Haitham al-Haddad – Tafsīr Sūrah Ahqāf #08

Haitham al-Haddad
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of rejecting the heck people have been saying and remaining firm on the right path. They stress the challenges of maintaining a strong image of oneself and rewarding people for actions. The conversation shifts to the natural garden reaction of humans to their parents, where they are punished for actions and valued for their parentage. They also discuss the importance of avoiding conflict of interest and finding ways to handle one's parents' behavior.
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You are listening to lesson eight of

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Surah tilaka bisha Dr. Hasan al Haddad happy the hula brought to you by Islam 21 c.com.

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articulating Islam in the 21st century

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man Allah him Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala nabina, Muhammad Allah, Allah Sahaja. In we are doing the Tafseer of sala de la cough. And we have, as we have said number of times so that the law of Islamic law dealing with the main topics of the murky sodas

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and in soda Tila have we said that the Lord Allah Allah mentioned, a lot of which is the dwellers of ad and ad was one of the strongest nations. And it seems that Allah, Allah wants to show us in this sutra that whoever

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rejects the help the truth and the Ayat of Allah, Allah Allah, He will be punished, no matter how strong he is. And Allah Allah Allah wants to, in this ruler, to give us examples of those who reject the truth of those who are arrogant and they reject the help. And we mentioned that Allah Allah Allah in the beginning of the surah mentioned the examples of the co founder of maca.

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Yes of the disbelievers the under machinery kin of Makkah, how Hey, how they rejected the help.

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And Allah, Allah Allah mentioned

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in the beginning of the surah, rational proofs, that confirm that no one was he of worship, of worship except to except Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah Allah item in kenema in de la he wakatobi and before that, Allah Jalla Allah says

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Allah, Masha, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah,

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Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah Camila, confessor, ma E to Nikita, Mimi,

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all of these are rational proofs, which means that don't reject the heck these are rational proofs, just submit. But if you are out of them, then you will reject the help. So, this is the theme of this EULA. That the Help is clear, there are different types of proofs that confirm the help yet there are people like the people who failed because of their feelings because of their arrogance, they reject the help. Yeah, and that is the link between the topic of the soul of the theme of the soul, and the name of the soul of Allah reminds us immediately with what with that land or with the with the country where I had, which is a modality modality will be that Yeah, which is the strongest

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nation ever,

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ever known in history.

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So, and we mentioned that, in the surah, there are two places in which might be different from the

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the stream of the surah.

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As you can say that the stream is going like this, then all of a sudden, there there is a pulse about a different subject, what is that subject was saying and in Santa bydd he has been added in here.

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This is one of them, that we have enjoined upon the human being to look after his parents and the other place, which also looks a bit strange from the main stream of the surah. What was what what is that? What it's sort of nine ilica. Now for a minute.

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What is what is the relationship? We said that Yanni we can say that Allah Allah Allah, Allah wants to say that, look, there are arrogant people who reject the call of Allah, Allah, Allah. And there are arrogant individuals who would who act in a very rude way to their parents. Allah Allah Allah is the rub of the human beings that created down who looked after human beings, yet some human beings reject Him. And the parents are what those who look after many are a boon. Same. Yeah, Europe buena Allah, they look after their children. And it is a common sense that the person should not be ungrateful to those who looked after him. Yet there are some people who are this

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grateful or ungrateful to their parents? Yes. And they will be punished as well. And this is another form of arrogance and the rejection of the truth.

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We started that the ayat of annalena Carlos kalu Robin Allahu Allahu alayhi wa sallam he has no last time. And we said that Allah Jalla Allah mentioned this the farmer in numerous verses in the Quran and as we said if you remember that there are similarities between all the our meme in the Quran

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Yeah, the how I mean, the seven how I mean, there are similarities between them. And in Surah facilite previously Allah Allah Allah mentioned in a Latina follow up una mas de como tetanus Irani

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in this Surah Surah telecom in alladhina, kalu those who said that our Lord is Allah Allah and then they remain firm on this, they maintained that Eman after that and we have spoken about is the karma and the importance of is the karma and we said that the challenge is what is not to enter the Imam. But to what to maintain the EMA.

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Yeah, to maintain the image and Subhanallah My dear brothers and sisters, as you know that this is the challenge in everything, even even in eSports you might win. Yeah, in athletics, running or whatever, but that there is a challenge is what?

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No, no, no, you might win once. But the main challenge is to remain on the top to maintain it. This is the remain the main challenge, it is the nature of human beings, that once they achieve something has they become what relax this life is a challenge is a continuous challenge. Why? Because no one was asked one of the early scholars he was asked, When do you

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have the rest he said in general.

