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Kamal El-Mekki

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Salam Alaikum to low water curtain.

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Miller hora Haman hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala rasulillah. Meanwhile, he wants to hear about first thing is I must express my my profound happiness to find out that this is as the brother said, a certified Somali Masjid in North America, in Canada or in the United States, any major Somali conference, I'm always invited. And my love for the Somali people is very, very well known.

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No doubt. I love the Somali people. I love any gathering where 80% of the people or somebody

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who gives a very serious Someone is here.

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And yeah, and in my the way I describe Somalis, I say they are the greatest people on earth, right after the Sudanese people.

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Okay, that didn't work either. No, sir. You guys look again, one more I have to say this every lecture I've been here now for weeks and have one more week to go inshallah. And you British people are so serious.

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You tell a joke. Everyone's like this.

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Hello, sir. Relax. Yeah, we'll be friends for this lecture. The non non British and then after the this lecture is over be British again. Okay. Wonderful. So the title of the lecture is speak good. And it's a wonderful title because it's taken from the hadith of a Navy sort of Lord SLM, where he said, Men can you know, Billa? He will Yeoman. For Leo cola. Hi, Ron. Oh, Leo Smith, whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, then he should say that which is good. Or keep quiet. Say that which is good, or keep quiet. And this is such a fantastic idea. And if we could just implement this, how do you know most people now they have to say something. And it's praised to look just at

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need? Oh, he speak your mind. But is there something wonderful that comes out of your mind or let's just some some rude comment or rude statement or something like that. So that means then we're going to be talking about the tongue. And talking about the tongue is a very important subject because the tongue itself, the description of the tongue, is that it is a small and dangerous instrument. Because the tongue is a small and dangerous instrument. And it's an instrument it's a muscle really, isn't it? The tongue small muscle, very small, but it never ever gets tired. True or false? You guys better pay attention. Hey, guys, in the front here. Pay attention. What do you like abs? All right.

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So

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so the tongue is a small and dangerous instrument. What is so dangerous about it is that it never gets tired ever. And you know, sometimes you are you eat a lot. You keep swallowing, you know, so your throat hurts or something. your jaw is hurt from chewing. You talk a lot, maybe your jaw hurt, but you your tongue never hurts. Anyone in here ever experienced where the tongue hurt? Like your tongue is tired for speaking too much. never happens. Isn't that amazing? It's a muscle that just doesn't get tired. As your speaking is flying up and down and going left and right and up and down. And you never never get tired. So this is now we have a recipe for disaster. You want to hear a

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recipe for disaster. Number one, the tongue doesn't get tired. Number two, few people are able to restrain it.

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Few people were able to keep it back to hold their tongue. And number three, it is one of the most dangerous things one of the most dangerous tools and they be so seldom explained in one Hadith on the Day of Judgment, the whole body will be angered at the tongue. You put us in this trouble you put us in this problem. It's the tongue.

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Ever heard of the Allahu anhu he said I asked the Prophet sallallahu wasallam of the two things that will most take people to the Hellfire yeah and the people who go to the Hellfire what is the main reason they go to the Hellfire coronary SOS lm alpha mu one four, and pharma will first see the mouth and the sexual organs these are the two things that will most take people into the Hellfire will air the will of the mouth and the sexual organs then to complete the Hadith. of the Allahu anhu asked the Nabi sallallahu Sallam what of the two things will most take people to paradise and he said taqwa Allah, wa husband, Hola, taqwa la voz have been having taqwa of Allah and being any God

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conscious God fearing and personal. Hello, good manners. So we see here the tongue. One of the top two things that people take people to the health fair when they are the biller and one of the top two things that take people to paradise. You see the place and the danger of the tongue.

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The process seldom said whoever guarantees for me what is between his lips. What is that? What's between your lips, meaning the tongue, I will guarantee for them paradise. That's how serious it is just if you can just hold that to

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It'll help it'll help and guarantee paradise for you just hold that tongue. It shows you how dangerous it is. And in the very famous hadith of Muslims, the person who is bankrupt and Nabi sallallahu Sallam was sitting with his companions everyone with me.

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I think this hadith is more interesting than what he's doing everyone with me? Yeah, some good stuff here because it's the speech of the process and them that's why Carlos Allah Sallam he said his companions at a drew in a manual move list. Do you know who is the one who is bankrupt Muslim?

