Ismail Kamdar – The Preservation of Family

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
		

			hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala Nabi al Karim, Allah Allah He was happy. When we
begin by predicting a loss for HANA with the Lord and creator of the universe, the most wise the
most just who reveal the perfect Sharia, to the best of creation, Mohammed even Abdullah sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam, we asked Allah to send his peace and blessings upon the final prophet, and all
those who follow his way with righteousness until the end of time.
		

			Previously, when I was a year, we spoke about the concept of the goals of Islamic law of the Sharia.
And, inshallah today, we're going to continue with that discussion. But just a brief recap for those
who weren't here a few weeks ago,
		

			we said that Islam is a set of laws called the Sharia. And in recent times, this word, Sharia has
become like a bad word. People don't want to say people don't want to talk about it. People don't
want to admit that they follow a Sharia, and people don't even know what it means anymore. So to
help re educate the Ummah, on this important and beautiful term and what it means and what it should
mean to our lives, we will have a series of Juma lectures covering what the Sharia is all about.
Right? And so we said in the previous lecture that Sharia means in terms of Islam, it means a way of
life. They see what Sharia means. When you see you follow the Sharia, it means you are following the
		

			Islamic way of life, from how you talk to how you walk, how you conduct your business, everything is
done, how Allah wants you to do it. This is all the Sharia means. It's not specific to criminal law.
Right? It's not specific to government law. It's, it's comprehensive, so you can live in a non
Muslim country. And you can still follow the Sharia in your personal life by praying five times a
day by having a HELOC business by eating halal food, all of this is following the Sharia. Right, you
shouldn't restrict it to government only. So this is what the Sharia is. And what we said is that
the scholars of Islam have said that the Sharia revolves around two goals. Number one, is to protect
		

			people from harm. So wherever Allah has made prohibited, he has prohibited it because it is harmful
to us. So Allah has created a Sharia to protect us from harm, the harms of alcohol, the harms of
Zina, the harms of *, the harms of all of these things, we are protected from it, when we
follow the Sharia. The other goal of the Sharia is to make life easy for us to make life easy for
us. This is the goal of the Sharia. As mentioned in the Quran, you read a lot because you need to
become a lawyer, Allah wants things to be easy for you, he does not want things to be hard for you,
as the prophets allow you some informed Allah of his time. This is the harbor who he sent to teach
		

			Islam, he told them Yes, siru Allah to make it easy for the people do not make it hard for them. So
this is a fundamental goal of the Sharia, that it is meant to make life easy for you. When you
follow the Sharia, you will have less psychological problems and those who don't, you will have less
emotional problems from those who don't. When you follow the Sharia, you are able to protect
yourself from many things that may cause depression that may cause a suicide, they may cause harm,
and actually you make life easier for you. So this is what we spoke about in the previous
		

			lecture and continuing from there. I want to focus on one of the goals of the Sharia.
		

			Now, to understand this topic, I just want to mention it in a broader context. When you study the
books of Islamic law. They mentioned that the entire Sharia revolves around protecting five things.
And these five things are called the necessities of life. Meaning you need these five things to have
an easy life to have a comfortable life to survive in this world. And the whole Sharia revolves
around protecting these five things. These five things are number one, the religion of Islam itself.
So the Sharia revolves around protecting Islam and protecting our human right many of the laws are
there to protect our Mr. Number two, the protection of human life. So Islam has prohibited murder,
		

			Islam has prohibited
		

			you know, harming people physically, Islam is prohibited even the harming of trees and animals
without a need. You're only allowed to kill an animal either if you're going to eat it, or if you
are defending your family otherwise leave them to live their lives. So the protection of life number
three, Islam came to protect our minds and our our consciousness and our mental health. So this is
why Islam has prohibited alcohol. This is why Islam has prohibited drugs to protect this part of us.
Number four Islam came to protect our wealth.
		

			Our money this is why robbing people stealing is haram. This is why interest is haram. All of this
is why Islam allows business and it allows a free economy for the sake of protecting people's rights
of ownership of wealth. And number five, number five is what we are talking about today. And in
different books, he goes by different names, a shot to be called the protecting lineage, Al ghazali,
call the protecting other, even assured call it protecting family. And that's what we're going to go
by today, protecting the family. So what this means is, Islam has prohibited Zina and encouraged
marriage. Why? Because Xena is this honorable, it breaks up lineage and families, it causes family
		

			ties to break, it destroys society from that point of view. And at the same time, at the same time,
		

			marriage, marriage is something honorable marriage is something that allows your lineage to
continue. And marriage leads to the creation of families. So the topic I want to talk about today is
this topic here, Islam and the laws of Islam were sent to protect the concept of family to protect
the very concept of family. And why is this an important topic, it's an important topic. Because we
are living in perhaps the only time I know of in human history, where people don't want families,
		

			we actually have a generation who just don't want to get married. And if they do get married, they
don't want to have children.
		

