Adnan Rajeh – Seerah Halaqah Episode 17
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The speakers discuss the importance of avoiding negative comments on one's appearance and the use of symbolism, including the negative impact of parents on children and the history of the Middle East, including the death of the first-ever-ager and the misogyny of the Middle East. They also touch on parenting and being a good Muslim to avoid negative consequences, as well as the powerful narrative of a woman accepting Islam and discovering she wasn't the right person to ask for. The transcript describes a woman who accepted Islam and later discovered she wasn't the right person to ask for, as well as a powerful narrative about her actions.
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Today, the session today, probably even next week
may not be here next week. But over the next few sessions, we'll be going through the persecution stories of the sahaba. Like I said, from your number three, basically to your number 10, almost, or maybe it will be more than that we don't have I can't run you through a sequence here what happened in the room before, here's what happened. Number five, is hard, because we don't know exactly the sequence of thing. But we do know, in bulk, what happened during that period. So I can tell you two stories, but you may go through if you go depending on the collection, you may find one story up before the other, not exactly the same sequence that I'm telling you this because scholars don't
know for sure what the sequence is.
So the way I like doing it is talking about the persecution of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam underwent, and I talked about that in terms of his reputation, physical, social, financial, etc. And then talk about this persecution of the Sahaba, or the low I don't want to go through. And then we kind of point out specific things that happened because of persecution, and then move on to obviously some of the events that happen afterwards. So today, we'll go through some of the stories of those who haven't I think last week, I started by telling the story of Bill in Raba, Habashi, of the Allahu anhu, about the Great, the great Sahabi
beard of Allah Han who
was taken from Ivy Senia, modern day Ethiopia, as far as we can tell. And he was brought with his mother and his brother and maybe a sister were unsure. But they were brought and they were enslaved in Mecca for a long time. And Bill Dillahunty was the eldest of his siblings, and he took care of them. He accepted Islam with the Prophet Allah, you saw some early on, he was very close to say it in a bucket of silica De La Hoya and say that oh, my God loved him and knew him beforehand. So the Prophet Allah, he's awesome. So you went spoke to him early on, and indeed accepted Islam in the first couple of days. And because of that, he was persecuted pretty roughly by his by the person
who, who owned him, and then he may have been aleph. And there's a story that will kind of come become a bit more clear later on when we talking about the Battle of Belgium.
But it may have been cut off because he was one of the leaders of four he felt it was a
it was a problem for his own dignity, that we that had accepted Islam openly. So he felt embarrassed because of that. So he would, he would basically torture be learned, and they put a boulder on his on his chest as they lay him down, tied up on the desert sand, and they would lash him and stuff like that. And saying they'd be able to do it would only say the only words he would, you know, he would see would utter or those words, and every time they tried to get him to say anything, it's something else and tell him you just say another word, we let you go. And he was saying he's saying, Sorry, my accent is too heavy. I don't know how to say these words, I can only say. He kept saying
that. And he obviously lived through it. And nobody was the one who eventually went and he and he and he bought him out of slavery a number of years later, but he eventually did that. For him with the law, one toward law. And the story for that is that looks like the law. And when he had enough money, he went to him and caught up and he said, I want to buy Billa out of slavery. So nobody ever said he's not for sale. So say the orchestra offered a large number I think you know this, the narrations are different. So I'll just give a hypothetical one and then you can so he said I'll offer you 1000 dinar which is a lot of money for so many. I laughed. He said I'll take it I would
have sold him to you for 100 So obika laughed he said I would have bought them from you for 100,000
So he bought one of slavery and he I took a whole meaning he freed him so the Sahaba would say say you're gonna artificer Edina whenever masters freed whatever other masters or the law one are the same that same maybe don't have the sheep
see there's a beta male one which is a very well known character as well within his journey with Islamic history and the actual machine for gender as well. These are reasons why these people had all the status they they did I was one of the few people with the Prophet It is thought he was I'm told him I use the native mount Raj when I enter Jannah briefly I heard you I heard the rustle of your of your feet like I I know where your places in Jana sitting the beat out of Ohio. And Zeno's tomatoes later one of the I showed one of the 10 that I was shooting but then that these people were granted this status because of because of what occurred because of what they had to go through. And
I mean before he talked about St. Elizabeth, I think maybe it's moment take a moment that was in the villa said that Milan is come from very, very modest.
Very, very modest backgrounds, simple means, or the law who didn't have a lot of wealth, didn't have any status. He was not highly educated, or the law and who he was someone who came from the, you can even say, the lower middle class, because he's probably under that for the moat for them. And for the majority of his life of the law. And the thing, the piece that I think is interesting or beautiful, is that he still was able to carry, to carry a message, to have a purpose, to live for a cause. It's not the aspect of that perspective, that outlook like this is not something that is specific for people who have wealth or have status or have education. And even if you don't have any
of those things you can still live your life with for a specific cause, or with a with a to aspire to a great to a great goal to great achievements is your background and what you're where you come from. And what you're able to do in your life doesn't dictate what how far you can.
You can dream and what your ambitions can look like. They never could have easily you said, What can I possibly do in this whole story? Who am I? Who am I in all of this? If some of the greats nobles of Mecca or accepting Islam are being are being mistreated, and what is my worst in this whole story. But he didn't feel that way. Now there's two, there's two pieces of this. Number one, the provider you slot to us and I'm made sure he didn't feel that way.
His narrative out of your slot that was set on was that doesn't matter. I don't care where you're where you come from, I don't care what how much money you have, or whether you're slavery, whether you're free, or whether none of that matters to me. If you're if you believe in what I'm talking about, if you understand it, and you're willing to carry it, then you're equal to all of us, and you're a part of us, and you're one of us, and we will defend you and love you just like to defend anyone of any, any other member of the Muslim ummah. And that gave Bilal a sense of meaning. And a sense of belonging, it was very important thing for Satan Nebula, someone who was ripped out of his
country and enslaved for the majority of his use, finally found a spot for himself in the world, where he wasn't looked at as the African person or the slave, or the poor one or the uneducated. He wasn't labeled based on something he couldn't control. He was seen as a Muslim, equal to all of the other Muslims sitting there with us management I find and I will go could also do because these are people who have great lineages are very wealthy, who have strong tribes that that support them. When you talk about the stories of persecution. I don't have a lot of stories that say no, but aside from the one I told you last week,
I don't have a lot of stories about St. northmen. These people were you know, they cut to the slime and it was frowned upon but they were very well
supported by their tribes. There are people of ability so they you know, they got a free pass say maybe I didn't but he found his spot.