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They serve Carlo

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and move for Israel Viola and mufflers. Vina manager Hamada Dena rasulillah. The muffler is the one who is bankrupt amongst us is the one who has no debt have no currency. And he's and he

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did Hamada what Amata another narration, he has no money and he has no possessions either. This is the person who is bankrupt than the person I'm explained to them that the bankrupt is the person who comes forth on the Day of Judgment with a mountain of good deeds, a lot of good deeds that he did from the acts of worship and things like that. But he also Concetta mhada mhada, mhada, he has insulted this person and hit that person and took the wealth of that person. So we see bad manners from this person, we see insults from this person, what happens to him, so this person will take from his good deeds, and the other person will take from his good deeds, he had a mountain right and

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now this mountain is getting smaller and smaller and smaller and smaller. And then when he has no more good deeds left, because of his bad manners, there's still a long line of people that want to get something from him, and he's got no more good deeds to give them. So then he begins to take from their bad deeds, then an abyssal Selim describes, he will be thrown into the Hellfire with the villa.

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You know, if you want this hadith to be more dramatic, you recognize and realize where this happens. And this happens in front of the gates of gentlemen. So this man made it through all with all his good deeds through many of the stages of Okayama, the Day of Judgment until he got in front of the gates of Jenna. But before it's opened, if the believers have problems amongst themselves, it's going to be settled in front of agenda. And so they call him and he has a mountain of good deeds that he got from salah and swam and giving charity and doing all kinds of good deeds. He lost all that, because he had a bad relationship with people, he had a good relationship with Allah, hence

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his mountain of good deeds. He had a bad relationship with people. Hence, he lost a mountain of good deeds, and he gets their bad deeds and is thrown into the Hellfire without the villa. So from this, we see the importance of the behavior of the Muslim the conduct of the Muslim with other believers as well with other people and other human beings with humanity. And it's not enough to say no, I'm gonna have a good relationship with a lot and if I have a good really bad relationship with people, it's okay. It's what is with a law that counts and that is not the case. So we see from this Hadith, the importance of holding the tongue as well and the danger of the tongue lachemann in Allah

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Lockman.

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Quantum hacking, he was a wise man. Yeah, a lot of the scholars believe he was a wise man and not a prophet. He was a wise man and he used to be a slave. So when he was a slave, it is narrated that he was where he went as a boy who was wise. Listen up, you guys. Yeah, he was your us young man. Like you guys. He was very wise. One day his master gave him a sheep. He said take it. Slaughter it and bring me the the best two parts of it. Okay, the best two parts from the sheep. So look, man took the sheep. He slaughtered it. And he brought him back the heart and the tongue. Is he wise or what? These are the best parts of the animal? Yeah, the heart and the tongue. Then after a while his

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master gave him another sheep. He said swallow me slaughter it. Yeah. Swallow it later. Slaughter it for now. And bring me the worst two parts. And he brought him you guys told me he brought him the worst two parts of the ship the

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the one?

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the bladder? Like you you're gonna study medicine? Yes. You said like you. The tongue is the best part and the worst part? Yeah, this guy's Hakeem. Mashallah. And what's the other part?

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sexual organs Look at this guy.

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Just like the tongue. Just like the first part. The heart. You see his wisdom. So he brought him the tongue and the heart again. And he's sending him a message he was was he was saying these are the best parts but they can also be the worst parts and it's kind of like what we saw in the Hadith, right? kokkola personal HELOC? Yeah, it's kind of like that, actually. So. So the tongue we established now it's dangerous, and few people restrain it and it's one of the things that take take people to the Hellfire when I add the villa and one of the things that also will take people to paradise if it is utilized properly. What is the tongue do what are the sins of the tongue. There's

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so many

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Lying, backbiting spreading rumors and lies and you know, things of that sort using bad words, cursing, cussing, all these things are from the dangers of the tongue and from the sins of the tongue. Let's start with lying. You know, this study was written it was it was done in the United States, and we can give a discount for British people. But they say, in the United States, the average child lives five to six times a day. And the average adult lives two to three times a day, but we'll make a discount for Britain.

