Nouman Ali Khan – Ramadan 2022 – The Religion of Your Father #20

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			After the Dutch tomorrow, after this yesterday, I was still curious about the phrasing and iron
number 84 of the Dr. Ibrahim alayhi salam, which i Lee Lisanna said, then fill it in something was
in my mind that I wanted to confirm it. And in fact, it's true, a number of scholars did talk about
it, and I want to share that with you. And elaborate on it. So there are two dimensions to what
Ibrahim Ali said his legacy kind of is tied to one is his past and the other is his future. So the
people that are tied to his past or his father and his nation, and the people that are tied to his
future or his children and and humanity at large. So there's kind of a two directional thing that's
		

			happening in the conversations that involve Ibrahim Ali Salam. So if you notice, even in his
prayers,
		

			there's there's stuff about first He abandons the people of his past that have done something wrong,
right? Or they abandon him and he's walking away from them in the home or do we leave a lot of
people I mean, and after his attachment to Allah azza wa jal, his next door about the future is
gonna be Hubli probably Hawkman while Hackney masala hain, you know, join me in the company of good
people, sincere people, genuine people like that I talk to you about yesterday. So he wants the
company of good people around him. Now, the next thing and we know that he didn't really have a
massive following, even though the Quran in one place, says well, the dinar ma who, the those who
		

			were with him, so perhaps he had a few a handful of followers with him to other scholars said nobody
was with him. It was just his own family, meaning eventually it was his wife, his sons, etc. Those
were the only people that were with him. But this phrasing which I listen to silicon, Phil alkylene,
it's pretty powerful. I explained to you yesterday that he's asking Allah that when people speak
about him, they speak truthfully about him in the future.
		

			But other scholars looked at this and said, Listen, I said Korean, why is he asking to be mentioned
anyway?
		

			Right? Why would someone want to be mentioned, generations from now? I'm already gone. That sounds
like praise him for dinner as he kind of likes to play that he likes this. Look at the worst case
scenario. I hate using the words devil's advocate. But he does that. And it's brilliant that he does
that. He says, Well, why would someone want to be mentioned generations after they're dead? To put
this in modern context, there are people that
		

			they're really old, really rich, and they know they're gonna die soon. And they they're sitting on
hundreds of millions of dollars. So they'll donate to a university or to a hospital or to some
prestigious, whatever. And the thing is, the department will be named after them, or the wing of the
hospital will be named after them. And there will be a monument of their name associated right so
that their name will live on. So there's a desire in humanity that their name should carry forward.
In ancient times, the way this was done by by was by your lineage, right, your lineage will carry
your name forward. And of course, in ancient times, people also had statues and monuments built so
		

			hundreds of years years after somebody's gone, the sign of their that I was here, I wasn't
forgotten. There's a fear human beings have of actually being forgotten, you know, and becoming
irrelevant. I was looking at the psychology also of relevance and irrelevance. It's an interesting
thing, human beings even when we're alive. One of the worst feelings a human being can live with is
that they feel unnoticed.
		

			Like nobody cares about nobody notices me I'm basically invisible. If I didn't exist, nobody would
be impacted. You know, and there are people who they have to choose because they feel like they're
making no, they're so they feel so worthless that they're making nope,
		

			positive contribution in anyone's life. So they're basically irrelevant. They feel that they're
irrelevant. By the way, by definition, no one is irrelevant. But anyway, they feel that way. And
when they feel that way, they have to make a choice. They have to make a choice between being
irrelevant and being hurtful. Because if they're hurtful, at least, someone was reacting to them. So
that way, their way of validating that I still exist, right? Because if they don't, you know,
because they, you'll, you'll find, it's a crazy phenomenon I don't have I don't hope you have people
like that in your life, or, you know, or you're not like that, that you say things not because you
		

			think it's any good. You don't say things because they're positive, you don't say things because you
need to say things, you need to say things because you need to see that you had a reaction from
someone. And the fact that you caused a reaction validates that you have some kind of an existence.
Right? And so there are some people who just you wonder why are they always making sarcastic
comments? Why are they always so negative all the time? Why don't they always, you know, it's
actually relevance, it's a fear of being irrelevant, I would rather be offensive than be irrelevant,
actually, you know, much of the, you know, you'll find if you have a real job, and you have real
		

			purpose in life, and you're busy with meaningful things, and you're taking care of your family, and
you have responsibilities, etc, etc, you're gonna find that you're, even if you see something online
that you're you didn't like, you're not going to comment on it.
		

