Nadim Bashir – Elite Followers #46

Nadim Bashir
AI: Summary © The speaker discusses the importance of keeping only three pieces of bread for the day and the Prophet's deems in explaining deems of Islam. They emphasize the importance of following the Prophet's instructions and not criticizing them. The speaker also discusses the importance of learning to make children stronger and fight difficult situations, as well as the demand for marriage in various cultures where the man is the sole responsible person. The speaker suggests that the message of the Prophet sall campaigns is that the man has to give a certain amount of money to get a daughter married, but it is not common in their culture.
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swindler Hunter Haman hung a little bit on him and was so there was someone that was really Mohammed water early he was sacrilege mine was somewhat asleep Monica Thielen Kathira ma Subhan Allah Allah Allah Allah Allah, Allah in the Quran Salim Hakeem rubbishy so they were silly Emery will have them listen if the hoopoe Leah Madonna, before I begin, I want to make a correction, something that I said last week, which was incorrect. In some of the brothers, they brought it to my attention. And I just want to tell you all that if there's anything that I've say that is clearly wrong, mistake, I made a mistake. I'm a human being at the end of the day. So please do bring it to my attention right

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away. So I appreciate those. But those were brought to my attention. We were talking about our theme, one of the sons of Abu Talib and, and we talked about his son, he had a son by the name of Muslim, Bennati and Muslim Bonacci has said that Hudson has sent him on his behalf to Iraq and he was he was martyred. He was killed. And then later on when Hassan came he was killed so it was that has no it was saying. It was her saying because the whole incident of Karbala does not revolve around Hassan a revolves around Hussein. So just wanted to bring that to your attention that correction. Now as far as continuing where we left off from last week, talking about audio the a lot

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that I'm I want to share with you a story regarding audio Viola did on a very interesting story. And we all love stories. So that's why I'm starting off with a story today. A two people once came to God Allah Tala and they brought up their dispute to Alibaba with over the allotted line. And they said, Please, please be the fair judge between both of us. So he said, Please present your case. So what they said was that we too, were sitting down to eat. I had five pieces of bread. I have five piece of bread. And my friend here he had three pieces of bread. And we sat down to eat, and a third person who was traveling who was traveling about he asked if he could share the food with us if we

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can share our food with him, in fact, and we said yes, so he sat down and he began to eat with us. He said that before he left, he left with us eight. Durham's eight. Their homes are eight dinars. And he said that we began to dispute the how should we divide it? How should we divide it? So he said that what did you come up with earlier the alotta and said to the two people that what was your like? What did you decide? And how did you? What did you how did you resolve the matter? So they said that one of them said who had the five pieces of bread that I was saying that since I gave in five pieces of bread, and the other person has three pieces of bread, so I should therefore keep

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eight did hums. And you should keep only three that hums the other person who only pitched in three pieces of bread said that no we should split between between us equally you should keep for and I will keep for their homes. So then they asked the Allah under what do you think? How many did How many should go to each person and a little the alotta on who said that the person who gave five pieces of bread will take seven dead hums seven dead humps and the person who gave three pieces of bread. He only keep one dead hump.

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Okay, the person who gave five will keep seven dead humps. And the person who gave three pieces of bread or who had three pieces of bread will only keep one Dirham. Now this is what I'm going to give you to do. This is your homework. How do you figure that out? I'm going to ask you next week in sha Allah.

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You did you think about this yourself. And then inshallah next week we'll go through this again. Okay. Now, we're going to continue with the life of God Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah and as we as I said last week, he came from a family his father was a booth olive who was not extremely well off. And so Bhutan does struggle in his life. When the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam he got married and

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He lived his own life. And remembering the fact that hadith or the alotta and she had her own business, she was doing very well. The Prophet SAW Selim was doing well too. So he approached his uncle Abbas and he says, Abbas Oh, my uncle. If you look at the situation and the condition of your brother Abu Talib, it is not good. So let's go to him and let's ask him and let's provide some help. So they approached Abu Talib and Abu Talib said that look as far as most as far as RTL is concerned, I'm going to keep asking Okay, the other one because his name was probably right thali was already old enough he was married off and he was okay. He said that Octane is getting old I want to keep up

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the hill as far as i Li and Java is concerned, they are both of yours. So Abbas then began taking he began to take care of Java and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he took he began taking care of, I know the alot that I'm now the Oliver Viola on he began to spend his time with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and if you remember how old was he, when the Prophet SAW son received His revelation?

