Bela Khan – Ramadan – Are you all set
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Let me shoot on Hiroshima Smilla Rahmanir Rahim Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh How's everyone doing?
How is Ramadan preparation going on?
Please type in the chat box with the chatbox Yeah, so that hadn't been in that hamdulillah let's keep it interactive let's talk let's not make it a one way traffic inshallah
Okay Is everyone ready inshallah I think in most part of the world we are going to have our first
see some tomorrow inshallah
All right, all right, I'll start inshallah and I'll make dua to Allah Subhana. Allah Allamani is a Luca elmen fri mama LaMotta Avila will respond to you that may Allah allow us to have a very beneficial lecture together. And may Allah allow us to act upon and implement whatever we learn in our time together. And may Allah Subhana Allah accept whatever effort we are putting in in May Allah Subhana Allah protect us from via from any kind of hypocrisy in sha Allah. And may Allah smart Allah accept our gathering together. So Insha Allah, let's get started. So the question is, Ramadan, are you all set? So in relation to Ramadan?
While we're talking about Ramadan preparation, I will be talking about three things right? I will be
talking about our relationship with Allah subhana, Allah, our relationship with the people and our relationship with the
with ourselves, right. And before I really get into the content, and just remind all of you that Subhanallah when it comes to Ramadan, we are hearing so many lectures, there's so much content available on it. And, you know, we can access so much of the knowledge today. But remember, accessing the knowledge or just having the knowledge is not the answer. They say that knowledge is just the potential power. When you implement that knowledge, when you act upon this knowledge it is then it then becomes powerful, right? So that's why I'm just begin by making dua to Allah subhanaw taala to allow us to implement whatever we are learning together. A second thing, my dear sisters, I
really want you to have paper and pen for note taking, I'm a kind of a person I love note taking. And if I'm not taking notes, it's very hard for me to concentrate. So if you're not taking notes, maybe you will be just browsing one tab or checking your whatsapp, you know, we have this 21st century tendency of multitasking. So please have a paper and pencil with you. Because and I would request you to focus on this lecture because almost all the research and all the productivity gurus, they tell us that when we focus on one single task at a given time, when we are not doing when we're not trying to do 10 different tasks at a given time, we are not trying to you know, listen to a
lecture and then put a status on Facebook and then you know, browsing Instagram, when we are just doing one thing at a time it is only then we can get that thing done effectively and efficiently, efficiently. So I would just request you that if you have all your browsers open, please just for just what like next 40 minutes or so give yourself the gift of being 100% present so that inshallah maybe Maybe Allah knows it's just a love that whatever we are sharing with you it may be can change Ramadan forever, inshallah. So just just your 14 minutes from your life for the sake of Allah Subhana Allah. So as I said, I'll be talking about our relationship with Allah, our relationship
with his people, and our relationship with ourselves. Right? One thing is that when I asked you to have a paper and pencil also because when you write everything down when you do not, for example, I'll ask you to do something and you're making plan in your head. When you're making plan in your head. What happens is that, you know, it kind of, it just messes up have you ever tried doing the grocery without having a grocery list? Right, it kinds of you're just trying hard, okay, do we have X or do we have the cumin powder and to have it just so difficult? When you have a shopping list ready in your hand, it just you just go and grab the item. Similarly, when you have things written
down, it becomes very easy to go back and revisit what you have learned right? It's not practically possible to keep everything intact in our heads. Secondly, our heart in our head and everything our brain is a very sacred place for the love and remembrance of Allah Subhana Allah and His Prophet. So let's not you know kind of mess up with this place by remembering the things that we can other ways right.
Okay, we will start with an egg
tivity
Okay,
so the activity is you can see it on your screens. Make a list of everything you do in a normal day. Right? And write down how much time do you spend on each activity? Make a list of everything that you do in a day. Normally in a day and write down how much time do you spend on each activity I have a few examples for you. Like for example, let's say I pray five times a day and recite a little bit of Quran that takes me one hour.
So Bada is one hour your cooking time is two hour you cleaning damage one hour you study damage to all your social medias, like so list down everything you do in a normal day and tell me how many hours do you get out of 24
Okay, let's get it done quickly. How many hours do you get in in a day out of 24?
Masha Allah may Allah reward you for translating in typing it so quickly sister
that sounds so nice inshallah Welcome to Indonesia learn this your Indonesia Bahasa inshallah
very good Zara. Emma says 21 hours Very good.
Your left for three hours after all your classes. Okay, who else? Very good, very good. I'll repeat the activity just write down all the things that you do in a normal day and write how many hours do you spend doing each activity and then add the total hours
anyone else
this activity is very important it's just it's an eye opening activity Wallahi
anyone else how many hours
not the fee hours the hours that you spend doing these chores right? Your classes your brother your cooking time your cleaning time. 13 hours very good today Yeah. Anyone else?
So we've got 21 hours we've got 13 hours very good, very good. Anyone else?
Who mashallah, we have around 60 participants 56 participants I need I need an answer from all of you. 14 hours. Very good. Very good.
20 hours Very good. Anyone else?
Okay, 16 hours, okay, I'll just wind up the activity here inshallah you guys can focus and can do the activity later sometime. But
yeah, 14 gems, 16 gems or 20? Gem? 15 hours? Very good. Very good.
At now, hours, okay, mashallah most of you are doing now my question is you have been able to list down 21 hours, 14 hours to 18 hours, 18 hours. My question is, where are the rest of the hours going?
Where are these hours going? So if you have if you're, let's say if you're if you're unable to find three hours from your day, meaning 21 hours, you have been able to list down or 18 hours you have been able to list down, just multiply it with the number of days in a year, multiply it with 365 and see how many hours are going somewhere.
