Hasan Ali – Honeymoon Period

AI: Summary © The speaker discusses the honeymoon period and how it can last for a long period of time. They encourage anyone who has had a single or multiple argument with their spouse to put their hands up and keep their marriage lasting for a long period of time. The speaker also provides a story about a man who put his hand up and said to his wife that if she ever gets angry at him, she will take him on herself until she calms down.
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Everyone who gets married, they have a period

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called the honeymoon period.

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Right? Honeymoon period, if you don't know what

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it is, it brings a lot of smiles

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Okay? It's the best period that you've got

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of

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Everything's so wonderful. You look at her, you

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just see smiles, and, you know, and she

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looks at you and it's all about, oh,

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this can just get better and better. Right?

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Now there comes a day when the honeymoon

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period got come you know, it it's over.

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I'm gonna ask you guys. Right? If your

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honeymoon if you're married and your honeymoon period

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lasted

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for 6 months, like, 100 like, basically everything's

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hunky dory, everything's really happy. If you last

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for 6 months, I'm gonna put your hands

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up. Hands up.

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My god, you guys are so depressed over

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here, man.

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I don't see 1 single hand up. What's

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wrong?

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For anyone if it lasted for a month

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or more put your hands up.

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Yalla, how will I'm only getting 2 3

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hands? Yeah. What do you guys do man?

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I'm not saying honeymoon as in, like, you

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go on holiday for a month. I know

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you guys haven't left England yet. I'm not

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your good days when you're like, you know,

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all very nice and happy. My god. I

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only see 2 hands, man. You guys what?

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You're starting to fight from the 1st day

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or something? Now let me ask, seriously, come

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on. You know those happy days in the

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beginning of marriage? If you have had those

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happy days, hands up. Come on.

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Marshall, that's good. Now you're being honest. Now

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you're being honest. Right? Good. Anyone's honeymoon period

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lasted for a year or more? Put your

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hands up.

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Good. Good. Good. That's good. That's good. Okay.

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Now now look. It can last for a

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long time. Now

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1 day, what you're gonna do is 1

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day you're gonna wake up and you are

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gonna have some kind of argument or some

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kind of disagreement with your spouse. It's natural.

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It's gonna happen. I'm gonna ask a question

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right now. Anyone who's basically been married for

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more than 1 year and never had a

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single argument with their wife or their husband?

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Put your hands up right now.

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No 1.

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No 1. Okay? Actually actually can you see

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that? Right? Because you see that there's gonna

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be some kind of some kind of Then

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I actually asked this question in the other

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talks that I did, and 1 guy put

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his hand up.

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Right? 1 1 guy put And I said,

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this was just yesterday or something, and it

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looked like an elderly figure and I said,

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I said, brother, how long have you been

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married? He goes, 20 years.

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I go, I go, you've never had a

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had a argument ever? He goes,

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a little bit little bit.

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You can't put your hand up. Right? You've

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had some kind of argument. Right? Come on.

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You can't claim that. Anyway, there's another person

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who put their hand up. It's a woman

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from the background. She put their hand up

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and said, sister, do you speak the same

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Do you live in the same country? Like,

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or is it through Zoom? Basically, you know,

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you get these situations where it can happen

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for a year, it can happen for less

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or more but, alhamdulillah, Allahu Baniyalah bless all

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of you. May Allah give you long periods

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of happiness. Say I'm in.

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Right? But it's not gonna always last. Now,

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what happens is This is the truth. It's

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truth because most of you never put your

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hands up, right? It's not gonna last. I'm

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gonna let me give you a story

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and this story is gonna tell you how

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lasting

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nice for a long period of time.

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Okay? Without any arguments. Imam Ahmed Nuhamal Rahimullah,

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he was married for for

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for 40 years. He was about 60 years

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old when his wife passed away.

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He cried,

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and his disciple said: Imam,

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why are you crying? He said: I've had

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a marriage with my wife,

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a marriage with my wife for 40 years,

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and we never had a single argument.

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A single argument. They said, how? He said,

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when we got married, I took it on

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myself, and I said to my wife

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that if you're if you're ever,

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you know, mad at me, or you're, you

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know, you're kind of angry at me, and

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you're saying things I don't like, I'm gonna

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take you on me to stay quiet until

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you've calmed down, and then we'll speak.

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And if if I ever get mad at

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you, and if I say things to you

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that you don't like, you're gonna take it

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on yourself to stay quiet, and zip yourself

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up

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until

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I calm down, and then we talk nicely.

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This is the recipe

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to make sure that you have a nice

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marriage.

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Insha'Allah, say Insha'Allah.

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