Bilal Dannoun – Rights Of Parents And Relatives

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The speaker discusses the importance of parent and relatives in Islam, as well as the history of the message ofantsha. They emphasize the need to stay true to one's own values and beliefs, maintain strong relationships with family members, and not just pray. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of maintaining kinship and connections with family members, particularly when it comes to maintaining good relationships with them. They also mention the importance of laughter and the history of the message ofantsha.

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			praise is due to Allah and made a Peace and blessings of Allah be upon our beloved prophet muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and upon all those who follow his footsteps who follow his way, we
follow his methodology his son until the last day. My dear respected brothers and sisters in Islam
Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
		
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			Today inshallah, who to Allah, we will be studying a chapter from amongst the chapters of variado
Siva hain or actually at least two chapters that are related to the rights of parents and the rights
of relatives. Now, Amendment No we rahima who love what Allah has entitled this chapter, there will
be a rule where detainee facilities are hand which is kind treatment or bear being beautiful towards
parents and establishment of the ties of blood relationships. So, the word for parents or to parents
is rarely then or rarely then okay. So each parent can be referred to as a welded, whether it be the
mother or the father, because here we have Wally Dane are where he then as Allah subhanho wa Taala
		
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			mentions in the Quran. So, he remember no we are a hymn of Allahu taala he has began to enumerate
some of the verses from the Qur'an that deal with all that talk about parents and the rights of
parents and being beautiful and kind towards parents.
		
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			I believe that instructions regarding parents have met been mentioned in the past and some 15 times.
So there's some 15 references to parents in the court and and mmm now we are a homolog with Allah
has mentioned some of these verses. So to begin with, Allah subhanho wa Taala in salt and the set
which is chapter four of the Quran, verse 36. He mentions what Abdullah have what a Toshi cobija why
bill worthy, they need a Santa
		
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			Allah azza wa jal, he says worship Allah, worship Allah alone, were to love her and when to Shri
qubee he shy and associate no partners to Allah, no partners to Allah azza wa jal
		
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			and immediately after that, immediately after that, what does he say? He says, what Bill were they
in the center, which means and do good to parents. So this is how important it is. That directly
after worshiping Eliza within an obedience to Allah azza wa jal
		
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			comes and of course after the obedience of the prophesized obedience to Allah azza wa jal comes in
at first obedience of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and then comes obedience towards
parents and being dutiful, towards once parents. Now,
		
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			in another verse,
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa taala talks about when Latina you'll see Luna Amara la who will be he and,
		
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			and useful and Allah subhanaw taala in this chapter
		
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			also talks about
		
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			and we have and those who joined that which Allah has commanded to be joined. In other words, they
are good to their relatives and do not sever the bond of kinship.
		
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			In another very important verse, Allah subhanho wa Taala
		
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			mentions workato buka. Allah tabuteau in last year, were bill worthy they need a Santa immeasurable
ohana in the Kibera. huduma Oklahoma fella Taku lahoma ofin weather and her woman Baku lahoma Poland
Karima workfit Laguna Jana eliminar Rama Baku, Rob Durham Houma can rob dyani sofiero Allah subhanho
wa Taala. In this verse, which we find are these two verses
		
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			that we find in solid surah which is the 17th chapter and verse 23, and 24 and Europe and Europe has
decreed that you worship none but him and that you'd be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or
both of them attain old age in your life say not to them a word of disrespect and hear the word was
off.
		
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			You know, in our day and age, you might say far out or something like this, you can't show any sorts
of negative
		
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			behavior towards them, no shot at them, but address them in terms of honor, and lower unto them the
wing of submission and, and humility through mercy and say, This is my rub, bestow upon them your
mercy, as they did bring me up when I was young. So there are a set, which enjoin and command us
instruct us to be dutiful, towards our parents to the extent that you're not allowed to show them
any sort of resentment or any form of in a discount that your discomfort that you're uncomfortable
with them through your words or through your gestures. Okay, this is not part of Islam. So parents
are held in very high esteem in Islam. So now, we are going to go through some of the hadiths, some
		
