Contemporary Women’s Reproductive Issues Islamic and Medical Perspective

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I'm Langer Blimey. Already so

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this is going to be an issue because I don't think we can. There's a lot of people online May Allah forgive me. And I don't know how we will do this.

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We need the slides for sure. 100 Let's just do a lot of solder Vasarely salt or Sinhala will fix it. This is a Hadith of rassada salatu salam where he will remember the name of this hobby and he came to him and says how much of my GPA I make it for you meaning my salah. Then he said 1/3 1/4 half and he said all of it. He said took for him MCC you will be saved from your all your worries. So what hamdulillah Bragg? Okay, so, what we're going to cover today The reason I chose this for more than one reason number one, is this is something very much relevant to us woman. Number two, there is a lot of issues related to especially these days, how many of you know

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Roe vs. Wade.

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That said, you live in California, you will need to know this. If you don't know what your children are knows about. This is the talk of the town as they call it. Everyone in this country is talking about Roe vs. Wade. This is 1971 or 72 where the abortion became legal in this country. Because the Supreme Court at that time made it legal based on this case. Now this would say the Supreme Court is actually changing it while they are not yet but there is there was a leak very recent you all need to be up to date.

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You will not be able to talk to your children, your daughters, especially teenagers, those who are in college, if you don't know all these, they will not listen to you. You don't live in your life. You live in the lala land as we say this is everyone is talking about it. So there was a leak maybe three weeks ago, two weeks ago from the supreme court document that this may be turned over. And there is a huge aha about because that would make not for us that we live in this country that will make abortion illegal. And the first question I asked I was asked in the hospital any Muslim, you will get this question. What does Islam say about?

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And I need to know the answer. I'm a Muslim woman. I'm an educated woman. I removed my ID I have to know this. And if I don't know this is the time where I go and study and learn about it. And there is beautiful articles I was looking yesterday. So I know I'll get the question. What do I study? Where do I look and there was very good articles in many places you can read in Arabic in English. So beautiful book also was written about it a long time ago. So that made me choose the subject but before I'm gonna go there, abortion is going to come at the end of it. I need you all this is going to be a combination of deen and duniya it's going to be a combination of Islam and science and this

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is what all our deen is all about. Is you live them both. Remember when we talked about doing it three weeks ago, we said this dunya is mine.

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farm for my actual. So if I'm clueless here I am clueless

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if I'm clueless in Who is Allah and what is my Deen telling me or what should I know about my arthritis and I am lost. So we don't want this so the first thing I'm going to share with you is this and this is extremely important you can read this anybody who read the arm

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Yes, I can tell you

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all the rowhome in Embraer have been okay so yes, this is very nice especially when you go and visit is that the one no I guess this is the one yep hamdulillah when you go and visit massage especially if you go to Turkey it's like a quizzes because all this calligraphy and you stand in front of is that what is this and usually there is one or two letters will give you the clue so this one is the scene here and the ice race Aluna

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right so basically when a kangaroo of color Roman ameobi and then the next one

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Walmart will teach them that enemy love Polydor. They asked you about the soul they came to Roswell resort to ascend they keep asking the questions, because they see there is a challenging question and the last one is southwest

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And of course, it's not like you and me jump to answers. All the raw human embryos. I have no idea. There is nothing wrong when someone asks you to say I don't know. In fact, it's a sign of strength.

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Because you're okay to tell people I don't know everything because nobody knows. But when I try to make sure that I know everything, then you are arrogant for what we talked about last time. And what we're going to be talking about this coming Tuesday. Well, now Tito Let me love a leader. You will not given from knowledge but little, just a little bit. Subhanallah and then here you go. And this applies to this. Creation, how much we know about creation.

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The details of it. It's literally like two layers of knowledge now and there is this huge ocean full off. Unknown and not only about a human being fly on Varun BDK for Hollywood. How many of you look at animals and say that only Subhanallah which we all do when that happened? Or how they were created. Look at this. And look at this.

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This is the Galaxy

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This is the moon or the earth from the universe or this is the moon as we see it. Weightless summer okay for oviya Look at this. What you learned geography financially? How did that happen? You live in again, in a state full of beautiful

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creation of Allah's Pandaria the mountain you have the sea of the ocean, the rivers, you have everything. We have different color of mountains, how this becomes fixed. And then on the day of judgment, what's going to happen

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is Luna Canyon Juba, Korean sifu arabinose they asked you about mountains, Allah who will destroy it completely. Now what about the earth? Well, or the cave for slaughterhouse? It's rounded or it's flat? How is that?

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How is that that's how we get close to Allah subhanaw taala is but just reflect around you and think of it this is all installed for last year. And what about us?

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How we were created? What about this?

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Subhan Allah Look at that. Look at this beauty of Allah subhanaw taala How was this all done? How? And look at that

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there's no sound

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no sound.

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This is a beautiful verse In surah. Zoom. You I need you to try because I have a lot of Quran. Allah Who highly hopefully she will who other coalition anybody. Allah is the Creator of everything. And he is capable of everything. Allah Livia young, everyone young and old, listening to me and seeing if you live with this verse by itself, I'm going to share a lot of verses with you. Unfortunately, I don't know why we don't have a sound. But if you look at this, by itself,

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I don't know how people can't believe and I don't know how people can't obey almost Holocaust coalition. Look at the pictures I just showed

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pollution

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everything

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what's wrong with us?

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SubhanAllah.

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Hi, again, this is all videos.

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Like read it at least it's there's a recital of our atraumatic No, do you see? And to tackle Ebola, you created

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a national holocaust?

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Where is the answer?

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Where it is the answer?

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You all read this source raka

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Domina vino como tomar. Nana the most voting Nova de la sala. How many people died and new people came in their places.

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And we will create you back again. You don't know.

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And you knew the first one.

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This is what would walk out. That's the question.

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Why don't you remember? There's no answer. By the way. Sorting locker has all these questions and there's no answer.

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How you were created. Why don't you remember? Why don't you reflect? Right.

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This is how we are created.

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Right? What is that? I'm still beautiful.

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Almost a woman and

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a Muslim man, both we need these two, whatever people say whatever they claim they cannot do it without this regardless of whatever orientation is still you need these two because that's the sooner Allah Subhan Allah it's so sad that all these videos are not because unless you hear the Quran and I don't know why we are not hearing it

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so Allah subhanaw taala said this insolate will are off

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and I'm gonna stop because I want to. This is the only verse in the Quran talking about

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marital relationship.

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Read it. Lm Natasha Hamilton and Javi from from our one to be when they have sexual relationship from college when she became pregnant and heavy, Tao la hora Bahama, they both pray to Allah. If you give us that righteous one, we will be from the grateful. Read it again.

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He created you from 101 And who is that one, Adam, and then

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about a cup this is also another important law

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for the Ohio meclizine Dean hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen This is an awful lot also talked about the creation. You want your email to get stoned, young and old. This has nothing to do with age. Just reflect on the creation. If you are like me in the medical field or in the science reflect on the creation of the human beings, if you are an engineering or you are in geology or you're in it, if you are in it, which again this is an IT state look in the it just look at the computer. But we came so what

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num I say this to my num of course the code works. Of course this works. Oh well. He just told us it doesn't work.

