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A talk on the reality of life and difficulties faced by mankind. Fanar Masjid ibn Zaid in Doha, Qatar
Salam alaykum. warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
smilla rahmanir rahim In the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala Most Gracious, Most Merciful Alhamdulillah Allah, Allah, Allah mean All praise is indeed, due to Allah subhanho wa Taala The one who has created us all the one who nourishes, cherishes, sustains, provides protects and cures what was suddenly suddenly my life but in my in the Vietnam hamdulillah Allah Allah He was a
woman who humbly son, Elijah Medina.
We send complete blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his entire household, all his companions, we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to bless them all. And to bless every single one of us and to grant us goodness and ease in this world in the next army.
My dearest brothers and sisters,
generally when we look at a baby,
we think to ourselves that this baby is absolutely innocent. newborn we get extremely happy we get delighted, we are excited.
And at the same time,
we feel that the people who have the child are very fortunate, because there are so many who don't have children may Allah bless those who don't have children with children.
But we don't realize something that that child has come into this world
for two missions.
The first mission is
a test for the parents.
The second is
the test for the child itself beyond a certain age. So right at the beginning there is no books, nothing is being written for that child.
You and I know the Hadith says ofii Allah tala Mohan Salafi, the pin has been lifted from three types of people. The three mentioned number one,
the one who is
the one who is young, and he has not yet grown up to the age of maturity.
And number three,
the one who is sleeping until he wakes up. So if you are sleeping, what you see in your dream, it's not going to be held against you.
The minute you wake up, whatever you do, whatever you now you are conscious. So from this generation, we understand that when the Sabine when a child is born, they are not what they do is not rooting against them, they will miss for example, in terms of urination, or in terms of the toilet and so on. It's not their fault, they are still young, they might say words that they don't realize are bad. When they are little babies, they don't even know what it means. So, they are not sinful in that regard.
But as they grow older, when they get to the age of maturity, then definitely they are responsible.
But between the age of birth, or between the time of birth and that age of maturity. The parents are responsible, the guardians are responsible, those who are around the child are responsible to do what to present the best possible
way of living and religion and so on to that child. However,
did you know that
Allah subhanho wa Taala says that He created us in order to test us in order to test us. Alavi Allah will hire Tawny
San Juan mela, it is he who created death and life in order to test you who from amongst you has better deeds. That's what he says. So he created you to test you, Leah blue welcome. So at that age, when you are born already, there are certain things that humankind will hold against you from the point of birth. You might say, how,
where were you born? did you choose? No I didn't. So I was born in a poor area where people were exploited. As soon as I was born already, they were saying here's another one. And I was innocent. I knew nothing. That's the plan of Allah.
I might have been born into a wealthy home Mashallah beautiful royal people. So panel, I've never seen anything but goodness in terms of ease.
Living, that was Allah,
the soul in the body. Every one of us here we are born into a unique situation unique.
Allah chose your village where you will be born in the hospital or if you are born at home, some people are born in areas where there are no hospitals, they deal with midwives, and the birth is at home.
Allah knows that, but you are still born today you are sitting in this room with the rest of the people, those who are born underwater. So Panama.
This is our last plan. So when you are born already, sometimes people hold certain things against you say for example, your father has a debt of so many million, may Allah protect us all. And may Allah make it easy for those in debt to be able to pay their debt. That was quite a loud I mean, Mashallah.
So, what happens is, your father had a debt, you were born, okay? When you were born. Sometimes as you grow older, you're still a young, innocent child, the person who your father owes the money to can be looking at you, as a person who's already responsible for something he didn't even do. And he might say, come and work for me or him, your father might say, go work for this man, I owe him money. Already. You are disadvantaged from the point of birth, that the world out there is not fair. But Allah is fair. How fair is Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala makes a human being such that he or she can adapt, can adapt to many, many situations. I give you an example. If you are born in a very
very hot country where there is no air conditioning, there is no system of electricity, nothing else when you born you are young you get used to it you become a person who doesn't mind you're out in the hot weather and you are playing and you don't mind because from the time of birth, you are used to that your body got accustomed to it even the tone of your skin changed according to that. That's the last plan Allah give
birth Person of the same nationality born in a castle where they have air conditioned from day one, if they go out in the weather is only 39 degrees, which for you and I topper is very cold, if you go out to 39 degrees, and they will not be able to even live so Kerala. The other day it was 4445 degrees yesterday, it was very hot. So panela. And I was thinking to myself amazing how people coming from Britain, sometimes they cannot cope, they cannot stand even a few minutes outside sometimes but you get used to it those who lived here for a while, they start saying this is nothing you still have to see the middle of summer. That's what they will say.
This is nothing you still have to see the middle of summer. So Allah gifts acknowledges that Allah has made you such that you can become accustomed. You have people who are born into poor homes, they did not choose to be born into a poor home. But what law heat the food they have very different from the the food that those who are wealthy have fed their children with. You know, on one hand, you have the various
scenarios and the baby meals that are very expensive that are found at top supermarkets. And so on the other hand, you know what these people were brought up with breast milk. And that's it.
And sometimes they were brought up with something very light, they also had their system. The point is when you got to a certain age today, we are sitting here, no one can tell when you were a baby, what were you fail, you don't even know sometimes what struggles your mother and father went through in order to make sure that you were a person who grew up with a decent upbringing, you don't even know and this is why it's important for us to go back to our parents make do out for them, appreciate them in a good way where they are instructing you to do something bad, we will excuse ourselves because Allah comes first subhanho wa Taala. But when they are telling you to do something
reasonable within their limits, then you should try your best to obey they did for you. Do you know it's Allah's gift to mankind that he has created love between parents and children? There is a love.