Right. So for example, if it's three, let's multiply it by three with 365 comes around something around 1100 1100 1100 hours, you can write a book in 1100 hours, you can do so many things. In 1100 hours, you can do courses at Kabara Academy in 1100 hours, right?
So
let's see. Tell me where are these hours going? When I did it with my students? They
they keep telling me where are these hours going? So they tell me these hours are wasted and talking in procrastinating this it's
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They're wasted and just roaming around. You're just walking around unnecessarily on our WhatsApp, our social media our free calling, and mindless scrolling. So once we are on Instagram, we are on Twitter we are on YouTube. Very good. So am I reading news so we have to know that you know in every part of the world how many people are dying of COVID 19 in every every single part of the world. Yes, social media really good Sahara TV, very good asthma. Then some of my students said,
eating unnecessarily spending so much time in the toilet and the washroom.
Some of they said excessive cleaning. So some of us are obsessed with cleaning. Wallah if you have children and if you have a house that house is bound to get mess messed up, right? And it's okay as handler and then opening the fridges fridge unnecessarily clutter the more we collect the movie have, the more time we have to spend in arranging that, for example, you have like
two, three dozen of wardrobe like two or three dozen of dresses to wear. Just imagine how much time does it take to so now my my request to all of you is that after this exercise, let's be very mindful of our time plus people. When I did this exercise for the first time I was blown away, I thought I was a very busy person. Like I have absolutely no hours in the day. And when I was able to when I was not able to find a few hours, I was so ashamed. I was like where are these hours going? I have no idea. So Subhanallah you have to be very mindful of these time thieves, especially in the month of Ramadan. Right, especially in the month of Ramadan. And we make dua to Allah subhanaw taala
to allow us to be conscious and conscious of our time in sha Allah, right?
So let's move on.
Okay, when it comes to relationship with Allah, we are going to do some goal setting right I'm I belong to the productive productivity world. So it's very important for me to, you know, set goals, set goals, about everything about life about Ramadan. And it's not only about me, I make sure that even my eight year old daughter, she's setting up some goals. And so remember that, it is said that if you plan to fail, if you fail to plan, you plan to fail.
If you fail to plan, you plan to fail, meaning that if you do not plan about anything in your life, you cannot achieve that thing very successfully. So for example, if you do not plan Ramadan, as in how many Jews are you going to recite every day? How much translation Are you going to read? Read every day? Are you going to join any courses? How mindfully will you be spending? One of someone told me that, you know, I'll be memorizing like a half in Ramadan. As I said, this is such an awesome goal. Because when you have a goal, then anytime that you have some free time, you will not be you know resorting to YouTube you will not be Mindlessly scrolling, you're like oh god, I have a
goal, I have to memorize Rekha. So every time you have a free time you'd prefer your mind will take you towards your goal. So one of the ways to you know kind of protect our time is to set some goals. And I keep giving this example you know, marriages
in my side of the world, I belong to Pakistan originally. And I have been living in Serbia for almost a decade now. Subhanallah the weddings are so meticulously planned, you know, from months and months before they decide the
the deeds, the dresses, how the decor is gonna be like, what could the venue be? How many guests are coming, how many events are we going to have? And everything is so so meticulously planned.
But then think about Ramadan you ask a common person just have a look at this picture you ask a common woman or a common person where to How's how's your Ramadan gonna be you know what what's your plan and they would say yeah, all the food is ready all the frozen items or the you know, the summer salads and everything is ready and it's panela there's no there's no harm in getting the frozen items ready and it's going to save you a lot of time inshallah. I'm also planning to at least prepare some of the frozen items I have not prepared anything in terms of food as yet
but the only thing I'm saying that this should not be the only thing when it comes to Ramadan. I mean food should not be the only thing so inshallah let's let's try to go beyond food let's try to go beyond cooking and try to plan other things inshallah so we can make it inshallah inshallah our best Ramadan ever. So last month, Allah says in Quran
We're talking about our relationship with Allah. Allah Subhan Allah says in Quran isharo Ramadan a lady on Zillow fee Hill Quran that Ramadan is a month in which Quran was revealed. So how the month is being introduced then introduction is not like Ramadan into one month in which people fast Ramadan is a month in which you know, something else happens is you see Ramadan is one in which Quran was ready, meaning you need to have a very strong connection with Quran in this Ramadan, then in another ayah last contra says yeah as usual Adina
yeah actually Levine Avenue, Cookie Valley, CUCM Kamakoti, Barella Latina and Kamala, Darla catacomb that all those of you who have believed fasting has been prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those who were before you that you may possibly attain the COA. You know, what is the core there? Of course, there are some major definitions of the core, but I understand the best that the core is a kind of fear that changes your action. So if I say Oh, I'm very scared of Allah, I'm very scared of Allah. But I don't pray. That's not the core. That's it. That's just a simple half. Right? You're just being fearful of Allah. But you don't have Taqwa. And remember Jana has been has been promised
to the pain. Jana has been promised to people who have Taqwa. So it's like whoa, I'm very fearful of Allah. But in Ramadan, I just keep sleeping. And I'm very fearful of a lot old. You know, Hellfire is so scary, but I'm not going to change my action. I'm just going to watch all the seasons of all the seasons available on YouTube and I'm just gonna hook on to next Netflix. No, in that case, you are not. You're not having to offer law. You can see you're fearful of Allah but not the taqwa.
So, if you claim to have the taco of Allah, then you will have to do what Allah asked you to do. It is very closely associated with the actions we take. Right? So this, this is something that we need to keep in mind.
All right, is everyone with me? Is everyone following?
Oh, please tell me that I'm not talking to myself.
Is everyone with me? Okay, thank you.
Thank you, Sister, Nadia. Okay, handle I'm sure that you guys are busy in taking notes, right hamdulillah alright.
