Yasir Qadhi – Lessons from the Story of Ms And the Ladies at the Well

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The transcript describes the controversy surrounding the COvey Subhanab's actions and interactions with young men and women throughout Islam's history. The father of a young man in the area is called a woman, but she refuses to come back to see him. The father is embarrassed and hesitant to say he is embarrassed, and the insha of COvey Subhanab is discussed. He shows his trustworthiness in helping people, but also shows his weakness in showing a lack of physical contact.

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			Today sha Allah Allah, it's especially important for the youth to remain young men in the audience.
stay glued to your seat. We're going to introduce you to the concept of being a gentleman through
the story of the Prophet Musa alayhis. Salam, what does it mean to be a true gentleman, and we're
going to do a quick Tafseer of Sudoku puzzles verses 21 onwards. It is the only time in the Quran
where the story is mentioned. And it is an interaction between two non Muslims, which results in a
marriage so pay attention young men. This is the halal mechanism of interaction that if you do it
properly in sha Allah to Allah, you show what it means to be a young man. So what is the story I'm
		
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			talking about? It is surah Allah sauce that Allah subhanho wa Taala mentions that when Musa fled
from Freetown he wandered into the valley of meridian. What am what are the MA Madeon? He came to
the Valley of Midian What are you oh my termina naseous cone he found the well of Medina and he
didn't have any money. He didn't have any food he needed water. So he went to the well and he found
a whole bunch of people surrounding the well Ummah, like crowds hustle and bustle while watching
them in Dooney him on a tiny tear through done and he found two young ladies that were being
repelled away from the crowd. They weren't in the middle of the crowd. They were at a distance
		
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			underneath the Wellman Dooney him so they're a distance away from the well. They're trying to get in
but something is repelling them. Notice he is examining the situation. There's nothing wrong with
looking around. You're seeing male and female what's going on? This is the Shetty I doesn't say you
walk literally blind two feet, you see what's going on. And he sees two young ladies with their
flock and something is repelling them or they're not in the thick of the crowd. So he walks up to
them all Amma Hottel bakoma He says what is the matter with you? All them are Hotbot coma. Now here
we see as well that a non Mahara man is approaching a non Muharram lady and engaging in conversation
		
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			but the conversation two words. Not Can I get your number? Not what's your name? Not let me tell you
about myself. He sees a bizarre situation. And he says minimal conversation. What is going on? Why
are you here? mahatva coma now? What is what why did he walk up to them? Some Allama say that it was
strange to see women in basically a man's arena. And this is definitely a very likely possibility
that it's not typical, especially when you have shepherds. And you know, people that are have a
different, you know, way of interacting and whatnot, you find two young ladies in a crowd full of
you know, workers that are jostling and shoving and bringing in, it's a strange situation. So he's
		
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			seeing Is everything okay, can I help out and there shows you it is allowed even in this case. And
others mentioned another nokta possibility, which is actually very likely, and that is that. Imagine
this scenario, where you have a bunch of young men all jostling and shoving together, and you have
two ladies in the distance is very likely that these men were saying things they shouldn't say
teasing catcalling This is usually very common. You know, when you have a group of, you know,
workers, men of this nature, just all coming together. And then you have two ladies of this nature,
there might have been some inappropriate back and forth. That's why the ladies are not to who done
		
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			they've been repelled by the manners of these men. So they're not in the thick of things. So Musa
alayhis salam comes between them and the ladies as a defense mechanism. By the way, Musa was massive
and huge. Musa was muscular and tall, right? So Musa alayhis salam shows what it means to be a
gentleman, and essentially protects the ladies from what's going on behind. And he says, Why are you
here? You see what's going on? I mean, what you know, mahute bakoma. So he becomes a protector when
he sees the need to protect. And these are two strangers. These aren't his kith and kin. He doesn't
know them but what's going on is not appropriate, could escalate to something more so he says, My
		