Think about it. It's a lost plan. There is love why they feel responsible. If Allah wanted to make us he could have created us. separately. Each individual grows on his own from the ground. It was possible. But what would be the link between people? There would be no fulfillment of rights. I grew up on my own. Who's your father? What father I was born from the ground. I just came up like a plant and I went up even plants, they have seeds. They have the parent tree where the seeds came from and so on. It's Alice's plan. If he wanted more law, he could have kept us totally separate. But He created us he says the minute you get married jala binaca mama
The love and mercy between whose spouse, the spouses May Allah Subhana Allah grant us love and miss if your aim is to please Allah and her name is to please Allah, they will be love and mercy. But if your aim is to buy the latest gadgets and to please your harem desires, and the aim is, for example, to live off the luxuries of life, when you don't expect that mountain waratah that's where it goes wrong. But if your aim is Allah and you want to please Allah subhanho wa Taala there will definitely be more than that. And you are going to think that I am married to someone's daughter. She also has parents or she had parents, she has siblings a family, she also grew up she's a human being if you
touch her, she feels if you cut her, she will bleed just like me.
Let me look after her, let me honor her. Let me try to say nice words to make her smile. I don't need to comment about how fat she is or how short she is, or anything else which is negative. I have to say good words. No, you know you are my beloved wife, no Alhamdulillah I love you, I really appreciate you, and Subhanallah they go through their difficulties when they are expecting children themselves. And for us as men, it's quite simple. You did the easiest job. That's what you do. They are the ones who held the child, they are the ones who looked after the child. It's Allah subhanho wa Taala he kept male and female, physically different. He kept them emotionally different. It's his
plan. We cannot deny that even those who are trying to convince us that male and female are equal physically, externally they are foolish, they know deep down that what they are saying is not correct. We believe in certain type of equality, that equality refers to the three things. One is certain aspects where men and women are exactly the same certain aspects where men are slightly privileged than males than females, and certain aspects where females are slightly privileged than males. These are the things you cannot say they are exactly the same in everything. But you can say yes, they have access to Allah subhanho wa Taala in a similar way, they have so much in terms of
their rights, what
their rights are, for them, just like they were against them, meaning if they have rights they need to fulfill then you also need to fulfill similar rights of an equal nature for them. So Panama, it's a verse of the forearm, there are rights on either side, these rights may differ in nature, but they add up to become equal in the sense that you do something she will have to do something in return, she does something you will have to do something in return. That's how it is. So Allah has created it in a beautiful way. This link that we have is a gift because the mother will not leave the child crying for longer than a certain period of time. And I want to give advice to those who have babies
as children. I have a little child who is now a few weeks old Mashallah.
And I can tell you that being a parent of many children, I have quite a few children Alhamdulillah last time I counted Mashallah, I arrived at the figure eight for life.
But I tell you, something interesting is
the men get angry. Sometimes when the child is crying and crying and crying more and crying more you make like the wife wants the child to cry. That's not true. She wants more desperately than you to stop the child crying. So please help. Don't make it difficult. Don't start screaming you can't keep the child quiet. Look, it's your child as well.
What's wrong? No, no, no May Allah forgive us. Wherever we have faulted Allah May Allah forgive us Don't get upset. The mother wants more desperately to keep the child quiet. When you do notice, the mother wants more desperately to keep the child quiet than you because she knows that this is not the aim is not to make the child cry, I must deal with the child whether it is hunger, whether it is for example, a nappy change, whether it is frightening, the child is frightened, whatever it is, it is too hot, too cold, etc, etc. You know what you need to help as well. You need to make sure you contribute. There is a love towards the child. That was the point I was raising. That's a gift of
But as the child grows older you send the child to school a lot takes away from you one by one, the control over the child.
Do you know that? It's amazing. When the child was born? You decided what to feed the child what to name the child. You decided what how to close the child you decided how to carry the child where to take the child? Absolutely everything was decided by who by you. Allah gave you almost full control
many aspects you bought the toys agree? Mashallah unless someone gave you a gift Subhanallah but you bought the toys you decided I will do this and I will not do this. When the child grew a little bit older a lot takes away slowly, slowly one
Buy one things go. How does it go? So you buy a toy, the child says, I don't want this toy. Right now I know how to talk that. How can you buy me a little, you know one of those little beaters when you know that I'm looking for an electronic toy. I don't want this. So now you have an issue. You the mother wants to dress the child in a specific way. It was okay up to now when the child says no, I don't want to dress with this clothing. I want to wear something else. I need my Superman. I show you this easily. I want my Superman suit too much television, Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease. So while you have full control of the child, be careful what you do because as the child grows
older, it will start thinking on its own doing its own thing. That's the plan of Allah subhanho wa Taala. so amazingly, you at the beginning you decide which school you want the child to go, you choose the kindergarten and the child is gone, and Mashallah you are happy. When you send the child to school as much as the child might cry the first day, you are also a little bit worried why now the child is going to mix with other children. Now we don't know what's going to happen. I hope everything's okay, my child, you are going to work you're busy thinking Let me check up you might just go to the school halfway through the day just to have a quick peek and come back. You might
find the teacher is she okay? Is he okay? That was you at the beginning. And after they got used to it, you got used to it, you stepped back and the child continued. And then the child says, Dad, you know what, I don't want to go to the school anymore. What happened? That's the child talking to you. Ally showing you that there's going to be a problem. You need to listen and talk you need to communicate with this child. So now you start speaking to the child and the child then tells you that for example, I'm happy or I have friends or this person said something or the teacher told me something, you get so angry, but you don't know the child might not be telling you the truth. You
get angry you go to the school, you know my child is my child that What are you doing? You are defending your child? Where did this come from Allah subhanho wa Taala this is the this is the role of the parents but Allah is telling you as parents, listen, you will start having very limited control over the child let me move a little bit further.