I find that to be clearly beautiful. The he was willing to go through the who wants to who can can even imagine what like when I talk about what they did Tim can even imagine what that means. Have you ever seen that happen? But how does that even work? If you're being strapped down on the on the scorching desert sand in the middle with a boulder on your on your chest being lashed being to why well Why is life not bad enough for safe nebula? Has he not been through enough? Clean ourselves up? I've already been through enough like yeah, let someone else sacrifice I can Oh, hide my slime until things get better. But he didn't. He was he was public. This is the piece he could have easily hit
it. Many others did. Many others hit their Islam for a long time, and only went public once they were able to perform here are in the Prophet alayhi salatu salam strengthened, they went to him. But he didn't. He went he went public with it during the difficult times because of the beauty of the feeling of belonging to a group, a feeling equal within a group a feeling welcome. A feeling that you matter that you're valuable, that you're important, you're as important as Oh, bucho and Osman. And here's the point is all of them here. No one here is better than anyone you don't sit behind. You don't have to take a back seat because of these nope, no, you sit equal to you stand in pair
equal to all of them. And that was so beautiful and meaningful to him. Allahu anhu, that he was willing to go through all of this. And
the Prophet Allah has also made sure that he felt that he was valuable. And because of that Bilal was willing to offer his life. And because of that Bilal was able to aspire to something great, and dream of prosperity and dream. Have an ambition that most people would be scared to dream of, even though he had very little means to achieve them, even though it's very unlikely that they'd be able to make it that far but he dreamt big and he carried the cause and he felt ownership over this message of Islam and spreading it and maintaining it and protecting it. That's a beautiful thing. Honestly, there's no hope of anything changing within our
status as a nation as an ummah until Muslims start to feel ownership over their Deen.
Dean it belongs to Allah subhanho wa taala. Obviously, there is no question that point but ownership as in you feel that this is something you're responsible for, not secondarily, or tertiary, no, primarily responsible for the outcome that will occur later on. That is what it means to be Muslim. Anything short of that is really not Islam. At least not yet.
It's not it's not true Islam. You can say I accepted it. The Arab said that quite a few Arab woman and they said the Bedouin said, Oh, we have achieved Iman, pull them took me to say no, no, you haven't. What I can call you a slum and say we entered Islam. Well, I'm made to call him a man who will become a man has has yet to enter your heart. No, no, you can't say that yet. True. Iman, when it enters the heart is when you feel that Islam is your cause you live for it. You're responsible for it equally Janee other scholar that ever lived to all the Sahaba, who went before us and the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam, I think you'll carry that message to the last breath that you have
within you. And that is the only way is our status will change. The only way is that if Muslims start to understand that peace, that you're not
a bystander, you know, you don't take a backseat to this story. You don't observe and know, you're a central part of this. You have to feel that way. Say maybe. Maybe he said, maybe not because he was felt welcome. He did that too. Maybe there's this missing piece there. Maybe we don't be we've done things to make people feel that they aren't Central. Maybe you have repelled them and neglected them and push them away. So they don't feel like they're welcome. And if so then you're not going to offer your life to something you don't feel like you're a central part of that you don't have stocks and
say maybe I felt he was equal to everyone else. So he so he did that. Because I can't imagine why he would endure such a horrible treatment for so long. By the way, he basically he was scarred of it because of it. Like he was always unwell. Because of the torture. There were scars on his face because of it. On the day of Voyager. All he's looking for on the on the battlefield as well may have been tough. He is looking for omega banheira No one else. He finds him taken away and kind of season gets so scared of him that he runs to one of the Sahaba in battle and said Take me as a prisoner of war. Take me now take me take me now. So it takes him a prisoner of war. He didn't know
why. And the beat is given to me said no, no, I won't give it to you. You're gonna give it to me. It says this is personal has nothing to do with you. So he told you this is a hobby lies on top of omega and kind of to stop below and below Nope. He goes on the ground and takes it on the ground. And the Prophet Alexandre is anything I think it's autosen has happened to be he he was he deserved his his vengeance on the day on the day of murder. Now the Allahu Allahu Akbar.
It is a word that one was from a noble family. He is the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa salaam,
cousin, he's he's related to the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa salaam,
his uncle, because his father passed away, his uncle would
persecute him in the form of put of wrapping him up in a in a sack, the sack made of husserlian. So it's not it's not plastic, but it's a certain fabric, and then hanging from the ceiling. And, and he would put a fire on under him and smoke.
And he did that to them. So for so long, that same awam had a pulmonary problem. And he had a respiratory issue. He had a chronic cough for the rest of his life. He couldn't wear a certain fabrics because it would irritate him and cause an allergic reaction. So he was one of the few people who would wear certain things that had a high percentage of silk in it. Women shouldn't wear silk, because the only thing you could wear that wouldn't cause them to cost so much of the profit.
For you, obviously, you allowed him to wear it because everything else he wore, it would just chronically make him make him make him cough because of the days upon days where he was being smoked. Under on top of a fire to leave with the dean, he didn't even hear this stuff. You really wonder.
You really wonder like, what exactly did they find within what he was teaching out of your salatu salam that allow that, that put them in the position where they were willing to endure such such a treatment?
Mind you who is 1617 at the time
that he was not it wasn't he was still a teenager when he went through all this well, the Allahu Allah, which is why the Prophet Allah you have sought to ascend will say in eloquently, maybe maybe in our region, or how he is Zubayr every Navy has someone who, who has his back. So the how old he is, how are you and in the Quran, are referred to as the follower of Jesus, or a sorcerer. It's a word and it refers to those who are always there. You always have your back and you will, how are you going to do better and the vision always is always there for me to say this will be so he got like this little little nugget from the Prophet alayhi salatu salam.