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He was 10 years old, okay. He was 10 years old. So when the province of Saddam was 30 years old, this is five years after he got married to Khadija Viola Tirana, that is when Rhodiola Dawn is born. So I leave on the altar I'm pretty much was brought up in the house of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Now, it said that after Islam came, Islam had come. And Khadija the Allah to Allah and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam they began to pray and they both were taught how to perform will do so they will perform they will do and they will begin praying one day a little the Allah Tani's a young child he sees that you know, Muhammad SAW Salam and Hadith OData and had they're praying. So

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he inquired, he says, what exactly is it that you're doing? So the Prophet saw something he explained that what is the deen of Allah subhanho wa Taala that we do not associate any partners with Allah subhanho wa Taala this is the this is the deen from Allah subhanho wa Taala This is the truth. And we denied the Aladdin the under Oryza and all the other idols, that the people in Makkah the worship. So he said that, well, I cannot worship I cannot do what you're doing. Unless and until I consult with my father, I have to go back to Abu Talib and I need to talk to him about this. If I can do something like this. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave special instructions to

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Oliver the author on and said that you are not allowed to share this with your father. If you don't want to do this, if you don't want to pray with us and worship with us. That's your choice. I'm not going to force this upon you. But please do not go to your father right now because many people are not even aware of this. And you have to remember that this was beef in within the first three years of the the private Dawa, or the three years when Allah subhanaw taala gave instructions to the Prophet send them to spread Dawa only to his close family members and the people close to him. And the next day, it will be Allah Allah and he came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he

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says that please explain me more of this deen and when the Prophet SAW Selim he sat down with Oliver Viola on and explained him more about his Deen it said that He then gave in and he said that I believe in what you are calling people towards so then aliotta And he became a Muslim. Now the one thing that happens here is that many people to get into this debate the who were the very first people to accept Islam was a hadith ah, was it obika Was it really a lot that I'm who was the very first person after the Prophet SAW sound to accept Islam and the Allah ma to consider to to explain the matter and to put this matter to rest. What they usually explain is that the very first man to

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accept Islam was a bucket of yellow that is the very first child to accept Islam was olive oil, even though we thought about the Ultron and the very first woman to accept Islam was hadith of Yolanda OnHub. Now, after this, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he would go to some of these these secluded areas or some of the private areas, which are not very highly populated areas in Makkah he will go to those places a you will perform his Salaat earlier the alotta on he would also follow the Prophet SAW Selim and he will perform the salaat one day Abu Talib happened to pass by both of them while they were both praying. I will probably be asked the Prophet SAW Salem that what is it that

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you're doing? He said that Oh, my dear uncle, this is the deen that Allah subhanaw taala he has inspired me with and I'm calling people towards his Dean. However, I will just praying right now. This is the new dean. We don't do any kind of shit. He began to give you know, he began to give a lot of information about what this Dean is all about. And then he invited his own uncle. He says I invite you to come and follow this Dean. His own uncle Abu Talib said that I cannot do that because I cannot then people in Makkah will criticize me that I gave up the religion of my forefather out of out of love for my nephew, so he says I

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cannot do that right now. But then he saw a colleague of yoga and doing the same thing to he says he asked his own son, what are you doing? And he says that Muhammad taught me this and I'm following Muhammad, he understands you have so much respect and honor for him. So, you know, I understand that this is probably the truth and I'm following him. To this, I will tell him then said to God, Allah tonight, that whatever Muhammad is teaching you, you follow that because this is the truth, you follow it, and wherever he teaches you, you do that. So it shows that a booth Polly from day one, he had a place in his heart for the Prophet sallahu alayhi wa salam, and he was what he was standing