			But the vast majority of people aren't commenting.
		

			And they're not criticizing, even if they critique intellectually, they're not, they're not going to
make it a point to actually put that down in the comment section. And there's a reason for that,
because some people need to be visible, because it makes them feel like they exist. And then some
people like to agitate on purpose, and say offensive things outrageous things on purpose, because
then other people will comment on them. Even that angry face icon is going to make them feel like I
exist. But coming back to the point here, why would Ibrahim Al Islam want to be mentioned? Why would
he want to be talked about in the future, this is actually the Quran key teaching a very powerful
		

			lesson. We are a dean, I keep reminding myself and all of you, we are a dean, that is the perfect
balance between this life and the next life. And we don't look at this life in isolation from the
next life. And we want the best of this life and the rest of the next life and they're actually
connected to each other. I want the best of this life in a way that will make sure that I have the
best life in the next one. We're not doing a series on Sulaiman Alehissalaam. But even he, when he
asked a lot of BW Hoekman lie on the Helia had him embody my master give me kingdom, and will can
actually get give me kingdom that is not suitable for anyone that comes after me. Right? You can
		

			imagine. I could see if Donald Trump was a praying man, he would say that.
		

			Right? Give me Give me more Kingdom than anyone's ever had. This would be the greatest one ever. You
know, if it only would ask them for something like that. Why is the man I'm asking for something
like that. And along the same lines, why is it Rahim Allah is asking to be mentioned, among the last
people that walk the earth like generations and generations, among the final of generations that
will live in this world. He wants to be mentioned and mentioned truthfully, because he understands
something. He understands that what he's doing, he doesn't diminish what he's doing. So break this
down to a few elements. Number one, he's just a young man in a village that's walking away, right?
		

			But he understands the significance of it. He understands that this is actually a very powerful
thing that Allah has blessed me to do. And if other people find out about it, they will be empowered
and encouraged to do the same thing.
		

			If people know what I have done here, there will be other young men, other young women, other old
men, other old women, other people that will take the step towards the law, no matter what the cost,
		

			they'll do that too. And if they do that, then I will be I'll be connected to them, even if I've
never met them in this life. But I know for a fact that when I when I stand up on Judgement Day,
those people that heard about what I did, and because of what I did, they were impacted, they will
be connected to me on Judgement Day and their good deeds will actually add to mine.
		

			I will they will actually be my helpers on judgment day to not just themselves this concept of
sadaqa jariya he understands it. So like
		

			in a sense, he wants popularity, right. So, he wants to be mentioned among the last people which
means generation after generation he shall be mentioned. So he wants popularity, but he wants
popularity for a very different reason. He doesn't want popularity in order to be liked.
		

			He wants popular he wants it in order to for people to do things that will make them disliked
		

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			Guess what he did? made him the most disliked individual in the entire town and his family. You
understand that this is not about being likable. So you see, like, our, our notions of popularity,
they are directly associated with likability. Right? We want to be someone that's liked. And it
makes us feel kind of more valued. People say, hey, so who are you? How many followers do you have?
Okay, all of a sudden, when how many followers now you certain suddenly have value? If you only have
four followers, it's like you're a worthless human being. What do you have for followers is that
your cousins? That felt bad for you? You know, that's what that's all you're worth. So we measure
		

			value now in terms of popularity, right. But actually, Ibrahim had extra measures value, not just in
terms of how many people heard about him, or heard his name, he just wants to know, he wants to make
sure that whenever somebody mentions him, they mentioned what he did truthfully. And if that
utterance will be there, then the inspiration for what he does will be there. Right? So really
powerful thing that he's asking for. He's also understanding something else in this family, or in
this life, we have family and family, even though you're genetically from the same, you know, batch,
		

			psychologically, emotionally, spiritually, personality wise, sometimes you can be I don't know, from
a different planet. Like sometimes you look at your family member, like how are you and my family?
Like? I don't I don't understand how you and I are siblings, like, seriously, you know, or how is
that my house that way? My house that my dad, how's that my son? It are so different. So completely
polar opposite? I mean, look at Ibrahim alayhis salam in his father. Look at the salah Salem, and
his uncle's look at you know, Jacoba insulin, and his sons use of Elisa and his brothers, you know,
know how to answer that Minister, I mean, over and over again, you have people that are, and the
		

			Quran will highlight people that are spiritually different, but we know that there are all kinds of
differences. And it may be that at work or at school or in other social environments, and in your
Muslim Students Association at the masjid, wherever you find a group of people that are really
connected to you, that really understand you, that get you that you're on the same page with they
finish, you finish each other sentences. And when you go among your own people, your own your own
race, your own family, your own tribe, nobody gets you. I can certainly be the case. And Ibrahim at
least I'm certainly the ideal case study for that, isn't it? Like nobody gets him and the entire
		

			town? And people that finally did get him got angry? Why did he make that? Why did he make me get a
bird in my life.
		