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			of the prophetic traditions that talk about parents and the rights of parents and that talk about
relatives, the rights of relatives, your relatives, and the Arabic word for relatives is your ham.
And hence we have Scylla to Erhan Scylla is a connection connecting skeleton or hand connecting and
maintaining the ties the time it can be Silla is the tie, maintaining the ties of kinship. Okay,
this is one of the chapters that you read about in Islam. So listen to this Hadith
		
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			of the light, even Mr. or your loved one. What about in the Hadith that is found in Buhari, and we
found we find it also in Sahih. Muslim, okay. He came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and
he said to him, he had a sort of a messenger of Allah, which of the deeds is loved most by Allah. So
he wants to know which deeds in Islam are most beloved to Allah. Now, here the prophet SAW Selim can
mention any of the many, many deeds that Islam the good and virtuous deeds that Islam have has
taught us about. So, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam The first thing that he said, is that a
solid to Allah Bhakti
		
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			that prayer at its fixed time, that's the most beloved after Allah azza wa jal is that you pray on
time.
		
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			Don't delay your prayers.
		
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			And then he then Abdullah Massoud says, What comes next rasulillah which action is next in line? And
he replied, kindness to your parents bedroom while eating after Sala and what comes next Yara Salama
and he said al Jihad woofie sabinillas jihad, Jihad physical the the, you know the physical warfare
here, the military warfare. So he said that jihad is it comes after we know that Jihad for example,
is you know where a person is willing to sacrifice their life, okay? For the sake of Allah azza wa
jal, right, but yet he in this instance here,
		
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			the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is making it very clear that even before Jihad comes
dutifulness towards your parents. And of course, he is talking about the jihad, which is a foreign
key failure not followed behind. Because there's two types of jihad in Islam.
		
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			There is the obligatory jihad, that is that the head of state would announce as being everybody
needs to partake in it, and there'd be a communal or in front of Keifa jihad, which is not an
obligatory one, but a voluntary one. Now,
		
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			so, this is one Hadith, another Hadith. And this hadith is found in Sahih, Muslim, we read that you
cannot repay your father, in this Hadith, you can never pay back your father, unless he was a slave,
and you purchased him from slavery. And then you set him free. If you do that as a child, then
you've repaid back your father, for you know,
		
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			and the Hadith is found by Abu huraira Allah and
		
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			the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, No son can repay
		
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			nothing other words the kindness shown by his father unless he finds him a slave, and buys him and
emancipates him, he sets him free.
		
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			Another Hadith that a man will know Rahim Allah Buddha Allah, he mentioned in regard to sila hain
		
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			is that we see that by actually being good and your kind treatment towards your blood relations.
		
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			Okay, your parents and your siblings and your relatives is part of our Amen. It is part of our
faith, part of the fabric of Islam. So panela so Islam isn't just about, you know, prayer and
fasting and Sokka and pilgrimage to Mecca. It's a comprehensive way of life. And it includes being
dutiful and respectful to your relatives. And this hadith that is found in Bukhari and Muslim is the
hadith of Abu huraira, the Allahu Allahu Allah, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
said, He who believes in Allah, and the last day, let him be hospitable to his guests. And he who
believes in Allah, and the last day, let him maintain good the ties of blood relationship. And he
		
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			who believes in Allah and the Last Day must be good, must speak good or keep silent. So the first
instruction, that if you believe in a life, you're a believer, if you say that you are a believer,
in Allah, and the last day, the day of judgment, then part of this belief is to be hospitable
towards your guests. If you have a guest, you should offer them drink, offer them food, offer them,
you know, make them feel comfortable. This is what Islam teaches us.
		
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			hospitality. And the second thing he said, to be equal to relatives. And the third thing that he
said, he said, either you've got something good to say, or don't say anything or or remain silent.
		
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			Okay, so
		
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			even if your blood relations are severing the ties of kinship with you and misbehaving towards you,
you need to make every effort to maintain the ties of kinship with your relatives.
		
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			We move on to another Hadith. This next Hadith
		
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			is the Hadith that is found in Sahih Bukhari whereby the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
		
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			He said that he who maintains good ties with you. This is a hadith Pudsey Allah azza wa jal says,
this hadith footsie with Allah says, Allah says, Allah azza wa jal says he who maintains good ties
with you, and maintain good ties with him.
		
