Muslim Women In Contemporary World
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The importance of education in the Islam of the present day is emphasized, particularly in relation to dress codes and the need for parents to be aware of their children' roles. The speakers stress the importance of educating children in public and private schools, promoting female graduates in higher education, and avoiding close doors with male graduates. The importance of privacy laws and setting boundaries is also emphasized. The speaker emphasizes the need for women to be prepared for difficult situations and to practice Islam in a better way to achieve success in a professional career.AI Generated Transcript ©
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This evenings are this afternoon's topic.
Muslim women in contemporary society
addresses
the current situation
that Muslim women should be engaged in.
However,
we must understand that Islam
covers
all places all times all circumstances.
So the principles which were set by the Quran and the Sunnah of Prophet Mohamed Salah live alive
and the understanding which the early generation of Sahaba and the tambourine time in
generations
their understanding of how a woman wants to function in society that represents our basic guidelines. This is the foundation that we build from.
We don't have modern versions of Islam and ancient versions of Islam, when the last one to either lay down the laws for Muslim society, identifying the roles of each and every member,
he did so, knowing the nature of human beings, how their societies would develop, how people would interact with each other,
along with the technological developments that will take place,
he laid those laws down, knowing all of that.
So, when we look at the
issue of Muslim women in contemporary society today,
we have to look at it
really, from the perspective of Muslim women, in this time of Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu.
How were they?
Were they barred from the masjid?
As in some Western countries,
Muslim women cannot enter masters
like Pakistan and India. Many of the masters are low plays for men.
And
women who try to enter such masters would be physically prevented.
However,
Mohammed so while some of them had clearly instructed his generation laptime, not only Nabu, Nabu, masajid.
don't prevent
your female
members from the mosques.
He did say that there are there always were better for them.
But the basic principle is that they were not to be prevented. And we know from the practice of the women in the time of the prophets,
his wives and the wives of the Sahaba, etc, that they used to regularly go to the masjid, for Salatu fudger Malaysia,
the other prayers which are in the middle of the day,
with when their home needs that need to be fulfilled, etc, and they focused in the homes, but in the early morning, is to go out for the prayer with his doctor also, when you know the chances of being observed and such.
So, the early morning prayer and the night prayers, they commonly attended.
That is just to say that we may find attitudes, cultural practices, etc. Today, which are in fact, foreign to the Islamic body of knowledge to teachings, and we have to be able to distinguish between what is acceptable islamically based on Islamic teachings and what is not. So, that address is primarily education
that Muslim women should be educated. When Prophet Muhammad said followed any Muslim seeking knowledge is compulsory for every Muslim, it meant literally for every Muslim, whether male or female.
Now, the education of Muslim females
begins Of course in the hole
where they should be raised, conscious of who they are conscious of the law. They should be taught for law at the age of seven,
and be spanked for it if they don't establish the prayer by the age of 10.
The job should be introduced early
because when we teach them solide means teaching them how to cover themselves.
Probably because Sala with where the hour is exposed, is not acceptable.
So the issue of
basic requirements for females in terms of education
clearly identifies a responsibility on parents to educate both their female and male members. Unfortunately, in some cultures, education tends to be focused on the males, and the females get whatever they get, by default, or whatever trickles down to them. However, from the Islamic perspective, they should be as educated as the males. And when we look at the role, which is short of the long
term salah and otherwise, the prophets had in teaching Islam to the generation to come out to say that women played a major role in the education of oma in the conveyance of Islam to us today. In fact, I showed Anna was the fourth most prolific narrator of Andes, among any of the companions of the Prophet.
One, actually, there's a book which was written by one of the scholars concerning the mistakes, which are Asia
corrected, which were
prevalent, or which were being done by male and Sahaba.
So she was without a doubt, one of the leading legal scholars of Islam at first generation.
So, as we said, education begins at home.