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Subhanallah so reflect on this and look at this to BarakAllahu. US arsenal. Harlequin Blissett is Allah the best of the best to create or the best to create easily twice accelo Harlequin our bulan me the Lord if I look at this and I see you know I'm in my profession. Always I say this to the woman on I do ultrasound, especially the first ultrasound when there is you only start seeing the fetal heart. Those of you being pregnant that you've seen it is one of the most moving moment there's three moments in pregnancy. When you see the tears of the woman that tears of joy. The first one is when she found out she's pregnant actually this fortify account this one. So the first one

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when she finds out, she's pregnant, so she do the pregnancy test at home. You've seen all this. Second one is when she came to the office and I show her the fetal heart. The third one is when she heard the fetal heart, like 20 weeks when we put the dollar and when the baby comes out.

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Never ever in my old career, don't ask me how many I've delivered was taught long time ago. I have not seen a woman cries when the baby comes out.

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It is amazing because I always say how can people don't believe in Allah? Where did this come from? Subhanallah and look at that. Where did this come from? Right Subhan Allah basically had this is it. This is the man anatomy. So basically, this is the the higher of 18 the scariest thought was

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say the accelerated that the woman awful of unsolved, right bashfulness that never prevented them from learning their deen

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and we are so different these days. We don't ask. We need to know they teach this in fifth grade by the way. Okay, so you don't know fifth grade 10 years old. And how can we women don't know this. So this is the man and this is a sponsz We need this sperms is the not fun as Allah subhanaw taala called it in the Quran. And this is us.

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The uterus, the woman has uterus. There's a fallopian tube that is the ovary and this is the vagina. And the baby will sit here I'll show you more pictures. And this is the ovary sliced like when we do surgery and we remove parts of the ovary This is how it is and this is the egg you call it to egg and this is how it starts a follicle follicle gets bigger here is what we call it ovulation and if a sperm comes in, you get pregnant

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otherwise ends and we get the P and this is the egg this is real picture is not drawing, this is real picture. This is how the app looks like.

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And look at what happens when there is an intercourse millions, not one or two or three millions Look at this. This is real pictures by the way. This is millions of sperms This is sperm sperm sperm sperm all this farms surround one egg millions and then as they are surrounding they die they die they die they die and then some stays and only one can get

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Subhanallah you know why? I have read it

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changes in egg protein prevents entry of other respond once one gets in. Like you know when you shut the door and the House does what the egg does, it sends a protein and it's this becomes completely sealed. No other spawn can go inside.

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So we don't have million babies the woman carrying Subhanallah and here's exactly what happens. So here you go. This is the sperm this is the wall of the egg comes in. And

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that's who we are. All of us. All of us. This is who we are. You know how big is this?

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Give a guess

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give a number

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whatever I can't hear it.

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one millimeter, much less you can see it. This is basically egg the sperm Winton and his called fertilized zygote we call it in the embryology. Unfortunately, this is the nicest.

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Let's see if I can.

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It's unfortunate but what can we do? Allah has a reason. This is basically the verse and source remote reknown

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recreated the human being from an extract of clay. Then we left him or made some place to sperm drop in a firm lodging in the uterus.

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Then, then Holika load for Tanaka sperm drop clinging clot, that clean cloth made it into an alarm. And then this covered made it to become bones. The bones are covered with muscles. This is the main miracle of the Quran, then we changed it better BarakAllahu is and I didn't want to go into detail of this because I'm planning to do another one about this in detail. This is who we are.

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And Haleakala hotel in Santa Monica. Every time I read this, whether I read the verse or I see this or I'm studying it as a Madison, I say what a las pantallas hadn't sold at Ibis

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hotel in San Marcos. Whoa on human being, from what? From what he created it, or I unlock when he in halacha was created from what? And that's what he say I mean, not sperm, spoiled sperm they call a spoiled drop halacha that's it and look at us. We grew up and we become argumentative and I am not convinced and surely this can you sometimes you know what I say to myself?

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Allah subhanaw taala shows us how merciful He is not by reading the Quran.

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By actions by us being so argumentative, disobedient, we don't do what he wants us to do. Focus on our dunya and then he still give us a feeders give us more. Give us failing, waiting for us to go back to him. BarakAllahu ASAN Hello. Yummy Subhanallah and this is this is in the book of anatomy by the way. This is the most famous book of anatomy. So here you go. The two I showed you the small one the less one millimeter comes here. Allah starts hanging in there. This is how it is leech and Allah called the to Allah. Allah in the Arabic language in English is leeching something that's cleaned and if there is no cleansing that's when you will miscarry. When the woman was killed same thing

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he's this is the beach Subhan Allah Kodaka This is anatomy. This is the leech

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then you come here mobile ha This is the horse I just shared with you from John that home HELOC

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a HELOC loan mobile la Nakata mobile This is an attorney This is a chewing gum.

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This is chewing gum. This is the anatomy look exactly the same because this is the bowl

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In the back, the spine, the future of spine, the same words Allah subhanaw taala used it. And this is what happens. It starts from here. Here you go here that's the that's the medulla. There's baby the baby. That's fetus, fetus, fetus, fetus fetus. Now 36 weeks 40 weeks, and then you took over. That's how the babysits Subhanallah Oh, she's pregnant. Oh, she had a baby. Natural.

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As an elephant in Myanmar became so accustomed to things we don't we don't look into a deep and we think of it of course as the baby she's come. Oh, and this is how it is.

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What a beauty who created this?

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Him Subhana

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Allah Subhan Allah and then this is the verse which I really love but I don't think this is the sort of curve of Allah pantalla says on another slide Whoa, your your hair and his companion talk to him a comfortability. halacha coming tomorrow, you are ungrateful to the One who created you from just to mommy not my visit. And then from the drop then he made you a man. This is a squatter camp every Friday read to my motto my co worker Raja SubhanAllah. That kingdom of Allah or OB that's what I knew need to say to my Lord, who attended yesterday Juma

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here was one of the best Jomar habla M Howard as concept very few people speak about that's what he's saying that you collect your heart is Milan Jana, the one who collect your heart, collect your affairs on him. And that's what he was telling him like a fortune. You know, when I disagree when I am ungrateful and I complain when when I must focus on loss.

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So always try and um, if you've heard me many times saying this, we will not change unless we will come to that we will not change we will not find obedience to Allah subhanaw taala easy.

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The struggle inside us which we all have this struggle Subhanallah who doesn't have the struggle, it becomes much easier. When my affairs, my heart, my thought is all collected on him. Those of you who have studied or studying with us, especially those online with a year of knowledge, I always say this and I put my hand like this, I say my life and yours. And especially the young people listen to me, I wish I was 13 and 14, when

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someone taught me this, my life probably would have been completely different is this is the circle your circle of life, we've all heard about it. So this is the circle. And this circle is me. And I'm going through this because this is my life. And I have to go. And at the end, I'm gonna go back to him. This circle this line, this slide is nice to be goes through everything that pleases on lunch.

