, right? And then the third thing was an agenda and agenda. What do you hope for gentlemen, in this life, as a believer, you never lose sight of that. And the more you look forward to that, the more you will work, the degree you believe in the degree of your
pain and your certainty and the loss of parents out of that all of this is real, that all of this has meaning and purpose that I'm going to see the fruits of my efforts, the more effort you will put in, the more you will put forward. Right. And it's whenever we have doubts, we start falling back. And so how do I know a lot he said something very profound. He said that doubts on two categories doubts in oneself and doubts in the last panel title. How do you doubt yourself? I'll give you an example. I'll give you an example. There are many times I've seen a sister for example, say I don't want to start wearing hijab, but I'm afraid once I put it on, I'm going to
take it off. Right? And brothers for example, sometimes in the Middle East, I'm telling you, you know, you think that every one of the Middle East is religious if you don't go there sometimes. But how about there are people that are 5060 years old when they come to America they start praying I remember the first time I went there and had a lot you know, I'm seeing people relatives and things of that sort of grown men and they don't pray but not only do they not pray once a large amount is going on they still say they're Muslim they don't pray it's like Why don't you pray but afraid if I start
I won't be able to continue
you doubt yourself right?
You be literally yourself. And you should not be little yourself now you have to not
let not a single one of you be little himself and the Sahaba were shocked
enough so how can a single How can a person be little not you know, the little himself? We're talking about? You know, this sounds like pride and arrogance, right? That's not what the promise Lysander was saying. The problem is saying that one of you see something that he should speak about, but he doesn't speak about it. He doesn't say anything. Right. And when the last time I asked him on the Day of Judgment, why didn't you say anything? You saw people disobeyed me, you saw all this stuff that was contradicting Islam. Why didn't you say anything? What would he say? a synchronous Yeah, I was I was afraid of what people would say about me. He was weak. he doubted himself and the
province and the province I said a lot of times I would say to him a loss of words out it was more worthy of you fear and you know you're fearing him how 11 people right so when you doubt yourself and when you doubt a lot of what's out when you have the SEC in the last panel that you know you're really getting involved in something and then you think to yourself this is really all worth it. Is this really gonna get me anywhere? I'm not getting paid for this right this is I don't have to put up with all this this is frustrating. Is it really worth it?
And that that that doubt can kill you right there. It can kill your economic work it can kill your meaning in life It can kill your purpose. And I'll just leave you with one thing and then I'll stop because this is the essence of it all and this is what it all comes down to little the Nina XL listener was the
last panel it's an assessment tool and for those who excel further for us was talking about axon for those who excel they will have a return excellence right? How does our exam 11 axon you put good for throw loss parents out of Allah subhanaw taala will return good to you your everyday life lives will change right you have that standard with your parents will start noticing that they have a better treatment towards you. You have a sound towards people you're courteous towards people you'll start noticing that more people will be courteous towards you. Right things will change right but what is the last contact talking about the the accent or not this gentleman paradise something to hope for.
But what is was Jada
More an extra, once possibly more than an agenda. So the Sahaba asked the prophets lie so that we understand that what is was he? And what are the prophets lie, some say not authentic narration.
And not only that, I want you
to be able to see a lot to be able to look at the face of a loss of time to stare at a small loss.
Why? Because these categories something to do something to love, something to hope for. If you are weak in one category, you will find that the other the other two will fall apart eventually, and your happiness is gone. And then you're in depression. And then you're thinking to yourself, why am I even here in the first place? I'm contemplating suicide now. And as one of the signs of the Day of Judgment, when a person walks into a graveyard, he points to the one the person in the grave. And he says about that person in the grave. I wish I was in his situation. I wish I could be dead. Why? Because of a minor crisis, minor things that happened in his life actually, in his life, it might
not have even been a crisis. And when we're talking about Florida, and the concept of being married
a long time,
who I mentioned how the largest Earth earlier just alluded to a little bit about the low tide.