Female gentlemen need to be aware of their role, I would say that, in terms of dress, which tends to be one of the big issues concerning females, because of the issue of the job and the job being so complete. So, you know, all encompassing, that it is advisable that children
not be raised, wearing, typical Europe, European, American, Western clothes,
wear, these clothes tend to be very tight,
exposing what would be our, in the future, where the children gets used to that kind of dress, it becomes then very difficult later on, to wean them out of it and give them proper dress. So my advice is, from the earliest age do not
get them in that habit. I know people say but they're only children. What does it matter if this is exposed, and this is tight, etc? No, this is not really our Yes, it's true. But the child who gets accustomed to this type of dress, hat will give you all kinds of resistance and difficulty later on. So special care has to be taken to address those issues which are special and unique to females, to ensure that the children, female children are raised properly raised in a way which would facilitate the proper implementation of Islam in the later years.
Furthermore, the issue of education, where we now put our females into education institutions,
I have to stress here that it is critical that most children be educated in Islamic institutions. Of course, those that are here, those that are here, already know this, you are in this institution, and your families have sent you for this purpose. So I'm not trying to convince you but for those of you that are visiting this institution, because of the lecture, etc. I would advise you very strongly to reconsider
Your decision to put your children, especially your female children, mainly, there's no difference between female and male. Since we're focused on the female side of things, putting your female children in government, schools, or private schools, which means in turn, in fact, Christian Schools, this is a major error, which has become prevalent in many parts of Oman.
And people have turned a blind eye to the damage that is taking place.
We have to seriously consider these choices. we as parents,
as Prof. Said, Conan O'Brien couldn't look on my own handwriting, each and every one of you is a shepherd, responsible for his or her flock. And we will be asked, how are we raised our children? How were they educated?
It is the right, a primary right of every Muslim child to be educated
islamically, educated in an Islamic institution, educated by Muslims, this is their primary, right? If we do not fulfill this right, and they go astray, which is the greatest likelihood, then we carry the burden of their citizens,
they will still be accountable. Because still people have to make choices and everybody's accountable for law. But we haven't put them in that situation will carry a great burden of sin can have serious questions to answer
on the Day of Judgment. So I advise you very strongly to reconsider your decision.
The arguments which people use concerning academics, or they will say, for example, that the academics in the Muslim institutions is low, their standard of academics is not competitive, and is lower than that of the private institutions or the government institutions. We have to consider
what do we really want for our children? What is the future that we want for them?
If we only have a choice between Islamic institutions with poor academics, where our child will come out, conscious of his or her Islam, but weak in mathematics, and science, whatever,
or we have a choice of putting that in the other types of institutions where they will come out, we can Islam, maybe their Islam is so confused, they will leave Islam, but they will be excellent in their market academics, they will have top marks and they will be able to get into the top institutions. We have to ask ourselves, if we only have a choice between these two, which one is pleasing to Allah.
I'm sure you will all agree with me that to put our child in an Islamic institution with weak academics is preferable is obligatory
is a requirement on us as long as such an institution is available over putting that child in
a public or government institution, private institution, where there Islam will be challenges from the time they stepped foot in that institution till the time they leave.
So let us not be diluted by the issues of academics. academics, we can make up the child comes through somewhat we can academics, we can get tutors, we can arrange others who can help them, maybe then you lose a year to prepare themselves properly for university, okay, but there is not as attacked. They know they are they know who Allah is.
That is a Muslim.
The other
who has come through confused messed up was going to go on into college. What do you think you can do for them? You think you can now go and teach them Islam at that point, then I'm interested as long as you know for all
People,
it's not relevant to the modern world. So you've lost the soul, you lost your child.
