Friday Night Etiquettes Class – November 19, 2021

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You

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were seven categories of people that will be under the shade one of them is a person whose heart is attached

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he's a good friend of mine don't think I'm like being rude

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I'm just

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testing one two if this works

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I had to vacuum the microphone off

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whoever gave me this gift just come along. And we'll be sure you did all tonight

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you want

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to ask your parents permission first they need to sign the waiver forms because you know, that's the type of world we live in now.

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So this is what I'm gonna do.

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Was he was

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a Marine, I think he

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should have the slavery re assembly and the

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pony, my brothers, my sisters as soon as they come to one of our capital

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you guys.

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Time you know, we don't know what to do anymore. We're scared if we speak too loud. And

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so it's nice. It's nice and happy to finally see, you know, a large number of people, especially the children in particular, I know that this was something we always cherished. You know, one of the brothers before was asking you out a lot of people here. And how many people did we used to get before COVID? You remember everybody?

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Know?

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To get about 600 people, at least every Friday night, we need to reach 600 and then pass that, okay? Because we like waiting so long to have a program. So we need to have more and more people come and talk about data. But slowly, right? In Islam, we'll start to do things slowly and steadily so that we can achieve something great.

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So here's what I want to do. Because today's the first day there's a few things that I want to focus on. First of all,

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it's normal to hear a baby or a child crying in the masjid.

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It's normal know, we're just not used to it anymore.

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It's been a long time, especially I know the brothers that come regularly. We're not used to seeing a child running around.

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Sometimes musos running around.

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You're not.

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Sometimes Musa is here and he's running around. And it's like, wow, there's a kid in the masjid. Right.

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And so it's kind of like it's nice. And that's the way it was during the time of the prophets and

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the children that would come and be part of the community. Right? The Prophet sallallahu Sallam sometimes was praying and his grandchildren.

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They would come and they would run around him and sometimes he would bend down and pick them up and hold them while He was praying. Right? Your parents ever do that to you anymore?

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Or you're the you're the mom so you pick him up.

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So that's something that would take place during the time of the Prophet Salaam. I think

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Southern which means we need to learn to develop a little bit more patience and understanding, right patience and understanding. And it'll take time.

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So, who remembers what the last thing was that we studied?

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Was what I used to start with very who remembers you remember, the last thing we studied here in person? What was it?

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I can't hear you and I can't read your lips. Now every man and every woman is written and

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I can't tell what you're saying. Before there would be like four sisters writing involved, and I couldn't read your lips and I can't hear Sister, sister. Now it's like, I can't hear you.

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Sleeping. Well, that was last week. You're right. But I'm talking about I'll give you something for your effort. This is this for you. Right hopefully doesn't hit anybody.

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Aerodynamics on the kitchen counter is no good.

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But what was the last thing we studied last year?

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Right before we spoke about

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sort of maybe you could be right. It could be right. Yes. Nuts.

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Profits. No, but you get some Smarties anyways.

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Yeah, the question I'm asking the question to answer the question.

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Well, I remember I have my book sitting on my shelf with about this much dust on it. I want to open it on number word.

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Yes.

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Fasting. Are you sure? Oh, I think so. Because it wasn't born yet. But anyways, we have a lot of Smarties here today. Yes.

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What about

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when he went to the

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to the cave, you're actually close. Not so far away. Yes.

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See, it's good.

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To see the

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scene of the Prophet's life? Not really. But yes.

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Is on what's in Edina? No, but we'll take one more person. Yes.

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The dean.

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Yes.

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Does he know we're doing we just want to hear what?

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You have to come closer. I'm attached to a wire. Yeah. All right.

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All right. So we were learning to see it of the day, we finished the 30th June as we're going through the 29th of June then we studied Surah which remembers sort of

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very good so from our home.

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Someone finally figured it out. We went to a store for working on and then

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someone said some of Allah

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Allah Subhana Allah decided that we were going to be tested.