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There is always struggled

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by so in la de la palabra de la Soma. And that's why we said and then

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the ayah says Suma and then and that in the Hadith had Sophia named Abdullah Takashi, that a man came to the prophesies element. He asked him for a comprehensive, short advice. He said, Well, I'm going to be law what semester after semester means remain what firm on the right path? He didn't say La and Mr. T. And that's why I will walk around the Allah Allah and who mentioned that is the karma is to what not to look on the left not to look on the right means remain on the straight path. It is utter hate. Yep. And the power of the law and who says the common law can I Oh, salad, a salad any moves all of a sudden, right and left? Yeah, sneaks. By, don't do that remain firm. That is the

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challenge that we are all facing. None of us can claim that Alhamdulillah his event is like the event of jabril he doesn't want to he doesn't need to struggle. No, no, every single one of us is struggling. By that's why the reward is worked for Whole Foods.

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They know

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there they will they will not experience what how.

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How? from something what that will come. They will not be afraid of something that will come

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nothing bad will come to them. And when they don't they should not be grieving for something that has happened. Means as Allah Allah Allah says Allah Dena and what Ameobi soo

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min una ecola homall new wahoo Mota do

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those who believed and they did not mix their Eman with any kind of volume here means shift.

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Yeah, shift

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by any they maintain their email. Maybe there were some mistakes here and there minor mistakes, but they immediately make itself out. And tober yes and repent to Allah, Allah Allah, those people who will those people will have what full security in the dunya and most importantly when in the alpha once we talk about the alpha, we are talking about what the stage one

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The person dies because when the person dies, his affair started

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and this dunya is mainly to abodes or sorry, this life is mainly to abort,

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abort of ml, one is out. And the second award is what he said one well I am an ml in this dunya there is ama you do and you will not be held held accountable, generally speaking, and in the hereafter which starts with you death, there will be What is up, accountability you will be holding, you will be held accountable for all what you have done. And there will be what?

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No, by again, generally speaking, because your previous deeds or your deeds that you have done, and they have a continuous reward still will benefit you in your grave. Yeah, we ask Allah, Allah Allah to increase us of these good deeds that will remain for us after we die. Okay, so these are the people who will have no hope they will have complete security for COVID-19 monomials. No, those people are equals horrible. Nacho didn't deserve

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this people are the people who deserve to go to Ghana.

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Yes, it can also have origin. No one else is from the people who deserve to have the agenda and that's how we'll Jana either you can say that the people who will go to agenda or even the people who own the agenda

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by Yeah, those people who deserve to go to general and they will go to general and they will be dwelling there forever.

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Yes, does it matter can we reward for what they used to do? And this is the justice of Allah Allah Allah then Allah Allah Allah mentioned something which as a as we said a little bit different from the stream of the idea the stream is going and then all of a sudden, what we're saying is in Santa bydd, even the scope even the Obama the propositions of the ayat, by start to be different, what was saying in Santa bhiwadi de Santa, what was Santa and in Sam, the translation that was mentioned here is what

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we enjoined upon the human being, maybe we will sign up can be enjoined or we have

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we have

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we have

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given instructions to the person by

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you know, the word was signed in Arabic It takes different forms, when when the person dies here it is what will okay he writes his will just before he he dies, he writes his will to be executed after he what he dies when the person for example, when you travel, and you have your eldest son and you want him to look after his siblings and his mother, yes, what do you do? You give him what

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instruction This is what signer.

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So, it is a mixture between a command

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and worry.

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Yes, and care

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is not a direct to command do this. It is not a dry command, do this law. It carries the sense of or the taste of instruction

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and taste of care and the taste of the mind.

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Yes, was signup and was signer is mainly mentioned in the Quran. When Allah Allah Allah wants to advise the person to look after his parents

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by water signer and so let alone Kabuto saying that instead of bydd Hasina Yeah.

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Why it was mentioned what was saying that what not what model now?

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What was saying that inside the general meaning of the ayah we have given instructions to the insane not to the Muslim to what an insane

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to look after his parents and to be kind to his parents

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why hemella to omo? Yes, his mother, bird him on a state of hardship and gave birth to him while she was in a state of hardship. Amana Tomoko wa barakato Cora and what have you who are facade? Oh? Salah una shahara yeah Annie she continued in this state of hardship for 30 months.

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Yeah. Okay.

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Well hello officer Lucia Tunisia,

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babe. Okay.