So as the child grows older, one day when the child wants to study something the subjects the child will choose, then this child will say Dad, I want to marry.
Can you say no?
You have to go back to Allah. That's what you have to do. Look at what Allah told you. What did Allah say? It is not your right? To say yes and no from your own pocket. Did you know that? Why that child belongs to Allah, not to you, Allah occupied you and tested you. I told you at the beginning two aspects test for the parents test for the child. Allah occupied you and tested you by giving you an Amana to make you happy for you to be able to say my child, it is not your child. It's a lost child. For you. It's temporary for a short period of time for Allah it was before the child came to you and it will remain after the child goes away from you. You understand? for you. It's temporary,
how long I don't even know. Allah says I'm giving you something when I want it. I will take it back without asking you.
When Allah takes a child away, Allah doesn't ask me Look, I'm thinking of taking your child away. Allah takes it gone. So panela you are left with an issue another problem you start to cry, it's normal. It's It's It's hard to see the tears and
so the child comes and says I want to marry you need to go back to the instruction. Oh Allah you gave me an Amana. I looked after this Amanda I grew up this manner. And what happened is now this Amana of yours it belongs to you is telling me I would like to marry. Many parents make a mistake. They say to the child, you are ungrateful. I looked after you, I brought you up, I sent you to school, I went to work and spend money on you, I did this and today you want to marry someone I disagree with? That statement is foolish. That is foolish that you are removing Allah from the equation subhanho wa Taala. Allah can tell you hey, listen, I gave you the child you cry for the
child, you didn't have children, I gave you the child after so long. And I told you to look after the child and I told you that I will take away control your control of that child because the control is supremely mine. I gave it to you for a period of time when you had it you should have done whatever. Then I told you when the child wants to marry you need to follow a certain way and a certain method, what is the method go back to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he says either attackmen toccoa de novo Luca hufa. We do
a lot of alhuda configuration.
If someone comes to you with a proposal, you are satisfied with their level of Deen their religion and they love the character and conduct. Let it happen. For as long as the child is happy. Your daughter is happy. The son is happy for example, if they are not happy, it will not happen. Did you know
That you can never force a child to marry, no matter who we have a system in some countries in many countries where it is a culture that the child will marry the cousin whether you like it or you don't like it, it's over from the point of birth, you are already fixed, you don't even know that is against Allah instruction. If they are happy, they can do it no harm, you can marry your cousin in Islam. If you are happy you can. I am married to a cousin of mine. So panela if you are happy you can. If you are not happy, it will not happen. Don't force you might talk about it and explain the merit of it. Don't force. My brothers and sisters. This is absolutely important. The oma is
suffering. I get 1000s of complaints on a weekly basis. 1000s of complaints on this matter on this subject. My father is forcing me My mother is forcing me. I have a proposal from a person his color is different my parents have disagreed, is disagree. Look at the boy talk to him. Bring him you find fault in him talk about the fault. The color is not a fault. Bill. Alibaba was a man from gentlemen, in the sense that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam when he came back from Iraq, he made it clear, he said I heard the footsteps of Bella lipner rockin gentlemen.
If they got him married, they married him Subhanallah they didn't look at his color and say because he was dark skin. Have you ever asked yourself? Why did Allah subhanho wa Taala keep some Sahaba of different races? Did you ask yourself that question? What was the point of having the La Liga bar in the middle of all the Sahaba? Why? Why did I keep it? Why was suhaib rooming the European men from from a room? Why was he so happy? Why did Allah have it?
Just to show you that Islam is not about race.
The race of Belarusian orapa did not drop him down.
And the race of Abu lahab did not raise him in any status.
You need to know this.
So that is a test for us. I might not like something I don't like something I might say You know what? Oh I'm so upset. Why did you look if Allah allows it and permissive and if they want it, it is your duty to let it happen. Whether you like it or you don't you might talk about it. You might Express look my daughter, inshallah we can do better we can this we can that Look, my son, I think this and I think that you can explain and talk you cannot become violent, you cannot threaten. You cannot be a person who just refuses without proper Islamic valid reason. That is an Amana and Allah will take that Amman away. That person was born. Like I explained at the beginning of this talk. It
was not their fault where they were born. It was not their fault.
They were born somewhere. Allah chose them to be born. How did they meet? I don't know. You don't know perhaps you need to find out and if they made some panelized one of those things nowadays online if you did not guide your child the time you had control over the child. Don't blame the child for for having done something that you didn't even talk to them about. Many parents don't discuss the issue of marriage with their children, ages 10 and 11 and 12 and guess what? From 10 1112 they already have boyfriends and girlfriends because we don't even talk to them about this matter.
young age they are already far ahead. far ahead. We think all Mashallah everything is okay. Everything is fine. You got them the phone, you got them the mobile, you got them the iPad, you got them the internet, you got the fastest Wi Fi in your home, and you just say I love my child.
wakes war coming. Allahu Akbar. There's a war coming. I'm not saying don't get them, get them but teach them how to use it.
Teach them restrict them in a certain way in a beautiful way.
I have had cases of people who say my children are banned they're not allowed to have mobile phones one day the man caught his daughter with six telephones Where did you get them from? Someone gave me that guy gave me another guy again, they will give you that give you the phone. Father, what do you think you did not teach the child how to use the mobile you just sit back and you happy? I never got the phone. But you've never ever looked. She has six telephones. Allah forgive us may not happen to us. So what I'm saying is communicate with your children and understand they are an Amana from Allah. He has the right to take them away at any time from you at any time. He can take them away.