Probably the most difficult story that I can tell you without getting too graphic is the story of how BABOONS ARE STILL one as far as I'll go in terms of brutality, I won't really
I have to tell you the story of yesterday and his family because it just wouldn't be wouldn't the seal of the sealer would not be completed if I didn't.
But saying the kebabs are not will Oh, it was also one of the slaves at the time. But he worked as a blacksmith. And he was a helper to a blacksmith, and he was a blacksmith himself at that point. So he ran the shop for his for the master. And he, of course, knew what he was doing.
And all the allaahu I know, they came to his shop. Now, working as a blacksmith back then meant that you would have a bit of coal, the a bit of coal, and on that bit of coal, you would put the steel and he would hammer out the steel because it was just differently, the tools were much more simple. So you needed a bed of coal in order for you to do your work. So he's standing there and he is in front of the medical and he's doing and he's working on Allahu Anhu. And they come into his shop to bully him or push them around. And what they end up doing to him really Allah Juan is they actually carry him and they put them on top of the bit of coal on his back. And they leave him on it and they
hold him down on it. He said until it was the any whatever, whatever came off his back. That turned off the coal
Shamala hurry, he is jam rot. It was the was the fact of his of his own bag that turned off the call when they left him. When they left him he couldn't stand up anymore. He couldn't stand straight. So he came of course, they met with the Prophet alayhi salatu salam every day or every second day. So when he came to meet the Prophet alayhi salatu salam after he came crawling, he couldn't stand up. He was he was moving on one side, he couldn't stand up straight. So the Sahaba Of course, knew the story. And he they watched Him coming in and they're all in tears because very it was very, it was very hard. These things are very traumatic, very brutal.
And they're horrible experiences. So he's coming in, he's crawling, he's coming to the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, everyone in tears the Prophet Allah you saw to his name is consoling him and he says yellow suit Allah. Isla Mehta.
He said until when? That's what he said. That's exactly what he said. Those are the words. Now.
Don't think Satan the hubbub was actually objecting?
I don't think he's objecting to anything.
But the Prophet alayhi salatu salam took it as such
to teach a lesson.
So until when, like and how for how long do we have to endure? This is basically the question kilometer no haka that will be continued to be treated this way. So the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, who is who is consoling him and is usually someone who continues to do that actually changed character for a moment. It's a very interesting story. It's in this I hate he flipped character and he said,
Allah in La Mancha Coppola call
you the oil moonshot or Si, si ideology R and D beautiful.
People before you
they will be put in a hole dug for them with only their head above Earth. And they would bring a saw and they put it on top of their heads to leave their Deen. And of course, you know what that means? What happened later? And they would say no, in Allah, then would play ot men know how the llama had
to, you know, how do I know? In La Allah, Allah subhanaw taala grant this issue that we have this matter, this matter that we carry, which is Islam will granted completion. So that one day a woman will be on her camel alone, leaving from some drama at some point in Yemen, it was very dangerous in Yemen at the time, she will make she she will go on a trip from one city to the other an extremely dangerous area that only fearing Allah subhanho wa taala. What I can not come home and discharge you noon, but your people you seem to me the people who have no patience.
Allah Allah, Allah.
Allah, Allah Azza, you know, hubub are the Allah one. Yes, he he was he was laying on a bit of coal until he couldn't he never walk straight again, just for your he never walked straight again. For the rest of his life, he could never walk straight again. He always there was always something wrong with his with his posture because of what they did to him. It comes to the Prophet alayhi salatu, Salam and pain even after being tortured and horrifically mistreated. And all he asked is, when is it going to end in the profit? You probably wasn't objecting, but the profit that you thought was going to be extremely clear to everyone that you don't get to complain about this. It will be
difficult, it will be hard, and we will consult with you but do not complain. You don't get to object. What do you mean until when? What What do you mean? He probably didn't mean that he might be looking into this? Is there like a timeline on this or no Poghosyan objecting, I don't think he was Allahu Allah. But the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa salaam was usually extremely compassionate and empathetic. Anyone who saw all of the Sahaba who were undergoing difficulties at that moment, you know, what do you mean are you objecting? Now you can't object people before you they injured worse.
What you went through is not worse than the story that he told that he saw twisted on with the guy with the head above the top
I imagined the brutality of it.
So how do you sort of know this will happen? Yeah, if you're not, if you don't have remember, when we talked about
the people who chose up front, and they talked about the four characteristics that the criteria he had for why he would choose people, one of them was grit, grit, he needed grit. But so they put your put you on a better call, you're gonna give up
some of these right?
We don't, we don't have to under injure any of that stuff. Like we don't have to undergo any of these things.
Because we wouldn't be able to, because we're way too weak. I'll be honest, we couldn't, this is way too difficult. Their their test or the Allahu Anhu was just very, it was physical. And it was much it's very difficult for them. It's actually more difficult anything else? If you think the difficulties that you have, as a Muslim here in the West, in terms of peer pressure, how people see you, because you dress in a certain way or you have something on your head or the way that you think that's hard? I don't It's not harder than this.
It is. It is not harder than this. What he had to go through, say the hubbub is much more difficult, then then what I'm talking about what we have to go through. I don't know if he would be able to do it. I don't think so. I don't think so. It goes way too heavy. But the Prophet alayhi salatu salam was not willing to entertain objection. Even that even for someone who I would have thought that you'd give him a you know, cut them some slack. Let one slide. He literally just he's coming off. Hello, hi, what is back looks like?