So one of the things that I would request you to do is to have some realistic goals, realistic goals, meaning that you know, some of us have some mandatory roles, right, for example, I am a mother. And
you know, in Ramadan, my mandatory role is not going to change, meaning I still have to feed my kids that there will not be fasting at least a younger one will not be fasting. So I still have to feed him I still have to clean him. I still have to provide him with the the clothes I still have to you know, do everything that is associated. Similarly, if you know any one of you have old parents or sick parents, you will have to take care of it.
You Yes, it's done in media.
So you asked me you don't have the Coppola.
What I said was that in order to have Taqwa of Allah, you have to do what Allah asked you to do, right? It's very much related to the actions.
Right?
Okay. If you still don't understand it, please ask me in the Analects explain it again. Inshallah. Okay, so I was talking about mandatory rule or this kind of law.
If you have, if you have sick parents to take care of, you will still have to take care of them, right. So these things are not going to change. So in the light of these roles, I cannot have some unrealistic like, I'm going to finish around 10 times oh, no, no, no, no.
No matter how much I want to do it, it's not practically possible for me to go through Brenton times because I have other roles to play as well. Similarly, if it's that your husband or your brother who is earning and who has to go to the office, and who has to, you know, run the business in order to be able to feed you, they do not have unrealistic goals like okay, I'm going to just shut down my shop and just sit in the house and do it and I remember anything that you do for the sake of Allah, or out of the fear of Allah is very bad, and you will be rewarded. So for example, if I believe that my children are Amana of Allah Subhana Allah, and I cannot leave them like this and just, you know,
it's like, I'm not giving you breakfast. I have to finish Quran 10 times. That's how it doesn't work right. So insha Allah whatever role that alas pantalla has made incumbent on you and when you are full
filling that role.
Please, please, please
understand that Allah, Allah, Allah does agile and you will be rewarded for those roles as well. Right? So a lot of times what happens is that they are young mothers, and they so badly want to go to for their army. But of course the children are so small that some of the most do not permit and they are so sad and I personally have experienced this myself,
then inshallah our reward rests with Allah, right, taking care of the baby is forced on me, nobody's going to come and take care of my baby, right? This is one thing, but at the same time, I would request you to push beyond your limits, I'd request you to step up your game. Now what do I mean by that? What you know, your your mandatory rules are there. But you also have a personal life meaning you have a life in which you are sleeping, you have a life in which you are scrolling Facebook, you have a life in which you are what's happening. Now your challenges, right is to take out extra time from your personal life and give it to last panda right so if you're spending like two three hours
on social media every day, just mica mica resolve just tell that I bill a hand today decided that I'm not going to use social media for let's say, one month for the month of Ramadan. This is kind of not practically possible for me because I have still have to
send the update I have to update the information about my classes. So I'm just giving you one examples if you do not have any sort of connection for example for us social media as a means to connect with people in a sense that our classes are taking place so I have to inform people about when am I taking classes when is my daughter taking classes? So in that case, it should be fine but if I make a promise to myself that I'm a lot mindlessly scroll Facebook, a lot mindlessly Check everyone status is right. So take out 10 Or maybe if you sleep for like nine hours 10 hours maybe you can say I'm going to sleep for like six hours in Ramadan or seven hours in Ramadan and then I'm
going to dedicate the rest of the hours to the worship of Allah Subhana Allah because Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran, a Yama might do that. These are just small accounted number of days that they're just
they're not a lot of days just 29 or 30 Maybe that's it. And if we cannot compromise our sleep or eating pattern are these for the sake of Allah just for 30 days, when are we going to compromise? Right so this is what I mean by stepping up your game or just kind of slightly pushing beyond limits are you pushing yourself beyond limits? Right?
So maybe says there's a slight typo in the
in the slide but it's okay I think you get you get the idea. Okay. Now we come to the kind of practical part in which we are going to learn to do goal setting right. So first I want you to focus on
first I want you to focus on this part.
There is the pen
on this part right let's focus on this part can you all see this part?
thing with the pin
can you all see this part that I've circled like three times
yes, no maybe.
Okay, excellent martial law. Okay. So, understand this concept right?
When we talk about building a relationship with Allah subhanaw taala
Everything starts with the action that Allah Subhana Allah has made mandatory that Allah Subhana Allah has made further upon us. So what is that we cannot get closer to Allah subhanaw taala by missing the.
Ceremony Monica
let me share the screen. Okay. So, the point that I was trying to make, can you guys see my screen now?
Okay, so the point that I was trying to make before I disconnected is at whatever level your Salah is, please take it to the next level.