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			And he who severs your ties, I sever ties with him. So part of actually maintaining a strong
connection with Eliza gel is that you maintain a strong connection with your kith and kin or your
relatives your blood relations. Now, this next Hadith is a very famous Hadith. You all know this
Hadith, it's the hadith of Abu huraira the Allahu Allahu Allah, and it's found in Bukhari and
Muslim. It's whereby a man or a person came to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
and said, Who among the people is most deserving of my fine treatment? Or my good companionship?
What did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam respond? He said, your mother.
		
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			And then the man asked who next? And he responded, your mother, who next, your mother, who next your
father.
		
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			So three times, three times, he mentioned the mother, and one time he mentioned, he mentioned the
Father.
		
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			And in another generation,
		
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			when he was asked about who was most deserving of the fine treatment, the prophet SAW, Selim said
your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father, then your nearest the nearest.
		
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			So mom comes first, that comes second, and then the nearest to you, your siblings, okay, your
spouse, you know, your children, your relatives, those people who are nearest to you, according to
this hadith.
		
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			So why the question is, why does, why does the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned the
mother three times and the father only once? Why? Because it is the mother that carries you in her
womb for nine months, for nine months and she goes through the hardships that come with that. And it
is the mother who goes through the labor pain, which she suffers.
		
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			And it is the mother, the mother who spends too. You know the two year period of suckling which
disturbs her sleep and at night and it affects her health.
		
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			Okay, and you know, she during this period, she's very cautious in her food for the welfare of the
baby. So these are things that the mother does not the father does. So hence the mother, the mother,
the mother, then the Father, in this next Hadith, which is found in Sahih Muslim, it's the hadith of
Abu hurayrah, Ravi Allahu Allahu Akbar, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, may he be
disgraced
		
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			rahima and full from urashima and fu from urashima and for May he be disgraced and he said it three
times.
		
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			whose parents one or both attain old age during his lifetime, and he does not enter gender. In other
words, by being beautiful towards the end, he could have energen
		
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			and, and that he did not he was not dutiful towards them. So this person is disgraced.
		
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			This next Huggy.
		
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			There is also by above what are the Allahu Allahu Allah as a Muslim,
		
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			the person who treats his relatives nicely we learn from this Hadith, that the person who treats his
relatives in a nice manner, in a respectable manner, is blessed by Allah, and he will even send from
Heaven help us to support him. Listen to the Hadith.
		
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			You're blessed by Allah. And Allah will send somebody to help you.
		
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			A man said to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I have relatives with whom I tried
to keep the ties of relationship, but they sever relationships with me, I'm trying to be maintaining
that relationship with them, but they don't want. They're running away.
		
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			They shy away they don't want to maintain that connection with me.
		
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			And whom I treat kindly, but they treat me badly. I am gentle with them, but they are rough to me.
So what did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say to this person,
		
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			he said, if you are as you say, it is as if you are feeding them hot ashes. And you will be
		
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			and you will be with a supporter against them from Allah as long as you continue to do so. Allah
will send you a supporter, but you have to continue, you have to just soldier on, you have to be
consistent in trying to maintain the ties of kinship, no matter how bitter it is.
		
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			So this is a very encouraging Hadeeth to continue to try and strive to maintain the ties of kinship
with your relatives. The next Hadees
		
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			I believe is an amazing
		
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			a beautiful Hadith.
		
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			It's the hadith of Ennis or their loved one who Allah and we read it in Bukhari and Muslim, an
authentic hadith. Now, this heartbeat is very encouraging.
		
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			Pretty much if you want for your wealth, to increase, or for there to be Baraka and for there to be
blessing in your wealth. And also you'd like to live an extra few years. This Hadeeth will tell you
how.
		
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			You know, in a day and age where everybody is trying to fight you know Mother Nature, as they say,
we call it you know, uncover
		
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			but, you know, everybody wants to you know, live longer and everybody wants to do all these
different things to prolong the quality they like they you know, they do so much things so that they
can prolong their life. Well the Hadith. In this hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
said, He who desires ample provisions
		
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			and his life be prolonged, should maintain good ties with his blood relations. Very short and sweet
Heidi's men have been and you suffer level theories p y. Level feel sad he fell yourself rahima.
		
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			Again, he who desires ample provisions and his life be prolonged should maintain good ties with his
blood relations.
		