So, let us talk about this, of course, the goal that Islamic education institutions should have to not be purely
high
Islamic standards
and low and accept the idea of low educational standards. This should not be acceptable in any form or state of this affairs, we have an obligation to as educationalists to provide the best and highest standard of academics that we can, our institutions should be known in the country, we should be, we should achieve the top marks, it shouldn't be the Hindu institution is known for producing the top high GCSE results. No, it shouldn't be a Muslim institution known for that. Because we have based on our system,
a system which would provide the maximum support for the student, both islamically as well as academically, they will not have the kind of distractions that the other institutions will have boyfriend, girlfriend, dating, music, all the other things which you know, occupy people's minds and their hearts, etc, confused them, they won't be free from that. So there'll be they'll have more time to apply their energies, you know, positively in educating themselves academically, so we should produce the top academics in the country.
That's the type of institution which of course, you feel is pleasing to a law where it is coupled with high Islamic moral standards. So we shouldn't have both. That's what we should be aiming for. However, the reality is that if we don't have both, then we have to, we have to accept with only one of the two. And we have to settle with the one which is going to guarantee for our children inshallah, a knowledge of the law, fear of law, knowledge of Islam practices, that is the one which must take precedence.
Having said that,
if we look at higher education,
our children graduating from institutions, hopefully,
Islamic institutions,
we should be careful about how we direct them into institutions of higher learning,
especially considering that these institutions are not under our control.
If we see that our daughters, for example, in spite of the best opportunities we have given them to be islamically, educated, their Islam is still a bit weak. They're weak personalities, then we should not, under any circumstance, put them in these non Muslim institutions of higher ed, we should not.
This is a big mistake to do so. The children who put the girls who put in the higher institution are those whose Islam or adapt, we can see they are firmness, they're clear about who they are clear about Islam. In fact, they're even given dialogue to their contemporaries, others, their classmates, etc. These are the people who you may select from them, those will now go on to higher learning. And then we need to choose our profession as well.
We need to look
at the need of the Muslim community, because our graduates from university should come back and serve the Muslim community. It is the Muslim community that has pooled its resources to produce them.
So
having graduated they should understand that they are responsibility to bring their skills, their knowledge, their expertise back to benefit the community, as long as taught kindness and found in us, the best of people are those most beneficial to people. So this issue of benefit
becomes a critical issue when we talk about education.
So our female students should choose fields, which are the critical fields needed for the community. One of the major fields is education. This is one of the major fields
that we have proper, properly train most of the female teachers to come back and teach in these institutions. And my advice is that if we put a female in to gain the knowledge, in focusing on the field of education, we should try to encourage them to go all the way to PHP, not just to do a BA,
many, that's all they will be able to do. But those that are able to go ahead and do a masters of education, PhD in education, we should encourage them to do so why? Because we have to set up alternative institutions. How can we set up Islamic universities, where we are going to teach education from an alternative perspective from an Islamic perspective, if we don't have people who are trying. So we must be thinking ahead, thinking of the future thinking of our development of community, and planning for that planning ahead is very, very important, not just look at the president. So on one hand, yes, we need teachers right now in the president. So some of them will go
through and come and be utilized immediately. But then others should be encouraged to go through and become highly trained educationists who can lead the institutions that we hope to develop, to serve the needs of the Muslim community. So this is one area of education that there are other areas, and I don't need to necessarily go and list each and every area that is available, because there are many, but there are some critical
number one on my critical list of education is medicine, gynecology, that we should have female gynecologist
as I tell the males, the male groups that I speak to us who are looking into education, and choosing their fields, etc. I instruct them in order to be careful about the fields that they choose. And all the fields that I told them, I impermissible for them is to specialize in gynecology. For almost a male to specialize in that field. We say it is not acceptable. Of course to be a doctor means you must have some training in it. So if a need arises, emergency etc. You do what you have to do. But to say that is going to be my profession. I am going to be the top female gynecologist in the world.