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			heart bakoma minimal. What is your issue and concern? And they replied, Aleta lioness, the Hector
use theory. They said, the two of them they said, we are not able to fleet feed our goats until the
rest of the shepherds leave. And by that time the water is gone. What Abona che Han Kabir and our
father is a very weak elderly man. So they're making an excuse. Why are they in the man's world?
Again, this was a gendered world back then. Right? This is not where young ladies come. So they have
to explain that. Look, we are here
		
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			You're we're not in the middle of things because we can't get in the middle of this crowd, you know
what's going to happen if we jump in there. And we're going to have to wait until the majority of
the water is gone, nothing will be left. And then to explain, they said, Our father is an elderly
person. And the implicit understanding is we can't afford to hire somebody. They didn't say that.
But it's understood that we only have one man in the house. And that's a very elderly father. He's
physically not capable of walking, he cannot come over here we have taken on the job, generally
speaking, yes, it is a man's world in this arena, but there's no alternative. Now the question
		
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			arises, why would they respond to Musa in the first place? He's an edge Nebby, he's a stranger. Why
would they even speak up? Our scholars say, the demeanor of Musa alayhis salam, his o'clock, the
fact that he defended them in this manner, the fact that he approached them in a manner that clearly
gave them comfort. He wasn't staring, lowered gaze, acting in a very, very dignified gentleman
manner. he exuded a protection, even though they didn't know him, they offered say, You know what,
this is why we are here. By the way, what really makes this whole story interesting. Musa alayhis
salam was not yet a prophet.
		
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			This is all happening. When he is not yet a prophet. He is a regular Muslim. And he was raised by
his mother. So we can say this is how his mother raised him.
		
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			The clock right here that he is getting his mother, you know the story. We didn't go there today.
But you know, the story his mother raised him, you know, the miracle of Allah azza wa jal bringing
his mother back to the palace of around. She's the only Muslim or otherwise he would have been a
pagan. Allah has saved him by putting his mother as his nanny as his nurse, the wet nurse, his
mother comes in, and she raises him the only Muslim in the whole palace of paganism, the clock he
learned from his mother, we are seeing it here. He's not yet a prophet. Prophecy is going to come 10
years later, right now, he's a Muslim like me and you and we see the amount of a clap and dignity,
		
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			these two strange ladies to him, they trust him by giving this information away. Our father is
elderly and sick, he can't come here. We can't afford they don't say this, but it's understood. We
can't afford to hire somebody. That's why we're doing this job. When he hears this story. First of
all, the Homer. He took the goats and went into the crowd with the other men there. First of all,
Homer, he's the one who had now He Allah says, first of all, Lahoma as if to indicate, as if to
indicate that his Nia was so pure, there was no motivation of anything other than to help them out.
First of all, Lahoma he fed the goats for them. He had no incentive to show off. You know, every
		
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			young man knows. You can be the knight in shining armor right now. Every even older man might know
this to him and he's like, you can you have the opportunity. I shall save the damsel in distress.
And in the process, spotlight is on me. But Allah, hints fossa Lahoma they had he had no such
intention. His intention was pure. He wanted to help innocent people, young ladies whose father is
sick. Even though it's so easy to take advantage of that situation. He didn't do so. And he gives
them their flock back. Notice they trust him enough to give them their flock. What could he have
done in three minutes such that these two young ladies they take our flock and go away? Imagine how
		
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			his luck could be the two young ladies who come daily to the watering they they come every single
day they have to face the tans, they have to face the catcalls, they have to face the flotation now
a strange man comes and they tell him their story. And they say here take our goats. Can you imagine
how Musa Elena would be acting to gain the confidence of these two young ladies, the amount of
dignity the amount of we call an Arabic hicimos like modesty how he is portraying himself. The young
ladies No, this is a gentleman and every lady knows the difference between a gentleman and between
an evil person and Musa has won their confidence here take our flock first of all Huma, then he
		
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			comes back. And then what? Through matola. He turns his back on them and walks away.
		