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So this is the general meaning of the ayah. First of all, why Allah Allah Allah said was sign an aqua Amarna

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because we allow them as we say, this is contemplation. It seems to be that if Allah Allah Allah says what Amarna

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it might give the the, the perception that the human beings by nature, wouldn't you do that?

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So that's why he needs instructions.

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Okay. And that's why Allah Allah Allah says while saying

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in Santa Natal Muslim,

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and inside means any human being should do that ability. semacam they are one of the earliest killers he said that Allah Allah Allah did not mention the punishment of Elko holidaying in the Koran. rather he mentioned that we should look after our parents because what because it is a natural inclination for any human being to look after his parents.

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Yes, but this is one thing. Moreover, what was signer because as we said, it has the meaning of what of instructions, advice care.

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If, if a lot of if it had if it was what Amarna then the human being will what will do exactly what was commanded to him one plus one black and white. Once he has done with his parents, yes, I was commanded to give you water I gave you water, the water is somewhere else I do not put more effort to please the parents because I have done exactly as well as I was instructed.

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Yes, it becomes a technical relationship. Allah Allah Allah doesn't want the relationship between the the, the children and their parents to be what a technical relationship you gave me this I gave you this? Yes. You asked me to do that. I did it. No, no, no, no, no. Allah, Allah, Allah wants the human being the children to look after the parents.

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But what is the difference he can live

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by is the difference the clip, it is not a job from nine to five, I came nine, exactly nine, maybe two minutes before nine o'clock and five o'clock. I left no one can hold me accountable for what I have done because I followed the instructions. Literally. No, no, no, no, with the parents to handle it is not like this. And it won't work like this. Even in social relationships. And in particular, their relationship to what to the parent

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or to the parents. Look, and then Allah, Allah Allah says what was saying, an in Santa

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Fe in Santa

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which means what the human being, which as if Allah Allah, Allah is saying that if you are a human being, you would want to

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look after your parent.

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If you are a human being, you will look after your parents. This is a natural, organic reaction, but we commanded you to maintain that is it clearly our brothers? That's why it is completely unnatural Subhan Allah, that the

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person does not look after his What?

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His parents it is unnatural and organic.

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In who you mean

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that the person neglects his parents,

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pipe. And the ledger Allah says we're also in an incident we will need a sauna

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means what?

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By to deal with them

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kindly with the word son, we know that the word Assam means what?

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gentleness and perfection?

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Not just to do exactly as we said,

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in to deal with them in a technical way no no no do sound with them. Yeah, deal with them gently and try to be perfect as much as you can.

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By My dear brothers and sisters, the rights of the parents,

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as this color said, Come after the rights of a la jolla.

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And it is unfortunate. And sometimes I feel sorry for you.

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Brothers and sisters who grew up in the West, that you that the rights of the parents were not distressed enough

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or new in the educational system, even in the masajid even if it was not distressed enough, those who grew in some not all unfortunately, Muslim countries, by all of them, they are proud of teaching their children how to look after their parents.

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But in the West, no. By and I really feel sorry for you.

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And we really need to encourage ourselves and to help ourselves to look after our parents.

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So Hannah law amount.

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There is a very nice story. In,

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in a in

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a man came to be an ambassador of the town hall and he said

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I wanted to marry a girl. I loved her so much.

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But she didn't love me.

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And another man proposed to her and she accepted him. I became so jealous I killed

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and I am regretting now.

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I'm regretting, what shall I do? Now even Ibis was a Mufti at that time, he was not a party. So that's why he will answer him as a Mufti by as a court he would tell him that go on time yourself. Okay.

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Surrender or whatever. No, he was talking about the towba. He said, Do you have a mother? He said, Yes, he said, look after her.

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Then one of the companions of the Ibis said an Ibis, why did you ask him about his mother? He said, because I wanted him to do something. So what?

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So Good

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bye, very rewardable I did not find any good deed more rewardable than what? being kind to the parents. So I told him if you want to depend and you want something to balance that huge sin that you have committed to not Minamata Amidon. Vegeta Oh Johanna Mohali Eva La La da da da da da da da to great sin you need a big what a big huge good deed There is nothing like what looking after your parents and looking after your mother so handler very very very

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powerful statement all of us know that why some irony? Yeah, always I'm corny. He was one of the Tabby

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Yeah, saw him doing a similar type or had he said I think you are boy Always.

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Always was very humble and very righteous person. He said no, my Yeah. Okay. You are always everybody knew. He said make dua for me. He said Subhana Allah for you?