They are his children before they were yours. He allowed you to say my child for a period of time.
Now let's continue. So as the child grows, Mashallah, do you know what? Life is extremely difficult, extremely difficult, extremely difficult.
When you were born, you came to this world This world is full of obstacles and tests. It is a testing ground. It's like a school every week. You have an exam.
at the school, every week, you have a test every day. Some people have tests. If you go to a top private school, they will test you every day what you did yesterday. So this is the best the dunia ally is going to test you one after the other every day you will be tested what you did what you learned the previous day or earlier in that day, or what you know Allah. Allah says, Well, I never know when
I'm sure you've read this verse, I just said one word, you know, Arabic language, a lot of you might understand a little bit.
But when Allah says in the blue, it means we will test.
And when he says level one, he is emphasizing it so strongly, we will definitely definitely definitely test every single one of you. It's going to be test after test after test. That's why you on Earth, everyone seated here, including myself, we have issues we need to deal with, you have issues, health issues we've all struggled with, whether it's a cough, no matter what it is, we've all struggled with
health issues, nobody here can say I've never had a health issue since I was born up to today. Go ask your mother, maybe when you were little You are a college child. Maybe you used to screen. So
this is the brain of Allah. Why? Because Allah wants to test you What are you going to do? Some of us when we are tested, we get angry. Some of us when we are tested, we get depressed?
Allah says no, there is no point in getting depressed. No point in getting angry.
We could not all go to top schools agreed.
We could not all get certain qualifications that we might have wanted. We had to fit in some way sometimes either because we didn't do that. Well, not everyone's brain is exactly the same in capacity. Allah created you you are good at something. What is it? It might be different from what I am good at. But Allah did not leave you just like that there is something that he gave you. Sometimes you don't realize what he's given you. He has bestowed upon you some gift that others perhaps don't have to your level.
Some people are very intelligent, some people are good with their hands. Some people are good at mathematics. Some people love biology, geography, some people are very good at administration. Some people are good as teachers, some people are good as for example, computer specialists, some people are good at sitting and watching so they are Gods sapan Allah
hamdulillah I see you're smiling. I didn't say lazy. I said good at sitting and watching Mashallah.
Allah subhanho wa Taala help us you still can have a job. You still can have a job, and you still can go, but how much will you earn, let me inform you at the beginning. I said, Man is such he can adapt. That's Allah gift to you. You can adapt. The man who earns 50,000 a month and another who earns 500 a month. Trust me they are eating. Trust me they are surviving. They get used to it. When that man who's earning 50,001 day suddenly loses his job. And he's not earning, he will struggle. If he's not me. He will make the most of what he has. He probably has saved a little bit in a beautiful way because he knows that I'm a movement. I'm a Muslim, and perhaps this is a gift of Allah I need
to make the most of it. But
if he is not a LogMeIn or his Eman is weak, he will start to cry, he will become depressed he will become upset he will not be able to survive not realizing that the one on the street who is wearing a uniform and sweeping these happy Santa Monica is looking at you time for Salah on one side.
And he's so happy he's delighted Mashallah. You give him one real? Oh, thank you so much, sir. Thank you, sir. You carry your bags, your plastic bags from the supermarket all the way to your hotel room in the middle of the heat, and he won't expect more than one or two tendrils from you. And he's happy and delighted. But you are a human being just like him. How come he's doing that? That's a gift of Allah and he's happier than you are. If you've got 1000 in your pocket. That's Allah adapt. This is the test. This is something that really we need to think about. Don't become depressed at your test because your tests is considered a gift for other people in their real life. Does it make
sense? I have seen people without legs will lie. And they are so happy. I met a man who cannot move for many, many years. We are Lagonda. He is paralyzed from top to bottom. He communicates with his Iris mela granting cure.
But if you see him you talk to him. You will be motivated because trust me his contentment and happiness with Allah is far greater by the will of Allah than a lot of us who are seated here today.
We have small issues, so don't become depressed. The issues are there. That's what the dunya is all about. I am here to tell you today that hardships in your life would start from the point of birth even
Before anything is written against you, your hardships have started.
You know Allah says your deeds are made to be written at the age of maturity when you mature, then the pen is lifted and things are written for you or against you at that age, but your hardships they start before that innocent children, sometimes you ask yourself, why is it that Allah subhanho wa Taala has tested this child, the kidney failure to those who have kidney failure? Why is it that Allah has tested this child innocent child cannot see innocent child cannot hear that all is a test Allah knows why it's a test for you around the child. As for the child, Allah knows that it is Allah child before it came to you on earth, and it will go back to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And perhaps
Allah will grant that child a lofty ranking gentlemen.
It is something amazing and we definitely need to think about this unique system of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So my brothers and sisters, as the child grows older and the child starts asking a question and I got to the point of marriage, and the child is saying I want to marry please consider what the child is saying. Those who say I am embarrassed about what people will say they need to understand there is a great embarrassment
concerning what Allah will have to say or do remember this, people start saying back at home, what are they going to say the people will law he Are you really bothered to fulfill the Amana of Allah subhanho wa Taala for you. If that is the case, watch out fulfill it in a beautiful way. If you have proper reasons, give them Mashallah. Talk to your child.
Don't use the fact Oh, you know, in our family doesn't work like this. Do you not belong to Islam as a family?