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The average of those two times a day Hmm, okay, we knocked off one line. So can he the Hadith when he saw said lamb that Jani the Muslim said in a lot in Rajat layers, Doc that a man will be truthful, were to Hara, and he will continue to be truthful, had a vandala he said data until he is written with a lot as a truthful person. So his label with a lot is that he's truthful. Yeah. Now and then the other man would get them he would lie where 200 kw would continue to lie, had to use a vendor like at Durban until he will be written with Allah as a liar. So here's the question. If you're sitting in this room right now, and you lie, occasionally, you know, from eight to eight or

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from gym or whatever you from eight whatever is your pattern of lying. If you lie daily if you lie every other day if you lie in this room, how would you feel if someone started to call you the liar? How would you feel if the people in the mesh had no you know you as an catches up? How'd that make you feel? Who would like that? Yeah, they call it a Santa Monica dub give her credit means the liar By the way, the liar that's your name? Everyone wants to get the bar coffee Careful. Careful. maracas Get up. How are you feeling? It heads up How would you feel? You get very upset extremely upset right you don't you dare call me up again? Wait a minute, but don't you lie every now and

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then.

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Yeah, lie every now and then. So you look at that then

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how does that hurt? It hurts doesn't it? But imagine forget people imagine when Allah looks at you you're written and labeled as it comes up so every time a law looks at you he sees it because that How do you feel now? You see how wicked and how bad it is to line out. You know when you when you look at this, this these meanings is money. This Hadith. You think you know what? I don't care what happens in this life? I'm not gonna lie to like go to my grave. Yeah, come what may I don't care? I'm not gonna lie. Don't you feel that? I'm not gonna lie to people and be written as a lawyer with a law? palace. I'll tell the truth from from now on until I go to my grave and Shabazz Georgia was

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not an unnatural decision to make right now, isn't it? don't want to ever lie. Forget this. I'll be labeled a liar with a large budget. You know, I had this fantastic healthy beast, he had gave a hubbub about lying, man, everyone, the mystery was like this. What was he talking about? Strong. And you say Listen to me, You liar. If you're sitting in the audience, and you lie, you lie or this hook was for you. Everybody felt uncomfortable. And no one came to him at the end of the cycle. And I really enjoyed your

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book. So they could say that right?

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Right. So you want to be truthful with allies? Or did you want to be known as a truthful person with everybody else? Yeah. You know, we teach our children to lie. We teach our children to lie. parents teach their children to lie. When the child tells the truth. What happens? punishment? Beating? What do you say in Somalia? You say take the bonds. Give us the meat.

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Are you guys real Somalis? Are you fake Somalis? Some of you are fixed. Now I think YouTube obviously it looks stunning. Enough. You know, I'm looking for the black folks in here. You're Somalia.

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Yeah.

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I wasn't mistaking that you from Mogadishu or something. Okay, so you guys are not real Somalis here unfortunately, real Somalis no one Yeah, sure. You know your real family man know when you give your child Okay, you guys are from the UK call us Muslims killer. You guys embarrassed me? When there is some old man when when you take your child to this to the teacher in Somalia? What do you say to the teacher? You say take the bones and give us the meat. That Mashallah he recognizes that. Which means what

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is beat him break the bones just give us meat at the end of the day. In Sudan, we have the exact opposite. When you give your child to the teacher, you say, take the meat and bring us the bones. And he whip him with him take all the meat from whipping. I know this is really cruel, like how did we get into this yet, but I'm coming to a point. So take a weapon and just give us bonds at the end of the day and mayhem. So we know we have now whipping and we have bone breaking and mayhem. The point is how do I get into that? What was I saying? Yeah, we teach the children to lie. So you the child tells the truth. What is what happens? He gets a beating. He gets punishment. bonds. Destroy

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the bonds if he tells the truth. If he lies, what happens

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You let him go. So what does he learn? He learns that it's good to lie, you get saved if you lie. And if you tell the truth you get in trouble. Is that a good lesson? So horrendous lessons a very bad lesson. That's why for the parents in the audience, we say, look, if your child lies, punish them. And if they don't like us tell the truth. Even if they burnt the house, they told me the truth. Don't punish them. Yeah, this is the best thing to do. Because then they don't associate punishment with telling the truth and they start to lie. So we teach our children to lie. And we make excuses for lying and we color lies do color lies in the UK, you have white lies also. Yeah,

