Mufti Menk – How you make others feel

Mufti Menk
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the negative impact of begging and causing harm on behavior, including the use of messenger to tell people not to get angry and focus on peace. They also talk about a man who is a wealthy man and a good person, but is lacking in his humility. The speakers encourage people to be more conscious of how they make people feel and to not lose their humility.
AI: Transcript ©
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salaam aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

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was for your information that return of the salon was the best so far.

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But the reason is I've been here not too long ago right guys?

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Do you know that?

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Mashallah, I don't.

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Anyway, here goes Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim.

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Bismillah R Rahman Rahim al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Allah, Allah He was happy to jump in. We start in the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

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We praise Allah subhanho wa Taala The Lord of the worlds

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have been referring to the one who is the nourishment that cherishes the Sustainer the provider, the protector, the cure, the one in whose hands lies, absolute control of every aspect of existence. We send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam because Allah chose him, to be sent to us to remove us from the darkness and to bring us to the light. We send blessings and salutations upon all the messengers of Allah who were chosen by him to come to mankind and to guide them with the light that Allah subhanho wa Taala gave them

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we asked a lot to bless the the beloved companions the blessed household and every one of us here in Bradford say amin

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those who are here those who are not here to our children, our offspring, those two come right up to the end humanity at large May Allah bless all of us, I mean,

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my brothers and sisters

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the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him always made people feel very very important. Everyone when he saw a child, he actually paused for a moment and gave the child such importance that the child felt empowered Subhanallah

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Are you a good Muslim?

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Who thinks they're reasonable Muslims don't be ashamed put up your hand reasonable Muslims put up your hands

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come on, come on come on put up your hands a bit higher. Come on guys. Mashallah, I think we all are reasonable Muslims. And we all are, if there may be from amongst us those who are not Muslim perhaps

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at least you are a reasonable human being right. We suppose we are supposed to be having decent character and conduct to say the least. Right? My brothers my sisters, if you're a true Muslim, if you want to be a follower of Islam, we know the Pillars of Islam. We know how many are they by the way?

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Say them loud. You said we're reasonable Muslims five Mashallah. That's someone coming from outside Bradford

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you can tell

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like thank you sister By the way, you deserve a medal. It's a pity I don't have one right now. May Allah bless you

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that amin was better than a medal Mashallah so I promise you

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five pillars we know that worship Allah alone we believe the messenger Muhammad peace be upon him is the final messenger we want to follow him etc We believe in we try to pray we try to fulfill our you know the fasting in Ramadan in the best possible way. The charities to the poor. Those of us who can afford the HUD we've already been there or we are planning to go there all we're praying that we can afford it one day, may Allah subhanho wa Taala accept it all from us.

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Mashallah, the amines are definitely louder than other places. That's a bonus. It will make me want to come back here again very soon. I love it because you never know when is the moment of acceptance of prayers, right?

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You never know. Because the angels

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are right here right now.

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You know that? Didn't you hear brother was saying the angels. True? The angels. And you know what? When it's a moment of acceptance of prayer,

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and you are busy saying mean are you saying a prayer, you hit the jackpot. You hit the jackpot. May Allah subhanho wa Taala granted to us at least a few times in our lives,

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I shall have is even louder.

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So my brothers and sisters, the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him. Like I said, we know the pillars, but sometimes

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we behave in a way that is actually so embarrassing.

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On one hand, we claim to be the ambassadors of this beloved beautiful messenger.

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And on the other hand, we are such an embarrassment that people dislike Islam, and they dislike stuff a lot the messenger peace be upon him simply because of the way we behave. we behave in a ridiculous way.

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Well, I'm going to share something with you.

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I was traveling

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with a brother.

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And you know what? He was a guest from another country.

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And there was a family. No, no offense, if it was you, but anyway, there was there was a family driving in a small little cars It was a Nissan Micra or meek, right? And how do you pronounce that micro? British? Mashallah, okay, fine. Don't worry, I'll get it.

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Then listen, micron, Subhana Allah, and guess what? They will, zooming at 100 miles an hour. And when I saw this car, I told the brother Brother, these are Muslims.

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I said most probably practicing. And guess what? I decided to step up a bit, Mashallah.

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And the brother slowed down a little bit, I think he must have felt embarrassed because to be honest with you, something happened. I'll tell you this now. But as we pass them, I was wondering.