The Sahabi, who was burned, the skin off of his back was completely burned. He was dragged by his hair, through the stands of the hot desert of Mecca consistently. He was sold into slavery as a child after coming from an honorable tribe from bentota mean from a nuts he was an error. Right and his and his master when she saw him whenever she persisted, she was shocked. Right You know, you're Why are you here? She bought him put him into work. When he became listen to the amount of torture that he went through was so much that he came to the Prophet Sol Larissa one day after being burned having all the skin his mask that used to take hot coal and and molten and put it down his back, let
it run down his back. And later on all the alumni who saw that on his back panel whenever all I was asking him in the glory days when Islam was no longer buddy, right when almost Khalifa now How bad was an honorable person? And then from a societal standpoint, you don't tell me about what used to happen to you in the days of obscenity? Tell me what happened to you when you first became Muslim? I didn't experience that all over the law. And that was a big powerful man from a big trial. Right? And how bad didn't even say anything? He just showed this back? And oh, my God allow. The narration does not say he was shocked. And he saw he
said, Now he had a cut. I've never seen something like this in my life before. What happened to you? Right? And the torture that he went through? And he endured, and he came to the Prophet sly. Somebody says yellow, so I don't tend to go down.
That Aren't you going to make God for us? Aren't you going to seek the help of Allah perhaps out of force? Right. Both of those things, were head on requests.
But the super slicer themselves are giving up in him. He says that he was you know, he was giving up and he was losing hope. And that's why the prophets I saw them space color teams. And that's what he told them in the narration of ohana. There were people who came before you that were sued that were so unhappy that they did have some how to love because they said that in a lot because they held on to this. And our Superfly Salim said Allah Subhana Allah will fulfill this message to the point that person will be able to ride all the way from Omaha to hospital multiperiod no one got the last
right that they will prevail that the deed will prevail that you will see the fruits of your efforts even in this life. right you'll see an even in this leg when I came back home to statuto. But you're too hasty, you're too hasty. And you know, and it's their job to claim on him a whole lot and he elaborated on this he said analyse your storage and
you don't want to personally do so based on loss. And it's because he's hasty for the reward that he thinks that the simple gift, right? hastiness, I want to see it now. Don't lose hope. Right? Not you're losing sight of what you're supposed to be hoping for. Now look at caballo de la vida later on in his life, and this is also an Bahati. What if you see the fruits of your efforts in this life? What if Mashallah, all the stuff that we're talking about one day coming back and the glory of stuff being restored? What if we see in our lifetime? What if we see all of this happen now? What if you know, those of us who face some sort of persecution from our families, not persecution, but
awkwardness and things of that sort? What if we see that everyone comes around and everyone starts to respect us and everything starts to go good in our lives, you know what? A long time who said and this is from case of Nabil has been providing when he was coming close to his death
Although I don't have a lot of money in his eyes, and he used to have a portion of his house where he would keep money, that the beggars knew where it was, he wouldn't even give it, he would just leave it there and they would come take the money from him, he leaves the food there they come take it from him. And as his life was being extended for a while, and he was out living other companions, he was crying. And he said, that the people that suffered with me, you know, the early Sahaba, the early Muslims,
none of their reward was given to them in this dunya.
Right, they did not lose any of their awarded alfia. Through reward in this video, they lived in struggle, they live in persecution, and a lot of them died, while they were still struggling and poor in these types of things. He went long, he lived in the glory days of Islam, he had money, he was respected member, right? The government, the Islamic government, and he's saying but here I am, and I'm afraid that this is all Allah subhanaw taala decreasing my reward and
and he said, if it was hard to ask for that, I would ask for that not because he was depressed, not because he lost meaning, because when he was hoping for was agenda the whole time, how the law, so he was afraid that the good he was seeking His life was actually a manifestation of the punishment of Allah subhanaw taala. Because he realized that if the reward for his efforts was all in the alpha would have been better off that way.