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He said yes. The prophets I send them said there is a righteous person His name is always if any one of you come across him he should ask him to what to make the call for him his dies Mr. Jia somehow various narrations they say that we sell Cardone he accepted Islam during the time of the prophets are selling he is from belcaro. Yeah. Currently we have chef idol, cornea. And we sell Tony there is it is a South Sudan, South Sudan of Saudi Arabia, well known area by so always incarnate he became that righteous person and his daughter is Mr. Jab because it

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He did not. He did not go to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to give him Bayer and to see him and to become a Sahabi. Because of what? Because of his mother?

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Yes. Well, he might be brothers and sisters, if we read about the rights of the parents over us, we will be really shocked.

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A man came to power of the law and he said the minute My mother is so ill, and she cannot

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urinate and deprecate except if she is sitting on my back.

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And I do that

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and when she finishes, I turn my face and I try to clean her.

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I try my turn my face away to clean her. Do you think that I have done something to compensate the effort that she has done to look after me? He said not even what the pain of one of the contractions when she was giving birth to you,

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not even

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so, Pamela, and this, this hadith or this narration is mentioned in three forms this form that I have mentioned to you, there is another form even Mr. Ravi Allah tala who saw a person carrying his mother and doing talk.

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Yes, and the person said, Yeah, Omar and Omar, do you think that I have compensated my mother for what she has done for me? He said, not even a kick one of your kicks in her stomach. Another narration again, even Omar will be allowed to add on who saw a person cutting his mother to come to do a hairdryer from hora, Sam,

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where is Horace and

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Yanni behind India? Asia, Russia, x Russian countries there. Yeah, coming from there all the way to Makkah, carrying his mother Subhana Allah. And he said to me no more do you think that I have given her any good compensation for what she has done for me? He said not even one of the one of your kicks when you were in her stomach Subhana Allah.

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This is how they

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used to look after their parents.

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They said that there were two righteous people.

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And they never they were two righteous people. And they were known that no one looked after their parents.

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By the way, they looked after their parents Earth man, even though affair of the Allahu tada and home

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and honey forgiveness, I think it's a matter of the data and Who said that? I could not look at my mother and stare at her. Since I accepted Islam out of respect for

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now, the parents now they say to their children. Bye. Can you please give me water? By just from downstairs? They would answer I am upstairs.

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Any Do you want me to go downstairs to bring water for you?

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Yeah, this too much for me to do that.

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Is that true or not? Now the children they will remain on the mobile phone by chatting for two hours, three hours with their friends. Then the father is asking them. Yeah, can you please go pick your brother? Or can you just

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give Bring me some medicine? Tada. I am busy.

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I am busy. I'm studying.

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Yeah. And I feel sorry for the children because they don't feel that this is a problem. They feel that this is your new normal.

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They feel that this is normal. I don't even know the same Zane and Avi did. He never ate with his mother in one plate. They said Why do you do that? He said Well, I am afraid that she would like to eat something. And by mistake I eat it before her.

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And then I will be this obedient. Muhammad Norman Carter used to sleep and put his chin on the ground and he says to his mother, put your foot above my head.

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Out of respect for his mother.

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So many stories, so many stories.

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How to have knowledge

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Maybe you know his his story. He was a teacher.

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By when he was teaching like me now when I'm teaching his mother we'll call him Raja Raja. I told you to feed the chicken you didn't do so go on feed them.

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Come on mom. Now, when I'm teaching people, maybe people are coming from all over the place to

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buy, and he would stop the dose. And he goes and feed the chicken, the chicken of his mother.

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So on and so on. So many stories.

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That amount of the devil he said, My son, when he died when he when his son died, he said he was really a very righteous boy. He said, If we work if we walk together, in the more in the daytime, he would walk behind me in order to protect me. If we if we work together tonight, he would walk ahead of me in order to make sure that I am safe. And he never went in.

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In a place that is above me.

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Yeah, not to show even any even kind of any highness or superiority over his father, even in this simple matter.

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I've been ambassador of the law No, my dear brothers and sisters said that anyone who is looking after his parents in the morning and in the evening, except he will have two doors to open for him. And that's why it is known that once you lose one of your parents, one of the doors to Jenna, what was

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his clothes

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and those My dear brothers, I strongly advise you those who have their parents living to look after them, because one lie He wants you lose them, once you lose them. Yeah, you will feel that or you have you have lost something that cannot be compensated

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and you will have a deep regret in your heart

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that you did not spend enough time with them. And you would wish

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you know my brothers Subhana Allah I have experienced this when my father passed away and many people have experienced this. You know, we talk about tomorrow, tomorrow. Yeah, tomorrow, when any,

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you make take Baraka from the claws of a righteous person. By Yeah.