Are we not family members here? Are you not part of my family? I'm part of your family. We have the deen we have Islam Subhan Allah. So don't say, you know, in my family, my tribe, they don't allow it. You know, our culture. If your culture agrees with Islam, it's a beautiful culture. If there are two three elements that are against Islam, you have to drop them. Because Islam comes first. I am saying that yes, there is an ideal, every parent has some dream. But can I tell you that reality, whether you like it or not, you have to adjust your dream as the years pass. If you don't, you will be angry, you will be depressed. Many of us when we were young, we had a dream. One day I will do
this one day, I will do that one day, I will do this, and you had to change your dream. I'm sure you heard the story about the man who was I said it in this machine sometime that and i want i want to get the man who was a porter. And he had a dream that one day I will carry the goods of someone who's wealthy, and I'll get some money and I'll do something. So what happened is
he was at the train station, and there was a man who came out of the train the train with some milk, milk in the canopy. And he was a wealthy man, that time there was a shortage of milk. So to have milk is something big. So he said, Can you carry this? This man says yes, I will carry this for you. And he says, I will give you a nice amount of money, good amount of money for this. So that man puts the he took the cannon, he put it on top of his head. And he was walking. Very happy today his dream is coming true. Why? Because I'm going to get a lot of money. And you know, they have a skill. The porters if you have seen them, they put something on their head, they have a skill to put something
on top without holding it. And they can even run it won't fall. They can even run with one foot because they know they are experts in their field. So paralon this young man, he has this thing and he's walking, walking. And that man says look, whatever you do, don't drop the milk. He said No, I won't. Don't worry, I won't. So he's walking and as he's walking, he's thinking to myself to himself,
I'm going to get say for example $100 from this man or $10 whatever it was, I will buy two chickens. From there, the chickens will lay eggs, when they lay eggs, I will start selling eggs, then I will buy more chickens before I know it I'm going to have a foul run and I will have many chickens they will lay eggs and I will also start selling the chickens themselves. So I will now be a person who sells chickens and eggs. And after some time I will buy some sheep and then I will have
I will have a little farm and I will be able to grow on one hand I have my chickens my eggs the other hand I will have sheep and perhaps goats I might want to sell some of the milk of the goats and I might end up selling the sheep and I will open a butcher. I will be a butcher and after some time I'll buy a big piece of land and I'm going to buy some cows. When I buy the cows we'll sell milk we will sell cows we will sell so many things. Wow. I will employ 200 300 people and I will make sure that everything runs and he is busy working with the smirk on his head and his plan. His plan, beautiful plan. It's workable, isn't it?
It can work if he works out and Allah gives him acceptance. They are from amongst us even maybe sitting here, people who started off with nothing and Mashallah, today they have so much, you know that. So it's possible. So he has this dream and then he says, then I will buy a building in the city center, I will buy because now when I make money, I can't just leave all my eggs in one basket, I will buy a building in the city center. And after that, I will buy another building and I will give it on rent and I will become one of the biggest one of the biggest businessmen in this whole land. Then I will go to the king to ask him for his daughter.
I will go to the king because now they will know me I will be a businessman. And I will be the biggest they will ask me for they will ask I will when he asks, I will then go to them and say look, I want to marry your daughter. And as he's thinking this, he hit a rock knee and this this thing here fell down.
So when he fell down the owner of the mood
he was so upset, he turned around and said
look, what did you do to my milk? I lost my milk. He says Wait, hang on, relax. You only lost your milk. I lost my chickens. I lost my goats. I lost my legs. I lost everything. I lost my eye so many people lost their jobs and at the same time I even lost the wife
the point I'm raising is you have to adjust your dreams because you have a dream It's not wrong to dream Dream please dream but remember it's a loss plan. You will have to adjust we have idea oh I have I have daughters. In July we'll give them a grown a you know that they will grow up Mashallah under me I will teach them they will become happy love the Quran they will this everyone has a dream. I want my child to become Imam of the masjid to learn Islam to spread the deen everyone has a good dream. I want my child to do this to do that. You know what? And then you say I want my child to marry someone inshallah is a really good person and inshallah they will have children I will have
grandchildren one day by the word of Allah, whatever, whatever. It's exactly like this man who had these dreams who these, you know, kind of milk at the top. If anything happens to that can trust me you have to adjust your dreams. But Allah will give you something not very far off. If you aim very high with your children, inshallah, at least you will get halfway there. But if you have no aim, we're going to go if no aim. So I have met young people I want to memorize the Quran. I want to memorize the Quran give me some advice on memorizing the Quran is not easy. Yes, it's good that you have the intention start today, you might not finish everything. And you might find it difficult how
many children started it and then after a little while they gave up they found it very difficult. At least they have a link with the bar, at least now you can read the Quran looking inside properly.
Some parents, they say I want my child to be happy. They push the child they force the child, they have a problem with the child, they start fighting with the child and the child goes in and the child starts learning Quran and they memorize one juice and then they give up after a big fight. You don't realize that while I was trying to make my child fully happy, at least now they can read the Quran very beautifully looking inside. That's a bonus. That's a bonus. Have you thought of it. But if you didn't even plan that, they wouldn't even have achieved this much.
So life is filled with hardship one after the other tests, you have to adjust your dreams you have one day you will have a lot of wealth, the next day you will struggle because you will suffer a loss you have to suffer a loss. It's a lost promise. Because that verse that I was reading in Surah Baqarah. Allah says, Well, you know what he speaks about in there with a mental health. I will definitely test you some days you will be inflicted with fear, health.
