I will change him/her when I get married

Abu Bakr Zoud

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Wanda Allah He will be as my, my brothers and sisters in Islam for far too long. I have heard statements like when I get married to her, I will change her when I get married to him, I will change him. There is no basis for this mentality in Islam. No way in Islam did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam recommend us to get married on the basis of I will change him I will change her rather and Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says if there's a common Tarragona de novo hola como has a visual, that if a person wants to come and you are satisfied with his Deen and with his manners, because pretty much that's a person's affairs,

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it's either religion or manners. If you're pleased and satisfied with that, then get married. So that's the criteria. Marriage is about two people coming together, embracing each other's personality and character and conduct and manners and mindsets and so on. And it's not two people coming together with the intention, I will change him, I will change her. If these are things that you're agreeing upon from the very beginning. These are fake, fabricated love stories that happen at the beginning of the engagement, and pretty much wither away at the very beginning of this marriage and you realize you're in a big disaster. So my brothers and sisters in Islam, take the advice of

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, make sure make sure that you put a emphasis on that person's religion and on his character by asking his relatives, his parents, those that know him, those that know her. Once you have reached a level of satisfaction in that, then you go ahead and you get married. with whoever laws origin decrees for you. We ask Allah subhanahu wa taala to protect our marriages and to guide us in every step we do in life.