Evil Thoughts About Others

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Moutasem al-Hameedy

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Friday Khutbah at the Abu Huraira Center on March 31, 2017.

With Evil thoughts you can not reach to good conclusion.

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all praises due to Allah we praise Him we seek his aid and we asked for his forgiveness. We seek refuge and protection in a law from the evils of ourselves and the evil consequences of our own actions. Whomsoever Allah guides, none can lead us astray. And whomsoever Allah leaves to go astray, none can guide a bear witness that none has the right to be worshipped. No one has the right to our ultimate love and devotion but Allah subhanho wa Taala alone, who has no partners, and I bear witness that Muhammad Sallallahu it

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He was early he was his his servant and His Messenger. All you who believe fear Allah as he should be feared and die not except in a state of submission and Islam to your Lord, or mankind be dutiful to Lord who created you from a single person, and from him he created his wife, and from them both, he created many men and women and fear Allah through whom you demand your mutual rights and observe the rights of your kins. Surely Allah is Ever and all watcher over you, or you who believe keep your duty to Allah, fear him and speak the truth. He will direct you to righteous deeds and will forgive you your sins. And whoever obeys Allah and His Messenger has indeed attained a great achievement.

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Indeed, the best words are the words of Allah. And the best guidance is that of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa early he was a lump. And the worst thing in the religion are the newly invented matters. For all the newly invented matters in religion are considered to be innovation and bitter, and every bit is misguidance. And every misguidance leads to the hellfire.

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Allah Subhana Allah to Allah says in the Quran. Yeah, you hola Dena, Manoj attorney boo Kathy Amina Vani in Bhavani.

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Oh, you who believe keep away from so much or a great chunk of oven, which is certain conclusions and suspicions that we have about others.

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Because some of our conclusions, some of our suspicions, some of our thoughts and conjecture about people,

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constitute a sin,

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constitute a sin.

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And this is a great directive from Allah subhanho wa Taala. It's a way of life. You know, one of the main factors that ruins the lives of billions of people is to have to have evil suspicion and evil thoughts about people, evil thoughts about people, the scholars of Islam have always said something to the effect, and not me known as their own way.

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And me known as our own, the believers are ones who find excuses for others. They always have, they always arrive at good conclusions about why people do what they do. So you make a mistake, you wronged them, you cause some kind of discomfort you do anything, I believe I would always assume the best of you that you have a valid excuse for behaving that way. So one day you you meet them with a frown, or with some kind of disrespect, straightaway, they calculate and they say he must have had a bad day. Maybe something bad happened to him. Maybe he's not feeling well. Maybe his mind is busy.

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So he didn't pay attention. We'll move

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on, whereas the hypocrites they search for your mistakes, they rejoice when you make something wrong. They're happy because they found the treasure, something that can take against you something they can they can use against you. When you make a mistake, they feel good about themselves. Because when you make a mistake, they assume that they are better.

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So we should check ourselves. What is my response to people when they do something wrong when they fall in an error? When they make a mistake? Whether it's in religion, or in personal affairs or any of the efforts? What is your automatic response? Is it to be happy? This person made a mistake? I'm better than him. I caught him.

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I always told you he that he's a bad guy. And that's the proof. So they're happy with that. That's a sign of hypocrisy. That's a sign of a thick heart. hypocrisy should have one.

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Yeah, you're Latina, Manoj Stonebwoy. Kathy on Main oven in Bhavani. Whereas if your immediate response when someone falls in an error, they make a mistake. When you do straight away, you find an excuse for them. It must have There must be a reason why they behave in this way. There must be a reason why he treated me. It must be a reason why he did not reply myself. There must be a reason why he feels angry. There must be a reason why he's so frustrated, then. There must be a reason why he has a frown on his face. May Allah make it easy for him. May Allah give him a way out and to take it a step further in goodness. Get out of your way and go and check with that person. Is there

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anything I can do to help you? Is there anything I can do to support you? Let me know. I'll be there for you.

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That's what good manners is. That's what good manners is in Islam and the prophet SAW Selim says in La Jolla, or in El Monte

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Mina, because the whole okeeheelee Abu Dhabi Jetta saw

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that a believer or a good person, with their good character, the good luck, the good demeanor, the good behavior,

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they can reach the high level of a person who is fasting constantly and praying at night constantly. That's how history is so beautiful. And one of the main aspects of hustler hulak is having a personal one having has not been, the profits are seldom would always assume the best in people, even when they wronged him, he would not arrive at negative conclusions, he would always arrive at a good conclusion. Because the negative conclusion shows that you yourself are not comfortable, you yourself are not stable inside.

