Mohammed Faqih – Jumuah Khutbah March 8th, 2019

Mohammed Faqih
AI: Summary © The importance of choosing one's life and choosing the right spouse is emphasized in a series of conversations. The speaker emphasizes the need for self-help and learning from mistakes, as well as the importance of seeking out people and avoiding discouragement. The importance of knowing loss and staying ahead of fear is also emphasized. The speaker advises on choosing personal values and not trying to avoid small talk. The segment also touches on free aroma trips and retro culture events for finding a new partner.
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In Alhamdulillah,

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a mother who was saying who was Sophia who was 30

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Why would we lie to Allah misura Hussein Amen So yeah Marina Maria de la palma de la la

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la la De La Hoya de la ilaha illa illallah wa de la sharika why shadow Ana Mohammed Abdullah? Who Allah Sula who are Sophie who in vain Hello? Hello Hello

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Amanda Toronto salahaddin oma salatu wa salam O Allah. Yeah, you're Latina Amano taco la porta potty he went

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to the moon. Yeah, Johan su taco Rob de como la de la kocoum enough su wahida wahala caminhar xojo with lemon humeri Jalan Cathy around one is

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My dear brothers and sisters, Allah Subhana Allah to Allah the Almighty says in the Quran,

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Allah subhanho wa Taala is the one that

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Subhana creates, in sort of puzzles, verse 68, loss of heritage, Allah says that he's the one that creates what He wills and he's the one that chooses.

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There are certain matters that are not

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up to us. We don't make a choice, the choice or the has already been made.

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When you are born, where you're born, you know, this is just examples. One, you're going to depart and leave this world. However, a loss of Hannah what to Allah as part of our test a lot as the origin gave us free will,

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in certain areas gave us the ability to choose.

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And we were told that we have to choose carefully for we will be responsible for our choices. And we will have to deal with the consequences of our choices.

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And if what we choose turns out to be good for us,

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there is something that is expected from us. We're expected to be thankful to Allah Subhana Allah is to give credit to Allah as we give Him praise Allah, that he made things work out for us. And if what we choose turns out to be that, or turns out to be, we're expected to have positive attitude, and realize that whatever loss of health Allah has chosen for us is better. And that there is something a lesson for us to learn from this, and make the best of it, and learn from it.

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However, we are taught in our, in the tradition of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we're taught choice management. We're taught how to choose. And we're also told what from what we get from the from the this beautiful wealth that we find in the life of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is that when it comes to choosing personality,

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it's a sign

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and the result of wisdom and knowledge.

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The wise, the more knowledgeable, the wiser You are right, the more experienced you are, you're expected to make better choices.

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If you continue to make poor choices, that means

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you're not maturing.

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You may be aging and maybe growing but you've continued to do poor choices.

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And that you have to go back and examine

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your choice management, technique or style. How do you go about making choices?

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How do you how do you go about making choices? are you choosing carefully are you choosing wisely?

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam teaches us? He gives us tips sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when it comes to the importance of choosing there's there's a great story, you know, that just illustrates the importance of this of this particular topic. Right?

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They said and hasn't basally right? But a hammer home

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Law greatest scholar from that first first generation

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and has an basilea Rahim Allah

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said, just to show how choosing carefully and by the way, when we're talking about when it comes to choosing choosing in various aspects or areas of life, right? And then one of these very critical areas is when you choose a spouse who you're married to. So it has an adversary, Rahim Allah mentions this story said Welcome to Allah possessing me

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after Misha. He said, he said I went in Mecca.

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I was I wanted to buy from

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a man who was selling fabrics. Right? He was selling fabrics.

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So he said,

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so I looked at a piece of fabric.

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So he said, lamb.

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So he started praising it. He started exaggerating. And he started you know, praising his product and he started saying, Listen, you can't find anything better than this.

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So he started exaggerating and he started right. So he said I didn't like that so pathetic to Who said I left him and I went somewhere else. Welcome to lamda Shira, me Miss Lee was sorry Tim and Ray. He said this guy, no one should do business with him. Nobody should should buy from him.

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saturates your product is better than everyone else. I mean, the market is full of these kind of things, and it can't be reasonable. And and be honest. So he said, somehow just too bad that he can be entertained. Two years later, I made hedge

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for walk off to LA. So he said I passed by him from a smart Who am the one I have left.

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So he said the guy changed. He no longer you know swears by Allah Subhana Allah, he no longer exaggerates you no longer praises his product and puts everyone else's down. So he's like the guy change like a change map. different attitudes for kotula who so he said I want them Alister, Roger lady walk up to LA even though Santa what Aren't you the same guy that I,

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you know, had this encounter with a few years ago. He's like,

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Elena, he said, Yes, indeed. And the same person? Well, maybe he's the same person anymore.

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So he said to him,

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I said to him, What are you saying? Raja Illa. Allah said, and what made what what caused this change? You're a changed person. My

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life I don't see that you're exaggerate or you swear by loss of Hannah Montana, which by the way, is discouraged in business, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam discouraged, people. And when you do business when, if you're a merchant, the process I'm discouraged that a person continues to swear by Allah subhanho wa Taala that, that my work my product, my service is the best you should

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present your surface, this is why and this is this is what is going to cost you. Right? No need to use especially using the name of Allah subhanaw taala left and right will lie he will lie he will like anyone that does too many of these things, or swears by a lot too many times. That's the person that you need to keep distance from. Right if they have to. So So he said, You're not the same person anymore. He said to him, Listen, man, said Carla can at least lemur attune chemically chemically

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For now,

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turnover Allahu la yet for a matter.

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So he said to him while I was married

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to someone,

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whatever, if I bring something a little, she, she rejects it and she, you know, makes fun of it. And she, you know, makes me feel bad.

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And if I bring something if I bring a lot, anything large amount, she's like, what is this? This is it. This is all you could get? Like, she never appreciated anything. So he said phenol varoma. Allah subhanho wa Taala showed me compassion, and she passed away.

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Right? So he said,

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What is a wash tomorrow at ambassador for either a lot to do with it a suti after that be my geometry. Here we are. Suma Collins. Yeah. phoolan the Smithsonian. It tequila one or two in LA Eva. injectable callinan kasana

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I'm Tatiana Shea in and NACA la Hebei, Medina.

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for turba, della had a lady.

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So he said, Then Allah Subhana, Allah gave me, I ended up marrying another woman. Whenever I'm about to leave the house, she grabs me, and she says, Oh, so and so.

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Oh, my dear My beloved, she says, fear of loss of Hannah to Allah bring us nothing but Helen, pure, feed us nothing but pure, if you bring us something little, we will manage to, to, you know, it will be blessed, and we will manage to make it, you know, to make it suffice, we'll make the best of it, right. And if you bring us nothing, don't feel like a failure, don't worry, I will help you, I will help you, I will start you know, doing anything she she was.

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She was he had the ability to,

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to, she had some skills. So she said to him, I will take care of that. Whatever the skill is, by the way, I don't want to mention anything specific. Because whatever it is, I will help you. But make sure that nothing comes into this place except something that is pure. So he changed. So the point here is that it has a lovely saying that look at this man.

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A choice that he made, made a huge difference in his life. And this is one area. And by the way, this is one of the most critical areas, right, choosing who you marry, or who you

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spend the rest of your life with, or as you know, or any amount of your life doesn't have to be the rest of your life, the person that you're going to share the same space with and the person who with whom you're going to share all of your secrets,

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and have intimacy with any marriage somehow, and like gives each side an access to the other person that no other relationship does.

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Right? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam teaches us to be very careful and choose carefully, and teaches us the process of this. And I know that we won't be able to go through all of the details of this process of choosing. But if we must,

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real quick realize, first of all, brothers and sisters, that at the end of the day, and we know in the life of the prophet SAW Selim himself by the way, he made a lot of choices. Right, the vast majority of his of the choice of the actually all of his choices, a lot of them, not only were they sound and they turn out to be, to be to be the best not only for him, but for the community as well. But even some of the choices that people may have thought that on the long, you know, that didn't seem to be to be right at the time. They realized later on that it was the best thing that ever happened

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to me, so, so someone might say well, I don't have that kind of guidance or wisdom and all that but you have a loss of Hannah with Anna, you have a loss of Hannah with Anna and you can always make sure that that you follow the plan of Allah as

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speaking by the way of some halaman algebra last year. Mm hmm. Rahim Allah says that I am.

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What had the opportunity to choose between two to two women. And he went with the one that was least like less attractive for the reason. He had a reason he realized that there is something special about her.

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Right? So he said, I lived with her for 30 years.

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I lived with her a comet Marisa to masala Santa thena Amman, Tina center, her MacDonough to enter here he kalama we never had a disagreement over one one word never chose carefully. So how do we choose carefully what does First of all,

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Fear Allah subhanho wa Taala

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the fear of Allah azza wa jal, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says,

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that fear Allah wherever you may be in everything, so make sure that you are conscious of a loss of habitat, its presence, whatever you do, you're doing it to please Allah azza wa jal, right and whatever you stay away, you do it for the sake of Allah azza wa jal, and Alonzo in verse 282, of swords of Bukhara, Allah Subhana Allah says, What Allah, will you Alamo Kamala, be mindful of Allah fear Allah and Allah with tissue. Allow me to guide you in Surah inside verse 29, Allah Subhana Allah says, Yeah, you know, or you believe in Allah, if you were to fear Allah subhanaw taala you're looking for Karna Allah will give you the ability to distinguish between right and wrong. Right? So

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fearing Allah Subhana Allah being mindful of Allah azza wa jal maintaining a strong relationship with Allah

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Another tip that we are given is to seek people's opinion is too shallow. Right? consult people, people who have experienced people have gone through this people that you trust you trust their wisdom, and make sure that you are very also careful as to who you seek counseling from or who you seek opinions from. Right? You can't just make sure that you can't go to someone whose business is failing and ask them about how to start a business. You can't go to someone whose marriage is falling apart, right? Or who's who didn't know you know how to make Well, you might sometimes you might get some good tips as to what not to do. Right?

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But you get my point, make sure that you go to someone who's whose life experience, right shows

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a level of wisdom on his or her part. So then, after that,

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do secara the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam teaches us to turn to Allah Subhana Allah Indra and ask Allah Subhana Allah and beg him not for what you want and what you desire. Because sometimes we ask Allah Subhana for what we want, we want a lot to make things work out for us to make things happen for us the way we want them.

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No, but rather ask Allah Subhana Allah to guide you to what Allah Subhanallah to Allah knows to be the best for you. Because in the earliest part of what we say is Aloma in me as the hero cabling myth was stuck

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in Nikita, Allah Allah Oh Allah I asked you for your guidance for you know, and I don't know

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and you will and I have no well I have no ability to do what I want and so so so learn this do I use it in the province of aloha name synonyms companion said that the process has taught us is to highlight everything, there isn't like an insignificant matter or or issue that does not deserve you playing staccato for, in everything. In one in one narration, one of the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, even with regards to our shoe laces

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right, if I have to make a choice, which should I go with this product or this product? Right, there is nothing. So make choose carefully and,

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and and utilize this beautiful prophetic gift that was given to us known as istikhara. Right?

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Do your homework and make sure that you do not take shortcuts and make sure that you do not do anything. Sometimes people think that by

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by doing certain things, whether it's harm or something that is discouraging or immoral macro, it may not be hard on but it may be immoral. They think you know taking shortcuts is going to give them an edge or that it's going to get them ahead. It's not true.

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In my limited life experience, I see that but it doesn't it doesn't go too far. Right? Maybe for a while, but not on the long run. I asked him also panatela to make you and I have those who listen and follow the best of when they listen to Apollo Hello cola suffer Allah Allah Allah. Allah camino al

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al hamdu lillahi wa kafa salatu salam ala evadne Ludhiana. stofer, what about

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their brothers and sisters just real quick to wrap it up the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. For instance, when it comes to one of the most, some people say it is the most critical, most,

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you know, most serious choice that you make. Choosing a spouse, right? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave us advices and it's up to us. To use them or not to use them. Sometimes people make certain choices and they're like, Why? Why did the last panels and why is it Why are you blaming Allah Subhana Allah for a choice you made?

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Right? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for instance, said in Jeddah, komentar loana de novo, if a person if a man whose character and his morals and another narration, right, his integrity you trust and you're pleased with In other words, you can't trust someone until you, you you you test them until you do your you can say well,

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this sounds so sad. He's a nice guy. Well, I see him in such and such place. No, no, no, no. You need to make sure that this individual is who he claims to be.

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Be right? Please move forward and fill in the gaps and you test that person you have to test that individual. So the Prophet said if you reach that level where your content your please proceed, would you marry that person?

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That doesn't mean that you shouldn't take other things into consideration, but these should not be the deciding factor.

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You want to so learning our priorities and what we should be focusing on is very important in anything that we're doing. Right. And also in the case of a man who is pursuing someone for marriage, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned that a woman will be you know, is sought in marriage, for marriage in for the following things and the promises that I mentioned different factors that are all valid, right beauty status, well, these things are but the promises of them highlights at the end and puts emphasis on affordability Dean,

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right. Someone who is has sound faith, someone who's solid

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that's indicative of something not someone who appears to be but someone who is solid.

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Right. So

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so to choose, choose carefully, I guess this is the message of today's choose carefully learn the priorities and and rely upon loss of habitat. And if things don't turn out the way you intended or you hoped for them to be. Don't have any regrets. There must be something that Allah subhanaw taala wants you to get out of this. And it said, c'est de la Masha, Allah Subhana Allah will do something for me to learn out of this, perhaps a loss of how to allocate something bigger or worse things you know, from you. So if Allah Subhana Allah doesn't give you what you're looking for. Right? That's not your responsibility.

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As a matter of fact, you're responsible, Your duty is to be thankful and to be unconditionally grateful to Allah subhanho wa Taala and I asked Allah azzawajal to rectify and to bless all of our choices I asked Allah azza wa jal to preserve us and protect us from our own evil thoughts and shortcomings. inshallah to Allah starting this Sunday.

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You know,

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