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He's got his phone,

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and his phone in his hand, and he's driving, and he's busy taking a picture of me in my car.

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And the guy next to me tells me how did you know they're Muslims? I said, you know, the problem is, we have something known as laying your trust in Allah, even when you're breaking the law. May Allah Subhana Allah, Allah forgive us, the guy must have said to Allah, let's go. And he's speeding. It can only be a Muslim who really relies on Allah so much that he's got such a lousy vehicle, but he's whacking it on the highway, like you can't believe some kind of law. And he doesn't mind his tires are about to probably pop. But he says, Okay, why I could see, you know, that. I did my job, you know.

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And look at the embarrassment. On top of that he's waving at me. And I'm thinking, you waving your phone at me, my brother. And you don't realize that it's you. You know, you could just die. He must be thinking it's such a blessing death if I were to die right now. No way. It's illegal. It's unacceptable.

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Never use the fact that you prayed to perpetrate or to engage in that, which is criminal or unacceptable. It doesn't mean I said, What do you mean by a sudden woman Humphrey himself done now the cops won't see me. People believe that right? They read the DA DA not to be seen by the cops when you're traveling. Oh, sobre la is one of the most read to us by some. I see them laughing.

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It's part of Surya scene, it means it means and we have placed a bar before them and the bar behind them so that they don't see. That's what it means. It's referring to those who are astray. And you think it refers to the cops of the speed cameras or something. Now Allah forgive us, we've downgraded the understanding of the Quran. And the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, we become an embarrassment to humanity, we become a statistic people who don't abide by the basic safety rules, claiming I'm a good Muslim. Where are you?

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By the way, it's a small minority, but the problem is, as much as they're a small minority.

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It's a big deal, because you and I know that the media creates a hype when the Muslims sneezes. Right. You type Muslim guy sneezed, everyone ran away.

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So it happens.

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We have to go the extra mile to ensure that if someone were to look at us to speak to us, we behave in a way that they would really be so intrigued and impressed. They would want to know what is the driving force behind your perpetual smile? What is the driving force behind your positivity? What is it? It's your faith in the almighty? What's the driving force behind the goodness that emanates from you? It's the beauty of the face I follow.

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I was telling you this brother, the reason why we were able to catch up with him. As I stepped up a bit, he realized who it was he slowed down

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That's what happened. So he actually slowed down because of

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the person he thought he saw. And when he confirmed it, he engaged in another crime. That was the phone. Imagine you breaking the speed and you're on the phone, the speed limit. May Allah Subhana Allah grant us ease. So I said, The Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, made sure that people felt very important. How many of us give importance to children? You see a child, we don't even notice the child.

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Moments ago, I was with a good friend of mine, we went to see someone

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and this brother Mashallah, he's a well known brother.

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And I noticed something. May Allah bless him, he's not here so I can talk about him good, not bad.

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I noticed something and I picked it up. And I said, I'm gonna talk about this tonight. that inspired me to speak about it, guess what it was?

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We visited a boxer, with another boxer

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and the rugby player.

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And I noticed that when we walked in, we sat down.

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He took a moment to speak to one of the young boys who was with us.

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I just watched and I said, This man has refined his character.

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Here what I'm saying? I can tell because it requires an effort initially, to do that. By the way, it was Sonny Bill Williams. We went to see American but an hour back and we were sitting, his wife's given birth and hamdulillah both of their wives gave birth Mashallah, I don't know if it's something to do with boxing or

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rugby. Mashallah. But anyway, may Allah bless everyone who has children, with goodness, making the coolness of your eyes, those who don't have children, may Allah bless you with children. And I've said it at this venue the last time even if you're not married, just say I mean allowed. Say it.

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May Allah bless you with children say I mean.

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You know why? Because if you're not married, in order for Allah to give you that he has to give you something before that. And that's a blessing marriage. So if Allah is going to give you children who are going to be the coolness of your eyes, he has to start off by giving you a spouse who's going to be the coolness of your eyes, hence that I mean, it's like a two in one.

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Don't worry, the sisters are laughing because the only two in one day know is the shampoo.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala Bless you. The Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him

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gave the children importance when I see a rugby player, Muslim, and he's a serious Muslim By the way, you know, meaning is quite a practicing brother. And you know what? I noticed he just made the child feel important a question or two. That's it carry on?