This is how the Sahaba thought, something to do. You want to be productive, you will find a way to be productive, you're not going to need some shift to tell you how to be productive and what to do, you can seek advice. But when you want to be productive, you will find a way to be productive, you will find a way to serve a lost cause and serve your community, something to love, you always have a loss of habitat have something to hope for as long as your certainty in Gemini is there, then you're not going to need the appreciation of people you're not going to need to see the fulfillment, you know, to see everything you've achieved in this dunya you'd rather see it. And we asked the last
panel, it's either not enough to do it.
Allah give us good in this life and in the author of protecting us from the Hellfire does that go off later.
Say hello. And without hearing a single message from the poor Anderson would go to all of those people and would say don't bury your daughter. I will raise her. I'll take her
with without any hygiene. Without any I without any scholar, without any precedent, at least that he was aware of. I'll take her, I'll raise her hand a lot. And he would take all of these young girls, he would raise them until they would get to a marriageable age, and then he would marry them all.
Right. Now I will say became so annoying to the people of Mecca that Uncle Bob had had enough of them. And I really hated him and tortured him so bad that they don't they love and no one was able to speak.
And they went looking for the truth. So he went to a shop. Right? He went looking in the area of a sham to see if maybe the Christians and the Jews could give him some knowledge that he could figure this out through them. And he wasn't satisfied. When he realized that the prophet SAW A lot of it was set up was about to come out from the land that he left zenonia alone and headed back that way just like some none of the alignment. Let's say he was heading towards Mecca. Somebody would head towards Medina, right later on. They the only one who was making his way back on the way there he was ambushed. He was killed.
So his son sorry, says to the prophets, Allah Lombardi was
Yasuda Allah, you know what my dad was like? You know what my father was like? He didn't say that Mr. Mohammed on a soul level. Right? He didn't notice them, you know, when he was like,
you know, what was? What's his situation? And one of the prophets lies that I'm saying.
A lot of it was sort of said that on the Day of Judgment, on every prophet, we'll be standing. And behind him is his own man. I have seen Zeno the amount of time when he will be standing by himself as an omen alone, a nation alone. So Pamela that's how honored he is in the sight of Allah subhanho wa Taala. What was it that that stirred that up and save all the alumni that gave him that passion? It was
it was the effort, the intention. I
Want to be good? I want to please you, Oh Allah as the number one player that would eat or eat
a lot, I don't desire except to desire what he desires. All I want is what's pleasing to you. I could care less about, you're talking about peer pressure, seriously, look and say, well, the alignment what more you know, what more do you want? What kind of peer pressure have these things awkwardness, awkward looks, right feeling out of place amongst our families and amongst our communities and things of that sort. What what longer does have we face compared to the alumni who was going through? Right, but he only wanted what was pleasing to Allah, Allah to Allah. And so by default, he became a stranger. He became a buddy and Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam said, that Allah
subhanaw taala is not going to allow all dogs go to waste. But the puzzling thing again, How did he know what to do with the girls? How did he know all of these things because of loss of habitat says what this is the take home message, what did Athena jaha do Vina and at the end amongst
those who struggle and strive in our cause, we will guide them to our to our paths and these super are not like the super loose a bomb, right the paths of CEPA there's only submitted that we never say suited up these super all leads are submitted that it's not different religions and these types of things it's not you know, it's not that it's not different schools of thoughts, you know, are different schools of creed or stones isn't what he's talking about what you're missing the complete point. But a lot of what's out there will guide a person to a son and a son in different areas because we were not all created the same way. Allah subhana wa tada did not create everyone to be a
scholar and a day, a lots of kinda wins out of the concrete, everyone to be a generous person that's always going to cut the chunk the big chunk, right, that's always going to rescue the fundraiser, a loss of hundreds if not treating everyone the same at a loss of hundreds, I did not treat everyone with the same abilities. But a loss of having what's added gave everyone a means of elevation. And a way that that person could be elevated in His sight somehow, there is no person in here. Who is that lost.