But for females,
yes. We encourage the women to master this field become the top top of the line. Female gynecologist. Yes, this is an area which will protect the Muslim community. So husbands fathers, brothers don't have to send their daughters sisters and wives to male gynecologist on the basis on doula. We can't find a female have the cottages so and so on. So we have to send them so we're sending
something which warrant Islamic believes something clearly displeasing to Allah only under emergency circumstances where one has no other choices, this is where one may make that decision. Otherwise, we should be working towards developing alternatives. Similarly, in dentistry, we need to have female dentists because this is a profession which requires very close contact. So the idea that a female would go into a dentist's office, stretch yourself out on this dentist's chair and have the dentist stick his nose in her mouth
may have done this.
So she is put in a very vulnerable circumstance situation, many times she gets abused without even realizing it to say this is not acceptable. So therefore we do need female dentists as we need male mentors we need female focus so that we can develop you know dental surgeries where we have the option of male and female for those patients that are coming in. You know, this is among the major necessities so some of our doctors need to be directed channeled into these areas and above the areas for example,
I would not advise women to be involved in that some of these may be very specific, but in general, for example, a civil engineering. Now, the society does need civil engineers. But this is mainly a male field, it's dominated by men. If a woman becomes a civil engineer, she is going to be surrounded by mentioned, we're going to be dealing with men top to bottom, she's not to be harassed, she will be harassed, she will not be able to function effectively in those circumstances. We know harassment is a norm in western circumstances, where people are free, and they can mix with each other all they want, etc, etc. Yet women, whatever the profession they go into, if it is a male
dominated profession, then they get harassed. many books have been written on the harassment job in the West.
Even if they go into the army, the Navy, the Air Force, wherever they go, they get harassed. So this is not an appropriate field for a woman to go and specialize in.
If she likes, elements of engineering, etc, she may study it to be a teacher, in school, back down to high school and junior high, etc, where she uses her knowledge in teaching children, children and youth.
Now, that covers issues of education, education, opportunities, choices in education, etc. If we go forward to Islamic education, which, of course, as we said, in the very beginning was the most important elements of our education.
It is important that as a Muslim woman, she the formally educated islamically, in order to raise her children,
because education begins in the home, she's the one who controls the home, the home environment, she's the one who ensures that the child is in an Islamic environment in the home, and the child is exposed continually to the teachings of Islam, the upbringing of the children, will depend to a large degree to on the mother, because the father is away most of the time, the rest of the time the child is spending in school, then the rest of the major part of time, economics to the mother. So women mothers have to be well versed in the various areas of Islamic knowledge in order to impart that to their children as they grew up in homes. I would also add to this, that for raising
children.
Many parents have no idea of how to raise children. In fact, I would say most don't, it's a trial and error circumstance.
You do certain things to your first child. Later on, you realize that wasn't the best thing. So we don't do that the next job. So as time gets on here, the older children say, oh, mommy used to beat us without knowing anything. So to get away with it, because we're experimenting, you're trying things out to see what would work, what wouldn't work, etc. And you will not have been able to toss these off, whatever. But really, we should have parenting classes, parenting classes where, you know, women and men are taught how to raise children, what things to avoid, what things to do, how to control behavior, without having to resort to violence, you know, and screaming and chanting and
breaking things, you know how to raise children in a healthy Islamic environment.
Most of us need training, we need those who will guidance and advisors in this market. So this is where I would advise
institutions like this institution that they do bring in child psychologists, Muslim child psychologists who have knowledge of children and how they learn etc. To add an expand the scope of education for this institution.
Now regarding Muslim women, who are in the working field
where
Do we draw the line?
Of course, fundamentally, Muslim women should be working in female friendly environments. They shouldn't be ending up in offices by themselves behind closed doors with males, which often happens in these working environments.
They should be in a majority female environment, and one which is free from what we call Hello, wherever they are isolated, in circumstances with males, who they could not marry, or not from their hiding.
Furthermore, those that are working need to stop for a minute, and ask themselves, whether the field that they're working in is really a productive field and beneficial to the community.
