Nadim Bashir – 4 Advices For Our Youth

Nadim Bashir
AI: Summary © The importance of learning to recite the Law of Islam, being tested at all times, and not being called in by anyone is stressed. The need for everyone to wake up that their taqwa is not in the hands of Jesus is also emphasized. The importance of trusting Allah for one's life is emphasized, along with the need to stay engaged in a community and explore one's interests. The advice given is to find one's own interests and not waste money, to be focused and communicate with others, and to be mindful of one's daily deeds and to always be ready for opportunities.
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I ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that in

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this blessed month, and these blessed days of

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Dhul Hijjah,

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just as we have gathered

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here today on this day of jum'ah, may

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Allah

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gather us along with our families in jutul

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for those in the companionship of Rasulullah salallahu

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alaihi wa sallam in his sahaba Amin

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Amin. Just yesterday,

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we witnessed another janazah

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of a young man.

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Brother Suman Khan, may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

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enlighten his grave. May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

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make this journey of akhir an easy one

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for him. Him. May Allah

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grant his

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family, his parents especially,

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sabrul jameel Amin Yourubiral Amin.

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But yesterday was a moment for me that

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there are so many people in our community

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who have been passing away at a very

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young age.

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And this sort of led me to

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give today's khutbah,

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that today insha Allah, I want to just

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share share with our youth.

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And when I say youth, it's anyone between

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the ages of 15.

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It can go all the way even even

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to 35.

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But for our young professionals,

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our young crowd here, and not only that,

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but if you are a parent of a

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teenager,

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you can give them the same advice I'm

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sharing with you today.

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Today, in this khutbah, I want to share

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4 things.

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4 things that I believe

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that the youth need to focus on, and

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they need to keep in mind at all

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times.

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Number 1.

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For our youth and our teenagers and our

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young community members,

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always remember

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that you will be tested

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at all times.

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You'll be tested when it comes to your

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faith.

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You'll be tested when it comes to your

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taqwa.

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And how do we know this? We know

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this from the Qur'an, the book of Allah

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subhanahu wa ta'ala.

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First of all, we learn from Surat Al

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Kahf. A surah that we have learned from

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Rasulullah

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that we should be reciting

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on a weekly basis, especially on the day

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of Friday.

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But more than that, if you study

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the

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very first story of talks about a group

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of young men.

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Allah

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says that they

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they had faith in Allah

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But not only that, but Allah increased them

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in their guidance, in their faith, and in

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their taqwa.

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Allah

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talks about a group of young men

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who were being called

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in a direction other than Allah

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There was a king at that time

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who was calling people

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towards his worship.

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And these young men,

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they felt that if Even if we stayed

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at home,

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and we were just to be

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around everyone else,

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and we go with the flow, as many

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people say, just go with the flow,

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then they would have engaged in the shirk

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of Allah

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But rather for their own protection sake,

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what do they do? They change their environment.

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They chose to go and stay in a

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cave. As Allah says in the Quran,

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They stay in that cave for

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309 years.

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Though they felt that they were there only

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for a short period of time. But the

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point of the story is that just like

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these young men were tested in their faith,

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our young brothers and young sisters need to

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also keep in mind that their iman is

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gonna be put to test

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at all times.

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We are living in unprecedented times. We are

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living at times in a time where you

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have other issues are going on in our

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society.

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The other ideas,

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other entities,

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other ideologies

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that does not align with Islam,

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our youth are being pulled in that direction.

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And not only that, if that was not

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enough, we see what's happening in Gaza. And

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there are so many youth right now who

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are questioning their faith, that where is the

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help of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala? If we

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are on the haqq,

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then why is this happening? When we see

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children

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with That that You know, children without their

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heads. We are seeing photos

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where children are missing limbs on their body,

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and yet our youth are asking that where

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is the of Allah? I am losing my

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faith in Allah. They will come and ask

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me questions, and I wish I had the

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answer. But the only answer I can give

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is that this is in the hands of

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Allah

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I wish I had the answer, and I

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wish I knew when the help of Allah

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will come.

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But I cannot give that answer because this

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is not within

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my realm. This is not within my control.

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We have to put our trust in Allah.

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No matter we whether it makes sense, it

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makes sense or it does not make sense,

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we have to put our trust in Allah

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But the point is, brothers and sisters,

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especially our young brothers and sisters,

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our young professionals,

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you are going to be tested when it

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comes to your faith.

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You're going to be tested when it comes

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to your taqwa.

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When sins are calling you in their direction,

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what do you do in that situation?

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Do you say, There's no one who's gonna

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find out if I commit this haram. Or

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there's no one's gonna know if I commit

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this sin.

