Nouman Ali Khan – Hitting Women A Look at 434 & Beyond #02

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			onwards. This IRA as I mentioned last time is at the center of a lot of supposes controversy about
Islam's role in Islam stance towards women. The particular phrase that a lot of people pick on and
create a lot of noise about is hitting women while the evil one nine strike them that occurs inside
of this IRA. And I introduced last time that I'm going to dedicate a series of goodbyes to each
phrase in this IRA and beyond, to help us contemplate these words of ALLAH to understand them
properly, and to do justice by them. Because as a believer, you and I are never ashamed of anything
that Allah says. In fact, we stand by it with pride. And it's also important that we not only stand
		

			by the word of Allah, but we understand it properly before we stand by it, we don't, you know,
engage in a shallow or a half baked interpretation of what Allah is saying, or a biased
interpretation of what Allah is saying, driven by our fear, or by our own cultural bias or whatever
and we read that into the Word of Allah, and then we interpret or present something and we pass that
off as Allah himself speaking. So my prayer to Allah my sincere dua to Allah, for myself and for all
of you is that we engage the word of Allah with humility, that we engage the word of Allah sincerely
and he opens the doors of his the wisdom and understanding onto our hearts so that we're able to not
		

			only understand His word clearly, but able to express its meanings to others clearly as well which
is part of the role that we have in this oma in the Latina taboo, but they you know, we like to
bother him Why not ah, Rahim? Allah says, the you know, the people who don't fall under Allah's
curse are people who repented and they they fixed themselves. And then they clarified meaning
clarified well actually says, right so clarifying what Allah says, is part of our our journey to
being those that Allah accepts there, Toba and may Allah accept all of us from among those people.
So last time I spoke to you about the Gianluca Muna Allah Nisa, that men are Kawan over women and
		

			the entire hobo was dedicated on the meanings of the word column. As a brief overview, it is people
that are committed men are committed caretakers, and maintainers and protectors, of women, those all
of those meanings, nourishing, protecting, taking care of and being committed to all come within the
meanings of the word karma. And the mobila for means they demonstrate that role towards women over
and over and over again. Ignore Assura Himalayan is famous, deceived, to hurried with and we made a
very precise analysis of the language of this first phrase, because it sets the tone for the rest of
the idea
		

			and he mentioned
		

			And that in the Quran when Allah refers to husbands, Husbands or when he refers to wives, then the
Botha is used so nisab will come for example, or will that ohana, for example, there's an
attribution we saw with some of the old husbands with Hannah, etc. Okay, but here we find our visual
our Muna Anissa we don't even find a Regina, Luca Mona Lisa em, men are maintainers over their
wives. It's over women. And in doing so Allah has actually even later on the IRA will narrow the
scope to husband and wife. He started with the larger point that I made last time and I'm going to
reinforce this time. That is that as a man, Allah made me the caretaker protector, and maintainer of
		

			my mother, my sister, and all the women in my family, like as a man, Allah didn't just make me
responsible for my wife, he made me responsible for the women in my family. So he gave me this
protective role. He gave me this caretaking role. And he gave me a role to make sure everybody all
the females in my family that direct females in my family are okay. That includes my daughter, that
includes my sister, that includes my mother, that includes my grandmother, etc. I have this direct
role to play with them. This is why the prophets I seldom would even say about your aunt, meaning
your mother's sister, a holla to be highlighted on that your highlight your maternal aunt is like
		

			your mother, she's the same study you should give her the same love with reverence, respect care, as
your mother. Now so that's that's the first precedent that has been set in the Quran, the
responsibility has been given to men over women in general, in our deen men are responsible for
them. And this is why what I look at the Salah, it was stupid, it makes sense. Tell your family to
pray and stay firm on that yourself. Right? So you're responsible for them in every way, even in
their religious nourishment, you're responsible. So as a son, for instance, it is my responsibility
that if my own mother was doing something haram Alhamdulillah she's not but in in the theoretical
		

			case, that she was that somebody's mother is engaged in a haram business, for example, or doing a
lot of rebar or something else, that as her son, my job is to take care of her not only in this
world, but also make sure that she's not throwing herself into trouble in the next world. So I need
to sit my mom down, no matter how angry she gets. And I have to tell her mom that needs to stop
that's LIBOR. And that's no good for you. And whether you like to hear this from me or not, the
angels are recording it. And they you can't yell at them, you can yell at me, but you can't yell at
them. Right, and they're gonna record this against you, that needs to go away from your life. And
		

