Channel: Mufti Menk
Series: Mufti Menk - Ramadan 2018
We all socialize and we all go through times when we are confused about some major decisions in our lives. In this episode of the Supplication Series, Mufti Ismail Menk talks about two supplications from the Sunnah of the Prophet (PBUH) which would help us in our daily lives. The first one is when we end up gossiping in parties and events called Kufaratul-Majlis, it will wash away the sins we receive for our acts while sitting at the gathering. The second one is the du’a for Istekhara an act from the Sunnah for times when we need to make some tough decisions in our lives and need some guidance.
Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. May the peace and blessings of Allah Subhana Allah to Allah be upon every one of us. Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim we begin In the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful Alhamdulillah or praise is indeed due to Allah subhanho wa Taala wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah He was happy his main blessings and salutations upon the Messenger of Allah subhanho wa Taala and his companions and his household and every one of us, may Allah bless us and grant us gender to fill those And may Allah subhanahu wa taala make us from those who follow season upon season. As Ramadan comes to an end we usually have
the months of Hajj that clock in immediately. And therefore we need to understand the gift of Allah subhanho wa Taala the obedience we had in Ramadan, the same Allah we were obeying is that Allah outside of Ramadan as well. So we ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to grant us consistency in worship, and to make us from those who realize that Allah Subhana Allah to Allah as gifts from Yvonne is to achieve taqwa, God, consciousness and Mahavira to achieve the forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala. May Allah granted to us, my brothers, my sisters, whenever we are seated, we are taught by the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that we should be conscious about what we say, in
a little gathering. We say things we teach things, some of the utterances are unnecessary. If it is a major sin, like we've been engaging in backbiting, slander, false accusation in our gatherings. In that case, we need to seek the forgiveness of Allah through what is known as Toba.
This Toba is actually to ask a last forgiveness from a major sin that we have been perpetrating. If it was involving a third party, another human being, we would have to go to that person and seek forgiveness from them as well. So if I was backbiting about another brother, or a sister, I would need to contact that person and seek forgiveness from them. There is no quick fix or quick solution to say okay, let me just make dua for them. Let me just give a charity on their behalf and inshallah things will happen. If they're alive, they're reachable, you need to make sure you actually go and speak to them to seek forgiveness. And you need to make sure that if you cannot get hold of them,
you cannot reach them, you start undoing what you did, by going back to the people who you spoke with, and telling them what we did was wrong, the person is innocent, the person is free from what we said, and you say good things about them to nullify the bad that you did. We hope that Allah subhanho wa Taala has mercy upon us. But it's very important not to engage in that which is destructive when we have our gatherings. So Allah subhanahu wa taala has definitely given us the gift of communication. Imagine if we could not speak we would just be looking at one another blank Look, a blank stare without knowing what we want to say. But Allah has blessed us and a lot of the
other creatures that communicate in fact, all the creatures actually praise Allah. As Allah says in the Quran, what he mentioned in India is a bit heavy handed, while lacking a lot of Kahuna test behind every single thing declares the praise of Allah. But unfortunately, you don't understand their praise or their way of praising Allah subhanho wa Taala. Now, as we are seated in the gathering, if there are things that are not so serious, but perhaps we might have cracked a little joke, we might have laughed excessively a little bit, you know, we might have forgotten Allah subhanho wa Taala for a few moments, or we might have said a few things that are considered minus
sin, etc. In that particular case, as we are getting up, we're taught something by the prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, it is known as kapha, to mejlis cafardo to the Middle East, meaning the supplication that you will make that will be an expiation of the sins that were engaged in, in that particular gathering. Now, when we say expiation of the sins, we are talking of minor things, not major things, you know, you cannot engage in a major sin and then say, Okay, I'll just read the Confederate image list, it's fine. I will be forgiven No, but the minor things. The obliviousness of Allah subhanho wa Taala, for a moment, etc, all that happens. So, what is the DA the DA is as
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught this to us we are praising Allah Subhana Allah who may be handicapped, as I do, Allah, Allah Allah and as the verruca
Boo ilica All praises due to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, Glory be to You. In fact, Subhana Allah home morbihan, deca, Glory be to You and all praises do unto you O Allah, eyeshadow, Allah, Allah, Allah and I bear witness that there is none worthy of worship besides you, as the verruca was a tubu Elijah, I seek your forgiveness Oh Allah, and I repent to you or Allah. Now, there is another narration which adds at the beginning Subhana Allah He will be Hanvey Subhana Allah Homo byham deca Nasha de la Ilaha. illa Anta Mr. Khurana to buoy Lake, which would mean all praises due to Allah Glory be to Allah, all praises do to you, Oh Allah Glory be to You, Oh Allah. So we've repeated it
twice, one in third person, one in second person. And then we say, I bear witness that there is none worthy of worship besides you, Oh Allah. And I seek your forgiveness, Oh ALLAH and I repent to you. So this is something very, very interesting. People ask me when I end sometimes some of my episodes some of my lectures, I say Subhana Allah who become the satanic alarm will become the national to Allah Allah. Hi, lantana. Stone Furukawa. Now you know why I say that? It's called confira. To measure this when you're finished, when you're done. You want to Allah to forgive you for the little that might have happened while you were talking. The mistakes, you know, some of the errors, the
blunders, we all make mistakes. I know. Once or twice I've made mistakes because of the fact that you're speaking you're speaking to the public. You know, you're speaking to people you have an episode that you may be engaged in so much that you've made a mistake in your wording in the pronunciation. Sometimes in an explanation. Sometimes, unintentionally, you might have said something wrong, and sometimes a pure mistake, maybe you didn't know it so well and maybe you learnt it wrong. So it can happen. We seek Allah's forgiveness for all of that by saying Subhana Allah He will be happy Subhana Allah Homer will be handicapped to Allah Illa illa Anta Mr. Rocha wanted to be
like me, Allah subhanho wa Taala. Accept that from us? No, I have not ended the session. I'm still continuing my brothers and sisters. That was just a lesson we ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to bless us. Now, let me move further.