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Then who am I fooling? Because Allah

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knows.

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Just like we saw in the story of

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even Yusuf

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Yusuf alaihis salam is a young man

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being called towards zinnah. Even if the zinnah

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had taken place, there is no one who'll

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probably know about it. Of course Allah knows

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about it. But what did Yusuf alaihis salam

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do in that situation?

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No matter if the odds are stacked up

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against him, all the doors are locked.

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But this was a moment of of a

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test of faith. A test of taqwa. And

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what did he say?

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The law. He was being called towards zina.

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Today there are so many of our youth,

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boys and girls, being called in that direction,

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and they are at a crossroads,

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not knowing what to do. Brothers and sisters,

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just like today we Just like yesterday, we

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saw the janazah of a 26 year old

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man, and we are seeing so many other

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janazahs. Before this, few months ago, we saw

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the janazah of a 21 year old, brother

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Hadid Diwan, and so forth. We are seeing

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so many janazahs. Our young brothers and sisters

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need to realize and wake up that there

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is no guarantees in life.

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Something small can start happening in your life,

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and it can change the course of your

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entire life. Brother Salman, exact That's exactly what

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happened to him. He has some pain in

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his knee. There we They found a tumor

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in his knee. No one could have even

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thought about it. And when I tell people

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that it happened in the knee, then the

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first question they usually ask is, But how

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was that the cause of his death? Of

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course, did not spread through his entire body

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by the will of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

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But our young brothers and sisters,

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keep in mind there are no guarantees in

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life.

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Your life is in the hands of Allah

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You have absolutely no control.

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No matter if you go to the gym

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everyday, you play sports, no matter how much

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resources you have, your life is in the

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hands of Allah. Your taqwa, your iman is

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gonna be put attest

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over and over again. And these times

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do not fall into the traps of shaitan.

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That's the first thing that our youth I

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want to share with our youth that their

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iman and their taqwa is gonna be put

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to test. Always be ready. Number number 2,

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the second advice I have for our youth

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today

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is that always

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remain engaged.

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Engaged in what?

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There are so many things that are going

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on in our community.

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There are so many things that we can

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do from a social services

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perspective.

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There are so many organizations

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that are looking for help. There are so

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many people who are looking for volunteers.

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There are so many things, wallahi, living in

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Dallas and Fort Worth. One of the blessings

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that we have is that there are endless

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opportunities.

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But the key thing is you have to

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be engaged in the community.

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You cannot be isolated at home, not worrying

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about what is going on in your community.

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What is going on in the society?

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And we learn this directly from the seerah

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of Rasulullah

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We're

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talking about a time

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where he says

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He's telling his wife

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that, I remember that time when he was

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part of khillf ul fudool.

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A man came,

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he was a foreign man. He bought He

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sold something to 1 of the Qurayshi leaders.

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The Qurayshi leader said, I'm gonna give you

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the money tomorrow, I'm taking this on credit.

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The next day, this merchant went to this

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To the customer and said, that you took

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a product of mine, I sold you something

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yesterday, I'm here to collect my money. He

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says, What money are you talking about?

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I don't owe you anything.

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And the man does not have any other

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evidence besides his word. So what did he

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do? He went to the Kaaba, which was

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a common practice that if you want to

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get people's attention, you go to the Kaaba,

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and you began to raise your voice. And

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as it is naturally, when you began to

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raise your voice, then people are gonna pay

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attention. And that is when he made a

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claim that one of your leaders,

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he took something from me and he never

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paid me. And they came together. They first

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of all made sure that this man is

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paid. But not only that, but they made

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a pact

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which was called hilfulfudool.

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A social justice pact.

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That no person in Makkah will come, and

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they will be served unjustly.

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There will be no justice and tyranny against

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any foreigner here. And who was part of

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that? It was Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wasallam who

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was part of that. Was he a prophet?

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He was not even a prophet at that

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time. Which means that you're talking about a

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young man, a young Muhammad

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sallallahu alaihi wasallam.

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Wahi has not come to him yet, but

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he understands

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that I can be sitting at home isolated,

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you know, playing video games, and sitting on

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social media, and chatting with that person or

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this person, but rather, let me go outside.

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Let me make myself useful. Let me engage

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in my community.

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This is what I'm asking the youth to

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be. Be engaged in something. Do something with

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your life. You all have a different passion

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about something. Some people may have a passion

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of social justice. Some people may have

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a passion of education.

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Everyone has their own passion,

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but remain engaged with others. We also find

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even the story of Musa

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Think about today,

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if you found a prince,

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any prince,

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if you found a prince, usually these are

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kids who, and young men, who have grown

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up in prosperity.