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A brother said, and I have experienced something similar. A brother said when my mother died, I used to keep her scarf.

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And I used to bring it and this mellott

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because I want to smell the fragrance of my mother.

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And I was afraid whether that is true or not.

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Yeah, whether that is allowed or not. Just because I miss her so much. And that you don't want to get rid of the scarf, her scarf. I want to keep it and between now and then I smell it. Just to remember my mother.

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I have experienced this myself when my father passed away.

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myself, my brothers all of us, every one of us.

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of the of the children of the brothers.

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They say this is my father, my father's glasses. I want to keep them. This is my father. So yes, it's still the smell of my father. Is there.

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My sister took

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some hairs from my father's beard.

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Yep. And I was thinking is this some hannula yani is this an excessive love that Yeah, and he goes to trivago or not. But this is a natural reaction.

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A natural reaction the human being will do towards his parents. So before you go and get into that situation, my dear brothers and sisters, go and have a good relationship with your parents. Go on to spending time with them. Go and now many of us, you know sometimes we feel embarrassed that the Father is doing this and that and then this and that. by one lie. If you lose your father, you would

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you would wish if you will.

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Father comes back and embarrasses you.

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And you don't care about that. But you just want to spend one minute with him. Just one minute with him. You would like just to hug him, just to hug him to touch his skin to touch her skin.

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Go My dear brothers and sisters fix your relationship with your parents.

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Some of our scholars said, Yes, sir Hala. He said, whenever some students come and study with me, I make sure that they have good relationship with their parents. If any of these students have a bad relationship with his parents, I asked him to fix it. If he doesn't fix his relationship with his parents, I asked him to keep away from me, because there is no hiring him.

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To this level. He said I can't be next to a person who is not good to his parents, who has no good relationship with his parents. Because there is no higher end him

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Subhana Allah

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even Subhana Allah de Francaise, 102 silica BMR a silica be a top performer?

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Yeah, if they were actively doing jihad against you.

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Yes. To make schilke to commit to the biggest sin

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to commit to the biggest sin? No, no, no, no, no, no. Don't listen to them. don't obey them. But Subhana Allah what was done?

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My dear brothers,

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maybe many of you are like my children. I was a child. Maybe I was naughty to my parents. I asked Allah Allah Allah to forgive me for that. ask Allah Allah, Allah to forgive you for that. Yes. But please, please remember, when he nothing breaks the heart of the parent to Like what? Like seeing his child disobedient to him.

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Many people asked him about the love behind being obedient to your parents, what is the agenda? Is it the outcome? Is it the, the

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the actual date? No, no, no, no, there are a lot, as many scholars said, is what not to break their hearts. Because it is so painful, so painful,

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that your son, the one who or your daughter, that you are looking after him, and you would like to kill yourself in order to give him life.

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How many stories we have heard of those.

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The very famous story of that lady, home have her brother, her her son used to be embarrassed when she comes out because she lost one of her eyes. And she looked ugly.

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And after some time, when she was on her deathbed, she told him my son, I want to give you a secret, I didn't want to only give you that fact, because it is so painful for you. But now I have to give it to this I that I have lost. And I look ugly. And you used to be embarrassed. When people see me like this. This eye is the eye in your face.

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When you were a child, there was a problem in your eye and the doctor said that he will be in this shape unless you donate one of your eyes for him. And I donated my ID for you.

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This is how the parents? Yes. This is how they look after their children.

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And maybe many of you are parents, fathers. And you know how dear your children are to your heart. And when that child says no, or just being rude, or whether Allahumma ofin.

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Yeah, that breaks the heart of your father.

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Even if he is a very ugly person as many people say, even if he's a coffee, even the issue is there in the issue is what he is what your father

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and there is that relationship between both.

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So don't to break the hearts of your parents.

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And my dear brothers

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This insistence of handover, one of the Sahaba said, that there is no punishment that our gelada

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Yes. speeded up.

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Like the punishment of being disobedient to your parents. Allah Jalla Allah punish is the parent, the person who is disobedient to his father or mother immediately.

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Immediately, Allah gelada seizes him and Allah, Allah, Allah punishes him immediately.

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And he said that those who are

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kind to their parents, obliged Allah, Allah will give them in good life long life, Baraka in their life, in order to what in order to continue doing more good deeds, because Allah Allah, Allah became so pleased with them, because they were what pleasing their parents.