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So the question I always ask, Should I do What should I do? Should I attend? Should I know? Should I travel? Should I get married? Should I have child should have go to this? Call it everything? Never say because I like it?

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And never say because I don't like that's not what Allah? And that's me to always has to be? Is it pleasing to Him? If the answer is yes, and I like it, you're a lucky person on what I'm doing what he loves them. If I don't like it, that's the struggle. But I'm gonna say Allah, is there another thing you like, that's easier on me, but always make this and then you will never get into comfort. Because all your focus will be on him throughout your day and night. And as I shared with you I think last time or the time before, that Allah is not the one who stand for Sudan. We don't know what we have said.

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That and this is unfortunately all of us, myself included is Allah is Who is he Subhana Allah. And the more you look and reflect on his creation, the more you see who is he? So let's come now to the first controversial issue. This is a miscarriage.

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That's probably around maybe 1012 weeks. Because you see this is more Haluk you need to know this word, because that's very important in the bleeding that happens after miscarriage isn't my situation or it is not. The question is always this is it more love more luck mean? You look at this and you say this is a human being yes or no? Yes or no? Yes, because there's a head. You see the eyes. It's probably even bigger. This probably about 14 weeks. You see the arms you see the fingers and you see the umbilical cord. If you open if this was a little bit more open, I could tell you exactly because by 16 weeks you can see if it's a boy or girl

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So this is miscarriage or this is an abortion what is the difference in medicine, the terminology and I'm going to share it with you because I needed to know this, especially if you travel abroad. If you travel abroad, the word is usually abortion mean miscarriage.

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Yes, if you live in you go to Europe, you go to the Middle East. That's why this country is things are different. So you need to be aware. So when if it is abortion, meaning this is exactly termination of pregnancy, by removal, that means what we call it here abortion or expulsion of an embryo that's miscarriage, meaning the woman is pregnant. She lost the baby in our daily terminology. Either she chose to expel it to remove it, or it came out.

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That's the word abortion in this country. The word abortion means the second part, the first part,

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meaning the woman did not. Do the woman choose not to continue with the pregnancy for reasons we're going to come to it. But I needed to know this and it's about 30 to 40% of the pregnancies end up with miscarriage. I'm going to use miscarriage when I mean spontaneous, and I'll use abortion of anatomy is induced, meaning a woman doesn't want the pregnancy. So 30 to 40% 15% of the first time mom, they miscarry. They feel so bad, and it's emotionally it's painful. Absolutely. It's a loss. It's a loss, whether it's six weeks, whether it is 20 weeks, it's a loss. And I always tell the woman if you don't cry, I'm worried because that's not normal. I mean, we lose we lose something we

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cry How about this specially if you have a lot of you know, planning hopes when everything so he when when steps are taken to end the pregnancy in Madison, we call it induced abortion. That's very common in Europe. They don't call it abortion they call the induced abortion, or to pee when I remember it's termination of pregnancy. They unmodified word abortion usually mean induced, in this country, when you read even when you come to Madison in my offices, if they if they say miscarriage, that means she lost it. If they say abortion, that means it is

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a choice. I put this slide for a reason. The first question is going to come to you all what does Islam say about abortion? Who can answer

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yes, I can't hear us louder

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I can't hear you at all. So you may have to take your n95

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that we just lose a request from the online people keep they just want to zoom without

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for instance, abortion I was allowed absolutely safe again. If it's great, or if it's just

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an abortion.

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So what is the answer?

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The answer, I put you a clue here. That's why I put the clue here. Okay.

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You need to be very careful how you answer this question. Because people doesn't know how much you know, you're a Muslim woman you're practicing, they assume you know, and once you answer, it's kind of fucked a lot of people. So please learn it. The first thing you say is this word.

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Life is very sacred in Islam.

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We are not to this and we are not that we are always on Masato they're always in the middle. What does that look at this? This is what Allah subhanaw taala said so what will end

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at the end of Sortland and they actually refer to this as similar to the 10 commandments. For Tolo accrue Mahara Marocco Maliko Come on. Come I will rehearse tell you what has Allah subhanaw taala made prohibited for you?

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What's furbishing mean?

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Or does haram mean?

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I need one first What does haram mean? Nor what's haram mean? Haram is haram but what does it mean? Right? What does it mean?

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Anam

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Nope.

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punishable with October 20%. Right.

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Haram we this is the most common word we put it on our mouth. Right? They use promises. That's what I hear from haram. Everything is haram. Right? Or it's not everything is haram by them. What does it mean?

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Do one person please. So everybody can

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that's forbidden. True that you translated it? What does it mean in Islam? So imagine me, I don't know anything.

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I'm sorry.

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This please inform us puntata that says sin. What is haram? Let's try it.

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If I do it, I am going to be punished. And how about if I don't do it?

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I'll be rewarded. Don't forget that part. On our Hamdulillah.

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So if I do it, I am going to be punished. So don't always look at the hard to haram who know everything, you know, no, there is balance. If I do it, I am going to be punished. If I am not meaning I have the option. I can do it. But I said no, this is haram. Allah says don't do it. I'll be rewarded.

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Because I am leaving something for the sake of Allah.

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So here you go. So what is it your Allah? And he said, Are you number one latricia Kobe Isha, don't associate anything with ALLAH, you all know that time and a half the youth are not very young, he'll be good to your parents, the good to your parents, he actually this is the only thing in the Quran that he made it equal to his worship. Wow. So now number one is don't worship anything with ALLAH go to your parents, third kill, but he divided here. Number one, don't kill your children, because you are worried that they you don't have enough money. And this is what do not take a life which Allah had made sacred. This is the word I need you all to memorize. You know what's sacred, and mercy that

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haram? Like monka? Like,

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what else is the sanctity? Something is sanctioned, like sanctuary is something that is holy. So the life in Islam is Allah says, let's see how normal long elaborate. There is reasons why I stand allowed killing, but in general, it is sacred. So this first question, the first answer when someone comes to you and tells you, what does Islam say about abortion? Don't cut jump and say It's haram because you didn't answer right?

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Or say, oh, it's out loud. You didn't answer right? We are not this. And we are not this. We are Hamdulillah. Now they can see we are in the middle. We are in the middle. So number one, life is very secret, meaning I take the the matter very seriously. You should see me when a woman come to me and says I want to I don't want this pregnancy. You just say say go around. Don't do it. Yeah. Oh, it's okay. No problem. Let's do it. No. You have to really sit down and counsel and find out and what is the issues and why and how far we'll come to it. So this is number one. Now the other which is this is the most probably the famous, the most famous about killing woman with especially girls

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with no reason. And Allah said, This is what Taquile will do that to show you that there isn't being put in it. When the young girl who was buried in the dust was asked why did why I was killed.

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You know who killed his daughter before Islam.

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So you know, and up to he became a Khalifa and they used to see him crying when he read this. You know why it's so? It's so touchy. He said I still remember when I was covering her with dust. She was cleaning my beard and

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what what cruelty Subhan Allah and see what it's done did to them? How Islam changed them. I can't imagine this. They did it. It's usual. Subhan Allah and this is why Allah revealed this. Why are you doing this? Why you're killing a girl just because she's a girl.