I'm free with more who should try to learn new Surahs in your Salah, then some that is also for the foreigner so I know that in certain parts of the world is going to be very long hours and it's hot also so it's going to be slightly difficult to pass but remember the reward that is attached to some Allah smart Allah says some will leave on zeebee that the fasting is for me and I'm going to reward for fasting and we don't know what the reward is, there's going to be surprise for us inshallah. So if there's a God is further upon you, you have to pay this as well. But of course, this is a month of Quran and you have to establish your relationship with Quran and see it's one thing to just
recite Quran, but it's a whole different experience to be able to understand for an in the language that it was to be. So maybe one of the walls could be to maybe learn a few words of Arabic maybe learn a few bit of grammar, maybe learned that week, whatever it is for you. Then there are we of course, massages are open and inshallah hide if they're not open fair and that as well. Then the Quran Allah last month Allah says Allah decree Lajitas minor Kulu that with the vicar of Allah your hearts find peace and tahajjud the hundreds this is going to be easier in Ramadan because we are going to wake up for for Su anyway. So the hadith is the time and last part Allah comes down and he
asks us that is there anyone who wants to you know, is there anyone who wants something and I'm going to give that something that to that person? It just imagine the entire DVD asking loss formula I want this I want this I want that and the 100 There's a time when Allah's common is asking us what do you want and I'm gonna give it to you so even if you do not create 100 The entire year
I'm sure that
Ramadan is a great time to build a habit and then whatever so now you want to adopt again best time for it. Whether it's the Sunnah of reciting the Muslim glass of entering the bathroom coming out of the bathroom or the doors of breaking open the fast or is any other tsunami we bring a shark maybe bring Mr. Phil whatever it is for you. Because the last month Allah says that if you want the love of Allah then it's important for you it's incumbent on you to follow the Prophet and then take off if you possibly can. Now what do you what I want you to do is when it comes to goal setting is that again I'll get the pointer here
Okay, so you now you see this part,
this is a goal setting part. So for example, for an now in the goal setting part you have to right, just change the color here
colors not changing in the goal setting part here. I would like to like write, how many Quran am I going to recite? So let's say I'll finish brand two times or if I'll finish Quran one time, that's what I want to write. Right? And then in the next part here, I'm going to write when am I going to read that Quran because if you just just say I'm going to recite the Quran, but when that's very important so maybe in the morning 5:30am Post time to six to 8am and in the evening 8pm so I can finish one Jews here one just there so inshallah Two Jews per day I'd be able to finish the Quran so that are we maybe I'll go everyday male BBL alternate days, whatever it is for you. Right, whatever
is easy for you or whatever is realistic for you. Then a scar, whatever your target is, maybe I'm going to recite Lila Hill Allahu Allah will actually color who this entire thing like 100 times? And then when are you going to do this? So that's how we do goal setting. We do not make goals in there. Like we do not say I'm going to recite Quran twice, but I have no idea. When am I going to do that? So this part is very important, then sooner or soon, how many? How many of Santa? Let's see, I'll recite the two hours of going to the bathroom.
And let's help each other out. So what time will you be praying each dog you have to see your local timings. So this means it let's let's move ahead.
Okay, today's system. Remember, in productivity world, we say that if it is not in your calendar, you don't want to do it. Meaning if you have not planned and sheduled something, it's very unlikely that you're going to do it right. Can you can you just imagine reciting the Quran
you know, even even once
without having the intention. It's really hard. It's really hard. So, when it comes to intention, if we have had the intention with that we are going to finish that Quran or the recitation of Quran or the meaning of Quran and for some reason for some genuine reason we are unable to
Do that inshallah we will be rewarded for anemia. So that's why intention goal setting it's so important if even if it's a panel our deen is so beautiful that even if you are unable to do it practically Allah will reward us for Armenia Allah will reward us for Ania inshallah So, another thing is very important thing is
another very important thing is tracking
right
okay
Okay one thing that I wanted to say is that these days Subhan Allah this lot of things a lot of courses a lot of volume around a lot of this and that is available
Okay, so, these days so many things are available on net and sometimes it can be very distracting, you want to join one course and then the people are bombarding you with another course and with so many things are happening. So what I would request you to do is to take one course
and stick to it right avoid distractions see what is realistic for you what is feasible for you. So, if there is one course that says that you have to you know, spend three hours every day to listen to this stuff, see, maybe it's practical for some people maybe it's not practical for some people. So take up one course and then stick to it so avoid distraction that's another important part
okay
okay tracking remember whatever you track you improve whatever you track you improve so make a simple tracker for yourself right I personally love tracking so I've been tracking my goals and especially my Ramadan goals for like past 1213 years.
So it doesn't have to be anything complicated there are so many versions that are available on net
even if something is not able not available on net you can make a simple chart like this. So on these columns on this horizontal line you like right 123456 Meaning this is this is your
this is your first Ramadan
this is
one spotlight nice okay, this is Ramadan number one this is Ramadan number 23456 2019. So what your what your goals are for example, Salah have I prayed five times a day put a tick here
right? Put a tick here have I made my car morning evening a car and whatever a car had kept for myself put a tick here have I decided to just add one just per day happiness, credit, whatever it is, was my clock we'll talk about a clock in a while. Did I give the charity of course profits and allows them used to give charity. It is said about profits Allah Salam that he was the most generous person and his generosity would increase in the days of Ramadan. Right. And it he was more generous than than the wind. I mean, just imagine how how the wind blows. He was even more generous than that. Did I pray that we did not pray that we did I do moderate eating such at the end of the day.
So for example, if you if you kind of put a you have had to put across on something, let's say you couldn't do charity, or you couldn't recite your Quran, you will be very mindful of it the next day. You'd be like, oh my god yesterday, there's this red Miko here. This is so scary. I have to recite it today. I have to make up for what I have not done yesterday. So this is what we mean. When we say that whatever you track you improve.
Is everyone with me understanding following you? Or do you understand the concept of tracking sheet or the tracker
to remember, if you're tracking your goals, you're going to understand and you're going to improve on that inshallah. Right. All right. All right, let's move on.
Okay, one of the things that I would really want to talk about here is gratitude. This is my favorite topic to talk on alas convalescence in Iran, if you're grateful. I'll give you more. I mean, subhanAllah most of us are in a state of lockdown. And they refuse we are we are under curfew at this at this point of time. But then again, if we if we start counting the blessings of Allah that are inside our houses, we won't even we won't be able to come there last month losses and Quran and if you try to count the blessings of Allah you will not be able to. So gratitude is this so much research done on gratitude and this is personally my favorite subject.