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And this is why the poet said

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or the Arabs usually say colonial NASA be a highly colonial NASA big, highly each person, they see people and they perceive people based on their perception of themselves. So a lie I would assume that everyone else is lying. A thief would assume that everyone is trying to steal and manipulator would assume and expect from everyone to be men trying to manipulate him.

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That's how we see people, we see them as we know about ourselves. So we project our reality on people. So when we have sort of run an evil suspicion of people that shows that we have so much corruption inside of us.

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And this is why I'm not gonna be the great poet said either set a fit model a set at uno

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de como tal whom into homie

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if the actions of a person and the attitude of a person is evil,

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then his suspicions and his conclusions about others will always be similar and evil, because he would project his reality on other people on their behavior on their demeanor

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was subdued Can I tell you whom into homie which means that and he would also impose this conjecture or this, or this kind of perception or this kind of conclusion on other people until it becomes a reality. If you have a partner, you,

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you team up or you partner up to make a business, and you always have suspicion, this man is trying to set me up. This man is trying to fool me. He's trying to take my money.

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He's trying to take me for a ride, you always be on the lookout for any sign that this person is doing something fishy. So when you see this man doing something and you don't understand it straight away, you're gonna assume

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he's playing a game on me right now right now. So what do you do you act defensively? You act defensively. And you're gonna raise suspicion? Where were you today? Who were you with? Where did this money go? Where's the receipt for that? And you start making more questions, more suspicion, more suspicion, until the person himself starts to have doubts about you. What's wrong with this guy? He doesn't even trust me. Why does he trust me? There's something fishy. So you project your reality on him, he respond in kind. And then what happens? You guys break up, you lose trust, you're gonna have so much to accuse him. He's gonna have so much to accuse you. And you thought ways on

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better terms. And then you're going to say, I was right. When I thought first, he's taking me for a ride. I was right and he was approved and all started in your head. That's what the one does. That's how this is how suit of one starts. And this is what it does this how it destroys families. This is how it destroys relationships between between parents and children. Is that what destroys partnerships? Is our destroys communities and societies. Look at the media What is it doing about the Muslims now?

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Giving them a bad image, interpreting personal individual acts done by certain psychotics who ascribed themselves to Islam, they do these things, then straight away the whole the Muslims are blemished and tarnished with this. And the media says a muslim terrorist

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and Muslim criminal.

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And then you're gonna find some politicians who come, you know, in certain platforms, and they start to say, what about the Muslims who are marrying young girls, Muslims who are

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who are exercising or practicing child abuse, Muslims who are selling drugs, Muslims who are planning to kill who plotting to destroy this community, and this is it and they exaggerate and exaggerate, exaggerate and people swallow that when people see you sometimes holding a bag.

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bag on your back.

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straightaway, they look at that with suspicion. If you have one of those bags where you hold a tripod of the camera, they think it's a bazooka, right? This guy's is up to something. That's how sort of one does. And that's how people think. And that's how they process information. So Sue is one is a very destructive, destructive force. And we need to be careful.

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So as believers who believe in a lot and trust the last panel to add, you will never gain anything by having postnova. So by adding So, you can never gain anything from so you can never.

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But when you approach people, people in good faith, you interpret the actions in the best of ways. Do you know what happens? You will win even if these people are against you. They won't take you for a ride. Because if you are a smart guy,

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they can't take you for a ride. But smart doesn't mean smart doesn't mean having suilven or evil suspicion. This is why this kind of proverb, it's a false proverb. It's been recently in our circuit in the last couple of couple of centuries. in the Arab world, they would say sort of one name and has never been has never been on and poppin.

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But this is wrong. So one is a very evil trait is a very evil trade. The prophet SAW Selim one day we don't why do you know what fuels sort of one? what fuels sort of run its shape on himself? One day the prophet SAW Selim kanima Sophia, lovely Allahu Anna was a lover and everyone

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can I am Shema Sofia family was a hobby Yan flame

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fatale aleris nicoma in the house of

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Allah Allah Rasool Allah

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Tarana novel novica Sharon Oh, Susan, called in a shape on a dream named Adam Majora.