			They hate him for it. But he understands when people that people will be connected by ideas by
faith, by the truth more powerfully than they can be connected by bloodlines more powerfully than
they can be connected by by genetics, I just think about that historically put that in perspective,
right. You know, one of the most powerful form manifestations of human power, our kingdoms,
		

			all power of an entire region, converged into one human being. And his family is then called the
royal family. Right? But the problem with the royal family is everybody's thinking this guy is going
to die one day or another? Is it going to be the older son that's going to be the king or the
younger son that's going to be the king? Or is it going to be the brother that's going to be the
king? Or is it the brothers kids that are going to be the king? And they're a bloodline, right? And
guess what, in every dynasty in history, there are plots and conspiracies to kill family members.
And if the next one if one brother takes the throne, he makes sure the other brother gets killed or
		

			executed or exiled. Because so long as he's alive, he's a threat to the throne. Right? So the most
influential people they are most they have the most spied towards those that are closest to them.
And they are the most danger to those that are closest to them. So you would think that blood or
genetics or family would bring people the closest, but actually, this these are some of the worst
contestants in life the most the worst conflicts in life happened between them, right? And on the
flip side, you've got Rahim Allah, He Salam being separated from the bloodline. And he's saying,
even the last people that walk on this earth, if they can just remember me, truthfully, he's not
		

			connected to them by blood, or genetics, or region or locality, or nationality, or property or
business. He's connected to them by by the truth. That's it. The truth is this invisible chain that
binds these people together and builds a loyalty that nothing else can build. You know, so this this
La ilaha illallah, this thing that we believe it creates a bond that nothing else can create, and he
sees that it builds a bond that can span across generations you can have for example, this is wild
to me when you just compare what we live in, and what you what you
		

			what you read in Allah's book, like you'll have a young man who is raised in the United States or a
young woman, and they're like, I can't relate to my parents, I don't really understand their they
don't understand what I'm going through the world has changed. I can't understand why because the
world changes quickly, right? So and by the way, maybe you couldn't relate to your parents and their
parents couldn't relate to their parents, but your kids really can't relate to you. Right? There's a
big gap, right? Because the world changes so fast. And yet, when the son or the father or the
grandfather truly turned to the faith, they can all relate to Ibrahim Alayhi. Salam from 1000s of
		

			years ago. That's not outdated. Isn't that wild? It's an incredible thing that he said was the only
Lisanna said can fill in. And when he says that, then he and I said this to you yesterday, but now
you'll see it in a different flavor. He's lost the inheritance of his father, he's not going to
carry his father's legacy. He's not going to even if his father died, he's not going to take over
the idol worshipping workshop. You know, he's there, somebody's going to take over. So what is he
going to inherit? He's going to inherit nothing. But when you only mean water 30 Jonathan, I'm going
to inherit make me from those who inherit the garden of ultimate luxury, ultimate comfort. So he
		

			wants to inherit Jenga, meaning He's tying himself directly to automatically Salaam and all those
who made the stick far and that's a good author that was left behind in my Atlanta community, who
then from Entebbe allodynia, Fela Hoffmann la him along as you know, this is why the people of the
children of Adam were guaranteed Janna they were guaranteed Jana and that's why children what we
know and we were told the children of Adam about them all of them. Allah azza wa jal says about the
believers he says oh like a humble very soon I lived in Arizona for those they're they're inheritors
how are we inheritors of Jana? You inherited inheritance can only happen if your father or father or
		

			father owned a property well, yeah, Allah gave your father Jana other medicinal. Right. And then he
put conditions on there's there's conditions for the properties waiting for you meet these
conditions, and it's yours. Right, that's all guidance is guidance is meeting those conditions. Then
there's a problem that we all die of Hola. Hola. Hola. Hola. We meet these conditions, you can have
your inheritance back. That's why we're called inherited inheritors. And that's what he's saying
here. When he says what you only mean what is the teacher net in marry. But still looking back, he's
not going to abandon the concern he has for his father yet. So he says, well, Finley be in the hook.
		