Fear of what all types of fear you escaped. Look at the people in some of the lands around us. May Allah protect our lands, may Allah grant Emmys and goodness, innocent people they were living, they had nothing. Nothing was happening. They weren't interfering with anybody they had to run away in their homes were destroyed. Everything happened. They found to be refugees all across the globe. What happened to them take a lesson. We are concerned we want to see solution. We almost mean we want a stop to all the fighting and killing. That's how it's supposed to be. That's what we make Doha for. Sometimes there is confusion, we don't even understand what's going on. That's how much
confusion days but the lesson to learn is those people, a lot of them had more comfortable lives than you have today. Do you realize that what happened Allah says we tested them, we tested them, they adapted they went they came those people who were living who in air condition. Those people who have beautiful buildings, they were found later on to be in camps of refugees where they don't even have a blanket, but they got used to it. Allah gifted them by allowing their bodies to adjust by allowing their system to adjust
You have to adjust. If you don't you get depressed, you become sick. You suffer a sickness, a mental disease, because you did not adjust. You have to adjust when you lost your job or your salary went down, or they were retrenching people and you had to go, for example, don't be depressed, make the most of what you have. Some of the people who are the healthiest and wealthiest are from among those who one day they suffered a dip. And then they came up.
They suffered a dip, and then they came up.
I can give you a true story of a man who went to look for a job as a cleaner at one company in the United States. It's a true story.
And he went for the interview, he had the interview and this person asked him that, you know, what's your email? At the end of the interview? What's your email, he says, I don't have an email. He says if you don't have an email, you are nobody. You are nobody, we cannot give you the job.
If you don't have the money anyway, he was disgruntled upset, he walked out as he went out, he saw some people selling tomatoes. You know, they call them tomatoes in America.
Anyway, selling tomatoes on the road. And what happened is,
he realized, Hey, this is also a good way of earning money. So he went to the market, he brought some tomatoes, he bought some he sold and he bought a few more. And he sold and he became a person who sells vegetables. And in no time, Mashallah he started delivering one corner to the other with a little bit of a profit. And before he bought a little stolen a little, you know, one of those, what do they call them? Simple store, one of those little stores. And he started selling from that. And he was going on and on. And it got to a time when he bought a corner store. And after that he became a big supplier, huge. And he became one of the biggest one of the biggest in vegetables.
And one day, he was invited to some main, you know, some company huge for some function. And he went there. And he met that man, which man, a man who told him you are nobody.
And today he was somebody. And guess what?
When they made
and he was so thankful where he said, You know what? If I was given that job, I was just going to be still a cleaner in your office. Did you hear that? But because you did not give me the job. And you told me I'm a nobody. I walked out and I started the business. And today without an email. I am somebody. So Pamela.
So I want to show you this is an example to tell you that you know what my brothers and sisters, when you are rejected somewhere, perhaps Allah wants you to do something big. But if you become depressed, you won't be able to see the opportunities Allah has placed in front of your nose. This man had to look to see the tomatoes. And he realized, Hey, this is a good idea. If he was depressed, he wouldn't even notice those tomatoes. You wouldn't even notice so many of us here we can relate to what I'm saying. Because you have a job today. Tomorrow, you don't have the job, it can happen. Don't let it depress you. I'm here to tell you Allah is in charge. Allah is in control. Did you not
have beautiful days? Yes, you did. So thank Allah
and continue working. I'm not saying sit back and relax and become a person who's just sitting and watching. No, you have to actually go and try and work and do something that will help you in in a beautiful way and inshallah in that way you will be able to grow so life is filled with obstacles. One of those obstacles you will find is as Allah makes mention of it, in fact, let me move through that verse one by one he says when joueur Allah says we will test you with a hunger, hunger sometimes you don't realize you have a lot of food today. And tomorrow you might not have it and sometimes you have the food but tomorrow you might not be able to eat it because of your health
you know, I was speaking to some brothers a few days ago and I was saying when you are 20
when you are 20 you smell of perfume.
When you are 30 you smell off.
The difference is it's a little bit more because it has a little bit of a different taste. You are now maturing a little bit perhaps I'm not saying it's wrong to use perfume but I'm giving an example. When you are 14 it becomes old Mashallah you know, now you know what old is all about? And now you can afford it perhaps.
And once you turn 50, here smelling of Vicks, may Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us.
Allah Subhana Allah forgive us, Allah grant us ease its way you have your days, Mashallah you did everything. But you had Allah the days moved, and you continued. So the point I was raising is a jewel. Sometimes when you are young and you can eat you have chocolates and ice creams and everything. When you grow a little bit older when you are 20. You're eating everything when you are 30. So perhaps one or two things you start slowing down when you get to 40 you see you
Until you still can't eat it when you get to 50 you can't even touch it. So sometimes you really have to think 20 times that says thank you so much no Mashallah you guys carry on and in your heart you desperately want to have it but tell us you can't. So what happened your health made you not eat certain things that you really liked. It shows you the in this dunya Allah will tell you there are things you like, you cannot have all of them. When you get married, you have your wife, you can't have all the women from the rosebush, you picked one if you are lucky, you might have to pick one more or maybe another two more, you will stop at four. Let me not go further with that one
inshallah. But the bulk of us so Hon, Allah, you are lucky, you're fortunate you beat one, but you have the one in your hand, and you keep on looking at the rest of them. Oh, this You are like a person who has sugar diabetes, you know, you cannot have these chocolates and sweets, but you just look at them all day, come on, at least eat that which is healthy for you.
So Pamela melon does it with everything, very upset, very, you know, many once all, but Allah says in this world, every time there will be certain things you cannot have them.
One of the reasons is, because Allah has kept Jenna. That's why in general, the meezan you know, the beauty of it, the difference of gentlemen, is that you will have what you want. There you are you there is no even age, you will be eating what you want, you have what you want, there is no restriction whatsoever, whatever comes to your mind is yours. So if Allah gave you everything you wanted in this world, what was the point of creating gentlemen, but Allah says, No, we won't give you. You see the cars, you find the cars, you can buy the latest car today what law he as you are driving it, you will see one later than that.