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The person was walking one day with his wife, Sophia. It was nighttime it was duck. two companions passed by they give Salam and they walk away.

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With so much shyness and bashfulness they don't want to interrupt the prophet SAW Selim. The Prophet says, Adam says, hold on. This is Sophia. It's my wife. They said you're a solo, we're not gonna have doubts about you. He said in the shape Ana yejide. mean Ebony Adam shaytan runs through the thoughts and the mind and the body of the son of Adam, just like blood runs through your veins and your arteries.

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That means shaytan is on top of you all the time, throwing evil suspicion, evil thoughts, evil conclusions about people. So from now on, to make this practical, let's not keep it as theory, from now on practice on a daily basis when someone upsets you, someone acts suspiciously give them excuse.

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someone gets at your nerves, give them an excuse, someone misbehaves, give them excuse. And you know what this was, this is not by the way, this is not being naive at all. This is being smart and intelligent. Because once you have a one, you have evil suspicion and evil conclusions about people, you're going to shut down your mind, you're going to shut down your mind. And you're going to have a mindset or a theme about that this person that is evil, and you will interpret everything they do in a negative light, just like the media is doing with the Muslims today.

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So everything that person does, you're going to see it in dark lights.

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That's that's how it's gonna go. You will misinterpret everything that person does. And you know what you're going to miss out on a great opportunity to have a good relationship. And second of all, you're going to miss out on a lot of goodness, because relationships are fertile soil, for goodness, because when we treat people there's a lot of there's that's a field for, for for personal HELOC. That's a field for treating people well for helping people out for giving a smile and getting some sadaqa.

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Relationships are power. They are resourceful.

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So when you have supervision and evil suspicion, evil thoughts about someone, you're going to shut you shut down your mind, you're not going to think you're going to you're not going to see beyond the immediate situation.

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You're not going to see the goodness in that person. You're not going to look at ways to help that person improve and fix themselves. You're not going to even think when someone acts in a way and you don't feel comfortable about it. You arrive at evil conclusions, evil thoughts about this person, you're gonna say, I don't want I want nothing to do with this person. What about if there is so much opportunity and goodness coming through that person and you have shut it down completely? Why? Because you arrive too early at a conclusion, and it's evil. So from now on, make this immortal for yourself a way of life and it won't be known as our own. They believe as a someone

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People who search for excuses, search for excuses. One of the early generations one of a self said

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Submariner overall, find out creates manufacturer for your brother 70 excuses. The first one doesn't work. Second, one, second doesn't work. Third, one, third one doesn't work, fourth one, and so on and so forth, until you reach 70.

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So from now on, everyone, every time someone gets on your nerves, there's something that disturbs you something you have evil thoughts about, all you need to do is say, he must have a good reason to do this. Something is pushing him because people are fighting battles in their private life that we know nothing about.

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And it's only hurt people that hurt people. When someone is hurt, that's the only time they want to hurt the fire within that's burning them that cause them to act towards you like this. So instead of limiting your vision, to that immediate action, or that immediate attitude from that person, be patient, and that's about why the heart of hospital run on good thoughts is patience, and perseverance and a sub. So you hope you have patience, in order to penetrate this hard shield and see what's beyond it. See what's beyond it, because oftentimes people who hurt you, people who burst in your face, people who treat you bad. If you give them some empathy, genuine empathy and

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understanding they will break down in tears in front of you.

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That's how we humans are. But when we ourselves a week, we can't sustain that we can't accommodate this. So we're not going to give the other person a choice. By the way, that's why the early Muslim communities and societies flourished and grew up

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because they carried one another they supported one another instead of them judging one another finding happiness and, and and tranquility and, and rejoicing when someone makes a mistake. I got one against them. I have one against them now. What's this guy? This is an attitude of someone who has a sick heart.

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You should care for people, because these are the creation of Allah subhanaw taala

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was the for la de la comunidad.

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi Ma, one of the most important fields where we should practice husband one is the relationship between husband and wife, husband and wife, and between partners in business, or in any endeavor.

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A wife should always give her husband all excuses or excuses. Don't chase him after everything he does.

