Munir Ahmed – Session 54 Behaviour Towards Others
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The speakers emphasize the importance of speaking for women in dress and shirt, as it is not just a matter of speaking but also a fundamental belief. They stress the importance of being mindful of one's words and not just trying to make one's voice effoot. The conversation includes discussions on the use of "vanishing speech" and "vanishing speech" in relation to being good to others, as well as the importance of showing proper behavior and not being in a situation where guests are in debt. The speakers also discuss the use of pictures and comments on Instagram to inform actions, as well as the importance of staying clean and safe during the pandemic.
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Praise be to Allah send peace and blessings on the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa salam, and after slams to all rather than Sisters, we ask Allah to accept from us to purify our intentions for his pleasure to give us an nourishes with useful knowledge and understanding which is beneficial to us in this world and the hereafter and to give us wide sustenance.
On Allah we are utterly dependent and to Him is our return. There is no power and mighty acceptance of Allah. We were contemplating on Hadith number 15 is to remind you of Imam and know always about him from his collection in which he mentions that and be ready to allow and who all fall on the sword of light Salallahu Alaihe Salam let
me just remind myself sorry because mental block men can not be lazy Well y'all will acid failure who will hire and only a smart woman can uh you know be lazy. Well, y'all will
fail you cream Jarrod. Women can be lonely while young men who fail your Korean boyfriend or a well who want to be hardy, one Muslim, as he says.
And
here, we're saying the Messenger of Allah, Allah salAllahu Alaihe Salam said, Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let let them let him or her speak good, or be silent.
Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day let them be good and generous to his or her neighbor. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day let them be him or her be good to and generous to his
guests. And I made some
very quickly what we mentioned last time without going into details that this hadith in Bukhari Muslim from various Sahaba Abu Huraira, especially but one or two others, and also intermidiate mo doweled. This words that Imam no is chosen specifically, the ones in Sahih Muslim, but similarly, it just in different orders. It's mentioned in Bihari Muslim Tirmidhi I will download
for example, in one of the versions in Mojari. It says men can a woman over lay will your mill after the fall you can Jarrah begins with whoever believes it on a London last day they should be kind of generous to the neighbor and woman can they be lonely omit article you can play for then it mentions the guests. And then it mentions should speak good or be silent. In fact, many of them do mention speed with a be silent at the end, one or two minutes. At the beginning the order is not really that important. It depends on what chain it came through and how the narrator's remembered from from the sahabi or the Sahaba who are mentioning it and how they remember from prophets and allies to
remember they're giving you the meaning and the order is not crucial. In that regard. The meaning is still there, whichever version of these Hadith you take. Last time we focus
primarily on some of the comments of the people doing the exegesis or the exploration or explanation of this Hadith from the classical works, whether it's email, no reviews, or a trophy, or even Roger.
Some of that will refer to again and I refer back to Annie,
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whose book who heavily refer whoever heavily relies on even wrote, even Roger.
Humbly his works. But
so we focused on about speaking good or being silent. Yeah. And in a sense, the summary of it is that that doesn't mean to say fasting from speaking. Remember, it's not saying stay silent. It's saying speak good abuse I know always be careful before we speak and what we say.
And as I said last time, many ahaadeeth bring that idea out of, and we missed it last time. Sometimes it's, it's not just necessary but obligatory to speak, rather than be silent. And actually, it's a sin to remain silent. These are some of the things we talked about last time, while we're talking about speaking
of speaking good,
or, or just speaking, actually, the reality of it, Allah subhanaw taala met human beings and gave them languages.
Well, I mean, I at the end, Holika Khan, as Allah says, In the Quran, and honestly sounds that He created you.
And also he says, women IoT, he
help us somehow it will work the left I'll Cinetic amongst these signs means it is amazing benefits and bounties that Allah gave us. Aside from creation of the heavens, the earth is the variations
of languages l Synoptical. of tongues, meaning languages, and variations in colors. This is amongst the bounties of Allah.
For Allah gave a tongue the language, he didn't give it a give it for a purpose. Yeah, of course, the tongue has purpose, many purposes of testing, etc. But one of the primary persons human beings being an ability of the human being is expressing themselves in language. So if Allah gave us a tongue, he didn't tell us too fast from speaking that so this is not part of the bad as we mentioned last time, but I'm taking it more on a basis of fitrah what Allah has created, gifted with a tongue, so we went word meant to sit silent. Yeah, the Haram side of our bad side of speaking is depends on what we say and how we say it, as we said last time, but we're supposed to speak, and even
some people, and I'd like to mention this because I remember dealing with this issue, in in the 80s. involved in the dark one Islamic work again, this was a popular notion that was spread around which I was never happy with. Some people actually and you will have heard this, they made the voice of the woman.
Alright, what does that mean? All right, means that which is naked and what should be covered and hidden. Yeah. And there may be older in the sense that a woman not only should be hidden from men, yeah, of course, excluding the husband and the immediate family who have blood with blood ties. But then from other men, hidden with complete covering all stay inside the house. Yeah. And she shouldn't come out unless it's really necessary. Yeah, some scholars came with this idea up until this day, out from
early times.
So a really held place was like a prisoner at home. I'm being serious. This is this is the teachings of, of some. Over the centuries, it's been peddled this idea till this day.
If you ask
some of the people especially if you ask many of the very religious Imams who are coming out with scholarships and things, and what they come out with in the Gospel, a woman, you'd be horrified.
So, if I give you a picture, it would be that she comes out with really
a very essential, necessary reason. Otherwise, even and somebody said, What about shopping? And the husband said, No, I'll do the shopping. I can do it. Even though I really am. I've got time she can stay inside completely. So unless she comes out for some medical emergency, perhaps for her health, she has to be covered head to toe with black, perhaps one is showing. Anyway, I don't want to go into the issue of the job. You can look at me and my seminars on the hijab and the whole issue of the covering and Islam do a whole lot of seminars uploaded on YouTube as far as I'm aware.
available, but so the image aside
From that is to be matched booth is a prisoner in the house.