Brothers and sisters, we know that Allah subhanho wa Taala blesses us in a million ways. One of the biggest blessings of Allah is when you are confused, he teaches you how to seek His guidance. If I'm confused about something important, I want to get married, I want to start a business, I want to travel to a certain place, I want to shift countries I want to I want to open something new, I want to you know, do something I want to make decisions for my children. And I'm confused. I need to have an element of steadfastness I need to be not knowing what's better for me. I really don't know. So I'm confused. If you're not confused, you make a dua to Allah to help you make a decision, and to
bless you in that decision. And then you make the decision based on what you know, based on knowledge based on seeking guidance and advice. So when we want to do something important, say you want to get married, you seek guidance, you meet the person, within the Islamic context and framework, you meet the person, and you will talk to them once or twice. And I hope parents will facilitate this for their children, because it's assumed none of the Prophet peace be upon him to meet them, you know, it doesn't mean that they just bring a tray of tea or some answers. And as they walk past, you've got to just look at them. And you've got to make a decision of your life. It's not
like that. That is a traditional cultural way of doing things. We in Islam are taught that you are allowed to meet, to communicate, to speak to look at properly, with respect within the confines of the Sharia until you're satisfied, one way or the other. If you've met someone once and you say Nah, not for me, it's okay, you can decline respectfully Don't feel bad. If you meet them once and you're confused, you can meet them again and again, on condition that you haven't compromised the broader the broader framework of the Sharia. There comes a time when your decision will be made by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala because there are good qualities good things you're hearing, you've
asked, there is something called consultation or Shura, which is very, very important. So these big matters, your business, your marriage, big decisions of shifting country, etc, etc. Ask the guidance of genuine people who will guide you who know those who have knowledge and they're genuine. They have knowledge in what you're asking them for and they have sincerity. They love you. They care for you enough to give you genuine, proper advice. When you have those qualities you ask the person look, this is what I intend. What's your opinion, what is the advice you can give me? They will give you advice. Based on that advice. You will have a feeling in your heart. If that is decision is
made. You're inclining towards one thing
There is no point of when seeking the guidance of Allah through what is known as istikhara is the Hara literally means to seek the guidance of Allah subhanho wa Taala there is no point in seeking that guidance of Allah subhanho wa Taala. When you are not confused, you know exactly what you want. You just ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make it good for you and to give you Baraka in it for either as a mentor for tawakkol Allah, Allah, once you have made your decision, lay your trust in Allah and go ahead Bismillah In the name of Allah, for as long as you are a decent person trying to earn the pleasure of Allah, it will be a good decision. A good decision does not mean you will achieve
success the way you want it but rather, whatever is going to happen is going to be better for you. So if you're going to start a business and you're you feel that you really have to do it. You go into the business and suddenly you start suffering loss upon loss. Allah knows that was the best thing for you, your deen your dunya your afra you know your life you're here after your future because you softened up you came closer to Allah it helped you It brought you closer you want to get married and you realize after some time that I may do that, you know, I was happy I made the decision. Allah Baraka Tila, upon the blessings of Allah, I started and I did this whole thing
correct, but it ended up in a divorce. Well, that divorce would have brought you closer to Allah, it might have woken you up, it might have changed you for the better as a person, it might have brought you such that you earned the genital for those as a result of the patients that you had to bear because of the difficulties and hardships that you actually went through. So Allah knows it was better for you. It does not mean that because your mushara was heading in this direction that there is going to be total bliss and you're going to have heaven on earth. That's not what Allah said. Allah said it's better for you. So the first stop is we seek guidance, help advice. We seek the
advice then we make a decision if we are still confused we really don't know. Look, I met this brother. I met the sister. Mashallah there okay, I sought guidance but I still don't know should I shouldn't I Allahumma Antara be your turn to Allah Oh Allah, you are my rub. You are my Lord. Oh Allah subhanho wa Taala
This is the do out of St. Ha, it's quite a lengthy do I'm going to spend the rest of this episode speaking about this to add going through the wordings explaining it to them, explaining them to you and trying to tell you how exactly it's done. So the Sahaba of the Allahu anhu used to say, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam taught us istikhara which means seeking the guidance of Allah, the same way he would teach us verses of the Quran, which means these were very, very sacred important word supplications from Revelation, indeed.
