Nadim Bashir – Khatira – CHANGE Starts with ME

Nadim Bashir
AI: Summary © The speakers emphasize the need for everyone to change and bring change to the world, as everyone has a habit of looking at their shortcomings and is not willing to make a change. They stress the importance of social etiquette and a culture of change, as it helps to remove corruption and change one's behavior. The speakers emphasize the need for a positive role model and avoiding negative criticism, as it will lead to a change within one's own family.
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So I'm already gonna tell you a little capsule. Mr. Muhammad Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi Germain I'm about. So how many times we asked each other that what would you like to see in the world today? And one, one answer that many of us we say is that we wish that things were different. We wish that people were better. We wish that politicians were better people around us our community would be in a better situation. Allah subhanho wa Taala He gives us the remedy and he gives us the solution. The How can you make a difference in your community? How can you bring change in your community? Allah subhanho wa Taala

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tells us so to write in Allahu Allah, you have a euro mabie Tolman, Hatha Yoga, you know, maybe and foresee him that no nation can change and you cannot bring a change within a nation, till the people from within an each individual, they bring a chain from within themselves first. Today, SubhanAllah. Brothers and sisters, we want everyone to change. A husband wants his wife to become better. A wife wants her husband to become better. The question is that before we look at others, we have to look at ourselves in the mirror. We want the entire world to change. But how much am I willing to change? How much am I willing to become better? Because none of us are perfect. And yes, I understand that

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we can never become perfect. But we have a standard. And we try to get better every single day. We have a habit of looking at our own shortcomings. But what has happened today is that we tend to overlook our shortcomings. We think we feel that there I am the best version of myself. There is no more improvements in my life, there's nothing I can do better in my life, there's nothing that I can do to become a better person, by when everyone else would change around me. You cannot make a change on others. You cannot expect others to make a change to we don't bring a change within ourselves. And I'll go as far as to say that even our young brothers in the community who are not married, many

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times they want a girl who is mahabhava, a girl who has never talked to another guy. But how much does this boy, this young man, how much does he practice his Deen? How much does he go out and he talks to the people of the opposite gender. We want to expect others to be the best version of themselves. But we're not willing to make a change within ourselves. And the same thing happens with the young girls and the young women of our community who are looking for suitable husbands. They have a certain a perfect image of what a Mr. Perfect is, but they don't want to bring changes within themselves. And this is the biggest flaws in our community. And especially when it comes to

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ourselves. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he first came as a prophet, think about this. When he first came the beginning is the beginning sutras that were revealed in Makkah, to the Prophet SAW Salam, they were not about making a change in the world. They were not about making a change in the community in the society. It was always about Iman and the development of iman, that's what the beginning sewers were all about. And when we make a difference and or when when we change ourselves, and we develop there are Iman just like we find the Sahaba Radi Allahu Anhu whom the later on into Medina phase when Allah subhanho wa Taala revealed sutras about community affairs

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community as etiquettes social etiquette such as sutra or gerada, and so forth, then they were very easy to implement, because each person had taken change upon themselves. So that is why we find there are beggars there are more sutras and more ayat of the Quran that talks about personal development. And there are not so many ideas that talk about social development. Why because if each person becomes the best version of themselves, then the entire community will come together then things will become better in the society. And this is in Allahu Allah, you know, maybe Coleman Hatha Yoga, you know, maybe unfussy him, even a shaker bin baz Rahmatullah yeah Allah he says, that when

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people will not change themselves, Allah will not bring change either. And he says that when people are going to stick to their old bad habits, their evil habits, their wrongdoings, then eventually Allah subhanho wa Taala will bring the circumstances accordingly. And today when we look at all the chaos on Earth, especially the chaos that is coming down from the top to the bottom, the people who are the people who are in a position of power, the people who are in a position of authority, we see how many corruption there is, how many oppressors they are, think about it, who put those people in their place today. It is Allah who put them in their place. And what we learn from these ayat is

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When everyone starts to make a change from within themselves, and like in slowly and gradually a family changes, and then this family has an effect on other families and the community changes

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And the society changes, then these people who are standing in the way of change those people who are the wrong doors, eventually ALLAH SubhanA will remove them. We keep on asking, why are they there who put them in their place? Allah is the one who put them in that in that position, but it's because of you. And I also, Allah says, the horrible facade you fill but we will barely be Makassar, but a dinners that corruption spreads because of the wrongdoings of the people. So this is something very important that when we talk about change on a global scale, it starts off from within us. First, we talk about let's talk, let's forget about the globe. Let's talk about let's forget about

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internationally, let's talk about even our own family. If I want to bring a change within my own family, the change starts within first within myself. Now, when the change happens, there are three things that we must do in order for the change to happen. Number one, I'm going to quickly run through these things. Number one is Nia, why am I changing, it might change it because I want to change someone else. That's the wrong Nia, I'm changing, because I want to become a better person spiritually individually, from a productive point of view, to become a better person, I want to change because I want to become the best version of myself. The next one is that you cannot, you

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have to have a role model. You have to have a role model. And our role model is who Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Wallahi, every single thing you can find in the Sierra of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the prophet Allah you son was a father, the Prophet alayhi. Salam was at one time in his life, a single father, meaning that his wife has passed away, he's the one who's taking care of his children, we will find the property your son was the father in law, the property your son was a son in law, the property your son was a role model for all of us, whatever situation we find ourselves in, we will find an example in the life of the Prophet sallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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And the next thing part of making a change is you have to let go of the past the people who have made you who have made us who we are today, people who are inspiring us in the wrong way who are having a wrong effect on us, we have to leave that company, we have to break off and sever those relationships. Now, the next thing is that during the process of change, there are three other things are also very important. Number one is that we don't ever become arrogant, this happens so many times, a person starts to become better, and they start to bring a change. And they started looking down on others. I've talked about this so many times, it does not help if we are coming

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close to religion, we are bringing, we're bringing more religiosity in our life, but we're looking down on others that creates Kibera in our heart, which was eventually the fall of shaytaan. The next thing that's also very important in the process of change is that there will be at times a lapse, there will be a loss of concentration. A person is trying to bring a change in their life. They're trying to stay away from haram. But here and there, they may again fall into the haram. If that happens, bury it, it's gone, move forward, still work on bringing a change within yourself. This is what happens when shaitan comes right on makes you feel so terrible. She's trying to inflict self

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hate, he brings self hate in within ourselves that what kind of a Muslim Am I what kind of a believer in my I'm bringing that change in my life. But then I have had a relapse. And that's where shape on says that will kind of a person you are now that you've already had a lapse, just let it go. Just go back to your old lifestyle. This is your true nature. And that is where we see that even if we had a lapse, you move forward. And the last thing that happens is that whenever we have this lapse, there will be criticism. You know, when a person is trying to make a change, the very first group of people that will criticize this person is his own family members. All you looks like you're

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becoming very religious. What happened? Oh, looks like reality caught up to you. Right? Looks like you came back to you came back down to planet earth, right? So what happens is that when people criticize, it really puts us down. It makes us feel that we are worthless. That is where we have to really just let it go. Ignore the self criticism, or the people who may criticize us and keep on moving forward to become a better person. So this is something that we all have to work on. Forget about others, Allah will ask me on the Day of Judgment, Allah will ask us how we were as individuals, Allah will not ask the who fulfill your rights, who was rude to you and so forth. Allah

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will ask each one of us what wrong we did, whose rights we fulfill and how much of a person I was. I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to bring change within us. I ask Allah subhana wa that to make us amongst those who are focused on themselves and bring change within themselves for the betterment for the for the for their families and for their community. I'm eurobodalla mean does that Kamala had a Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh long

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