So they came up with the fact that you know, the more gratitude you practice, the more grateful you are to loss controller, your depression level lowers down your anxiety level lowers down your happiness, happiness level goes up
So what I personally do with my family is that my children are still small. So we, when we are sitting for lunch or dinner, we just just come three things that we are grateful for. So one of your goals, just my suggestion, take it if you like, one of your goals can be your when you're sitting at your Iftar table or your sagoo table, maybe you can, each of you can count the blessings of Allah Subhana Allah, right, so you wouldn't be able to focus on this panel, there's so much negativity in the world and negativity is bombarded on us from all different directions. So, positivity is something that we have to consciously inculcate that we have to consciously make the part of our
personality and gratitude is something that really helps you become a positive person. So just imagine that if you will be counting three things every day, and if they are 10 family members, when they are like they would have counted like 20 things every day and by the end of Ramadan, you would have counted 900 things that you guys are absolutely grateful for, then just make it a catch that do not repeat something right. So if you have said I'm grateful for the food, then do not let the other person say that he's grateful for the food ask them to come up with something else right. So that you know all of you can focus on something else. And children will surprise you they will tell you
what the things that oh my god you wouldn't even imagine like handle. So there are so many things to be grateful for. You ask people what are they grateful for? And all of a sudden they're like
this start thinking about it. I mean, subhanAllah isn't, isn't the fact that you're breathing? Isn't the fact that you're talking? Is it the fact that you're able to interact with each other? Isn't it a blessing in and of itself? So this is something that we can practice and make a part of our personality during Ramadan in Chiang Mai Arabic.
Okay, let's move on.
Some common mistakes that we do when it comes to Ramadan, we talk about it in a while skipping school, remember Prophet sallallahu sallam said that there is baraka and so called meaning the kind of when you eat that food, there is baraka in it, meaning it is enough to keep you keep you working the entire day. Just imagine in a normal day, we have our
breakfast, two hours down the road, we are hungry again. We want to have a snack and then we have lunch and then we have our tea time and then we have our dinner so we are eating the entire day. But that entire day's worth of energy is coming from one meal. That's so good. So Baraka is something that comes in doesn't go away easily. So there are a lot of people who just sleep after the dinner and they will wake up for codger. This is this is not something that is in line with Santa so please make sure that you're waking up first of all you're eating at that point of time, so that the baraka stays with you that so that the food is enough or the food is enough to sustain you the entire day.
Then we'll talk about staying awake the entire night. Eating too much in a thar
sugary drink wasting time shopping grocery lists talk about all these things in a way okay, one of the ways to strengthen our relationship with the last panel is to make damn right we don't need God because number one sometimes we have absolutely no idea how to make and sometimes we are due so disappointed that you know I've been making so and so do and was not answered and I'm not making anymore then some some of us think that we're so sinful How can I stand in front of Allah and ask for something when I'm sinning? And some people are like come on, let's be realistic. That's that's not gonna be accepted. Some some people are too depressed to meet ya. And some people have no time
to make the Ramadan is a month of making the US making a lot of dollars right last month Allah says Allah Nobuko, only a stable account that you Lord said call upon me and I will answer your last month I was not saying that. I will not answer you because you're so sinful last model is not saying that I will not answer you because you're so depressed, you know, he's saying Whoever you are, wherever you are calling me from whatever you are calling me for. I'm available. Right? And then Allah smart Allah also said that when my two Prophet sallallahu Sallam that when we say when asked you about me tell them that I'm near which he put out in the eye that and that I answered the call
of the caller when he calls upon me and then he should mean God to me right?
So that's what the last part of the law says. So remember guys your connection with your Lord it is when you call someone and the other person picks up the call, you can actually establish right so similarly when you meet God will last panel and last one Allah listens to you got the connection established. And last month the law says that I am as my soul when things I am meaning that whatever. Whatever then we have with Allah that Allah will Allah is going to answer our prayer with is not going to answer my prayer. He is just like that. So if you have no idea how to make God what I have, personally, I am very I'm a kind of a person whose memory is like SubhanAllah. So I like to
write down everything because, you know, there are so many precious hours in Ramadan.
and was are accepted and I don't want to forget anyone during that time. So I have been writing my boss for like again for like past 1230 years. So, and of course every Ramadan I kind of revise the dualist. So how do you make dua so you start with if you start with yourself, it includes your health, your wealth, your education, your dunya, whatever it is for you want to build established a business, you want to house you want to travel, you want to have fun, you want to do courses, you want to study, whatever it is for you. You want a handsome husband, very kind of practicing husband, need to make up for every single thing, that companions even when there surely is broke they would
make to Allah Subhana Allah right and then you ACARA seek a lot of repentance seek a lot of is the heart and then we go for you believe me God that when the time when you die, the angels that are coming, the those angels should come who did the tools of the good people, pious people so nice, bright faced angels.
May Allah grant us Kosar May Allah allow us to cross the Surat with confidence and with a very fast speed and may Allah grant us from all the
all the
all the hustle or all the you know kind of fearful events of the day of piano right in May Allah may Allah mica Huseynov more in the Nissan and may Allah allow us to enter the Jana with family similarly may go for everyone write down your parents name your spouse your children grandparents in laws in their health their well their Deen their mafara their particular test and drugs as they're going through their health. Right that's how you make the dollar so make sure my dear sisters you it was written and wireless already. So that you do not forget any important dua at the time when your doors are accepted. Right? Okay, I'm just going to be a little more quicker because I'm just scared
that if my mobile data will support me enough or not. So just a little bit about relationship with the family. So remember to involve your family in your decision when it comes to Ramadan.
Your spouse, your children, whoever you are living with.
So one of the things that you can do is to have accountability buddy from your family. You can have your sister your husband and make a common goal let's be we are going to memorize like a half so you are memorizing your husband is memorizing or you are memorizing your sister is memorizing. So when you feel down, she will motivate you. And when she feels down, you will motivate her right so when you make common goals, the probability of goals being accomplished it increases
okay, then
have a family Ramadan meeting, divide the chores if your mom is cooking, tell you mom that I'm going to do the dishes. If you are cooking fees require someone else to do the dishes, please facilitate it for the woman folk of the family. Decide the menu and keep it simple. I'm not saying that you know do not eat nice things, please do eat nice whatever you can afford.
