Zakir Naik – Can People of Opposite Gender be Friends

			This question is asked by
		

			Abdullah Omar
		

			from Afghanistan.
		

			I have recently got admission at the university. And as it's a core educational system, I have
developed relationships and started talking with some of my female classmates through WhatsApp, and
messenger
		

			even though we consider each other as brother and sister relationship, but I found that this led me
astray from the straight path.
		

			Like I cannot pray at times right now and I cannot concentrate in my salah and many more things.
		

			Can you please tell me if it's permissible what I'm doing is right.
		

			And if it's not permissible, please give me an advice. How can I get myself out of this situation?
It's not only me who is going through these situations, but there are many Muslims whose fate is
same as mine.
		

			That isn't the question on the same topic asked by acid the Nadeem on the YouTube.
		

			Dan people of opposite gender befriends.
		

			The question posed by Abdullah Omar from Afghanistan is a very common question. And it's common
today that people go to co educational schools, co educational universities. And it's very common
that when they go there, they have friends of opposite * as the question posed that can you have
friends of the opposite gender, and they get involved and it leads them away from the teachings of
Islam. As far as having friends of the opposite gender is concerned. What do you mean by the word
friend, is important? If you're talking about acquaintances, having of opposite gender, no problem
having acquaintances as long as you do not break any of the teachings of the Quran and Hadith. As
		

			long as you do not break any of the ruling of the Sharia. You can have acquaintances of opposite
*, and we come to it in Sharla shortly regarding saying that I consider them to be my sister and
brother. You have to understand what do you mean by brother and sister? If we're talking about
brother and sister and humanity, no problem we are talking about brother and sister in faith, no
problem. But this brother and sister is not the same as brother and sister of blood. This is totally
nonsense. You know, like we have in India. Girls tie the rocky to the boy. She is Meraki sister.
There's no rocky sister in Islam.
		

			Sister in humanity, okay. Like I say, sister asked a good question. Sister in faith, no problem. But
all these sisters of humanity and faith, you have to do full and total a job with them. Only with
your blood sister. Where your parents are common with a parent or one parent, then the job is
relaxed. Even with your cousin, you have to maintain your full job. The problem is that we see in
the Western countries. It's very common that the intermingling of sexes and many of the Muslim
countries This is becoming common in them two way of qualification in schools, we have quite
educational universities. And there you have friends and you keep on chatting and you keep on
		

			speaking thing which are not required. If you speak with an opposite * things which are required
as an emergency, no problem, but you cannot do chatting like how you do with the same *. Like a
boy has a boyfriend No problem, you can chat you can laugh, you can joke, but you cannot do the same
thing with an opposite * with a nonmetal. It's not permitted in Islam. What we find and it's very
clearly mentioned, as far as the job is concerned, before talking about the hijab, for the woman is
up for the woman is given in the Quran, that Muslim should be properly covered under discuss that in
my previous session, then also in my lectures, that complete body should be covered only part can be
		

			seen as the face and handler for the rest at cetera. But this is only the job of the cloth. The
complete job. Besides the job of the cloth is the job of a lady walks that way a lady talks the way
a lady thinks the way a lady sees before talking about the job of the female, the woman in the
Quran. Allah talks about the job of the men in suit a new chapter number 24. Muslim attenti where
Allah smart Allah says, say to the believing man, that he should know what his gift and God is
modesty.
		

			That means whenever a male looks at a female, any breathing thought company in his mind, he should
know if
		

			there was once a boy standing at a girl for a long time. Certainly Brother, what am I doing? It's
not allowed in Islam. He told me that a prophet said the first glance is forgiven. The second is
prohibited. I have not completed half my plans for the Prophet means
		

			When we said that the first glance is Forgiving, the second is prohibited, what it means that if you
accidentally look at a woman do not look at her again to feast on a beauty, that does not mean you
can look at a woman for 10 minutes without blinking and saying that I have not complete my glands.
		

			So, maintaining the hijab is very important. Therefore, it is not advisable for taking education in
a co educational University.
		

			And if you have to take education, if there is no other option, then you have to maintain your
hijab. When you're speaking with the opposite *, you should lower your gaze you cannot stare at
the woman will look into her eyes and talk in the western country. If you do not look into the eyes
and speak it's also like an insult.
		