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Look at this.

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All of us know of the story of that man who came to the prophet SAW Selim, and he said, You're a solo like him and to give you bear by he said, You have parents? He said, Yeah, I left them. They were crying. He said, go back now.

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And let them What?

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Let them laugh and be happy as you made them cry. One of them scholar said, looking at your mother. Yeah, just looking at her is an act of faith that

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many of our scholars said that. If you have he, they used to say to us, be careful. Sometimes we think that studying or is more important than just spending time with your parents just to have a chat with them.

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Just to have a chat with them. Because that Subhanallah is so pleasing. Mohammed Norman Kadir, one of the very early scholars, very righteous people known for his beautiful statements. He said, I spent my night doing massage for my mother's feet. And my brother spent the night What doing family? And I thought I have what I was better than him on that night.

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He was doing what family and I was doing what?

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massage for my mother. What was better to Malaysia or doing massage for your mother doing massage for your mother.

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To this level,

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we can continue mentioning the statements and the statements. My dear brothers. I know that many of you might say that my father is harsh. Especially Jani. Nowadays they say my father is harsh. By and the daughters.

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They always complain that my father is harsh. My father, it has never been for me. Yes, there are parents who are like this. But if he's wrong, don't what respond in a wrong way. two wrongs do not make

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one right. So more of our My dear brothers and sisters. So how long was the relationship the blood the biological relationship between the father and his son is of a different nature. No father. Yeah, no real father, biological father, for you. Even if he is rude to you, and you come to him in a very apologizing way, in a very sweet way in a very soft way except his heart will melt down.

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No, father. Don't say that. There is a father.

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Yes, who is not like this? Many of you, and we always receive this question. No, my father is different. And Subhanallah I say to people, to the people, Mashallah half of your parents are different. Then where? What? Elijah? No, Allah told us about the parents. Everyone is saying no, my father is different. My mother is different. My father is different. My mother is different.

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Yes. And it is a very common mistake. A very big sin that we witness here. My dear brothers and sisters, especially sisters, especially in this country. Yes. My father and mother were separated long time ago. And my father, he went back to India, Pakistan or Africa, and I have no contact with him.

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What do you mean by you'll have no contact with him?

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common question. I haven't seen my father for 10 years now.

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for 10 years. I haven't been in touch with my father. So panela the

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I haven't been touched both brothers and sisters, or my mother stopped me from seeing my, my father, or my father has stopped me from seeing my mother. By the way, by the way, as I have mentioned this, any pair on Tuesday tops his children and from seeing the other parent, they have committed a major sin and Subhana Allah, I have not seen in my life, a parent who is stopping his children from seeing the other parents except to those children and will become disobedient to this parent.

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I haven't seen my in my life, that a wife or a husband telling his children Yes, not to see

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the other parent, except to Allahu Allah deprive them Baraka and tofield.

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And to Allah He, in many cases, the parent tool used to stop the children from seeing the other parent, after some time, and I have seen this in many cases, he will look for the other parent telling him take the children. I can't deal with them anymore. I have seen this in numerous occasions.

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So those who

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become separated, got divorced. Yes, they should not take advantage of the system. They should work. They should be careful that the law is above them.

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And the Lord Allah Allah is just Yes. And the Lord Allah, Allah hates womb the most. Yeah. And it is a common mistake, as well. That one of the parents, once they are divorced,

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says, Yeah, well, the mother or the father. They are not capable of looking after the child. And I always say that you should not be part of one party and the judge you after the other party doodle on judge.

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No, no, no, no. There is a conflict of interest. You should have a third party to judge between both of you.

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Yes, never investigate a person again as his parents you will not see tofi at the new life.

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You will never what see adelphia canoe life? Yeah. And there were many statements that the person who is disobedient to his parents, he will never see to fit in his life he will never see light, you know, light in his life. And some Hannah law, you don't find the person and I have experienced this myself. You don't have a person who is so Hannah law rich or who is guided or who has Baraka Baraka and his children Baraka and his wife, Baraka and his wife, Baraka Baraka Baraka, yeah. Except, if you look, you will find that this person is righteous to his parents.

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Subhana Allah. So, if you want to Baraka, my dear brothers and sisters, be kind to your parents.

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And four sisters in particular.

