Yasmin Mogahed – The Right Way To Deal With Pain

			We hate to feel pain. I mean, that is just part of human nature. But, but I'm going to kind of
change your perspective a little bit here in sha Allah. And that is look at a person who goes to the
gym, right? A person who wants to get in shape a person who wants to build muscle, my question to
you is, what do they do? Right? If someone wants to get strong? Do they sit on the couch and get
comfortable? Or do they have to go to the gym and lift weight, right. And so we understand this
concept in the physical world that in order to get stronger, in order to get fit, you have to
actually do work, you have to actually struggle a bit. Yeah, you have to actually lift weight. If I
		

			tell a personal trainer, hey, I want to be in shape, right? I want to be strong, I want to be fit,
that trainer isn't going to tell you how to sit on the couch, that train is not going to get you
comfortable. In fact, any and anyone who's who's who's gone to a trainer knows it's not comfortable.
It's not, it's not necessarily going to be something that's easy, right? In fact, it is involves
some struggle. And it may involve some literal pain, right? No pain, no gain. Now that pain of
lifting, and the pain that anyone who goes to the gym knows that comes after is part of the process.
It's part of the process of what you know, you never see, if you told your trainer, I want to be
		

			strong, and I want to be fit, right? And then your trainer says, Okay, here's how you're going to do
it. This is what you're going to do. This is your regimen. You see, though that weight over there,
you're gonna have to pick it, you're gonna have to lift it, no, but it hurts, but you're gonna have
to do it, that's how you're going to get fit. That's how you're going to get strong. You're not
going to go and get angry at the trainer and say, Why would you do this to me? How could you make me
go to the gym? or How could you make me lift that weight? How could you make me do resistance
training, how could you do this, you're not going to get angry, because you know that there's a
		

			purpose, you know, that this, this period of pain, this period of struggle is for a purpose. And
that purpose is to make you stronger. And that purpose is to is to develop you literally to grow
you.
		

			And it's exactly the same thing with Allah subhanaw taala, and the pain that we experience in life,
but we have to respond in the right way, in order for it to grow us. In order for it to make us
stronger, we have to respond in the right way. Because just like at the gym, if you do it wrong, you
can injure yourself. And, in fact, you can really, really hurt yourself, right? It's the same thing
that if we don't respond properly, if we don't understand how to deal with the pain, if we don't
understand how to respond to the broken heart, then we can actually suffer greatly. And that's why
it's so important that we learn these tools, and we have the right concepts, and we respond
		

			properly. So what I do in this course, is I talk about, you know, kind of the whole spectrum, right?
from understanding the concept of attachments because it's all connected, right? The the pain that
we feel is connected to the type of attachments that we have, when you have an unhealthy attachment,
for example. And Shall I talk about this more in depth obviously in the course. I'll also be
touching upon this topic in in part of the series in Shaolin upcoming, you know, courses in the
series, but when you have an unhealthy attachment, it affects the type of pain that you experience.