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			So that when I met when I was talking about the life is it actually prolong? There's some difference
of opinion.
		
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			And the two explanations is that the life is actually prolonged in terms of years or
		
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			His life is graced, that his life is graced with the blessings of Allah azza wa jal. In any case,
there is a great benefit, virtue and reward for you to maintain the ties of kinship with your
relatives.
		
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			In the next Hadees,
		
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			we learned, we learned about who is most deserving of your sadaqa
		
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			you know, often want to give sadaqa we want to give charity for the sake of Allah as the wish and be
rewarded for it. But who is most deserving of that sadaqa? And how can you double the reward of your
sadaqa this hadith will tell us
		
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			there was a Sahabi by the name of Abu talhah and Abu talhah Allah one who he was the richest amongst
the people of the inside of the people of Medina.
		
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			And he had a very large property, and he had a garden that was known as basil had a garden, or an
orchard known as barrelhead, which was opposite to the masjid to the mosque of the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the prophet SAW Selim he used to actually visit he used to visit this
place and he would drink from his freshwater. Now also kind of with Allah revealed the verse, Lenten
aloevera, Allah says, Len canal will garowe had to mimic a bone, that you will not attain albir
which is Jani, piety or righteousness, or reward here, there could also be gender,
		
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			you will not attain it.
		
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			Until you spend from that which you love, until you spend from that which you that is most dear to
you.
		
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			And this is found in Allium Ron, verse 93. So I will tell her when he heard this, he said to him, he
said to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		
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			that if Allah says that not none of you are by no means you shall attain good unless you spent in a
lost cause, that which you love and the dearest of my property is bearable. hat I love by Roja. I
love this car. That's my dearest property.
		
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			And so he said, so I have given it as sadaqa for Allah sake, I give it as a charity for the sake of
Allah. Sell it and we'll just divide the proceeds amongst the poor and the needy. So the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said to him,
		
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			he said to him, nothing there Lika melon Ravi Delica melon Robbie. He said, he said this is he said
well done that is profitable property.
		
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			And then he says it twice. And then he says, I have heard what you have said, but I think you should
spend it on your nearest relatives.
		
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			So I will tell her distributed distributed it among his nearest relatives and his cousins. So those
who deserve your sadhaka the most are your relatives.
		
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			We also learn
		
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			from amongst the Hadith that mmm no Rahim Allah who Tyler has has chosen for this chapter.
		
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			We learn about the response that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave to a man who wanted to
go and perform Jihad
		
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			and men who wanted to go and perform jihad.
		
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			It's the Hadith Crandon Bukhari and Muslim. A man came to the Prophet of Allah saw Selim and said, I
swear allegiance to you from immigration and Jihad seeking reward from Allah. So the prophet SAW
Selim said, Is any of your parents alive? He said, Yes, both of them are alive. He saw some and then
asked, Do you want to seek reward from Allah? He replied in the affirmative. There upon the
Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Go back to your parents, and keep good company
with them.
		
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			And in other narration, It is reported that a person came to the Messenger of Allah Azza wa sallam,
and so his permission to participate in jihad, and the prophet SAW Selim asked, Are your parents
alive? He replied, Yes. So the problem is, I said him said you should consider this service as
jihad.
		
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			So, as we said, of course, this is referring to the Jihad which is a key failure and not far to do
it. As I stated earlier.
		
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			Also, we learn from the sun that it is our duty
		
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			To maintain the ties even with those who are harsh and impolite to us, in this next Hadith that is
found in Buhari, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, the person who perfectly
maintains the ties of kinship is not the one who does it because he gets recompense by his
relatives.
		
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			But the one who truly maintains the bonds of kinship is the one who persists in doing so even though
the latter has severed the ties of kinship with him.
		
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			So, again, even though a person, you know, is treating you with harshness, and not being polite, we
should make all efforts to maintain the ties of kinship.
		
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			In this next Hadees, we learned about the importance that if you sever relations with your
relatives, it's as if you are severing relations with Allah.
		
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			And the Hadith is found the Bukhari and Muslim is the hadith of Arusha law, the law. The Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, the bond of relationship is suspending from the ash from the
throne and says, it says he keeps good relations with me, Allah will keep connection with him. But
whoever severs relations with me, Allah will sever connection with him.
		