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Do you do that I want you to change your life. My brothers and sisters, make people feel important.

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Make them feel important. Starting with children another when someone is challenged with some form of what we call a disability, but it's actually being able to differently because it will not take one thing away from you. He gives you something else in a bigger way. Those who cannot hear sometimes are much sharper than those who can hear those who cannot see sometimes their ears can hear things that are you know, at a distance and you will be shocked they can pick up voices from a mile and tell you is that brother here? And you wondering how do you know man? Well, if Allah took one thing away from me, he's gonna polish up the other. So you're abled in a different way. But

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those people they don't want you to pity them? No, never. They don't want you are I'm so sorry. You know, you don't have a leg, hey, I don't have a leg. It's one of those things. So I'm probably walking more than you are in my own way. I'm achieving more than you are. So as abled as we think we are, we actually achieve less than them because they've been challenged and men can only achieve when he's out of his box out of the comfort zone. That's when you start achieving. When Allah wants to bless you. He takes things away from you, all of us in our lives without a single exception. We are where we are simply because Allah closed certain doors for us in our lives.

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Do you agree with that?

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Allah closed some doors he opened every door you wanted, you wouldn't have been here today. You'd have been somewhere else you might have even mean a failure. You might have been whatever else but Allah says I know. I'll close the store that will because I'm maneuvering you to a direction you would never have imagined. You got to me

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Yes also because doors were closed. So when the door closes, it is a blessing

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matter of time and the condition is look at it positively get up walk sprint in the direction that you can. It is a blessing. You would never have believed how fast you can run until the lion chases you.

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Do you agree?

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Masha Allah

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May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us ease.

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So my brothers and sisters you pick up refined character, you give people importance, someone is disabled, we call them like I say it is an English term, it's not derogatory. It actually does refer to some, you know, disability. However, like I say, there, there are more refined terms to refer to that some people prefer to say, the, the differently abled, some people say the challenge, and so on. All of that refers to something similar, but they don't want your pity. All they want from you is to acknowledge them as equal humans, that's all equal humans. If someone is darker than you in complexion, all that is required of you is never ever to comment about their complexion.

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This is Bradford I don't even want to ask you how many of you have ever commented about others complexions because I think I'll be embarrassed.

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People are worried about how free they are, and how dark they are. I tell you, the Almighty says it clearly your entry into paradise has nothing to do with your race, nothing to do with your color, nothing to do with the size or shape of your body or how much you weighed.

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Imagine you weigh and you strive to lose one stone, half a stone you strive you struggle, I promise you if you had struggled

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half of

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that dedication, if you had to struggle just a little bit, not even a struggle to get closer to the Almighty, you'd shed some of your spiritual baggage far quicker than you would shed your own weight. And by the way, it's not bad.

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It's not bad.

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To what

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to be a few kilos this way in that way, nothing wrong. Don't get too obsessed.

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I remember visiting a country.

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And they were talking about one of the girls who wanted to get married. And obviously every culture has its own tastes, and has its own understanding and so on. And

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they were talking about a certain girl getting married and one of the brothers that she won't find the husband. This was somewhere in Africa, by the way.

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And I was shocked. I said brother You cannot say that, you know, stop realize. He said no woman she's nothing she must eat potatoes and whatever. In our culture. You can only get married if you're 70 kilos or more.

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I looked at him I said in my culture, most of the girls would be disqualified. So can Allah, Allah grant us forgiveness, protection?

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Something you look at as positive others look at this negative. You see, it's a matter of where you come from your culture. Allah says I'm not gonna judge you by your weight. Try your best you must be fit. Don't say I'm a Muslim. Like I said, it's okay. It's okay. I can weigh as much as I want. No, you cannot. You must take pride in what you look like in what you feel like in your health. You must learn to do something about it. But don't become obsessed. That's what we're saying. Obsession means now it stresses you just because of one pimple on your face. Not at all. I've got 10 By the way, it's fine.

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My brothers and sisters, let's refine ourselves.

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You see someone darker than you taller than you shorter than you very thin, huge no problem. Greet them. smile at them make them feel important. Give them that empowering the sense of belonging it will help them and guess what more than it helps them. You did yourself a favor with the Muslims are taught that when you give a charity say from amongst us there's a multimillionaire and inshallah they are

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and they were to give a charity to a poor person.