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for it. Then after this is said that as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam alberca Viola that is, if you say the history of Makkah, when hydro will take place, when pilgrimage will take place, and this is not the pilgrimage that we do. But every year annually the people from all the surrounding areas when it comes to Makkah, is said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam along with obika The Allah that I'm because you knew the history of Mecca, he was an expert when it came to lineage there the the, the lawn, the knowledge of lineage and genealogy. So the Prophet SAW Allah salaam he will go with a bucket of the Allah Quran and he will call people to Islam. We know

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this, but what we don't know is that Oliver the Allah and He will constantly accompany the Prophet alayhi salam and odaka via Allah Tala and and while he was going, he was picking up he was being mentored by obika Violetta and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and from and from from such a young age, and you will deal with Yoda on played a very important role in the propagation of Islam. Just to give you an idea, just to give you an example, a Buddha or the ultra Buddha reflected on the alotta and is someone who is mentioned in the books of Sierra. He says that when I came to know about Muhammad sallahu alayhi wa sallam he says I came to Makkah, and when I came to Mecca, he

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said that I would go to the Haram and I will try to talk to some people but because people did not know me, I did not know anyone. People will stay away from me. He says that a night as night would fall, he said that one man will come around, and he will take every one whoever was there strangers in Macau, he will take them to his home. Who was that person? It was a little the allotted time. So the first day he took up with a little bit fatty to his home, no communication. The next day of who don't fit in the morning, he went to the HUD home again. He tried to communicate he tried to find about try to inquire about the whereabouts of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam there was no

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luck the second day, again, I you know the alotta and he came around, he saw the same stranger, he took him again for the second night. The third day the same thing happened. And when he took him home for the third night. Are you gonna do that? And then said that it seems like you are I know you are a stranger. But it seems like you're not meeting your objective. So is there anything I can help you with? He says that yes, I have come to know that there is a man here in Makkah who claims to be a prophet. Are you familiar with this person and ally of yellow Dawn and said that yes, indeed he is the prophet of Allah. And tomorrow I will take you to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So he

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played a heavy role in bringing people to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and not only that, but he would open his house for hospitality purposes. So this is the allotted time. Now the next thing that we learned from the life of anybody alotta on is his willing to make a sacrifice for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. We all are very familiar with the the story of the Hijra of Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wasallam people they got together in Dahlonega, to make a plan that what can we do to Lhasa Allahu Allah, he was sending them the final or the final. The final suggestion that they agreed to, was to take the life of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam which

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was suggested by Abuja Hall, and it was agreed and approved by a an unknown person who was there in that gathering, which they are NEMA they say that it was shaytaan in the form of a human being. He approved of this plan. They all went to the house of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and you have to understand that if there was anyone who was going to stay or lie down in the place of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the prophet Allah is some had to select someone who he had a lot of trust in. And that person that he chose was none other than it used to be tolerable the allotted time. He chose him to be in his place. When they came to the house of Rasulullah sallallahu

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alayhi wa sallam they got inside the they went to the bed of the Prophet I think it's time only to find that instead of the Prophet it was it will do a lot and then then they took aliotta onto the haram. They roughed him up little they did push them around, they did bully him for a while, and they inquire that where is Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Where is he? He says

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Look, I don't know where he is. Do you see him around you? We're at the house of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and if you did not find him I was in his bed. Where do you think I don't know where he is. So then after that they let him go. The Prophet saw some gave special instructions to God Allah Tala and that I want you to take your time in Makkah.

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It says that after that, a little delta and he took three days, three days to return all the trust's and all the Amanat that were kept in the house of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he went to everyone he returned there Amana and their trust. And then it said that a little of Yoda and he then came, made hijra to Medina. Now what's interesting to know is this, how old was a little Yoda? And when he played this important role, I shared the math with you, right? The province Saddam at the time of Prophethood Aliwal aliotta and was how old 10 years old? So at the time of hijra, he's how old he is 23 years old, okay, he is 23 years old. Now today, if you look at a 23 year old youngster,

