Hussain Yee – Born This Way

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. We'd like to welcome all the brothers and sisters for the
next episode of Mike Connor. And today we have a special guest we first have the blood Phillip
		

			handle to the biller, Phillip is it summary commodity long regard to why they come Salaam, October
cattle? Yeah. Now coming back to the question that the just asked us about
		

			what people use normal words say that no, we were created like this. So don't blame us if we don't
change. So what would be your answer to this kind of question?
		

			When I would say that
		

			psychologists and sociologists and
		

			others, scientists who look at human beings, they divide their characteristics into two categories.
One they say is natural. And the other one is learned.
		

			You know, they call it you know, what is your what you're born with, that all human beings share.
And then other things, other characteristics, which you learn from the society around you.
		

			The characteristics, which are born with, you know, we eat, we sleep, you know, these physical
commonalities. These represent one group of practices, we need to do them everybody's doing, we may
change when we do them. Because of course, it may be a norm that you grew up with sleeping at 10
o'clock at night. But due to the type of work you're doing, you may be forced to sleep at 12 o'clock
at night, instead, you make the change as necessary for your job circumstance. Or you may decide I
want to go to bed earlier, so I can get up earlier, I get up and make tahajjud at night, you know,
so these practices, all of these can be changed, there's no doubt about it, you can change the
		

			timing, but you can't change the need, you need to sleep. So we all have to sleep. But when you
sleep, you can follow the sooner and sleep after the war also a Lula you know, and that makes your
night's sleep lighter, easier for you to get up, get up for fudger. And also, these are areas it
same thing with the food that you eat, everybody has to eat. But so we can't say okay, I'm going to
stop eating your diet. So eating is a necessity. Everybody eats is part of our board characteristics
which, which which are necessary for us to exist. But now when you eat, how you eat, do you eat to
the right, you know, do you drink with the right? Or do you drink with the left, and then some
		

			people say or if you put your hand on to the right, it's okay for you to drink. No, this is
something that has become a common cultural practice. But it's wrong. Because the prophet SAW Sam
said, Do not eat and drink with your left Satan it with his left. So all of these, we could say
natural characteristics. All of them can be changed in terms of the time, in a way, etc. But we can
change in the sense of stopping them altogether. Whereas the other body of characteristics which we
learn, you know, you're born,
		

			what your parents teach you or the children around you, you learn from them, what you learn in
school and, and the environment, the society, everything. That's another set of characteristics. And
these types of characteristics, you can stop altogether. Or you can start new ones and replace the
old ones. That's the reality. So when a person says I was born that way,
		

			which one are we talking about?
		

			If it's the amongst the learned characteristics, then you really weren't born that way you learned
it, you know, and you can unlearn it. It may be more difficult. If you've been doing it the longer
you've been doing it, the harder it is to to change it. But these are all changeable, you know. So
both characteristics are changeable.
		

			The natural ones, you can't erase them. The other side which are learned these you can erase, you
know, I think it's a fitrah It's a rounded human need to eat the dream
		

			Do like to talk. By the same time we do believe that our prophets Muslim did mention that
koulamallah you that Allah fitrah, everyone is born with the fitrah. They mean, the fitrah is they
need these, they need that to survive in this world. So at home, of course, in the upbringing of the
children, so play a very important role, whether you want to mold them to be a better person, or you
just want to let them with their own fitrah. Yeah, and we believe that the fitrah of humans, when
they are young, they do not know how to differentiate what is good, what is bad. They just
experience anything that comes in front of them. But as they grow, they start to pick up things. And
		

			that's how the changes come in. They know they don't like these, they're ready to see every because
if not, then there's another fitrah. But of course, we also believe that the environment also play a
very important role to change the personality of a person, we family loved to give the best to the
children, they want the children to be the best, but later on when the children exposed to the
outside environment. Now, if the outside environment is not healthy, then easily they can be.
		

			They can change and follow the environment. That's why the Prophet also remind us by saying that,
and miroir Latina led for eons of Atacama eukarya that means we must be selective in whatever they
do. I personally think that people who use this term know I was born and is what can you do? No, no,
Allah created me for this unexcused, very lame excuses, they just want to know, tell them, don't
bother about me, leave me alone.
		

			But they in reality, I believe that everyone was given the opportunity to develop,
		

			especially if you look at the India's 60s 70s or 80s, you don't have all these guys just smartphone
mounted, people are changing,
		

			that they can change, they can develop. But one kind of character sitting corrected, they seem to
give a lot of excuses, just because they don't like people to correct them. I think some of those
characteristics are like, for example,
		

			among the negative characteristics, is
		

			anger
		

			is quick, and some people are quick to get angry, and they get violently angry, you know, they start
to throw things hit other people, you know, can become very, very violent. You know, and then when
you say, Brother, you shouldn't do this, you know, this is not good. So that's the way I am, you
know, I can't change it. I just can't stop myself, you know, but the point is that, even that, that
you think is so basic to yourself, it seems you don't have any control of it. prognosis and and did
tell us, you know, if you get angry, you're standing Sit down. So that will help you, if you're
still angry, while you're sitting down, lie down. You know, just, you know, I mean, of course, it
		

			might be difficult in some circumstances, it's about lay down people, you know, but the point is
that it is possible. And no, because a lot of that anger ends up ends up coming out in the home. You
know, because usually, if you're in the in the workplace, you know, you can't show that kind of
anger to your boss, right? Whereas only when you're at the place where you are the boss, this is
when you can show that kind of anger. And so that's usually in the home. And that's why the boss
said lie down if you're sitting because in the workplace, you know, you're upset with your boss, you
can just go lie down to the office on him, right? It's not gonna work, but in the home, Yeah, you
		

			can. Let me just go lie down, please.
		

			Call your cell phone. So you can it is possible.
		

			I believe that not Allah mighty who created all of us will know, the weaknesses we have. That's why
he sent down the revolution. The Prophet was sent to us just the Gators. The cushion is to remind us
actually, of God, the tempo is in everybody. Everybody have anger. So it's how you control your
anger. Like what you see was so true. Just now, in the office, you know how to control your anger.
		

			If you did not control the job,
		

			but they're not home. They feel that they have authority, you know, so they start to show their
anger. At the end of the day. We know anger, do not bring any benefit to anybody. But something we
have the right to be angry when something bad is happening in front of us. Of course it's not right
for us to show that we are happy people do haramaty Okay, nice. Okay, no problem cannot be show my
anger. So it's like how are the prophets it might have been Illa what abacha whoever left for the
sake of Allah and be angry for the right reason i think is good, but everything correct
		

			I think it's something that we can develop if we want. As long as we have the right intention that
we want to be a better person. Allah help those who help themselves. It's very true like what Allah
Friedman says in no mahalo amin, Hatha Yoga, maybe Allah would not even even he had the power to say
couldn't fire could nobody can see anything. And Allah is telling us that if you don't want to
change,
		

			then alone, what?
		

			To what you want to do. Right then then you have the responsibility, what you're doing so I believe
that insha Allah, everyone was given the opportunity to become a better person. So don't give this
lame excuses. This is me What can I do? You could accept no, no, no. Of course you can. If you want
is up to every one of us whether you are sincere to yourself, you want the best for yourself? If you
want, I believe we can do the changes within ourselves. So May Allah blesses me allocators. Me Allah
help those who have this gift this kind of excuses and if they still have Roma and then they should
go to this corner a good color and success advise to see how this color can help them because when
		

			we ask for a dinner Serato started we ask for guidance. Now Okay, this means you must look for
guided you to just ascertain your Polo. So first victory in
		

			Allah also remind us is good for us to ask the people who knows when we do not know how to control
our temper or happy I believe at the end of the day, all of us, would it become a better person if
we work towards that?
		

			So yeah, help us me. Okay. All of us in Sharla. We hope that AOL admin will forgive our weaknesses.
They excuse me, obviously, now, what can I do? Right? We believe that we can do more than what we
always claim inshallah.
		

			We'll be left
		

			in slavery tomorrow.