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			Okay, so another very important Hadith.
		
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			And the next Hadith that I want to share with you, we learned that it is our duty as Muslims to
maintain relationships and maintain the connections and the ties of, of, of blood relations, even if
your family are non Muslim. Even if your family members or relatives are non Muslims. In the Hadith
found in Bukhari Muslim, it's the hadith of ismat, the daughter of Abu Bakar severe called the
Allahu Allahu Allah.
		
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			And she says that my mother came to me while she was still a Muslim, a polytheist.
		
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			So I asked the Messenger of Allah saw Selim, my mother, who was ill disposed to Islam has come to
visit me. Shall I maintain relations with her? And he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam replied, Yes,
maintain relations with your mother. Maintain she's coming to visit her. She wasn't sure she was
Muslim. And non Muslim is visiting me too. I keep the relations with her not
		
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			the process seller said to her, yes, you must maintain the relations with them. And on this point,
okay. We learned from sort of look men, that if your parents that you are to obey your parents, in
all matters, except if they commend you, or give you instructions to do things that go against the
teachings of Islam,
		
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			because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, law calamus Luke samoset,
		
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			he said was to the effect that there is to be no obedience to the created by disobeying the Creator.
So we have a duty to
		
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			obey Allah azza wa jal, first and foremost. So as long as they are not obeying, commanding you to do
something which is haram or goes against the teachings of Islam, we have a GT to be dutiful towards
them.
		
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			In this next Hadeeth, we learn about a response that was given by the prophet sallallahu while he
was sending them to heraclius in this Hadith, that is Phantom Buhari and Muslim, Abu sufian soccer
even harder Prague Allahu anhu mentioned that hurricane heraclius in a long Hadith and he said
correctly as asked me so long Hadith But anyway, in this hadith heraclius asks this Sahabi What does
this prophet SAW Selim teach you I said, he orders us to worship Allah alone, and not to associate a
thing with him in worship, to discard what our ancestors said, and to perform the Salah to speak the
truth and to maintain the ties of kinship
		
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			and to maintain the ties of kinship.
		
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			So, again, we learn that besides so hate, this hadith enjoins punctuality in our solid and excellent
character, and, of course, you know, being good towards our parents and towards our relatives.
		
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			In this next Hades
		
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			We learned that by you maintaining the ties of kinship, it leads to gender.
		
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			It's the hadith of Abu Khalid Ibn Zayd Al ancyra, the Allahu anhu. We find that in Bihari, and
Muslim, a man came to the Messenger of Allah Azza wa sallam and said direct me to a deed, which will
admit me to Jenna and take me away from the fire.
		
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			The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, worship Allah and associate no partner with
him.
		
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			Perform a solid pay as record and maintain the ties of kinship. Can you see how maintain the ties of
kinship is mentioned with select and mentioned with the cat and of course mentioned with the worship
of Allah azza wa jal, that's how serious the matter is in Islam.
		
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			And as I said to you earlier, that when you give charity to your relatives, when you give charity to
your relatives, you get double the reward, you will get the reward for your charity, and you'll get
the reward for silicon at hand for maintaining the ties of kinship. As we read in the Hadith, which
is found in an activity, which is the hadith of Sandman, even an irregular one who, who reported
that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, he said, when you break fast, you should do it
with a date fruit, for there is blessing in it. And if you do not find the date, fruit, break it
with water, for it is pure
		
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			messenger of Allah Azza wa sallam added charity towards a poor, a poor person, his charity and
towards a relation is both charity and maintaining the ties of kinship. So we learn here a number of
sin and the sooner is when you are fasting to break your fast on dates. If there are no dates, then
water. We also learned from this Hadith, that when you give charity towards a poor person, this is
not the cause of charity, but when you give it to your relative, it is a charity. And it is also it
is also a
		
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			circle him and maintaining the ties of kinship.
		
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			In this next hobbies, we learn that obedience to parents could be to the extent that if your parent
		
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			that if your parents were to command you, to divorce your wife,
		
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			if your parents were to command you to divorce your wife, you would need to obey them as long as it
is based on religious grounds. And it is fair and just it has to be based on religious grounds and
fair and just in this hadith that is found in Sinhala Timothy and Abu Dawood. It's the hadith of Ibn
Ahmad. radi Allahu Allahu wa. He said, I had a wife, whom I loved but Omar radi Allahu anhu, meaning
his father or mother, or the one who disliked her.
		
