Two Faced: Overcoming Hypocrisy
Channel: AbdelRahman Murphy
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With the rise of advanced technology and communication, we have found ourselves in a state where we spend a lot of our time engaging in idle talk. This has opened DOORS to a lot of different influences coming together, making slander and gossip much more commonplace. Apathy towards the consequences of these sins has contributed to the greater prevalence of hypocrisy among the youth. We now see people carelessly advising others without sincere intentions, preaching without practicing, calling each other hypocrites, and backbiting others without being aware of the heavy repercussions. The fear of being hypocritical has disappeared from the hearts of the people today, whereas during the time of the Prophet PBUH, that fear was always present among the companions.
Al hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah. Early, he was happy to be here to be standing Elijah Medina allama, john. I mean,
yesterday, I gave a look at the DNA center of America, the Turkish mustard in Maryland. And I finished my hook. And we finished the slot. And his brother tapped me on the shoulder. So I turned around, and I had a smile on my face. And I made sure to greet him. And so I go, how are you? He goes,
he goes, I'm so excited to meet you.
And I said, in my head, I'm like, I have no idea why.
This guy's probably CIA. But anyways,
I said, okay, because I don't know, how do you respond to that there's an awkward prompt. I'm also excited to meet you right now for the first time ever, right?
And he goes, I've been following you on Instagram and on Twitter, and on Snapchat, and I just love your reminders. And I'm like, okay, in my head. I'm like,
if this guy likes cats and coffee, that's basically all I put online. So I'm not sure where he's going with this. And he goes, it's such an honor to finally meet you Imam suhaib Webb.
And the funny thing is, I was gonna make a joke about how like, we're in front of everybody together at the same time. So it proves that we're not the same person. But then he left.
And so now I can't even prove to you like none of you believe me right now. Like, this guy just loves talking. Here it goes another session, right.
But with all honesty, and all jokes aside, mm sohaib session touched me a lot. did it affect you guys at all, give a round of applause if it affected you.
I don't think there's anything more important for the Muslim to hear than reminders that Allah subhanaw taala is forgiving. I think that the idea or the notion that a person can be told, especially a young Muslim, that Allah is too forgiving. You don't want to tell them too much, because then they might take advantage of it. I think that notion is inherently flawed. And I think that first and see your heart for a person who has, you know, a heart that is yearning for less power to the reminder of a loss. Forgiveness is like getting that first glass of cold water after a long day of fasting. It's so refreshing and so rejuvenating. So I asked Allah permintaan I bless
him. So hey, give him strength to continue teaching and speaking because his messages resonate with us 100 enough.
Yesterday, I was at a friend's house here locally in the Maryland area in the Baltimore area. And he has two kids, and one of his kids is about the age of two. And if anyone here has ever interacted with children that age, you know that there are basically two types of children there are the ones that are quiet and they listen, they obey, they're respectful, they chill. And then there are the pin balls. And what they do is they run around and basically their goal is to develop such a strong immunity to pain and suffering that nothing will hurt them. No corner of a table will ever impact them again later on in life, because they ran into it so many times with their forehead. So
yesterday, my friend's daughter we were quite literally sitting there talking about the Oklahoma City and warriors game the night before and we were discussing it over some coffee and his daughter runs into a table and she falls and starts crying. So without breaking conversation at all he goes over and picks her up and starts rocking her five seconds later puts her down. She then Sprint's off and runs into a doorknob.
She falls down and starts crying. He shuffles over quickly, like Harrison Barnes to the baseline, picks her up and rocks her back puts her back down. She runs in trips on the first stare and hits her face on the stairs.
After that entire series of unfortunate events.
We were walking upstairs and as we were walking, we turn the corner and were two big dudes my shoulder hit his shoulder and his iPhone dropped. And it was as though time slowed down. It was like we were watching inception.
And we both dove for the iPhone six s in that slow mo dive to protect it from ever being hit from the floor. Because we all know there is nothing more disappointing nothing that can ruin your day more than a shattered iPhone screen.
And we both looked at each other with our response of how we reacted to the delicacy of the phone and the protection of the phone. And we both silently acknowledged that we took more caution over the phone than a human child.
Then had just run into three objects, and we walked away silently disappointed at the state of our spiritual existence.
