Nadim Bashir – Khatira – Remove Toxic People from Your Life

Nadim Bashir
AI: Summary © The danger of surrounded people and negative reactions to toxic people is discussed, along with the importance of cutting people out of their lives and being friends with people who bring comfort to their life and family. The speaker emphasizes the need to avoid dangerous people and connect with people who bring comfort to their lives. Additionally, the speaker stresses the importance of being strong in one's life and establishing connections with Allah Subhanho wa Taala to overcome the pain of losing family members and to be friends with them.
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sunomono 100 likeable Alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah Muhammad, wa ala alihi wa sahbihi as mine.

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Today, what I want to share in what I want to talk about is something that many of us are unfortunately struggling with, on a day to day life and on a day to day basis. And you know, subhanAllah, last time I gave a talk about struggling in life, how to get over our challenges in life. I also talked about

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how a lot of times we are surrounded by people and how they hurt you at times, and how you can perhaps forgive them, you may not be able to forget. And at that time, just do a day or two after that someone had asked me about something that I want to talk about today. And they asked me about what if you're are surrounded by people who are just toxic in your life? What do you do in that kind of situation? And then Subhanallah, even just talking to people in general, I've seen that, though this is one common situation that people keep on bringing up is that what do I do, because in all of our lives, you know, there are people who are going to be there in our life, who are going to care

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for us, genuinely, sincerely, they care for us, they want to see us get better, they want to see us, you know, push ourselves forward in life, when they when we do get better in life, when we get a promotion, for example, if I have achieved something in life, they come and they put a smile on their face, and they're happy. They're genuinely happy for you. But what about there are such people in life also. And this is the world that we live in, unfortunately, that we're going to be surrounded by people, they're going to be people in our family, they're going to be people in our community. There are people who we meet on a day to day basic, but they are absolutely tossed toxic.

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What does that mean? That these are people who are not happy, when you are happy, they're not happy when you achieve something great in life. These are people who want to always control your life. These are people who never accept your mistakes, if you see them doing something that is wrong, and you go to them and you say that you're doing something, something that is wrong, they completely negate anything that you are saying. In fact, not only that, but these are people who will demean you. These are people who will keep on taking from you as long as it serves their interest. And they don't care about you, you they keep on taking from you. And any time you ask them for a favor,

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they're gonna build themselves out they will make an excuse to get to get themselves out of the situation. So what do you do when you have these kinds of people in your life? There are few things that we can do and that we have learned from the Prophet sallallahu it was send them and we have learned from the Quran. First of all is I've said this before so many times when it comes to the Quran, we cannot just take it very literally, we have to expand our understanding when it comes to the Quran. When Allah subhanho wa Taala this idea that you and I we have heard on numerous occasions, where a bad Rahman in Medina M Shula and our the homeowner will either halt of a home

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will Jackie Luna, Paul Lou Salama this this concept of Jahir that Allah subhanaw taala has mentioned in the Quran. It's not only regarding an ignorant person, but it's also regarding those people who are toxic in your life. Allah subhanho wa Taala is telling us the very first thing that you need to do that we need to do when it comes to these kinds of people. We need to cut them out of your life cut these kinds of people out of your life, when I say cut them out of your life. Look at the life of the prophet Sallallahu ala he was setting up there were people who were toxic in his life. There were people who were toxic in his life in Makkah, there are people who are toxic in his life in

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Medina, but the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, of course, he had a responsibility, his responsibility was to go and convey the word of Allah subhanho wa Taala to go to go and call these people to Allah subhanho wa Taala and he would do that most certainly he would do that he would never fall behind on his responsibilities. But then besides that, if you if they were Muslim, a Salam aleykum and that is it. If they were not Muslim, that he will not even go close to them. Because they're the reason why I'm saying that is because the more you are around these kinds of people, and if you keep on demeaning you and they keep on hurting you and they make you feel less

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confident in yourself, then why do you want to be around those kinds of people if being around those kinds of people and not only that another sign of a toxic person is whenever you see their phone call, you have this like this bad taste in your mouth. Whenever you see them. You have this your these memories that flashback that they have probably hurt you. So this is why the very first thing is we need to cut these kinds of people out of your life. You need to keep you need to keep yourself away from these kinds of people.