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And the husband is well should give his wife this space as well. And the benefit of the doubt the benefit of the doubt. There are spouses that cheat on their spouse after everything. Each word they say what do you mean by this? What is this or sometimes even spouses, they could keep a secret away from their spouse that's possible. Men have secrets. Women have secrets that are inappropriate to be disclosed to the other gender. That's normal, that's human. But the wife wants to know everything about her husband, she chases him, she puts him in a state of discomfort where he blows up. And the whole marriage could go down the drain.

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The same the husband chasing his wife for things that are not supposed to be revealed to men.

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Just the other day there was

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a marriage in crisis. And the reason was before they got married, the husband had some evil past he had some relationships before marriage.

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So his wife insisted that he discloses everything otherwise she was going to leave them she said I need to know everything.

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Or I will leave you so she cornered him

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and ultimately he gave in so he disclosed all his relationships. When he disclosed all his relationships and all his past she said I can't live I can't live with you anymore. And she left

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there are things that should not be too talked about. Yeah, you are Latina new data,

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into dela calm, so calm. All you who believe don't ask about the about things, that when they are answered when you get the answers to them.

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They will displease you, they will put you in discomfort they will put you in hardship. Not everything should be asked about there are things that so many things in life, you should let you should let go. And it's why the Arabs also said in some poetry, they said I'll be UBC you

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didn't fear Oh mihaela luckiness at the Omaha motors hobby,

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being dumb and foolish,

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doesn't make you a man of leadership. You cannot if you are dumb, you cannot be a leader.

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But the one who plays dumb sometimes and he turns a blind eye to things, he turns a deaf ear to certain things, he lets them go without chasing after every detail. That's the real leader of his people.

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Because there are things you shouldn't get into.

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These are glitches, he just just let them go. Life could still, you know, flow smoothly without them.

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So we conclude this hotbar by stressing the fact that we shouldn't keep this as a theory From now on, start practicing with the closest people to you, your spouse, your wife, your husband,

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your brothers, your sisters, your siblings, your friends, random people, strangers in the street, someone cuts you off in the street, give them an excused and have bad evil thoughts. Oh, he's nasty. He's stupid. He doesn't know how he drives. Oh, you swear at them. I just say maybe he had a bad day. Maybe he didn't see me, he missed me in the blind spot.

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I'll let him go. Someone might, you know, be angry, start screaming at you let them go. Let them go wave and say, take care. No worries. Have a good day. As simple as that. Because maybe you just had a bad day you don't know what these people are struggling with.

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Everyone is suffering in their own life. Everyone has their own predicament, their own suffering their own circumstances. And one of the predicaments that our own is going through. And suffering now is in the Horn of Africa. The drought, that is phenomenal. That is not known in the last 100 years. People are witnessing this they said we haven't seen this in the last 100 years. A drought as bad as what is happening now.

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And it handler there's a there's been a good response, generally speaking for Muslims around the world to support the brothers and the sisters, and, and all people who live in that area who need this kind of support. So since the last month has given us a relatively easier life, financially compared to those people, we want to help them out. And there was a task force created here in Toronto,

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between the Somali community and Islamic Relief, so they created a task force to send during next week, a million dollars to Somalia, to the areas that are hit by the drought, a million dollars will be sent next week. So they're going to send it and then they will try to collect as much as possible. And hopefully they will cover that over a short period of time hopefully, so they are sending this next week. And basically the to support a family for a month, you're looking at $80 $60 you're looking at $60 to support a whole family for a whole month.

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So there will be these forms to be filled out. And it's for each one is for at least for one family $60 that will help that family survive for one month. And we're looking to spread these so anyone who wants to contribute there, you can come to my office in Sharla the forms are available and we're looking at people who can give away $1,000 we need a certain number of people who can donate $1,000 to this and this would cover I believe 18 families or 16 families for a month. So this is a time for us to give for the sake of Allah subhana wa tada and to help our brothers and sisters and as the prophets of Salaam says methylome minion efeito to him Mottola from a motor out of him committed

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committed just had a stick I mean who would want to die idahosa ever just a table from our side of the believers to one another I just like one unison one body that when one part of it experiences pain and and illness, the whole body experiences fever and pain and fatigue and this is how we feel for one another so this is an opportunity that a lot opens for us to help out our brothers and sisters and hopefully this will save us from some harm and some some hardship that might come away. In this life is the province of Salaam says Sunnah on a rolling my feet up the Masai I saw the prophets of Salaam says doing goodness towards people doing charity it protects you from having evil

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