Not only that, she's not allowed to speak when she comes out because some of these people sent the voices aura, like she is to be hidden from sight because showing the face would be like showing her nakedness. That's how they see it. I'm quoting them, they also say speaking for her would be not allowed. And on that basis, some of them actually said about woman speaking on the stage and women giving lectures, women teaching with men sitting there all that is haram not allowed.
And what's the evidence? Are they trying us for the the voice being our well, they haven't got any actually. But in fact, the evidence that indirectly us are related to the wives of the prophets, Allah so which is mentioned in the Quran. And I mentioned this because it's about speaking, I remember when they had Ethiopia speaking good of being silent.
And here, I lost my glasses first. Yeah, nice. And maybe you're less Doneck I didn't mean that. These
in a debate on that fella, that
whole fella that.
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This is
so effective. You see verse 32. So that reverse 32 Yes, last month it says all wives of the Prophet you are not like any other women.
This is a very important statement of Allah subhanaw taala because later on it also mentioned in the same store that their good works are rewarded double compared to other Muslim and believing women and their sin is also doubled as well. So in other words, they have to be more careful.
So Allah saying you are not like other women in tech I don't know if you are God fearing if you fear God, ferrata Bonneville power
so do not
it's
some people translate this as saying do not
lower or make your make your voice Do not lower it or make your voice effeminate well actually you're a female What do you mean don't make it feminine?
I always found this really ridiculous if I don't laugh or cry about it actually. Because it's not saying that yeah, how can you tell a female not to make your voice effeminate?
Yes you can send to send to a man don't make your voice effeminate.
How can the Quran from the Creator come to females and say Don't make your voice effeminate to women where it's just nonsensical
a great tragedy to translate this first slide that
haha does mean to lower
but here you have to understand from the context and the conversation what it means yeah
and if I
the context
just Yeah, it's very important to have a sound so lower but he's not saying law your voice is saying fill out that nebulous bone bone pole is speech.
So how can I say do not be lowering speech it could be if you're literally on transfer pole can mean speech. Yeah, but that's where its original meaning is but sometimes it can be applied to the voice but it's not been talking about the voice here. Voice is salt.
Yeah, salt, which is used in other parts of the plant like last night person is in so look man.
What will don't mean so thick?
Yeah, that is control your voice meaning don't make it harsh. In the end Carol Swati laughs so total homies surely the harsh system voices now it's talking about voice not all old is speech. So in that part, the grand soap directly is being used that's voice so do to control the voice don't make it harsh shouting and bawling. Surely the harshest of voices is that of a donkey. Yeah. So that's a totally different issue. Allah smartlife talks to the Sahaba at the time, the prophets are still saying, Yeah, you're Latina, Amarula data for us where they can focus on things or you believe Do not raise your voices over the voice of the Prophet salallahu Salam you
Sahaba they were being told off they for they were in front of the prophets, and he was speaking there is that voice over in the discussing with each other? Yeah. Loudly that's
in decency and so so very poor etiquette because this is not like any other man is not even like a king or a queen. Yeah. How do people behave when they go before kings and queens and presidents here don't shout on ball. They're very reverent This is the messenger of God the final messenger Mohamed Salah solo. Yeah, so Allah Allah here mentioned the voice raising it. Yeah. Laughter foul us workable, then it goes well attached to Bill Holika.
Now, context tells us here that it's speaking now, don't raise your voices with the Prophet when you speak with him as you speak to each other. Don't use the same kind of
loud and
blaring speech. So even though he uses all that, but the context tells you that he's talking about speaking loudly and, and in a particularly particular way as you speak to each other be careful, meaning you speak to him with both humility and respect. Yeah. So
and then Allah smartlace, in the sense of Allah Fujairah says, in the Levine, a Yahoo donor as one of them. Surely those who control similar for a Look man, now you have blown up those who control their voices in the Rasul Allah, in the presence of the Messenger of Allah. Yeah. And it promises rewards for them.
And those who raise them, it says that they're white, their sins, their deeds, good deeds, maybe just wiped away.
La Jolla, who will totally get it, but the point being, and that but I
want to let you all while you don't even realize because this is insolence and great disrespectful about it. Now it's talking about the voice there more than anything, here in this area, saying about the wives of the Prophet salallahu Salam, it tells you the reason and that shows you the meaning and context the context tells you the meaning of it doesn't mean lowering the speech. What is lowering the speech mean?
And it doesn't mean making your voice not not effeminate. Yeah, so in other words, almost to speak like tries to be like a man which is speaking to men who are not caused by and close family. That kind of tackle loaf has not been sent from Allah His messenger. Nowhere did the messenger tell any woman when she came to speak? Can you speak like a man who's speaking like a woman? Can you change your voice please? Because these guys are getting
sort of worked up and attracted by just nonsense. Subhan Allah, we have authentic hadith about women singing with the prophets, ourselves sitting there, yeah, singing in a singing voice of people. Therefore, when accompanied by them, you know, I remember, in the early days, and this was in the 80s.
being affected by this kind of idea. I never really thought that saw the voice as Oh, I didn't know I never accepted that kind of thing that the voice of a woman was haram to listen to and blah, blah, blah. But the idea or the woman's shouldn't be so effeminate with a voice and push to try and speak that command that that affected us and I remember one of our teachers taught us this kind of thing.
In the other study in the 80s, and we had a visit in one of the conferences Islamic conferences organized by the forces at the time and that was a visit by the great designer elevate salary. Anybody heard of vailable Rizzoli
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It's a painful read, but it's an important read. I had
The privilege of meeting this that yeah, this moja this woman in her house in Egypt, and my family went to my wife and my children also met her actually. So they know that
and she, because of wanting to follow Islam and express Yes, she suffered at the hands of the Egyptian authorities was put in prison for long story. Nevertheless. Anyway, she was one of the guests at the forces conference, and she came to speak and we happen to be there. And I remember the brother who's a teacher for us, who I love so much and I'm respectful but that was his ideas at that time. He was saying to us, or look at this amazing woman
because she was she gave a lecture she's alright giving a lecture in front of all these guys and and women because voice Look, she's her voice sound like a man's voice.