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okay. So we have white lies, we have all kinds of colored lies and eight lies and jamala isn't separate lies and lies, no excuse for lying. You lie. And you're labeled like that with a lot. How does that make you feel? So lying is part of the dangers of the tongue. And if we can restrain ourselves from lying,

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like was there is backbiting and backbiting Mashallah people have excuses for backbiting? Yeah. This is some of the excuses for backbiting. I can say this to his face. But we can go say to his face, are you saying it behind his back then you think any the fact that I'm able to say to his face makes it not backbiting, less backbiting or some other bullets, they're more talented? They started speaking about a brother and then they don't know, by the way is this backbiting? Yeah. And if it's backbiting I'll stop. What do you think it is? You see him here? pipe is backbiting Anyway, let me just check it again. From a soccer standpoint is this backwater? Oh no Mashallah giving a disability

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and knowledge kind of covering for her. No excuses for backbiting. No excuses for it and Allah likened it to eating the flesh of your brother while he's dead. Or you have to come here koala he

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would you any of you like to eat the flesh of his brother? You know, something? We used to do this? Yeah. We used to imagine and when some people are speaking about someone do this, it helps you a lot. If you're in a gathering, let's see with four or five brothers, and they start backbiting about someone. This is what will help you this visual. Imagine that brother that they're backbiting about imagine him on the table in front of you pour on the floor, cold and dead and pale in color gray in color skin is known as no color. And now each one of you take a piece of his mini cut it like this. And he's

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special his brother very flexible.

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His brother one layer can you see? Imagine that? How does that visual fit? Horrible, right? One of the one of the scholars, he invited some people for his house for any for food. So he he brought the he bought out some of the bread and now he's gonna go get the meat so they start backbiting on someone. So he wants to tell them indirectly stop backbiting. He said. SubhanAllah people before you used to eat the bread before the meat, but you guys are starting with the meat. Understand? You know what that means? And you see you're already eating the flesh of your brother. We didn't even start you the beard didn't even come you start with meat immediately. Yeah, kind of like how we are

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now I mean like really? When there's a meal we start with the meat Don't we?

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Yeah.

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Did someone died before I just came here?

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Yeah, you had the gentle prayer.

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UK now Hookes law. serious people have Yes, yes.

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Yes, yes.

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Yeah, that's excused. Take the dean seriously. We don't smile. I don't follow that. So now

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some people they think it's religious to not smile. So one time I saw this but I was at some airport I don't know where in the world I wanted to get some some Muslim right so I see this ultra. So bus and let me give this guy Salah. When I came to the front, I saw his face and he's standing alone. There's nothing there. There was a frown on his face. You couldn't put one on with with power would call that thing Photoshop. You couldn't Photoshop a frown like that. He was like this.

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His whole face was here in this. Yeah, how do you stand and stare at nothing so angry and what could have happened? Yeah, I saw that. It's like a head on it. I should have given him Santa. But I just like you know, I don't need this. I'm in a good mood. I don't need someone to ruin my mood like this while you're standing in front of me and nothing. feeling too good religious brother. Keep a good phone on your face. So now

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I shall look wonderful, wonderful. You know?

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A man came to Savannah filled with the great scholars of Ghana theory and he said I have never seen a hanifa Rahim Allah. I've never seen him or hanifa backbite anyone. So so if you understood it said Nam, Abu hanifa aka me, you suddenly Allah has said it may be hard. And he said, Abu hanifa is too intelligent to let someone go away or to go away with his good deeds. What does it mean? It means

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That you back by people. They take it from your good deeds on the Day of Judgment. Yeah, and this is the one you want a good helpful tip. Especially if you hate someone don't backbite them. True or false? Especially if you hate someone he did some dirty nasty things don't back write them Why?

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He thinks you're good deeds like this. Okay? Imagine this guy. You hate him. He's really nasty person. So then he comes and he says, Give me your iPad, for example. You give him your iPad? Would you give him your iPad? No. Would you give him your laptop? Your let's not in the Samsung people, your Samsung Galaxy Musharraf notebook comitia, all that stuff? You wouldn't? Would you give them you? The best and most valuable thing to your good deeds. You shouldn't write, but this is what people do now. So you're backed by someone you don't like you're giving them

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your good deeds. Right? And this the thing that's most beloved to you. So on the back by people you love a lot, do give them your good deeds. Don't back by anybody, man. So piano theory again, Rahim Allah the Great scholar. Someone came to me and said, These people are talking bad about you. Now, this is something great that he did do this next time you hear someone's talking about about you. So if you're under 30 sent them a bowl of dates and a bunch of dates with a note or a message. That said it had come to my attention that you have assigned to me and you have given me some of your good deeds. I couldn't find anything with with Thank you besides this bowl of data, so please accept

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it from me.

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I'm going to say it again. Pretend you're moved. Okay. And the action is deep stuff. I'm going to say one more time. Just make sounds like you're moved. Okay. So he sent them a bowl of dates with a note that said it has it has come to my attention that you have given me some of your good deeds. I couldn't find anything to thank you with except for this bowl of good dates. So please accept it from me.

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Thank you very much. Thank you. That's That's more like it. Excellent. You see what he's doing? Don't try it now. And next time someone is bad mouthing you and stuff. You send them some candy and unknowingly Thank you very much. Yeah. Or send them candy and text them You guys look texting, texting. Thank you very much for I heard you give me some of your good deeds. Please accept this candy bar from me. Try that. See if the other bad mouth You again?

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What are they gonna do? We're gonna come in. Thank you. Thanks for the candy bar. There's nothing I can say now. I lost. You destroyed this guy. Right. backbiting

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bad words, Shabaab. bad words. People think it's cool. Now to think it's a good thing to use bad words, you know, something, forget the Shabaab you run into people who supposedly quote unquote, religious. You know, you go out for tea or coffee or something like that this guy starts dropping bad words. Yeah. But what happened to Excuse me? Not even Excuse me. Yeah, it means that means what? When someone is using bad words and not even saying, excuse me. It's so common for them. So many times, you're around people, religious, they're dropping bad words left and right. To say what is this? What happened to excuse me tells you how common it is in people's life. how common it is

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people constantly using bad words. And I've said this before, that the angels Allah described them as Karen and Kathy been these honored creatures of Allah right here, honored creatures of Allah. And they record what you say. And you use bad words and they record it. You making these honored creatures write down bad words profanity, use a bad word, they write it again, bad word, they write it again. And then on the Day of Judgment, you get your book where they write everything. And you see chapter and page and page after page after page of bad words, page after page of bad words. If you think it's cool now to use bad words, you only think it's cool when it comes on the day of

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judgment because you know, the angels are writing everything allows we just says my elf illumine Colin in lella de hiraki bonati he does not utter a word except that it is written down immediately penned down. So bad words, cursing. You know, some people think that you know what, and we can pay attention. Pay attention.

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kids do things, man.

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So cursing, oh, yeah, we can curse. We can curse non Muslims. Now. The President said that the believer is not near any and he doesn't curse things all the time. He's not cursing all the time. So it's not from the HELOC of the believer some of the characteristics and the mannerisms of the believers to curse anybody. Not anything not Muslim is not non Muslim is not trees, not dogs. People who have such a dog and images I can curse it law. Because for you cursing is not a good hook. As a believer you don't curse.

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People think they can curse. It's a serious thing any curse meaning learn how to say law.

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What is Latin mean when you curse? I know people use curse to mean custom in profanity, but we're meaning cursing here to invoke the

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avala zodion which means what? You're asking, you're saying May Allah send you away from his mercy. Okay, if we think about this da against someone would would you want to say this to anyone? First of all, would you ever want to say this to a Muslim? May Allah send you away from his mercy?

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Would you say this to a Muslim? Boy imagine Okay, it's a cover in the street and whatever it is, you have the traffic thing or he just, you know, didn't open the door for you say, Hello Anika. May Allah curse this man you think May Allah send you away from his mercy? By and it would you rather that or would you rather this person be guided to Islam for example, if this person caught on fire in front of you would just just laugh and walk away? Like we were just asking you asking a lot to put him in the Hellfire and more him cursing bad words. All these things not from the luck of the believers. And even being rude to people will lie. I don't know why some people think if they're

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religious, that means it gives them the right to be rude to people when giving advice. being rude to people. If the person is doing something haram I can be rude to them because he's doing Haram. Where'd you get this rule from? Not you. And generally Where did they get this rule from? A man came to Harun Rashid Rashid was one of the holophane he was he was a very studious and he was well read, you know, into reading and stuff. He was like knowledgeable califano. Unlike others, like Motoki for example. Just a soldier you know, and others for a man comes to Russia to give him a car now, this is a mere mini mahali for right. And he has an opportunity to give this man good advice. No. The man

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comes and gives him harsh, harsh, harsh, harsh advice. So how long ago she does have something very nice, he said Dr. Rajan

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airflow piani Oh man, it says Be gentle. Such as bathala who men who are higher on Minka Elam and who are short on mini for Amara who believe. He's saying, Be gentle. Allah sent a man better than you to someone worse than me and he still told him to be gentle Who's he talking about?

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musala salam alaikum tells Musa and Harun for hula hoop Colin Lena to speak to him a gentle speech perhaps you may be reminded. So he's saying Moosa was better than you and he was sent to for on who's worse than me. But still Musa was asked to be gentle with him. So what makes you think you can just come and be rude to me? So beware, beware brothers. Beware of being harsh and being rude to the believers and being harsh with them just because they have not been guided or just because Allah guided you and they're doing something that's in the Haram so you come harsh, frowning, that's why if you talk to most if we can use the term non religious Muslims, they do they like religious

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people.

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Talk to them if you don't if you don't think so. They don't like religious people. What? Yeah, it is religious people frowning all the time, everything.

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And that's what they do. Don't think that's my favorite word. Now. I'm

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from

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know, what is this? Since one word we sent to rectify like this and it'd be so sad. I'm sad, but Shirou right. Wella tuna Fierro? Yes, Sera Sera said give glad tidings and don't send people away. Yeah. He said yes. It'll make things easy and don't make things difficult. This was the way of the profits of the Law Center.

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So we've got now we've got lying we've got backbiting we've got bad words we've got harsh or rude speech rude words.

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And

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we have any, any when it comes to things like that, it doesn't even just have to be actual have to be actual speech that you make, but it could be sometimes written and we'll consider that as part of speech.

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The President said the beginning had a Thea, the one that this lecture is titled after men can be law. Holloman fileopen. Hi, Ron Alia Smith, whoever believes in a lot in the last day he should say that which is good. Or I should be quiet.

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Look at for example, on the internet, how people go back and forth. Yeah, they're not speaking. But they're typing. It's the equivalent of it they're expressing and it would have been otherwise in speech. Now it's being typed. Look at the forums that I thought I was very hopeful that this young generation of Muslims now they don't have the fighting and stuff that you know, people come with fighting from back home and they start to fight over here, right. Essentially, the new generation won't fight. Then I discovered a few months ago, something called the forums Illa Illa Shabbat Shabaab at each other's throats, attacking each other left and right, left and refuting. Now Who are

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you? You're refuting guys 16 years old refuting refuting what you have to go kill the mosquito on your forehead or something? Move refuting that. And this is our it's our duty to expose them. I'm sorry. Once you wetting your bed two years ago.

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You know, I'm not nice with these things, right? Yeah. And what is this? Who told you this is your job?

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You know something people take things out of context. One time this is a, this is narration about Mr. Padilla and Homer

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A man came to him and he said you have no more I love you for the sake of Allah and I hate you for the sake of Allah.

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Okay, now, first of all before we think we can say this to someone in the masjid because people read the narration like this, so I can say this too. And one of the brothers wanted he said it to someone before. I hate you for the sake of Allah. Who are you again?

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1819 year old you hate me for that. I'm not gonna sleep tonight because you hate me. Who cares? This is a difference between you saying and abnormal, abnormal the law on

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he was now an old man.

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One of the few companions alive because now in the later generations, few companions are alive. And they're the odema his Island and an old man and the companion you see how people respect him now, right?

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So if he wanted to reprimand someone severely, he could say something harsh and because he's an old man and a scholar and a companion people would see it as an admonition for everyone else as a warning for everyone else that's all so ignore kill someone you know, I hate you for the sake of Allah because you did some bitter everyone now is aware or I shouldn't do this better. Because normal set a strong word. So it becomes a warning for everyone and admonition that travels. But some young guy comes in a machine into the machine with your left with the right Hmm, I hate you for the second.