			You see, unfortunately, the Muslims of our time are highly influenced by Western culture, the good
and the bad of it. Right? The good of it, they want to be environmentalists are hungry, that's a
good thing. The bad of it, is, for example, the Xena culture. So the Western culture, it's all about
self gratification. It's all about freedom. It's all about myself. And marriage, and especially
children get in the way of these things. So someone who's enjoying a life of Xena doesn't want to
get married, somebody who's enjoying the freedom doesn't want the responsibility of children. And so
now we have a problem, we have a problem that there are many young people who have no interest in
		

			getting married, they have no interest in having children, they have no interest in starting a
family. Why? Because he's getting in the way of the video games, is getting in the way of the
Netflix is getting in the way of them going out and hanging out with the friends every night. So
they are choosing their desires over family. And what's the problem with us? Well, let me give you
an example. To understand what's the problem with this, just say there is a man, a respectable man
in the community who has only three children. But his three children are influenced by Western
society. And all three of them decide that they never going to get married, or maybe one of them
		

			gets married, but also says they never going to have children. What happens to that family's
lineage? What happens to that family as a family? two generations from now.
		

			It doesn't exist anymore. The family will literally not exist in two generations. Why? Because no
one's having children. Now what happens when you have an entire community like this, the entire
community will put itself into extinction. And this is a problem in the West today, to such an
extent in the UK, in the United Kingdom, it is something that government is worried about. They're
worried about the fact that people don't want to have children anymore, and that they are going to
become a minority in their own country, because they're the only ones having children. So it's a
actual problem that they are recognizing, they chose this lifestyle of freedom, this lifestyle of
		

			Xena, this lifestyle of do what you want. And now it's coming back to bite them in the sense that
their families are decreasing. And the numbers are decreasing, because they chose what is wrong over
what is right. So this is a major problem. And the solution to this problem is very simple. Follow
the Sharia. Right. But I want to speak about this from two perspectives. Number one, how the Sharia
protects the sense of family. And number two, what you as an individual can do to implement this in
your life to follow the Sharia in this part of your life. So how does the Sharia protect the concept
of family? Well, number one, by prohibiting Xena by prohibiting Xena in all its forms. Understand
		

			this in Islam, the only sort of intimate relationship that is allowed is between the husband and
wife or male and the female husband and wife. And I would indeed even clarify the main female part
because people are getting strange ideas from a non Muslims on that area. There's only one type of
relationship that's allowed. All other types of relationships of that nature are prohibited. Why?
Because they get in the way of protecting families in societies where there is freedom to enjoy Zina
with whoever you want, and to experiment to whatever you want. People have no need to get married.
And now we have a movement in the West. We have a movement
		

			Saying that marriage is a religious construct, and it should be done away with all together. We have
people saying, What's the point of this piece of paper? Why do I need a piece of people to show my
love for someone. This is an actual movement taking place in which the people are trying to get rid
of the concept of marriage altogether, we have feminists saying that marriage is a patriarchal
structure. And there should be no place for marriage in the modern world. So people are trying to
get rid of marriage, at the same time promote Xena, and what this needs to know families. Take a
look at many Western societies today, we have an entire generation of children who don't even know
		

			who the fathers are.
		

			Forget about not having a relationship with their father. They don't know what their fathers are,
because they must have been with so many different men, that they themselves are not even sure who
the father is.
		