It was as though she changed the voice that sounds on what we've been suggested with the brother who was saying this to me. Look, she's changed the voice to make it sound like a man aggressive, so she's fine. There's no, there's no problem here.
As though she's following some Granick verse which is telling her to do that, which is nonsense, actually, that was the voice of saying the love of Sally's that's actually normally spoke to men and
she didn't share the voice. So we will have been having this impression. You see, you can run away with wrong ideas that mashallah so Motoki from the Moroccan because she's actually changing a voice to people with a complete misunderstanding, misapplication of the verses in the Quran, or anything but from the Quran, so not telling women to change their voices and not being feminine.
And she spoke like that always. She had a very strong voice and, and a very strong presence, actually. And if you read her story, you'll understand what I'm talking about. Anyway.
So what is the last month? I say when he says here?
To the wives of the Prophet SAW Islam in the title novela. Tough button and Bill Powell? Yeah. And you are not like the women? Yeah. And you're the woman. If you fail a lot, then do not be with your speech. What because it tells you after failure, for yet malady fee, I'll be in Maryland.
So that the one who has disease in his heart, from the males with all the problem with the person? Yeah, the woman's not being blamed, as I say all Allah saying, so the one who has disease in his heart,
yet less than he should lust after you,
for young man or desire you.
So
what does it mean?
Don't be suggestive in your talk.
This hada means in speech, not too low, your speech doesn't make sense here. That will make the difference. It's about being suggestive in speech. So don't be suggestive in your speech. Not in your voice in your speech, but it can cover indirectly the voice as well but he's talking about words what you're going to use especially when not to change your voice, nothing about changing your voice. Instead, he says, and then locally sales to the profit size limb, his wives on whom he job was put to this segregation, especially because they were never going to get married. Again after the decimal profits Iceland or after.
Yeah, after birth, and so that was special for them. One Napoleon, and they are ordered this call not yet. Is an angle, a command from Allah and speak. So it's not telling them to stay silent. is ordering the wise the prophets, allah sallallahu to speak, lacuna, Paulo, rufa and speak speech which is everyday normal, good speech model here means speak like what you speak about in everyday things, not suggestive speech, but everyday things. How's the weather? How are you? How's your family? Blah, blah, blah? This is Gollum, not at all. Yeah, doesn't mean that you only have to speak about the Quranic verse says this brother, do you know this about the Prophet? Can you the word
Subhanallah this is just complete missing, not at all means here. What is culture? What people normally speak about there, it's fine to speak with others.
And you know, this has affected religious people in the sense of when they get the misunderstanding of this voice being our US
Speaking to men yeah
I think actually more than some many Muslim women who tried to be practicing because of their teachers who are teaching them have a in the back of their head does have a problem with them talking to men and I've said this in the mosque and I've said it many times in circles and in person as well that they're all right these women mashallah with a job who have the greater respect for for my sisters they're all right speaking to the milkman and the teacher at school non Muslim no problem that pretty relaxed about it. But soon as a Muslim man coming outside a mosque whether it's the imam or otherwise walks by, they have a problem. They don't never mind our problem they don't even say
salaam
Okay, fine. They don't say so. They don't even respond to salaam when I'm standing they ignore you and I say it loudly on purpose. Yeah, as though there's something wrong with the speech they're not supposed to speak this is completely alien to the Quran and Sunnah I did not acceptable and when when the obligation of replying to Salaam is mentioned yet by Allah Allah and by the prophet size alone more reward for the one who became begins but the Quran tells you that if you are greeted that you must greet back yeah, that is for male and females. Yeah. So this
scrambling of the brain and this mentality has affected the public and people who tried to be religious and I think it's
it's missing the point and missing the mark Yeah.
missing the point and missing the mark. How are you brother? How you sister how's your family so I'm I like to live in Florida you're coming to the mosque or a nice day to speaking like that. This Quran and Islam teaches added an etiquette of how to speak Yeah, to the opposite * doesn't tell us to remain silent. Neither does this lead. So you know, in in line with what we've talked about last time about speaking good or remaining silent. Yeah.
Speaking good includes yet speaking good doesn't mean that it has to be just about Quran and Hadith and the hereafter visit Everybody understand that? Speaking good. Yeah, as the Quran says, Cool. Now the MA HuFa means as long as it's not harmful, as long as it's not lies or deceiving or backbiting are slandering of gossiping.
But speaking about the weather about how you are about about what you're doing and things like that on the speaking good
so I hope that clarifies
some aspect of that idea which has led to I believe great injustice to many of our sisters who feel as though you know when they speak that summer summer they've got to not only hide but to hide their voices as well. I'm afraid this is contrary but against the grandson I believe strongly in that regard.
So as I said, we're women and I wanted to mention
if you miss it remember I missed the last time on the
remaining silent what to remain silent from remaining under the title of speaking good, what kinds of things and how to be honest and truthful and
not lie. And in that regard, there's
I think I mentioned this
Yeah, I did mention this I will skip over that. Now. The next section of the Hadith as we have it the version in front of a Muslim in my memories is mankind you're gonna be liable. Your will ask you to file your claim Jarrah.
And as in some versions should be kind of good and generous covers all that he Cron. Yeah, you cream covers all those things. And in some Hadith as I mentioned last time, it says phala your V Jarrah, for example, in a leaf which is
in Mojave, yeah. That they should not harm the neighbor.
