Nadim Bashir – The Fortunate #02 – Lying

Nadim Bashir
AI: Summary © The importance of learning the meaning of "has" in the Bible and the various forms of lying is emphasized. The speaker emphasizes the need for proper communication and understanding during daily life, as it can lead to problems such as flawed character and failure to achieve goals. The speakers also discuss the spread of lie and the importance of establishing household rules to prevent children from lying. They suggest seeking help from a counselor or child counselor to establish a list of consequences and provide positive feedback to children to build a positive household.
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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim Al hamdu lillahi with Alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi Jemaine about. So inshallah we continue our series, the fortunate series. And this is the series about the o'clock of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, as we have, in the past, covering a hadith and ayat of the Quran, that talk about the importance of how faith and o'clock are interconnected with one another. A person cannot say I'm a Muslim, and their o'clock is suffering. And this is why it's very important for us to learn the cloth of the of the Prophet sallallahu it was sending him last week we had talked about the importance of speaking the truth.

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And of course, with every good there is the opposite bad. So today we want to talk about lying, and what are the different forms of lying? And what are the different forms of lions are mentioned even in the Quran and the prophets that Allahu Allah He was in the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, first of all, is that there's a there's a word in the Quran, known as Hamas, for example, Allah subhanho wa Taala he says in the Quran and Sunnah, that he adds, ot then hurrah soon, that made those people who spread or who, who come up with wild guesses may they be destroyed. So the word Hadas in the Quran implies to make a wild guesses. And what this implies towards is that

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the Quraysh and now only only that, but the people who accuse Islam of different things, they make a wild guesses against Islam, Allah subhanho wa taala. He talks about those kinds of people in the Quran. Another word that has been used for the word lying in the Quran is the word if the at all for example, ALLAH SubhanA wa taala, use the word if there are and he also says, from an of level, that who can be the worst oppressor who can be a bigger oppressor than that person may monka Allah Allah He was from an old Noemi manifesto and Allah He can even the who creates a lie against Allah subhanho wa taala. The word if the raw in the Arabic language implies to create a lie that you have

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no evidence for. And not only that, but you create a lie that it is absolutely impossible for the accused person to even have something of that type. For example, long time ago, the the Quraysh and other people they will say that Allah subhana wa Taala has daughters, Allah subhanho wa Taala has sons. Now first of all, the reason why it's called an if at all, is because there is no basis for this. Number two, when people do lie against other people, there's always a possibility that it can possibly be true. But when it comes to the matters of Allah subhanho wa Taala it cannot even be true. So this is what you call an if the at all. The other type of lying that is mentioned in the

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Quran is the word book 10. And with a word book that means to create or fabricate a story, accusing someone due to arrogance or hate. So this is something that we find even in the Quran, and not only that, but the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he has mentioned this very clearly in a hadith, when the Sahaba when the Prophet alayhi salam talked about the definition of backbiting and slander, or both in the province Selim says that if you talk behind someone's back, and the Sahaba they ask ya rasool Allah in Canada via Hema akule What if what I'm saying about the person is the Absolute Truth, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says that this is exactly what the definition of

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Backbiting is. And if it is not existing in the brother, or in the person you're talking about, he says, fuck all the butter. This is button, you have created a button against that person. The next word as using the Quran for lying is the word if. So, for example, the word if is a another or a higher level of the word Baudin. But it is when you create a slander against an innocent woman of Zina, or when you create a slander against Allah subhanho wa Taala or you create a slander against the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam or any of his family members. So in the Quran, Allah subhanho wa Taala talks about the story of eyeshadow the Ultra and how when she was accused of

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committing Zina and so forth, or doing foul play committing foul play and Allah subhanho wa taala. He referred to that story as in levena Jaya who bill if chaos by two men come Allah we refer to that story as a if. So this is what the definition of is. The next one is a zoo. Allah subhanho wa Taala says at the end of Surah Al Quran, when he talks about the traits of the believers, he says, well levena Allah Yeshua doonas zoo, these are people these believers are such that they do not witness azul. Azul is a type of lie that you commit or you say

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And not only do you lie, but you're very eloquent in your lie and so eloquent in fact that you can sway an entire party or you can make the innocent person look guilty and look to make the guilty person look like they are absolutely innocent. So this is called a Zune. And so Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us that when you see someone creating false information or testifying in the wrong way, and they're fabricating information, and they're lying, do not even be there to witness it. Because if you are there to witness it, then you are there approving of it. And as we all know, that is not just a sin that is going to be accountable before Allah on the Day of Judgment, the sinner, but the