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Be them being potted. What did she do? SubhanAllah. Here are sorry, say not not the muscle cells of a Swati salatu salam. This is in Bukhari and Muslim and he said, a woman whom I adore Bella NAS yo Mulcair Matific Dima, first thing is Allah is going to bring us two people together two nations, whatever is what the matters where people were killed,

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were killed. So you know, killing a human being. Unfortunately, again, we are living in a time in a country where shooting is normal. Killing is normal. It's becomes norm. Right? Even even the non Muslims are saying that we became so numb, Oh, it's another shooting. And people are dying. Then children. I mean, 10 years old. You all heard about it last week. So

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Here you go, Abdullah Abdullah. So it says it was very slow to Sudan, the first issue to be judged among people on the Day of Resurrection are those of unlawful pay attention to the word, unlawful bloodshed. So when somebody asks you what is this term say about the first thing you have to mention this, that it is life is sanctuary, it's sacred. In we really look into life, not as anything else, however, and we're going to come to the However, here you go, similar to the current debate in the United States. Regarding the onset of pregnancy

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jurist, scholars have differed about one is abortion, and if abortion is allowed,

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these are the two questions you have to learn. Is it allowed? If the answer is yes, categorically? If the answer is no one is it to them.

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This is what you need. That's why I took you through the creation. So let's let's go and see this Bismillah

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This is the is a very busy slide. This is the Hadith about the creation of the human beings. And I was what is cytoskeleton in this hadith gave timeframe.

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He gave timeframe, I put it for you in red, because this is what I need you to focus on. And this is where scholars differ. Because he said that it is salatu salam, the creation of you, us human is gathered in the form of semen, meaning not for man and woman, the picture I showed you less than one millimeter in the womb of your mother for 14 days to heal. These are the words like 14 days, six weeks, just less than a little because in six weeks, then it became a clinching thing, the Aloka the person that picture I showed you, right? In a similar period. He didn't say another 40 days, he says in in a similar period. Okay, then it became a lump of flesh mobile, the one I showed you like a

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chewing gum

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like that same? Is it 14 days, another 14 days, or it's all in 14 days? Then Allah Now the question comes in what you all need to learn, because now the angel come in a breath the life into it.

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Once the life of breath into it, now we are coming to the No to the forbidden.

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That's for sure. So here we go. Then on boss and an angel of breath, the life into it. And the angel is commanded to record for things about your provision provision, are you shocking, USA are going to be happy, you're gonna be miserable. But this report I want you to focus on is this. So the scholars differ. And now you know why there is different opinions. Because is this 14 days it's only 140 days. And everything is in 14 days, meaning at the end of 40 days, the angel is going to come meaning by six weeks. Is it going to come?

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After six weeks? I can do it. Or it's 120 days? Because he said the three times are you all with me or I lost you. Clear nor clear. So either 120 I love no so I'm going to really pick on her. No, I'm sorry. I didn't mean that. So we have 120 or only 14 Why you will come to this. Does anybody know why?

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Right? That's fine. Okay, now again, I blocked nosode So this and he's talking about miscarriage. These Hadith are 1400 and something years and he's he says is our workout or not for for Raha when the zygote or the sperm and the eggs comes into the uterus about to become the clingy. Then the angel will ask Allah Europe, BMO halacha or Venmo halacha is it going to live or it's not going to live?

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See when you have your faith in Allah subhanaw taala then you know the miscarriage is from Allah as the baby is from Allah because he asked him

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he said he's going to Malaga is going to change and then there are going to be organs, it's going to be bones and it's going to be muscles and then going to be a human being. And he says, On Aveda, Mohalla Magetta or homodimer if he said it's not going to be created changing miscarriage.

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So hello, otherwise it's going to continue. So this is two options. The miscarriages formula the baby is from Allah the infertility is from Allah. It's all from him. It's not from a human being. Don't blame anybody. It's all from Allah span time.

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So abortion Allah and

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I put backward

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If the pregnancy is more than 120 days, meaning 16 weeks, the answer is absolutely no. With one exception, actually is two exceptions. One is

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mother's life, because now you have two lives. You have the baby life and the mother life. which one comes first? Mother always, always the mother's life comes first. If I can save them both? Absolutely.

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Absolutely. I did a cesarean section on a dead woman.

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Dead.

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opened her on the table, not in the old and literally with nothing, just put a knife got the baby out. Because now the mom life is gone. I need to save the baby.

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So when you put the two lives, mother comes first. So everyone agree. That's why I put for you consensus. This is how you answer.

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Because the next question, what about rape?

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Same thing.

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If there is rape, it's way more lenient. Especially because it's not hard, but it's not her fault. So more than 120 I already have to win, you will save the life. And we have done it. Absolutely, usually don't take the decision yourself. At least three Muslim physicians is as one key one, young, this couple of medical problems. When the woman has heart failure. It's called cardiomyopathy shows die. If she'd continue with the pregnancy shall die. The mortality is 60 to 70%. So that's when you terminate. And you allow it and we do it again. Now you just don't right away have to go through the process. Make sure. So this is one now less than 40 days, I'm taking you through the to six weeks.

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Remember, there is no angel yet. So okay.

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You all have never heard this before. Right? How many of you have heard this before?

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Handy? London, good.

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Okay, so less than 40 days, meaning less than six weeks. The scholars are very lenient in here. Right. Except that Imam Malik he does not allow it. Period. Absolutely. And this is not adequate is at some, it's not like everyone allowed it. But the reason to allow it is very lenient, and it's not like mother's life. Like any emotional, any difficulty, even minor. That's gonna happen to the woman, then you can do it. So some people don't do it. But this is available. So less than 40 less than 14. You need the reason but not a major reason. More than 120 You need a reason, a major reason. Okay, now you come in between, that's the usual problem.

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Which means because by the time she finds out, she's pregnant, she's at least six weeks. I mean, sometimes you get it at five, but most of the time is six plus, that's when you really have to counsel, counsel hours, hours, because the answer is not know categorically. And the answer is not yes. Categorically. The answer is very valid reason including mother life or her well being. well being and again, if you are in my shoes with I have seen sometimes pregnancy can be very detrimental, especially on the mental health. If she has a history of mental health, I can tell you I saw one last week in the hospital he absolute psychosis. We delivered her right away humbler she

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was at the end. So right away we did a C section at one I am

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because she was out of it out of its you know what psychosis, when you are not in this world? You know what you are saying? Subhan Allah and you you look and you say you're a Betta Calhoun, you gave it to me. Then your MO of of Allah

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Subhanallah but she has no control. Absolutely. So here you go. There is reasons mental illness is one of them. medical illness is one of them. Of course congenital anomalies. If the baby is abnormal, and the abnormality is not life sustainable meaning it's the baby will die then you're fine. You can also do that if he is can be can live like I had a friend of mine. She and her husband mashallah Tabata Cola, but she was three of normal children

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and this is the fourth

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it's not easy I mean, unless you go through this difficulty so you really when you talk to people you really have to feel them you don't think just the document it's around don't do it you're gonna go to Johanna or you will go and do that you really have to key that's why I told you case by case listen and see it and the best thing for

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All of you sitting here since you are neither in the medical field nor you anybody in the medical field here

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physician

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midwife okay so you're close hamdulillah and you are both mashallah so you you see this but you don't see it as much as we see it in our office because this doesn't come to labor and delivery usually they will not. But you probably have seen cases where you said I don't know why she is pregnant. Why did she do this to herself? Now one thing you all have to know abortion should never be a method of contraception

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never.