			And I'm in the blogging. But I've spoken to you about that before. So I'm going to move forward with
that. But there's one lesson from it that I do want to highlight. That is important. His father was
extremely aggressive, extremely offensive, extremely hurtful when he said, If you don't stop, I'm
going to stone you leave me or go away from here. Never, you know, don't come back for a long, long
time. You know, my God, Malia, we already read that, right. That's what his dad says. So he sees the
rage of his father, he sees the irrational responses of his father, he was making rational
criticisms. His dad was seeing erratic, emotional, crazy, wild things, we saw that the father
		

			actually didn't respond to anything reasonably. Right. He just made it a question of loyalty. So the
issue was, he was speaking from the intellect, his father was speaking from emotion, that's what was
happening over and over again, right. And he realized he acknowledges something. And when he prays
for about his father, that you can have a relationship with somebody that you're trying to do good
for, but they cannot speak to you reasonably, they become emotional every time their emotions take
over. And the rational part of their brain, the critical part of their brain switches off, and the
angry version of them turns on, or the aggressive version of them, or the sarcastic version of them,
		

			or the dismissive version of them, there's another version of them that switches on and then they
don't want to be able to you can, you can't reason with them. Now they can only be offensive. And he
realizes that those people they're lost because the only thing that can give you guidance is your
intellect. On Judgement Day, there will be people that about as they're about to be thrown into
hellfire, the angels will ask them allow me to come to the dinner Warner come to you, or New
		

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			forgot to come pick us up now. Macola Mazola, home in shape. But in the next hour, call your local
nurse Maru. Oh, no clue. Not good enough. Here's how to say if we only listened, or we only gave it
thought. The issue is they realize they never gave it thought. Like they always just made it an
emotional attack. They took it personally that somebody was questioning what they were doing. They
took it and once you take it personal, you can't think clearly. So he sees that in his father and he
says my dad's lost. Forgive him. He's just he's just run by his emotions. But you know, as much as
his love is making him say that.
		

			At the end of the day, human beings will not be able to hide behind their emotions. We will
eradicate slavery. We will not be able to hide behind our emotions we will not be able to we can
hide behind our emotions in this life or you know, I get crazy sometimes
		

			You know, it's okay. Yeah, you can, you can use that as a, you know, a crazy, you know, passport, or
a license to do whatever or get away with whatever, you know, or to you know, sometimes fathers get
like that to their sons and the sun is broken. And the mother says, you know, your dad gets like
that sometimes, you know, when he's like that, just stay away from him. Okay, your dad just gets
like that.
		

			I'm pretty sure dad is not going to be able to say, you know, you know, hola I get like that.
		

			You understand? Right? Because I, you know, once I get mad, you know, and
		

			then the agent, he literally tells the angels that I was, hey, stop recording. I'm mad right now.
And then he, it's not all that works. When the sun is being obnoxious with the father or mother. So
I got mad, you know, what do you want me to do? When I get mad? I can't, you know, I said, sorry.
		

			Your emotions do not give you license to say whatever you want. Even your father gave hot baths in
the sun, our masala Well, it could look like a kind of odor, or even your heart, your in your
inflamed heart, your heightened emotions, they will be questioned on judgement day too. So when he
says about his dad, what it's coming from is I see that my dad is constantly lost because he refuses
to think, and he's been that way. But forgive him and forgive him could also employ, you know, embed
in it, yeah, Allah allow him. If once I'm gone from here, maybe his anger will come down as emotions
will come down, calm down. And when they calm down, maybe he'll be able to think.
		

			And maybe he'll come to guidance. And if that does happen, then, you know, and he's remarkable. He
didn't say in the whole minute by Lynn, he said, you know, who can I mean, Allah Lee, he said he has
been from those that are lost. But he's not saying he is from those that are lost, meaning there's
still hope. He's still not giving up hope. Right. And the lesson that I want to leave you with is
you could be as well spoken and sincere, and, you know, loving and caring and direct and guided in
your Dawa as what Ibrahim Alayhi salaam was doing with his father, but it can still have a negative
effect.
		