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even though mashallah are youngsters are coming to the masjid and so forth. But you know, unfortunately, our youngsters are not as mentally strong as you see a person like a lien on the Allah Tala. And this goes to show you that how strong the Prophet SAW Selim, he made these youngsters during his time, he made them extremely strong. I mean, how could we imagine a 23 year old youngster today doing exactly what Ali or the other arm did during the time of the province of Salaam, you might get some cases you might find some cases. But it is a very rare case, it is a very rare case. I know 23, all youngsters who don't even know how to change a flat tire. So that is not

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the situation. So we need to this is a very important lesson. And in this for all of us, that we need to make our kids stronger. We have to teach our kids we have to make them stronger. Let them learn how to fight their battles in their life, honestly, let them learn how to fight their battles in their life. And as a parent, if you see that they're fighting their own battles, and they're not making any headway in their battles, then as a parent, we can step in, we can provide some insight, we can provide some guidance in the matter. But usually, we always find that the parents are fighting every single battle for their child. And so we as parents, we need to understand that let's

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you know, let's try to make our kids no more strong. If our kids went through some sacrifice, if they were bullied, from a religious point of view, there were said something about their religion, teach your kids how to be strong, teach your kids how to be strong. This is how you make your kids strong. So anyway, it says I'll do the alotta on that because he was traveling through the desert. He would he was sleep during the day, and he will travel by night. He was steeped during the day, and he will travel by night. And he said that within a very short period of time. And in fact, some books or some books of history even mentioned that in one night will allow Allah Now how this would

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be possible only Allah knows. But it meant there's mentioned that at times he would cross 40 miles. Now of course they never had, they never had any cars of that time. There were no trains. That means that I need all the time is all alone. A 23 All youngster all alone at night in a desert. And he is traveling by foot. And some books of history mentioned that he would cross 40 miles every night. So hello. I mean, what a brave. What a courageous youngster what I did on the autobahn, who was he comes to them, he comes to Medina, he meets with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam, and he meets with the other Muslims over there. Now, as far as all the time when he grows up, and now he's in the

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Battle of brother, the Battle of brother takes place. And he played a very important role in that too, in the very beginning, because it said that before the actual bow took place, there was a duel that took place. And in that there was some people of the Quran who came out to, you know, to fight the Muslims. And what happened was that some of the unsavoury companions came outside on behalf of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, these people from the place they said, No, we don't want to see the on Saudi companions. We want to see people from Makkah, we want to face the people that we know. So it said that the Prophet salallahu it was send them he said that there are three people who

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would go and they would fight on behalf of the Muslims, and they will perform in this duel. One was Hamza, the uncle of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the second one was Ali or the Allah Denine. And the third one was obey that hadith. And he said that all three of them in fact, I mean, just talking about Allah, Allah tonight, because it talks about there is mentioned in the books of history and the books of Sierra about the physique of the a lot that I'm that he was a very stocky person. He was a very stocky person, meaning that when anyone would come in front of animal Viola to the iron, they would be clear

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Nearly intimidated by the strength of God a lot. And I'm. So he said that as soon as his opposition came on the altar and he just swept him aside, he just brushed him off the floor, and he took care of him. And this actually put that fear into the hearts of the Quraysh. Nonetheless, the battle that took place and we're not going to go into that, I just want to share that what was the role of Viola and iron? But what happened after the Battle of butter is what's also important. After the Battle of butter, one day, a molar you know what ammonia is? The free slave, a free slave is you should call a molar and a molar of IoT Ultron she was a female free slave. She came to God Allah that I'm that

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Ali, did you find out Did you know? Did you hear he says what? He says that someone has sent a proposal for the for the HANA marriage of the daughter of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So he says, really? He says, yes, she says, yes. So then she says that, didn't you have a desire in your heart to marry the daughter of the province of salami? He says, yes. So he says that then you go and you express your feelings before the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I mean your family, go and talk to the Prophet SAW while while he was setting them. So he said that.

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He said that I don't know what what I will give. I mean, I'm not prepared for this. Yes, I do have the wish and the desire to marry the daughter of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but I don't know what to do. And so she said that listen, just go to the Prophet SAW Salem, and see how this thing plays out. Now Subhan Allah, we're talking about who Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam, ALA, you know, the author, and he comes and just like any son in law, is scared of his potential father in law, okay? Because he's asking for the hit the person's daughter's hand in marriage. He came before the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, it says that he was no shivering.