			And so what happens to a child grows up not knowing who the father is, they grew up with mental
problems. They grew up to have drug addiction, they grow up to be suicidal, they grew up to become
prostitutes, they go into all these areas, and you can see the research for yourself. It's available
online, all of these things. When the research was done to what leads people down these parts. In
all of them. One of the factors is not knowing who their father is, or not having a relationship
with your father, not having a proper family. So this is a major, major problem of our times and
Islams number one solution for fixing this is that Islam prohibits you now, number two link to that
		

			Islam encourages marriage to such an extent that upon most people it is watching in general
marriages sooner. But in this day and age in this culture, it becomes logic. Why? Because without
it, you will fall into sin. That's just the reality of most people. If you do not get married, you
will fall into Zina. And so getting married is something encouraged by the Sharia. The Sharia
protects the concept of family by encouraging us to have a lot of children. Right. And again, this
is something taboo in our times, something we're not supposed to talk about to encourage, you know,
we supposed to be telling you. You know, when you see people with large families, they people get
		

			shocked, but the prophets a lot while the USMC Tanaka who Takata will get married and have a lot of
children. So my alma can be a lot on the Day of Judgment. This is a this is a case of Rasulullah
sallallahu. So he said we should have a lot of children. Right. So Islam encourages having a lot of
children why there is Baraka in that it leads to a bigger family. When you get old, you are more
likely to have someone to take care of you, you have more likely for your legacy to continue after
you die, you are more likely to have more good deeds on the day of judgment in all your children and
the brightest and all your grandchild and the righteous, continuing continuing for generations.
		

			Islam encourages us to have as many children as possible.
		

			The fourth way in which Islam protects the concept of families is that it has laid down rights for
every member of the family. And so in the books of check, you will find the rights of the husband,
the rights of the wife, the rights of parents, the rights of children, the rights of your siblings,
right you will find in Islam, a detailed description of every member of your family, what you are
supposed to be doing for them. In this day and age of freedom. Nobody wants to hear about rights,
except for their own. Right, a woman will come up and say what are my rights upon my husband? But
she has want to know what's her husband's rights upon her? And vice versa. The man What's up? What's
		

			my wife's rights, or other what's my rights? What's my wife duties, but he doesn't want you to watch
his wife rights. Islam teaches us that we must care for everybody else's rights and for a family to
function properly. If the man's worried about withholding the rights of his parents, his wife and
his children, if his wives worried about fulfilling the rights of the husband, the children and her
parents and in laws, then guess what? Everybody's happy and everybody functions properly. But when
we only focus on our own egos on my rights Me, me, me, when you only focus on that what happens,
everything falls apart, because a family cannot survive if they selfishness involved. Understand
		

			this, if you are selfish when it comes to your family, the family is not going to survive. Family
requires being selfless, caring about everybody else. So you must get out of this mindset. And it's
all about me. It's not all about you. It's about the oma Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
which includes your family.
		

			Islam also protects family by making the laws of inheritance very clear, because one of the main
causes of families breaking up is fighting over inheritance. So Islam made this clear so there are
no fights and so the family stays united by just doing what Allah said to do in the Quran. Islam
came to protect our families in many, many other ways. But these are the most important ones
mentioned in the Quran and in the Hadees. So why
		

			why is there so much emphasis on family? Some people may see but you know, what's the big deal? If I
don't want to get married I don't want to have children I just want to enjoy my life and you know
watch Netflix and play video games all day till I die. What's the point? I mean what why is it a
problem? Why is Islam so making families such a big deal? Well, the many reasons that the oma have
mentioned why families
		

			I just want to mention five. Number one and most obviously, without families, your lineage will
become extinct.
		

			Right? If you are going to have a family, then and if your friends are not having families and your
siblings are not having families and nobody's bothered to have families, your community will go
extinct. And so the number one reason why Islam put emphasis on family is so that the human race is
preserved, and especially the Muslim Ummah is preserved. Right? Well, we continue from generation to
generation, and we don't die out as a nation. Number two is the concept of honor. And this is why
Imam Al ghazali. He called this the protection of honor, he didn't call it the protection of family
equality, the protection of honor Why? Because when people choose a lifetime of Xena, they are
		

			bringing this honor to themselves and to their families. And this is a topic on its own inshallah,
perhaps next time I'll talk about honor as a as a topic because it's something forgotten our time.
You know, when we talk about honor people think about knights and they think about ancient warriors
and they think about things that happen the Ottoman Empire, they don't think about themselves as if
this is an ancient concept. No, this is an Islamic concept. This is something we're supposed to be
worried about today. Am I living an honorable life is something you are supposed to be worried about
today, not something that existed only in the time of the Ottomans, in the Abbas's right to
		

			protecting your honor. If you choose marriage over Xena, you are protecting your honor, you are
living honorable life and that's what Allah wants for you. Allah wants you to be honorable in the
sight of people. When the Muslims are honorable in the sight of people, more people flock towards
Islam. But when the Muslims are the deeds and the oppressors and the people committing Zina and the
people taking drugs, why would people have been interested in our religion? We are choosing
dishonorable lifestyles, why would people want to be like us? So honor is very important. So that's
the second reason why Islam encourages families for the sake of honor. Number three,
		