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people who helped that sinner to achieve that sin, even those will be accountable on the Day of Judgment. So these are a few that are mentioned in the Quran. Now what about other forms of lying that are mentioned in our books and our Islamic books, one of them is a to lie or to create information against Allah or His Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. For example, in the beginning of Surah elica half Allah mentions that a human Leandra essentially then Milla don't who will you by sheer meaning. Alladhina amanu has Salah heart and Allah whom Abdullah Hassan Allah subhanho wa Taala talks about the reward for those who are righteous. Then he says McAfee Nephi Abba, they will

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stay in it forever in Janna. Then were you in Iran? levena Call the herd Allahu Allah. And why and why have we given the book so that you can warn the people of those people you can warn those people who have said that Allah has a son, then Allah says, My Allah whom behemoth or element one early I bury him that how can they say such things about Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, and Allah then says himself in yaku Luna Illa que viva these are people who create lies against Allah subhanho wa taala. So now when we look at this concept, from the grants, the grand scheme perspective, what this implies is that Subhanallah Today we live in times when people make up false accusations against

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Islam. Islam as a religion of such and such Islam is a religion that promotes violence and so forth. And Allah is such and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is such an they say such filthy things, these are creating things against Allah subhanho wa taala. And Allah will never let this go. Another kind of lying is when a person creates a hadith, and they attribute it to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, as the Prophet alayhi salam says mencoba Allah Yamato, I may then forget about what Mikado for not anyone who creates a lie and they attribute it to me, then they should make for themselves a place in the fire jahannam. So may Allah protect us. Next one is to lie

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when you want to make someone laugh, or you want to make a story interesting. There are a lot of people who do that kind of stuff. They lie because they want to gain the approval of other people. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he mentioned the Hadith, he starts off nothing about this. You know in the Quran, there is a word by the there's a word and known as we loin. For example, Allah says way low limit of 15 May the curse of Allah may the destruction of Allah be upon that person who is a mortal fif someone who is unfair, and so forth. In this one short hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he did not just mention the word Waylon once. He mentioned

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that three times, three times. And let me let me restate that I mentioned this hadith he says, Wade will levy you had the trouble, Hadith, Woe to the person who creates some conversation, you lie he could be his home, so he can make people laugh. And he is lying way to law who weigh in on law who the problem some says three times in this one short Hadith that made the destruction of Allah be upon that person. So this is why it is absolutely important that when we are telling a story, you know, one is that you say a story and you may have misunderstood something that's absolutely fine. Damn, so maybe acceptable, and you're making a mistake. But when you create and you add information

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just so that you can appeal to someone, then this is what the Prophet SAW awesome is talking about the next one, to lie to the extent where you have to pray someone, sometimes we are so we are so in love with someone or we love something so much that we began to praise that person so much so and we begin to fabricate information. First of all, the prophet Allah Who are your son has told us that when it comes to praising someone on their face, you rather throw dirt in their face because that's exactly what you're doing. Now. Now keeping in mind

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And there's a context of that hadith to begin with, it should not be taken for face value and take it very literally. But the point is that how many times when we're trying to pray someone we began to, we began to fabricate information. This is something that Islam has said that this is completely unacceptable. That another type of lie, the next type of lie that does exist is when we lie, or cheat, or we are deceitful in our business. We have we have seen numerous times in the Quran, and the Hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the importance of being fair and just when it comes to business, and transactions, and money, and so forth, if you have taken a loan, make sure

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that you pay off that loan, when you have business matters with someone tried to keep your business matters as clean and as transparent as much as you can. Finally, the last type of lying is when you lie to someone, when you have more power over them, such as when you lie to your employee, or when you lie to your children, you know that you have power over your employee, you know, you have power over your children, to use that power, to create a deceit or to deceive them is something that is not right. Because once again, I remind myself and everyone here, the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when he saw a boom was hitting his slave, that profiling, some

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reminding him that today you are using your power over your slave. Remember that Allah has more power over you. So whenever we do things to people, because we feel like we have power, we remember that there is there is some other entity that has more power over us. Now, these are some these are many a hadith and many things within found within our Islamic books that talks about lying. Let's quickly go through some other things because I want to go through some other important things that when is it permissible to lie, and not only that, but when it comes to a type of lie that non Muslims have accused Muslims of and I'll talk about that next. First of all, there are hadith of