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			He asked me to divorce her. And when I refused aroma rhodiola one who went to the Messenger of Allah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he mentioned the meta to him and the prophets are alive while he
was selling them asked me to divorce.
		
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			Now, Ahmad was a very wise man, Ahmad had a lot of money for us a lot of insight and intuition.
That's what the prophet Salah Salem said, if there was going to become a prophet after me would have
been Oman. But as we know, the Seal of the Prophets and Messengers is Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam. So this Hadith, of course, as I said, is only applicable if there are reasonable religious
grounds and based on fairness, and justice.
		
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			The next Heidi's philosophy mentioned in this chapter, the hadith of Al Bara, even as the property
of one woman that is found in cinema, Timothy, he said I heard the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam saying a mother sister is equivalent to a real mother in status.
		
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			In other words, your aunt, your maternal aunt, your pilot, your pilot,
		
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			we say hi to you while you're young maternal aunt is equivalent in status as your mother. So this
Heidi tells us that one should be as respectful to one's aren't. Okay, two ones aren't as one is to
their own mother. That's how much that's the status of your auntie, your sister, your mother sister.
Now, the next chapter, that mmm no either him or her
		
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			Tyler has included is basically entitled babble to Harry Miller, kooky McAfee, aka Ryan prohibition
of disobeying parents and severance of relations.
		
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			Okay, so, again, the,
		
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			the ill effect, or the severity of the consequences and implications of breaking the ties of
kinship.
		
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			And he mentioned some and some highlights from monster hottie said. Remember him, Allahu Allah, he
mentioned
		
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			is an interesting idea that is found in Bukhari and Muslim. It's the hadith of Abu Bakar a new fire
been in the Paris of your loved one who, who reported the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam said, shall I not inform you of the biggest of the major sins?
		
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			And the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam asked this question three times, shall I not
inform you of the biggest of the major sense?
		
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			And they said, Yes, messenger of Allah, please inform us.
		
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			And so he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, ascribing partners to Allah shift,
		
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			ascribing partners to Allah and to be unbeautiful to your parents straightaway after shift he
mentions me and beautiful to me towards your parents. The Messenger of Allah saw Selim was reclining
and he sat up
		
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			from his reclining position, and he said, and I warn you against giving forged statements and a
false testimony testimony. I warn you against giving forward statement and a false testimony. The
Messenger of us as lm kept on repeating that warning to we wished he would stop.
		
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			So disobey obeying parents is one of the major sins and we find that in a man with his book, The
major sins when he enlisted, or he listed 17 major sins, one of them is being untruthful or
disobedient towards your parents.
		
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			And then the next Hadees that is found in Bukhari, the hadith of Abdullah Ibn ameron, the last of
your loved one human. He reported that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as saying of the
major sins are to ascribe partners to Allah, disobeyed parents, murder someone and to take a false
oath intentionally.
		
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			So the matter is very grave and the matter is very serious brothers and sisters in Islam.
		
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			Another Hadith that mmm No, we included
		
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			is
		
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			prohibiting us from abusing other people's parents. In Islam, you're not allowed to swear at
somebody else's parents.
		
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			Because when you swear at somebody else's parents, there is a likelihood that they are going to
abuse your parents in return, and that's going to harm you. That's why you're not allowed to also in
a scam Allah as those that instructs us not to swear and abuse and insult other gods.
		
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			Because when you insult somebody is God, what are they going to do? They're going to insult a light
surgeon and that's very harsh.
		
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			So we have to again, be very wise and with our words. So here are the law of an ambit of the law.
Second Law Juan Houma. He reported the message of assassin lemma saying it is one of the grave sins
to abuse one's parents. It was asked by the people or messenger of Allah can Eman abuse his own
parents.
		
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			So the messenger of us are seldom said he abuses the father of somebody who in return abuses the
former's father. He then abuses the mother of somebody who in return abuses his mother. Another
narration another narration is the Messenger of Allah Salim said one of the major sins is to curse
one's parents.
		