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It's you know what, I don't want to use spill I don't want to use this and then I get pregnant and I go on, you can do that. So again, this is where is the gray zone as we call it, and every case is by its case, this is I love this again, it's beautiful recital but this is a solid Assura end of solar to shore up to Allah belongs heavens and earth he create what He wills right and now gives girls and gives to whom He was

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boys and then

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for you give you both

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of us a wiggle room the crowd what nothing or none.

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Did you didn't what is the word in this verse? That should have caught your eyes?

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Okay, I'll do it to you.

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I'll do it to you again. It's okay. Okay, because I need you and this is also it's not not only medical but it's also about Quran what's catch your eyes on this one

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say that again.

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Right

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if you're close there is one little bit stronger

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it's a favor for sure. But manual wha hub

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that's what it is. Why do I because again, why do I have only boys? Why do I have only goes why don't I have children? How do you this is a huge problem. I'm seeing it these days. Huge.

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Not having children is not the end of the world. You know what I have woman really good, so depressed and sad.

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And I say are you better than say to Asia?

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Right. The youngest wife, the most beautiful wife, the one he really loved the daughter of Cena luda come in a mother and give her children that make her less. I'm not saying children are not beautiful. They're beautiful. Subhanallah and Marie will be newsy and to have the dunya wealth and children is the beauty of this life. But when he decided that's why I told you what is the word in this area? Where Jehan OMA Yasha are our team and who he wills decide they will not have children. What should be my response?

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Alhamdulillah What about if I'm so sad? I've seen it. I've seen if I get emails always like your ally make it easier for this one. What do you say?

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Ask him to make you feel better and accept his degree. Because you have not note you cannot change it can change it. Hollis. Then I saw 19 years old. This is the youngest I have seen. Absolutely. She can not have children.

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Less than one year married. Beauty Queen. And Marsha a lot of auricula practicing.

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And she came with her husband I married. We were married a year ago and no children. And we tested her No way. And this is how I say I never say no way. I say listen by this and say No way. But Allah Allah,

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Allah escapable. Or if you're asking my opinion, I said go and start thinking of adoption.

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is hard. But if I That's why I keep reminding you live through Allah's pantalla because that's how I can pass through these difficulty. He decided why we should all ask what is the answer? Someone tells you why me We hear this all the time. Why me?

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What do you say?

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Have you had this question?

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Right. What do you say? It's very hard. By the way, you really need to be compassionate in hearing. But how do you be compassionate at the same time? You are realistic? What do you say?

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Huh?

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Have you mapped out a whole lot, which is true. So the always good is what Allah chooses. That's true. Whatever.

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Exactly. I was like, This is what I tell them, especially women, because motherhood is something right? And I said, Listen, do you believe I was just

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doing believe ALLAH has just shown me hands? Right? We have no doubt Aladdin, that's who he is. There is justice in there. I don't see it, you don't see it. But I come from this. Maybe he wants to use you somewhere else, that if you have children, you will not be able to do it.

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And I always bring say the Aisha example, because she was the only one who's Fatima? Who is this color from among all the wives of Roswaal risotto. Sarah, why is that? Why is that?

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And Allah did not give her children say the Hadith are much older. You all know the see

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the 40 something and she delivered all his babies. Isn't that Subhanak

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Subhan Allah, but he didn't make her 40 But made to say dilation. So this is what I want you all this is why I'm repeating this Yeah, her boo, yah, Boots him, it is him who decide what he wants to do.

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So now, infertility, huge issue.

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It's becoming more and more and more and more of an issue. Not like before, one of the reasons is because women are getting married later.

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And as we get older, the fertility gets less. That's how Allah created us. So what is IVF? I get this very common question. Is it Helen Bismillah? The CFO Aha, if you heard that's

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the scholars in this room, huh?

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It's either yes. No, or I don't know.

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I'm sorry.

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So now she's becoming very wise.

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And and setting the politically correct answer. In certain cases, there is a better answer for the IDF.

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I'm sorry.

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Like, so you aren't going to put it for you. So usually, the answer is, in general, it is allowed. It's not like a miscarriage. In general. It is Helen and what is halal mean? Don't tell me it's allowed. I know that are permissible. I know that. What does Halon mean? Opposite haram.

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If I do it, I'm rewarded. And if I don't do it, I am punished. Right? Or actually, if you say hello, yeah, it's usually it's the watch. That's how you do fine. So this is IVF. What is IVF?

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Okay, thank you. So here you go. Process of fertilization. Remember the first slides when we said we need the sperm and he gets in and all these millions out? One sperm gets in? Remember that slide? I hope you do. Yes. So it's the same idea. The same idea. They have the egg, but the egg, they take it out from the woman's body. Normally it's inside. Right there is a marital relationship, the sperm gets in, and then they swim up, up, up up, they need the egg, they need an fertilization. While that doesn't happen inside. So they said let's do it outside. And that's what they did. And it's usually in a glass or in a tube. That's why they originally they used to call it testitude. Baby. Right and

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the process involves a lot of it's a cumbersome process and is very expensive. Does anybody knows how much it cost?

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Between 1015 20 So a lot of money and cash is not covered by insurance companies. So it's a lot of money. That's one of the anxieties and that's one of the things you have to feel with the with the couple who don't can not have children because it's also very expensive, like removing an egg or eggs. usually more than one from the ovary and sperm fertilize them cultural media in the lab after the fertilized egg is called zygote embryo culture for two to six days. It was a keep it outside for two to six days they put it back and then you hopefully you will get into a successful pregnancy that's basically what it is. As soon as simple way looking at it you have this as the egg This is

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usually done sometimes in the office sometimes in the operating room. If it's a long needle under ultrasound you look at the usually have given already medication stimulate the eggs they get big, big, big and usually aspirated we call the egg aspiration, the bigger ones and then we put them the tube the tell the husband gives a sperm they usually

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treated to make the more fertile they combine them by Allah will for most pantalla allowed. Then she gets pregnant. That's IVF Who is this?

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The first IVF baby Louise Brown 78 the first one. This is the two they started the process in 1968 77 she was born. So they look at patient look at patient to get success doesn't come in a day or night. From 68 They start throwing and 619 77 where she was delivered. This is actually in Britain. Mary Louise and I actually looked at that I found her picture. She's married. She has children now, but she has her own children Subhanallah and July 2519 87 Louise Joy Brown. I was like she was delivered in 1987 Pamela is born at Oldham district general hospital in Manchester, New England, two parents Leslie and Peter Brown. The healthy baby was delivered by shortly after

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midnight by C section and she weighs five pounds 12 ounces. This changed the world.

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There's few things in medicine that change the world. This is one of them.