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and I have several Hadith here, but I'm gonna, I'm gonna skip few I'm just gonna mention just one or two, first of all, the Hadith Narrated by Abu Hodeidah, now the Allah and the Prophet said, Allah who it was some he mentioned, I didn't when I finally thought that, that there are three signs of a hypocrite and I'm gonna flip number one, either HUD data katiba, that whenever they speak, they lie meaning that they are a habitual liar. And you know, when you when a person lies the very first time and they become a become accustomed to it. Eventually they become labeled as a liar. So these are people in the time of the Prophet sallallahu

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alayhi wa sallam, they would lie and they would lie, and they probably saw some that's why he mentioned that this is a sign of hypocrisy. The next one he said was what either Wha The Alfa, when they make a promise, they do not fulfill the promises were either to me in a HANA and when they are entrusted with something, they committed piano, and this is the three signs and these are not the only three signs. But in this hadith there are three signs of a of a monastic, the next hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also narrated by a clearly a lot that is, the Prophet saw some says Kaffir, Bill Murray Caliban, and you had data be called Lima, Samia, this is a very

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important Hadith for many of us. What is the prophet it is I'm trying to tell us here that it is sufficient, meaning that it is enough, you have enough proof to call a person a liar, whoever says every single thing that they hear meaning what, that a lot of times we see things and there is no source to this. We hear things by other people. And we go around and we start to convey whatever we hear from other people. We don't know whether it's true, whether it's false. This is why the problem he mentioned this, that if you just go around taking things from other places, picking up information and then going in and sharing it with others, then you can call this person a liar,

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because there is no guarantee that what they are conveying is the truth. So this is why it's very, very important that whatever information that we get, first of all is, first of all, is that even if the the information coming to us from a reliable source, we still have to find out whether that information we're not saying about the person, that person might be an honest person, but he may be mentioning something that we are not aware of, in this day and age WhatsApp plays that role. So many things we see on WhatsApp, we have no idea whether it's right or it's wrong, and we just go around forwarding it to other people in so many chatter groups and so forth. We have to be very careful

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when it comes to this kind of information. Now, what are some of the effects of lying what happens when a person lies? The very first thing happens is that a person becomes far from Allah and they become far and distant from the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam and I'm not gonna go into all this because it will

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take a long time. The next one is there is something called a moral code. Even in Islam, there's something called a moral compass. When a person lies, you lose that moral code, you lose that moral compass. Eventually, slowly and gradually, within your own character, there is deceit that comes in, and your character becomes flawed. So this is why it's very important that we don't lie. Next one is that that lying leads a person to commit more sins, a person cannot say that I will lie and it will bring me closer to Allah subhanho wa taala, the Prophet sallahu wa salam has made that very, very clear that anyone who lies it will lead them only to commit even more sin. When a person lies, their

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heart is never going to be content, Allah will never put peace and Sakina in their heart. A person who lies can never be successful, can never be successful. Next one a person who lies they are going to be raised amongst the munaf at noon or anyone who is considered as a habitual liar, they are considered as they have or they have a sign of the Falcon hypocrisy and find the for those people who lie there is the punishment of Allah subhanho wa Taala in the hereafter. Now, the next thing, the question that many people ask, is there any situation that where lying is permissible? Is there any situation where lying is permissible? And the answer is yes, there are some situations when you

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can lie. Now one thing is to lie. One is to, to say something that you're not actually lying. Some people may call it a white lie. It's not even considered as a lie is basically saying something. That word has a dual meaning to it, okay. It has a dual meaning to it. Now, first of all, is the Prophet sallallahu. is Psalm He says lay Celica that will let you use the forbade and NAS while you're cool. Hi, Ron Wyden, me. Hi, Ron, the Prophet alayhi salam said Elia is not one who tries to bring reconciliation amongst people and says something good, or he conveys something good. This is a Muslim. Meaning what that when you're trying to bring two people together and you lie, then it is