			Right? So sometimes it's just because it's you that it's not working. Maybe you just you just need
to take a step, step back, and you need to stop preaching to some members of your family. Because
it's the fact that it's you that is so annoying to them. It's agitating them that how is my son
talking to me this way? Who does she think he she is he's talking to me like that? Who does he think
he is? He's talking to me like that. That's actually that that rage is because you are a member of
the family and you're supposed to be subservient. You're, you're stepping out of your role, if
you're giving Dawa, and their ego takes over, right? So maybe you should not. If you've seen their
		

			ego flare up so many times, then you just need to step back and let them figure that out. And just
then you can just all you can do is make dua for them. Maybe some indirect ways better for them,
because you're only making things more aggressive. So willfully be in the hook and I'm in Bali, but
he's afraid he's you know, he, the power of the words of Ibrahim are some I could say this to
tomorrow, but I really want to get to this this is at least today, just one thing. I'll be five
minutes when I talk Zinio my overthrown do not humiliate me on the day where all of them will be
raised, do not humiliate me. Now in this life, or our historically in society, our honor is related
		

			to our own accomplishments. But by extension, also, our honor is related to our our family, our
parents and our children.
		

			So easy, the easy way to understand that is dishonor. If somebody's father went to jail, they're
humiliated.
		

			Right, if somebody's if their parents were in the news, they're also humiliated. If somebody's kids
got kicked out of school, somebody's kids went through humiliation, they're also humiliated. Right.
And when your your your son has or your daughter has won some award or they want a scholarship, or
they, you know, then you know what you're also elevated. And when your dad or your mom has
accomplished something amazing, you're also elevated. So we are our dignity in this life is tied to
those that came before us, our parents and those that are underneath us, our children. If there's a
connection, generally in life, Ibrahim alayhi salam is speaking to other in the future. He's
		

			connected to good people. He's making dua to Allah that in the future people speak of him in
truthful ways. That's how he's connected to them. But there's some connections he cannot avoid. He
cannot disconnect himself from his father. That's that's a that's a bond Allah created and no matter
what on Judgement Day, he's still going to be his father's son. So now he's afraid that one I may
make mistakes, but even those around me that are tied to me, when they are humiliated on Judgement
Day, then that will also become a humiliation for me. Right because the humiliation of my parents is
also my humiliation. So What's he asking Allah for the Day of Judgment?
		

			Well, I took cine yo yo bathroom, don't you?
		

			Millie ate me the day that they are going to be raised. Don't allow me to be humiliated and Allah
Allah azza wa jal actually answers this door in his own beautiful way. We have this connection
between father, son, mother daughter, family ties, these are the ways that honor and dishonor is
connected. But Allah azza wa jal created a different system on Judgment Day. And on Judgment Day, we
are working to widen Falletta you're broken up into three groups, you know, and the group you belong
to is not the family you belong to the group you belong to is the people that have lived in there in
front of their chests on the right hand, and they're being honored. And the people that are
		

			connected to them in this life may be completely disconnected from them in the next life. To the
point where when the believer makes it to Jana,
		

			and they're like, oh, where's my best friend? Where's the person I love so much. They're not here,
you know?
		

			That Allah will allow them to see. Right he will allow them to see bait take a peek at those that
they used to love in this life. And when they see them burning in *, the first thing they will
not say is Oh, I'm humiliated or cannot yell like Allah, can you save them? That's not a first
reaction. You know, the first reaction is
		

			in get a letter D.
		

			Man, you almost pushed me off the cliff to who
		

			it's almost as if they're saying thank God is just you burning because I would have been would you
barbecuing right there to man, it's the Himalayas, Bob, the relationships are cut. So Allah is
answering that in his own way. Allah is answering that severing in his own way. We don't want harm
for our family members in this life. Allah has put a love a concern a want for their well being in
this life. Those of you that are Muslims, that have Hindu parents that are Buddhist parents that are
atheist parents, you know, you have family that doesn't believe Christian parents, I could feel like
I can only imagine the kind of pain you have, but at least you should find some comfort in knowing
		

			that Ibrahim alayhi salam felt that pain to him he made the offer his father to you know, he made
the adaptations he should be guided also. So you should find comfort in that and do that. So anyway,
these are some things that we have to become more and more cognizant of as we explore the words of
Ibrahim Ali Salaam in his young age as he's walking away. There's only a couple of words left from
this passage then we're gonna get to older age of Ibrahim s and we've explored the youth of Ibrahim
Allison and we're gonna get to the middle and older age of Ibrahim Al Islam as the Quran describes
it.
		

			Inshallah in subsequent sessions BarakAllahu li Welcome to the Quran him wonderful anyway, yeah, it
can be it was lacking Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.