			I'm saying this to you, because I love you. And you don't just hear you don't do this to your mother
in front of other people. Right, you don't just do this tariffs, she's talking about somebody at a
party and you just start lecturing your mom in front of everybody hold on a second, the word alone
means you protect them, meaning you protect their feelings to you protect their dignity, too. So if
you have to correct or find the right time in place, find a mum find a moment where her dad is not
listening, you're not listening. And when I told her to,
		

			though, because that's that's you're embarrassing her now, you have to find a time that safe for her
to even corrector. So this the word called rom takes into account that we do not make men do not
make passing comments at women in their family. We don't make sarcastic remarks. And it could be
that you are on the receiving end of a lot of sarcastic remarks. It could be that your sister makes
a lot of comments about you, Hey, Fatty, you're here again, or something. Or your wife makes
sarcastic remarks about you. Or at a gathering your mother says things about you or whatever the
women in your family, they tend to, they tend to maybe get a more free license to run their mouth
		

			towards you. Yes, but you know what, you're still go wrong. So you're not going to respond in kind.
You're going to respond to patients silence and good advice when it's the right time, when it's the
right time. And so it could be for example, those of you that have sisters.
		

			And you know, your sister might be really good at taunting you or teasing you or saying things and
saying things and saying things until it gets under your skin. And eventually you say one thing and
she starts crying.
		

			Like she could be saying the same thing to you 100 times over, and you're taking it and then
eventually you've had enough and you turn around and you say one thing to her. You know what you're
ugly. You say something? And then she's sitting in a corner crying? I can't believe you said that to
me. You know, that really hurt. Really, you see you call me a dinosaur all every day like you.
There's all kinds of things to be How come I can't do that? No, because you're Kalaam bro. You're
supposed to take care of her. You're human made different. You're given a different task. So even if
you want to correct her, you want to stand up for yourself. There's a way to do it. There's a more
		

			delicate approach that you have to take with all of the women in your family, with your mom, with
your sister and everybody and then you know what, what else will happen? And this is again before we
even go any further setting the stage sometimes the women in your family hate each other.
		

			They hate each other. So your wife hates your mother
		

			or your mother hates your wife, or one sister hates the other sister or whatever, some drama, right?
Or the aunt hates this one, or that one or the other one, or your mom hates around his sister. And
she says, don't talk to your holla. Right, you could have any version of dramas, every one of us has
a different soap opera going on at home, right. So whatever version of that drama is taking place,
where women are hating each other, oftentimes, they use You the man as the weapon of choice.
		

			So you if you love me, you won't talk to her. And if you love me, you won't spend weight with your
mom asks you to do groceries, you're gonna do the groceries for her now.
		

			Seriously, as your dad, like not available to do that, you're gonna do that. And so your wife is not
telling you to not do something for your mom. Or your mom is telling you. Oh, so are you listening
to your wife again? Hmm, you're gonna take her out for dinner again? How? Oh, I guess you, you work
for her? Now? I see how that is. I understand. So mom's training you against your wife. So what
happens sometimes is when they have conflicts among each other, you are being used to show you know,
loyalty test, right? So you're being pulled in opposite directions. And when you're kalaam, guess
what you're going to do? You're going to stand by what's right. Doesn't matter whose feelings get
		

			hurt, hey, listen, my mom needs help. And I'm going to help her and I still love you. And it takes
nothing away from your love. But you know what? You can't No, no, no, if I'm, if I'm taking any of
your rights away, let me know. If I'm doing something wrong to you just tell me. And if I'm not, I'm
still gonna take care of it. And your mom can hate your wife while she wants. She stole your wife,
you still got to protect her. She can yell at you all. She wants your mom, she can't yell at her.
Because you're Columbo your wife too. You got to protect her. You sometimes have to protect your
wife from your sister, or your sister from your wife, or I or anybody in between. So you're
		

			basically the rough. You're basically the one that's keeping everybody all you know, at bay. And
what a lot of men do often is they see so much drama in the family. They're like, keep me out of it.
You know what, I'm just gonna watch the game. You guys kill each other. Let me know whoever
survives, give me some pass me some fries. So
		

			I'm not gonna deal with this. So life comes until you know what your mother said to me today. You
know what your sister said to me today? Listen, I don't want to deal with it. Whatever they said,
they said, Okay, why don't you Why don't you say something in response. So you don't want to hear
it. And then the other side comes, you know what your wife did it mom just enough. I don't want to
deal with it. So you check out. You're, you're basically you're there but you're not there. There's
a shadow of yourself there. And you just you pretend you to not listen to any of it. That's not you
being Kawan.
		

