Yasir Qadhi – Perfecting our Ikhlaq (Character)

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The importance of good manners in achieving success in life is emphasized, including the need for individuals to demonstrate their success in social and behavior behavior. Personal holo is also important, and the importance of meeting user's expectations and being close to them is emphasized. The importance of learning to be mindful of one's behavior and finding one's own success in life is emphasized, as well as the need for individuals to study the blessings of patience, practice it daily, and make it a habit to be mindful of one's behavior.

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			blessings that are mentioned in the Quran and the Sunnah when it comes to perfecting our craft with
other people. And of course the Quran is full of admonishments to better our manners ALLAH SubhanA
wa Tada says in the Quran, wherever the Rahmani linea, I'm sure none of the Hohner the servants of
Rahman are those who walk with humility in this earth. And when people with no manners, accost them,
or tried to get into an argument with them, they say said Hama, they say peace unto them. So the
first of the seven blessings is that good manners is of the comprehensive advice of the Quran and
the Sunnah. We have more than a dozen, a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam when somebody came
		
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			to him for advice, or when he offered advice that he included in that advice, good manners. For
example, a man came to the Prophet system said give me good advice. He said, Don't get angry. This
is a part of good manners. The man said I want more, don't get angry. I want more. Don't get angry,
just calm, keep calm, have good manners, and the famous Hadith of the bingeable. Our Prophet
salallahu Alaihe Salam was giving advice to more either bingeable This is one of the last pieces of
advice he gave to Murad when he sent him off to Yemen. He said yeah Murad, three three points. It
tequila Hi Toma, Quint. Wherever you are have Taqwa of Allah. Well, it's been hesitant to say yet
		
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			attempt to her and follow up a good deed an evil deed. Satan has no follow up an evil deed with a
good deed. It shall erase it. And number three will Harlequin NASA behold Lachlan, Hasson wherever
you go, interact with people in a good manner. So this is of the comprehensive advice that our
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave to mankind. This is the first of the seven blessings. The
second of these blessings is that our Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam told us that no person has been
given anything better from Allah azza wa jal than good manners. The best blessing that Allah can
give someone is not the blessing of wealth is not the blessing of reason of fame of status. No, the
		
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			best blessing as our prophets are some said, no one has been given anything more blessing, then
personal hook. So this is the best blessing that Allah subhanho wa Taala can give to someone we
should be greedy in front of Allah, we should be asking Allah to grant us good manners, this is the
best blessing. In another Hadith, he said, that I advise you to have good manners for for one lady
enough cbsd I swear by the one in whose hands is by the one in whose soul is in my hand. He said
lamb yet as a gentle holla Kobe with rehab, no one can beautify themselves with something better
than good manners. So you want to be beautiful. It's not what good clothes, you want to be
		
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			beautiful. It's not with something that is external. The best way to make yourself look good is
through good manners. So number two, the best blessing and the best beautification is through good
manners. Number three, our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, and this one is very powerful.
In a radula layer below humans it reliably humans a letter. So one by one, the person can reach the
level of the one who is constantly fasting and constantly praying to Him, He would be loosening
hookah he through his good o'clock. Now, this is something that most of us, most of us, we fall
short of in that we assume that the one who prays tahajud and the one who is fasting is the most
		
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			righteous in the eyes of Allah. And generally that is the rule. But in this hadith we learn if the
one who is fasting and praying tahajjud does not have good o'clock, then the one that has good luck
will reach that level, maybe even higher than him without waking up at night, without fasting
constantly, simply by being cheerful simply by spreading peace by making people love him. By being a
good person in society, this person will reach the level of the one who is fasting every second
third date, the one who is praying every single night and the wordings that are prophecies amuse
Salam, and awam, which means the one who's constantly fasting, the one who's constantly praying this
		
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			person is good, but the one who has good o'clock and does not do all those nothing can reach his
level, maybe even more simply by good o'clock. Religiosity is not just judged by your outer Salah by
things that are external religiosity is also judged by how you treat other people as our profit
system set a dino
		
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			A little more armella, this entire religion can be summarized in how you interact with other people.
So this is point number What are you guys following? Point number three, point number four, our
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam reminded us and of course this is all interconnected, it makes
complete sense that you do not perfect your iman. Unless you perfect your o'clock. Hadith isn't
Behati a Komodo meaning that Iman a has seen a womb UCLA. I mean it makes sense. A criminal me Nina
Iman and the ones who have perfected their Eman the most. There is a double emphasis akmola meaning
that your minor you want to have Immanuel camel, you want to really be perfect. You cannot have
		
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			perfect Eman and be sour faced. Be someone who is miserly and stingy be someone whom other people
don't like to be around know. A Komodo me Nina Iman and a house you know whom UCLA call. The best of
the people of Eman are those who are the best in their luck with other people. So you want to have
good Imani in the eyes of Allah. It must be demonstrated in your social skills, it must be
demonstrated and how you interact with other people. This is point number four. Point number five
dear Muslims, our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, There is nothing that is heavier in the
scales on judgement day than personal Hello. There is nothing that will be heavier on the Day of
		