And he used to tell us, when you want to seek the guidance of Allah, you would clean yourself you would make the two units of prayer, and then you would supplicate using the following words Allahumma Antara be?
No Allahumma inni esta heruka be in Mecca. Oh Allah. I am seeking your guidance from your knowledge. Allahumma inni as the hero cabbie in Mecca, Oh Allah, I am seeking your guidance from your knowledge as duc De Luca biquadratic, and I am seeking the help from your power and your ability. I'm seeking help I'm seeking ability and power from your ability and power. I want you to help me I want you to empower me, Oh Allah, I seek your guidance I seek your empowerment Allahumma inni as the hero can be in Mega Watts, duc de roca biquadratic
well as a new coming from Lika Levine and I am seeking from you from the great bounty that you have, or allow you own everything I'm seeking from that bounty. So we have mentioned three things. We want Allah's help because he is the one who has the knowledge, right? We want allows a lot to empower us because he's the owner of power. And we are asking Allah from his great virtue was alucabond properly caladium Why are we asking for in Mecca intertech do Allah
tala La la la la one to Allah Hmoob For indeed Oh Allah, you are able and we are unable.
And you know, and we don't know. And you are the Knower of the unseen that's why we're asking you. That's why we need your help. Subhana Allah I'm asking your help. I'm seeking from you. I'm seeking your guidance as the heruka be in Mecca. I'm seeking guidance from your knowledge well as duc De Luca pico de Tika, and I'm seeking empowerment from your power you are the owner of power was was alchemy in follicle of him and I'm asking from your great bounty for in the tech deal for indeed you are the one who's able to unlock did not mean I'm not able, one. Da da da da you know, and
I don't know one Talamo you and you are the Knower of the unseen. Now we are seeing Allahumma in Kandahar, the Umrah hieron li O Allah if this thing and you think about the thing, when you are when you get to that poor portion of the DA, you're thinking about what you're asking Allah for, like you're thinking about marriage to someone, you're thinking about doing the business. You're thinking about something amazing that you want to embark on. You say, Oh Allah, if this thing Allahumma incana hodel Umrah hate only Allah if this thing is better for me. Now better for me In what way? fee Dini? tamashi. waka to me in three things over life. This is better for me in my Diem. Cree
in my religion, in my worldly life, my Ash is referring to the material living dunya we would call it dounia Dini we're doing Yeah, yeah, but rather than do asas v Dini one Masashi in my Dean, and in my livelihood, my life will keep it to me and in the ending of my affairs, so it's talking about the hereafter as well as the durability of this particular matter. It needs to be long, it needs to benefit me throughout my life and into the hereafter. So if this is good for my Deen, my dunya and my Akira that's what we're saying. My life sorry my religion, my life and my future. If it is better for me in these three things, then I want you to do for me the following. What are we saying in this
drop? In Canada have an Umbra hydro Li Dini mama she walked up to me directly so make it possible for me? Why a Sidhu Lee make it easy for me to methodically fee and then give me blessings in it. So three things will happen. Allah will make it possible for you, he'll make it easy for you and then he'll give you blessings in it. So if he is making it difficult for you, if he is not making it possible for you, then you can expect you to understand that the response is negative. Okay, let's move on to the second the last part of that drought where it's the opposite where we think oh life this is bad for me. So Allahumma in Canada has a camera Sharon Lee fee Dini. amarachi waka to Emory
Oh Allah, if you know that this thing that I'm thinking about right now that I want to embark in is bad for me. In my Deen in my junior in my era, like I said, Dini, Mama Ashima she is a living document to me meaning the future. Oh Allah if you know that, then Oh Allah. Do me the following. What is the following
434 Annie, so keep it away from me. was with me and who and keep me away from it. What Dora Li El Hierro Oh al Hira. Hi. tukana and destined for me the goodness wherever it is right for me. Whatever the goodness is for me. I don't know what it is. Now. This is bad for me. You prescribed for me the goodness wherever it is. And whatever it is. Thumb, thumb Marubeni be he then make me happy with that. make me happy with it. The fact that you took it away from me make me happy with it. The fact that you made it difficult for me makes me happy with it. The fact that you took it away from me make me happy with it. The fact that you took me away from it make me happy with it. So your reply
now will come from Allah subhanho wa Taala. What is that reply?