But keep it simple. The simpler you keep it the easier it is going to be for you to focus on more important things and decide and share the goals as just just just a way said, have common family goals. Maybe all of you decide together that we are going to memorize that particular Surah or we are going to recite Surah Mulk every day. So everyone in the house before sleeping reciting Surah Mulk. So that's how it becomes easier. o'clock, my dear sisters would people like us who claim to be religious there's something very strange if you're very full of of luck and nice behavior and smiling when we are outside. But the moment we enter our house, you know there's a switch changes
this this personality change. And we don't smile at our spouse, we don't smile at our children, we don't smile at our I usually give the stats to my student and say go and unnecessarily smile at any of your family member and just notice their reaction and I'm sure they'd be surprised like what's wrong with you? Why are you smiling today? Right, because we don't spare profits. And the last one was a person who smiled the most sunlight on me. So practice to put a flag with the the family members, right the other people who deserve our best o'clock the most.
Then of course be nice with the neighbors share the food, see if they need anything. And the financially challenged people are
more than ever. I think they are in need of your support because canola oil is locked down. A lot of people have lost jobs. A lot of people have lost the businesses so please remember them as well. Then
it's about your relationship with your self and when it comes to self. I'll be talking about four things
To put you in the water you're doing exercise, whether we exercise or not, and sleep, and we're going to do it quickly.
So food
please when it comes to food, remember you are what you eat. You are what you eat. Meaning if you eat pizza and burger and sugary drink and colas and what do you call it soft drink fizzy drinks for Sahul dressed assured that your entire days wasted because the post junk food feeling is so bad it makes you lethargic, it doesn't want to make you get off the bed. It just wants it just makes you sleepy all day. So remember to choose your food wisely if not for the rest of your life, at least for Ramadan because you cannot afford to waste the precious moment of Ramadan sleeping just because you made a wrong food choice. And when it comes to food make sure to include all food groups in all
food groups meaning protein, fats and carbohydrates, complex carbohydrates and of course, some of you will have certain health conditions hypothyroidism, hypothyroidism
and diabetes whatever. So, you will have to look at what is allowed for you at this this is I'm speaking very generally for a normal person who does not have any underlying health condition right this is a very important point and request a sister to please translate this point right. So these guidelines are general for the people who do not have any underlying health conditions or not not for the people who
Subhanallah have
any any any health condition in which they are following a certain food protocol, right.
So you can eat egg so B vitamins your proteins are covered whole wheat flour, date Steve's are like full of everything's halal. Always is black seed milk or shoots honey. You can add these in your school you can add these in your
invoice to school which are traditional but unhealthy right so in the subcontinent side, we have a lot of traditional food for Iftar and very traditional food for food but that completely unhealthy like all the samosa ours that are dipped and they are like drenched in oil.
You have to look for this and then sugary drinks like when you drink when you break up on the fast with sugary drinks. What happens is that your blood sugar level it just collapses they are like super high in the glycemic index. I do not want to get into too much details of nutrition. But please, please replace it with something healthy will replace it maybe with an obese or replace it with something
that that's a healthier option. Avoid sleeping right after eating. Right this is so important that a lot of people we eat so much in a thought that we'd collapse right after that and we have no strength left for Salah we have no strength left foot Ravi, no please don't do it to yourself. eat in moderation prophets, Allah wa salam said the worst reason that a person falls is histamine. If you must drink, if you must eat then 1/3 of the stomach for food 1/3 for water and 1/3 for a that's enough for you know
to keep us going and I also like to tell you one thing that it actually takes 20 minutes for the brain to register that the tummies full. So when you stop eating a little before you feel full, when you're still a little hungry, that's the that's the perfect time to stop eating. Because you're it will take at least 20 minutes for you to for your brain to register that your tummies full. So one of the main tips that we gave is to break open the fast have light food, whatever you want to have and then go pray and then come back and you'll see a lot of desire to you know, so your desire to eat a lot will would have subsided.
Okay, let's move on hydration. Oh, I cannot emphasize enough on the importance of drinking water.
So lack of water causes mood swings, lack of focus many other concentration problems and here fall and I don't know what more. So keep a check on your hydration level. Drink a lot of water between Iftar in school so make sure you're at least drinking a glass of water I can take teach you the whole formula of calculating the number of quarters for yourself, but time wouldn't permit me to do that. So I'm just giving you the standard guideline of drinking eight to 10 glass of water according to your body weight according to your of course if there's a child who is like eight years of age with a 25 to 30 kg of weight which he or she wouldn't be needing as much water as you do, being an
adult and being tall and being heavy in weight. So but the general general guideline for adults is to drink adult woman is to drink eight eight to 10 glasses of water so make sure you are keeping yourself hydrated
Did because if you're not hydrated enough next day, you wouldn't want to concentrate on your car you wouldn't want to concentrate on your Quran you will be cranky you will be any you will have very low control over your mood. So, these things are very closely associated with hydration level exercise please remember that exercise gives you also happy hormones. So if you cannot
exercise for like 45 minutes, if you're under lockdown, so, maybe you can choose the exercise that is, you know, that is kind of can can be done in a compact space like you can try skipping rope so you can try stationary jogging or you can try you know, walking by standing at a place. So these things are definitely going to help you to exercise produce all the happy hormones if you're like very cranky, if you're not happy with something, please exercise and all of a sudden your mood will change inshallah. And the last thing that I would like to talk about is the sleep against sleep has a direct effect on our mood.
I'm really sorry there's a typo in the slide it says sleep after throwaway.
Okay
so remember, Allah Subhana Allah has made the night to sleep. Last month, Allah says in Quran which ALLAH Leila labasa that we have made night a covering. So no matter how much you sleep the entire day, it cannot compensate for the sleep that you have during the night.