			Baraka and Sakina. blessings and peace, family brings Baraka family brings peace. Yes, families can
cause problems. Yes, families can fight with each other. Yes, families have bad days. But in
general, the overall picture if you look through your entire life, the main source of peace and
happiness in your life is your family. And this is why people who are cut off from their families
tend to be very lonely, and they tend to fall into depression. Why? Because they are cut off from
one of the most fundamental sources of peace in human life, which is family. So Allah wants us to
have that Sakina He wants us to have the peace and Baraka in our lives. And that's why he says we
		

			must have family if you must work towards having families. Number four.
		

			Having a strong family protects your mind, it protects you from mental health problems, right. So
people who have strong family ties, they are less likely to fall into depression. And if they fall
into depression, they have family to help them out. For somebody who lives alone. What happens when
they go through depression, they just get more lonely. There's no one to talk to them. There's no
one to support them. There's no one to help them to go to psychiatrists and no one to give them
advice. There's no one to take care of give, it just makes the problem worse. But when you have a
strong family, it protects you from falling into this illness, it protects you from becoming
		

			suicidal. And this is one of the many lessons taken from the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu
sallam, where he said whoever wishes to live a long life and get a lot of wealth, they should
maintain family ties. Right? One of my psychology teachers Misha has explained this hadith to her
she said that one of the meanings of this Heidi's is that when you maintain family ties, when you
grow older, you have a bigger support system, if you have more family members to take care of you if
you have more family members to help you. And so you end up living a longer life. This is one of the
many meanings of this adage Allah knows best. Number five,
		

			the family and this is very important. For those people who don't want to have families who don't
want to get married. You don't want to have children. This is very important. Understand this,
families are the foundation of society. If a society loses the concept of family, it will fall
apart. Just be those societies today they are getting rid of the concept of family. They won't even
exist in 20 to 30 years time, they're going to fall apart, maybe even sooner. Family is where
society starts. When families are strong. They produce a strong society. When families are
righteous. They produce a righteous society. When families are broken when families have
		

			disintegrated when families don't exist, there is no society. And we see this in history. We see
this for example, the greatest rulers in our history were what people who came from strong families
look at Omar Abdulaziz, right he was the great grandson of Omar al Fatah. He came from the strongest
of families for generations of righteousness, produced a ruler of his nature. We complain we don't
have rulers like this today. Whatever people are reproducing, what kind of children are we raising?
		

			To understand the children you are raising one of the meet the leaders of tomorrow. If you raising
them to be good righteous people, there's a chance it is Omar will have a good righteous leader in
the future. But none of us care about this. Where's the leader gonna come from? if no one's having
children, or no one's raising their children righteously, then where do we expect a good leader to
come from? It comes from how we raise our children. So to recap, five of the main reasons why Islam
put so much emphasis on family is because without families, number one, we go extinct. Number two,
family is a source of honor, Xena is a source of dishonor. Number three, family is a source of
		

			Baraka and Sakina of blessings and peace. Number four family protects you for mental health
problems. And if you do have mental health problems, it helps you to get through it, it helps you to
survive it. Number five, family is the foundation of society. without strong families, there is no
society. So for the final part of today's presentation, we come to the practical part. What can you
do? What can you and I do to live this aspect of the Sharia, to live our lives according to the
Sharia in this way, and to achieve this goal of the Sharia, which is the protection of family. I
want to mention eight things, eight things that every single one of us are capable of doing. And if
		

			we do these eight things, we will individually fulfill this goal of the Sharia and they collectively
follow it as well. Number one, I know it is very hard in this day and age, because we are surrounded
by temptation. But we have to talk about it. Number one, avoid Zina and avoid everything that
nature. We are living in a Xena culture. Yeah, let's not hide the fact that we are living in a
culture that that glorifies it in all its forms. In every movie in every TV series, the billboards,
you know, the magazines, everything, it's glorifying a culture of zero. And because we are talking
about many of our youth are falling into it, and to the young people, I tell you this much. And if
		

