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Mohammed Faqih

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Even if a

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scholarship, Chef actually faces his roots back in the ancient city of Aurora in the Horn of Africa,

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Chef Muhammad is a graduate from Institute of Islamic sciences in America in Fairfax, Virginia. He also graduated in memorization and restoration from Jeddah Saudi Arabia, currently shades

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of

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orange county, also known as

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an instructor with

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speak to us about choices or a purposeful life.

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This keeps happening to me everywhere I go, I have to bet.

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How did it feel to be

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here without leaving some money salatu salam ala rasulillah. While he was happy, he will know whether

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whatever blessings I have

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whatever bounties I possess,

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or anyone else for that matter.

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They're all from you for that we thank you. And we praise you.

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For

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10 minutes any

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dear brothers and sisters,

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I have to be very honest with you. I was talking to a colleague of mine, right before the last session.

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And I was very nervous about this particular topic.

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Because I know that

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it will be held against me, whatever I say,

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will be held against him.

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I knew that I had two options. Either I can come here before

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and try to impress,

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and in the process, violate the very

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topic that I'm supposed to be addressing and talking about. Or I can come here and speak to myself

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and address my own struggle.

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And

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then what else that finds the same

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struggle

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that I wanted to be and lifelong struggle. And that is movement, purposeful life.

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So I decided to come and speak from the heart

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and turn it off on my device where the notes were.

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Brothers and sisters

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philosophy created as I remember one time asking this question, just to provoke my audience, I said,

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Why do you think lots of women?

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I really want to know,

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the very next day

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there was a series of

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short talks.

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A lot of people came that were not there. Because of that question that I asked. I said, I will address the answer to this question. In the next on the next night. This was during the month of Ramadan.

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So many people, obviously many sisters

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just to see what this new email is going to be saying.

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And of course, everyone was

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waiting for me to say the wrong thing.

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So I said, as far as I know, it was created a woman for the very same purpose, little loss of contact.

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And the dilemma that you and I face every single day, every single morning.

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Every day a loss gives us another opportunity to either live by it for that purpose

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or to

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distract ourselves and turn away from that purpose, and get caught up with trivial things.

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That's the dilemma that we face every single day was

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very, very clear.

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For a lofty purpose, a must have

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created us for himself,

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to be for him, and to live for Him. And our motto in life is supposed to be the very model that the prophets and messengers came with.

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In

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may mean, say, that, my,

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my worship,

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my sacrifice, anything that I give up or give away.

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In my living,

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I continue to live my kitchen with swimming every day, every moment, 24 seven.

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And myself, whether it is a minor test, every night, I go to sleep, or ultimately,

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the final moment in my life, from the beginning until the end, it is for

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the Lord of the worlds.

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And I was commanded to do so

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to live in such a fashion. That's this purpose, what I want to mostly mean, I'm the first of the believers, that's true prophets. And as for us,

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Muslims, those who submitted their passion,

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and everything has gone

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to a loss of

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Otherwise, this life is a waste.

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And the beauty of this model

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gives us the beauty of this principle is that it does not leave anything out. You can be doing whatever you're doing.

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So long, that is within the parameters of the Sharia,

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so that you're not violating the teachings of our Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him.

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So he's consistent, and is in alignment with

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the principles. You can be doing whatever you're doing in life, and still fulfill that purpose, and be rewarded.

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However, there is a choice that has to be made brothers and sisters. One lesson I learned

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from

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my class that I teach, and every time I go over this particular section,

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the class that I teach,

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called the rules of code of ethics, we talk about how to change it.

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How do we change our habits, because this is a struggle, we start a particular particular Regiment,

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we want.

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We were told today to start family.

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And very often

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in conventions or gatherings like this, people getting motivated. So they start something. But the unfortunate part is that after we leave, it fades away, the effects fades away. And we don't keep up with whatever we started at the conference at the convention.

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So what are the problems is that we don't know how habits change.

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So there's

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this famous book that most of you are familiar with, that talks about what it takes to create a habit.

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And again, that in the very first section of that the mystery is resolved.