As it starts to get dark, a body produces melatonin, right? Melatonin is a hormone that signals your body that it's time to sleep is that is the time that I personally like to switch off all the lights in my house and I just turn on the lamps here and there. And so we start winding up. And remember prophets, Allah wa salam discouraged us to talk after the show and you know, engage in worldly chores, it means that poster RB is the best time to sleep because the nights are going to be very short. Then I said going to be very short, please, if you have a ritual of staying away the entire night in Ramadan, peace, please get rid of that ritual. Why? Because
even if you sleep for like four or five, six hours in the night, and you keep sleeping for like 12 hours during the day, these both these numbers are not the same. Then sleep you have. At night, it kind of energizes you, you're going in line with sutra. The more you go against the nature, the more you go against the fitrah. The more trouble you have, right, the more everything messes up for you. So make sure that you're sleeping during that night no matter what. And please get rid of this ritual of staying away, then poor sleep for post purchase sleep is highly discouraged. Right? It's highly discouraged. That is a time when you should be making your car when you should be reciting
put on and of course then you have to compensate for the sleep, then maybe post Iraq sleep post Iraq is a good time to sleep in pallulah post with the herd or before a little before the war. These are the good times to sleep. Right.
That's it from my side with my dear sisters, we talked about relationship with the last panel our goal tracking, goal setting goal tracking. We talked about relationships with our family when we talked about a relationship with ourselves. That's all from my side. If you have any questions, go ahead.
No,
Monica says
Allah,
one sister is going to ask.
And the question is,
I really
would you would you please give her the advice about
when she's already done a sin,
maybe some kind of sin, how to has done in how to do little, the little but sincerely to Allah.
So
she wants to fix everything, because
she wants to fix her sin and wants to do the tobacco.
But sometimes
she just didn't know what to do and
because
she said some kind of secret and the secret is we can her we can have self we can her home and she really wants to be a better
a better person and wants to have a better relation with our sworn oath Allah but she has so much regret of her sins and that really bother her. So her question
Who is?
Would you give her an advice about how to
do the shower? Maybe? And leave without regrets?
Very good question. Thank you very much, my sister for asking this question. First of all, I congratulate you
for accepting the fact that you have sent us panela there are so many people who are sending for just ruining someone else's life and they don't care. So the realization that I send and the fact that it is bothering you is a very good sign. Well, Allah is glad tiding from Allah Subhana Allah. Right. Now, this is one thing that if you're feeling bad about it, that's a good thing. It means you're conscious, it's still alive. The second thing is that Alaska says in Quran that when you sin, just see forgiveness and Allah will forgive the Dunoon Jimmy and all of them and how to make how to make tabula rasa is the most popular you know, relationship with Allah subhanaw taala it is so easy
making dua
and it's just like you know, you sit you just offer to Nephal makes himself a call. And we got to the last part that I that I'm extremely ashamed of what I did. Please forgive me, please forgive me. It's as simple as that. You cry if you want to you you promise the last part like that you won't repeat that sin. You wake up with the hatchet. This is a diamond. The last one that is asking is Is there anyone who wants to seek repentance and I will forgive that's the best time to seek repentance. Right? And once you do it, my dear sisters, please believe in the promise of Allah. He says in Quran I'm sorry, I'm not able to recall the ayah that Allah will forgive all the sins if you
if you if you do Toba. Right, the part of our Eman is to believe in in the promises of Allah that He has made us and he has made the promise that if we seek repentance through sincere heart and I can see the way the sister has maybe translated your question, I can see that there is a lot of repentance there's a lot of regret. Right and then Subhanallah when you make the Oba with sincerity with last then believe in the promise of Allah that you will be forgiven. Right and then you will be like you have as if you have not committed any sin. Right so go ahead make Toba to Allah smart Allah give some charity base, pray some additional lava fill, and then believe that Allah smart Allah is
going to forgive you. I hope that that that helps.
Okay, when when you repeat the slideshow, then you shouldn't be sleeping, you shouldn't be sleeping post post schedule time after fajr time, there is a slide
this is not the time to sleep.
Also just sleep is not
right. This is the time to sleep.
Sleeping after we if you want to take a nap, this is a good time to take nap or if you want to do calcula this is a good time to do Tallulah. This is the worst time to sleep. Because these are the baraka hours, you can get done in half an hour after fajr What you cannot get done in four hours in any other part of the day. Well, I had had this what I have. I have I've seen for myself because I have always been especially during my student life I've always been a morning person and whatever I would memorize post for your time after fajr time.
I would have to put in a lot of effort and a lot of hours when in any other part of the day. It has been you know most most of the people are sleeping and you know this.
The entire atmosphere is distraction free and SubhanAllah. So many people are
even when people are working there, they're there with themselves they're not kind of
irritating anyone else. So that's a very distraction free time. How Much Water Should I drink during Cebu time? See my dear sisters,
I cannot give you a number because I don't know how much how much your weight is how much your height is. So remember that general guideline from you shouldn't be drinking.
Sorry, that's my husband mobile.
You shouldn't be drinking a lot of water at one given time like your poor glasses of water before so no, that's that's not that's that's going to have a very bad impact on your kidneys. But divide your time
between Iftar and suhoor like eight,
eight to
eight to 10 glasses of water.
How to focus some productive. See, a focus comes with a lot of things right. And one of the things that I can tell you right now is to look for the hours and 80
to
where you can you can focus the most. So for example, ours is after fajr This is the best time to focus areas. For example, in my house my I have a very small house. So in my bedroom, I have this corner in which I have set up my office. Right? So when I do my office tasks, and I'm sitting there, because that's the office for me, so that helps me to focus right.
I hope that this answered the question.