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Allah subhanaw taala in the Quran says what either sent me Ooh, what he that sent me or when you hear what Allah wa What is Allah wa mean? Anything that is being that is classified as wrong, even toxic people when they spew things that are wrong, then that is also classified as Allahu Allah says what either 70 or Lavoie are all do and who they stay away from those kinds of people. And what do they say for all who Lana are maluna walakum LUCAM. I'm going to stick to what I do, you stick to what you do mean that you got to keep yourself distant from these kinds of people. This is the very first thing that we have to do. The second thing that we have to do is that the Prophet sallallahu

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alayhi wa sallam he says, a model Isla de Nicolini he for a young woman, you Holland, that a person is on the Dean of their friend, so be careful and pay attention to who you befriend. When you want to befriend someone, why befriend someone who's going to put you down? Why befriend someone who's going to always be critical of you. There's nothing wrong being critical, but you have to do it sincerely. But why do you want to be around these kinds of people, the profile is something is telling us pay attention. You have so many people around you. You don't have to be friends with every single person. But be friends with those people who remind you of the akhirah be friends with

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those kinds of people who are going to bring you closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala will be friends with those kinds of people who will bring confidence in your life. Be friends with those kinds of people that even when you are down, they will lift you up and they will help you move forward in life. These are the kinds of people that we need to surround ourselves with. Because Wallahi it does not come in our deen. It's not about quantity. It's always about quality. If you have 250 friends, you have 100 friends, but they are of no good it is. And on the other hand, you have probably two friends, only three friends, but they are quality genuine friends, good people, you rather go with

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the latter. you rather go with just two or three people but they can improve your life tremendously. The next thing is that we learned from the CETA of the Prophet salallahu Salam is that learn how to connect with Allah subhanho wa Taala especially in the case of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the prophet Allah you said would go through his struggles in Makkah, he went through his struggles on a day to day basis. In Medina, you had people who were amongst a Munna if you own who are hurting Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So how would Ross who was a Salam bring some emotional peace to his life, he will connect with ALLAH SubhanA wa ala. And there was one day, I

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mean, there was one part of the day where the Prophet SAW son was disconnected from the entire dunya from his family, from community and everyone and it was only him and Allah subhanho wa Taala and that was the latter part of the night the last part of the night when he would wake up for tahajjud and he will wake up from a young lady and he will connect with Allah subhanho wa Taala brothers and sisters on a daily basis on a daily basis. Take some time out for yourself, take us some time for you for yourself, for ourselves to connect with Allah subhanho wa Taala put your phone aside, put your family aside for a moment. Just take a 1015 20 minutes and if you need to come to the masjid

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come to the masjid. But we all deserve this. We all need to do this for our own sanity. You connect with Allah Subhana Allah to Allah and Allah He, the more you do that, the more you just disconnect yourself from everything around and you just focus on yourself and you ask Allah and if you need to come to the masjid and you need to break down or go to a room in your room in your house, and you just need to break down there is nothing wrong. You know, today our society tells us that if you are crying, you know they say these kinds of things that why you being like a girl. I mean, there's nothing wrong for a man to cry Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he would go to his mother's

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grave, the Sahaba they will say that we will see Roswaal Some cry like a baby. This is the human side of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam sometimes we're so hurt inside and sometimes we're struggling so much in life that I just need to sit down and I need to cry it out. There is nothing wrong with that. Connect with Allah subhanho wa Taala we go through a lot of pain in life. Why not ask Allah subhanho wa Taala will Allah He even psychologists will tell you even we see this other problems. When you cry it out when you cry your problems out it bring some peace to your life. So this is why if you need to, then cry it out but connect with Allah subhanho wa Taala and lastly,

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lastly the most important thing is

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that remember that just because how someone treated you and what they said about you is not who you are, you are at the end the day you are who you are. We all here we have such talents. We have some good in our life, this focus on that you're going to have people who are going to come and put you down they're going to put

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You don't, they're gonna stand in your way of your success, just like we find that in the case of the Prophet SAW Selim, but he never let their hinderance he never let these people be a hinder of him attaining his success and attaining his true objectives in life. And so we have to have the self confidence in our life that no one can tell us what to do, and no one because of what they said, can really hinder us in our life. So we do these kinds of things in sha Allah and we remove these kinds of people and you will see a drastic improvement in our life in sha Allah I ask Allah subhana wa Tala to give all of us the ability to be strong We ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to surround us in our

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life with people who are genuine who are sincere in our life um you know, but I mean just like Malala had said I'm article I'm to law here but I'll catch you in Nene No, Lima D one meaning Mina Do you want to call needy no look on either the Muslim logged in pain I was logged in on the one saw the Rena was sloggy a lot the one before she you know, because she

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