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And for those who were asking earlier in the session, when we were talking about how do I know that the parameters relevant,

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were in the 21st century. So every time I attend a session, whether it's leadership or time management,

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or any of those workshops or seminars and seminars and workshops that come from a secular perspective,

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While they're discussing things, every time there's a beautiful concept or principle that is useful, there is always a heading. Or there's a verse that actually confirms that. And they just keep popping up properties talking about.

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So this principle is that habits are found at the center or at the intersection

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of three things. knowledge, skill, and desire. Now, skill and desire. Now those answers, and then the rest is a very key question. And that is how to NY

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and that's where, in many cases we fail. How? And even most importantly, why?

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What's the purpose? Why am I moving? What?

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If we answer this question, and in many cases, people don't really address this question. We don't want to face it, the seal brothers and sisters,

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either

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each and every single one of us with a skill and capabilities

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to fulfill this purpose for which he created us a must

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burden us with something that we will not be capable of fulfilling.

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So you either have, or you have the capacity to acquire,

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that shouldn't be a problem.

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Then comes design.

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And that is what is really missing.

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In the lives of so many people, do we have the desire? Do we have the desire to commit to this service or not, in everything that we'll be doing, whether it is my personal life, and personal choices, whether it is that I choose or that career that I pursued?

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Or in my family life, the way I approach marriage, the way I conduct myself

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and behave within my household,

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or my involvement and engagement in my community, and in the greater society in which I live?

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Do I have the desire to fulfill that purpose for which it was

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created?

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So these are the two things that are missing a skill is their brothers and sisters. And if you have a desire, you can acquire it and even if you don't, but the two points that are missing in many

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of our lives are the first one

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and the last one, the knowledge which addresses and answers why and how and the design

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decision that you have to make.

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That says, I have to make for myself

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that this portion, but I have to answer for myself

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very often. And fortunately, started with a story where I was quoted,

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I come from an area that is devastated with an increase in a rise

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in divorce rate amongst system.

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And you know, I see the problem even with those marriages, 10 years, 15 years, marriages last a decade,

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two decades, I see the problem.

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These marriages

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as conducting

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a ceremony

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where people are totally heedless as to what the purpose of marriage, or the purpose of this is. And we have functionaries like with everything else in life where we do things

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because it's about time.

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And in some cases, just for the heck of it.

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Brother, why would you choose this major? I don't know. I guess.

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Sister. What is so special about this?

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Brother, what is it that you're really looking for in a marriage? I don't know. All I care about is Miss America.

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Speaking of Miss America, we're not related by the way.

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That's

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Katie,

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the marriage is so

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where you have people who totally forget the purpose of marriage. In fact, they even forget

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the variables and principles upon which that marriage was established. And I remember one particular case where the couple got very nasty with each other.

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And it was a conference call.

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On one end, the brothers speaking.

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On the other end, she's responding to him, everyone is waiting for the other one to make a mistake.

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And at one point, he got out of control that they were not even listening to me that I have to scream and I say, Are you listening to yourself? Can you please tell me? On what basis? Did you two come together?

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It says, What are you talking about? I said, what were the basis upon which this relationship of yours became legitimate?

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I said, in other words, I want you to be aligned with the very words of vows that you

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exchange, in order for this to become a valid marriage.

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They were not able to remember,

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they were not able to remember a very simple statement that many people repeat Why? Because when the time comes, when the time comes, and everybody wants to get through it real quick. Give us the short version.

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And they just want to repeat what they say. They're not really paying attention to it.

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Why? Because the purpose is not reading.

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So we repeat, we repeat words, and we make a statement that almost

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Misa honey,

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this is a serious covenant.

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This is a serious problem. People normally say that I take this first step, or I give you the hat of my daughter.

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And I accept her hand in marriage in accordance to the book of the law and the tradition of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. And

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yes,

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so I said, Tell him,

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we

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are the traditional prophets Allah,

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do you find the type of attitude that you have demonstrated with one another right?

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Tell me, where

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do you find the type of issues that you are right now complaining about?

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And that your fingers at each other? Tell me where did you find these issues? That was your marriage, in the law, or the sort of the process of

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the problem of this marriage is that it did not start with the basis and the jurisdiction of the past.