Hello, good evening. Good. never walk again properly. Let one slide No, no, do not object. This is the story is going to be difficult. If you've accepted La ilaha illallah, Muhammad Rasulullah and prepare yourself to what comes next. You carry a message of truth and righteousness. And and that means is going to be challenging, it's going to be hard. And you're going to run into obstacles and and you have to have grit. So he wasn't willing to entertain the other his thoughts. I just find it very fascinating. Because all the other examples you have of the Prophet, either your thoughts on running into someone who was mistreated, he's always that father figure who will protect them to the
best of his ability and take care of them and give them but when hubbub came feeling that maybe because of what he went through, he was owed a little bit of a of a complaint, you know, you're mistreated bad enough, didn't complain. So he felt maybe maybe i I've I've earned I've earned the right to maybe give a complaint? No.
He said, No, at least I immediately cut him. No, do not do what I can no component, the strategy when he told him you are people who are you have no stars, you know, you're in a hurry, and no patience, it will happen. Because this happened to you, you think we have to understand that as well.
We have to understand that as well. What you hope for what you aspire to, as a Muslim for the Ummah that you're a part of. If you think that with a small amount of effort, a couple of months, maybe
a couple of years of
planning and working, suddenly it's all gonna work out then you don't understand what this is what it looks like. If the Prophet alayhi salatu salam had put in 23 years of him It has so to say that you can't even come we got to compare ourselves to his story. Obviously, it is awesome. But if it took him over two decades of ongoing work, why do we think that we're owed with a small amount of effort that Allah subhanaw will fix it all for us and give us what
he's capable Gela which is why we talked about the story of will feel at the beginning of this, and the surah will feel they can do whatever he wants. The issue is really what we're willing to put up with and how we're willing to behave.
You accepting this family? Yes, it is another example of a gentleman who was enslaved.
His wife may have mental health or the Allahu Anhu also a slave and their son, Amara vinyasa also. And they were enslaved by Abuja, Hill Anahola. Neighborhood Bucha had, again, it was very embarrassing for these leaders to have servants who accepted Islam openly and participated. So they they they mistreated them especially worse than they would others. And this Prophet alayhi salatu was on one day came by the family
of yesterday
as they were being mistreated or tortured by Abuja and his people, and he would say sovereign, and I asked him, Oh, family I've used to be perseverant in another way. Docomo Jana, indeed you are promised Jana and they will say your lawsuit Allah make dua for us or help us service strengthen us by Aquila, Allahumma il the theater the early acid was filed. Oh Allah grant forgiveness to the family of Yes. And you already have. You will tell them you already he already has. You've already endured more than more than you can
say that Amar or the Allahu Anhu. He would be tortured by Jehovah to the point where you would just get too tired like you would
retire him out. And he would ask him to say something like say, the curse the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam or curse it say something bad say something he wouldn't say and it would go on for so long he was younger saying that I'm not at that point he was younger or Allah who I know what Allah is younger than there is little Sahaba I don't want to say he's an American maybe a little bit sensitive even if it was very young he was a kid and he would you couldn't you couldn't do it. You couldn't endure it you couldn't put up with it. So he would say whatever they wanted you to come to the Prophet alayhi salatu salam and to Seattle said Allah, I caved they told me to say something and
I I couldn't help it anymore. So I said it. Takada. Okay if I told you to call back, how do you find your heart a call in number Amen. I am filled with email and as always, Nakata and Hala do followed. If they do it again, do it again.
If they if they force you to do it again, it doesn't matter what your what your course to say doesn't doesn't matter. And this was given for all of the Sahaba some of them took it and some of them didn't seem to realize it No, but
in certain circles that he had to,
but
that's okay.
But this is the first Shaheed in Islam. This is a time within our
lives where we talk a lot about shahada talking about martyrs, people who lose their lives for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala defending their homes or defending their families or defending their the cause of their nation. The Shaheed is a beautiful thing. The concept of shahada is beautiful in our deen a martyr someone who dies for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala dies for the sake of righteousness, even if it's just defending himself or defending his family or defending his loved ones, or defending his home. All that is, is Johannes martyr ism. And martyrdom is a part of the Islamic story from the beginning. We don't celebrate death we never have as Muslims, you don't
celebrate it. You don't look forward to it. You don't ask for it. Very rarely is not acceptable. Very, very rarely. Is it acceptable for you to ask, but you can ask for the status of shahada of monetarism, we don't ask for death and don't look forward to you know, celebrate death for sure. But so that we tell the story appropriately the first martyr within Islamic history was the mother of Amara vinyasa.
Say either Samia mental health or the Alana, a very thin, poor slave lady who lives all over life taking care of her family. And she was killed by a Bucha hula hula because he
no matter what he did, or how hard he tried, if you get Ammar to break every once in a while, I'm always say something and leave. Yeah, I said but he couldn't get her to break. He couldn't break her.
And you think of that when you think about it?
Physically, it seems he's stronger. He has the upper hand. He doesn't. He couldn't break her. He could not get her to do the thing he wanted to do or to do so he got frustrated and he finally killed her. And she was the first person ever to lose their life for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala their Deen was say this familia but somehow yelled for the law and led first Muslim after the Prophet Allah you saw that the first Muslim say the Khadija Lady and the first martyr is also a lady. And you can't you can't you know hide or shy away from the symbolism in these stories. Like you can't help but notice that that there is a reason why Allah subhanaw taala have done and I need
destined this to be the star because it easily could be someone else who died first and she died later and became a still a martyr a great person but no, he was going to be the first person to ever lead to ever lose their life for the sake of Allah Subhanallah say to some of you, but Allah who say the Saudi Arabia of course,
not the Great, the no so heavy one of the national machinima agenda as well, his mother
because he was from a noble family, they couldn't necessarily
torture him. But what she did, this is a different type of thing. She told him that if you don't leave Islam, then I will starve myself to death. Hi, Robert Anka, Anika Tata lumic. So that you can walk around amongst ourselves, as they say, the one who killed his mother, so that you are Muslim, but you will carry the shame of my death for the rest of your life. And of course, this is a bigger deal than you probably even understand back then this is a big problem for him. So he went to the Prophet alayhi salatu was I'm asking what do I do?
I thought Elsevier, Watson, Ilya, be patient and be perseverant and be kind to her.