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			Judgment in your skills of good deeds than having good o'clock with other people. And we want our
skills to be heavy. We want to make sure that our evil deeds are not going to be the ones that are
going to be heavier. We want our good deeds to be heavier, we have to add extra things on the right
side of the scale and what will be the biggest and most important thing, the ones that have the good
o'clock looseness or look they will have the weightiest things on a judgement day. And of course, it
also makes sense because of this they will enter Jannah as well and they will enter Jana the fastest
as well. This is point number five, that personal holo has the heaviest thing on the scales in
		
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			Judgment Day, point number six of viously as well that when your scales are heavy, point number six
is a follow up for that, that you will be in the highest places of Jana, and you will be in the
greatest places of agenda in the Hadith in Sahih Bukhari our Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam said, I
guarantee someone, I guarantee someone of house in the highest levels of Jannah for the one who has
good luck. If you can guarantee good luck, I guarantee that person will be the highest in Jannah and
a man asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what is the thing that will cause people to
enter Jannah the most? What's the thing that will really save people the most and cause them to
		
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			enter Jannah he said two things Taku Allah he will personally hook you want to enter Jannah the
easiest way to enter Jannah the way that the doors are the widest we can all try to get there is
Taqwa of Allah and personal holo obviously together have Taqwa of Allah be conscious of Allah, and
then treat people nicely if you can do these two things, and Hamdulillah this is the biggest door to
agenda. This is the vastest door to agenda and it is the door that most of mankind that enter agenda
will enter from what is the cause of most people entering gender this was the question what is the
thing that will cause the most people to enter Jannah and our Prophet system said Taqwa of Allah and
		
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			personal holo, they have to be combined, obviously, but when they are combined Alhamdulillah the
doors of Jannah are open for you. And the seventh point, the seventh point, we all desire to be with
our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we haven't seen him in this dunya Allah did not choose us
to be of that batch. We don't want to be deprived in the next life. He told us how to get there. He
told us how to get there. Hadith once again is in Makati. Our Prophet system said aka Robo
committeeman zealot and yarmulke Yama, the closest to you in your stations have towards me, on the
Day of Judgment will be those who have
		
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			the best of luck, the ones who will be closest to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and they will
therefore drink from the house and their shafa is guaranteed. And they will be with him in Jannah.
Because the stations begin on the Day of Judgment. As you are on Judgment Day, you will continue in
the era as well. That's the whole point of Judgment Day. So the ones that will be closest to me on
the day of judgment are those that have the best of luck, And subhanAllah once again, the o'clock
outweigh the Nuffield about that the o'clock outweigh as we said in point number three, that o'clock
or more
		
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			More important than nothing are about data. And this is a common misconception that we have this
hadith once again emphasizes it. You want to be the closest to the prophets of Allah, who are they
who was selling them, you need to have the best o'clock. And then in this hadith he actually
explained a little bit about good o'clock. He said, I'll mow to a canal if and there's a very
interesting phrase, those who allow their backs and their shoulders to be walked over Elmo to own a
canal often. And what does this mean? It means you don't get angry. You are humble. When somebody
does something of a crude nature makes a crass remark gives you a sarcastic jibe. Whatever
		
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			hamdulillah no big deal. The ones whose humility is so much that when others try to provoke them,
when others irritate them, they don't become irritated. This is exactly what the Quran says. We're
about to write man and lady I'm sure it'll be Hona well, either hot or humid. Yeah, he's gonna call
to Salem, when the GI Hill person wants to provoke them wants to wants to prod you, the movement
says Salem, I'm not gonna get involved with this. So the Profit System said you want to be close to
me. It's the same athlete by the way you want to be closest to me have the best o'clock have the
shoulders that other people walk over right out of the box that other people walk over. Don't worry
		
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			about your ego. Erase your ego. Be humble. Don't fight other people with your mouth with your words
and lead those do whatever they want. You will be the closest to me. Then he said a lady in
California where you will have phone whether Hira female, left, what are you love? Who are these
people? Once again, all of this is the same Hadith. Who are these people? The ones listen to this?
Well, my beautiful Hadith the ones who are friendly with others and allow others to be friendly with
them. Yeah, Allah foreigner while you're on the phone, they're friendly. Wherever they go, cheerful
face, give a good word here give a helping thing, their encouragement, their spend of their wealth
		
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			and their money, generous of spirit. They're friendly with others, and they allow others to be
friendly with them. When somebody comes stranger says to them, then I don't know you, were you. You
want something from me? No, yeah. And therefore now well, your phone and our profit system then
said, what a hydra female Allah Allahu Allah, you will love there is no good, and the one who is not
friendly with others, and the one who doesn't allow people to be friendly with him. These seven
blessings and there are more. But these seven blessings really underscore the importance of
interaction, the importance of meeting people being good with them, and realize that scholars have
		