Should not harm the neighbor. Man can be low volume will ask him. It mentioned as Yeah, Folau your V Jarrah, as a version in Sunni Muslim. Yeah, whoever believes our last day he or she should not have
The neighbor that's the taking it from an opposite and
not harming them is like
is is being good with them as well. And in the Gospel the, the
neighbor
there's a comment I liked that was made by
hassled bacillary
when I have a whole lot which is Mason as a Hadith of the Prophet sighs So it is not the for profit so Salomo so lambic is a statement of hustler bustling. So hospital bacillary, who died in 110 Hijiri from a tabby
was a great scholar. And as I hit, he said, Lisa hospital Juwan
cup will allow we're lacking hospital job demand as you said, being a good neighbor, or being neighborly is not just holding back sound from the neighbor. However, being a good neighbor is bearing up with the harm posed to you by the by the other neighbor with summer. That is being a good neighbor. That is being that's what he's explaining what being kind, generous and good to the neighbor is about is what you can bear from them. Not like most of us are. He swore as want and will swear back 10 times yeah, that's our most most people are like, aren't they? And that's how we become like that we need to seriously think what is being neighborly and what is good. So that's
exam that is being good to the neighbor, as we'll see, which is brought out
in a verse of the Quran as well. But before I go, there are
so many things, so many a hadith mentioned by the Prophet salallahu. Salam in regards to the neighbor. I mentioned last time briefly before we finished that neighbor as email notices and emails and it's missing as an opinion of ISO 31. I know he says it means 40 houses in every direction from where you are.
Yeah. And that similarly miss from Molina I struggle on her in a circular route around 14 houses. But what do I mean by that? We have to take that literally, what are they actually saying? They're saying it in their time and context. But what they're actually saying that a neighbor is the neighborhood as I said last time, yeah. So this isn't limited to just the person in your in the house next to you on either side. And this is very important to remember.
In regards to the application of this etiquette, which is ordered by the prophets, Allah so
inquiry and Muslim Hadith report here from all the green eyes.
And in the
saying The messenger of allah sallallahu sallam said, and others as well report this nbfe Mazda Allah Gibreel you see me Bill jar, to Anna, who say you were rethought. Gibreel kept on
advising
advising about the neighbor
to the extent that I thought he was going to hear that he was going to give inheritance to the neighbor as well. That sandwich stressed with being there placed on the importance of the rights of the neighbor. That's what the profits or loss and I'm saying.
And in another Hadith, in Muslim Muslim
let me just this before I go there, this particular youth I've just mentioned about Gibreel advising is also mentioned in a Tirmidhi. His el Jamia and I like it because he has a little bit more detail. And he's mentioned here from Abdullah in our in the US. Abdullah ibn ambipolar. Us the son of Amity will ask obviously, was one of the companies that popped up and retro mania Heidi's not the other one he said
which I hated reporting from England TV and he said the zombie had level sharp feet and leave me Philip Majah on
a sheep had been slaughtered for the family. Our
family blew us okay for that consumption.
And you came, meaning we came home all and he said, If they totally Jatinder yahoodi as they told in January your hoodie Have you gifted or given some of this meat to our, our Jewish neighbor. You repeated it twice stressing on it. Because he said so metatarsal Allah His Salah lesson on your call, I heard the messenger of allah sallallahu Sallam say, and he mentioned this at least Mozilla Gibreel you see needle jar, attachment to under pulsar you were before Subhan Allah, that's the Latin that I'm gonna be playing. Yeah, are playing the statement of the prophets Iseman and that's why I like that have you seen which is authentic in telemovie as well, which gives it a bit more
detail from the sahabi putting things into practice.
The Muslim mathema no mention from Abdullah Omar. He sent the message of Allah Allah so Allah wa salam sent la Yes, that was McMinn Dona jarvee.
A believer can never be full. Yeah, full with food meaning and without his neighbor.
A be believers belly, in other words cannot be fooled without his neighbor. This hadith is good. The famous one that we normally is quoted and mentioned that that person is not a believer who belly is full and his neighbor is hungry. Yeah. This is mentioned by Al Hakim as a statement of the Prophet salallahu Salam, but it is weak from the Prophets Allah Salam.
However, it
is a statement can be said as a statement of the land Ambus Abbas in alcoholism offered
other boom offered. Yeah. meaning is the same as the one which is a good Hadith in Ashburn, from underline the Homer saying La Yes. brought me to a charity. Yeah, a moment a real believer doesn't have their belly fall under without the neighbor. So you can see that most practice wearing Belemnite us as well.
In saying Muslim, on the other hand, we Fabi he says on our sunny Holly Lee sallallahu alayhi salam from home Allah He said, My dear is advised me mean the Messenger of Allah salAllahu Salam saying is that the busta Martin for external matagal from from Mundo Illa Ali Beatty JIRA avec for our simple home in Hobbema roof saying that My dear is he said to me, Salah Salam everybody's saying that if you cook some soup, yeah.
Then put extra water in it and then look to the families of your neighbors and give some to them. Yeah, me my roof. Yeah in a good way give some to them as in
which is
to share with them basically, in a good way. So that's nice that you can say Muslim mentioned by reported by me.
Then,
of course,
the famous one in Bali Muslim, where the Prophet sallallahu sallam said Wallahi law you mean who Allah He law you may Allah He lived by Allah, he or she is not a believer by Allah he or she is not a believer, but Allah he or she is not a believer. They said, Who who you're talking about a messenger of Allah? And the publicizing them said Mila mono mental journal goober white.
When he says Allah by Allah is not to believe that this is the same as this hadith. Yeah, I remember what Imam poofy said not to make people Catholic. This is exaggeration to show about the seriousness of this etiquette. Yeah, that's what prophesised says here in this hadith, men can be liable your Mala who really believes in Allah and the Last Day than they should be so so. So this is similar by Allah he is not a meaning he's not really realized what being a puppet probably will it breed believer is that Allah?
Who, the one from whose harm a neighbor is not safe.
The one from whom So whose harm a neighbor is not safe. This is similar to this hadith, but remember, being good and considerate, unkind, and as you know, some other version of this abuse they said, Men can be learned well you owe me
as
fat fella, you, the fella, you VG doesn't have his or her name.
And in another version is saying Muslim, the Prophet saw the lie or the pool janitor.
Mullah Uber white.
From
that person will not enter Paradise,
from whose harm a neighbor is not safe, that person will not enter paradise. From Wuhan, a neighbor is not saved. I mean, this is
really serious stuff, isn't it brothers sisters, Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran for your note to make note insula and the sap, chapter number four, Allah to mitosis in verse 36.
While I'm alone, love to see Kobe Shea with you early the Sanno wherever you live, or Olga, Tana.
