Hadith #5 Speech and Respect, The Honor of Women in Divine Creation

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Abu Huraira Radi Allahu Anhu narrated that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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said,

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this hadith and Abu Huraira is very important in regards to men's treatment of women, whether it's your younger sister, your older sister, your mother, your auntie, your grandmother, your neighbor, any woman that you see, one huge sign of the strength, and the X level of excellence of your masculinity is how you deal with women, particularly how you what you think about them, and how you deal with them based on those thoughts.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam first thing he says, he says he believes in Allah and the hereafter, if he witnesses any matter should talk in good terms, or keep quiet. This is important for Amen.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, act kindly towards woman. So notice right after he mentions an aspect of our Eman, our belief in Allah. It's a conditional sentence. He says, Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day ties into Rokita ties into our belief. As we talked about Elon Musk's earth, there was a physical appearance, he tied it to this belief, the physical appearance of him being skinny didn't matter as much as his belief did.

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The promise awesome said me not only is better than the movement of life, that the strong Muslim movement is better than the weak men, but in both of them are good, tying it to a man that is strong. Here, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam ties to Eman again. And I want to hone in on that. Because we have to remember as men that want to be real men, and that want to live on this earth, as a masculine, with masculine excellence, it is tied to your aqidah it is tied to your belief, rather, it is founded in your belief, everything starts from your belief, man. It starts with your belief in God, once your belief in God is strong. And it's founded in that and it's

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anchored in that that purpose is what everything else trickles down from. And that's the difference between the strong Muslim man and those that do not worship any God. Because when you connect it to Allah subhanho wa Taala The sky's the limit. Allah subhanho wa Taala blesses you and takes things away, blesses you by taking things away. And you as a man with that connection, know how to deal with it in a much more transcendent fashion. meaning beyond yourself beyond people, you won't rely on people, you rely on Allah subhanaw taala.

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So here are the prophets of Allah and he was someone started off by giving a conditional sentence on belief, whoever believes in Allah on the last day than they should speak and when that when they face the situation any matter, he should talk in good terms or if not keep quiet, very interesting. Right after that, he says, is supposed to be nice at 11 at kindly towards women. It is as though there is an implication of, or the setting or the welkom is where he told men to be quiet and only speak good. Be wise, don't always talk you don't always have to talk. Sometimes when you do, it can be detrimental, especially to a female, especially to one of the most special people in your life,

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your wife, your sister, your mother, grandmother, etc. Family. He says treat them kindly. So from treating them kindly, is knowing when to be quiet and not to argue.

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So that's the first point is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam immediately connects masculine excellence with

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the way we speak. And how he ties it to speaking or high ties it to being good to women. So as it is as though he is saying one of the most important factors for a man in regards to women, is if you don't have anything good to say to them, don't say anything. Just leave. Don't continue the argument. Don't feel that you have to win the argument. And winning the argument is a sign of your masculinity or your authoritative nature. Let the fact that you walk away doesn't mean that she's won the argument number one, the fact that you walk away means that you don't want to deal with that you're not going to be someone that's going to be so emotionally invested to where you go back and

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forth with them. The second point

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is where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, At kindly towards women for a woman is created from a rib and the most crooked part of the rib is the top

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that the creation of Allah subhana wa Tada is intentional. When Allah subhana wa Allah created however,

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min bully, Adam, as the province was salam mentioned that the Allah subhanaw taala. Created, however, II from the rib of Adam, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is reminding us men that the woman is crooked from is is created from the rib. And he said we're in. He said, they're rarely, the most crooked part of the rib is the top. What we really want to capture here is the perfection of the creation of Allah, you know, it's interesting.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala says, like, the Holocaust in Santa Fe actually took away the Verily We have created men in the best fashion. So our creation of our body, our faculties, the the functionality of these faculties is perfect. But how we use them is imperfect. The fact that Allah made me a man, and gave me limbs and gave me eyes, ears, that's what's universal with women. But then he gave me certain emotions that may be more in me and less in women and vice versa, he gave me testosterone that is more in the male and less than the female and estrogen, which has the opposite effect more than females and less than males. All of that is intentional. All of that is from Allah. All of that

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is a manifestation of a harlot or Rasik. And the creator, the provider,

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a helical burial, Massawa, all of this is on purpose, and it's perfect, but how we use them is imperfect. Sometimes, we may use the faculty of our voice, our voice, our mind, our heart, in a way, that is not befitting putting down our wives speaking down to them, screaming at them, right, using words that could that could pierce their heart, that is not st saw Minisatellite ah, that is not treating women kindly. So recognizing the creation of Allah subhanaw taala that she's created that way. And the way she is, you know, some men will complain, men are too emotional, or they don't get us they're not supposed to totally get you. That's the whole point.

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And you will not totally understand them. That is the whole point. That is the whole test. That is the beauty of joining in a union. Allah says that, you know, Allah makes it to where

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you are not going to totally understand and get along with them. But when you look at the bigger picture, and firstly, understanding that Allah is a creator and created you created her, and that union is a godly union, to form a child Subhanallah amazing. So the creation of Allah is intentional on purpose and is perfect, do not try to change the nature of the female. And that's where the Prophet SAW Allah Salam goes on, which is the third point. He said,

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at Kati, towards women for women is created from a rib.

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And the most crooked part of the rib is a top, if you attempt to straighten it, you will break it. And if you leave it, it's crookedness will remain there. So at kindly towards women, don't try to say I'm going to straighten her out. I'm going to show her, she's going to see who was the boss. You know, unfortunately, this one strong sign of a of an E masculine man is the one that beats his wife, the one that hits women, the one that cannot control his anger, his emotions, overpower him, to where he has to physically prove that he has more power, he feels there's no other way to exert and show his value, his masculinity, his authority, his leadership, his honor, his respect to way

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deserves respect, except hitting her. That's not going to bring you respect. It only look in her eyes makes you makes her look at you as lesser of a man.

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And this is very important, because someone can fear you, but they may not respect you.

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So when looking at this third portion, the Prophet SAW Allah who it was Salam is reminding us Do not try to straighten her out, except her for who she is. She may have more of an emotional attachment or maybe emotional over certain things that you are not. The question is, Are you patient with that level of emotion that she has, she may not be that consider of certain things that you are considerate of? Are you patient with that character aspect of character. Now there are certain aspects of character that may require therapy, because the fifth draw the fitrah, again, has been changed, whether it's society being the way that she was raised by the closest people to her or her

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environment, or both. We mentioned the Hadith of the fixer.

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It's important for you as a man to know that when you're dealing with your little sister, your mother, your friend,

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your grandmother, cousin, whatever, auntie, whatever the case may be, except the fact that they're different. They're not supposed to be like you, except the fact that they are different. What your responsibility is, is to treat them with kindness.

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because if you are planning to be a protector provider, preside are the one that leads. The leader has to be patient, because they are following you for a reason.

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May Allah subhanaw taala make us of those that are effective leaders that's founded in male excellence and masculinity that's beneficial for ourselves, between ourselves and Allah, between ourselves in our own desires, and between ourselves and our families, primarily, the women and females around us. So don't worry Rahmatullahi we're better cattle