And if it is not, then they should seriously consider changing, even though it is comfortable,
you know, the money is coming in, etc. But if it's really not appropriate, and you know, it is not, then you should give it up and find a field which is more appropriate for you, as a woman.
Those represent the basic issues that I wanted to share with you this afternoon. Because this session really is dedicated to the issues that you are facing. And you here in Nairobi, in Kenya, have I'm sure, many issues in the chart, particularly to yourselves unique to yourselves, perhaps many issues that I've never even come across before. So I want to give you ample opportunity to raise your questions, and I will try to help you find the answers for them. So I'm going to stop here. And hopefully you can start sending your questions forward, and we can start to try to answer them.
Okay, the first question
for one of the sisters,
basically saying that she would like to become a professor
and
complete her education. But she was wondering about the permissibility to lecture,
I guess to male audiences, well,
where she has knowledge, which no male can
convey, can deliver, then it is we can say it is permissible for her to do so if she is properly in the job. If the circumstances are acceptable, the environment in which you're doing it is acceptable.
We know that the winds are the
other females fought the religion. We know that Mr. Malik, some of these teachers were female teachers, and most of the scholars who are well known and etc, had a female teachers. So this is a circumstance which is permissible. Keeping in mind, of course, the Islamic parameters which determine I should mention also, that
I just recently set up a university in Chennai universities called Preston International College, University College, which is offering currently in ba Islamic Studies. And a BA also a Bachelor's in Business Administration, Masters of Business Administration, bachelor's in education, that will be offering matches information technology, and commerce and a variety of other fields. You know, as we move forward, we'll be adding more and more colleges according to the needs of the society. This is for both males and females and
We have fully segregated classrooms, our situation is that
we have one floor of classes for males, one floor for females. So each class which is being taught is projected to the female classrooms. And they are able to watch the professor through
electronic projection. And they are able to ask the questions, there are mics etc available, they can ask the question in front and forth. So this is a setup we have, we also have hospital facilities for females. So, we invite any of you who are also graduates, high school graduates, who would be interested to enroll is the three year ba program which is accredited, and it is taught in English medium with intensive Arabic. And regardless of one specialization, you are required in each
discipline to study basic courses from Islamic knowledge.
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question, what is your opinion of a woman studying?
actual
actual science?
Actuarial Science involves data and predictions, for example, media,
the economy, how it's going and insurance,
insurance and insurance.
Actually, you don't have to work in the insurance, it's projections based on let's say, the company based on past experience, they're going to make profit or lose on how much this is mathematics. Okay, if we're saying this is
in terms of
the field, which deals with
assessment really is assessment of businesses,
and projecting future
directions of companies and likelihood of their success or failure, etc, this is acceptable.
They are doing so and plan to work for example, in a female business, because it is possible for female businesses, and they would prefer to have a female working with them, who is providing this information. So this is a field which, though the opportunities for them may be limited.
It isn't one, we will say no, but I would say that if the chances of finding a female friendly environment in which the practices are small, but it's better to avoid it. If you know definitely, for example, your family or friends or connections have a business and they say we do need a female, can you focus on this and come through and you can work for us then fine, go ahead. Maybe in terms of maybe
Okay, if it's an Akita issue, where
we are to
look at the concept of projecting ideas into the future, you know, where you are now.
Estimating probabilities you are predicting, as long as you say, inshallah, then it's fine. To talk about how things are how they appear to be going and you make a prediction that this is likely the case insha Allah this is fine. This doesn't enter into challenging our laws knowledge of the unseen. Okay, question. Is female circumcision allowed in Islam? Yes, it is, with restrictions so that it doesn't involve actually removal of parts from the body but it's something similar to what happens with men male circumcision, doesn't you know, remove body parts, but only removes a small amounts of skin. So this is something permissible, not something required on the part of females, though it is
required on the part of males and that is
Of course, males who are in at the age of seven days a days, those who end up growing being grown individuals. For example, a man who accepts Islam is in his 20s and 30s or 40s. For us to go and say that circumcision is obligatory for him, this is not in fact correct. It is optional.