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They have been spoiled.

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They get whatever they want. Why? Because they

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are the prince.

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They can get whatever they want. Their father

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has everything.

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And think about what would they do

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in the community.

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What would they do in the society?

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Often we find princes in this day and

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age, that they just All that they know

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how to do is blow off money.

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All they know how to do is just

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be extravagant.

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And the only time they will go and

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do something is for their name and their

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fame.

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Now think about the prince of Egypt. Who

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am I referring to? Musa

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Musa was the prince of Egypt. He grew

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up in the household of Firaun.

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He could have done anything. But the Quran

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says what?

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The Qur'an is telling us that even a

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man like Musa

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who is the prince of Egypt, he's not

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sitting at home, engaged in his own things,

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but he's going out in society. He's looking

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at what is going on in his own

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country.

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Because he sees.

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He sees.

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What does he see? That his own people

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are being oppressed. So he goes out to

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see what's going on. He's trying to get

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an understanding of the issue.

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Our youth, I'm asking you, there are so

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many things that you can do in the

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community.

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There are so many holes to fill in

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our community.

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If you're telling me that you don't know

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what to do, just go outside.

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Just like Musa alaihis salam is going outside,

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you go outside

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also. Observe your community,

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observe your masjid, observe the society, and ask

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yourself, what do you need? What do What

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can you do to help the community?

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And wallahi, you will find something

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that you can do to help the community.

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So this is number 2. The first one

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was that your iman and your taqwa is

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going to be put attest. Number 2 is,

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my second advice to the youth is always

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remain engaged.

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Number 3.

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Always go out,

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learn, and explore.

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Learn and explore.

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Once again, you could be sitting at home,

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but go outside,

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talk to people.

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I understand there is a wealth of information

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online.

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There is a wealth of information online,

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but the interaction, the amount you learn in

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interacting with other human beings is something that

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today many of our youth don't have.

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They don't know how to talk to people.

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They don't know how to engage with people,

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and sometimes it can become a very awkward

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situation. Why? Because they are they lack human

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contact, human conversation, human dialogue.

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Rasulullah

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is our best example.

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Think about this.

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He is a 25

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year old man, who got married to Khadija

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But before this,

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before this, he was a responsible

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man.

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Parents,

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I blame you some of the Some of

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you, I blame you for this too. You

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want to make everything easy, so easy for

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your children,

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that you don't want them to go through

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any difficulty in life. Life is tough.

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If you don't man them up now, then

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how will they become men in the future?

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You want to pay all their bills, you

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want to do everything for them, from a

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to z.

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And that is why, I'm gonna be very

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blunt about this,

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our young men,

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especially our young men This happens a lot

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to the sisters too. But the young men,

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when they grow up, and they've been living

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in a house where their parents

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have done any everything for them, that in

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life, the smallest things is gonna cause them

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depression. The smallest things are gonna cause them

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anxiety. And then you have older men, and

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the smallest issues are causing them depression and

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anxiety, and they can't take care of their

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family. I blame the parents.

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I blame the parents

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because you babied those children.

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So many of our young men, they are

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overly mothered,

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underly fathered.

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The father is not in their life.

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Teach your children, brothers.

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Make

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them into men.

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Let them go out. Let them explore. If

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they don't know how to do something,

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tell them, you figure it out.

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There It's not like they don't know how

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to figure it out. You can go wallay

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today on Google, YouTube, and find out anything

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that you can.

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How to do this, how to do that.

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Tell them, you go and figure it out.

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And when you have to When there is

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no rock, rock unturned,

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then you come to us and you ask

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us.

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But as parents, we wanna do everything for

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them. Let them go out. Let them explore.

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Rasul

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is a shepherd.

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He is a shepherd. You know how difficult

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that job is as a shepherd?

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Going out in the morning, taking the animals.

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You cannot even communicate with an animal, for

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God's sake.

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But he's taught He's taking care of animals.

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But what does that Being a shepherd, what

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does that do to the Prophet

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It makes him brave. It makes him strong.

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It makes him patient. And that's why every

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single nabi was a shepherd. And not only

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that, but after that he became a businessman.

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He became He got married at the age

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of 25. But before this,

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at the age of 22, 23, 24, what

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is he doing? He's traveling

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internationally

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And he's doing business. He has that much

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That much confidence in him.

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That he's going out and he's doing business.

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Today, we have so many of our 25

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year old young men, who don't know how

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to do the basics of their life. And

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yet you find the greatest example for us

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is is Rasulullah

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He's an international businessman

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at the age of 22, 23, and 24.

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Let our kids, youth, go out,

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Explore. Learn from others. See what's going on.