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A Muslim should never think that you know what I did the manner favor impossible. You didn't he did you a favor.

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By what? By accepting a charity Allah

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created the poor person in order.

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What do you think for the rich to become arrogant,

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in order for your act of worship to be accepted and charity is one of the biggest acts of worship, the Hadith, the Prophet Muhammad prophesizes, may peace be upon him that close to the end of time

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will be so much of wealth that they will not be a poor person to give

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money to, to give you a charity, too.

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I promise you when Bitcoin was hitting 20,000, I felt we're coming to the time then Allah blessed us by it dropping a bit. We haven't yet come to the time. But you know what, they can come a time when everyone has so much that if you want to give a charity, the guy would say Who who are you insulting here, man? You follow what I'm saying? So while you can give the charity who is fortunate, Allah is going to close the door of charity at one stage meaning monetary for a while, not forever, but for a while.

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You won't find a poor person. So when you see a poor person, consider yourself fortunate.

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In Surah Taha Allah says, the one who's begging the one who's asking, don't ever rebuke him, why it's all got to do with how you make them feel. Honor,

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such that you don't even make a public show of the fact that I helped this guy. That's why he is alive. Many of us do it. Say brother, if it wasn't for me, you would have been in the dumps.

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That statement doesn't come from a true believer. Never. Allah says, Yeah, you had a Latina man Oh, LA to bobino sada Chico billman. Me, well, Allah, of you who believe, do not destroy the reward of your charities by bragging about it. And by harming those after you have been charitable. That means if I give you a charity, and I brag about it, I've just nullified the reward of it.

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I'm supposed to humble myself, I'm supposed to make you feel more important than I. Even though the world might think you did a favor. The person might also believe you, you did a favor. But you know what?

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You if you're refined, you look at it in a different way. Humble yourself. Humble yourself, bring yourself to the understanding that you're supposed to be upon.

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Never, ever melt, treat people based on their financial standing, social standing. Sometimes we only greet the rich and famous. Sometimes we're only you know, acknowledging people who look a certain way. The day you can acknowledge people who look totally different people who are from perhaps a totally different background,

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different race, different nationality, different religion, different background, the day you can acknowledge them and respect them for the fact that they are human, they share with you the common factor, the common forefather Subhan. Allah, Who was your greatest grandfather, brother? What was his name?

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Your greatest grandfather? How could you not know? Who knows?

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Adam? Who was your greatest grandfather?

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What was his name? Adam, you're right. So we're related Russia.

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We're all related here. I knew it when I walked in. So my cousins are all here waiting for you.

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Yes, you are. It's the love you feel when you realized that I'm a human. If I'm a human, you're a human. I don't care where you suddenly ended up, you know, Bradford, or wherever else. I don't care. I don't care if you're, you know, if the children of that man, somehow someone ended up in Nigeria and the other one ended up in America and the other one was still, you know, wherever in the Middle East and one was in Pakistan and the other was in India.

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You have to acknowledge if you're a refined human being

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that after all, we are brothers and sisters in humanity. The day you acknowledge that, that's the day you inched towards understanding who your maker is.

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Because that it's the same maker who made them made you. I am trying to impress the same creator, who created everyone else. So if he created everyone else, and I'm so loving and kind to all his creatures, surely he'll be impressed with me.

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And if I'm nasty to one creature of the Almighty, do you think he's gonna be impressed with me? He made that creature

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Follow what I'm saying. And we call ourselves religious.

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See what I'm saying? Understand the law. That's why the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him tells us the Almighty will not have mercy on the one who doesn't have mercy on the rest of mankind as a starting point.

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Layer Camila amoenus statement of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him. Allah does not have mercy upon those who don't have mercy on other human beings. That why do I say a starting point, because it extends beyond that to animals, to birds, to the fish to the ecosystem, you need to have mercy on your own ecosystem by doing what preserving it.

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That's a Muslim. That's a beautiful person, you're worried about pollution, perhaps, from your own system, you're worried about other things in the environment, you won't litter you that's what makes you a good Muslim.

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So I started off by telling you the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him made people feel important. Do you want to know to what extent

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to what extent What do you think, who was who was his best friend, the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him Please say his name?