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They always ask this, or my father doesn't want me to marry this person. My father doesn't want my father is depriving me my heart. My father is doing this and my mother is doing this and that, yes, maybe there are some strange parents, but I know for a fact. I mentioned this today. I mentioned this yesterday in a conference. I was in Norway. And the sisters asked this question. I said to them, I know for a fact I have children. I have daughters. And I asked, there were some shoe chefs, Raja Hydros. Dad, he said he has seven daughters, as well. The other chef had two daughters. I asked them I told them, if your daughter comes to you, in a very sweet way, and telling you Daddy, please

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I want this will law he no father, no matter how strong he was, except his heart will what will melt down and he will give her what she wants.

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This is a fact. So don't tell me especially my dear sister. My dear daughter. Don't tell me that. My father is rude to me. My father is depriving me my health. My father is this and that? Yes, he is a tough person, tough person. He is. No, no, no. Go check yourself. You will see that you have dealt with your father in a very rude way. Go check yourself, fix yourself and you will

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See that your father's heart will melt down?

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I do agree My dear brothers and sisters, just to be fair, that in many cases there is a difference in terms of the language spoken between you and your parents. What do I mean by language? I don't mean English and Urdu or no, no, no, I mean, the culture,

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the culture, your father's expectations from you is different from what you want to achieve. Yeah.

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Some parents, for example, they value education. And some children, they don't value education, they will continue in this clash, the father is pushing the son to maybe have good education and the children and they don't want to do that. So this will be a cause of backlash.

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This is an example. And there are so many examples like this, you need to come to a common term,

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you need to come to a common term. And as I always say, to my,

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my children, my my brothers, I always say to them, that lets your parents feel that you are a responsible person.

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This is a key point that is missing. If I feel that my son or my daughters, they are responsible people.

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they take the right decisions. They don't mess around, they don't put themselves into troubles. And then will lie he, then I will be proud of them more and more, and I will give them more space to decide for themselves.

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But when the father or the mother,

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when they see that their children are irresponsible.

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They see them and mature, then they will start what indoctrinate as the children say, yeah. Okay, or they start to push them, and then the clashes thoughts.

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So we all as parents and children, we need to avoid this.

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And, again, I feel sorry for you, brothers.

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Because grown up being brought up in this environment is so strange. For example, there are things that may be the older generation, they take it for granted

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for granted for you, which is a big crime.

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For you, it is a big crime. Yeah, for example.

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I don't know whether you agree with me that maybe the older generation, they would like to know everything about their children.

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They would like to know everything about their children, the children now especially Western children, they feel that this is what interfering in their private life I agree or not.

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Yeah, I remember one of the cases a lady. I am sister she was Jani.

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She was a doctor, he can I can mention this. She's not known anyway. She says that her father is too much pushy and interfering in her life. He wants to know this and that wherever she goes, and etc, etc, etc. Yep. And, and she says that this is causing the trauma for her.

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I mentioned to her another example of a family that came before that. I said the family, the mother

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living as we are living in one house. So when there is a letter that comes to my children, it is a natural thing that well, I am the father. Okay, I opened the letter. Maybe I don't do it, because I know the sensitivity of the situation today with the children. But that family mention this. And the children cannot wear this.

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They said well, how are they open my letters? Look, my parents, they open my letters. What have what have they do with my letters? Why do they infringe my private life? Yeah, and this is causing so much pain for both sides. And the child wants to leave the house because he believes that his parents are so controlling. And this is a common statement that I'm sure most of you use. That the parents are what?

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Uh huh. So controlling

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First of all, you have been

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taught to be independent.

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I agree or not.

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And that way, that's why I feel sorry for you. By you feel independent, and you feel you've been taught to be arrogant and independent, and this was indoctrinated into, into your mind, but you were also interrupt, indoctrinated to be submissive to the system.

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Again to not, not to the parents but to the system not to Allah, but to the law.

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Yeah, because the law is what claiming the divine replacing Gani known in the stuff for Allah for Allah, the law, He is the God or it is the God. And this is the way it is taught to many people.

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Be independent in front of your parents. Arrogant in front of your parents, yes, because you want to be independent, but submissive to the system. The parents are worried about you. Maybe some parents because they have seen so many problems in their life. So they are worried about you, they want to check your mobile phone. Why? Why do they want to they check their your mobile phones?

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Why? You tell me

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because me as a parent, I you know, so much I as as a parent later on as a chef, as a parent, we know that the children will what will be groomed? They through mobile phones, agree or not?

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They might have access to all haram things, * and indecent things. And I agree or not. Yeah, let alone that now they might be groomed by ISIS.

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I agree or not. So is it my right? For me as a parent to be worried about my children, their children? They think that they know everything in this life.