It just shows you the dunya. When you run behind, it has to run faster than you, you have an iPhone seven, you have ordered the new Tesla, you know, the Tesla is the new the car of the future. It's already there. You can order it $35,000 each other, they will deliver it next year. But you order the car, it's amazing. But can I tell you something, when you get it, there will be so many others who have it and another model, which is perhaps higher than that. And they will have a different brand, which might even be better than that, who knows.
This is what it is. That's the that's the nature of the world. You know, I want to give you one beautiful example that you will relate to many years ago,
when I was much younger, we used to have certain cars from among those cars, there was a Mercedes that was known it was 123 series, you can go and Google it and check it
300 D Wow. That was like the car of the time. They used to advertise this vehicle. And I remember going into we didn't afford it or anything but going into the Mercedes, you know, showroom and just to get the book to look at it. It's a lovely, you know, it's your dream car, you know, the 300 d? You know people who are who are very should I say short sighted, they make a dua to say Oh Allah, Allah, you know, this guy, you know, at least if I don't get in the dunya then at least in general, give me the
young people you ask them young people you ask them so what would you like in general? I know my own son one day he told me I need a Bugatti in general and then I had to correct him I asked the question because I want to correct a mistake. You know, Bugatti, by the time you grow old, you won't even want to see it. So today, if someone offered the same people who are making a do at that time for the 300 d a 300 D in the area, forget about the Akira, they will say I don't need it, I don't want it.
You understand the point. So this is why we say Allah has kept the dunya such that when you run behind it, it runs faster than you you will never be able to keep up with it. But you need to understand that realize that Allah puts hardships as a gift. Another gift regarding hardship is it softens your heart. It makes you get close to Allah, you have hunger you have fear. What do you do? Oh Allah save me. You know, people talk about gene Subhana Allah and they are gene around and people are worried because you start seeing this person. Learn what Islam says it's not my topic today. But I can tell you something interesting. After Salah, after Salah to Madrid, we read what is called
mommy that Why? To protect yourself from what from matters of the unseen issues of align issues of gender and so on. Why because there is an element of fear.
Allah has blessed you read your Mahabharata, ask Allah protection, Allah gave you something so that you are not affected. So that without that element, you wouldn't have read this. Do you know that? Without that element, you wouldn't have read it perhaps. And speaking about Jean, they were they were these children that also you know, they they fear the gym. You might have heard me say this. I said it last year sometime and I repeated it once or twice, but I want to say it again.
So how people see a genie is very, very interesting. You know, they're the genie in reality fear man. You know that
It's only when you feel them, then they can come for you. But if you don't feel them, you feel alone they will not even harm you. So what happened is this gene, the two boys are trying to convince each other about something they learned in the madrasa. And what happened is, the boy is telling the other boy, look, you have to say Bismillah. When you are drinking water, you have to say, this Milla when you are drinking water. So the boy says, Look, it's just water. I know when I'm eating, I will say, this is only water. So why convinced me Tell me explain to me, give me a good reason why I need to say Bismillah before I drink this water, so he's trying to explain, you know, you have to say
Bismillah because it's the Hadith and because this voice is no, I want to be convinced this is okay. I tell you, you have to say this. Because in water, there are three genes.
There are three genes, three genes that he saw, what do you mean three genes? He says, yes, you better say Bismillah Bismillah. So what are the genes were the genes he said no to hydrogen and one oxygen.
h2o, may Allah subhanho wa Taala Forgive us, but that's just the point to show you how people feel the gene. So because of this code that you have, what happens one of the points is it drives you closer to Allah, you make your health for example, we fear that sometimes when you are not feeling well and you are going for the test, you have a major blood test or some scan or something. What do you do? You cry to Allah Allah helped me my test results must be clear to those who have been ill nella Grantham Shiva, those with cancer, may Allah grant and cure those with any type of disease and sickness, may Allah grant you cure and all of us, and those who are healthy, May Allah keep you
healthy. I mean, so this is part of the plan of Allah subhanho wa Taala.
that there will be times when you are fearful.
And hunger, we spoke about hunger. And then Allah says one action minute unfolds, beautiful, we will test you with loss of wealth, and life, loss of wealth and life. So all of us who are seated here and everyone who's going to listen to this in the future, also, I can tell you something, there will never be a single person who has not seen a loss in their life.
Sometimes that lost doesn't mean it's going to take you underground and make you bankrupt No, but if you were earning easily, at some stage, there will come a time when that ending is not going to be the same.
For Allah to test you, what are you going to do? Do you realize before we made you we already told you what we're going to do to you, before we made you, we told you we're going to test you have a beautiful job and suddenly it's no longer there or you have a beautiful job, beautiful salary, and suddenly they cutting down on salaries, and you have to take a cut rather than an increase. All of us want increases in salaries, you want to increase and they tell you look, you know what either you take a cut or we can't afford you anymore. You have to make a big decision. Don't become depressed turn to Allah. Allah, Allah.
Allah Salah, when the professor Salam was was overcome by something he used to quickly go to Salah whenever there was something of concern, he used to read salah and that's all I used to help so much, you're getting closer to Allah you are praying to Allah.
So Allah says, we will test all of you with a loss. You cannot make a profit every day. You cannot be on a good weekend every day they will be lost. The deal is when you buy certain things, some of those things they will be Baraka in and some of them no Baraka. Sometimes you buy a car, and it lasts for 10 years, and it's still like new. And sometimes you buy a car and the first year it's already damaged and broken and it's like a waste that was from Allah He tested you. So long as you're not reckless, so long as you tried to look after the minima of Allah, you need to now move on. You need to thank Allah and carry, do something about it. The situation that you are in, don't
dig a hole in the ground and start becoming depressed. Thank Allah no matter what it is. That's why on the Day of Judgment, those going to Jenna, one of the categories, a caller will call a melody in a car.