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Abu Bakr, Siddiq or the Allahu anhu

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how many from among, you know the real name of Abu Bakar? Put up your hands?

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Besides from this table, okay.

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You know, the real name of Abu Bakar Okay, if you've heard the name, Abu Bakar. Viola, wanna put up your hands? You heard the name of the book or the luevano. Put down your hands. That was the best friend of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him. Okay. Two years younger, the best friend. And can I tell you what else

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he was one of the best of all the companions if not the best in rank.

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His name was Abdullah. Did you ever know that?

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And his father was it with men? Father's name was Earth man. So his name was actually Abdullah businessman.

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And they used to call him a book

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and they used to call his father Abu hanifa. So they used to call him Abu Bakr.

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But his real name was Abdullah it's like how we have names for ourselves, whereas I still don't know what les stands for. Mashallah.

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What is it by the way?

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Waseem? Mashallah, Mashallah.

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mela Gracia, goodness, my brother, no, Reba, you're right in front of me. So my brothers and sisters, to what extent did the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him make people feel important? Let me explain. The Companions c'est la vie Sabu, Jan de su, who had done a Chroma la he mean who that is by far one of the most powerful statements when it comes to seeing how the prophets wa sallam made people feel around him. It says the companions are saying

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none of those in his company ever felt that there was anyone more honored than himself to the profits.

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Wow, that's a miracle. That is a miracle. Imagine I'm sitting with 1000 people, and every one of the 1000 believes this guy likes me the most.

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How's that?

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How is that? This guy is the closest to me. How is that?

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I can see one of my, one of my best friends as I was growing up.

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Mashallah, and we went to school together for many years after high school, he shifted to England and I went elsewhere to Saudi Arabia, and he's sitting here with me today. No offense, my brother is still my best buddy.

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Because I'm just saying

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there are people who will feel I'm the closest.

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That is an honor.

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It depicts

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that you really are close. And perhaps as you develop yourself, and like I said earlier, you have to work hard. You have to work hard to develop yourself. It's not good enough to go home today and say it was a good lecture. No. Now make your mind up and good to work hard. The way I speak to my family members to begin with my colleagues at work. My others, like I told you Muslim, non Muslim, white or black or green or purple or whatever nationality, it's okay. The fact that they're human. Make them feel important man. If you have differences

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If you want to teach them something, if you want to reach out to them in one way or another, the fact that you made them feel important would be the biggest entry point ever.

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They would trust you, they would listen to you. You know, when you get people coming to preach religion, many people don't want to listen to them. Why? simple reason. They feel disconnected. This man came in, he just shoved everything down our throats, he walked out, he didn't show any compassion or care for me and the issues I'm going through. And we all have unique issues everyone, nobody from amongst us can claim you don't have a problem, you've got a problem. And if you don't, it's coming to Panama. I don't mean it in a bad way. But it's the almighty his plan. He says you will be tested. And you know what, that's what makes you a better person. Your challenges. People

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say, why does Allah test us? Now the young children asked me, you said, Allah tests us? Why does he have to test us? I said, Well, you go to school? Why does the teacher test you? Well, the teacher tests me in order to know whether I know my stuff, and to get me to the next level. So that's exactly what Allah does. He tests you in order to see if you know your stuff, and he gets you to the next level. And when you get to the next level, will the test be easier? Or more difficult? Do you ever find an A level question one plus one?

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Not at all, you won't.

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Whenever I, whenever I give the example of one plus one, something comes to my mind, it was a lesson of honesty that we learned many, many years ago. And,

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you know, they say, initially, they had picked on certain colors and races. But as I refined it, we removed the colors and races because even when you're joking, you shouldn't say the Pakistani and the Indian and this know if it's derogatory, take that out, refine yourself, you know, when I was a little bit younger, and we will not get as refined. We sometimes used to laugh at these things. Now I actually send the message back to the brothers on my phone or whoever it was. I said, You know what? Think about what was said you could have joked without an insult. May Allah forgive me, and all of us and make us more conscious of it. So they say there were three guys, they went to apply

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for a job as an accountant, right? By the way. I was told recently that accounting is going to be taken over by computers very, very soon. So anyone becoming a CA, you know the lifespan of it, you're going to have to go into crypto very soon.

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Well, I forgive you. And forgive me, I might be totally wrong. Okay. It's not my topic. I should keep quiet right?