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			And he won amongst us. This is the time oh, what's your name? You want to meet for dinner later on?
Let's grab some coffee. This is the time you have done the favor. She has to repay it right. But
Musa knows how sensitive it is. So as soon as the flock come to Wallah, he literally turns his back
on them. Because he knows how dangerous this type of situation is. He turned he didn't do it for
them. Sakala Houma he didn't do it for himself. Sorry. He did it for them. He didn't do
		
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			But for himself, he did it for them. He turned his back and he walks away. By the way later on in
the story, the girls praise Musa to the Father. And they say that the best person you can hire is a
we Yun Amin strong and trustworthy. This indicates from the idea that Musa alayhis salam showed them
aptitude and trustworthiness. When he did the job of feeding their goats. He must have done a tactic
or a maneuver with his strength to make sure the goats get fed first, and he must have been
trustworthy. Of course, he was trustworthy, he gave the goats back and he interacted with them in a
manner that showed how trustworthy he was. So when they describe Musa later on to their father, look
		
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			at the two adjectives they use. Musa was a wee strong and Musa was a mean trustworthy. In that three
minutes, Musa can demonstrate all of these characteristics so much of Allah, Allah will then he
turns his back and goes away, and he sits under a shade and he makes dua to Allah subhanho wa taala.
We'll call the Rabine Dima and Zelt am in hiding. Okay, Dr. Rob, I am for clear, I have nothing. I
don't have a house. I don't have a job. I don't have a career. I don't have a wife. I don't have
anything. Right. Notice. When Musa himself was in distress. He's running for his life, right? From
the biggest superpower in the world. He is literally running from the army of around literally,
		
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			literally the most superpower empire. And the single person in charge for down, knows him by name
and hates his guts. He's fleeing the world. Where is he going to go? And he has nothing. If anybody
had an excuse to be selfish, and not care about other people, it was Musa Neff, CFC. But no, his
mother taught him better than this. Because all of this is from his mother right now. There is no
God right now. There is no way right now. There is no communication, everything he's doing. This is
the clock his single mother taught him this is the reality his mother gave him these manners help
the poor even when you're poor, help the one in distress even when you're in distress. So
		
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			Subhanallah when he helped those in distress, Allah relieved his stress. And this is what we learned
in the Shetty up in the Hadith. All Muslims who are facing a problem, you want your problem to be
solved, solve other people's problems, Allah will solve your problem. We learned this from the story
of Musa alayhis salam, you want your problems to be solved, get involved in solving the problems of
other people. And Allah subhanho wa Taala will solve your problems. And this is actually in the
Hadith. Wallah who founded Abdi mme. And He, Allah will help your problems and can continue to solve
them as long as you are helping your brother solve his problems. So how do you do the Prophet SAW
		
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			Selim? And we see this in the story of Musa Musa alayhis salam gave to the ladies and he didn't ask
them anything, even though if he had done so it would still be a dub and with a ticket nothing wrong
with that. If he had said Dear ladies, I have nothing can you spare a meal? Can you give me some
money? If he had done this? It would be halal, nothing wrong, but Subhanallah it's a very sensitive
you're a strong young man. These are young ladies you just be be contented just do and move on. So
he gave them what they needed to do. And then he went to the shade away from them he literally walks
away because this is a very dangerous scenario. You are now the knight in shining armor their hearts
		
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			might be affected your heart might be affected don't take advantage of it he turned his back walked
away from them and then pray to Allah you hurry up I need some help. Yeah Rob I am for clear here
for clear literally means for clear. I have nothing he literally had nothing. And he said yeah Rob
whatever you give me I'm a fucking it I need it. Right so Allah azza wa jal says Fauja to Erica,
Houma Farah here means immediately, literally, she went back home, she came back. This is the
Allah's answer to his prayer. How quickly Allah answers the prayer that when you do something for
others, Allah will then return the favor unto you. So for John to hit their home attempts, she had
		
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			to stay here that one of them came back, one of them came back walking with shyness and modesty, she
was feeling very shy. Our scholars mentioned when Allah praised the woman who was to become the wife
of Musa, he did not describe her beauty. He did not describe her outer garments. He did not describe
her length and what not. He described a clock with higher
		