So all of you worship and serve Allah and do not associate anyone with him. Or any air quality to be his che. Don't not associate anything with Him. Then why bill? Walidah in F Santa, and be sure, son, the best of dealings with starting with priority with the parents. Yeah, then says we'll be the quarterback and then the relatives as some of the relatives? Yeah. Well, then it says, Well, yeah, term, and the orphans wellness team, and the poor people. Well, Jerry Dill koruba. Now it comes to Jar Jar. Okay. Notice, well, Jan ETL, Cordoba and the neighbor, who is from your relatives? Well, jar genome? You Yeah. And the neighbor who is not from the relative, a stranger? Stranger doesn't
mean that you don't know them. It means non relative, but their neighbor, show them axon as well. This is a list then it says was sat here was five wasafi. Bill, Jim.
Yeah. Some people say the, the the neighbor who is not from the relatives?
Not for that one. Some people said for the neighbor from the relatives. They included the wife in that. Yeah. Others said for
wasafi Bill was so happy because the gym and the companion who is next to you? Yeah, I believe that's the best meaning of including the wife, you could include it in the other one as well. So it can have a wider meaning the person next to you. It can have the meaning of wife in it, but it can also include the person next to you wherever you are. Yeah, companion that you're with companion you're traveling companion in your class companion University companion. What? Yeah, they're all included in was Sahibi Bill jump, including your friends. They're all included in that show them as well. worthiness. Abby and the traveler the traveler, some people some officer and said that we're
the traveler included in that is like they're like the guests. Yeah, they can be a guest traveler can become a guest as well. A guest obviously has a wider meaning than just the travel when I look at a man all gone and what your right hands possess. Yeah.
And that was referring specifically to those were slaves to show them son in law. You hate both men cannibal.
For our for Surely Allah does not love the one who is
full of arrogance and boastfulness? In other words, to not show a sound to these people, and to behave with a with a behavior EQ sound, which is being kind, considerate, yeah.
All the best qualities you can think of with all these category people. It's a big, big and wide areas. And if you look at the list, to not show that shows that there's an element of arrogance of looking down upon them in you, whether it's the neighbor, whether it's the stranger, whether it's the traveler, whether it's the colleague, yeah
All that, because Allah wanting surely Allah doesn't. Why is the end with actually Allah doesn't love those who are full of boasting and arrogance? Yeah, because some of the worst, that's what's going to prevent you and the is carried on. So this idea here.
Yeah, that goes in line in regards to the dealing with the neighbors. It's already mentioned in the Quran about showing a sample of neighbors. This is actually a reflection on what the Quran is saying. For Ukraine. Jarrah is Xand Zaxxon. To the job to the neighbor. Yeah.
And if some meaning going over and beyond what's necessary, yeah, that's what Ron is talking about showing the best of behavior
towards that category of people starting with family, parents, parents, family, relatives, and going wider and wider.
Including the poor and the orphans. Look how beautiful these teachings are, and what kind of people actually quality of people believers are meant to be. Yeah, but that would have such an impact on on society, if we believe us behave like this. Yeah, behave like this. And now
remember, when he's talking about parents here, it is not qualifying it and saying, Yeah, parents are believers. When unless one last thing to you all, all of you worship Allah don't associate anything with Him. While bill while he then s Santa. And so Assam to the parents. All parents believe and display has nothing to do with it. Yes. With the relatives reveal quarterback don't say will be the quarterback who are who are believers, show best behavior with relatives with orphans don't say with Muslim orphans, and have nothing to do with non Muslim orphans. Nothing like that they're in the ground. And we can't just add it because we feel like it. Well, Mossad came the poor
people. Yeah. All poor people. And I remember when he's mentioning neighbor,
after it, then being a neighbor in your neighborhood gives a bigger priority.
As we'll see in a minute, causing harm out there to people
in the public, is bad. But to cause harm, the same harm to your neighbor is much worse. To be good to those out there in the public is good. But being good to the neighbor fulfills more than the duty of estan to the public. It covers the rights of the neighbor as well. And therefore it is of greater reward. And this is very important to understand. Yeah. So the neighbor, no qualification of being believer or disbelieve has been put on it.
Yeah, as to be believing there. But yeah. Nothing like that. Grant. Look at the example we just missed in Hadith in terms of the ability to abduct on us. Have you given some of this sheet that's been slaughtered for us to our Jewish neighbor?
Yeah, have you done that?
Again, bringing out the same point, what I'm trying to say. So
as I've just said that causing harm to the neighbor is
a biggest thing.
And I'm going to
mention a few things in line with that one. In Sable, Hardy Salem or Hardy woman what being isolated, Anna said cool to ya rasool Allah said I sent a messenger of Allah in Alija. Lane. I have two immediate neighbors she's talking about now for Illa au Houma.
From which of them should I give a gift to if I only have one gift? In other words, and the prophets Allah Salam said, ILA up Rafi Hema Min Ki Bab and
give it to the one whose door is nearest to your door.
Yeah, nearest to your door.
If everybody followed that, then you don't jump over the right from the one nearest and go further. Not that you're not allowed to but they have breached that priority. So the box is saying give the one whose door is nearest to your door. If you only have one gift and you want to give it to a neighbor, and then
to harm
A neighbor. For example, this leaf inside Buhari
reported from Ebola going to be a blinding Massoud here, I think saying he says sell to the BU Salalah Nabi sallallahu alayhi salam, I asked the Prophet, peace be upon him, a US zombie. I use them be in the line. What's sin is the greatest before Allah.
Allah salAllahu Salam, the mess of Allah Azza wa sallam said and Tezuka Allah Allah He made that that you set up partners we've got one who our follow up,
yet He created you called Dan, I said, in America Aleem, yeah, he said, I said Surely that is a big big thing. Gold from the Yukon.