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This gave hope to millions made million mandalas woman by the Grace of Allah, mothers and

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fathers with no children because not only the woman sometimes it's male factor we call is the father has the issue and made fathers who cannot have children Subhanallah able to do that

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is allowed

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I guess I guess can do that. I guess doesn't work. It's not like I do like it I guess Okay, here we go. Okay.

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All I put it in bold and I underlined it. So you all can all assisted reproductive technology are permitted in Islam, if the F is the big one, if the semen and the egg and the incubator are all legally married, and pay attention to this during the span of their marriage.

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Why is this?

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Who can figure that out?

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Let's read it one more time. All assisted reproductive technologies are permitted in Islam. If the semen meaning coming from the the man, the egg or the ovum source and incubator, where it is going to go back come from the legally married husband and wife during the span of their marriage harder. This is the right answer. I need sperm from the husband, egg from the mother. The uterus is the mother they are still married.

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So you why because these days, what's happening is which we're going to come to it later. But so you all can follow me these days because it's costly, and there's hormones and everything. So they don't get one egg or one zygote, they get at least four or five. And they freeze they use one or two, maximum two, especially in this country, and they freeze the rest. Sometimes you get 10 of them. So you freeze the rest. The rest are embryos human beings, husband and wife. Geez. So if they get divorce, the woman cannot go and take it back.

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Because he's not her husband anymore. See how detail is this? How detail is this? Because if she delivers a boy, that boy is not harmful anymore.

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Because she divorced the husband.

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So this is why it's at the span of their marriage. According to Islam, and as a woman, infertility should be accepted. If it is beyond the cure. I'll come to it later. I'll explain what I said. Okay, but let's finish and then we'll talk about assisted reproduction was widely accepted after procedures scientific religious bodies they met in the 80s this is not new, because there is bone was born in 1978. And the 80s they stopped meeting and says okay, what we're going to do, everybody is asking issued guidelines, which were accepted by in different Muslim countries, and I'll show it to you. This is

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the guidelines include for tour from Donald Trump in Cairo 1984 to a from the stomach Council in Makkah 1984 The standard organization of Medical Sciences in Kuwait 1983 the fatwa for international standard Academy in 1986, and the International Islamic Center for Population study

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In research, and as a university, this is widely accepted. There's nobody is going to come and tell you IVF is haram if it's met this

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so I can say yes, categorically I can say no categorically. Well, what do you mean? What is the coming from? Where is the sperm coming from? who's carrying the baby organ? Are they still married? And you're fine. I can go on and say It's haram or it is alone. Okay, who knows? What is this?

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Other than people who are physician? Yes.

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Yeah, so go see, I was it was a picture, but I just found it a little bit.

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They put a woman pregnant and under a disk set there. And

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yeah, and I found it very weird, runt, because basically that's what they do they run the uterus, but I found it little bits. Yeah, but it is not. I just found it. Not something I want to read. Let's put it this way. Because this is usually speed.

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This is speed.

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Right? Who's going to carry my baby and also especially if any you want surrogacy? You want the woman to be young and healthy. So should you make sure that you pay her?

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So what does this come say about that?

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I need to hear one word Matthew that there is no other word.

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It is not allowed. Absolutely. Period. No excuse. No excuse. Why is that?

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Because this is what is it's an arrangement woman the surrogate agrees to carry and give birth to a child on behalf of another person or couple. Now we are seeing this more and more.

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Unfortunately,

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that's why they put person or a couple the intended parents so she is not she has no rights.

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I found it so hard.

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Subhanallah but why what is wrong with it? As we everything in these days? Like why not?

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Right. everything these days? Like why not? What is the big deal?

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No, no, it's nothing to do with a damage or emotional.

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Yeah, but that of course, that's what he's saying. The uterus is not the man. Why it is not alone.

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One person one yes.

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I can't hear you have you with you.

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Exactly. Because of the genes after Otto and Sam. That's what it is. This is what Allah subhanaw taala said in Surah tool mudra why Alladhina Inga here in the community say Martin Martin, in Omaha tone il Allah II with

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their mothers are the one who delivered them but not surrogate, their mothers, their mothers because of the mix of GS Islam. You need to know this. And you have to say this. Again, nice way, but that's how it is. It's extremely important. Who is the father who's the mother? It's not like these days, you don't know who is what. And I feel awful and sad when the genes gets mixed up. Then at one point, the mother the brother will marry the sister with a mother who will marry the son SubhanAllah. Because you don't know. And this is why I'm going to come to something else very soon. Also, another question comes in. But this is what it is. It is not allowed at all, in Islam

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categorically. No exception mafia at all. Then this if any man if any men among you divorce their wives by in the hall, meaning he tells the life you are like my mother. You're not going to be my wife anymore. But he doesn't divorce her. This is the woman who came to complain to her Swati Santosa and you told me there is no woman's rights in Islam. You know the story. Everybody handled our brand, right. So the calling the mothers they cannot be their mothers. Their mothers are the mothers who carry them not surrogate with the eggs is Herzl. So you cannot do that. What about this? You know what this? What is this?

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Anybody nuts? Enough people on medical field?

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I can't hear you somebody just saying

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freezing cryo preservation, freezing to maintain or to hold freezing. What? That's the question. Don't jump to questions right away. Wait, wait, wait.

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Freezing storage gamete zygote pre embryos and these days add to it. Spot

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I'm an ex.

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You can freeze the egg you can freeze the sperm you can freeze the zygote or the pre embryo patient who have been diagnosed This is very common. And this is absolutely an option. For patients who have been diagnosed as having a disease where treatment from the disease may result in infertility, where is that and you give them chemotherapy or radiation done, the ovaries will die and the test is all done. So there will be no more fertility. So before we start the treatment, can you take the eggs? And can you take some of the sperms of some of the eggs? Different people and a woman even if she's not married? That's question I get it all the time. The woman is not married, but now she's

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diagnosed with ovarian cancer and now they're gonna go ahead and do we will do surgery and remove the ovaries and everything will take the x and you can preserve or if the minor testicular carcinoma Neoplan radiation, you do this cryopreservation or freezing techniques are able to store pre embryo after a few years, which can be thought and returned to the uterus AHA of the same woman.

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Same question, same principle, you bring it back what is happening these days.

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It's called egg donation. And sperm donation does not allow it whatsoever.

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Because of the same principle, because once you take the egg or the sperm from none of the parents, then the genes are mixed. So this woman who donated Think of it this way, this woman donated her iPad, right at age 20. And there's a lot of money for that. 20 and 30,000. There's a profile, you will fill it. I can't tell you. I mean, this is our job. And I see. And then the woman donated her egg. And that couple got pregnant, the woman got pregnant and they delivered the baby and that baby is avoiding this 20 years old finished quality. So usually young college girls, they do it because it's it's a lot of money. Then this young girl got married and have a baby and other girl. This girl

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is the sister of that boy, if they met in college and got together this is man and a woman their brothers and sisters.