			What we find that even the Muslim when they go to Western country, they do not follow this hijab.
When I visited Islamic organizations, Western country, I find that Muslim ladies and gents sisters
and brothers, they are freely intermingling, they're freely talking, they may be wearing the hijab,
they may be covered, the hair is covered, but that is a physical exam only of the cloth.
		

			They're laughing, they're joking. In some of the Western countries, I find a man and a woman sitting
alone in a small room and chatting of Muslim woman during the hour to a non Muslim boy in a closed
room. It's not allowed. Our beloved Prophet Musa Lawson said that if to na maroma alone in a room,
the third person is a devotee.
		

			It's not allowed that you can be in a closed room a man and woman in some organization have gone and
seen that the head of the organization had the lady secretary, how can you hold any secretary? Do
you think all the Muslim men in the country are not capable? And they qualified? I cannot understand
that. How can a practicing Muslim? Have a lady secretary? How can they maintain the job? If the
secretary comes in the room in your room and no one else is there. It's not permitted. It is very
common. unfortunate. They're preaching Islam is not practicing Islam. So if you break the hijab,
there are high chances what the brother has asked a man will happen. Your focus will go away from
		

			education, you will start thinking other things as a brother sister for namesake. But then love
affair starts and you deviate from the Sharia and you start doing an Islamic things. Therefore, best
is to educate yourself in a single * University. And though the survey done in UK, that the
schools, which were single * had better performance, and single * universities, as compared to
universities, which were coined.
		

			And that's the same thing in India. Also, if it's a single * education, the performance is better
because many a time in a co education, each * is trying to impress the other *. So if a teacher
is teaching the boys trying to impress the girl in his class, rather than paying attention on the
subject, this is very common. So single * education is better. If there is no other option than
affording higher education. If you have to go to a court education, CTA to maintain your hijab, I'm
not talking only about University, the image to go in office places the hijab should be maintained.
It is not that you're prohibited to speak with the opposite * No. But when you speak, you have to
		

			be careful. There's a word revealed in the Quran in surah. Isaiah, chapter number 33, was number 32,
which is addressed to the wife of the prophet to the Omaha momineen. It says that all wives of the
Prophet be not too complacent in your wife, left in whose heart is a disease, he will have desires.
Imagine the wives of the Prophet, they are called an Omaha to momineen. It is not permitted for any
one else to marry the wives of the Prophet even after the Prophet has died. The Quran is revealing a
verse what the wives of the Prophet be not too complacent in your voice, less in his heart is a
disease, he may have some desires. Imagine the sahabas who are the highest level among the Muslim
		

			Ummah, the prophet said, the past generation for the Sabbath. There is no human meat today on the
face of the earth, which is anywhere close to the Saba, there is no woman who is anywhere close to
the mortal moment and yet Allah says to the modern woman, do not be complacent in your voice. Why?
		

			So that in whose heart in the disease can the Sabbath have a disease in the heart?
		

			You cannot think of it yet for safety. As a precaution, Allah He will disperse and today we find the
woman in the offices in Muslim organization, the Muslim companies, they are talking to each other
they are laughing leave aside complacent, they are joking. What they think only wearing the scarf
the job is done.
		

			They're totally wrong.
		

			And unfortunately, this Western culture is even percolating into the Muslim countries. Nowadays we
find Muslim countries also, Muslim men and women, they freely talk they freely mix. If you required
if there's a requirement, you have to talk, then you can talk, but when you talk, don't look i into
I lower your gaze. How many Muslims do you find today in the world, when they speak to an American
lady, that the lower thing is very few in the western country hardly, you will be counted like a
joker.
		

			But believe me, hamdulillah a strong Muslim will follow this. And if this is done, all these things
will not happen. As the question was asked, my mind is devotee, I cannot offer Salah but natural
		

			and today we find the dressing also is not as per the Sharia, you have non Muslim lady is not
dressing up properly when the Muslim lady they may be Muslim, they may not be dressing up properly,
more of the body is exposed than covered. So all the things you have to maintain the job if you
maintain the hijab, the men maintaining their hijab, that whenever they look at a woman, they should
lower their gaze and see to it that they also not too friendly. Only talk when is required when
there is a requirement, not unnecessary joking, etc can be done with the same * but not with the
opposite *
		

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