Then he said, I said, After that what is which is the biggest of sins and the midst of a loss of loss and I'm saying What am doula Well, the half and Jana, that you kill your child? Yeah, fearing that
he's going to eat with you meaning out of like the Quran Benson's like talk to Allah the Sherpa inland, National Zoo, conga, Jaquan
don't kill your children. Yeah, either through abortion or otherwise fearing that you won't be able to provide for them, we will provide good risk for them and for you. In other words, trust in Allah, whatever you're going to be tested with. That's not to say that you're not going to be tested with famine. If the famine comes to a country of course, you know, you can't apply that or Allah Prime Minister's risk. And now we're suffering famine in Africa for three days and children are starving, they will not know medicine, but humanity is being tested. There is not lack of risk and provisions in the earth. It's those who are controlling it and those who are not sharing it. And all these
things are many factors at work but Allah provides the risk but you don't kill the children.
Well, somebody said I said that was after that the blessing of Allah and Tucson near Halle, Lata Jarick that you do adultery with the wife of your neighbor.
He specifically mentioned that
the How Does that clarify this clarified further in a hadith which says mason by your mumble fighting is a little more accurate, which is a
good Hadith
he said sorry, Salah Rasulullah Salallahu Salam as harbor who Anissina messenger of Allah Slussen asked his companions about adultery and fornication.
They said, All haram haram Allahu wa solo. Of course it's haram forbidden, Allah his Messenger forbidden it for all
nodded, and said, Leon Yes, near Raji B Asher B miswak. Asa ASA Allah Alayhi mein and yes Nia in Marathi GRE
that a man does adultery with 10 Women
is less less meaning of a sin upon him less better than that he does adultery with the wife of his neighbor shows you the neighborly rights how seriously. So the for good for this law coverage was good, and priority of the neighbors and the neighborhood as compared to those who are further away. Of course the message in the Hadith isn't that go around doing adultery with everybody else, but don't deal with your neighbor. I'm sure you haven't understood it from that. But if you're going to grade the sin difference between the two then that is a greatest sin. And so the other one is a big sin but this is even greater. Because a neighbor I suppose to have trust and more from you know, you
feel that your neighbors are keeping an eye and that's how it should be that you trust your neighbors and if you have untrustworthy neighbors, you can't even sleep at night. If you have untrustworthy people living far away. doesn't really make much difference to you. But if your neighborhood is that kind of neighborhood, yeah, well, the alarms are always going off and themes are always ransacking you don't sleep at night. Yeah, it's much more serious, isn't it? It affects the very soul and living of people they can't even rest or relax.
And here's a hadith which brings together the controlling of the tongue, as far as good character and the neighbor in it. This hadith is quite famous and is mentioned by Imam Ali
is a little more fruit and it's a little more friendly doesn't have I suppose like Sahil, Bobby. He never says I've got Saudi Arabia but there are many good, authentic or hustler bees in it. And this is one of them. This is Abu Huraira saying I heard a couple nurses
say sorry, Galen that Linda de Sala, it was said to the Prophet sallahu wa salam ya rasool Allah O Messenger of Allah enough Lowlander that one will lay what assume on the heart there is such a such a woman. Some of you will know this because I've mentioned it a few times before on different lessons such as such a woman she stands praying in the night and she fast during the day so he's touched you they're talking about extra fasting and extra prayers in the night but agile or slightly whatever.
And she does good works other good works and she also gives lots of charity work talk Z Gianna hobbies Talia. Nevertheless, she is harms her neighbor by with a tongue with a tone. Some verbs in this study just says that she harms her neighbor, but this version of it, which is good says that she harms by saying nasty things and it doesn't have to be swearing can be hurtful things Yeah, but it can include all that as well. So she's Hamza neighbor with a tongue
brings out the idea of the neighbors being good to her and the idea of controlling the view for callers who live on the lifeline. So one of the myths from the last lesson Sunrise Sunset he said last year that he's no good in her
Subhanallah
now will be loving Valley will save us from that the prophets Allah says there is no good enough she's praying in the night and she's giving charity and doing other things and fasting during the day fasting during the day extra I'm looking at the messenger Allah says Salah so he's saying that he's no good here he I mean Aldi nurse she is from the people of the fire call you that fits with that will Allah he lie you mean wala he likes me but Allah that person doesn't believe that London was the person doesn't believe. And then they said then they sent the Sahaba Wafula to sell Lille Matoba there's such a such a woman she praised the five daily prayers what the sadaqa be as well.
And
as to gives bits and bats. Yeah,
you know very small thing as well as some people translate it as a curdled milk or like cheese away as sort of a last minute there was very little chicken she gives us some will have to be added but she doesn't harm anybody. And that can mean with the tongue and otherwise, I'll call lice Allah Salam so the Messenger of Allah muslim said he, I mean, he'll Genma she is from the people of paradise, somehow Allah may Allah make us of those people who are from the people of paradise.
Now
the last part is
I want to finish it in the next 10 minutes, if you give me permission is to do with
about the Ukrainian BIFA. About the guests. The guests in Islam in the Sharia has a big right, Huck, to the extent that a guest as long as that and that guests can be a traveler as some sort of scholar said referring to the chronic I always mentioned being showing Asana to the traveler, wellness Sabine, that guests be somebody who
somebody you may know, but it may be a stranger traveler. And you know,
I've heard so many stories of people in Africa or people in remote parts of Indonesia,
from non Muslims
from the west or in Morocco, in the Muslim who've traveled and they're in the middle of nowhere. And, and the Muslims there,
open their home to them and feed them or give them a place to sleep. And just strangers. They'd have all kinds of looks and appearances most of us won't let them even in our garden Government House. Yeah, some backpackers are just wandering around.
And they've been treated like that by these Muslims. Nobody knows their names. Nobody wrote stories about them. They're not famous for doing videos like me on the on the telephone, or giving lectures in mosques or their demands and just ordinary folk looking after sheep or just an ad and those people who went there some affected so much by that hospitality. They embraced Islam, others
left the math on their life forever. Yeah.
I know some of you have heard such stories I certainly have. And that really fits with the practice of, of the, the, what the prophesized London messenger took in the Gospel. In fact, in,
in, in some of the Hadith it mentions that a neighbor
like, you know, this hadith, which is from the prophets of Salaam, Laila, who by Allah Cooley Muslim, but one night of being served as a guest Yeah, that doesn't mean just for sleeping is a rite of every upon every Muslim is a duty and every Muslim for the guests that is not Muslim.