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And we will be tested really, really hard with this thing called COVID-19 that um, how do we know for the most part

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we survived and we made it how many there were a lot of people got sick, a lot of people got affected. I know some brothers and sisters who got sick as well, how below they recovered, there are some people who you know had a little bit harder

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every single one of us

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but then I decided instead of doing science

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Why is your you're

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doing

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then do the exercise. Alright, so now what I decided to do is to go through this book. Okay. How many of you have been attending the online sessions every Friday night? You know when this be honest, because I know how many of you I get a lot of new email teaching online, this analytics, right? I can tell how many of you are online and I know the names of the people that are online as well. So how many of you raise your hand if you've been attending the Friday night online classes just growing up?

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That's good. That's what I thought less than 10%. At the beginning, it was like 80% 90% of your vintages dropped.

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So I started this book called a coven. It's basically just the etiquettes of the leader. What we as Muslims are supposed to know and what we're supposed to do. For example,

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But when you come into the mud here I'm gonna ask the questions now. When you come into the masjid Yes What do you do when you come in?

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Do you come in and go Asana wherever you go? To War he will not Catholic What's your name

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has entered the Masjid? You know, what do you do? What do

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you say to

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Allah?

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Yeah, um

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know which

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Okay, so when you enter the masjid you pray to God, so to see, part of the elegance of the believer is that we know what to do when we're doing things. Like you enter the Masjid. You don't come in and be like, everybody, I'm here.

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Right? People are busy. You're not really important when they're reading the right people are creating stuff and you come into like, someone

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that's not what we do. Right? We don't bother people.

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Yes, very good. We're getting to that. You want more chocolate?

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Yeah. If I give it to you, I have to give to the ones that asked as well.

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Because

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it's like all about giving more candidates. Who did I asked a question to you. You didn't just speak right. That was you? You

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as you as well, okay. See, the sisters are honest. Right? All the women are honest. All of them have. None of the brothers have been honest.

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Okay, so this is what we did. We started with this book. And now I have a question for you.

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Since the majority of you did not attend the online classes,

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I went through etiquettes of like sitting in gatherings, I went through reading bits of coming to the masjid, I went through etiquettes of being with family and like to the elegance of eating, spoke about food and all that stuff as well. Would you like me to do that over in person?

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Do you want to go through those edits? Or should we just ignore it and pretend like you've been non existent, we should not know

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wants to do it, raise your hands.

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Who does not want to go over it again?

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To people.

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Okay, so this is what we're gonna do for today, we're gonna continue from where we were, okay, the chapter on the etiquettes of going to sleep. But because we're doing it in person, we're going to do it a little bit differently. Okay. And I'll show you how we're going to do it differently in shot lockdown in a few minutes. First of all, at the beginning of every chapter,

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thank you

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I have to teach and keep an eye on my children just like you have to sit down.

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So

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at the beginning of every chapter, we learn about the benefits, or the purpose of why we're learning this. So for example, the chapter on the etiquettes of going to sleep. Allah subhanho wa Taala says

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that from His Signs, He created sleep at night and daytime for us to go into work, go and do something. Does that make sense to you?

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Should we sleep at night and go to work in the daytime? Or should we sleep during the day and go to work at night?

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No wants to sleep during the daytime?

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Okay, let me ask you a question. During the time of COVID in the pandemic, how many of you were sleeping during the daytime? Be honest, everybody except the people that have to go to work. Because everybody was complaining online saying I'm bored. I'm bored. I'm bored. And I was like, How are you so bored, I got work to do your work come into my work.

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Allah subhanaw taala also says in the Quran, and this isn't so much another word you

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must commit to Allah says, and we need your sleep.

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Rest for you. Right we need you sleep so that you can go to you have a time in the day when you can go to sleep and rest. Now let's start with advocates. We always say

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Little bit of example of the importance of this and then we look at the elegance we're gonna start with the advocates of locking your door at night and turning the lights off

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again

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yes

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well, you know people who work night shift they are the exception to the rule.

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I used to work

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I hated it. May Allah have mercy on everyone who works. It's not easy, right? I used to work night shift at UPS. The company that comes and delivers packages at your own. I used to work for them.

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Anyways, okay, so the first etiquette we're looking at is who remembers when the first etiquette is? What what's the first attribute that we're learning? Not us. Chocolate your dad's gonna go to the dentist.