Is that ever a certain situation, which necessitates a husband using his fists
to beat his wife
should continue living with them? Well, if the wife is using her fist to beat him out,
we could say it's okay for him to use his to defend himself.
But it is only a one way six situation where he is just, you know, whenever he feels like it's unjustified, etc. He is beating her with his fists, that of course, the woman has the right to get her marriage annulled. She doesn't have to remain in such a system situation. In fact, it is probably better for her to get out of it.
So at home, I would like to do law.
And we're all here, but wanted to know if it is permissible. Well, in the case of law,
I think this again, is a man's world. It tends to be dominated by males, and
especially criminal law, these other forms which involve court appearances.
What age is it appropriate for a girl to start at?
No age.
How are we supposed to find husbands
around to have a boyfriend.
How they're supposed to find out this is in Islamic circumstance, we have family members, members of the community who will help us to find suitable husbands. Islam protects the underdog, the woman by not putting her in a circumstance where she has to go out and try to find yourself. So there are channels to family, or if we don't have family, through community leaders, etc. Where that job is taken care of. So we don't have to resort to dating and what dating leads to which involves no hello and ultimately exposes women to circumstances which are clearly displeasing to Allah, Allah, especially when the practice of dating as practiced in the West becomes really a practice of trying
goods before you buy them.
And this is something a warrant Luckily,
we have a special place in Islam for marriage and family and can only be protected if we avoid such as customs, which are in fact harmful to the society as a whole.
We also have the Family Resource Center, the Jamia mosque, wherein females who would like to find husbands and males would like to find lives you know can go in and be interviewed get their data put into the system and we can we have people there, counselors etc helping you to find suitable husbands and wives based on religion and education and the other qualities which are important inshallah many successful marriages have taken place through this instrument. So,
I would advise you to take this route as opposed to dating.
Can you come out of a career in an office and if you have no other source of income
At the same time, you strictly follow
the Islamic values and principles. How can you come out of a career? Well,
one of two things.
One, if your career is your absolute only means of survival.
And there is no body or individuals or institution prepared to help you. So you remain in that
career while trying to find alternatives, that we can say, okay, you're justified. But as long as there exists, institutions, families, individuals, who, if you made the choice, they would help you to
find another opportunity for work, etc, then one should immediately take that opportunity to do so because, as I said, mantella cache and in our world Long Island minute, whoever gives up anything for the sake of Allah, Allah will replace it with something better.
Do you intend to start undergraduate and postgraduate courses in medicine in your university? Yes, we do. When that will probably be some time down the line that requires a level of development that we haven't started just a week ago.
Don't see in the immediate future, but we do have plans to offer everything we want it to be a complete University offering all the fields of learning that people desire. I hear that you give Islamic courses to the internet, can we get a university degree in this way? Well, let me say first, there are free courses on my Islamic online university.com website at Islamic online university.com there you can take free courses about 14 free courses available in different areas of Islamic knowledge. It is systematically organized for you to follow a a
can say structure
process of learning.
So, that is generally open courses as well as courses in basic studies.
There is also online and the knowledge International University from Riyadh the department's the English side of it, I am the head of there is a BA degree offered there which you can get online from knowledge into
the chancellor of knowledge international universities ship today's Emmanuel Macron.
Also
in the coming year inshallah, we do hope to offer another ba online from the Islamic online university, which will be affiliated with on demand Islamic University degrees will be issued from diversity
as well as University in India, we hope to operate from there too. So these should be coming up soon. Also,
for knowledge International University, you type in kipu.org and that should take you to knowledge International University. how relevant is it for a Muslim woman
to propose to the man if she feels he is on the right character? It was the Sunnah of Khadija.
And there were also other Muslim women who came to the process and proposed marriage to him at different points in his lifetime. So we know that it is not approved.
In fact, he got married in that way.