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			this was to be the wife of Musa and what was the characteristic that Allah praises from up above
above the seven heavens? She was a shy lady. She was walking, embarrassed, awkward, right? And
again, if you point this out, I mean, please don't take this the wrong way. This is Khaled
		
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			It's totally understandable and permissible for there to be feelings in the heart. Nothing's wrong
with that, but how one engages with them and how one expresses them. This is where the Jedi becomes
involved clearly Jani This is a very you know, handsome young man saving the day. It's not true. Now
her father's telling her to bring the young man back of course, she's gonna be nervous, she's gonna
be you know, and she shows this nervousness. And this nervousness is a sign this awkwardness, this
shyness, is a sign of iman. This is very politically incorrect to say, but it is what it is, I'm not
going to change the Sharia, because our modern values have changed. One of the most prize worthy
		
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			characteristics of our young sisters should be that of higher, yes, higher is also a masculine
trait. Nobody's denying that but especially amongst women, it becomes even more prized, and that's
why Allah praises it in the Quran. So she's embarrassed she shy she cannot look at Musa one of the
scholars say she was covering her face with their hand, as she's speaking to him, she's, I'm
embarrassed. And she says audit in OB DeLuca. My father is calling you notice this is also wisdom.
Anytime a young lady has to interact, try to bring in an adult male, even if it's by name, my father
is calling you. If she had said we are calling you it would have been right. But every young man
		
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			knows when you mentioned the father, all of a sudden, you sift those that are serious from those
that are players, sisters, I speak to as well listen to this as well. If there is such a scenario
and situation where something is in the heart, never ever interact alone. The Father, even by name
has to come in. That's very necessary, because it's CIFS. The serious from those that are not
serious, in OB DeLuca my father is calling you even though we don't know Maybe she was calling we
don't know, maybe the conversation. But you mentioned the father is calling Leah Zika is Rama
subtitle Anna so that he can reward you for what you have done. So then Musa and the lady walked
		
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			towards the house. Now, our scholars mentioned, as soon as she walked in front of him, Musa realized
this is very awkward. Every again young man, maybe even older men, you understand there's a lady in
front of you. The wind is going to be blowing. You know, it's not appropriate. It's a little
struggle for many of us to make sure we're not staring at this situation. Musa understood. So what
did he do? He said to her, you walk behind me. And I shall walk forward. And if I'm going in the
wrong direction, throw a stone in the direction I should be walking Subhanallah he understood not
every man understands. Right? You have the lady right in front of you. And you're walking behind
		
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			Annie. It's not a very safe scenario for the gays, right? Musa as a Muslim male not to profit yet.
He understands he doesn't want to be in that position. So he says to the lady, he doesn't even tell
her tell me even though it is hella talk. He just spoke with her now. But to minimize, he says, I'll
walk. And if the direction is wrong, throw the stone in the direction I should be going a walk in
that direction. Subhanallah this shows you the higher and the lab of Musa alayhis salam. So he then
returns and what goes to the Father. Now I don't want to go into the long details of this
controversy. The claim that the father was sure either his Salam Yeah, do you find it in some books?
		
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			But it is completely wrong. I'm sorry. But it is wrong. chronologically, it doesn't make any sense.
There is no shave at the time where Musa al Islam. I know this is what you have heard. I know it's
very common. But it doesn't matter if it's common. It just doesn't make any sense. There's no
evidence for this. In fact, it goes against everything we know Shall i is a different era, different
time different place. Sure it has nothing to do with Musa alayhis salam is not sure. It was just
another man, another man in the town of Midian in the in the valley of Medina. So further Majah who
then he goes to the Father will asylee Hill cos he tells him the whole story sort of across asylee
		
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			Hill costs us this was close to the apostles cost slyly Hill costs us he told him the story, right?
What story of his upbringing, how Allah saved him how his mother was his where he learned as a clerk
from he was in the palace of found out for I was trying to kill him. That's why he's here with no
money, no job, no career, no wife, nothing. So then all of a sudden light bulbs are going off and
everybody else's head, right? We need this guy. So call that da Huma, the lady that was going to
become his wife. Although this Doppelmayr had Alma the Quran is referencing the same lady, the one
of the two of them, the one that's going to become his wife. She's the one that's walking back.
		