Again, a guest but the Muslim to give that right to the guest. He said ut on the family asked Baja before Befana he felt La La he they known whoever doesn't get that fulfilled from the host that neighborliness then it becomes a debt on that person. Because they didn't give that right to the guest. If inshallah Tada inshallah Tarik if the person has the means by which they could have given the right to the guests in this underneath the box, or they can actually take the right you can just get some food or some materials don't just take it, because then a right to it, or, or they can leave it and some scholars said they can take it to look at the party, the judge. Yeah, yeah, for
fulfilling that right. And the judge can prayer make a pronouncement on the person who didn't give the right to the neighbor Subhan Allah.
The Prophet sighs
mentions in
various, a hadith, for example, and some of these versions of this hadith that we're dealing with actually deals with this specific issue and by the by mentioned about the, the neighbor as well and about speaking without being silent, but it's focusing on this
on the guests. In this hadith inside Muslim, the Prophet SAW from them he said, on behalf of two Selassie to a young that being a guest or hosting for someone is three days and someplace meaning three nights as well. Which is to who your one well, a little Jack is
is described by the dilemma as having the best meal that is possible for the host to give, not just their own knew what they have, but the best of what they're able to afford. without going to the zoo to kill off. Yeah, and I play fire that in a minute. Now it also means the idea that they don't they don't get go out to the overburden themselves what they can't afford, but the best of what they can give. And then the guest has one night right to the best, which is at all yo Manuel ala one day in one night. While I hillbilly Raju, Muslim and European man in the UFI, Hatha Yoga Sima. However, it is not allowed for a person.
Yeah.
Do you gradually Muslim in for a Muslim person? Because probably so give me an advice the Muslim to stay at his brother's place. That is the host place. Yeah.
Until he makes him sinful. Yeah, Paul jasola Chafer your simile. So they said, O Messenger of Allah, how can you be making sin? So basically what I said, your chemo in the Hawala Shangela who you agree he be your curry he be that he stays with him. And the person doesn't have anything meaning as Paul means. And you can't really look after him. So he's making him sinful by doing that day, yeah, by putting him in a authority under strange circumstances. And he decides to turn up and stay Yeah, for a few days and nights. So don't do that. In other words,
or in one version, it says, Well, I killed all the who on your team or in
your region or your region I will not use for example your furniture who is not allowed for him to stay with the host until
the horse becomes is put under difficulty hardage Yeah, that he puts him under difficulty. So there is the right
look, for example, says
that the right
the right of the best food, the best treatment is one day and night
It's and then he said, normal food normal
everyday thing that the family eat is for the other two nights so three nights is right in total for those who are able to give us those one night is for special. Some people put the three nights extra over the one night or maybe four nights but the best I believe this this difference of opinion, I believe the best is three nights which is mentioned in various Hadith of the prophets on last summer. Just with this this distinction of the one night where special food is given like when the guest first arrives which is what we tend to do anyway
on would have been a hot dog on the Allahu and and this is mentioned by Imam Bukhari, it is not from the Prophet size, he said, but it's counted as Hadith because he said no, he now we were prevented from by who by the Messenger of Allah and and the color of that we go out of our way.
And the guest is not supposed to put the horse in a situation of love, but it becomes difficult for them to do something and the horse is not supposed to carry that burden either in athma and tagliani.
So manual fallacy says now Hannah Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihe Salam and the tackle LOVELY DAY family setting the Messenger of Allah so Allah Islam, prevented us from doing piccolo for the guests with things that we don't have. Right? This is like going overboard with a guest. And you don't have the means. So you go out of your way, putting yourself in debt, perhaps go to the shop and say, Can I have this on? I'll pay you later.
Don't do that. Yeah, that's not what we don't have to put ourselves yet. So this is the other side of the equation. People can't just turn up and you're in a constrained situation and find a horse that's telling them don't do that kind of dog put yourself in a debt situation in your truthful film. So it has rights to the host as well, to put that thing in balance.
So
let me summarize the bit about the the guests and the right of the guests. If the host has the means to serve the guests, then the guest has a right for three days nights. Yeah. One, the first day and nights that they are given the best of what the host is able to give after that, just what they have normal for their family.
It is not right for the guests to put themselves in, even for the three days. It put the host in a situation where they are unable to fulfill those rights. Yeah. And that's important for
unable and therefore, for in a situation of duress. Yeah. So one needs to be aware if they're able to be aware.
So that's the obligation side. So however,
let me finish with this beautiful Hadith, which was the suburban the Zulu friend ayah. In the Quran, the situation revelation, and some of you will know the story.
And this behavior of sorry,
the pain of one family and the answer is so exemplary, that Allah subhanaw taala revealed chronic if you got to it, but this behavior is not watching. It is not fun.
Though we behave like this. Of course, there's if Allah mentions it, how much grit and and wonder is in it, and it's showing you the kind of people the Sahaba were muhajir or unsolved? And we'll end with this and this had beef is mentioned in Sunday over hobby.
Probably, what does he say? He says, On the other hand, and that Agilent attended de Sala Leisel, that a man came to the Messenger of Allah salAllahu Salam and some rewire inventions. And this one, he doesn't say anything. But context tells you what he came for. In some reasons it mentioned
that he was, he was starving. He was really hungry.
They couldn't have a confined food. So you kept the Messenger of Allah. So the prophesy Salam said, by birth that you learned the setting, he sent a message or a message to his wives.
First of all now, and they said,
Ma'am, that
we don't have anything except water. No that shows you the state as of the prophets are somehow so
yeah, so hon Allah, the wives the prophets are still saying we've only got more.
And there's an authentic hadith mentioned by OMO Mortmain saying that some months would go by in the house the Prophet SAW Selim and no cooking would be done. Yeah, the only so what would that do eat and the answer was
watering days or less what they are is what
the watering dates on Sunday had for months at a time sallallahu alayhi wa salam
so he did what he can but his lives for him and for the wives they only got water
for color assuming last lesson for missing our login said I got sorry I can't do anything. So the missive Allah Allah Salam sent announced in other words may don't move all your beef will have that who will? Host Yeah, and take this person has a guess. For Colorado. So monster of a person mineral unsolved.
and I are a sort of Allah I will a messenger of Allah. Fontana can be he Illa Emirati Illuminati. So he took this hungry man to his wife, meaning to his home for Paul, a crummy day was a day furnace all the lights on the low Salam.
He said to his wife, be generous. Yeah. Yeah. Be generous to the guest of the Messenger of Allah. He's saying then the guest our guest says Subhan Allah, the guest of the Messenger of God.
He said for call Matt international food. So the irony. In other words, we all we don't have anything we've only got enough food. Yeah, for our children and somebody that just for us enough one meal for us and for the children for color
for call high yield, but on the on the key.
What, what OS B? He said I ergic What no one mean Cydia, Nick, either arrived to usher. And so he said
so prepare the food. He said to her, if that's what we've got. And he said
put on the lamps while you prepare the food. And when the children asked for food for the evening supper, the meal, put them to sleep instead. Hungry, in other words, put the children to sleep Subhanallah
so she did that she prepared the meal
and there wasn't enough for them to
the husband and wife.
And then she put on the light and she she put the children to sleep. So Muhammad can have justly hosted Raja
then she stood up as though she was trying to fiddle around and fix the lamp and there was something wrong with it. Pretending and she put it off. Yep. So Ajala UD Yanni and Neville Mallya, Poulin and they made him think the guest while he was eating that they were eating with him, but they weren't for bad data we ate in Yeah, and they spent the night
Hello going to bed hungry.
But look what happened in the morning. When it came to morning fella Moskva Awada Lanakila aerosolized salaallah Salam football
when the morning came. Yeah
when the I'm sorry, who did this when the guests went to the Messenger of Allah Azza wa sallam the missive Allah sort of said that he can law that he can Allahu Laila to Oh,
Allah was laughing here at the night or amazed by winning your behavior.
Yeah, I
mean fat likoma from your behavior, the husband and wife. Yeah, for Anzahl Allah. So Allah set down this area, meaning Allah is so so pleased with you. Yeah. So Allah sent down this area in
last, it's part of a long, long as saying where you see your own
foreseen while care
Nobody here Mufasa mean your guests your Hanif See he
will move layer four and their preferred others over themselves.
Yet even though they themselves were needy,
well I mean you can kind of say whoever is protected from the desire of their own soul. Yeah. Such are those who will be successful from Allah. May Allah subhanaw taala
Subhan Allah, may Allah smart Allah give the Mahajan unsoldered
great place in paradise May Allah give us of their company, make us worthy to be in that company and make us worthy to be in the company of the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa salam and May Allah help us to put these beautiful beautiful teachings into practice in our lives if we can't do it 100% Melisandre enlighten us and give us the Dolphy constraint to do whatever we can in our ability to better ourselves to be better neighbors to do better hosts and for those who speak the truth and good
all the time for long
Well, I think that one will humbly later have any questions rather than sisters sorry have gone on
your phones on mute sure
Sorry, I just put it on mute. I wasn't a mute all this time I hope no, no.
I may have been just talking to myself. You guys were all asleep
it's a beautiful Hadith isn't it? And there's so much else in the teachings any questions
No,
that's good.
left your silence of people at times we've gone over the time and people have gotten busy
you've been left dumbfounded
nothing
the first
sign that nobody's written a question No, miss. No, nothing's come through. Okay, brothers sisters.
If you give me permission then inshallah
I don't know if the word got out. Slowly. Goose de
la cama Salam Rahmatullah. I just want to know the reference for the last iron that you have mentioned.
The surplus sharing the food
that's been a reference from the IEA is where you're gonna
find it very quickly.
All righty nine verse nine. Oh,
you're welcome.
Okay. Yeah, I don't know if the words out. But it sounds that we've sent it out anyway, on with the link. So yesterday, we sent it to our usual group, so hamdulillah so inshallah we'll carry on next week.
Most of the brothers sisters here who are normally here, because not the next to these modalities after there's an issue that I want to cover. And I have an idea, I don't know. I'll get feedback from you lot. The idea in that 3030 mentions about slaughter is to cover the issue of Halal slaughter.
But
what I would like to do, and it depends
on what majority of you lot want, I can cover it and give a summary of it. But we can also cover it in more detail as I covered it many years ago, that would require you to get this book
and not because this has got the answers in it, but this is to do a critical analysis of this book called money.
Chef perky was learning
I don't know whether you've seen it is the only one that I came across that's pretty good in English but they could mean that in the lesson for some weeks we read through the book, which is probably about 100 odd pages or less that we need to read and
somebody reads and we make some critical comments and I summarize and add things to it. But it's up to you think about that that will take a while for us to go through but it would come up the a more be a teaching session.
Again, clarifying some of the stuff he mentioned and why because I think
it needs critiquing what he's written in there and adding to and clarifying the issue further. So have a think about it and give feedback I don't know what some of you think at the moment
for those who are here
no no comment
how many sessions would you say shaker would be for this time? I don't know. I'm that's the only thing is L stoppers for a bit. I can work out approximately how many sessions it will take. Yeah, I'm telling you next time
maybe four or five I'll have to have a look
I'll send you in the group and I'll ask him for just a vote. Nobody wants to speak today. It's very lonely if you let me just speak and you all stay quiet
firstly, you don't show your pictures it's not haram to not you know to show your pictures and photos from other than sisters you know
and number two none of you speak so I'm just like speaking to myself
no easy
Don't be you know that shy
and your voice isn't our island
Sorry Sorry. So he'll just wondered whether if it's too long we could probably keep it in the end if you wish or see how everybody feels. Yeah, that's a good idea. Finish the Hardy Hadith and come back to it
because I think you did go through a during focuscura as well about you touched the topic there about halal and me Yeah, totally.
Fine,
unless anybody else got anything else to say thank you for speaking so.
All right. Does that go well? I'll see you next week. We're gonna do it seven next week, then, seven inshallah. Inshallah we'll stick to seven I've got to go to pronoun Charla is Akula family