So that reply will not necessarily come in the form of a dream. You know, there is the possibility of a dream you see a dream. They say you see a positive dream. Sometimes you see a negative dream, you know, positive dream, meaning anything positive. It could be a beautiful holiday. It could be lovely greenery, it could be something that's really good, you know, happiness and so on. And anything negative would depict negativity, but we're not so pious as to have our dreams actually come to us to tell us what's going on. Sometimes that doesn't happen. The response of istikhara is something you need to know more than the Ishihara itself. So how do I see a response? Well go back
to look at the meaning of that same day that you've been supplicating Allah with and you will understand how the response is going to come. So the first thing you are saying, Oh Allah, if this is good for me, my Deen my dunya my Ashura then make it easy for me. Allah is making it easy for you. Wow. The following day, someone calls you and says, you know, brother, I have a piece of land that I'm prepared to actually sell you. You know, someone is selling this plot and you were just thinking of opening up a farm starting a farm. Wow, that's a good sign. What's Allah doing? He's responding to your service. taharah things are happening. They're rolling as we would say, Mashallah
tabarrok Allah. So you want to get married and the next day someone says, you know, the sister is a very good sister out of the blue, someone says is a very good sister, or a really good brother Subhanallah What's happening? That's Allah subhanho wa Taala facilitating it for yourself.
You told me to make it easy for you here goes big smile, Mashallah. And then what happens?
Sometimes the opposite where someone calls you and they start discussing the negatives of a person, you know, brother, I had a very, very bad experience with the sister and so on and you're like, Oh, is it you? Listen carefully see if it's negative. You don't have to say anything to anyone you just know between you and Allah. Okay, that's a sign Thank you. Oh Allah, I appreciate it. And I really really thank you yeah, Allah Allah Allah me. Imagine so the the response of the istikhara is not something superstitious, that you know, suddenly a goblin will pick you up to explain to you that something bad is supposed to have happened? No, it is literally in that you said Oh Allah make it
easy for me if it's good for me if it's not take it away from me. So suddenly it was not being made good. That is a negative sign. And if it was made good, it is a very, very positive sign.
So my brothers and sisters, the same applies when Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us that we should be calling out to him that if it is not good for me, take it away from me, then you know what, it will be taken away from you and it will be made difficult for you. Now sometimes people might say okay, this is being made difficult for me but you know, I'm not wrong. If you're not wrong. You need to ask yourself a few things. How long are you prepared to wait for? What is it that you are losing? what is at stake? Why would you like to make this decision and for how long would you like to remain in it? That is that is all that you need to consider also when you are making a decision, but I go
back to what I said at the beginning of the discussion of istikhara. When you are not confused, there is no point in making this str you might want to use this as a doula and this application ordinarily on other days which is not wrong. You can use it outside of the str you just on a daily basis for Allah to guide you through the decisions of the day for Allah to guide you through decisions or Allah asked you from your knowledge you know, I don't know you are the powerful I am I am not powerful at all I seek empowerment or like guide me if this is better for me my Deen my dunya and I make the duel several times during the day there is no harm it is a dua it is in the Hadith it
is as soon as you can see it as and when you wish. And Allah will guide you by the by his will in the decisions of your day. But when it comes to major matters, that is when the real sooner clocks in.
Now, I want to speak about one last thing before we end this beautiful episode. And that is my brothers and sisters. What we need to know when the do out of istikhara is made and we get a positive response. Do you know what happens? It does not necessarily mean that we are going to be happy. It means it's better for us. That's amazing. Remember this, people say I made this taharah and you know what? I made it harder and everything was positive. And now I got married and I'm suffering I'm struggling I'm going through a divorce. How could Allah do that to me when you haven't understood is the heart and you don't know what it was meant to achieve for you. So my brothers and
sisters, it's amazing how we need to look into the Dow of istikhara we need to understand that this dow is taharah is so powerful it is from Allah subhanho wa Taala it does not
it is not empowering us to be happy, but rather to have to achieve that which will please us in the long term draw us closer to Allah it is beneficial for us in our Deen dunya and akhira not necessarily happiness the way we understand it. So my brothers and sisters, these are the blessed gifts of Allah subhanho wa Taala upon us we are really really fortunate to have the ability to seek the guidance of our maker, the maker himself you tell me who has taught this to us well ah he we owe a lot sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him has indeed been a blessing to us. We owe him we all know Allah subhanho wa Taala may allow us peace and blessings be upon us
all well as peace and blessings be primarily and ultimately upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and then every one of us akula Kali hada was Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh