Mirza Yawar Baig – Know yourself

Mirza Yawar Baig
AI: Summary © The speaker advises against harming oneself and working on one's strengths to maximize their value. They stress the importance of knowing oneself and working on one's own success to overcome one's struggles. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of positive contributions to society and working on one's own success to achieve their goals.
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Beautiful advice of

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He

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We talked yesterday about the importance of developing

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ourselves

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because at the end of the day

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we feel our own pain,

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we have to deal with our own disappointments

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we have to deal with our own difficulties

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and challenges.

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Like you said if you hold down

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you know somebody might give you a hand

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up.

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That's not usual but can happen

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but

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at the end of the day the the

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effort has to be made by the person.

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I have

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personal experience of this which is

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I had a motorcycle crash and,

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I

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ripped off my ACL

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and did a push in Leeward and I

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had to go into a major orthopedic surgery

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on my right knee

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and

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the result was after the surgery and after

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2 months of the leg being in a

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in plaster, thigh triangle plaster,

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The leg was reduced to

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bone and skin on the bone. The skin

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was black

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and scaly.

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I took one look at it when the

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orthopedician

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removed the,

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cast and I thought to myself, I'm gone.

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I'm I'm I'm going to be lame for

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life.

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And then he said he told me what

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kinds of

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exercises to do basically to

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rebuild the entire leg, the whole thigh muscles,

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the quadriceps,

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the hamstrings,

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the calf muscles and so on.

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And,

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it looked like a completely impossible thing to

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do. Now I had a

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absolutely fabulous friend

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called Bertie Swaras

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and Bertie had the same

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accident in a different way I crashed the

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bike he

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had this on the

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football fields

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but effectively the same thing

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and at the end of that,

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Bertie

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literally sort of picked himself up and he

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came back to the point where he was

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playing soccer again.

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Now he came and he would sit with

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me and he would make me do the

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exercises.

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He was not a professional

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physiotherapist,

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he

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was just a dear friend of mine.

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And

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he did that and

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it was intensely painful to do that but

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I stuck with it. Alhamdulillah

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It

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took me almost a year,

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but I was able to build my leg

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back to where it was to begin with.

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So

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like in the says

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it's your determination, it's your ability to stand

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up and carry on

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and that is your responsibility.

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Nobody else can do it for you.

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It's

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the beauty of

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the truth is that it's

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evident, it's clear, it's simple.

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The complexity is in

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living by it, the difficulty of following it

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but there is no other way.

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He continues, do not look for your self

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worth

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in the eyes of people. Look for your

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worth from within your conscience.

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If your conscience is at peace, then you

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will ascend high. And if you truly know

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yourself,

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then what is said about you won't harm

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you.

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Baba's Imam Shafar Abdulale

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used to say

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that if you don't want to be harmed

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by

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unwanted, I mean

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unfair. If you don't want to be harmed

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or feel pain or hurt,

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by unfair criticism,

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don't feel happy when you get unfair

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praise.

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He said, if you do not want to

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be harmed

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with

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unfair

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criticism

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then do not feel happy with unfair praise.

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Now just think about that how

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many of us are willing to say to

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somebody, please don't say that about me. That

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is not true.

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Right?

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How many people say that? But that's very

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important.

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It's important to say to them. It's important

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to say to even more important to say

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it to yourself.

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The

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tendency

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is that

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we like to believe

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all good stuff that is said about ourselves,

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whether

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it is deserving or not

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but when it comes to critical stuff then

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we get very upset.

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So therefore

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and the reason for that is what he

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says, he said it's because

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your self worth is in

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is in the hand of others.

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So therefore,

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you are the

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you

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are

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a hostage right you are a hostage in

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the hands

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of other people

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now

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that's a very dumb situation to be in

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that's

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not something that we

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you know

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that you want to be

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in.

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So do not give yourself hostage

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into somebody else's hands because

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then you are opening yourself up to to

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being manipulated.

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And if you open yourself to manipulation, you

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will be manipulated. I mean there's no two

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ways about that. So,

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be very clear.

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Now how

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can we do that?

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By knowing yourself,

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by knowing your strengths and weaknesses

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and by working on those strengths and weaknesses

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to maximize those strengths

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and to overcome the weaknesses.