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are you exactly? Yeah, harshness, harshness, harshness, it's nothing to do with being religious, whatsoever. being rude being harsh, has nothing to do with being religious and to be so seldom was told by Allah subhanaw taala in the Quran, when Oh, Quinta for one Valley, the calbee lamb for boomin Holic and if you were with them, harsh and crude, hard hearted with them, they would have scattered from around you. These great companions these are they had the best hearts, the hearts that would most accept a good message. And the best message is the Koran. But we learned from this verse that if the best message the Quran came to the best hearts with bad manners, and bad

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presentation, these best hearts wouldn't accept it. That's really profound, isn't it?

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Yes, no.

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Thank you. Two guys. Okay. So

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you were to speak good part. It's part of who we are. Right? We're to speak well, and use good speech, even if it's with a non Muslim, even if it's with someone who is aggressive, someone who's aggressive. Yeah, Allah subhanaw. taala describes about Rahman in the Quran, the servants of the slaves of Rama, and he says, What is a hot tub, Omar j Luna kalu,

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Salama, and if the ignorant addressed them and address them in a harsh way, in an aggressive way. Their response is Salama with words of peace and a peaceful words, they give them bad good words. They don't give them equal, which is what people think now. Or like he was rude to me. So I was rude to him.

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Or he said bad word to me. So I gave him bad words to him. And I mentioned his mother also. Yeah.

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Because

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what because what happens is that the way human beings communicate is they always emulate the way the other person speaks. So for example, if someone comes to you and they start whispering, what will you do?

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When you start whispering, if in the machine someone tells you, brother, you will say yes, Why call center immediately you start to whisper and if someone comes to you and starts yelling, show up, pay attention. If someone comes to you and starts yelling, you get to start yelling immediately. Yeah, because people reciprocate. But if we know that people reciprocate, why should I allow that person to bring me down to a bad level of speaking? Why don't I speak at a good level and he will reciprocate? You understand. And if someone comes yelling at you, you don't have to yell back, you start speaking calmly, and guess what will happen? He will start to speak calmly as well. There's no

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way he's gonna continue yelling, and you're speaking at whispering tone. At some point, you guys are going to find a way to bring a conversation to another place. So don't allow people control over your life. You're having a good day. You're in a great mood. someone walks by you. He's in a bad mood. He's having a bad day. Is that your problem?

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Is it but he can make it your problem? All he has to do is just say something rude to you. Suddenly you're saying something rude back and you're yelling and in a second you change your mood. And then when you get to wherever you're going, you go there angry. This guy came to me, but he will have a bad day. You had a great day. you print it on time. You had English breakfast. Yeah. You had everything was good for you. Why should you ruin your day? Why would you allow the stranger so much control over you? Does it make sense? Yeah. Never allow people so much control over you.

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Sometimes you speak and you're not necessarily lying or backbiting or

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spreading rumors or cursing or cussing, but you just speak in speaking speaking, speaking, speaking, speaking, you skip speaking in a subject. And you've probably all seen if someone speaks too much what happens? You're about to die, right? When someone speaks too much yes or true or false.

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When someone speaks a lot, it's horrible. One time we went on this trip 12 hours, and there was his brother for 12 hours, man. He's speaking. And he's speaking very quickly, like he has so much important information to get out. He's speaking so quickly that he's breathing quickly to continue speaking.

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12 hours of law. So then we start with the next stop. Everybody wants out of that cart. They had a car and event everybody went out of the car to go into the

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and I'll tell you the truth. I started to get into the van that I started to get into the van he started to get into the van when he got into the van, I got out of the van went to the car, and everybody wants to escape. And that's why

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that's why I'm gonna ask the companion of Golan who he used to say. And Calum kept speaking. Okay, talking is like medicine in Atlanta men who were in a third time in Whoa, cotton. He said, speaking is like medicine. If a little of it will cure, and a lot of it kills. True, isn't it? And the Arabs have the saying they used to say keeping silent preserves reverence and the people revere you. When you quite a lot of the time. You're always talking to toe to toe toe to toe no one has any high regard for you. This guy here when you see quiet even sometimes you stay quiet, even if there's nothing here people think there's something here because a friend has the walker all the time.