In the height and yeah, when she gets hungry enough, she leads nowhere. And Allah subhanaw taala will sign it in Santa bhiwadi de externa. Pamela to Omaha Calderon? Well, we're about to call her and I will say that in Santa bydd to SNA we're in Tjahaja Allah and Toshi Kirby mele Salah can be here anymore Fallout or Playa Houma or Sahiba Houma for dunya ma rofa. And We gave the human being the decree of treating their parents with excellence, certainly with the best of their behavior, the best they've got, and if they strive against you
Being a Muslim that they're trying to get you to leave your deen, they're striving. They're doing jihad against you, for you to lose your faith, then do not obey them, while Sahiba Houma dunya ma rofa, but continue to be their companion throughout this life with the best of your ethics and behavior.
If your parent is striving against you being Muslim, like they want to lead you down a path that will end in Jahannam, which is the worst thing possible. Like they want you to go into jahannam. And you're trying to stay on the track to go into gender, but they want to force you into joining them.
Only regarding that one thing, don't listen, continue to be Muslim, but be their companion Sahiba who might be their companion in this life, not OLFA with the best of your behavior. But the best thing you've got this these are the ethics of treating our parents within the deen. This will say the size of your costume every day, you'll come to his mother had bring her food. And he was sick as she cursed him and yelled at him and threw the tray out. And every day he came back and did the same thing until she finally ate
until she ate.
And he never this piece is important. I have to say this I feel like sometimes I want to turn off the recording for this one just in case iannis. Others are listening to us. Look, the way the Western world has defined parenthood and the relationship between parents and children is wrong. Right? It's completely wrong. It's completely unacceptable. There is somewhere within this relationship, the right for a child to be rude or disrespectful towards their parents. And I'm telling it is 100%. Wrong is wrong. Even if he weren't Muslim, if he were to take his slide and put it aside, walk out of the machine and speak with no godliness involved at all. It is wrong. It just
it doesn't make any sense. If you understand basic philosophy, and basic ethicality if you just understand what those two words mean, from a diagnostic perspective, not talking about religion altogether, just talking about the basics. Those who were responsible for you to have life and took care of you during the time where you were extremely vulnerable. And you had no ability to protect yourself, you have no way to actually care for yourself until you are strong enough to do so are the people whom you owe the most with in your life, whether you like it or not, whether you like them or not. And that's the end of the story. This does not mean parents can abuse their children, not when
their children are really young, or when they're older. And I do draw the line very clearly. You can't choose your son or daughter's
career, you cannot choose what they're going to study. You can't choose what they're going to do for a living. You can't force them to marry somebody they don't like you can't force them to live in a specific place. You can't do that. It's not your choice to make as a parent, biblically, it's not your choice. But everything aside from that, as a child, as a young as a son or a daughter, you owe it to your parents, to be there for them, and to support them and to put up with whatever you don't like about their existence. This is not optional. Well, I Islam, I always want to say that faith has nothing to do with this just basic loyalty. If you don't have that loyalty, then there's no way the
world can't function. If the people who haven't seen in the Arabic proverb, data come and kill him. Like the only reason that you are here is because they made sure you made it this far is that they that they basically put their life on hold to make sure you're here because
if they don't deserve your best companionship in life, and who does imagine
the lack of loyalty, lack of basic decency
turning your back on those who took care of you every step of the way, when you had no other way to take care of yourself. And then when you're old enough to actually do something good for them. You become the thorn in their side. You become the person who makes their life more difficult.
Learn came and said arugula latricia will be he she will be ready. Dania, sir. The way we have an assignment as you say La Ilaha illa Allah to take care of your parents.
That's how that's we have the way we have it in our deen but I honestly see even think that even if you're not very religious, this works for you too. And the way we built it here the way they behave here in the West, learn for them other stuff, learn for them standing in line and waiting for your turn and holding the door and stuff like that. These are nice to learn that from them don't learn from them how they treat their parents, because it's horrible.
I sometimes I'm in situations and I hear someone speaking to their parent in a certain way and I cringe like I cringe on the inside i feel like i What is this? There's there's something fundamentally wrong here. I want to slam this person to the law. What are you doing? You don't like your child? Your parent that's fine. You don't speak to them that way ever. Especially not in front of others. Especially not when someone else can hear like if you have no decency to be respectful in the way you speak to them. I need the privately than at least publicly you don't you don't you don't go ahead and do that. Well, I basic decency. But then Islam is very clear what
Meanwhile, he Dania siRNA number two. Number two. Again, I do not accept abuse. There are parents who will ask for things that are unreasonable. And I'll call them out when they do have no problem with that. But then we have to balance this out with what Islam actually explained to us. If they are trying to get take you to jahannam you have to be the best companion for them in their lives. Just don't just don't lose your faith. That's all hold on to your stem, but
to cut them off or stop dealing with them, or they did this or you don't know what they didn't. Yeah, neither do you, by the way. Oh, you don't know what my parents did? Yeah, neither do you remember?
Not Month Number two, we remember what they did. By month number 345. year number one, you remember to your number three or four? Number five or six? You remember that? No, you don't. So you don't either.
I know but you don't either. So maybe we need to calm down a little bit. When it comes to how we treat our parents.
If you're lucky enough to have parents, who the more better Muslim you become, the more they are proud of you and happy with you. You're very blessed. Very blessed. If the better Muslim you become the more proud they are of you, the happier they are with you.
The more they will give you because you're a better Muslim then you're very very blessed. Imagine saying this I'd have had to work a pill. It was swimming against the tide.
He accepted Islam, despite his mother wanting to it wasn't the only one by the way. Many other Sahaba did this. And I put that out because I I think we have to be even if even if there are problems within the family we have to we have to be careful. We have to be careful how we speak of them and how we speak to them.
How we follow what Allah subhanaw taala teaches us subhanaw taala in the Quran.
Let's let's let's make this a little bit less gloomy. Here number six.
Right. You have saved the side.
Trying to get his mother to eat you have saved now blood Masood is all patched up after being beaten. Right? kuffaar Qureshi you have said in the hubbub okay stand up straight below who can barely breathe Zubaydah who's developing respiratory problems. The Prophet alayhi salatu salam picking up garbage off his lawn after PN people pushing them around, things weren't going very well. Things weren't what they wanted them to be. But then a near number six Allah subhanaw taala threw them a lifeline. As he always does. jelajah law always tells you a lifeline here and there. Just make sure your eyes and ears are open. So you can you can see it when it comes to them a lifeline.
And you have two beautiful stories that I'll share with you today
about values salatu salam loved his uncle, Hamza bin Abdul Muttalib he loved now Hamza is a character. He wasn't that old is actually some some readers saw that Hamza was a bit younger than the Prophet alayhi salatu salam actually not older, which is very common, by the way. It's very, very common. My father has
uncles and so we're younger than him. Because people used to have children for long and he start young and have Jr for a longer period of time throughout their life. So a lady would have a daughter and the daughter would be able to get married and they're both pregnant at the same time are with her daughter to prevent pregnancy guys. So it's very, very common. So saving that Muhammad Ali is sometimes uncle saving the Hamza. He loved him a lot. And Hamza was a character he was he's one of those, you know, cool guys. Like really cool, very good looking tall. He's a bachelor, like the the most eligible bachelor of Maccha. At the time, he was a hunter, he would go out, he would hunt,
you'd bring back a deer. And he'd always had all his friends over a party all night. That their drink they're shy and have their have their meat and say the Hamza he was not involved in all the politics even he couldn't care less. He's extremely strong, very, very strong gentlemen. A fight is as they say, he had mastered the art of war and
and horses and all that he just one of those guys that you would like to be on.
People look up to he's a role model. Really just a very cool but wasn't interested. Couldn't couldn't be interested in any of this stuff. Above it is sort of bringing us down Mr. Yeah, he's not for him. He's chill. He's way too chill for this talk. He's done a great job. So he just didn't provide a it's awesome loved him would always try. He just wasn't interested. He would never force it on him. He never said it. You never did anything ever heard the profile?
He might he does his own business. He did his hunting. He did his traveling and his friends didn't really.
But one day.
He went out and he was on his way out for his morning hunt. He took his friends. It was very it was a marksman. He's very good. And this young lady, I looked I spent a long time trying to figure out her name and I could not find it because I just wanted to I wanted to kind of use her name just so people knew who she was. I couldn't find like none of the none of the cyber sphere. mentioned a name, even even if it's not authentic. I would
and perhaps he said it anyways but I couldn't find a name. They didn't bring up a name. But she was a young lady who would accepted Islam early on in her in her teens and she was coming back from a well carrying some water on her on her back.
January name was just a hula hoop and Baraka Luffy actually given us a story to tell, because she she sparked all this and saved 100 on his way. And she looks at him and she says hums.
Of course, the handsome Mr. of them all. eligible bachelor of Mecca, where are you going? So he smiles and I'm going in a slave. I'm going on my way to 400
slaves. He said, You're going to hunt webinar heka, you stumble, or you surf boom.
Islamic garb? You're going to go and hunt when your nephew is being cursed, is being mistreated. His dignity is being basically destroyed and you're in front of the Kaaba and you're going to hunt. Good for you Hamza, aren't you, aren't you? Swell gentlemen. So she marks him for it. So it's a shame on you. What type of man are you? But you didn't say that way. You said oh, you're onto the hunt. Cool, good for you. Let your nephew be spat on by ALLAH. So he said man had a lady yesterday more endogeneity and who would dare you mistreat? My nephew's speak of him? Oh, God, I would have come up. No, he shot me. He just did it a few minutes ago. He stood in front of people in the end he
cursed him out and he said horrible things.
So he turns around. Well, the Allahu I know, he postpones his journey. And he goes back to Mecca and he ties up his horse and he goes to the car but he's looking for what headwears Abuja where he's able to go and he said, he said, he's in Delta, Nadella Nadeau as I explained, he was like the parliament room, right beside the Kaaba. It's a big deal, because it was the only form of political governance that that Donald had or that Quraysh had, and he's in there in a big meeting. People are saying they're in there. So he goes into the door, and he kicks the door and
and he says, Where is that? What how can we show up?
At the end of the table, he puts his hand up. He goes to him, he takes out his bow, you know, have you ever seen an actual Arab bow? You haven't because if he did, he would do it. You know what I mean? You can't i There's a friend of my father's in Medina. Elise Google, his name is Abdullah. He's a Saudi gentleman. And he
has nothing to the story. But I want to
I want a math contest in primary school in Saudi Arabia. And the for some reason this this principal did not like me. He didn't like the fact that a Syrian nine whatever they wanted, so when I was supposed to go and get my little thing, he didn't take me in school. And my dad was in Pakistan. He was no he was away. So I didn't know I wasn't taken to get my get my picture and my little gift, and I was broken. He was like grade three. So my dad calls Abdullah his friend he said this will happen so he comes to the school and he yells back to the principal. He takes me he takes me to his he has a big ranch in Medina. Right. I got to see the Huldah I'll talk about the hardware we're the Medina
is basically from both the West and East you can't you can't nothing can there's no army that can move because because of the way of the of the blood volcanic rock. So he showed me the Hara. And beside beyond it, he had a ranch. And in the ranch, he had all these very old authentic Arabic stuff, and he had a sword. And he and he gave me a sword. I saw it was still in Syria, but he showed me what a Roma with a spear looked like and, and a bow and arrow anyways, the ball was the bow was as tall as as, as I was then. So the ball was almost it's almost almost a metre and a half. That's how long I was. I was maybe 10 years old or 11 years old. I couldn't move it. I could he held the
wooden part and I could not pull this at all. I couldn't even I couldn't budget. I couldn't budget. He himself. I asked him, can you show me he couldn't do it? He couldn't get it back enough to actually give it any power. So what he did was he got one of his workers. A Bedouin man. His name is Ali. never forgot this guy say he didn't ever say you say daddy, never forget him. Because there's been one gentleman came, he was really scrawny. But he picked up the bow and he puts the only pull the back and you could hear this and we let it go. I kid you not it was quicker than a bullet. And it went through like three layers of it was just understood. Okay, this is actually quite scary.