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Nor was it meant to be

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on the basis of the book of a law or the traditional

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legal center, and chances are that it will not on the basis of the book of law and the traditional

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legal center. And that's why tragic events like a Muslim brother a few days ago, stabbing his wife to death after a marriage of 15 years.

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This is very unfortunate. Why because of the tradition of the Prophet solo and he was not there, why to begin with the purpose was not connected.

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The purpose was not fulfilling. And that's what living a purposeful, purposeful life offers us brothers and sisters, a chance to live a meaningful life, a fulfilling life, a life that pleases

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and the beauty of this message that we have is that it provides us It provides us with a model

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and a choice

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of source system as

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well.

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You

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ever been

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like you

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can I see.

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It is revealed to me that your board is one

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last panel who created this

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to whom we belong.

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To whom we should offer this

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part

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to who we should subjugate our passion.

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Our lives should be dedicated for him

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Whosoever hopes and believes in meeting his or her Lord,

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whoever believes in that whatever has that

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whoever is focused on that destination, and wants to live a life that is consistent with that

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this is the answer.

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You have to earn it, you have to work for

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that should be the focus of your life in whatever it is that you do.

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And the degree that

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you could be doing it to police

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or you're up you're about to fix, and maintain and keep and fight for

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your pleasing losses.

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When the toxic

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relationships that reached a breaking point, Allah Subhana, Allah gives us a second chance.

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And we

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want to rectify, want to reconsider. And if they have their intention in the right place that

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is capable of bringing back

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compassion that faded away back into the marriage and

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will make their efforts succeed only if they are serious, and if they're sincere, and if they want to live for that purpose.

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In fact, even those parties that get involved and trying to help a couple of makeup,

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and work out their differences, a loss of valuable assistance and guide them to be successful ereader

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only if they desire if they're genuine, about their attempt

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to bring back these two individuals together.

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So how is typical of doing that brothers and sisters, we just have to make sure that they really wanted that we are ready to commit

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to default.

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Let him work in whatever capacity

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he or she has some people say yes, to that, I figured out what I really want to address this.

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Because

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it's a very destructive disease.

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And now

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they can reach the terminal through Twitter.

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And some people have

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this idea

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is that

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I critique

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the work of the actors

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and

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what they do

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to pinpoint the problems,

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give them

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something

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they can tell you exactly what is wrong with them.

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They may even be able to tell us that

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in the global world is

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really at the verge of a disaster.

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So

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what's the point of pointing out? What is the phone? If you cannot,

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what are you?

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Who are you?

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What are you? Are you one of those people who's just looking for more views and his

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because now we live in a world that

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celebrates

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and embraces is extremely

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in an order for you to be popular and for you to get the highest

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captured in a digital form and put it on you.

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So some people

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have seen that to be there pointing out

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and for those who are brothers and sisters

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and this is worth

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that

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I wish that

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someone

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really listened to that video.

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When we said please do not be on

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his words were precisely chosen indicative

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that

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someone thinks these words translated as as adequately as.

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And

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as a lesson for all of us.

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He says this Deen of Allah azza wa jal will be preserved as

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it is

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that was saved and preserved

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in a setting that

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preserves this disease, and those who work for the CIA, are one of the few

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who is not sincere.

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doesn't know what they're doing, as sooner or later.

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And they will.

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So you don't have to worry about

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a loss of

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trust?

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Or is someone who is sincere.

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And these people are one of two types.

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Those who do what is right, and what is

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and,

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or those

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who do their best. And doing what is right

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before limited.

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So you don't have to really worry yourself.

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What you need to do is make sure that he

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does his or her to work for this scene, and fulfill their their

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brothers and sisters.

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And then, you know, on my way here, one of the things that we really, really disturbed me and threw me off.

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Was

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that

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really,

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the main

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hope was very obvious material all day long. But there were people going around as a loss.

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And I don't know why our children are considering considering going to a Jacuzzi

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or they just be sleeping, or they just be doing something constructive.

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This is part of that lack of purpose.

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So

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that we face this type of, I think,

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to the next generation

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and figure out what their purpose is.

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And let us sign up to live for and by that purpose. I say this and I asked him

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to make it

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follow the business within his

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own words.