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Lock your door at night. Very good. Lock your door at night

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and close the lights Alright, so in order to make it a little bit fun

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we need to open the lights

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just don't tell the masjid management that I'm lighting a candle over the carpeted area of the masjid okay

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just don't tell them if they're looking don't look at them you know when you're a kid and your parents

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just don't look at them okay pretend like they don't exist right now

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we have to make it more interesting

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darkness

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yes

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because we're gonna have a flyer

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he's gonna help me

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you're gonna help

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you make a mistake

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put it properly there. There we go.

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We'll get rid of attendees for now. Feel that Allah is watching you. I was watching.

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I was watching. Okay.

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Okay.

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So at night

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when you go to sleep

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it's important to lock your door. So no strangers come inside. So no strangers come in. Did you know

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he was upset when you go to bed at night? Make sure you got his doors. Did you know that? The perfect so long as I'm said when you go to bed at night, make sure you lock your doors. How many of you go and check your door every single night? Not your parents. How many of you will check your door at night? Raise your hand if you do.

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Maybe you should do it

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every night here if you go and check your door at night. You're fulfilling a sunnah of the Prophet saw some of them and you are getting rewards just for checking if the doors locked.

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Then the Prophet SAW also says

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so he says

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but make sure that you close the lights because the lights on then a mouse or a rat or an animal maybe a cat light come in knock the lights over and the house catches on fire.

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But who uses candles to light their house? Use candles? I know none of us use candles anymore?

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Only during a power outage exactly what how many of you have a fireplace in your house?

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Raise your hand if you have a fireplace in your house.

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Prophets Allah

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tells us when you go to bed.

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What should you do?

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Don't be shy. When you go to bed at night. You locked up and you blow up

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How

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She fulfilled or what gave her rewards? Isn't that amazing?

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Here's something to eat. My lights are coming up. There we go.

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So how many of you have a capture attention your eyes?

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I don't want to ask how many of you have a dog?

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Okay, good. Is it possible that the cat would maybe go near the fireplace at night and get hurt? Yeah.

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What if you had one of these in your house and you left it on?

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The cat came and touched it.

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The cat's gonna go crazy. So the profits are longer. I think it was some of them taught us just hands down. If you can't answer the question at the end, okay. He told us to close your doors, the lockdown and turn off your candles or your lamps right now we don't use that anymore. So think of the things in your house like the stove, you have to ensure the stove is off. So these are things that you should do as children. Parents don't have to do it every single day to check into doors rocks, okay. You also want to check make sure the iron is unplugged. You make sure that the fireplace is turned off if there's a switch or whatever, I don't know how your fireplace turns on

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and off digital right some brothers are like check this out on their phone and they're turning on and off the

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technology. So we have to do that as believers okay, but there's more

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What about

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preparing to go to sleep what's the first thing you do when you prepare to go to sleep at night? Wait let me ask someone else yes you in the back of gluey like

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I can't hear you talk louder

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make although Alhamdulillah you're absolutely right that's exactly what we were talking about.

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There you go. She just said

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that's the answer we're looking for right there's gonna be more things

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I know

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you're right the wait let's talk about making a move first. Right when we go to sleep

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so who's gonna show us how to make the

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show we all know how to make Oh, why do we perform what we do before we go to bed

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why do we come up with a baseball cap on

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you're gonna have to speak louder because your neck all this

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protecting

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so you're protected protected from what? From the

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candle or you want to be protected from

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very good

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you will get one afterwards inshallah Okay, so you want to be protected from shake on. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us when one of you goes to sleep at night perform although the moves that you make when you're about to brace on

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how many types of

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raise your hand

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okay

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there's three types

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What's the second type?

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One is this water and the other one is was dirt

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So the first type of wait I know there's more I know right

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what's the other one?

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Here yeah this because you attended my wife a class I taught you guys

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very good. Um, the last thing What if your power lost?

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How do you make

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like intention to make? Right? And so that's an exception. So generally when we look at the types of whoo there's two and then I would say there's like a third one which is the basic type of

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basic type of Moodle then there's the sooner we'll do

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which is just doing the same things three times.