Arrows are talking very, very scary. So save your hands. I took out a boat around a metre and a half, and he swung it slapped across the face, opening up his face. And he gave it to him. He said hit me back if you dare. But go ahead hit me back. I dairy. So we sat there quietly and said nothing to call. Yeah, but how can man akana Tao who put in the suburbs? He said Ben Shapiro no i I really I laid it badly on his on his nephew, so I'll allow him this one.
So they said
Hamza
His name is Abu Amara OB Allahu Anhu. He didn't have children at the time, but that was his Kunia is something that dogs would offer their children even if they weren't married. So about Yeah, but Amara, also that, Have you have you joined Mohammed? So Allah says, quite well murder. I know you're in front. And so what if I did? He didn't. He had no interest in this. But he did. Well, neither Allegan filed. Say I did. Oh, no, if I mash it, no, you can do it. What? No, I just asked him. It's just a question. That's all
he leaves.
And now the the information is that saved in the hands of Napoleon's Muslim, to Hamza looks into this and he finds it to be a little bit complicated. So it goes to the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam, some of our Hadees
he says yellow
Allah and the halal Amala machetes, and Allah, this is a difficult thing for me, Ali Maharaj, can you get me out of this site? I kind of I kind of did this. I wasn't really, you know, I wasn't really thinking about it at the time. It just they were like all against you. And I said, No, I'm with him. And if you say anything about him, and and now I think about it, it's a little bit complicated and difficult for me. Can you get me out for color? Unless I met him and you How about before you do that? Can I just explain it to you for a moment. But, of course, go ahead and speak. Sometimes you don't always you can't dictate when people are ready to hear something, okay? You
can't dictate that this is a pearl when it comes to Dawa. You can't choose when someone's mind and heart are ready to accept dollar you can't. You can't force it upon people. They have to be ready for it. Your job is just to always be available to offer it when they are.
When you force things upon people, you change the actual topic from belief to resistance of coercion.
You make their right to say no. And it's an issue of human rights. Did you make you make it heroic for them to say no, because what they're thinking about is that I have the right to say no. Why are you forcing this on me? I don't force things upon people. Islam was never meant to be Makarov to be an issue of coercion. It never was to provide a source. I never did that. He never was interested in forcing someone into this. But he waited for opportunities of maybe when someone's heart or mind was open. And then maybe they were ready to kind of listen and accept.
So he said listen to me. He said yes, I'll listen to you. But I just I will never use that Allah Hadith. The Prophet alayhi salam spoke to say the Hamza Pasha, he did. Allah when the Mohammed Abdullah pseudo accepted Islam that takes it in the hands of Talib. And when he accepted Islam it was was means for, for celebration amongst the Muslims. The Muslims celebrated like they had like a gathering and in celebration, why? Because we have the coolest person in Mecca now on our side. Not only that, not only was he hip and he this guy was strong was brave yet you don't get all those. He's someone who all the younger Sahaba looked up to they needed that Isabody even kebab and amalan
Ali 1015 1716 See them and how these, these people they needed someone to look up to. And the profit either you sought or something to hide someone they could all look up to. And they all looked up this hamster in the hands which is why when he died, he didn't mourn him alone Allah His salatu salam. When Satan the Hamza pastor, it wasn't the Prophet either. You saw those animals just brokenhearted. It was the all of the Sahaba they were all in tears. And not because the Prophet alayhi salatu salam was brokenhearted himself. But because they love saving the Hamza, which is why his name is so powerful today, which is why his name is literally a description. It's really not
even a name. Like you want to describe someone, you can describe them, oh, he's a Hamza, because then his name turned into a description. That doesn't happen. If you think about it. He wasn't a Muslim for a very long time he accepted here number six, he passes away year number three, basically of Islam altogether, it was less than a decade that he was Muslim. But the impact is not based on time, in practice means something completely different, which is why his name is lived on. I said Allah, he would assume the rasuna he the Lion of Allah and His Prophet, because there was something about his character, but his confidence about his about the love that he had the passion, the
commitment that he showed, and that role model being that he that he was made available to these younger people that that desperately needed it that desperately needed that they needed that I'm not making this up because they talked about him. Like I don't pull this out of my pocket. This is something that they talked about. This is what say it in the zoo Zubaydah was saying say no, Paul, Howard say and say now, they're talking about saying the Hamza and how they admired him, and how they felt so comfortable and confident when he accepted Islam.
Now, it's a beautiful thing. It's a lie. It's a beautiful thing, if you can, if you can bring you can bring that positivity into a group. If your presence can do that, if you can be there and change the morale just by your presence and allow those who are feeling a little bit broken their morale was down by the way their morale was down with their with this hard times. But this was a meaning for them to feel better. I say
He sat there in pain. I've been Miss O sat bandaged up and not able to stand straight and beat out barely breathing. They felt strong because of the presence of Satan the hands up who put him now we only have five minutes left. So I'll start the story of Omar but snuck in him. Yeah, we're not gonna get there.
Now saying the Hamza is example of Islam is, I want to say spontaneous. It was momentarily it was just a moment of heavy of just of this bravery. And then he then he kind of had to backtrack and accept it. And that was his example. He was never really cared. I didn't really think about these things. But then in a moment, he just felt that he didn't he wasn't okay with with mistreatment, and he ended up finding herself Muslim and of course, it was me very meaningful in the long run for him. Second, no, hello Hapa was a completely different type of story. Same they got a they accepted Islam within a week of each other, right? Most likely, Hamza was a bit earlier. But I want to hope that
was different story I want to hook up tells us the story of how he attributes him because he was very different to you. He didn't, he didn't like upfront or at all. But there's something about his character that you'll you'll find out why this, why he became so important.