And they will be gone two gentlemen, who were or those who used to praise Allah, at times of ease and the times of goodness they used to say Alhamdulillah come we want to give you gentlemen, imagine, Allah is telling you those who used to thank me when they were in hardship, I want to give them gentlemen because they thanking me at least I gave them something compare yourself with someone worse than you, you still have a gift. So my brothers and sisters when you something negative happens to you, you say Alhamdulillah Allah, I praise Allah all conditions.
Only I seek protection from the condition of those who are in the fire the people of the fire.
So learn to think Allah Alhamdulillah Allah Callaghan. And then Allah says, we will test you with loss of life What is the meaning of loss of life Subhana Allah, your parents
your children, your siblings, your friends, and those who you know those who are close to you, we will take them away. Either we will take you before them or them before you or we take all of you together.
That's a test.
You can in this world, what's the next step?
Before I came here,
I was somewhere. Then I came here, and after this, I need to go somewhere, isn't it? This is a short period of time. Everyone's time is different. Allah says, we will test you by taking life away. So the life will go, it has to go, you have no option. Your father has to die. You have to die. Your child has to die. Someone has to die. We only don't know the timing, and we don't know how. So what do you do? Yes, you will cry the Prophet sallallahu Sallam lost his son by him. And he was carrying him and he was crying and the Sahaba looking at the tears of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And you know what?
He made the beautiful statement. He says when they asked about the tears, he says in nama he metal, Allah, Allah houfy, body Rama.
He says, I'm not questioning the decree of Allah, these tears or the tears of Rama, they are tears of mercy. Allah has put in the hearts of those who have mercy. It's normal to cry. It's normal to be saddened at a loss. But it's not the sign of a movement to become depressed at a loss. That's the difference. Don't become depressed. Don't play the blame game. blame game meaning if I did this, maybe my child would have this or my brother would have this if I did this, that all those gifts tafta Whoa, Baba shapen according to the hudy loan, when you say no this no that maybe this if that if this it opens the door of the devil. That's what that is. The devil will temper with your mind,
destroy your relations, everything gone to them. Thank Allah. Allah helped me Allahumma Gibney, famously, but he was lovely for me.
Oh Allah, you're asking Allah help to grant you out of that mercy and difficulty that you have helped you through it, save you from the calamity, and at the same time giving me something better in return all along. That's what you're saying.
So it's an amazing gift of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Brothers and sisters life will be full of hardship. Like I say, you will lose your children or your spouse, if you are married, and you really love your wife or your husband, you have to tell yourself one day they're going to go I'm going to go we're going to go together. You have to, there's no two ways. Don't let that depress you because that's life. That is life. You look at your children, it is normal to think that you know what, let me use this. Let me thank Allah for this goodness as it is here. I may not have my children soon. It's normal to think that but it's not normal to become depressed at that because that is part of
the test of Allah. When you go to school, it's normal to be tested. You don't see the question and you just sit back with your pin down and you're depressed and you're crying.
And you're crying while you are sitting in the examiner and try attempt to do something say something, use whatever you've learned check with write some form of an answer anything you know, whatever you want to write, try an inshallah perhaps you might have struck it. But if you didn't try, you put your pin down and you started crying, you definitely failed. There was no question about it.
There was no question about so this is why we say my brothers and sisters look at the poor and see that Allah says he will test you from the point of birth, you are tested and you will be tested all the way to the point of death. Even the sickness right at the end when people are terminally ill a powerful piece of advice you die with hope in Allah. And
Allah says I will treat each of my worshipers according to the way they perceive me.
So if you think john lies before me, I have committed sins Allah will forgive me. I made Toba. I tried my best Yamato for him. kofu Rahim Rahmani Raheem, forgive me Have mercy on me. I have no option but to return to you. You are the one when I was younger, I had energies I committed so many sins, Yala. You know right now I have nothing besides you. I'm going to return to you Allah, I know that you will forgive me because I'm asking you for this forgiveness. And you die with a smile.
don't become depressed. People are terminally ill they become depressed. Even if you hold the chair very hard, you will still die doesn't help you. No matter what you will still done. So when a person is terminally ill when they are old, remind them of their good deeds sooner. Remind them of their good deeds, remind them of the mercy of Allah have good words on your time Subhana Allah May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us all. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala open our doors May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us whole ease through the difficulties that we will face. We have faced we are facing
Every one of us here, I'm sure we are facing difficulty we are facing hardship of some nature. Some are more than others. Some people have bigger problem than others. Some people have smaller problems than others, but because they don't know how to deal with it, they think that it's the biggest problem on Earth, not realizing that so many other people have been through those problems. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless you. May Allah open your doors May Allah open the doors of every one of us have mercy May Allah grant you sustenance and good health and more than anything man Allah make us closer to Him. May Allah subhanho wa Taala keep us as close as possible to him. Allah He my
brothers and sisters, when you go through difficulty, it's a gift of Allah you become closer to Allah, you come to Salah, you come to the 100 you come to your heart is softened, you become a better person, you start dressing with a job, you start doing things for the sake of Allah, you realize that life is not all about partying and it's not all about wasting of money. My brothers and sisters learn to save a little bit learn to reach out to other people when you help other people alone will help you. So inshallah in this way we will be able to get closer and closer to Allah. I hope that the few words I have said will be of benefit to myself to begin with, and then to the rest
of us. Appu Kali hada sallallahu wasallam Oh Baraka and abena Mohammed Subhana Allah He will humbly issue panic alarm or the Hamdi Ganesha to Allah Illa Allah and