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It's very simple. All of this stuff is

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simple to talk about, simple to think about

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but not so simple to do but it

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has to be done. It has to be

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done.

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So do not look for your self worth

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in the eyes of people. Now the other

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issue is we are also we live in

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an environment which

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is completely externally focused.

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We are constantly comparing ourselves to others

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consciously

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or unconsciously.

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We have icons,

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who are icons of

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physical strength, of

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body shape, of,

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endurance,

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of sports,

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of wealth, of style, of money, of what

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not

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constantly being bombarded by these so called standards

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and we spent our whole life trying to

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be like them.

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That is the one of the most stupid

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ways of living your life is trying to

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be like somebody else

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Knowing also that though somebody

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are not people who are even doing what

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they

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you know, what they are promoting. Right?

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If you, the other day I saw,

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for the first time in my life literally,

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I saw a very good

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Hindi film and one of the lines of

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that

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is this person says

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actor

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He says, you know, is this very,

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very very horrible

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form of chewing tobacco which literally causes

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mouth cancer and god knows what else.

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But this is advertised by some big Bollywood,

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field actors,

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who are promoting that. Obviously, they're doing it

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for the money.

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So this person says, do you think the

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person who is promoting that actually

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eats it himself? Do you think that person

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is so stupid that they actually eat

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that good good cover themselves? They're they're promoting

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it because they're getting money. They're getting paid

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for that. But if you think that they

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eat it themselves, then you need a you

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need to have your head examined.

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That is the reality.

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If you think about the people who are,

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these icons and whatnot, who we are trying

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to be like,

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What sense does it make? I mean, you'll

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be like yourself. Right?

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Be like yourself.

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So know yourself

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and maximize

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your own goodness

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and

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try to overcome

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your faults as you see them.

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Not try to

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judge yourself

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by what others think of you.

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One very important thing to understand in this

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is that most other people including I mean,

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even even some of your closest people,

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for the most part, they see only what

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you want them to see.

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Number 1. Number 2, nobody but nobody sees

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you through your entire life.

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Through all your ups and downs, through all

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your sadness

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and your joys,

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through all your difficulties.

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They see you where you are today. Maybe

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if you are very successful, they don't see

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the struggle that you had to

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overcome the struggle that you had to go

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through to get to where you are where

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you are now.

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If they see you fall down they just

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see that you're falling out. They don't

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see the aspiration that brought you to a

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place where you could actually fall down in

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that place. Imagine somebody who's running

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an Olympic race, right, falls down and all

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people see is, oh, he fell down. You

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don't see the years years of practice and

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years years of effort that took him to

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even to get on to that course.

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You can't run on that course. They won't

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let you on to that course because you're

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not fit to run on that course. So

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somebody who's running on that course is showing

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that they have put in all of this

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effort to run on the course. It so

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happened they slipped or something happened to them

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and then they fell down. You don't just

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look at that falling down. You look at

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my god, this person is even on this

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course and then imagine the kind of struggle

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they had to go through and they are

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they they are even though they have fallen

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down, it doesn't matter. There's somebody there is

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somebody I I I aspire to be like.

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Right there's somebody who inspires you. Now this

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is the reality people don't see people don't

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know so if you are going to look

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at

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look for yourself within the eyes of people,

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you will never be able to,

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you will never be satisfied. You will always

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be disappointed. Instead of that, look for your

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words from within your own conscience, your own

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self. Because all said and done,

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Allah

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knows what we do and why we do

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that and we know what we did and

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why we did

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There's nobody else. No one is that close

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to you and me who knows

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our reasons, who who knows what's in our

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heart, who knows what's in that, what our

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conscience is telling us. Only Allah knows and

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I know. So look at the conscience

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and if the conscience is at peace doesn't

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mean that sometimes people are happy doing negative

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stuff. No, you're talking to be saying here,

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doing the right thing and doing it for

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the right reasons and then your conscience is

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pleased with that because

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you have given yourself a good frame of

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frame of reference

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of the right kinds of values. And then,

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if you are if you if that's where

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you are, then what people say will not

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harm you what people say cannot affect you

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negatively

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and inshallah then you know you you are

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your life is is happy you you're not

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you haven't given yourself hostage to somebody else

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we ask Allah to make us into confident

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individuals who are positive contributors to society

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and from whom only goodness flows.

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