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absolutely fine. The Prophet someone said that this is not consider as lying and think about this brotherhood is so important that in a situation like this, the problem is awesome says that it is not considered as lying. The other situations when lying is permissible, or saying something that has a dual meaning, which are there situations where the other situations, number one is in a battlefield. For example, if you go back and you study the Sita of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he has sent I believe it was her they follow the Allah that I'm he sent her they follow the Allah to the eye and to the army of the the, the camp of the of the opposition. And Abu Sufyan was

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sitting over there and so forth. This was the battle trenches. And at that time, I was Sophia and said, I believe there is a traitor amongst us. So everyone grabbed the handle the other person and asked who they are before anyone could grab, or they first hand. He grabbed the other person's hand. And he says, Who are you? So before anyone grabbed his hand, he's not lying. He's not exactly lying. Because no one has asked him a question. But he was smart before he could before anyone grabbed his hand, and he could be put in a position to lie, he made sure he grabbed someone else's hand. So number two is to bring two people together. And number three. And I want you to understand this very

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well because I don't want you to go home and say that Imam Nadeem said this, and therefore I'm going to lie every single time but the but the Sharia has given permission to lie to your spouse. Now, please understand this. This means that when you lie to your spouse, okay, if you say for example, your wife asked you, where did you go and you went out for dinner with your buddies. And you say yes, I went to the gym, that's a lie, that's not going to be considered as acceptable in the eyes of Allah subhanaw taala. This is when you're lying to keep something to keep the peace in the family, for example, you know that you're going through a tough time at work, you probably get a notice from

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your boss that you're going to be probably laid off. For example, may Allah protect anyone from that kind of situation. But nonetheless, they come home and they want and the wife says, I sensed that something has happened today at work and you said no, no everything and hamdullah is fine. Why are you saying that because you know your wants your wife to be calm. You don't want her to get excited about the situation and so forth. So in that kind of situation, it is absolutely allowed. Or when your wife comes in, she asked you a question that How was the food today? And even if there was some extra salt or no muck in the food, you still say Alhamdulillah It was delicious. Or when she says

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that how do I look like and you know, she has probably put on some extra pounds

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You so says Alhamdulillah You look absolutely fantastic, okay? So something to lie in a way where you want to keep her happy, but not in a way that you want to deceive her. So this is why it is this is absolutely allowed now in the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, even in Sahih Muslim the prophets also mentioned that there was two times when Ibraheem Alehissalaam lied to, or in fact, three times two of them were for the sake of Allah subhana wa Tada. The very first one was when he put the sledge hammer or the axe in the hands of the idol. And when they asked him who did this, what they brought him obviously, what did he say? Called Bella Isla, who can be room had their

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first heirloom in Canada, Liam take on that as this idol. He's the one who has a hammer in his hand. What are you asking me for? That was the first time the second time they asked him was that want you to come with us to our festivities? What did he say? He says for color in the subpoena. I am sick. Now, first of all, is that the Allama have mentioned that these were not exactly lies. But they were considered as toady Yeah, in Arabic is called DoDEA. In English, it may be called a white lie. But what it means is to say something that has a dual meaning meaning what?

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That in the first situation, he was trying to be sarcastic to teach them a lesson. The second situation when he says I'm sick. What he meant by that is that I feel so like when a person is sick, you just don't feel like doing anything. It's natural with all of us. When he sees their ignorance when he sees that no matter how many how many times I explained to my calm and my nation, they don't understand and they keep on worshipping these idols, and now they're going to festivities. He's saying I'm sick, meaning that I'm sick inside to see what you guys are doing. So that is considered actually as a lie. And the third time the province I mentioned he that that Ibrahima ism said a lie

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is when he went to the king and the king had a habit that he would he would commit foul play against people's wives. And when he saw Sabra, the wife of Ibraheem Alehissalaam Ibrahim Ali is I'm told her that when they asked you who you are, you tell them that you are my sister. Okay? Tell them that you are my sister now. He meant a sister in Islam, okay. It's not actually not actual sister. So this is why it is completely fine. Not only that, but in the case of obika or the EULA, Kanaan when obika was traveling, or when he was doing Hijra with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, there was a reward for capturing Rasulullah sallallahu. It was setting up, someone came now of course, at that