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			tried to define what is good o'clock, you don't need a scholarly definition of good o'clock you
don't need it. Perhaps one of the simplest definitions is you do unto others what you would like to
be done unto you. But in fact, it is more than that. It's common sense is that wherever you go as
this hadith mentions, whatever you do, you bring about a positive attitude, you are friendly with
people, people know you to be a person of good Accra and good o'clock does not need to be taught it
is something that you know from your fitrah you know how to be good. Also, dear brothers and
sisters, the question arises, how does one obtain good o'clock, there are two things we need to
		
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			mention here and then inshallah we are done for today.
		
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			Two things we need to mention here. A lot of people say it's not my fault, I'm quick tempered. A lot
of people say it's not my fault, I have this thing. From my childhood, I've had this issue, the
response to this, every one of us, every one of us without exception, we have an element of a clock
that we are born with. And we have an element that we can work on every one of us, okay, the best
example to give you is that of your voice. Some people are born with beautiful voices. And some
people they don't have that good voice. But you know what, if they strive and they attempt, then
their voice will become better. They might not become the best, you know, party in the world, or if
		
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			they're going into the other route, the best singer in the world, but simply to try and to exercise
your voice. Won't it be better, right? Some people are born physically strong, others they have to
go to the gym, if they go to the gym, what's going to happen? Will they not get stronger? Will they
not develop muscles similarly with a clock, Allah has given every one of us certain o'clock we're
born with some people are more patient than others. Some people are more generous than others.
That's the way Allah created hamdulillah but the one who has one characteristic will not have
another, the one who is blessed in one field will not be blessed in another. So they have to work on
		
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			that matter. They have to physically and intellectually and spiritually concentrate. What am I
weakened? And how then do they do that? When they realize for example, let us say a person realizes
you know, I lacked patience. I'm not as patient as my other
		
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			Brothers What is to be done? Number of things first and foremost, study the blessings of patience.
Simply read the Quran and Sunnah about Sobor understand what is the reward of the sabihin this will
give you motivation. So knowledge whatever weakness it is, knowledge is one of the ways to
strengthen that number to your own personal Maha Sabha. You have to literally like go to the gym
intellectually go to the gym spiritually understand what is going on, why am I not patient so after
you study the blessings, then you begin the routine and the routine you need for every hook is going
to be different. You need to put yourself into action mode. And then number three, perhaps most
		
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			important make dua to Allah subhanho wa Taala make dua to Allah subhana wa Tada because if you don't
make dua, you're not going to get it and therefore we conclude with this of the prophetic do as of
the two hours we should all be saying regularly Allahumma Dini the son in law Yeah, add Sunday. was
refined Nisa. Yeah, la your st. One Nisa? Yeah.
		
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			This is a prophetic do. You have to make dua to Allah that you want good luck, because if Allah is
not going to give it to you, you're not going to get it. If you don't make dua to Allah, you don't
really want it. Anything you want. Your hand should be up and asking ALLAH, why do you not want to
have good luck? We should make regular dua to Allah. Oh Allah guide me to the best of manners. They
nearly accident a clap. None can guide other than you and turn away from me evil manners, none can
turn away other than you. Dear brothers and sisters, our religion is really about the worship of
Allah and treating others nicely. All of the religion is summarized in these two things to Aquila,
		
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			he was not hollow. The fact of the matter, most of us especially let me be brutally honest. The
Masjid goers and hamdulillah all of us here, we really emphasize the first part. And a lot of us
neglect the other. And a lot of people who don't come to the masjid, don't pray regularly. They
emphasize the second part, and maybe not the first part that much then when they meet people like
us, they're turned off. Man, these people are bad mannered. These people they pray all the time, but
look at how they treat other people And subhanAllah both of them have an element of truth. Our
religion combines both of these and especially us Salat al Fajr let me be very brutally honest,
		
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			those of us who are praying Fajr regularly in the masjid, we had better embody the best of luck or
else we are not understanding what Iman is those of us that are coming to Salat al Fajr if we want
to have a commercial Imam Arsenal Eman we want to be closest to Allah we had better have the best of
luck when it comes to interacting with other people. The most humble the most smiling the most kind
the most egoless get rid of your ego. Let people say what they want, let them trample over you.
That's what the Hadith says almost too often, people are trampling over them. No big deal. Allah
will reward me in this world let us be together. So we ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to guide us
		
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			to the best of luck and to kick take us away from all evil Accra and inshallah to Allah we will have
our breakfast as well in sha Allah today does Allah who plan on said I'm working rahmatullahi wa
barakato
		
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			one heavy Lina photo gentleman one Hatfield law D was that good enough? Guess
		
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