Is rockin canula time would differ for everybody. You will have to see your time zone where are you? If you're in Indonesia, it would be different from my time timezone. Right. Right. I'm super excited because during Ramadan, I'm sure yes, that's that's a very good question sisters. Right? Yeah, because the first 10 days we are super excited. And then after the 10 days, that dip comes and we are like or the best thing is to renew your intention and listen to any motivational lecture have the accountability buddy, that's why I keep saying
that having an accountability buddy who can you know, still kind of motivate you to keep doing what you're doing? So these are the things that can really help us to prevent that dip, can we sleep after shots See, when I cannot actually tell you when you should be sleeping and when you should not be sleeping? These are just the suggestions. So my suggestion is if you can if you want to have a nap, maybe half an hour 45 minutes and after a shock is better than after fajr right.
Well yaki there have been
some of you are sending private messages so
any other question my dear sisters
alright if you do not have any questions I'll just wind it up and making dua to Allah subhanaw taala to make it our best Ramadan ever to allow us to implement whatever we have learned together to allow us not to get get distracted at any point at any point during Ramadan and may Allah protect us from all the fitness that are surrounding us and allow us to have
best time getting there. What should I say dear sisters, when it comes to mobile, maybe you can turn off your whatsapp notification maybe you can delete some of the apps maybe you can delete your whatsapp Instagram Instagram or what do you call it Facebook app. So these things can really help just tell yourself it is just one month I'll reinstall that haps but for the month of Ramadan if
you do not have any literally connection with these things like the way I said I don't have Facebook or Instagram apps in my mobile any way. But
if you can delete these apps, that's the best thing to do.
Then then I'm not a very tech savvy person there are some trackers in the mobile that tells you that how many hours have you spent on internet or on certain apps per day? So at the end of the day, it sends you that data I've not read it myself I'm not a very technical person but it's good to have that app if if you really like to track how many hours are you spending on end and then you can maybe you can see it at the night and just make a promise to use less number of hours the next day
I don't know what law he wants my brother sent me the that app
please delete Facebook. What you can do is that if the lectures are coming maybe can still switch to laptop because opening the laptop is still takes you know some energy than opening the mobiles and please do not do not go after so many lectures system Reen because then this is going to mess up with whatever you personal should you will is whatever you personal about the time is right Wow sister asthma that's excellent. So just stick to one lecture one course anything one at a time. And then focus more on your personal about on your personal development on your relationship with your cell phone your relationship with your loved ones inshallah any other question my dear sisters
okay that that depends upon what do you do to keep the kids entertained during your about the time that depends upon the age of the kids, right? So if you have any very small kids, and maybe you can just make them sit with you. Or if you have slightly older kids see, they can do so many things together like I am teaching you and my kids are outside. They are doing some Ramadan decoration thing, right? The ages eight year and four
yours. So sometimes you know talking to the kids and making them realize that you know, this is Mama's knee time. This is this is the time when Mama is going to focus on the lecture this is not when you're coming inside right? When you talk to them they understand so maybe if they are at a certain issue if you can talk to them maybe they're not at the at at that age group you can keep them with you and inshallah you will be rewarded for you either but please do not give them gadgets to keep them entertained please and so much for kids to get it please do not do not give them gadgets
when is my next session? I don't know maybe the bar Khobar sisters can tell you
thank you very much sister Shamim we thank you very much my sister Sister Sultana there is absolutely no need to
thank me and see all these things inshallah. I hope and I pray that my reward rests with Allah if you have any questions please go ahead with that
Okay, since you're saying that we will announce when there is lecture
how we keep our throat wet in infection and dissipate of Coronavirus? I am
I'm not sure that you know that. That's more of a fifth question. So if you have have been infected by Coronavirus
maybe you can be exempted from your fast i don't know I'm not authorized to answer the questions. And if you just feel Coronavirus in there's no need to fear it if you just didn't water keep your throat moist out of the fear of Coronavirus and I absolutely think that there is no need to be fearful whatever Allah has written for us it will reach us in whatever Allah has not written for us it for important reaches inshallah
sister Lubna Khobar sisters have a group inshallah maybe any of the sister can give you the number you can join this group and the sister will inform you about all the courses and the lectures that are coming up my own daughter is studying in Khobar mashallah, so I would highly recommend you joining this group inshallah.
Is it not preferable on every Muslim that he plays in time of course, it's incumbent on every Muslim to pray on time
See, my dear sister Irene, and just any one thing, pick up one person, pick up one person that you really resonate with. Right, and follow it follow one course I would really say that reminders really benefit us. So for myself, I have started around with a seed I know the translation of Quran I know that that we but still I keep revising, I keep revising because we tend to forget so even for myself, I have kept something that I'll just be following one
course related to Penang, but then a lot be looking at everything you know, all these sisters and brothers are doing and their Facebook Live that Facebook like no I love the following anything else other than what I have chosen for myself. So I have chosen one Quran course for myself that is that fits my schedule that would make me contemplate and focus more on Quran and that's it for me. Right and I do not look at into what other people are doing similarly for my daughter again, I'll tell you she's eight years old. So she will be giving one class like she will be taking classes during Ramadan. So maybe you guys if you have young children, they can join her class as well.
You can you can maybe look at looking into my Facebook for the details. Or
one course issue we'll be delivering and one course that you will be attending that's it.
Right and other than that, it's our personal about it's our personal recitation time personal
understanding and personal you know, family kind of
stuff, family lecture time and all this nothing else right.
All right, any other question?
Yeah, what is insha? Allah can we wind up now? The sisters here the Khobar sisters
they can finish and channel one right and make dua to Allah subhanaw taala to make it beneficial for all of you, and for myself and to implement whatever we have started together. BarakAllahu li Walakum insha Allah S and R Alikum. rahmatullah wa barakatu.
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