But the reason I'm sharing with you this story is because even though this example may have not exactly happened to you, there are things in life that you value. There are things in life that you hold near and dear to your heart. I remember one morning I was making my coffee at home. And if you look at me on Instagram, for whatever strange reason, you shouldn't follow me on any of these things, just following them. So hey, you're actually going to learn something there and sha Allah with me, you're just gonna learn how to steam milk for the perfect latte. But I was making my coffee in the morning. And my cat Sherlock. Yeah, we named our cat Sherlock after the Benedict Cumberbatch
series. Okay, he jumped on the counter, and he positioned himself and the angle for Snapchat was just right to make it look like Sherlock was making a latte.
And I said, this is going to be amazing. I'm finally going to make the front page of Reddit. So I start filming it. And as I get it, I nailed it. The lighting was perfect. And at the end, you look over sherlocks furry shoulder, and you see the milk spinning and at the very end, he turns around and looks at the camera. It was a perfect snap. My wife opens the door from the garage when she was coming back in and my fingers slid and it hit the X button.
Your reaction is exactly what I wanted to hear. All of us have had that moment where we've had the perfect snap, and we lost it forever in the annals of the internet never to be recovered. No one will know how truly funny we really are only us and Sherlock.
And the reason why I'm bringing this up is because when something means something to you.
When something is important to you as a person, you love it, you cherish it, losing that thing, or harming that thing is one of the worst thoughts you could ever think of something you want to avoid more than anything else. My topic today is on hypocrisy. In my research when I was reading some of the Prophet Mohammed Saul settled on his teachings about hypocrisy. The is in the Quran first and foremost about how Allah identifies hypocrisy. One thing I found was that the companions were absolutely obsessed with making sure that they were not on the path of hypocrisy, spiritual hypocrisy. There is a companion by the name of a Federal de la Han and where they thought I was
given a list by the prophet Mohammed Sol Sutherland, he was given information about who were people in Medina that were spiritual hypocrites. And Ahmed bin satara de la Harada. When he found out that her they had this list, he basically went and kept badgering her they thought and interrogating him saying, Tell me who's on the list, not because I might have wanted to gossip, but because I'm gonna want it to make sure that I'm not on that list. Can you imagine who this person is? This is the same person that when he takes an a route down the street shaitan goes the other way. This is the same individual that the Prophet Muhammad SAW them said to if there were a prophet after me, even though
I'm the final prophet, if there were one after me, it would be Ahmed. This is the person that when he had an idea that the Quran would be revealed about that idea and would confirm him numerous times. And he was concerned that potentially despite all of this positive feedback about his he man, he was concerned that maybe my heart isn't right. Maybe my heart is sick, he never got comfortable, he never became apathetic, he never became happy with mediocre faith, he always wanted to have that spiritual incline that kept him safe with sincerity away from hypocrisy. And just like you and I would keep our thumb away from the top left corner of a newly recorded snap. Or when the iPhone is
tumbling in midair, I will literally sacrifice my body to make sure that I don't have to go to the Apple Store replace the screen later that day. Just like we react with such passion to make sure that these things don't get harmed. We have to see our amen in that same way. We have to understand that the reason why those Sunday school teachers may Allah bless them. I never ever want anyone to speak ill about Sunday school. These are individuals who gave
large portions of their lives every week, just to make sure that there was some sort of Islamic education happening in our communities. And for a lot of us, for a lot of us maybe we had negative experiences in the communities. But for a lot of us, those sacrifices that they made to give us positive experiences meant a lot. Usually you wait until I'm done then you start clapping. I'm joking, right?
But I want to appreciate and if you're a part of a Sunday school apparatus, if you give to the kids, make sure that you understand something that they might they might not listen to what you're saying right now. They might not get it. You might tell them something that's better for them. And they might say Yeah, whatever. But later on those words will have been planted in their heart like soil and it takes time sometimes for seeds to bloom and after a while, the word
sent to them, reminding them to be good to their Lord and good to their parents and good to their friends. Those words will bloom I still till today. Repeat after every prayer, the same of Gar, the same Vicar that my office job taught me at Islamic school, the same school I got expelled from.
But the reason why I don't clap for the expulsion, the reason why everyone's like other America got expelled, I'm gonna get expelled. The parents are like, no, right. And that's when I knew, right?
I still repeat those same car because even though he was teaching us and we were not paying attention, he knew that the heart would eventually listen and take hold. Okay, so we have to understand that when we hear these things in Sunday school, like you're a man is the most valuable thing that you have. This isn't just a Muslim cliche. This isn't another hashtag trend. This isn't something that's just meant to be said, to make us feel like a man is important. No, Eman truly is the most valuable thing that you hold. And if you want to find out why ask someone like Imam suhaib, who the night before he affirmed or confirmed as a man was in a state that he I don't want to you
know, make jokes about it. But he was in a state that he probably was not too proud of. And all of us for any of us who have decided to come close to Allah subhana wa Tada. Or Allah brought us close to him, I should say, then ask us about what times where we didn't have value for a man and ask someone? Do you think a man is most important when they've come from that state? And they'll tell you yes. Because a man lets you make right decisions in times when they're difficult. A man gives you direction to make the right choice. When you have all the wrong choices in front of you. That's what a man does. It gives you clear vision, it clarifies the world for you. So the companions were
so worried about being hypocrites, because I can't lose this lens of faith, it's going to if I don't have it, I'm not gonna be able to live life properly.
Now the Qur'an defines what hypocrisy is, because a lot of us have an understanding of hypocrisy that is a little bit different, right? We think maybe hypocrisy means to say something you don't do, or to do something you don't that you say not to do, right? That's the literal definition of hypocrisy, but spiritual hypocrisy. And he found in Arabic, what it means according to the Quranic definition, a lot actually defines it, in the beginning of the Quran, just three pages in a lot starts talking about what it means to have any policy. And essentially what it means is when a person puts so much value, and so much weight on their outer appearance, how people perceive them,
what people say about them, and think about them, that they completely whether it's active or passive, they neglect willingly the state of their inside their soul. So I'm so concerned with getting favourites and likes and retweets about my statement, or my deep reminder how woke I am, that are not actually concerned about being good, and actually fulfilling what I just shared. I'm going to tweet about how important Federer is, as I'm about to fall asleep. And Miss Frederick. That's hypocrisy, because I'm so concerned that people see how religious I am, that they don't actually have the ability to confirm that I may not actually be that way. But I'm so unconcerned.
And I want to make sure that people value my religiosity or a certain way that I am. And the interesting thing is that this disease, all of us right now, in this room, he knows that he talks about this actually one of his books, he says that whenever we find out about a negative characteristic, what is the human being naturally do? What does the neffs naturally do? The neffs naturally starts making a list of people that we think have these problems. So right now, as I'm describing hypocrites, everyone's like, man, I got a lot of hypocrite friends. And you're starting to make lists, right? You're like tweeting them, you're like, come to this lecture right now, quick,
you need to hear this. But he says that he says that, while we're doing this, we neglect reflecting on our own selves. While we're trying to call other people out, we were flat, we thought we failed to pause and say, this might be me, this might be my issue. So what I want to preface this entire talk, and I'll be done in a few minutes and Sharla. What I want to preface this entire session with is whenever you hear something that could potentially be constructively critical, don't try to apply it to people around you apply it inwardly. If someone says something like, yeah, you know, Muslims, they have to be more honest to be like, yeah, there was that one time I got lied to No. Think to
yourself, how many times have I lied? How many times have I broken my trust? My truth was somebody make it internal? Because that's the only way transformation happens. Is it painful? Yes. Being honest with yourself, is it bitter? Absolutely. But nothing worth having was ever easy. And spiritually, it's the same. If we sit in the land of comfort, pointing at other people's flaws, saying this person doesn't wear hijab, this person doesn't pray, this guy does this. This girl does that. How is that making you a better person?
And we've all been taught this notion of not being friends with people who have flaws. You know, remember that he says that that's not a
He says that that is impermissible in Islam, to break yourself off from somebody because of a sin they have for two reasons. Number one, he says, How on earth can you be not friends with somebody for their sin when you have sins? The second thing is he says, who was the best person to ever live on the face of the earth? Everyone say his name?
Who Muhammad SAW Selim someone's like Steph Curry, no wrong, right. Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam was Mohammed Sawsan and protected from committing spiritual sins. Yes. Was he perfect in his spirituality? Yes. Did he have friends? Yes, we did his friends make mistakes. Absolutely. So if the prophet SAW Santa was perfect, how could he have had friends, if you're not allowed to have friends unless they're at least as good as you or better than you? It doesn't make sense. communities have to come together and stop indicting one another with spiritual deficiencies. That's not how this works. We asked the last prophet Allah to protect us from arrogance, a lost battle with Allah He
begins by defining spiritual hypocrisy it's sort of the the bucket up when he says what mean and nasty may have Pluto and Nebula he will be The Omen accurate athlete will not mean a lot defines the initial stage, there's four stages of hypocrisy that we're going to go over today, four stages of nofap, a lot identifies the first stage as people who say that we believe that we believe in Allah in the Day of Judgment, and Allah then says about those people, but they don't truly believe that unless power to Allah continues and says, You have your own law, let me know when are you gonna learn?
Allah says that these people, they're trying to actually deceive Allah subhanho wa Taala, but rather, they are deceived themselves. And we're going to talk about why. But the first step towards hypocrisy I want people to write this down, is that you actually don't have any care for your internal. I don't have any care for my internal. I just want people to see me a certain way these people are proclaiming to the community. Yes, I believe in Allah and the Last Day, but Allah says in their heart, there is a void of that belief, it is not truly there. And this is something that is particularly dangerous with things like social media, with things like the social media age, where
really perception is 100% portrayal is all we're concerned about. But the reality that's inside we could care less about that second tier, we don't actually focus on those things. This month of Ramadan that is coming up I asked Allah tada to allow us to see what I'm about to say. I mean, this month of Ramadan coming up is going to be your spiritual mirror and my spiritual mirror the month of Ramadan, as we said yesterday in the hood, but it reduces you as a person to your lowest state your most weak state so you can see who you are. You know, they asked Steve Kerr once from the Chicago Bulls, the 72 win team and that allows you in the layout of June,
they asked Steve Kerr once because after Michael Jordan retired and after Steve Kerr retired and all these players retired, it came out that they actually hated each other. Like the day before Steve Kerr made the game winning shot. And in the finals, Michael Jordan punched him in the face in practice, and they actually had to put makeup on his black eye.
And they asked Steve Kerr, who's now the coach of the warriors. They said, you guys had a bad relationship. It looked like you guys had such a good relationship. You guys were so good. You guys have such great chemistry on the court. What happened? Steve Kerr said when you're winning everyone's friends. But it was when you were losing that people's true character was revealed. Ramadan removes all of the glitz and glamour from our naps and reduces us by starving us, both physically and in an in a in a desirous way. It starves us to make us realize who we truly are, the way that we react when fasting, that time between author and mcglinn, where every other thought is
The way that we treat people, when we're frustrated in Ramadan is going to act as a spiritual mirror. Go ahead and claim that you're a pious person. Go ahead and claim that you're a believer. But actually, what's better is don't say it but look at yourself, record yourself and how you talk. At the end of the day, make some more of a moron stop and think to yourself, what have I done? How did I feel in my heart when there was one samosa left in the trade? And there were two of us standing in line that when the brother took the samosa first, did I make Budweiser against him? Right? Did I become upset when they ran out when they ran out a mango let's see. These are all
things internally that will reveal to you who you truly are in character and will reveal to me as well as less primatology give us success.