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Mashallah, Mashallah. So,

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three guys going to the interview? What did they want the job as the accountant. So the first guy walks in. And he comes out in a minute, so the other two etc. What happens? And I don't know, I walked in. He said, What's one plus one? I said two. And he said, you can leave.

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I said Why? So the other two now knew that, hey, something wrong. The next guy goes in and comes out in a minute. So the third question is What happened? He said he did the same thing to me. Yeah, but you're such a fool. If you knew he was wrong. Why did you say no, I didn't say two. Because I knew two was wrong, right? I said 11 because one and one technically you put the two together. It makes 11. So you know, technical mind, I might get the job. He said, You can leave. The third guy says Hahaha, this guy probably needs a different answer. So he enters. Like I told you the initial joke has nationalities next to it. We don't put nationalities we leave it blank. You'll still have a good

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laugh, right?

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Why are you laughing?

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I haven't even told you the job.

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So he walks in.

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And he gets the job.

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He got the job. Guess why he got the job. The boss says what's one plus one? He says wait, let me close the curtains.

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close the curtains. And I turn off the lights turn off the lights. Okay, let me whisper in your ear. He says okay. What would you like him to be?

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They say that's a real accountant Masha Allah, Allah forgive us.

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Allah forgive us together. Why see me love my Salah. Well, Allah forgive us. Obviously that's a joke guys. That's a total joke. It's got nothing. You know what you have to be upright. Please don't whisper in people's ears and start doctoring all your accounts. Mashallah. But my brothers and sisters, the reason why I brought it up is whenever I say one plus one it brings me back to this something I heard years back and it's still quite an impressive joke, right?

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Because part of it is true.

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in some circles, my brothers and sisters

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The Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him made everyone feels so important.

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The brothers, the sisters, meaning the men, the women, the children, the old, the others, I give you one example, below the glory of the Allahu anhu was was a man from habitat habitat is somewhere where Ethiopia is today.

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he was an African from Africa habashi.

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He was before Islam asleep, and Islam

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taught the companions to free the slaves, free them until they were all free. They were all set free.

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It started off with Abu Bakar, the same men Abdullah not as member of the Allahumma. He used to buy the slaves and then free them, buy them from an owner, one of the people of Quraysh buy them and then free them by them and then free them. And in that way, the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him says that whoever does that they freed themselves on the Day of Judgment. So if you wanted to be free from a punishment, you had to buy one of these people who were oppressed completely unacceptably and free them. You know, people don't talk about this, but that's Islam. So Abu Bakr Siddiq decided to buy by Alibaba and free him. He was a slave. When he freed him the honor and the

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dignity that he got as a Muslim. He was one of the champions when the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him went up in Mirage, and Allah showed him Jana and Jana meaning heaven and * and the heavens and whatever else, he came back onto the earth. And guess what he said? He says, imagine everyone is sitting in waiting to listen, you know, what is he going to say? He's going to describe for us his journey he started describing and he says, Where is blood? Out of all the people where his beloved Imagine you're looking for a person Subhan Allah who was a slave,

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probably the darkest in complexion. But the professor says Where is Bilal he says began submitted to CATIA takaful Jana.

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When I was in Geneva, I heard your footsteps La ilaha illAllah I heard your footsteps. It goes to show that entry into paradise has nothing to do with your color. It's got to do with your heart in the mahatama Nambu Illa, Swati como la isla Isla de Sami come when I can jambu la kulu de como la comme that's a statement of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him he says Allah does not look at what you look like and your body's state. Allah does not look at your bodies or what you look like. He looks at your deeds and your hearts that's what the prophet Muhammad peace be upon him taught us but with us No way. This guy is like this. That guy is like that. Watch out for this. They're

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Can I tell you something that will bite

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it will bite

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before the food comes.

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A lot of us if not almost all of us feel

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within our hearts

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that my tribe is better than the one next door.

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My people my village my city.

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My this my that. Say what you want? I'm speaking facts.

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The day you get rid of that? call yourself a good Muslim.

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What's up with your nationality? I know people coming from the subcontinent. They won't allow their kids to marry a person from the village next door. Do you know some of them?