			you get addicted to this this lifestyle, you are going to ruin your own life, you will never
experience happiness. Someone who is addicted to Xena lifestyle will never experience happiness.
This is why suicide rates are higher in countries where people have a similar lifestyle. This is why
depression rates are higher in those countries why loneliness is higher in those countries. This
lifestyle leads to these problems, right. But when you choose family instead when you choose
chastity. Instead, when you choose marriage, instead, you have honor, you have happiness, you have
structure, you have company, it's a much better lifestyle. So I know for the young people out there,
		

			many of them are facing a lot of temptation. Choose to avoid it. Choose to get married as young as
possible, choose
		

			chastity over Xena choose to live a a more uniform and honorable lifestyle. And this is the first
step you can take towards preserving family. Number two, if you are not married, take the concept of
getting married seriously. If you are married, take your marriage seriously. Take your marriage
seriously. Don't Don't take it for granted. I don't take it that because I'm married. This is the
way it's going to be, you know, ignore your spouse and and wait for the day when they stop loving
you understand this is the point of psychology, a lot of people don't realize your love for your
parents is natural. It's there from the time you were born. No matter what happened between you and
		

			your parents that love stays forever. Right? The love between you and your spouse is not natural. It
was developed over time, meaning for the first 20 or 30 years of your life, you didn't even know
that person existed, then you met that person, and you started loving each other. So this is not in
love there was there from the beginning. It's something that has to develop. And so it's something
that can go away if you don't work on it. If you don't work on your marriage, the love can go away.
The only way to stay in love with your spouse is to keep working on your marriage. So we as a
community, we need to talk about these topics. And as individuals, we need to pay very close
		

			attention to how we are treating our spouses. Are we people who are taking it for granted? Are we
making time for them or we value our relationships. And for those people who are not married? Make
it a goal. Make it a goal to find somebody good, a good Muslim and to marry that person. Right find
make it your goal in life, to marry a good person. Don't make it something maybe someday, maybe I'll
think about in 10 years and maybe think about in 20 years time. It may be too late. Right if you
find somebody who is righteous get married the prophets lie Some said about
		

			when a man goes to propose to a woman. He said if a righteous man of good character proposes to your
daughter and you reject Him, they will be fitna on it. It will be corruption. And this is what we
see in society today. Nowadays when righteous men proposed to girls what to the father say, or
she'll get married in 10 years time or five years looking for proposals now.
		

			Then three years later, finds out his daughter's may be involved in things which are haram and she's
got a boyfriend she got a non Muslim boyfriend she wants to run away with a non Muslim. This is the
fitna the prophets have warned about in this Heidi's they when we choose the western lifestyle over
the Islamic lifestyle, there are consequences. So take the concept of marriage seriously. Number
three, make time for family. Make time. I know we all have busy lives. Some people travel, some
people work 10 hours a day. Some people work seven days a week. Make quality time for your family.
If you can't make quantity time at least make quality time, one hour with your kids a week where you
		

			are giving them your focus and divided attention is better than five hours where you're distracted
by your phone. Give them quality time. This will build muhabba This will build the love and
relationship between you and them. And this will work towards preserving your family. Number four
link to this spend money on your families. spend money on your family. I mean, I'd be surprised how
many situations we have Muslims in our community who are wealthy, but they don't buy their kids
anything. They don't treat their wife out to a meal. The Prophet Mohammed slice them said the best
money is the money you spend on your family. This is a Heidi's the best money is the money you spend
		

			on your family. Do not think of spending money on your family as a waste of money. It is a source of
Baraka, it's a source of reward. It is something that Allah loves. Allah loves it when you spend
money on your family. So when you buy your kids something nice, this is something Allah loves. When
you take your wife to a fancy restaurant. This is something Allah loves. Why? Because Allah hates
miserliness. He hates stinginess. And he loves to see that families are maintaining close family
ties. So when you spend money on your family, you are doing something that is beloved to Allah
subhanho wa Taala. So let us make time for families and let us spend money on our families. Number
		

			five, for those family members who are older than you, I number five and six together in one Heidi's
the prophets are lovely. Some said he's not one of us, who is not merciful to those who are younger
than him and respectful to those who are older than him. So the prophet SAW you mentioned two things
in this Hadees if someone is younger than you, be merciful to them. And if someone's older than you
Be respectful to them. Now, technically, we supposed to be merciful and respectful to everybody.
Right? But why the emphasis on mercy for the young and respect for the older people? Right, let me
give you an example of why younger people tend to make more mistakes, right. So the proper some is
		