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So this is my 3rd advice, that go

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outside

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and learn and explore.

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And the 4th advice I have for our

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youth

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is,

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I see a lot of youth, and the

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reason why I chose this is,

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I see a lot of youth,

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they are they want to do one thing,

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and they literally, they stick with it for

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like a month, a month and a half,

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and it does not work out, they jump

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to the next

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Okay, let me try this. And it's all

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social media driven. It's all social media driven.

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Because on social media, everyone is telling you

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how to make a buck, how to become

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a millionaire overnight. So what is happening is,

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you find so many youth, they're looking at

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this and they're like, okay, you know what?

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This might just work out. And they do

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some of their research. And they try for

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like a month and a half, it does

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not work, let's jump to the next thing.

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And then this does not work out for

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a month and a half or 2 months,

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let's jump to the 3rd option. And what

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happens is that they're jumping around over and

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over again. And the key thing is

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that when it comes to anything for

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for anything to come into fruition,

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you have to give it time.

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You have to be focused.

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Think about

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Musa

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for a moment. When he goes to Madian,

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what did

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his father-in-law, his potential father-in-law, what did he

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tell him? He says,

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It was a 10 year contract.

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Musa alaihis salam was focused.

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I'm not saying that you have to be

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focused on one thing for 10 years, but

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find some focus in your life.

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There are so many you that I see,

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That they're jumping around from one place to

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another place, one thing to another thing. Even

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if there is a young man who's into

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knowledge and education,

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then they're always jumping around. If they're into

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social justice, they're always jumping around. Be focused

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on one area.

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Explore one area. Find your passion. Yes. It

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might take a little time to find your

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passion, to find your niche in the community,

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to find something that you can do, and

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you can excel,

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and propel at.

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But once you have that, then you excel.

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Be focused in your life. So four advices,

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once again, for our dear brothers and our

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dear young brothers and young sisters. Number 1

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is, Allah will Your your

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your iman, your taqwa will always be put

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to test.

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Always make sure that you always stay ready

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for that. Number 2 is

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be engaged in the community.

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Be engaged in the society, and see what's

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going on. Number 4 is always go out,

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explore, and learn, and communicate with others, interact

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with others. And number 4 is try to

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be try to find some focus in your

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life. I ask Allah

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to make us from amongst those who apply

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these things with

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I just want to take this, opportunity at

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the very end. We've we've heard these before.

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This is just a reminder for all of

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us. Today

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is the first day of the hija.

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And the prophet he

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says that there are no deeds that are

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more beloved to Allah

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except for the deeds that are performed in

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mean that the deeds if you did these

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throughout the entire year, any good deeds, any

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khair, any hasanah you did throughout the entire

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year, but the ones that are done in

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these 10 days of the khaydah

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are the most beloved to Allah

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And so that is why my advice, and

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just a reminder for all of us is,

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let's try to ensure that we excel in

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all the khair that we do. If we

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read Quran everyday, try to increase in your

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Quran. If we are doing try to increase

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in your.

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Less on our families, let's try to talk

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about the al hija. Let's try to talk

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about what is the al hija about. And

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if you don't know, and you don't know

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how to educate your children, I'm sure many

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of us here, we probably have a television,

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we have YouTube. Some kind of access to

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YouTube is something. There is a plethora

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of videos you'll find on YouTube on the

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virtues of

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Sit down as a family.

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Look at, watch one video. Talk about it.

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And there's gonna be so many perspectives

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of these 10 days

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of So once again, try to sit down

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with your family. Once again, Allah subhanahu wa

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ta'ala, he does not swear upon things unless

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they are extremely important. And Allah subhanahu wa

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ta'ala,

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he has sworn on these 10 days.

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The last 10 nights of Ramadan are the

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best nights of the entire year. But these

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days are the best days of the entire

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year. So let's try to take this time

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to come to Allah

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to rekindle our relationship with Allah

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I ask Allah to accept our good deeds

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in these 10 days of Dhul Hijjah. And

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And may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala help us

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witness the day of Arafah, minu rabbilalamin.

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Allahum

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Straight in line is filling the gaps.

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There is plenty of mom space inside the

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main hall so please come inside. Fill up

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the gaps. Brothers in the back two rooms,

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please come inside.

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You'll find some room inside, the main hall.

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Please come inside. There is still plenty of

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space.

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There should be no one. There should be

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no one in the back two rooms if

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there is space inside the main hall.

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The back two rooms are for overflow overflow

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purposes.

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Sisters, please make sure the rows are straight.

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Make sure there are no gaps in the

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middle. Sisters,

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brothers, please come inside the main

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hall.

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