The story of the woman who started epilepsy in the time of the Prophet slice Allah, right, she used to fall she stuff Caesars and fall and the prophets whole lot money was that it would tell her, you know, when she asked the Prophet slice them to make up for her career, the prophets lie Selim said to her well, I can make your heart and you will be cured, and it'll be over. But if you are patient, you will enter gender. If you're patient with it, you'll enter gentlemen, Dr. Oz permissively, you didn't ask for something that's wrong, you can ask for your help. But if you're patient, this could be the best thing that ever happened to you, because this is guaranteed gender for you.
And, you know, someone came to my mind.
And if you've seen Abdullah from Saudi Arabia, who's paralyzed from the neck down the video, what are your three wishes and these types of things. So Abdullah, is a dying in Saudi Arabia, who before he became paralyzed, was not a very religious person, he almost drowned and he had to have operations, things of that sort, and the last function in all of this body, neck down, and now he dedicated his life to demo. Right and his videos on YouTube, I don't care if you have the hardest heart in this audience, or in the world, you will cry, you will cry if you watch that alone. And you watch the way he answers questions the way he talks about his life and the way he reflects
unbelievable. And somehow, you know, in the Middle East, he'll have 1000s and 1000s of people shoe, scholars in tears, wailing. Why? Because that's how powerful His story is. that a person even in that situation, I found a way to please Allah subhana wa sallam, he found his power, right, he found his way. He found his what he found his his part of exile, he found his role to play in this life and it was to tell everyone else basically your hardship is nothing and my hardship which is much greater than your hardship is nothing because the last panel to Allah has given us enough to be grateful for.
Right and that was I was thinking to myself somehow login imagine a Muslim who was born in a household right where they've been taught that their entire lives. And this happened so many times the first mini crisis they faced in their lives, they wanted to get married to a person that didn't work out, they start saying a lot doesn't exist. Why is God doing this to me? Who has a lot? Why does the law hate me? This whole you know, and then they throw out everything they've heard their entire lives and out the window. Why? Because they faced the mini crisis, not a crisis on that scale. When the Nina Jaya novena, then at the end of those who strive for the sake of Allah Subhana
Allah Allah will guide them Allah subhanaw taala will guide them to their Path of Exile.
Last panels added it will guide them either from the door setup either from the door down either from the door and whatever it is, they will find their men. And you know what i was really for us, I just was mentioning and
they'll find it through their parents, it starts at home, right those who are closest to you, those who are in your own household, our most deserving of seeing the religiosity that's that's affected your life, this, this, you know, inspiration in your life, they're most deserving of seniors.
Right, you find it through your parents a lot of time to get you older, sick parents, you find it through a brother or a sister that was falling, and you were there to help them. Right, you find that somehow. And that makes you different. You know why? Because you're looking for the pleasure of who you're looking for the pleasure of a loss kind of what's out.
And that's what the horiba is. And unfortunately, what happens is, is that we have you know, sometimes we live lives that are so purposeless that when do we feel horrible? When we're in an environment that actually means something? Right? When you go to the medicine, people are talking about religion too much, you as a Muslim sometimes are uncomfortable, right? Like, hey, let's talk about something else. You know, you're and part of that is the fault the older generation, we turn the massage into. And by the way, from the love for America, again, you think divisions bad here, go to the UK.
Nothing, nothing like that. But we feel horrible and the rest. We feel uncomfortable. We feel uncomfortable for Islamic convention. Sometimes people are talking about religion too much. You know, if our friends start talking about me too much, you're weirding me out, man. You know, why are you being like this? Right? It's supposed to be the opposite. We're supposed to feel awkward and uncomfortable with things that are displeasing to Allah subhanho wa Taala. But I guarantee you, many of us as Muslim youth, let's face it, we feel more comfortable in the grocery store with the liquor right behind our backs than in domestic.