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Did you get it? That's the whole idea. That's why it is not allowed at all. And egg freezing known as oocyte cryopreservation, harvesting a woman's eggs and freezing them so she can attempt pregnancy. The other reason we are seeing this is one woman is not getting 3738 and 39. And she's worried she's not getting married. Should I go and do a crease. And maybe later on if I see if I meet a man I can my chances of him early 40s My chances of getting pregnant is higher. It's also tricky is allowed if she's going to be married to this man, you can do that. So at a later date through an IVF having the option to freeze eggs can be valuable life changing for one some of the

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woman so yes, it's allowed cryopreservation allowed. But scholars have cautioned that the frozen embryos are the exclusive same story property of couples who produce the gamete. Think of the GS that's extremely important and may be transferred only to the same wife in successive cycle restrictively during the duration of the marriage contract.

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So go back to the same wife to the same woman and during the marriage contract. What do we want in life?

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I love this picture. Not only because she's so beautiful Subhanallah but three Underhill.

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It is easier to build to build strong children than to repair broken broken adults.

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And this is what we are living this day and age. Yanni Subhanallah Tabata kala horombo Allah me what a beauty

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I have a habit of whenever I see a beautiful picture, I just save it. And I was like one day I'm going to do presentation argues And subhanAllah this morning, I just found that like this is it. So when you and I'm not talking about infertility, when you take care of your children, don't break them when they are young. Because it's very hard when they get older.

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It's very hard.

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And then the last but not the least. I love this verse. All you all believe, obey Allah and His Rasul and Esau to Sudan and those who have authority over you, and if you defer, go back to the I say, go back to the source photo, do turn it back. Look into what the law says your life

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So, if you are in believers in Allah on the Day of Judgment, don't follow what everyone is saying just because that's how it is done in this country or that country or this age or date. What did he say?

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He said, Okay, from the law, he said, No, you cannot do it your life. It's very difficult make it easy for me. But don't just do it. Because everyone else is doing it. European just akmola Ohioans panic Allahumma will be handing a shadow like their heartland, a stockbroker to bootleg solo on so you know, hammered by the IV. He was hardly testing and cathedra. Any question? Yes. Well, I'll leave your city. And can you do me a favor and turn? Turn the camera? Because the people online can see me?

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Yes. Can everyone say their name? So I know them?

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Hello? Terrible. Yeah.

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I'm sorry.

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If four years you can do but it's?

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I don't know. I think you can.

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For five, I had the patient more than five. But usually if you're if you're freezing the embryo in general, the longer they are frozen, the effectiveness gets less but still the user?

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Yes, yes.

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And your name on feed?

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Yeah, Auntie these days don't even talk about these days. These days were long lead I level. I will lie. I'm not laughing. But it's true. It's true. You know what I say? I say if my mom she died that I was very young. If she was pantalla decide to bring her back. I don't think she wants to live anymore. Especially I would say let's see. Because this is young we are things is changing so quickly and rapidly. That's me so hard to know it and I always say Allah, may Allah help all the young generation

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is so confusing. So a lot of you don't know who's right, who is wrong. Everyone say I'm right. Anyone can go on the internet on Tik Tok and say whatever they want to say, and people will follow them. Subhan Allah, so it's very hard. SubhanAllah? Yes.

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I'm sorry, if you do one.

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Yes. So if you do IVF and go through the process?

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What's usually you do is you throw it away? That's a very good question.

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No, because you cannot your word, you can't give it to anybody. So you did the IVF. And you're brand new, just three cycles, and the three times were successful, you gotta or you got twins, what hamdulillah and then I still have more frozen. And that's very common, right? And we cannot donate it. We cannot give it to anybody. This usually you have to get rid of it. So usually, you know, whatever they give you bury it just because it's a creation of Allah. But people who doesn't people donate him. I have a friend non Muslim. That's exactly how she got pregnant. Her friend gave her recycle.

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Yeah, subhanAllah this is their this. You see this all? It's reality. So I have a job offer that implies working on a project. This is a question from the internet. So what if I freeze embryos and then decided to toss them because they were not good embryo and do not want to have more children? That's what I just answered. So let's see this. I have a job offer, why it's not sure. Okay, Hamden. I have a job offer that implies working on a project promoting the use of modern family planning in developing non Muslim countries including definitive contraception, is it permissible to accept and Modern Family Planning is working towards tablets IUDs

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male and female condoms and then including tubal ligation over secondary in Islam are the four first four and of course, Eliza are the quotes, coitus interruptus or outside ejaculation these are all allowed. The permanent procedures are not allowed in Islam unless you're saving the life of the woman. So I cannot do I personally don't do it. Don't do tubal ligation, and you don't do

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it for the men who don't do it, but the other physicians do them urologist is vasectomy. So, the job offer is then you can ask them I will do everything but I am not going to be involved in tubal ligation. And if they allow you They allow you and from my my work, I have seen people are open to this and they respect your religious

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requirements or the boundaries if I want to say to you, can you please let's say Okay, I will give one more so to give a visa if surrogacy has already been done. This is from South Africa because I know the lady

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The parents had the child, the mother, pay attention. This is so confused. So you have a surrogacy done. They have a child, the mother, her brother's wife carried the baby. How do you handle the situation?

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So you have two brothers.

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Okay, this is how you analyze it. So you have two brothers, wife and a wife.

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The wife carried the pregnancy of this couple, allowed or not? Absolutely not. It's like the brother married her.

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Cannot can a brother marry his sister in law?

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Especially they're still married.

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The baby is already born, the holder who will take lavender? I have no idea this needs Absolutely. But I mean, this is all for all of us. Before you do things, please ask. Now you have a child

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SubhanAllah. What if you are not married? And this is very common question. I get this almost, I would say very, very frequent. We have from the law nine more minutes. Now we have 14 moments. What if you are not married and want to freeze your eggs till you get married? Is it allowed? The answer is yes, absolutely. We have no problem with that. Like, let's see this one too, just to give them their rights. Also, what have you I did that let's say this Can Can Can an engaged couple engaged couple freeze embryos if their intention is to get married in the near future? Or does the couple need to get married first before they freeze the embryo? Very number one there is no embryo.

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Because you cannot get the embryo what is under your

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egg and a sperm. You can't do that unless they are married or they are engaged. So I'm assuming she said to freeze the egg and freeze the sperm?

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That's a tricky question.

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If they are talking about embryo The answer is no. Because they're not married. That's Xena. That's relationship outside marriage. If they are talking that the couple she will freeze her eggs and he will freeze his sperm yes or no? Absolutely. Because they can use it later on as they wish. Okay. My question is completely the opposite. Can I remove IE? Can I remove my ovaries? Because to prevent recurrence of breast cancer or ovarian cancer?

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It's a very common question. It's one of the treatments especially May Allah protect you all the woman gets

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breast cancer young or she has a very high risk. BRCA one the antigens that he has, he has a very high risk of

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cancers. One of the options is to remove the ovaries if the benefits outweigh the risk. And this is something nobody can say except you have to go and talk. I always say go to talk to Muslim physicians, because they can give you the tool. There's not one and it depends what your risk is. It's very high risk. How old are you? Because this once you remove the ovaries, that's it. No more. No more children at all. So Can she what I will recommend if she is a very high risk, what do you do?