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Thank you I got the yes I wanted. They won't. I know people who won't allow a child to marry a person from a different nationality or from another part of the world a different race. What for? You haven't understood that law and they will use religious blackmail to try and prove to you that you know what? It's not right. It can't be imagined if Adam had to hear that my kids are gonna fight one day one's not going to allow the other to marry the child.

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That's what's been happening now. Good people religious longer the beard bigger the problem sometimes. Okay.

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It's affect

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my brothers and sisters eradicate that people have been given importance, everyone is important. greet people greet those who least expected they will be shocked. You know, we have for example volunteers who will be volunteering, you know, sometimes and I do this because like I say you have to think about it.

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You have to force yourself you know, to to discipline yourself. Think about it. Go to people and you know, say a word that will move them

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You can everyone can. And you know, Allah will elevate you as a result of that. You have people who are going to serve us right at the end, you might want to take a moment to say to one of them, thank you very much. You guys did a very good job. Someone broke a glass.

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natural instinct, people start thinking, you know what, what happened here, they start getting upset and angry. I hope things are changing. Now, if you're a good Muslim, the glass is broken, it was broken, it's shattered, it's never going to return. But Allah made it happen in front of you. Just to watch how you reacted. The angels have written how you reacted, and you go to the next issue, and you failed. Why you made the tension, your own child, your own spouse, your own mother, or someone who might be a helping hand at home. And you know what? You lost your cool because they bumped the car.

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Forget the car.

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Today, I had someone

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who said, You know what, I bumped this car in the front. And I said, Well, if you bumped it a bit more, they might have replaced it for you.

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It's true, right?

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Mama grandpa's goodness. No one bashes their vehicles intentionally. It's how you react to it. That would actually make you a good Muslim, a good human being.

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So this is why we say those who least expected Allah says about the beggar. I read the verse before you. Allah says, Don't ever rebuke the beggar know someone comes to you they have these signs, you know, in South Africa, it says, I am not an armed robber. So please give me something and they have a placard and they're holding it at the traffic light. Hey, that's like something serious. Because South Africa, you and I know it's very dangerous, right? Some parts of it dangerous. So you look and you say well, in essence, the man is true ally when I saw the guy not too long ago with a similar placard. I started looking at his pockets and checking if there was you know, from a distance if

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there was anything looking like a firearm there, man. You know, and they, they obviously wasn't but it's just that you start thinking why would he choose those words to say I'm not an armed robber? And I was thinking you have two arms we all have two arms. Don't worry, Mashallah, there's one there's another one Mashallah.

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My brothers and sisters, don't rebuke a person you don't know what it took them to be begging? Yes, we don't encourage it. Yes, if you're able, you're encouraged to find a job work go out. But that's for that person. What about for us? You we don't know that particular person circumstances. So as much as when we are talking to people in general, we will tell them don't beg. Don't ask. It's a very bad thing to go and ask when Allah has given you the ability and capacity but then for us, we are told that when people beg don't rebuke them, because you don't know what drove them to begging it is as a last resort.

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You follow what I'm saying? Last Resort. We need something a charity might ask you please donate to this cause donate to that cause you know what? It is permissible to do that?

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May Allah grant us goodness.

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So my brothers and sisters, I want you to take home a lesson from now let's become more conscious of how we make people feel no matter who it is, no matter what they've done. A person you know, one brother called me one day, and he was having a huge family dispute with you know, huge dispute. And he says What should I do? I said come down, sit down, relax, perhaps you guys can go your own ways for a while. Don't react right now because you guys are gonna hurt each other. Think about it. Muhammad peace be upon him. A young man comes to him and says, you know, he got his moment with the messenger. You know what that means? You got the messenger Muhammad peace be upon him. Just imagine

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Jesus May peace be upon him in front of you. And you get you get a few moments with him. What are you going to do? Moses? May peace be upon him right in front of you. You get a moment. What are you going to do? What are you going to say to him? It's just your moment. So sometimes people don't know how to react, you know, they don't know what to say and what to do because they overwhelmed with emotion. So this young man, energetic he comes, he says on messenger, give me advice. Give me advice.

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Now, instead of saying, but I've been talking all along, didn't you hear you know, the messenger says a lot of

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Don't get angry. Imagine I'm sitting with the messenger, peace be upon him asking him give me advice. And I'm thinking he's gonna give me a nice good little, you know, message and a lovely, long sort of a talk to say, listen, when you know, you should do this, and you need to say, Nah, don't get angry. So the boy says, Well, we've got a bit more time and I've heard what he said. So he says, Give me more advice.