The second step and this is very scary. The second step of spiritual hypocrisy is that we lose the ability to feel
shame and remorse when we make a mistake Mmm. So hey, beautifully talked about when you feel this shame. And this remorse and regret in front of a Las Palmas shout out for the mistakes that we've made his teachers he quoted that they would shed tears if they missed. If they missed a prayer they would actually become emotionally rattled. A lot finishes the next part of the verse by saying
People have no concept of the sin that they're creating. He actually uses this description in the entire passage numerous times. There's this concept in medicine that Dr. farhaan can probably tell you more about, don't you love when people who aren't doctors talking about medicine? I'm not a doctor, I'm going to talk about medicine. Okay. There's this concept in medicine called neuropathy. And the reason why I know about it is because my father is a diabetic. What happens is when a person becomes diabetic, they have the chance that their limbs, the nerves, on their limbs, which allow them to feel right, your nerves allow you to feel they have the chance that those nerves will die,
those nerves will lose the ability to feel. And so you'll oftentimes see a lot of diabetics unless they exercise and workout and get blood pumping to their limbs, they'll have to actually start wearing fixed socks. It's very interesting. So my dad, for example, he kind of lost some sense sensation on one of the one of his feet on the bottom of his feet. And the doctor said, what were thick socks? I was like, what kind of doctor? Are you thick socks? Right prescribing us at Walmart? What's going on? Right? Where's the medicine? He goes, No, you have to wear thick socks. I said, explain why? He said because your dad can't feel on one of his feet. And if he bumps into something
sharp and it gets cut, and it bleeds, it might become infected. And if an infection goes without being taken care of, just like spiritual infections. If a bodily infection goes without being taken care of without being cured without being noticed, then it might actually require much more severe treatment like amputation of the entire leg. I said, Go on Amazon order. 3000. Fix socks, please.
Right? That's called neuropathy when a person loses the ability to feel so the body loses the ability to communicate to the rest of the body that something is wrong. remorse is an important feeling. Regret is an important feeling. That doesn't mean that you don't appreciate yourself. There's this movement now of unconditional acceptance and love and appreciation for oneself. No, you should appreciate yourself. But at the same time, push yourself forward to become the best version of yourself. Don't settle for mediocre me. Don't settle for being just who you are. Keep pushing yourself to become better in spirit and emotion, intelligence and health in every part of your life.
And so when a person has spiritual neuropathy, they have now lost that remorse and regret that you and I feel when we commit a sin.
And all of us now can think for a moment about sins that we have been involved in for days, months, maybe years, maybe our entire life. And we realize now that when we first did that sin, there was a pinch of the heart. There was something that hurt us. But the more and more that we did that sin the more and more that we did it without regretting it without trying to fight it, the more and more comfortable we became. Do you guys ever see little killed little children's faces when a swear word is set in front of them? One time I was driving my van. I don't have a van. I was driving a van. I rented a van. Everyone's judging me right now. I don't have a van. Okay. I was driving a van with a
lot of youth because I do a lot of youth work come to the LA with some younger teens. We were taking them myself and one of my friends hospital Baitullah. And we were taking them out for a field day.
And we had a we have Pandora on. And for some reason one of the songs came on, and it used a cuss word, a really bad word. And all the kids in the band were like, Oh my god, brother Murphy just endorsed cursing, right? No, but they heard it and they they flipped out. Whereas with college kids, they hear that word. They're like, Oh, yeah, actually, that words actually quite powerful. You know, we use it a lot when we get upset. And they'll go into the etymology of the curse word. And they'll explain what they'll do Tafseer of it, like they'll explain how often they use it in what ways like no matter the con equivalent for curse words, right? Like truly the meaning has profound impact on
my message. I'm angry, right? Like, when we first heard it when we were younger, it impacted us, it hurt us. But as we became older and more jaded by society and media, now we hear these things all the time. It's normal to the point where we use them sometimes it's the first thing that comes out of our lives when we're upset when we never ever grew up hearing that from people that were close to us. This is spiritual neuropathy. So when Allah identifies that the hypocrites lose the ability to feel regret that itself is a punishment in and of itself. I asked the last Parramatta to protect us from that. You know, the prophet SAW that one time was asked by one of the companions the Hadith
says that in the Raja Salah, Nabi sallallahu, wasallam mal Eman man, he said, What is faith? The Prophet Muhammad SAW sent him said he thought Soraka has not to Kawasaki movement. He said if you feel happy with your good deeds and you feel disappointed and sad at your bad deeds, and you're a believer, look at how the prophet SAW someone was so positive, the optimist he didn't say you're a believer if you do good and stay away from bad he said that you're a believer. If you're happy with your good and when you occasionally make a mistake, you feel disappointed and you want to change yourself. That's a sign of belief.
Then the person asked mad Islam, what is sin? What is sin and the Prophet Muhammad SAW something described sin. He didn't say it's making a mistake. He described the emotion that a person feels when they commit a sin. He said, either haka, he saw that because Satan for that or who he said that when a person feels tightness in their chest, when a person does something, they feel tightness in their chest with it, he says repel that thing. If you're moving towards doing a deed or saying something or going somewhere, and you feel this anxiety in your chest, not good anxiety, you know, when I was stepping up here, I feel nervous when I give speeches, I feel nervous. That's good
anxiety, though. But if I'm going somewhere, and I'm checking to make sure that my tweets, geolocation is turned off, because my parents are hip to geolocation, right, or I'm trying to make sure that my friend's parents, you know, are asleep before we sneak out, then that anxiety that you feel if you feel that then repel that action. If you feel like you're doing something wrong, losing that tightness that prophet SAW something described, itself is losing that awareness, do not get hit by spiritual neuropathy, we asked a lot to protect us a lot and continues FICO lluvia model down facade, amo la hamato, la, la la la la, la will be Macedonia kieboom. That this sickness of
hypocrisy, what ends up happening is it replicates it increases itself. Why? Because the hypocrite the sick person wants nothing more than what they what their heart desires. A person who is suffering from the disease of alcoholism. At some point, their body rejects anything that's healthy, and they just want more alcohol. So when a person has spiritual diseases, like backbiting, or envy, or jealousy, or judgmental ism, anything, any of these diseases of the heart, or job vanity, then what happens is if the heart becomes sick enough, it actually starts to perpetuate this disease and seek it more. You get one like on Instagram. Now you gotta send up another picture, right? I've
actually met people who get very disturbed when I don't like their pictures on Instagram. Like they meet me in person. They say, can you like my picture on Instagram? And I say sure, and they say no, right now.
And they take my phone. No, seriously, I've done this. And I say to them, do you not believe me? They said yeah, last time you said you wouldn't you never did. So they keep a tally on this. And I apologize for maybe not telling the truth when I said I was going to be right. But the point is that these diseases can perpetuate themselves don't become a slave to vanity, don't become a slave to the favorite or the like, only be only worried about being liked or favorited by Allah and His messenger. Other people will Favorite and like you for different reasons. And those reasons might not be good for you seek a loss of our todos fever and pleasure. That's the only one that you should
go for. Because then you'll be successful.
Allah tada then continues, and he describes and I'm running out of time. So I want to conclude. But he describes these people, he continues and says that the next step the hypocrites face after saying what they don't do, and lying about what they actually believe, and then losing that feeling of remorse, the hypocrites then start to mock the believers. And this is actually one of the things I've seen with a lot of young Muslims who are dabbling or walking that fine line of atheism or agnosticism. Some people it's from a sincere concern. Some people it's sincerely searching for Allah, and they're sincerely agnostic. And to those people, I actually applaud them. When someone
comes to me and says, I've been reading a lot and I really want to know if Allah exists and if I should believe in Him, if I get the feeling that they're sincere about it, I actually tell them, I'm proud of you. Because Allah commands us to think and you're thinking, but the people who use atheism and agnosticism as a mask screen a smokescreen for their desires, that they want to do something and they end up saying, You know what, I feel guilty when I do this sin, so I'm just gonna shut off all of my religion for my entire life. Those people have to check themselves. Are you just giving up your relationship with Allah because of one person, a girl or a guy because of one habit, drinking
or smoking? It's not worth it. Don't do that. You can be a person who has sins but still has a relationship with Allah. That's part of the equation. So these people begin to mock the believers and say this religion makes absolutely no sense. Then Allah subhanaw taala finishes by saying that the hypocrites will eventually stumble to a point, hypocrisy will grow so large and so uncontainable, that the vessel that holds a man the heart will be removed, the man will be removed, and this person will have to make a decision. Allah says Allah kalinina shuttle Allah Allah subhanho wa somerby hottie Jarrah, to whom mama can almost add, he said that these people have made a
purchase that have exchanged something. When I bought this iPhone, I went to the Apple store and I gave them money. And I told them, I want an iPhone. They said, okay, it's gonna cost this much. I paid them and they gave me the phone. That's called a purchase. When you purchase something, the item that you are receiving is more important than the amount that you are giving to you. If I'm purchasing food, the $10 I'm paying for a meal is not as effective.
To me is being fed. So what's happening here with this exchange is lalala. misguidance is more important to these people than guidance, because guidance might be seen as something that is a burden to carry. But lalala is something that liberates them and gives them the ability to do what they want, and they traded. The powerful thing about this verse is that the verb of transacting is used, when you transact something, you can't buy it, and then take what you use to buy it. When I bought this iPhone, I didn't take the box and say, Okay, give me my money back. Because once I've given it, it's gone. And once they've given it to me, it's mine, you can't keep both. So a lot of
saying if a person truly wants he died a relationship with Him, they can't try to balance both balada and he died, it doesn't work like that you have to choose. That doesn't mean you can't make mistakes along the way. That doesn't mean you can't struggle along the way. But what it means is you have to choose in your heart of hearts, who you truly want to be. Do you want to be close to Allah subhana wa Tada, and please him or do you want to be distant from him and not have a relationship with the Lord of the worlds who gave us everything that we have? We asked Allah Parramatta to protect us. I'll finish with an aeration. And a reminder of the cures. I'll just go straight to the
cures in sha Allah. So some of the cures that I would recommend, if any of us feel like we have some hypocrisy that we're dealing with which all of us by the way, should the narration was to have the lovingness. And one of the one of the his his students came to him and said in the office in a minute, and he felt right, or that I fear that I am monastic, right. And he said, If you didn't fear that you were a monastic, then I would fear for you that you were a monastic. If you didn't have this fear in your heart that maybe I'm not sincere all the time, then I would fear for you. Meaning that a person should always check themselves. Why am I doing what I'm doing? Why am I doing this for
public perception? Or for the sake of Allah spawn Tada. The first cure I'll give is to do more good in private than you do in public. do more good deeds in private than you do in public? Why? Because this becomes an undeniable proof and undeniable evidence to you and to Allah that you are doing it for no one else besides Allah subhana wa Tada. Now I know what you guys are thinking, doing more good in private than in public means I gotta stop doing someone's good in public? No, right? If no client actually addressed this, somebody said, What if I don't want to go pray at the masjid in Jamaica? Because I'm afraid that is insincere. He said, That's from shaitan. Don't let shaitan ruin
your good deeds like that. So doing more in private than you do in public. The second is doing better quality in private than you do in public. When we're together with people, and it's time to pray we make will do everyone's like, Okay, how long are you going to take your like about 20 minutes for will do when you're by yourself? It's like a slip and slide, right? You just kind of go in there and throw water everywhere. And you're like, maybe it's closeable? Who knows? Right?
Right. Like, you go downstairs to the kitchen sink. It has grabbed the hose and you're like, Alright, I'm good. Let's pray. Right? The games on it's a commercial break. That's not how it works. Do better quality in private than you do in public. When people aren't around, extend the prayers. People are there. I have to pray soon enough. My parents are watching I have to brace them the entire time you're praying, you're not even reciting. You're just watching your mom behind your head. Right? That's not doing better quality. What's better quality is when you're by yourself. You take longer, no one's watching you take longer that time between you and Allah subhanaw taala the
last point I'll conclude with this in sha Allah because he's staring holes through me right now.
Is have good friends. Have good friends? Can I tell you how to have good friends? Any anyone curious how to have good friends? Be a good friend. People attract people that are like them. If you have if you are a good friend, if you're someone that is trustworthy. If you're someone that cares for people, if you're someone that is compassionate, that checks on people, your mom so he will text me randomly. Hey, I'm on a plane to Malaysia. I was just thinking about you want to see if you're okay, that's the good friend. Everyone's like he's friends with him. So hey, right? Of course I am. People think we're the same person, right? We're stunt doubles. I'm a stunt double Mashallah. Be a good
friend, be someone who shows concern and do not judge people. Do not look at the deficiencies that people have and make judgments about the state of their heart because God knows how many deficiencies we have that he has hidden from the eyes of other people. And I asked a lot to protect us from judging others. I have never seen any relationship or any community grow when judgmental ism or judging other people putting value on their soul was done. In fact, it is the only thing that pushes people away. Do not judge individuals, make excuses for them, support them, pray for them when they're not around and be a good friend. We asked the last part without it except medical off
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