			That isn't you being calm. Your job is to calm the situation down. Your job is to de escalate. Your
job is to settle things and if there is wrongdoing, and sometimes there is wrongdoing. And sometimes
wrongdoing can be somebody did something wrong. But the way they told you the story is much more
exaggerated than what actually happened, right? So you as a Kawan, what's your job to understand if
a wrong was done, if 10% of the wrong was done, you at least have to acknowledge that was wrong. You
know, you can skip the exaggerations, that's fine. But just because somebody exaggerated doesn't
mean they don't have a legitimate complaint to begin with. You don't get to delegitimize somebody
		

			else's concern, you're the protector, you're the security, you're, you're the maintainer of peace,
you're the maintainer of stability in the home, you have to do these things. And so in order for you
to do that, you and I have to take a very delicate role
		

			says that role will be put to the test over and over and over again. And the wisdom of using the
word called wham, which is fire owl is someone who has to accommodate behave more,
		

			like over and over and over again. Right? So it's tested in different ways all the time. And that's
your role as kolomela says, Why are you going? Why have you been put in this role?
		

			And he's talking to the men he says Be my football Allah Who about boehmite About if ALLAH because
ALLAH gave on account of the fact that Allah gave preference to some over others, because Allah gave
preference to some over others. This is also profound language. Now let's first think about the word
preference. Let's understand the word preference as used by Allah Himself.
		

			of the nations in the world. Allah chose the nation and preferred them over all other nations. He
says, Well, football nakoma Alamy Yeah, but he saw he was Curonian Matteotti and unterlagen Well, me
football tucan Alameen remember my favorite on you? And remember that I gave you preference over all
other nations of the world? What preference then Allah gave the bunnies sorry, that Allah give them
more gold than anybody else that will give them more oil reserves than anybody else, a bigger army
than anybody else, that Allah is older, provide them a better economic condition than everybody else
know. Allah gave them
		

			more profits than anybody else, Allah give them more revelation than anybody else and therefore,
Allah give them more responsibility than everybody else yes or no. If that's the case, then when
Allah prefers someone you know what that means? Allah give them responsibility.
		

			Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allah tells him about the messengers of Allah Delica Rusu
football da Baba home, Ira Rog, those messengers, we give preference to some over others, the ones
who are given more preference study them and what do you find that women as women are also they were
given heavier responsibilities?
		

			So when we hear the word preference, we think, Oh, I'm better. Right? When the Quran says
preference, what's the Quran talking about? You've been given a heavier duty,
		

			you were chosen for a harder task. So when Allah says in this IRB, malformed Allah Allahu Allah, you
will prefer to take a harder job,
		

			you will prefer to take a harder task. This IR is not about the superiority of men is about the
greater responsibility of men. Be true to the text, be sincere about Allah is saying, on account of
the fact that Allah has given preference to some over others. Now preference in what way in a
heavier responsibility kind of way that's why the IR began with the responsibility itself. Why
should I be taking care of them? Why shouldn't they be taking care of me?
		

			Why should I be protected, they should be protecting me. I'm the one paying the bills now going to
versus coming. That's the next part. But before then you need to know that you are given this
preferential status of being the protector and taking the role of caring and concern yourself with
the upkeep of everyone. Because Allah has given you this remarkable honor. Allah chose this Allah.
Allah chose the Arabs, Allah chose the Sahaba he gave them tough deal over all of the people in the
world. He gave them a model Rasulullah sallallahu. You know what that means? He gave them the
heaviest task ever given to anybody else. They became a sobre una Cibachrome. Quran Quran calls him
		

			the first of the first, the first and foremost, why, because they had the most responsibility, and
they carried it. So don't, don't allow yourself and I shouldn't allow myself to separate the notion
of responsibility from the notion of preference because the Quran doesn't separate those two things.
So I don't get to. So the only thing that therefore, the only thing that makes me preferred in the
family is the fact that I'm carrying more responsibility. And by the way, let's go back to the
Israelites, when they refuse to carry their responsibilities. They went from being the preferred to
the cursed.
		