I heard it is not
a must for me to cook and wash or generally work in my house.
Life.
I mean,
and it's not compulsory, but if I do it,
I will get rewarded. Is that true?
Well, to be honest, there are scholars who hold this position is taught from a legal perspective. However, profit farmers So having said that the rights of the woman is that she be looked after she'd be closed from the clothing
buys, fed from the food that he eats, you know, and accommodated in his house. This is correct. And also that she not the hipped interface, and one of the things that if any,
hitting takes place, which will not be in our face, besides that, on the other hand, Ross was on it and said, that the right of the husband is that he been away.
If he says, wash my clothes,
and you say, I don't have to wash your clothes, then he's not being obeyed.
So, though, we have legal arguments, that a woman is not obliged. We do have general principles in marriage, which oblige the woman to obey her husband, as long as he doesn't commanded to do anything which is haram.
So
I would say that the obligation of the wife is to look after our home and
not allow anyone in our home was displeasing to her husband, and to do the household chores, duties, and
generally present Nick.
You could say prepare herself in a presentable way, when her husband comes home, away, which is pleasing as possible, and said, you know, the best a woman are the one who, when her husband looks at her he's pleased. So she presents herself in a pleasing fashion. And when this is good for
the overall feelings, between mutual attraction, love, etc, between husband and wife.
What is the cure for depression?
Well,
the cure for depression is
ultimately having a strong bond with a lot.
Knowing that whatever happens in one's life is by and lost permission, and that there is good in it, even if we can't see it. And knowing that every difficulty is followed by ease, all of this comes from knowing the law. The best cure for depression is knowledge a lot. And we gave that through reading the Quran. And this is why a lot of it First of all, I'd say Fiji, probably the nuts she found, the mouth has to do, you know, describing the Quran as being a cure for the elements of the soul, the heart is the major element of depression.
After
question, is it permissible to settle in a non Muslim country?
Technically speaking, it isn't.
absorbed in, say, a very old man, the man
or the woman after being adopted.
I absolve myself from anyone who lives in some cases, anyone who dies in the midst of the disbelievers, that Muslim should live in a Muslim community. This doesn't necessarily mean it was the country because, for example, Muslims are living here in Kenya. It's not a Muslim country, meaning it's not dominated by
citizens or not. So
I'm not proposing that Muslims should pack up their bags. Kenya
is not realistic at all. But what I'm saying is that, as I said, most of them should have
areas, communities where they are concentrated, they shouldn't be scattered amongst the most of the non Muslims. So that whenever anything happens, any issue develops, they get harmed, they become targets. And this is what has happened in all the places where Muslims, you know, have lived, isolated,
mixed amongst the non Muslims, when issues develop in the society, they are the first ones to suffer, like in Gujarat, and places like this.
And that's why
Muslims should live together, you should, your neighbors, those who are living across the road from you, beside you behind, etc, they should be Muslims. It doesn't mean that non Muslims can come in your locality that is not a close community becomes like a ghetto, no, but that the Muslims should be in close proximity to each other. So even a bastion, for example, or a Muslim school like this, all the houses around it should be Muslim houses. That's the way it really should be. Because what happens is that when the school or the masjid is sitting by itself, in anonymous, and community again, it's the first thing that gets burned down, whenever any riots or anything happens,
properties are last burned down, etc. And this morning, and we put we can only protect ourselves if we live in Muslim communities. And I don't want to say Muslim ask why and also shy away from Muslim country, because we have to say that when problems
move to Medina established a community there, Muslims were still in another country, Arabia was a non Muslim country. So but what they did was we had the means went to Medina, the opportunity was there, then they created a Muslim community, which
I plan on going to the UK next year for the university in Sharla. What are the consequences of me not traveling? Well, traveling with a Muslim is an obligation, one should be the challenge. Of course, living there does require background because my firm is required for traveling not for residents. So at least the multifunction carrying they're bringing back, that is a basic requirement. But I would say if you're going to the UK, to study in university, you should think two times, three times, many times before going, and I would advise your parents to be very careful about this decision to make sure that you're not going to go there and ended up destroying what
faith you have. I don't advise people to migrate and go to the west to study unless they are people have very strong faith, very firm in their religion, they know their religion, they're practicing as well. And they're going to get knowledge there which is not available here. As long as that knowledge is available here, then it is better for them to get here rather than going abroad.