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Yeah, freeze your eggs and then remove the ovaries because the ovary is not about the eggs. The ovary is about the hormones. So freeze the eggs. Now that's one of the scenarios. Let's assume she's 20 to 23 Subhanallah remove the eggs, freeze it and then take away your ovaries if that's what they say. And then the rest will be IVF and then just like what are usually done with IBM play

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let's see this one

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okay, it's an icon. She's an OB GYN training, wants to specialize in productive medicine and fertility. Am I Islamically allowed to do IVF as a doctor on non Muslim couples who are not married? That's very tricky.

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It's very tricky. Don't say no right away. Don't say no later when you really need to read the question. See what she said. She said she's a training in OB GYN she wants to do IVF reproductive endocrinology. Am I Islamically allowed to do IVF as a doctor on a non Muslim patient

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Now you have to look at this is not for a Muslim absolutely no, this is a non Muslim patient who are not married

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this is what we face every single day in my in my career

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what category this falls in this is how you look at questions. So when I or she is helping an unmarried couple to get pregnant, what can non Muslims the laws of Islam doesn't apply on them? What category this falls into

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least

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I have to explain this because the question you don't know what I'm saying. So in Islam, there's five or let's say three the three categories in the Hadith and Halloween permissible things are permissible very clear. What haram the forbidden is very clear in between. There is doubt for my BA he didn't say gray make he said much Albia wished he said that it is making because I know so it's with a shabby it's doubtful, meaning they don't fall into for sure they are allowed and they don't fall for sure they are not allowed. They are dubbed for I don't know what did he tell me to do?

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The hadith that's okay, I'll teach you that's why I'm here. For many Takashi bohat for her disturb Rollatini widely, whomsoever, stay away from the data.

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You have saved your deen your religion, and you have saved your honor.

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So my advice to this woman, and again, it's not I'm not gonna say haram, because I don't have a proof to say this is non Muslims. I can say non Muslims can drink alcohol. I can't. But I can say to the Muslims, for sure. So I will say if this is me, and I don't say what you do, say this is me. I will stay away from it, because it's in the Delta.

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But what a beautiful what does this question tells you?

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What does this woman this young woman she's a resident. But as this woman has Taqwa as our turquoise, because she loves it, it's beautiful. It's very nice. It's easy actually for a woman because it's easier life than other branches of OB GYN. Subhan. Allah may Allah make it easy for you. Yeah, Zara. I have

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I can do this one line. I'll answer this privately for you. That's okay. Any any question? Yeah. Let me make it. My question that I answered this. Go ahead. Yeah, me.

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Personally,

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I think it's easy to understand why you can

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couple that's not married anymore. I do not understand that when you said the childhood.

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How serious?

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I'm thinking they said they have to be married. They have to be married. Why?

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Because who is the father of the baby? Legally Islamically.

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Know the muscle. I think I made a mistake. I think when I have to check it, but I have to make but I'm talking about the I didn't say what No, we don't say that doesn't make sense. I have to look it up. There is a reason I arrived. It is not coming to me. But why is not allowed although they were married? Because they are not married anymore. Who is the father of this baby?

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Who's gonna take care of this baby?

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Yeah, second second question. Why? I was curious what was the reason

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was unique in saying no. Because he said and this is actually not only him, this contemporary scholars who tells you even because if you leave this after 40 days, it will become unique.

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So he didn't allow it. And some of them you have to know the some of the rulings that come from the Imams is they call it subdue the RIAA that you close the possibility of worse scenarios. But again, he was the only one the three allowed it, but not all of them allowed some of it

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the morning after pill for us is okay, because they are not yet. Again, it's not IUD, it's prevent the meeting of the eggs clear that you know what the morning after pill. Okay. I have to explain like

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Okay, so this is a question we have six more than 100 Can you please because we didn't You didn't hear the Quran? Can you please give Islamic cure of PCOD PCOS Islamic cure? It's a very common problem these days. Please help. It's a very common problem. Right? Especially as you said it's done a cure. What is the first answer?

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A dua Absolutely. Absolutely. Do have a rope in Quran because you said Islamic right and then every case by case I have to know the case. I can't give answers on the

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only medicine online but in general, it's it. There is a lot of options of treatment. It means a lot of patient and Allah's path. I don't know. But I always tell my patients Allah will never let you down and just Just be patient, be patient don't say I have to, I have to.

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What is the freezing?

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We have answered this time that

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every answer that

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you get, see.

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I can't, I'm not gonna give medical fatwas online. It's okay, we have done that.

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We don't ask people out can I take this medication or not?

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Even physicians, we don't know you.

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Okay, we answered that. I think I answered all the questions. And Rita there's any question put it on on the screen. Okay. Any other question from they also have here this Mala?

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I can't hear you

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because the implant is the same thing implant is the one under the skin is the same as the hormonal IUD same as the mini pill any How do you know in general, if something is allowed, what does number one what does it have? It has hormones is it harming to the woman? No then you're allowed if these are harmful to the woman's not allowed. That number number two, what is doesn't do so what does it do to prevent ovulation or prevent the meeting of the sperm and the egg?

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Yes, I'll come to you

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so there's a couple they frozen embryos.

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Pamela

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same I sent him what we said.

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Yeah, so she cannot the husband died. Right? And the baby died Subhan Allah, may Allah make it easy for her. But she cannot go back and take her eggs. I mean, the zygote eggs Yes, but not the zygote

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or the embryo?

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Cannot the second wife cannot? Because that's usually another question. And you it was actually in the fetch world so. So the man is married to two wives,

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two wives, right? The remember the genes comes half from the mother half from the Father. So if she they got together the eggs and the sperm from this, and then surrogacy is the other wife, why it is not allowed?

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You have to think of it because it's genes, then when scholars tells you this is not about now. It's usually related to their children.

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So therefore, the brother, the brother of the other wife,

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the brother of the other wife, what is the relationship of that brother to the girl who's going to be delivered?

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So a man is married to two wives. It's really complicated, but I'm glad you asked. This. This is how you start to think so a man married to two wives. It happens outside this country. Right? So they got pregnant. They got the eggs and the sperm and put it in this woman's the second way the brother of this wife, what is the relationship to the baby girl that's going to be delivered? Her uncle

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hit her Mahara right. So now you made what you made you made things so

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his son his son can can or hurt his daughter and to this to the to this it's very complicated. I even me I have to think and usually I write this down, but it's very complicated. And usually then the he ends be

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the service is guest we have only one minute left. Yes. Because I promised them by 45 We will be leaving.

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I'm sorry. Couple is married.

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And the wife gets pregnant.

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The husband forced her to abortion.

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Yeah, that's that's a tough one. That's a tough one.

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If she

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He had no choice Yanni is called Komatsu. She will be like the the one woman who have been raped right but can any This is very difficult and it's individual cases right but she you have to talk I really have no other choice to support someone someone talks to him someone talk to her leave him go to any she really doesn't want it leave her go and stay with your any with your parents but again, could be the only woman nothing else. I mean there is a lot of sad scenarios there. So it's per case, but it's very, very sad is that Kamala Harris for 45 Spanish Hola Hola. Hola. Handicare shadow.

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