Say Mama was an established gentleman. He was an ambassador of Croatia, Croatia would use. He was he was a spokesperson for for forex, he would go and he would negotiate with other tribes, treaties and deals. So he was a face that was well known in Mecca, and he was trustworthy gentleman. And he was maybe the only person who was as big or bigger than Hamza was taken on Qatar was a big man, door of a man. And he was very intimidating was it was very focused when he knew what he wanted. He knew what he wanted. When he was doing something. He was doing something. He had the Azim had the inner strength of getting things done.
Some front as the ambassador of Quraysh, he belonged to his tribe, he loved his tribe, he loved what he was doing. And the provider you saw through some came with this new thing. And it was causing all of this turmoil, and he wasn't really around enough to know exactly what the Prophet alayhi salatu salam was doing for those years. He was too busy traveling, he was an ambassador. So every time he came back, he just thought everyone upset because of the Muslims and the numbers of Muslims increasing and Muhammad Allah you saw them saying this and challenging the Quran is getting very annoying to him. So he was on the side of the persecutors for a long time. And he would always suck
when he when he was around, he would follow the Prophet I used last time around. He would talk about this later on in his life, and he would hate whatever this brought up was brought up by anybody, because it reminded him of a time he didn't want you to think about when he would follow around the Prophet it sort of until people who were speaking to him to keep moving, just keep walking, if you want to hold to keep your face just keep walking, so people just walk, they wouldn't they wouldn't talk about them. No, they just keep on going. And if I thought you saw someone literally spend the day not able to speak to anybody, because everyone called Bob following around. However, the Prophet
alayhi salatu salam would make this drop
Allahumma Islam Yeah, he didn't mind. Oh Allah grant Islam strength with one of the two armors and he was referring to a hammer when he shot which is about hacker or Abuja, or honorable hottub. Because of the characteristics they each had their their unique individuals, and we'll talk about why that's important in a moment.
So initially, he just was not
wasn't impressed.
He tells the story of your loved one, that the first time Islam meant something to me, is again, again, you had this young girl servant in his home 100 I will call him accepted Islam because of this young lady you don't know the name of and said Now Todd has this young girl. I don't know her name either. But she actually accepted Islam with Bilal and a bunch of other Amal and the rest of them.
And as I said, it was very embarrassing for the nobles to have someone in their home, follow the Prophet Allah who assaulted them, so they would try to beat it out of them. So he would he would hit her with a good with a stick
until he got tired, and when he got tired, she would say or, if a tailback Allahu wa Kobani look how Allah Subhanallah made you all tired and I'm still fine.
And he would do it again and again and she would she wouldn't budge a hole but going to a corner. I've seen melody, Aloha takanohana What could possibly make her say this well melody feel Columbia Manhattan what exactly exists inside her heart that where she's willing to put up with this money for for for what reason? Why would you care? What could be possibly more too important, so important that you're willing to put up with me doing this to you for for the importance for to hold on to an ideology or a faith, but of kind of a kind of oh, well Malakal Islamophobia. The first moment I felt something about Islam is just the perseverance of this young girl that I've talked to when I stopped
I stopped saying anything write a letter, I let her go.
The second time he said he come back he'd come back from a long trip from a tribe and negotiating any rived
He arrived just after five years after sun just before any dawn.
So he comes he wants to go to Dolla dolla to meet but no one's there yet is that the Kaaba. So he says, I'll go photostable Kaaba, I'll go. And I'll just do to off in the meantime, out of the disregard list whether they were Muslim or not. So he goes, he's doing pull off. And the probability of slot to a cinema is doing this to her just before if he's just like, he's standing there reading the Quran.
He's walking by the provider, you saw to most of iterations that he was reading as to as to how
the Hawk was beautiful. The whole point is that this is a very powerful one. So he's listening to provide a solid dose and recites with laughter.
He would say I was making it the love. So every time I was on the other side, I would walk quicker. And then I would walk slowly. And the profit on the side with the profit, it is so interesting to hear as much as possible. And then because I didn't want him to think that I cared, but I still want to hear so I'd make the law whenever it was, I was walking on the side where he was reading, I would take it a bit slower. And then on the other side, I would just roughly quicker so I quickly just come back again, who's listening. Now he's listening to the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa salaam mistake for that, of course, a movie might have to go slow and now I might have to go soon.
He's listening to these verses being recite. He's saying to himself, what is this? What is this not poetry? I know poetry. These verses that he reciting? They're not pointing straight. So to have this very powerful moment OTFT turbo hooby Shimoni way of who we are late any lamb who Takita via while I'm at Dyneema he Serbia? Yeah, they used to hook and ideal Paul via NEMA earlier halacha and Newell Barney who for Hulu, to measure him also Luther Murphy Silsila tiene una de la anfis lewco. In the whole cannula, I mean OB la Hilah. Aleem when you're humble, I doubt I'm in miskeen Eastlakes Hello, Julio, OMA Hoonah, Hamid Monopol, Illumina Slean, Leia Kulu, il Hartley Oh, and so is listening to
this stuff.
Very powerful narrative and it's not poetry. And it's not kabobs on a sermon either, like what is this? I don't know what this is. I can't I can't characterize it in terms of what it is. So the Prophet alayhi salatu salam is resigning as a drug it is or is not. But it is thinking to himself what is this? It was a time for the Prophet Allah you slotted into recite in hula code or assuming Kareem in the the the words of a great prophet.
And he said, No, I don't do
it. It's a it's probably it's probably poetry. So the Prophet would say, well, Ma, who will be holy Scheider, Paulina mattock, me known, Thomas like, oh, there must be sorcery. Kahana I went out is totally Kahin. Paulina much at the karoun So it's like and what is it in his mind, but 10 Zero Mirabella mean, it is descendant by the Lord of reserves like this is weird. So he leaves
this is this this is very, very weird. So he was like, What is this guy listening to me speak? Think? Is he answering my thoughts so he would walk away? Will you allow the second time Islam he meant something to him? Okay, well, we'll start with for like food and shelter. So I got handed Shinola Illa Illa just told him to break also Allahu wa salam ala Muhammad establish main please engage tomorrow in the breakfast potluck. Inshallah if you started visual and we'll see you we'll see you then
stop and then go again.
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I keep going keep going, keep going. Good boy.
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