			So that was the Sunnah of Allah, He gives you preference. And without preference comes
responsibility. When you don't carry that responsibility, you lose your preference, and you instead
instead of being the one preferred, you become the one cursed.
		

			You become the one curse.
		

			Think about for example, and we will go into it later on. But think about divorce law in Islam. It
seems like it's heavy handed, that the man has a favor at first glance, the man can just say the
lock and it's over. Well, you could say it. It's done. So it's as easy as the word. Right. So Mazza
and like a major advantage, right? So in that advantage, what does it seem like? Well, it seems like
he has a formula preference. What am I speaks about this. He gives warnings to men like nobody else.
When I talk is why Atilla he was wah wah Angela communicated with Hekmati. I couldn't be with
tequila, lagoon. lahmacun Morocco, oh my God over one commandment. And then he says, You better know
		

			you're gonna meet him. You burn it on make a joke out of Allah's ayat, you better be mindful of
Allah, like, none of those threats would have been enough multiple threats. Why? Because you were
just given an advantage.
		

			Which means if you play with this advantage, you're in more trouble than anybody else. I as a man,
and I'm in more trouble with Allah than anybody else. Our religion, it makes no sense if you take
the Taqwa of Allah out of the equation. If you just have the rules, and those rules are so separated
from mindfulness of Allah, then those rules become a means of injustice. Without Allah, it is only
with the doctrine of Allah that are deemed delivers justice.
		

			Then delivers fairness and beauty. So that's what happens here. These are other talked about with
one thing missing from the conversation the Taqwa of Allah. It's missing from the conversation what
certain certain bizarre has lots of rules. Where does it begin? Yeah, you harness it.
		

			That's where it begins. So everything you're going to study in certain Nyssa better have the
mindfulness of Allah's authority at at in your mind, you're going to put those lenses unless you
read everything. None of none of which you get to take your glasses off the stock glasses off. So he
says now be about football. Allahu bah bah bah bah. Let's pause here for another
		

			important. So the first consideration I wanted you to have in this whole bar is the relationship
between preference and responsibility. The second consideration is I started, and it was correctly
pointed out that the aisle opened up with men being caretakers of women, not husbands and wives
alone, mother, sister to everybody. No one here will say, I have a higher preference over my I have
I've been preferred over my mother.
		

			I have a higher rank than my mother, Nobody of us will dare to say that. We know that that our Jada
MACOM of the mother, in our team, we know that and Allah says after he mentions worship of Him, He
mentioned the Santa parents. And then he goes into elaborates not the worship of Him, not the
ExxonMobil parents, he starts talking about what the mother does. So the status of the mother is no
joke in our religion, it's a pretty serious thing. So very high, the rank of the mother. So when you
read this iron you read because Allah has given preference to some over others. He could have said,
because Allah has given them meaning men, preference over women, but he didn't say it like that he
		

			deliberately created an ambiguity and Abraham. He didn't say be my football Lahoma Allahu Allah
hinda be my football home Allah. I know him. Now that would mean because Allah has preferred men
over women. He didn't say that he said female football Allah who bought the home about some have
been given preference over others. In fact, in my relationship with my mother, Mom has been given
preference over me.
		

			I can earn I can earn Allah's forgiveness, and I can earn the status of your son by being the best
of my mother. Hasn't she been given a preference? Allah says Allah Homi Bhabha, whom Allah evolved
in Kiki tabula, the relationships of the womb, I have priority in the book of Allah. So what I'm
trying to get at is, in some things, men have been given an advantage. In other things, women have
been given an advantage. Allah decides in What things does man have an advantage? And in What things
does the woman have an advantage and in fact, what he mentions next is an advantage that women have
and what's that advantage will be man Falco, minim, Wiley, him, for example, do you have been given
		

			that preferential responsibility plays, because in your case, you must be the ones that spend
because you they spend from their own money, demand for Coleman and rally him? What does that mean
in our entire lives, we men have a financial responsibility, not just an emotional and a social and
religious responsibility to the women in our lives. But we also have to take different degrees of
financial responsibility towards the women in our lives. And you know, as for example, your parents
are getting older, right? And you have your three or four brothers and sisters, and your sisters,
your only one brother or two brothers, and you know, three sisters, your sisters got married, they
		

			have their own lives, etc, etc. And the brothers also got married, they have their own lives, etc,
etc. In light of these ions, even though you don't your sister send your parents some money
sometimes. Yeah. But you know, who's actually charged with doing something financially supporting
the parents, not the daughters, who has been charged the sons will be mine fuku minimally him, they
have to do that. The sons have to take a role. How many households be fine, the girls are taking
their college education seriously. They're getting a job sooner. They're earning and they're paying
the bills. They're taking care of the rent of the home, the groceries, everything else paying the
		

			parents medical bills, and the son is playing Playstation until the age of 29.
		