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He was no sweating. He came to the Prophet SAW tsunami, he says that, and the problem says that I leave what do you want? I mean, you came to me, what do you want? And I thought he's a quiet, he just, I mean, he didn't have the nerve to say anything. And then the province has some says that it seems like you have heard about Fatima. And it seems like you have come to ask me for faulting was hand in marriage. And it was the unsaid that yellow so Allah you caught me, you know, that's exactly why it came for. And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam then said that Ali, what do you have? Do you have anything? And he says, Yes, sir. I don't have anything you know, I don't have

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anything. So he says that do you have the shield that I gave you one time? He says yes, I have that shield. Yeah rasool Allah, he was hired that that is the MaHA for Fatima Ravi, Allah, Allah Allah, and hence you will be married to you. Now what are you gonna do that I did was that he went to the marketplace. He gave that shield. He sold that shield or thrown all the data and he found out about this. He said that alley let me buy this shield from you. He bought a shield. And he gave him 400 Did hums he gave 400 homes to Oliver Viola tonight, and he says that you take this to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And then he said that Do you understand that this shield is mine. And I

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have a right over this more than you and are you able to answer that? Yes Andy now is yours. You gave me money for the shield it belongs to you. And he says that Do you understand that you are more in control or you are the sole owner of the 400 homes that I gave you? And he says yes I am fully in full control of this. This is my this is my property now. And then it said that Osman Rodon. He took that shield and then he gave that gift he gave it as a gift to a little the Allah Tala and he said this belongs to you too. And so then the problem is, then Ali was on he came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he says yes, Allah, this is what I have. He says, Hi, the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he then also gave fotmat of your waterline her

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a water skin, he gave her a pillow that was stuffed with the inhale leaves the leaves were a special leave. That came from a special tree during the time of the Prophet saw some they had a very special scent. So the Prophet saw seven had a pillow that was stuffed with these leaves. So he gave that as a gift to Fatima Rhodiola Alana, and then after that, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the marriage was conducted. He brought in a little Viola that if he even gave orders to get Fatima ready, he He then called it a little yellow outline. Instead that he then calls five out of the allotted on hmm. And you know, father might have said that she when she came in, she was even shy.

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She was shy of a little Viola on but she was initially shy from her own father too. And it said that the problem is on him. He made her feel calm about the situation. And then he ended the call was conducted and then he gave special instructions to the allotted time that you go, and you live your life but he said that before you began living

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with each other before you go to her, he said that I want you to please inform me. And he said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he came, he performed the will do, and some of the water that was left over from the window, he took that and he's sprayed he you know, he threw some that water on fire tomorrow, the Allah Tada. And I'll even we thought about the hola line. And it said that the Prophet sal Allahu Allah, he was sending them, he then let them the marriage was then consummated. And then the day later or a few days later than the walima was then conducted. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he gave special instructions to somebody on Saudi companions to

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slaughter a goat, and then the meat will will be distributed. Now, there's more things I want to share with you. But I will stop right here. But there's one important thing I want to share with you here because this, this has a lot to do with the marriages that we see today happening, what we see from the seed of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, especially in this case, where he gave faulty mass some gifts. Remember that he never gave his other daughters any gifts. When Xena got married, there was no gift, when only consumed got married, there was no gift. When Rokia got married, there was no gift he gave Fatima or the author on her a gift these these small gifts. Now,

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one thing that we learn from this is that unfortunately, today and this happens, you know, subhanAllah in places around the world and Muslim countries and in Muslim Societies, where there's a lot of Jackie Leah and J. Leah has spread throughout the community. And within the society, there are so many different places where you see women who are struggling to get married, women who are struggling to get married, and you know why they're struggling to get married is because in many cases, there is demand in the marriage that they have to give more into the marriage, then the man has to give him a hug. So for example, there are many cases overseas that I hear about that. And not