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So the Prophet peace be upon him looks at him and says, Don't get angry.

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And he thinks, okay, okay, give me more advice. And he kept saying the same thing.

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You know, one narration says, had dinner later who sakata until those around, they said, I hope this guy can keep quiet. Because you know, he's saying the same thing. And he's getting the same answer. And on other occasions when people ask the messenger for advice, he said different things. So why did he say Don't get angry to this guy? Perhaps he knew the man has anger issues, right? Perhaps he knew the young, energetic guy, bumbling and bursting in his energies needed a reminder to say Don't get angry. Calm down. I'm telling you today, my brothers and sisters, many of us sometimes with everyone, sometimes with a selected few, sometimes with those who are vulnerable, we maltreat them,

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we think lo of them, we think too much of ourselves. I promise you, I have met people, some very wealthy people.

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I've met some extremely wealthy people.

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I met a guy, and I'm letting you know,

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who perhaps is worth about 20 billion us to do what I just said. might wonder who the * was that?

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Who the * was that?

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And I tell you the humbleness and the humility.

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I told myself, you know what, I've met guys with five pounds who think they are so so big in terms of their deal. And look at this guy, he's, he comes he spoke, I want to tell you something else, something I figured out. And I'm going to say for the first time

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you know, Bill Gates.

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People know him because that's the name one of the wealthiest one of the top in the world in terms of wealth.

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I've, I heard something, I heard a little video of his and I was interested in listening to another one, not because of anything, because something came across very loud and clear. For a guy like me, I'm not interested in his wealth. I'm not interested in anything, but and I've never even followed him. But when I heard him on one of the videos, just by chance on Instagram, I decided to go to YouTube and to search for it. And I heard this whole interview. And then I went to another one and the third one. And I promise you what came across loud and clear. I hope I'm correct. And I think I am. The man has some refined character and conduct. So poor guy down to earth, it seems like his

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compassion is way beyond the amount of money he's got. I might be wrong, but I don't think so.

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That's what impressed me, Bill Gates, not a Muslim.

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And I can tell you that about him being a person who has no clue.

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More than just what I heard. I've never met him. I don't think I would. Meaning I don't. It's not like I'm going to avoid them. But I don't think we'd cross paths right. But well done. Mashallah. I learned to think what did I learn that you know what this guy is the who's who, and look at how humble he is.

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The real powerful are those who are so humble that you don't even know the difference.

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Those are the real guys. So panela I always tell people, if you think you're hot.

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There are those who are hotter than you but much more humble. If you think you're wealthy, they are those wealthier than you are much more humble. If you think you're powerful, they are those much more powerful than you but very humble. So what are you lacking? you're lacking humility, that's what you're lacking. Let's build our humility. At the end of the day, we're all brothers and sisters. You know how equal we are? If I were to be cut, and any human across the globe were to be cut, the color of the blood would still be the same.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease? I don't believe that I spoke for 15 minutes. Do you believe it?

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I don't believe it.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala. Grant us ease I want us and I'm gonna say this for the last time. From this day, let's become more conscious of how we make people feel. Well, if that is something that will change the world. It will change you your life. Look at how you make people feel, even if they make you feel crappy to use the word.

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Nevermind, it's okay. Don't become an ugly person because someone else's behavior was ugly. No, don't lose your goodness because someone else displayed their evil. You're a good person remain good. And I end by saying what long will you hate bullies? masini hasini. Allah loves those who do good. That should be the driving force behind us doing good. I do good to you. Not because I think you deserve

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it or you don't deserve it, but because I know that Allah loves those who do good. So whether you do good to me or not, is irrelevant. Whether you may according to others deserve it or not is irrelevant to me because I'm doing it for a much more noble purpose.

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You get what I'm saying. May Allah subhanahu wa Allah bless every one of us, I pray that inshallah we meet again sometime if not in Bradford, then inshallah Jana Amin.

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And if not in gentlemen in Bradford

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May Allah Subhana Allah bless you all, abou Kohli, Allah wa sallahu wa ala nabina Muhammad Mohamad

Motivational Evening – Bradford, 23 February 2020

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