Right, we feel more and more by the message that we would have in the in the grocery store that's been accepted that but you know, this is weird, this whole talk about Africa. Don't talk about death too much. Right? The days of disease from chemo law. We used to gather the scholars of Medina every single night in his office to talk about death. very pessimistic, right. That's how we would think like that's too much done. Don't talk about this. Don't talk about after too much. Right? It dampens our moods. And that's not the attitude that we should have. The attitude is what can I do to please Allah subhanho wa Taala? What can I do to have a meaningful life, a meaningful life, find meaning in
my life, find a purpose in my life, where I'm not just sheep, you know, where I'm not just doing what everybody else is doing. And we're I have enough confidence and enough self esteem to try to build my own identity not because I have pride in myself or my own abilities, but pride in who, but who
Tila pride in the last hour, he has given you the theme that He has given you finding meaning once you have that as
a vehicle.
Once a person is thinking about something, when you're deeply thinking about something, everything lends itself to that point, everything around you lends itself to that thought, right? You're thinking about a loss of habitat, this means something to you all of a sudden, right? A person that you would have never looked at before means something to you all of a sudden, things start having meaning that otherwise would have had no meaning whatsoever, it would have had nothing to do with the loss of habitat and your mind your your perception, but now you're thinking, now your interest has become pleasing Allah Subhana
Allah denita biotique. Right, guide me to what pleases you. And you know, as Pamela because I don't want to have the very practical talk, which was given by a follow up a very practical talk with a very impractical talk. I remember once reading a book about it was it was conquering your depression, something along the lines of conquering your depression, right finding purpose in life. And basically the author and I remember his last name was Addison. I remember his last name was Allison, I was thinking about all the way here, but the author, what he was saying is that there's this perception that you need people that you need, you need companionship, to be happy. And he
said, That's not true. He said, there are three elements of happiness, something to do, something to love, and something to hope for something to look forward to. He said, If a person has those three elements, that person will be happy. And every time you see a depressed person, that's because they might have excelled in two of those categories, but totally filled that one. So for example, a celebrity or an athlete or someone who achieves you know, fame and achieves money and lives on all of their live streams and their lifestyles and things of that sort.
Once they get up there. They have nothing
All for anymore.
My goal was dunya, and I got it. And you know what, it wasn't all that it was made out to be, I might as well go kill myself. Right? I might as well do drugs until until I die. You know, it's I'm found dead in a pitiful state in some hotel room somewhere. Right? Why I lost something to hope for I lost meaning something to hope for that was gone. And imagine some how to love the highest rate of suicide in this country is for the class that earns over $250,000 a year, the highest income earning class in this country has the highest suicide rate.
I'm done, I've got nothing to hope for. And then you've got other people that, you know, the goal is to work through retirement bussola, sometimes you meet youth and stuff like that. And then they get involved in some pyramid scheme and stuff like that, and some marketing gig, right. And my goal is to be financially, you know, financially independent, and to retire by the age of 25. Good. Good job. Good luck with that, buddy. You know, what happens when people retire?
You know, what happens when people retire, they get bored, I need something to do. My life has lost meaning, you know, I need to start walking around, I need to start getting more, you know, involved athletically, I need to do more exercise fitness, I need to go play ping bingo tournaments or something. Right. But I can't sit home, right vacations are nice for a week or two weeks. But once I'm sitting, I mean, it's like, you know, all of us, all of us want to be able to have that day where you can sleep in, right and not have to worry about anything and not answer the phone. Or at least that's what I look forward to. Right, a chance to like lay back. And okay, I'm going to sleep
in today. And I'm going to go back to sleep a little bit, all of us like to do that once every once in a while. It's a problem, you do it every day, right? But once in a while, you want to sleep. But imagine what happens when you stay in your bed for an entire week, it's miserable. When you're in the hospital, you get depressed, you're not doing anything, right. Even if your condition is over with, you're not doing anything, that laziness has now turned into depression, because you're not doing anything, you're not productive anymore. And at the end of the day, every single human being has to feel like they're producing, they have they're doing something in life, right, my life has to
have meaning. And when you look at the Sahaba of the prophets, like, they always found a way to play the last kind of tie, they always found something to do, there was no way that you could tell one of the companions of the Prophet slicin just take it easy. And you know, we'll talk about that in two weeks or something like that. In fact, we tried to tell them, you know, to calm down, they would insist, right, it tells
us, you know, don't read them every single day, the whole plan is finishing the whole plan. So I can do it. No finish in three days. Some somehow they Yes, they were capable. But as soon as I said knew he was gonna burn out. So finishing up around over three days if you want, right print one third of the night, don't spend the entire night in prayer fest every other day, don't fest every day. Why not to cucaracha candy accumulate photography, right? Don't be like a person that he would say later on in his life. I used to pray to them and then and then I stopped, right I got burned out. Because you always need something to do and
I can do more, I can do more, I will double the
size. And I'm literally told him that
you're weak. You don't have any protection here. People aren't gonna beat you silly. He couldn't help it. It was in his nature. Why cuz he had a purpose. He had a meeting now. So he went out he did that when he got beat silly. And you know what, he did it again and again and again and again. Meaning purpose, something was there now. You don't count it. The logic tells the province I set up take everything, everything I'm giving everything and some of our prototypes that says no, hold on to some of it. You're not elected, but
you're awesome. But you're not on the bucket. Right? Not many people can do that. Right? So apologize. I'm sick. I'm sick. It probably not keeps up with you. So okay, I'll keep some of the spoils from from hybrid. Okay, fine, just keep something right, keep something that's
constantly had purpose and meaning and it wasn't just the Sahaba it was anyone who followed in their footsteps and he doesn't know
this might blow some of you away if you know anything about not knowing you'll know that when you walk into a library almost half of the books are written by him. Right? The the work that he's been able to produce in almost every area, the oldest sleight of hand masterpiece out of buying a notary for those you know, when you are wanting to know we we can teach courses on the forehead even though we do right. Right and Phil, you know, the suffering of Muslim and having all of that. Do you know any moment No, no people will
died in his 30s in his 30s. You know, seriously, when you think of someone like him out of nowhere, you're thinking about the guy with the great beard who's sitting there was barely alive in his wheelchair, right? I've spent all these years, you know, putting myself in this position. Now, now I can write books, he died in his 30s. He had purpose, he had meaning, right. And he didn't have to indulge in the things that are meaningless, but unfortunately, are being thrown out every single day from the dunya. Why? Because once you once you have purpose, once you have meaning, you'll always have something to do. Right? Something to love. And this was I remember reading this book, so often
companionship, you know, it fulfills this category, that fulfills the requirement of this category. But it's not the only thing. If you love something enough, then you don't need anything else. If you love something enough, when you love a last panel, it's out of enough. And, you know, unfortunately, I'm not in a category where I love the last project enough that I'm completely independent of other things, right, independent of other people in those types of things. And I don't think anyone in this room is what we should aspire for that. But the more you love, a loss of patterns, the more you excel in the other two categories, the more you find to do, and the more you find to hope for.
Right? And then the third thing was an agenda and agenda. What do you hope for gender in this life, as a believer, you never lose sight of that. And the more you look forward to that, the more you will work, the degree you believe in the degree of your pain and your certainty and the loss of parents out of that all this is real, that all of this has meaning and purpose that I'm going to see the fruits of my efforts, the more effort you will put in, the more you will put forward. Right. And it's whenever we have doubts, we start falling back. It's kind of like a lot. He said something very profound. He said the doubts are in two categories, doubts in oneself and doubts in the last panel
title. How do you doubt yourself? I'll give you an example. I'll give you an example. There are many times I've seen a sister, for example, say I don't want to start wearing hijab, but I'm afraid once I put it on, I'm going to
take it off. Right. And brothers, for example, sometimes in the Middle East, I'm telling you, you know, you think that everyone in the Middle East is religious if you don't go there sometimes. But how about there are people that are 5060 years old, when they come to America, they start praying. I remember the first time I went there and had a lot. You know, I'm seeing people, relatives and things of that sort of grown men, and they don't pray but not only do they not pray once a large amount is going on, they still say they're Muslim, they don't pray. It's like Why don't you pray? I'm afraid if I start
I won't be able to continue.
You doubt yourself. Right?
tackle must suck you up literally yourself. And you should not be little yourself. Now you have to
said Let not a single one of you be little himself. And the Sahaba were shocked.
Enough. So how can a single How can a person be little not? You know, the little himself? We're talking about? You know, this sounds like pride and arrogance, right? That's not what the province Lysander was saying the province is saying that one of you see something that he should speak about, but he doesn't speak about it? He doesn't say anything. Right. And when the last time I asked him on the Day of Judgment, why didn't you say anything? You saw people disobeyed me, you saw all this stuff that was contradicting Islam? Why didn't you say anything? What would he say? I synchronous, you know, I was I was afraid of what people would say about me. He was weak. he doubted himself. And
the province and the province. I said, a lot of times I would say to him a loss of words out it was more worthy of you fear and you know, you're fearing him. How 11 people, right? So when you doubt yourself, and when you doubt a lot of what's added when you have the SEC in the last panel that's added. You know, you're really getting involved in something and then you think to yourself, this is really all worth it. Is this really gonna get me anywhere? I'm not getting paid for this. Right? This is I don't have to put up with all this. This is frustrating. Is it really worth it?
And that that that doubt can kill you right there. It can kill your economic work, it can kill your meaning in life, it can kill your purpose. And I'll just leave you with one thing and then I'll stop because this is the essence of it all. And this is what it all comes down to. Little Athena XL Wisner was the
last panel. It's an assessment tool. And for those who excel for the foot, I was talking to my son, for those who excel they will have a return excellence, right how to design Excel. You put good fourth row last, our last hour will return good to your everyday life lives will change. Right you have that style and your parents will start noticing that they have a better treatment towards you. You have a sound towards people you're courteous towards people. You
You'll start noticing that more people will be courteous towards you. Right? things will change, right? But what is the last contact talking about? The the accent or not this gentleman paradise, something to hope for. But what is was yada and more an extra? What's possibly more than an agenda? So the Sahaba asked the prophets lie so that we understand that what is was he? And what are the prophets lie, some say not authentic narration.
And not only that,
to be able to see a lot to be able to look at the face of a loss of time to stare at a small loss.
Why? Because these categories, something to do something to love, something to hope for. If you are weak in one category, you will find that the other the other two will fall apart eventually, and your happiness is gone. And then you're in depression. And then you're thinking to yourself, why am I even here in the first place? I'm contemplating suicide down. And as one of the signs of the Day of Judgment. When a person walks into a graveyard, he points to the one the person in the grave. And he says about that person in the grave. I wish I was in his situation. I wish I could be dead. Why? Because of a minor crisis, minor things that happen in his life, actually, in his life, it might not
have even been a crisis. And when we're talking about Florida, and the concept of being married
a long time,
who I mentioned, Pamela just earlier just alluded to a little bit about the low tide.
Sahabi, who was burned, the skin off of his back was completely burned. He was dragged by his hair, through the sands of the hot desert of Mecca consistently, he was sold into slavery as a child after coming from an honorable tribe from Beto to mean from a nuts he was an error. Right and his and his master when she saw him whenever she persisted, she was shocked. Right You know, you're you know, why are you here? She bought him put him into work. When he became listen to the amount of torture that he went through was so much that he came to the Prophet soul lies on Monday, after being burned having all the skin does Matthew that used to take hot coal and and molten and put it down his back,
let it run down his back. And later on all the alumni who saw that on his back panel, whenever all it was asking him in the glory days when it was no longer buddy. Right when almost cut even our combat was an honorable person. And then from a societal standpoint, you don't tell me about what used to happen to you in the days of obscenity. Tell me what happened to you when you first became Muslim. I wanted to experience that all over the law. And that was a big powerful man from the big trial. Right? And Hubbard didn't even say anything. He just showed this back. And
the narration does not say he was shocked. And he saw he
said, Now he had a cut. I've never seen something like this in my life before when it happened to you. Right? And the torture that he went through and he endured, and he came to the Prophet sly somebody says, Yeah,
I don't tend to go down
the stones to the land, aren't you going to make God for us? Aren't you going to seek the help of Allah perhaps out of force? Right. Both of those things, were headed requests.
But the super slicer upsells are getting up in him. He says that he was you know, he was giving up and he was losing hope. And that's why the prophets lie Selim space color teams. And that's what he told them in the narration of ohana. There were people who came before you that were sued that were so many that they never saw did have some how to love because they said that in a lot because they held on to this. And our Superfly Selim said Allah Subhana Allah will fulfill this message to the point that that are that the person will be able to ride all the way from Omaha to Havana mountaineering, no one got the last half of what's out right that they will prevail that the need
will prevail that you will see the fruits of your efforts even in this life. right you'll see an even if this like when I came back home to statue, you know, but you're too hasty. You're too hasty. And you know, it's their job to claim on him. Oh, hello. And he elaborated on this. He said analyse your storage and
you don't want to personally do so based on loss. And it's because he's hasty for the reward that he thinks that the single gift, right? hastiness, I want to see it now. Don't lose hope. Right? Not you're losing sight of what you're supposed to be hoping for. Now look at caballo de la vida later on in his life, and this is also an Bahati. What if you see the fruits of your efforts in this life? What if Mashallah, all the stuff that we're talking about one day coming back and the glory of being restored? What if we see in our lifetime? What if we see all of this happening now? What if you know, those of us who face some sort of persecution from our families, not persecution, but
awkwardness and things of that sort? What if we see that
So everyone comes around and everyone starts to respect us. And everything starts to go good in our lives, you know.
And this is from case of Nabil has been providing when he was coming close to his death.
I don't have a lot of money in his eyes. And he used to have a portion of his house where he would keep money that the beggars knew where it was, he wouldn't even give it he would just leave it there and they would come take the money from him. He leaves the food there they come take it from him. And as his life was being extended for a while, and he was out living, other companions, he was crying. And he said that the people that suffered with me, you know, the early Sahaba, the early Muslims,
none of their reward was given to them in this dunya.
Right, they did not lose any of their awarded outfit. Through we're in the studio, they lived in struggle, they live in persecution, and a lot of them died while they were still struggling and poor in these types of things. He went long, he lived in the glory days of Islam, he had money he was respected member right of the government, the Islamic government. And he's saying but here I am. And I'm afraid that this is all a loss of hands out of decreasing my reward and
and he said if it was hard to ask for that, I would ask for that not because he was depressed, not because he lost meaning. Because when he was hoping for was that agenda the whole time, had a loss. So he was afraid that the good he was seeing in his life was actually a manifestation of the punishment of Allah subhanaw taala because he realized that if the reward for his efforts was all in the alpha would have been better off that way.
This is how the Sahaba thought, something to do. You want to be productive, you will find a way to be productive. You're not going to need some shift to tell you how to be productive and what to do. You can seek advice. But when you want to be productive, you will find a way to be productive you will find a way to serve a lost cause and serve your community something to love you always have a loss of habits add something to hold for as long as your certainty and Gemma is there, then you're not going to need the appreciation of people you're not going to need to see the fulfillment you know to see everything you've achieved in this dunya you'd rather see it and we asked the last hour
of Allah not enough the dunya has not been Africa has not been bonobo law give us good in this life and in the author of protecting us from the Hellfire does that pull off later politically other stuff