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time, they never had WhatsApp or so forth, or text messages. So a lot of people have not even seen us was all sudden they don't even know who the Prophet salallahu Salam is, the only thing they know is that there are two people traveling in a desert and there is a bounty on their head. So what happened was a man stopped, oh Bokaro Viola at that time, and said, Who is this man? Pointing out the prophets on them? Who is this man? And obika Rodon who said her de la Sultan was stuck in this man, very smart answered. He said, This man is my guide to the right path. Now what he meant was what he meant was he's leading me to the right path meaning all the way to Janna. Insha. Allah, what

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this person the person who's asking the question how he took it as this person is leading him all the way to Medina, because at that time, in order to travel between cities like this, you need a guide, you can just travel on your own when especially when you don't even know where the city is. So Oh, Booker does not know he knows that there's something called Medina, but he does not know the route to Medina. So he's telling this person and this person understands from his answer, that this man Mohammed is leading him or he is his guide to Medina. So he eventually let them go, Is this considered as a lie is not considered as a lie? It is considered as toady now the next thing is,

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because, as we all know that Islamophobes have always been after Muslims and so forth. And they're always trying to create any kind of, they're always trying to throw dirt on Muslims in any possible way. One thing that we learned is that when you're a part of a society, like Muslims are a part of the society, even though we are a minority, every single minority or when you have groups in a society, the only way a society can function, or one of the key things that we have to do in a society is that we have to speak the truth, we have to be honest with each other. And as Islam and Muslims, we've always been told that we have to be honest with each other. But one thing is that we

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learn that if you go back into history, and you study history, you will learn that one of the very first things that people did in order to create hate against a minority is that they began to spread the fact that these people are dishonest. Go back and study Germany, Nazi Germany, before Hitler came after the Jewish community. He began one of the things that he did was that while he was a fascist also one of the things that he did was

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He made people believe that these people are dishonest, you cannot trust them anything that they say, even though they say that we are good people, we are cared. We are caretakers of the community, we are part of the community and so forth. They are never to be trusted. They are all liars, even here in America, one of the most darkest times, and one of the most shameful episodes that we find in American history is when 120,000 Japanese Americans were, were put in internment camps and so forth. Before this, there was an executive order. And before that, there was an executive order to put all these people in these internment camps. But before even this was one of the ways they

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created a bad taste in the minds or in the hearts of people in the American society, the government and people in the society began to spread that these people are liars. Now, even Islamophobes. Today, they keep on saying that Muslims are, they are ordered, and they will receive a reward. And this is something that's part of their religion, that they must lie. And they are people who are going around spreading these kinds of things. And they say that this is a concept in Arabic called telethia. Now, first of all, takia does not mean that you can lie in any possible situation, that the idea actually is in reference to a situation, for example, when a person is in war, or you have

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been captured and so forth, to say something to say a lie at that time to save your life. That is the only time as I mentioned before the context of war, that is when a person is permitted to lie, but Islamophobes they say that this lie that the Muslims are permitted to say this is the general rule. And what in essence they're trying to do is they're trying to this is a sort of a catch 22 a rule that in order to keep Islam and Muslims in order for them to either make them quiet, or to discredit anything that they say, because as it is Muslims today, we're trying to convey the message we're trying to give Dawa. We're trying to explain people the true colors of Islam. But where are

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these people they're trying to do? They're trying to discredit even all the hard work that we're trying to do by telling people that even if they say something, and it may seem good, it is in essence takia, so do not listen to them. And essence what they're trying to do is they're trying to leave Muslims no room to express their narrative. They want to make sure they take away the capacity away from the Muslims to create or to mention their story to the vast majority. And this is the problem that we have. But once again, we have to always explain this, that first of all, the Prophet SAW Allah was salam. He has mentioned in numerous Hadith, the importance of staying away from lying,

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how lying is so considered as reprehensible in our deen, how lying is consider as evil in our deen. And there is no room for this in our deen. So this is why we have to let people know about this because this is exactly what is spreading today in our society. And subhanAllah you'll be shocked. Even if you go on Amazon, and you look for books, there are books written by non Muslims about Islam. And on this same very subject as the idea that these people as Muslims, they are, they are told and they are commanded to lie, because their ultimate goal is that they want Sharia law to prevail over America. That is their goal. And in order to achieve their goal, they are allowed to

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lie. And so once again, subhanAllah you see so many people are saying these kinds of things, whereas in our deen, we don't have anything of this type. And that's why it is very important that we that when we come across people who say things of this type, we need to know how to give them the right answer. Finally, one last thing I want to cover is how do you stop? And especially because people have asked this question, how do you stop children from lying? How do you stop children from lying? Now you got to ever understand one thing children are gonna lie for either three reasons. Number one is for fantasy purposes. One day your child wakes up and he says I went to the moon yesterday. Okay.