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Like you British people

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in America always think British people are very smart because when you guys speak especially the Queen's English Yeah, it sounds smart. Yeah, sounds very smart. Anyways, let's pass on you guys. We can joke with each other. We're not friends like that.

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Someone was always my friends. What happened this time?

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Buxton is we're brothers anyways, right? Right. I mean, Pakistani origin you guys aren't really Pakistani we're all British. But but originally We're buddies right? Okay you know I lived in Islamabad five years and yeah, the city in Pakistan slumber

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Alright, anyways.

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Let's move on since you guys are so serious.

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But you know something Yeah, you stay quiet. People immediately revere you and they say this person Mashallah Mataram, respectable guy. Yeah, I think you all know that story. At the time we've been we've been in Abu hanifa Rahim Allah when used to see this man and the man would dress well and he'd be quiet. So he thought this man Mashallah here is full. So among many of us to respect this man, every time this man came to the gathering, he would bring his feet and he would sit properly. He wants to extend his feet and relax, but you see this respectable man, he would bring it in. Then one day the man spoke, he made the mistake and he spoke. So he comes in Abu hanifa and he asked him

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about fasting. He said to me, Hey, Mom, you When do we fast? He said, Well, you start fasting when the sun comes up, and you break the fast when the sun goes down. So then he asked his next question. He said, What if the sun doesn't come up?

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So immediately the mom stretched out his legs he said, Now it's time for him to stretch his legs. He for Abu hanifa to put up his colossian but when he was quiet he was respectable was the money the minute he spoke? What is this? Yeah, and you know people love to ask Michelle these strange questions. strange question. Like one of the one of the questions was asked if I get a shock if I get a big tray and I put all kinds of human extra excrement in it gathered full of human excrement urine and this and that and then I carry this tree from here to there and I put it down without negate my will do.

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The chef told him gather all this stuff on the tray then come ask me the question. I'll give you an answer and

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when you ever gonna encounter something like that, you know

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keeping the tongues upon Allah so we're talking about typing Yeah, we didn't even finish that part. forums people fighting left and right calling each other in all this No man who is not a Filipino and they think this is for the sake of a lot who made you the policeman and if the the Tacoma police who made up taco police Yeah, people bad mouth and constantly you know even on YouTube now, people watch a video and just immediately start attacking and insulting when you can be about up and down underneath it people fighting people can view a video about Pisa Muslims are fighting underneath it. You looked at us like that. Ridiculous. absolutely ridiculous. And you think Mashallah, these people

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have standards. One time I watched them with this was actually a Somalian men about your age. You guys. This is we were at a conference and I told you I go to all Somali conferences, man. Usually we're friends mean Somalis. I don't know what's happening here. And

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usually we're good friends, right?

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And for him, so this young Somali man about your age, he came up and he recited some Quran before the conference and before the lecture started he said some Quran had a nice voice, Mashallah. And he made a small mistake if he or she he is like, what nine or 10 he made a small mistake. And they put the video up on YouTube. And this brother commented, some severe calm everyone else, Mashallah. And I suppose one guy said, this is not acceptable. This boy made a mistake. And it's not acceptable to get a video like this with the hold on with a mistake in it. And you should take this video down immediately. And I said, Man, this man must have some strict, strict, strict standards. So I clicked

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on his name. I thought maybe he's got some channel, you know, bring something from this guy. You know, when you go on YouTube now you click on someone's name. It shows you the last videos they watch and the comments they put.

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When I saw the video, he was watching the last one I was working

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in Voila.

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I'm even ashamed to describe it with some Latina woman dancing with very bad clothing. And he is putting comments muchos bueno so I don't know. I don't

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I don't speak Spanish any But how was like looking at this guy.

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You know, you know what I call it? I call it e man. You know what I'm talking about? He has an electronic like email. This is he man.

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I like that name. I'm proud of that. I made that up myself.

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Okay, how about this? I'm gonna stop. Yeah, I'm going to stop and then you let me know what happened to the timekeeper. Man. Keep on keep on Oh

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yeah, five minutes. bahala. Samarra, stuffy anioma keep making stuff up, right. So I'm going to stop and allow some of the machines if they want to comment and if the youth also have questions. So as a felon for being an attentive audience for the LA Mubarak era Mohammed was, he was a big man who said America