			You know, he's he's busy on Call of Duty or something else, there's the the actual call of his duty
is gone. There's only like Call of Duty left. You know.
		

			So, the, this is the spirit of the Quran. And the message of the Quran creates men that are
financially responsible.
		

			They're financially responsible. And then again, go back to aka one, once you're the breadwinner in
the home, you okay? You pay all the bills, fine, you got the job, you're making the money, you're
paying your responsibility. Okay, now that it's your responsibility, you don't get to decide who
gets more or less based on somebody else's feelings. You have to decide who gets what based on the
principles Allah has given you.
		

			So your mom, for example, says I want to throw a very fancy wedding for one of your sisters.
		

			But you're that money that you want to use to throw a very fancy wedding? Your your daughter's also
deserved that money. Your son's also deserved that money. Your wife also deserves that money. You
understand? But now your mother says if you love me, then we have to get the Taj Mahal
		

			We have to get catering from this place that's $40 a plate. And we have to get, you have to rent
this car, and we have to fly your relatives in. And we have to get this hotel we have. So your
mother's creating this entire thing. And because you're the son, she'll even quote desire or demand
for cooling and while he will be valid at Asana, then summer, hon, you're doing you can't even make
your mother happy. Look at your sister's, he's crying, and then the sexual pretend cry.
		

			I don't have a seven star hotel for my third walima. You know, so and now you're taking hard earned
money, the rights of which belong with your children, the rights of which much of which belongs with
your spouse, your household, and you're doing it for the luxury or the good feeling of your mom. No,
no, no, no, no.
		

			They your mom can compel you to do is laugh. She can compel you to overspend on something that's not
a need. Similarly, neither can your wife, neither can your children. Nobody can make you spend on
what they think is right? You unfortunately have to be man enough to make that decision.
		

			And when you make that decision, let me tell you, it might be the situation that once you make that
responsible decision, with only allied mind first and justice in mind First, when that happens, then
everybody might hate you. Your mother might say your your wife, slave, and your wife might say
you're just a mama's boy. And everybody's gonna think that you hate them, but you stood by the right
thing.
		

			And you'll hear all kinds of things and in through hearing all of that you don't become enemy to any
of them, you remain calm. Congratulations, nice job you got there. Here, here you were thinking this
IR gives me this really nice, you know, lofty, you know, bit first class seat in the family.
		

			This idea puts us on the hook, we become responsible with our with money decisions. And at the end
of the day, we'll be more informed on him because of what they spend from their monies actually now
means I have to keep an eye on where money should be going and how it should be going. And sometimes
you're not making a lot of money. Sometimes the budget is tight. Sometimes you don't have enough to
go around to everybody. And you have to make some tough decisions. And when you make tough
decisions, there will always be people who don't like one of your decisions. You have to in those
kinds of situations, you have to take for the hula Allah He was really Allah Rasool, like, take it
		

			take the thing back to Allah and the messenger. I called you, for example, you married your wife.
And when you made her, you took responsibility for her. When you became her Welly, when you did
that, then you basically told her father, all the protection that you used to give her and all the
security that you used to provide her you don't have to worry about that anymore. I'm taking that
role. I'm taking that same financial and religious responsibility that once she had under your care,
and now you take her from that family, and now you treat her like she serves your mother, or you
treat her like she doesn't have any access to any funds or any any of your earnings. Or she she
		

			needs to just shut up when it comes to your real family. Right? She's just a visitor, then you
aren't living by this if I'm not living by the CYA, we have to do justice. And again, this the flip
can be true to the flip can be that you marry a woman she you're absolutely crazy about her. And she
out of her emotional attachment to you, convinces you that your parents are the enemy.
		

			Can this is your your father, your mother evil, they're just greedy. They just want your money. You
know, they don't love you, right? They just love your money.
		

			That's all they love.
		

			They don't care about anything else. And you know what, let's just pretend. For her sake, let's just
pretend they only want your money. Let's give her that.
		