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Zack will love him. Okay. So that's something that because of their their deep imagination, they will say something like this. Another reason why children will lie is for bragging. Man, you know what I have at home, and he doesn't have anything at home. Okay, just bragging to other friends. The third reason why children they lie is because there is fear of consequences. Okay? There's fear of consequences now. So what do we do in this kind of situation? The very first thing that we need to do at home is that we need to establish a household rule that we will always speak the truth and this starts off with the parents. You don't go to the restaurant, and I know a lot of times people

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go to the restaurant and they say, Well, you know, from you know from ages three to nine

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In, you know, you pay half the buffet and ages 10 and up, you'll pay full buffet. And you're telling them that Oh no, my child is only seven years old, they look like a 13 year old, okay? That is a problem, okay? When you lie just because you want to stay away, the children see that, or when you when someone calls home, and they say that, you know, I'm not here or they're not here and so forth. And that person is sitting right there, that is considered as lying in the children, they see that. So that's why the very first thing that we need to do is we need to create an attitude that we will always speak the truth inside the house. Number two have a role. Role model honesty, meaning that we

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have to as adults, we have to be a role model when it comes to honesty. Number three, as I said, the children they are scared of consequences. So that's why when it comes to these kinds of situations, first of all, we have to give them a warning, there are going to be consequences. A lot of parents feel like that. No, we should never give consequences. A human being reacts to consequences even as adults, we react to consequences. What makes us drive the speed limit on the road is the consequences. What makes us not break the laws in the United States. We don't want to go to prison consequences make us scared. Likewise, even the Quran what makes us not commission what makes us not

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leave Salah what makes us not commit Zina? What makes us not commit sins, it is the punishment of Allah subhanho wa Taala we are a consequence kind of driven kind of creation of Allah subhanho wa taala. So that's why we need to give warnings. Number two is provide extra consequences. If you lie again, these are the extra consequences. Discuss the natural consequences, what are the natural consequences? If you lie, you're going to lose friends. If you lie, no one's going to trust you. If you lie, even if you're speaking the truth, then still no one's going to believe you. You can even share with them the story of the boy who cried wolf just to give them an example. Because stories

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like this, it really resonates with children. The next one is provide positive reinforcement for honesty if they do speak the truth. You know, a lot of times what happens is that we always are very fast and giving out consequences. But as soon as the child speaks the truth, the best that we do is mashallah, that's it. Mashallah, that's it, we have to have more reinforcement, just saying mashallah, there has to be more than that. Because when the kids see that there are so many consequences, but for speaking the speaking honestly, there, there are no positive reinforcements, that there is no point of speaking the truth, then next one is help your child re establish trust.

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When he tells the truth, he will be one more step closer to earning his privileges again, you have to create a list of consequences. Every time they like go down one consequence at a time, as they speak the truth tell them that you now you're coming back closer and closer to earning your privileges. And that way they will be motivated to speak the truth more and more in sha Allah to the point that they will be able to, again, earn their privileges. And finally, there is nothing wrong. There is nothing wrong in going to a psychologist or going to a child counselor and seeking help. A lot of times we feel like that I don't want to go to a stranger and tell them about my child and so

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forth. First of all these people who are in the counseling profession, by law, they have to have, they have to observe and uphold patient confidentiality as it is. And when you go to them, they can give you some tips, some ideas what you can do, these are just ideas that I'm giving you, but every child is very different. Every child has issues. And sometimes, you know, like what I'm sharing with you right now may not exactly work with your children. I'm just giving you something very general and generic. But if your child has even a more serious issue, then that kind of situation you need to seriously go and seek help from someone who is considered as a professional. I ask Allah subhanho

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wa Taala to give all of us ability to speak the truth. May Allah subhanaw taala keep us away from lying. And may Allah Subhan keep us away from any of the forms or any other forms of lying that are mentioned in the Quran and the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam ask Allah subhanaw taala to raise us amongst the set the lien and the shahada and the solid green on the Day of Resurrection mean is that Kamala Harris Subhana Allah humbug I'm not sure the word into that stuff locomotory Lake Zachman Lafayette, Somali

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