Adnan Rajeh – Issues of Marriage #16

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The speaker discusses the importance of having a good conversation with your partner during a period where you feel insecure and sad. They also talk about the behavior of men during that time and how it affects their behavior. The speaker emphasizes the importance of taking care of your partner's needs and doing all the things you need to do to make them feel better.

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			And a isha at aummin mumminim radiAllahu anha
		
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			call it. Hadith and a collection of Muslim
		
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			narrators by our mother Aisha radiAllahu anha. And
		
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			the theme is still, issues of marriage. I
		
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			have 3 more hadith that I wanna narrate
		
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			to you that I was sick last week.
		
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			I didn't come around to do them, so
		
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			I'm gonna do them this week inshaAllah ta'ala.
		
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			And then we'll move on to something different
		
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			starting, starting next week inshaAllah ta'ala. These are
		
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			just nice hadith that I want you to
		
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			hear. I think they're, they're beneficial for those
		
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			of you who are at least married. This
		
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			is what she said,
		
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			So
		
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			This is what this means. She said, I
		
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			would drink from a cup when I was
		
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			on my period when I was menstruating.
		
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			Now those of you are married,
		
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			know that this is not the most pleasant
		
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			time for a woman throughout the throughout the
		
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			month.
		
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			It's difficult for her.
		
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			It's actually quite painful,
		
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			physically speaking and medically speaking. She,
		
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			she loses a lot of blood. She uses
		
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			a lot of tissue inside of her body
		
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			that kind of basically,
		
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			and there's a hormonal change that you can
		
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			easily use. If you just Google it, so
		
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			now you can see there's a hormonal change
		
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			that happens with inside. So not only is
		
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			she physically losing blood and losing tissue, which
		
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			is painful and it's draining, but she's also
		
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			hormonally going through changes that are difficult to
		
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			manage your mood in the midst of it.
		
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			So she's not feeling the best and it
		
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			is haram for there to be nikah during
		
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			that time. Jima'ah is haram. Meaning for there
		
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			to be full relations between the husband and
		
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			wife during that time is
		
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			impermissible,
		
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			is prohibited.
		
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			So she would say, radiAllahu anha, this is
		
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			the level and degree of sensitivity of the
		
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			Prophet alaihi wasallahu alaihi wasallam
		
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			towards this. And this is what I think
		
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			we should take always some time to learn
		
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			from him alaihi wasallam because this shows you
		
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			what type of person he was in his
		
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			home.
		
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			He said, I would take a cup and
		
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			drink when I was when I was on
		
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			my period.
		
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			And when I was done drinking,
		
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			alayhi wa sallam, I would give it to
		
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			the prophet alayhi wa sallam to drink from.
		
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			Is the word means mouth. Right?
		
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			So, his mouth. He
		
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			would put his mouth.
		
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			In this
		
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			the same spot I put my mouth. Now
		
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			here's the thing,
		
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			did you even know that women would notice
		
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			this to begin with? If you're sitting beside
		
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			your wife and she drinks water and gives
		
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			you the cup, do you did you even
		
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			care? Like you even look where she drank
		
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			from, or do you think in your mind
		
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			that she's actually noticing where where you're drinking
		
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			from? The answer is yes, she is.
		
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			She's noticing all of these details. And and
		
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			you're being heavily judged by them by the
		
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			way too. But she's watching them, right? So
		
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			the prophet alaihis salatu wa sallam
		
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			is aware that this is the time of
		
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			the month where she feels a little bit
		
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			self conscious, where she feels a little
		
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			bit insecure, maybe a little bit upset.
		
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			And he knows that she's
		
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			noticing this. That this is something that she
		
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			cares for.
		
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			This is what he's doing on a hilusrati
		
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			waslam. It's something that you do when you're
		
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			engaged.
		
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			We just get engaged,
		
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			you're, you know, you have to act all.
		
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			Yeah. You have to. Yeah. Even if you
		
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			don't You have to. You're a guy. You
		
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			have to act all. You have to do
		
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			this stuff. You have to do this stuff.
		
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			You have to care about all these details
		
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			because they they care about these details. But
		
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			he's been married to Radha alaihi wasalam for
		
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			years. How do men who are married for
		
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			years behave regarding this issue?
		
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			Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
		
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			Just so you understand the Prophet alaihi wasallam.
		
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			Just understand the difference in character between us
		
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			and between him alaihi wasallam.
		
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			He is aware of all of these things.
		
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			So he would take the cup from her
		
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			hand and he would take and turn it
		
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			around
		
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			so that he will put his mouth the
		
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			same place where she put her mouth, radiAllahu
		
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			anha.
		
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			She's telling us this, not the Prophet alaihis
		
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			salatu wa sallam.
		
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			It's a piece
		
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			of bone that still has some meat on
		
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			it. Arabs love this for some reason, I
		
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			don't know why, it's beyond me, but they
		
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			love taking
		
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			this bone and just kind of chowing down
		
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			on the pieces of meat that are left
		
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			and taking the marrow from the inside. Apparently,
		
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			it tastes really good. I don't know. I
		
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			don't I'll never try it but you're welcome
		
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			to do so if you want.
		
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			But I I would I would take that
		
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			I would eat from it, and I would
		
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			be taking off whatever meat is left and
		
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			using,
		
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			when I was menstruating,
		
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			And then he gave her the brahfa alaihis
		
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			salatu wasalam. It's a piece of meat or
		
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			a piece of bone that has some meat
		
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			on it. So she would be watching him
		
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			how he
		
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			And then he would go and he would
		
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			eat from the place that I was eating
		
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			from, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. Knowing that she's
		
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			watching, knowing that this is something that is
		
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			meaningful to her, knowing that this is something
		
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			that will make her feel better within the
		
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			day that she's going through. Knowing that she'll
		
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			feel better if he does this salayahu salatu
		
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			wa sallam, it would take time to make
		
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			sure he did it.
		
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			So she would feel more supported and feel
		
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			loved.
		
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			And, and it's just it's just, there's actually
		
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			way more to that in terms of how
		
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			he behaved with his wife when she was
		
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			menstruating, but this I love this hadith because
		
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			Aisha is just giving her report
		
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			record. It's her record. It's what she remembers.
		
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			That she would do this watch and then
		
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			see him and alaihis salawam would do exactly
		
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			what would make her feel good about herself.
		
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			And that's the type of husband he was
		
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			alayhis salahu alaihis salam. That's the type of
		
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			husband that you are aspiring
		
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			to be within your life if you truly
		
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			love him alayhis salahu alaihis salam and want
		
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			to be like him.