			Even then you be the best of them.
		

			Even then, first of all, you can decide whose intentions are what.
		

			Nobody has a microscope to see who wants what in reality. So these judgments, do not listen to these
things and poison your thoughts about loved ones, not towards your spouse, not towards your parents,
not towards your siblings don't allow that to happen. Why not because you're the one that has to
stay standing upright, Guam, so I end with where I started the word karma Yakumo means to stand
upright. The word Mala Miu Mr. Lien, okay, Jennifer is to have bias.
		

			Allah made you and I alum, industry family, where everybody that you love and care for is going to
try to pull you towards them. And when they're pulling you towards them, what are they also doing at
the same time, pulling you away from someone else? You understand? And your job is to get pulled by
everybody and stay standing straight. You gotta you gotta stand straight. You can't be pulled by
anybody. So we'll be my unfuckable men um while him financial responsibility
		

			goes to us. We have to spend our monies. And because we have to spend our monies, and we have to
take care, then this, this is the flip side of it. Now this is what men have to do. And the brothers
will listen to me and say that mashallah great football about making men feel bad? What about the
women? Are they well, I don't have to worry about that Allah takes care of it. So what's happening
in the next part of the IoD of this idea is actually well, this is what men must do. And this is
their responsibility. Well, what's women's responsibility? What do they have to do? And the rest of
this is going to be on this next portion of the AI is going to be what do women have to do? How will
		

			they live up to this idea? Where do they stand when they win the measure of this is given. So we
have to judge ourselves, look ourselves in the mirror and judge ourselves by the standard that Allah
has revealed. Notice, I started by saying this is the idea that many people use at the heart of
controversy, right? It's politically incorrect IRA. There's symposia. Western academics have
symposia on this idea to discuss the problem of Sharia law, and how barbaric it is, and look at how
profoundly and beautifully the wisdom of Allah has put men in a position where they can stand up
right and live a good life. Because when you stand up, right, your family is going to be okay.
		

			You're going to regulate everybody's emotions to you're going to be the source of stability, you're
going to be the anchor in the family, everybody else calms down, because you are the source of calm.
You're there. And that's, that's once that position is set, then we're ready for the next
conversation. So the next next week is going to be about what are women supposed to do? Now I know
some of the people physically sitting in the audience are like, I'm gonna make sure my wife attends
next week.
		

			But the idea still, we so the last thing I'll share with you is as follows look, we love we love
REITs. And we hate responsibilities. It's just the thing. I love the paycheck, I just hate the job.
That's just how it works. You know?
		

			What, every everything in life, I love what I get. But I hate what I got to give.
		

			So what we do in Islam, we bring that bias. And we love hearing in Islam, the stuff that we get.
		

			And we hate hearing in Islam, the things we have to give and the moment we hear what we have to do,
or in our mind to flex and says, Yeah, but what about what they have to give? Are you gonna keep
talking about what I have to give? What about what they have to give, you know what that is, that's
a way of you demonstrating a really demonstrating that I don't want to take my responsibility
seriously, I just want to hear about what I'm going to get.
		

			So let me clarify something for you, whether you get what you deserve or not.
		

			Okay, and let's talk about the worst case scenario, let's say you will not get what you deserve.
Let's say you will not get what you deserve. You being men, being a warm over women, is not
conditional.
		

			on them being a certain way with you.
		

			You're not being Kalaam over them, because they are this way with you or that way with you. You're
being calm over them. And I'm being calm over them. Because Allah mandated that for me. So it is not
dependent on what they do. It doesn't depend on what they do. It doesn't depend on the kindness or
the roughness of your mother,
		

			or the gentleness or the bitterness of your wife or your sister. It doesn't depend on any of that
you are Kawan because Allah told you your co well.
		

			It's not a reciprocal thing. You that and that's a clear thing we have to understand. When Allah is
talking to me about my responsibilities. I wouldn't dare say okay, yeah, well, let's balance the
vision a little bit. No, no, no. Let's hear about what I need to hear about first. Right and then
inshallah next week, we're going to address the next portion of the science alumni. So it's going to
take a few 100 bucks to get through the entire thing. And I hope that shallow Tala gives us clarity
on these concepts, this wisdom that he has given us, and we are all able to live by these beautiful
teachings and only increase in love and understanding and removal of ill feelings from all those
		

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