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			She's the one that suggests again, fathers understand certain feelings are halal. You don't have to
criminalize if there are
		
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			resisting in the heart is not anything negative. This is the real world. And the time of Musa we see
this you don't think is going to happen. Now. The point is not the feelings are Hello, the point is
what we do with those feelings. So the lady the young lady says, Yeah, but this dude who, oh my
father, why don't you hire this young man? Why don't you make him somebody that's permanent, you
know, in our lives, the father understands what is going on. And so the father says, I have an offer
for you. He understands his his daughter, in the end of the day, when the daughter is speaking up
and saying, I want this young man, you know, to be hired by you. It's understood what's going on.
		
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			And so the father says, I have an offer for you. I have an offer for you. I shall marry you one of
my two daughters again, the same one. I showed him. Are you one of my two daughters, if you work for
me, 10 Hey, Judge Andy 10 You know, for a unit of time, some say it's a year some say it's 10
months, whatever it might be, right? So Cemani 108 And if you do 10 That is even better for you. And
this shows us Subhanallah the Rama of Allah azza wa jal how one small act of feeding goats literally
changed the entire life of Musa alayhis salam he didn't have a job a career a wife a roof overhead
has he got everything? Everything so I joke Oh young men, go feed some goats water inshallah. And
		
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			then make dua to Allah azza wa jal okay. Or you can feed people water as well point is help people
out. Right. So she said, hire him. Now notice what What words did she use? She said, in the higher
Romanists delta alpha we you Amin, the best person you can hire is the one who's strong and
qualified and the one who's trustworthy. Again, I go back to this point. How did she know Musa is
kawaii and Musa is Amin in that five minutes of interaction. And in the walk back to the house, Musa
has shown how trustworthy he is. He's not staring at her. He's acting like a gentleman throughout
the entire time. If you can act like a gentleman with a lady, you are far more trustworthy with
		
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			money and with property. If you can be trustworthy, where the young lady you can be trustworthy with
anything else. And she knows this. And as for Covey, he must have shown his strength when he's
feeding the cattle when he's giving the water to the you know, the goats and whatnot. She sees this
as a strong and trustworthy man. And she says this is the best person you can hire. And the story
goes on hold. Also the summary of it is very simple brothers and sisters, there's a lot of talk
these days about masculinity and about being a gentleman Subhanallah look at the story of Musa
alayhis salam look at how he interacted with a young lady. Look at how he showed the lack of the
		
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			Muslim. Throughout the story from the beginning to the end, we noticed a dignified interaction and
there was interaction by the way, a lot of young men run away and never interact well. I mean, I'm
not saying that's wrong but that's not the Musa way as well. When there is a need, you must interact
when there's a need you speak but with what is minimal, not bakoma to words, and when there's a need
to help you help out and then you remove yourself from the scene and whatever interaction you do
remember Allah subhana wa Tada is watching you. And with this insha Allah to Allah we make dua to
Allah that our young men and women they exemplify and embody these o'clock that Allah subhanaw taala
		
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			protects our youngsters from going left to right in a straight Allah subhanho wa Taala grants them
righteous spouses, spouses that will be a comfort of their eyes and a coldness of their heart. We
ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to protect our children from all Filipinos from all Zina from all evil
things we ask Allah subhana wa Tada to allow our children to grow up to be strong Muslim men and to
be a high up filled Muslim women and to find marriage from within our own faith and community and
tradition. We ask Allah subhana wa Tada to grant them righteous spouses and to grant them beautiful
offspring inshallah we'll continue later on his duck Mala head on said I'm not going to lie about
		
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