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only that, but sometimes you might hear some of those kinds of cases over here. But in art, in many cultures, the idea is that of course, the Mahara is there, the mahute is there, the man has to give a certain amount of money. And the idea is that the man is the sole responsible person to financially take care of his wife. That is the responsibility of the husband. However, in many cultures, the idea is that the MaHA is going to be given by the husband. In fact, there are many cultures who even believe nowadays not long ago, but today that the MaHA is only going to be given in the case that that marriage falls apart after the divorce. Okay, that's what the idea is,

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although Islamically speaking the MaHA has to be fixed prior to the marriage, if the wife agrees, that it can be postponed and he can be given later on. It can be given later on. And if the wife says that, no, I want the MaHA upfront and I want to Mahana in the beginning days of my marriage, then her honor, I mean, her request has to be honored. Okay. The next thing is that in our cultures, unfortunately, demand demand will give some Maha, but it's such a small amount of money. And in return, there is so much demand that the wife or the wife's family has to provide the kitchen utensils, she has to provide the furniture inside the bedroom, she has to provide the furniture

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inside the living room. And so there is more pressure, there is more pressure on the girl's family because of their lack of finances and the lack of funds. That then do you have so many girls who are living in their homes or living with their parents and they are unmarried, and they reach their 30s and their 40s. And then they live their lives unmarried. This is nowhere from our deen. This is nowhere from our deen. This is purely cultural. Once again, the Prophet SAW Selim and you see there's a difference between Muhammad and jazz. You know, we hear this concept Jazz. Jazz is what comes from the girls side. There is nothing in our deen that says that the woman has to enhance to

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give a jazz? Yes, what we find our deen is that the man has to give a Maha the man has to give a man once again the problem some gave too far to model the data on her. But that was not him saying that now we have to give something we have to give something to our daughter. And if the demand is there, you don't have to honor that. You don't have to honor that demand. Honestly, you don't have to under demand. So once again, the concept of Jahaz is nowhere in our deen. Yes, a gift can be given. I'm not saying that it is haram to give a gift the father says, or the mother and the father says that we want to give this gift to our daughter and for her husband. That's absolutely fine. But if the

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demand is made, that you have to have to give it then first of all people need to be educated that this is nowhere from our deen. In fact, I mean Subhanallah when you see this kind of situation, then it seems like the wife or the girl has to give a lot more to get married than the husband although is supposed to be the other way around. The husband has to be giving much more in order to in order to get married to someone so this is this something that I want to share something that we see from the CEDAW the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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And if someone says that well the province has some gave something to his daughter, so we should give something to our daughter to and that's the demand. Then once you do the same thing as a province or some gave give a pillow made from filled with leaves and you will see what the feedback is okay. And also gave a as, as the books have said I mentioned the waterskin given waterskin if you really want to follow the Hadith down to the letter, then do that. But this is nowhere found in our deen This is nowhere found within once again. Can you give a gift? Yes, yes, absolutely. But this idea that the woman has to give so much he has to give this furniture and that furniture and this

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and that. I mean, do you know that there are some cases where they have to spend their entire life savings just to get one daughter married? This is why our societies are destroyed because we have drifted from the Quran and the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and we have adopted in many cases, our culture as our religion. Yes, there are some parts of our culture that there is nothing wrong in adopting because they don't exactly conflict with religion. So if someone says that, that culture is completely has to be abandoned, No, that's wrong too. There are many things that they will do culturally during the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that the

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person did not say It's haram. But if there is something about culture that that clearly conflicts with our deen then yes, that is where we have to give preference to the deen and we had to do cultural aside. So I pray to Allah subhanho wa Taala that he gives us the ability to action has been Senator hurt and once again next week inshallah we will continue with the life of lamb follow the Ultron and getting into his Khilafah and of course there are many incidents that took place in his life inshallah we will come across them as the weeks as the weeks go by inshallah document la hate Subhan Allah we humbly Subhana Allah Hi, I'm Nick, nice to Allah in Santa Ana stuff. Look, I want to

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be late. And remember that next week inshallah we'll be asking you that why did he give one person seven that hums and why did he give one person? The other person one did him and don't come and ask me, okay, I'm not gonna give you the answer. So you try to figure it out on your own. Exactly. Okay. You

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