			telling us to cut them some slack, give them a break, let it go. They're young, they're gonna make
mistakes you don't have experience in life. So we must let the mistakes go to make it a big deal.
And since a lot of parents love parents want their children to be perfect. As soon as they hear the
teenager committed a sin, they want to beat him up and kick him out to the house and cut off time to
do that. Teach him the doors of Allah's mercy open, teach him to make a stick for teaching to make
Toba. That's what it appears to be teaching your child not expecting perfection from him. So the
proper services be merciful to those who are younger than you. They are going to make mistakes
		

			they're going to miss understand, they're going to do things wrong, because they don't have
experience in life. So be merciful to them. And to those who are older than you. They have earned
your respect. And sometimes they may be nasty because you know, when people get older, the filters
get less. I some of my elders told me this, that because they got old now they're like, you know,
I'm going to die soon. So I can tell you whatever I want, right? So they end up talking more
bluntly. So Allah Singh, Rossum is saying, Listen, your elders, they may talk to you more bluntly,
they may be a bit more rude when they talk to you. They may say things in a way that may hurt your
		

			feelings. respect them. Don't say anything back to them. They already knew they deserve your
respect. Show. It's interesting that
		

			even though we supposed to be respectful and merciful to everybody, but Rasulullah he emphasized
mercy with those who are younger than us, because that's where we tend to get very angry with people
and give them a hard time. And he emphasized respect to the elders because unfortunately, because
many of us are stronger physically than our elders. We don't respect them as we should. So these
shootings are also ways to fulfill the Sharia goal of preserving family. Respect your elders, no
matter what they say no matter what they do, and be merciful to the youngsters no matter what
mistakes they make. Be a means of bringing them closer to Allah Don't be a means of chasing them
		

			away from Allah number seven. Number seven, make an effort to maintain family ties. Not just with
your brothers and your sisters and your children and your parents, your cousins, your uncle's, your
aunts, your second cousins, your entire family. Make it a goal in your life to go out of your way to
maintain family ties, especially if a member of your family is trying to cut ties with you. Go out
of your way to repair your relationship with that family member. This is a good deed in Islam. In
Islam, trying to maintain family ties with someone who's cutting off with you is from the best of
good deeds and breaking Family Ties is a major sin not
		

			Minus in a major sin, baking family ties up there with Xena and murder and stealing. It's that bad.
It's a major sin to tell your brother that you're not my brother anymore to tell your son that I've
disowned you. This is a major sin in Islam. It's from amongst the worst things a Muslim can do. So
work towards maintaining family ties to not work towards breaking family ties. And finally, number
eight, forgive each other. Everyone's going to make mistakes, your spouse is going to make mistakes,
your children are going to make mistakes, your parents are going to make mistakes. Learn to forgive,
I've learned not to expect perfection from people. If you want to make any relationship work, you're
		

			going to have to learn to forgive people. And unfortunately, again, as a community for some reason,
we expect perfection of everybody else besides our own selves. Right? This is a hypocritical thing
many of us have, that we are our own selves, we have many sins. And if people had to confront us
about within our movement, you know, My son, but if you see our say, our child, our wife, our
parents committing the same sin, we get angry, we start figuring out what kind of a child are you?
What kind of a spouse Are you know, we treat him differently from how we want people to treat us. So
learn how to deal with people properly. Learn how to help people make mistakes, or learn how to help
		

			people make Toba Don't be the kind of person who cuts off Family Ties for every mistake, because
everyone's going to make mistakes your spouse, your children, your parents, they're all going to
make mistakes, learn to forgive, because Don't you want a lot of to forgive you. So what you end up
with a very quick story. The Prophet sallahu sums time
		

			is a very famous story where his wife Ayesha was accused of a major sin she was slandered of a major
lesson by her own cousin and her father Abu Bakar. He was in charge of helping the cousin
financially. So imagine you've got a cousin who you helping financially and he slandered your
daughter and spread rumors about the child society. What would you do? aboubaker he said, I'm not
going to give that man's money anymore. When he said this a lot he really verse in the Quran,
telling him forgive and forget, don't you want to forgive you?
		

			This is a last message to Abubakar when his cousin had committed the major sin of slandering his
daughter a lot with Abubakar forgive and forget. Don't you want Allah to forgive you? So that's a
message to all of us. Your family are going to mess up. They're going to gossip, you're going to
slander they're going to make mistakes. forgive and forget. Don't you want Allah to forgive you?
Baka Dhawan and your family let me know Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh