Omar Suleiman – Why Me #05 What Shaped My Personality

			This audio is brought to you by Muslim central.com. Any parent could tell you that each of their
children were so different from the start.
		

			One might have been loud and hot temper,
		

			another quiet and calm
		

			and another might have tried to push the boundaries as soon as they could call.
		

			Allah has endowed each of us with a unique set of personality traits. And we're all born with
different spiritual dispositions.
		

			How you cultivate your talents or temptations is up to you.
		

			But how much control do you have over the qualities you possess?
		

			couldn't learn Yamano Anna Shakeela tea, everyone acts according to their nature. Everyone is born
with the nature Allah created them upon. And as they grow, their personality is shaped and molded by
the people around them and the experiences that they're going to have.
		

			So for example, what was it like the first time you went into the masjid? And how did all those
people receive you? Were you met with smiles and warmth? Or were you publicly scolded for being
disruptive? These early experiences are going to dictate how comfortable you feel in large crowds,
and more importantly, how comfortable you feel in the masjid. How was the prayer introduced to you
was introduced to you as a burden or a blessing? Did your parents teach you why you pray and then
positively affirm you after you pray? Or did you feel like it was forced on you with no explanation.
And then you were just disciplined if you failed. In many cases, your parents are the first window
		

			into the reality of Islam in all of its aspects.
		

			Everything from being generous to the less fortunate
		

			to the blessing and feeding your family, especially in Ramadan, to the value of charity and all of
its manifestations of the love no model the allowed side and Homer would not have a meal at his home
without an orphan at the table. And he said that was directly tied to what he learned from his
father about the importance of Feeding the orphans. But some things are not influenced by anyone,
and you just find yourself naturally drawn to them. Some children are extroverts and they thrive in
large groups. And some children grew up introverted, enjoying their own inner world with their idea
of fun. Being engrossed in a book, hopefully not social media apps.
		

			Some kids can find discipline and responsibility to be hard. Other kids grow up being responsible
and independent for their age. Some kids hate doing chores.
		

			Other kids love the idea of being helpful to their family.
		

			But it's not only the positive things that get imprinted onto us.
		

			Some of us witnessed a lot of negative behavior, maybe even in our households.
		

			As a child seeing your parents are you can shake your world and you can end up internalizing the way
that they dealt with their emotions.
		

			So hot tempers often get inherited, or being afraid of a hot temper gets inherited.
		

			people pleasing, for example, is a common response to witnessing continuous parental disputes
because you feel so helpless all the time, that you just want conflict. And so how much of your
personality was ever really yours to develop? And how much of it was decreed? How much of it can you
learn?
		

			Your personality is both nature and nurture. And you carve out your luck, meaning what becomes your
character out of your personality. The Scholars say think of your personality traits, like seeds
that still remain in their soil. They're waiting for the rain of Revelation, and the light of faith
to nourish them so that they can become beneficial crops. Every personality trait has the potential
to grow into a virtuous quality, or it can become the opposite. There was a companion by the name of
Alicia Abdullah case, or the alongside her and her this was a man who was a leader of his tribe. And
so when his tribe came to see the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they were so excited that
		

			they left everything behind. camels were untied things were all over the place. And so he stayed
behind, not because he was slow, but because he was deliberate and as a leader. He was getting
everything
		

			and put back together. And then he proceeded to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, later than
everybody else. Now when he got to the prophets like Selim, he wasn't condemned. In fact, the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in Nephi, a Hustla Taney, you have boom, Allah, Al
Hellmuth, when Anna, verily, you have two qualities that Allah loves your hidden, which is your
patience with the people. And an app, which is how deliberate you are. Hidden is when your
forbearing you can tolerate people, and is when you're calculated, you want to make sure that
everything is an order. Now both of those qualities can be mistaken for something negative, you
		

			could see, and Hill as disgrace. You could see an app which is being very deliberate as being slow
and having a lot of self doubt. But they're not. And then another narration the prophets lie Selim
said to him, Al Hellmuth will hire. It's your forbearance and your shyness. Shyness can be mistaken
for weakness, but it's not. So now he's all happy and he says to the prophets, I some yada so Allah,
did I acquire these traits? Or Did Allah create these traits within me? The Prophet slicin them said
rather Allah put them in you, meaning you were born with these traits, and he responded and said
Alhamdulillah Hilary, Jabara Nia hola hola Carini had the whole, All praises be to Allah, who shaped
		

			me with two qualities that he loves. So their God given traits because they start as seeds when
you're born, created by Allah, and then Allah guides the individuals to draw out the potential from
their unique personalities. Now forbearance, patience and modesty are made easy if a person is
naturally introverted. So the seed of introversion can give these fruits through the guidance of
Allah subhanaw taala with your striving, but even if these qualities come harder to you, they can
still be acquired. That's why Allah subhanaw taala says we're letting Ajah do fina then at the end
Nam Cebu Lana, those who strive in our path, we will guide them to our ways, and that's why the
		

			Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in the millennium obita I don't know what enamel Hellmuth
with Tehillim knowledge is through seeking knowledge. And likewise, forbearance is through
practicing forbearance. How many people have you seen unlearn a bad temper? It's difficult but the
prophets lie Selim says it is possible. And if you could learn forbearance and unlearn a bad temper,
you can learn any good quality and unlearn any bad quality and the reward is simply going to be
greater for you. Because you had to strive harder to get to that station, personal family, Natasha
eju hustler Hawa. Why hustle huali minute to help copy female combat in the good deeds are the
		

			results of good states and good states arise from the stations were in those who have spiritual
realizations by you cultivate your potential by undoing even the worst of qualities and turning them
into good ones. Instead of arrogance. You convert strength into courage. You put your eloquence into
being a voice of truth instead of false. The same things that made some of the Sahaba horrible
enemies of Islam made them the greatest forbearers of Islam. Once they became Muslim, and govern
their traits with Taqwa. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said people are like precious
stones. The best of you and Janelia are the best of you in Islam, if you have understanding and
		

			faith and just like how it's sunnah to eat from what's closest to you, we run to Allah with the
qualities that are closest to our personalities. And then just as we eventually move away further in
the plate, we start to expand our personalities to focus on gaining those qualities that might not
be easy, but they are beloved to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, and so they've become Beloved to us.
We become inspired by our friends and our families to expand our personalities to try new things to
build new strengths and new talents. And when we have conversations and share moments together, we
learn more about each other and expand our horizon. And while personality is the driving force
		

			behind your journey to Allah, it isn't the only factor that determines your life path. Your health
and your illness and your physical abilities or your disabilities. Might just push you in directions
you didn't expect
		

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