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Yeah, and they don't need the parents.

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Sometimes, as I said, I do feel sorry for you because this is the way you were taught.

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But you need to humble yourself. My dear brothers and sisters. There is no yeah, there is no one in the world who wants to see another person better than him than what than the father and his children?

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No One No One. I wouldn't like to see anyone better than myself. This is the nature of the human being Yanni, okay? except you're in a very righteous person. By maybe he wants him to be see to see him like him. Except to the Father. He won't like to see what

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his children better than him and he will be proud if they become what better than him and he will work hard day and night for his children to work to become what better than him.

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Yeah. And that's why a lord Allah Allah says was seen inside of you led Santa and

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it is our senior from Allah.

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To Be kind to your parents, not to say often, Loma, my dear brothers and sisters, let us conclude. I advise you that you go today. Yes today

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and call your parents if they are living away from you. Yeah. speak to them if they are next to you go and hug them.

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Some Hannah law brother said that.

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He read somewhere that maybe the mothers when they become old by

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they like to be what is the word? pumper?

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He said, I never thought that this is true.

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So I said, I started to text my mother. As if I'm texting my wife. Darling, I missed you.

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Yeah, darling. I love you so much.

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And so on. He said, Well, he that has a very, very positive impact on my mother.

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And I was shocked that my mother, she's 60 or 70. Yeah. She wants to be treated as a as a young lady. Some hangover from the sun. Yes.

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from the sun. Yes. Yeah. And that person Who says that? I always take my wife in the weekend for our dinner. Yes, to enjoy our life and yeah, newlyweds

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person. Then he said, I heard the lecture from one of the Shu Han, he said, Who am I? And you? Yes. Who says to his mother, he texts her mother, let us have a little suspend. Maybe a beautiful night today. And he just takes her alone, not with his wife.

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Yeah, to have dinner together, to have lunch together to have fun together. Well, I if you say to your mother like this, she will tell you, she will be worried about you, she will tell you go and pick up your daughter, your your your wife. So because this is the heart of the mother, she doesn't want she's not selfish. She doesn't want to enjoy by herself. She enjoys when you when she sees you What? Enjoying, but sometimes out of love. And many parents, I do agree. Many parents don't know how to express their love. They make mistakes in suppressing their love.

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Yes, they make mistakes, even when some parents become violent. Don't say that my father, he hates me. He became violent or he became aggressive, or this is what you were told.

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And disagree schools.

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Yeah. But you know, even if your father becomes rude or aggressive or even violent, he wants to stop you from something good. And as Yanni, I learned something very beautiful from chef Raheem green. He said once to the I don't know, he said, he said, Look, the police man has the right to what to discipline?

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The person in the street agree or not. But now the system does not allow the father to discipline his son.

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Is that true or not?

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Yeah, you may want to deprive the parents from any kind of authority or even any kind of right over their children. And they want the right to be what for the system only.

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Yeah, and they teach you do be independent. And now as you know, the bullying act. If your father is telling you, my son, he's telling his daughter, don't worry this. Yeah, this is not appropriate for you. Don't do this. Don't do that. Yes. Or they are trying to check what their children are doing. Okay, this is this might be bullying, and the father might go to prison because of his son or his daughter.

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Is that true or not? This is the way and then they say, well, the parents have to safeguard their children. Yeah, when it comes to ISIS and terrorism, they have to safeguard their children when it comes to drugs. No.

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They have no responsibility to safeguard their children, somehow safeguarding their children in the father by nature they wants to or the parents want to safeguard their children from all evil things around them.

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Yeah. So my dear brothers and sisters, go, please, go and fix your relationship with your parents.

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Yes, and even if they if you feel that they are very rude, very aggressive, this is a test for you. For me, for all of us. It is a test. And in this life, we are tested by different ways. And this is one of the ways that we are tested with

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Yeah, go and fix your relationship with your parents,

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with your mother and your father. Go learn how to hug them, how to kiss them, how to say sweet words to them.

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How to look after them from all angles.

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How to please them?

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Because we're lucky no one wants higher for you. Like your parents won't hire for you. We ask Allah Allah Allah to make us obedient to our parents. We ask Allah Allah Allah to mix to make us among those who benefit from what they hear and when they learn to ask Allah Allah Allah to forgive us for our shortcomings. sobre la silla Mubarak

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any question

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yeah, next time. The our changes

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Is it is it next week?

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there Yeah, this Sunday. So next week, inshallah. Next week, brothers, the dogs will be after mother inshallah.

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Does echo Hello See you soon Ciao

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