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			So somebody said how how is it the curse your parents
		
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			and a messenger of Allah How can a man cuz his own parents, and he says, when someone curses the
parents of another man who in return abuses the former's father, and then someone abuses the mother
of another man and in return abuses his mother.
		
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			So, this is something to take heed of.
		
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			And this next height is basically is a warning that one of the ways that you will not integrate
		
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			This is by severing the ties of kinship.
		
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			In this Hadith, there is fandom behind a Muslim, the professor Salim said, the person who severs the
bonds of kinship will not entertain
		
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			the person who severs the bonds of kinship, who breaks who cuts, the bonds of kinship, will not
enter gender.
		
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			And the last Hadith that is mentioned in this chapter,
		
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			the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, Allah has forbidden you, disobedience to your
mothers to withhold. In other words from what you should give, or demand. In other words, demand
that which you do not deserve, and to vary your daughter's alive. And Allah dislikes idle talk,
clean our fun, unlike dislikes idle talk, and to ask too many questions for things, which will be
out of no benefits or one that's top of questions is asking about and to waste your wealth.
		
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			So this was the last Hadith in this chapter. Now, remember, no, he has one more chapter and I just
want to share with you I think, a couple of highlights from here. It's the hadith of excellence in
doing good to the Friends of parents and other relatives. So we also have a duty or there is an
encouragement for not only being good to your parents, but being good to their friends.
		
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			In this next hurry.
		
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			The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said it's the hadith of Abdullah ibn Ahmad radi Allahu
Akbar, Allahu anhu. Man.
		
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			The finest act of goodness is that a person should treat kindly the loved ones of his father,
		
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			say Muslim.
		
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			One of the one of the best acts that you can do is to actually be kind to the Friends of your
father.
		
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			And even after your parents have passed away, and after your parents have died, you can still be
beautiful to watch towards your parents. You might be asking how
		
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			well a man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And the Hadith is found in Abu Dawood.
		
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			And he, he said, a messenger of Allah, is there any obedience to parents left that I can show to
them after their death?
		
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			The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam replied. He said yes, to pray for them to supplicate for
their forgiveness, to fulfill their promises after their death, to maintain the ties of kinship,
which cannot be maintained except through them, and to honor the difference and to honor their
friends. That's how you can be beautiful to your parents even after their death. So again, the
things that you can do is to pray for them make do I
		
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			ask Allah to forgive them so you can make to ask for them. ask Allah to forgive them, fulfill their
promises, any promises that they've made to people fulfill their promises, okay, and to maintain the
ties of kinship, which cannot be maintained except through them. So maintain the trends of kinship
and number five, and to honor their friends, five things that you can do
		
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			after they have passed away, which are signs of obedience towards your parents. In the next Hadith,
the Hadith shakeela one Ha, ha ha. She reported. She said, I never felt jealous of any of the wives
of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam as much as I did of Khadija Raja LaWanda, although I have
never seen her, she has never seen Khadija.
		
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			But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he used to mention her very often, whenever he
slaughtered a sheep, he would cut it into pieces and send them to the women friends of Khadija
Ravana.
		
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			When I sometimes when I sometimes said to him, You treat Khadija in such a way as if there is no
woman on earth except for her.
		
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			So the prophet SAW Selim would say, Khadija was such and such and he was be commending her and
speaking well of her, and I had children from her. So this hadith teaches us
		
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			here and it shows us a brief reference to the great qualities of Khadija like Allahu anhu Allah and
the love that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he had, and the position that Heidegger
occupied in the heart of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
		
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			because of the great qualities, and that he would even show kindness to her friends. So when you
show kindness to a person, that
		
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			Is TT to their friends, that is a sign of the love that you have towards that person. A very
beautiful trait to have indeed. So, this is the last video that I wanted to share with you related
to this chapter which is doing good to the parents friends, we ask Allah azza wa jal to give us the
strength and the energy and everything that it takes to be outstanding children, and to be
		
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			respectful, and to be beautiful, and to be kind to our parents, while they are still alive. And to
give us the strength to do those things that bring that show our obedience to Allah to to our
parents after they had after they have died, that we've written the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam, Allah who to an island for sallallahu Sallam America and in the b&m Mohamed Salah
monokuma Rahmatullahi wa barakato