next president I am a cabinet. I knew the mo airhostess kind of heroes this how are we allowed to wear hijab? Are we not? And we are not allowed to wear a job. The only clothes that I use
are either trousers or mini skirts. What can I do in such a statement?
situation. That's my career. You need to get out of that career.
Without any uncertain terms, this is not appropriate for you as a woman, you need to get out of that career as quickly as possible. And know that if you get out and you are seeking a lot of pleasure getting out to go into a profession or to seek a bounty elsewhere as a
way of talking.
Whoever fears alone find a way out for them. So know that he is he is the provider he will provide for you. So my advice is to leave the profession as quickly as possible.
So imagine this newspaper says
which process are cursed women on Saturdays?
There are people will say that one
evidence of the deal judge is that a lot over the coming up? A lot of women will be driving vehicles. This is true.
What is the justification of a wife the hit? Slightly not?
Well,
please know that it doesn't mean if you spill the tea is it to you?
You are in his clothes wrong he's hitting you know this hitting is in the context of saving the marriage. This is the last resort left, you're ending up in divorce. He you are you are, you know, recap recalcitrant. You know, you're not listening, you're refusing to listen. So he hits you from the perspective of like, taking a hold of you in taking a hold of your hand or your arm or whatever, there is element of hitting because he's striking you in that sense, but he's trying to take ahold of you to try to shake some sense into you. Or, you know, just
just to call attention, stop for a minute. Listen to what you're saying. Some isn't the kind of circumstances we're talking about. We're not talking about him taking out a belt or putting on boxing gloves. You know, this is not, you know, it's unfortunate. Some people think there has been things okay, if she wants to divorce, I'm just going to give her two black eyes before she goes.
This is definitely not from Islam at all.
So it is only in the context of divorce, where it is mentioned in the
I work in a place with majority Christians, what can I do to start shaking hands with the male of them? Keep your hands in your pockets?
These give us the correct qualities of the job.
Woman is the job. Okay, we are a few questions are on his agenda. I'm sure this question must have been out of time.
But just to quickly say it shouldn't be news,
not colors which draw attention to yourself, it should be not see through
and should cover everything except for face and hands are going to the majority of opinion or including face of harm to the minority.
Those are the main guidelines and it should not be a dress which is well known amongst the certain elements or segments of the disbelievers, or imitate, you know, a style which is a religious style, other religions, for example, like the habit, the nun's habit, though it looks like a job. It has its own specification. So for the moment, we're in Java, which looks just like a habit where people might think that she's a Catholic nun, then.
Okay, my time is up. Now, you still have any other questions, but
hopefully, we'll get them answered, at some point down the line. I'm sure you have many other lectures coming in to do that. Charla, you will
benefit from this session this evening. And try to attend as many sub sessions as possible in the future, to increase your knowledge to be able to practice Islam in a better way. And also, that you were able to function within this society today, in a way which is pleasing to a lot because this is where you're seeking knowledge to be able to live lives, which are in fact pleasing to ask
questions that we've not been able to answer them will give us
a shout out to somebody.
Because
I have a few statements to conclude with regarding today's lecture. I have benefited a lot and I'm sure my sisters have benefited from that. I would like to recall an incident
of my son his young daughter
To Kosova or Catholic this
week, the child comes home in terms of the parents hallelujah.
So my sisters
and parents would like us to think very seriously. That what shall I say?
Do we want our children to accelerate his college education? Or do we want them to do
that is to lead up to the children