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And then there's

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three which is good, because that's for another day.

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Okay, the next thing the prophets says is when you go to bed at night

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when you go to bed at night, who's going to bed me you're gonna go to bed for us

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going to bed

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so this is almost bed Sorry. It's only big enough for you.

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This zipper

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I bought this for a reason.

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I'm not gonna speak it. I'm just going to sleep

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okay, I'm going to go to sleep. So the purpose of a sudden says,

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when you go to bed at night, he should dust his bedding with the inner extremity of his lower garments, for he does not know what has come into contact with it before he went to bed.

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What are you going to do?

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I'll say it again. The prophets Allah says when any of you goes to bed at night, he shouldn't dust it off with the lower part of his inner garment.

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So why did why is it so hard?

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Like even going to sleep his work as a Muslim, right? It's so hard right?

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Very good. So here, let me show you something. It's not hard. But if you're going to sleep and this is your bed, what are you going to do?

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Okay, so that's your song, you're gonna take your socks off and

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the inner part of our lower garments is our song right? No, see the profits of some of these to where

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you don't want to go for

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what you were to go for

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to cost one of those two plus cold

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towels

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you're not done.

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So you were a he's out every day. So the prophets were like a towel around his waist, right? They always used to wear pants. He didn't have the pants. They did have something called the bean farm. In French. How do you say Anson French

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jello Very good. Where something called a big bond.

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Exactly. It is.

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But the way it was is one leg and then another leg. So the Prophet SAW on his son would take his inner garment

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and he would go like this with it. That's a little hard because I'm worried that he would just brush it off like that.

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So now it's 2021 Right?

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Do we wear a towel around our waist? No. So what is our going to do to clean the bed that's you're going to bed

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He's confused

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what do you do

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know you don't have to use your 2021

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What do you think he has to use

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I heard you say his head or you want to say anything else

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so this is what we do you go to bed at night the son says three times you go back this to your bed

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and then you get in so now I want you to do it but actually want you to get it

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get into bed

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told us

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three times start by saying Bismillah then get into it right and then the Prophet

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says when you're going to sleep lay down on your right side

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home under you're

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not sleeping according to the advice

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not comfortable

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so the prophets

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he used to speak

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sometimes

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but for the most part his bed was on the floor here's a question for the adults how do we know that the bed of the Prophet SAW longer I think it was syllables on the floor there's something you know of the life of the person

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that is an indication to us then the bed of the prophets seven was on the floor who knows what evidence

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okay, but that doesn't tell us that it was on the floor it could have been raised

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How do we know that his bed was on the floor yes

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I can't hear you speak

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on his body

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okay, but still that doesn't tell us that he was on the floor Yes

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Were you watching last week okay good

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Very good. You're the answer

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the profits on a longer walk

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now we're gonna pretend that you're

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sake of an example.

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When the Prophet

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see the adults should have figured this one out. He used to take the legs of Apple showed up.

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And then her legs at the knees to make space for him to pray in his home.

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She used to be sleeping with her legs out

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the house of the prophet for longer and it was so small. There was no other place for them to pray. Now remember this is the house of shadows.

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So he used to take your feet while she was sleeping and move them

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around

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Hear near the wall and praises

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and when he was done

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I would be like

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oh so I think that's all that we're gonna take

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there's a lot more right what we're dealing with basically the part where the province

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advises the Sahaba you go to sleep at night lay on your right side and put your right palm under your cheek or on your teeth you did not use to use like pillows like we use he had some times some branches in the palm trees the big trees that He would climb underneath him sometimes he would put a cloth right because it was material he goes cloths under there and he would use that as a pillow

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learn the things that you were saying

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before going on just a little bit for attending remember wait before you go anywhere before you get up don't get up

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I don't know for sure. But I think there's refreshments on your side for the adults and stuff and also for the children you can ask you to line up so all the boys line up this way and all the girls

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just gonna say to parents just I don't know

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if you are just make sure whatever

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is

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posted I just want to be sure okay

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oh they're all in YouTube.

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Going

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Next, you're gonna get something nice