Yasir Qadhi – Ask Shaykh YQ #97 – The Islamic Ruling on Oral Intercourse

			The next question that we have and again I've been asked this so many times and this is once again a
sexually explicit question. So please this is not something that is meant for a younger audience.
The permissibility of oral * What does the shitty I say about oral *?
		

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			now again the the issue of oral * and again if you are watching only this one video, I've
given another video about what is forbidden in intimacy so you can watch that video as well. And
then watch this in conjunction with that one. Oral * does come under the the the gray area
that the Shetty is not explicit about between the husband and wife. And we actually do not have a
lot of quotations about oral *. The reason being that oral * generally speaking,
was a sexual habit that was frowned upon in most Eastern cultures. It is something that is not you
know, embraced it is more of a Western notion. And this is actually historically true. I'm not just
		

			inventing this, even the the ancient Indian book of the Kama Sutra, if you actually look it up, it
actually mentions this act as not being between husband and wife really, it's mentioned amongst
other segments of sexuality and the pre Islamic outcomes actually also knew of this act, and they
considered it to be vulgar and crude, not something that is done by normal people. And this is
mentioned this is indicated when
		

			the the famous incident in the Battle of sorry, in the Treaty of her day BIA, when one of the
negotiators basically insulted the Sahaba by saying that they're gonna abandon the Prophet
sallallahu wasallam abubaker sudip became so angry, that shy that modest, that humble the pure
person, he became so angry and enraged that he lost his temper, and he uttered a profanity. And this
is so a typical of Obama. So therefore the law one, but in his love for the profits of the law, it
was seldom when that man came and dared suggest that a worker is going to abandon the profit of
seminal Sabra and abandon the process of them, his, you know, his emotions went from zero to 1000 in
		

			one second, and he wanted to utter the worst vulgarity that they could they could ever utter, to get
his point across to this man. And he said something that translates as and again, it is explicit. So
be you know, this video is not meant for the, the you know, except for an adult audience, he
literally said, go suck on the clutters of a lot, this is literally what I will work with. So the
upset, okay, also bothered a lot. And that was their female goddess, okay? Now, this is a very
interesting curse. It's a very interesting curse. It actually demonstrates that oral * was
known to them. And it was an insult. And it was the highest insult. And it was an insult for a man
		

			to do this, because they considered it to be demeaning and vulgar. So it's very clear that, you
know, Eastern cultures generally and yes, out of cultures over even pre Islam, and throughout, you
know, most of Islamic history that they viewed this act as not being Noble. But as I explained in my
other video about the the what is how I'm in sexual actions and what not. nobility does not
translate into how Rahman halaal something can be ignoble. And it doesn't make it how long something
can be against the purity of the fitrah. And it doesn't make it how long you can say it is McGrew,
and therefore, how Rahman Khaled is not based primarily upon nobility, it is based upon what Allah
		

			and His Messenger have said. And therefore, because of this, I understand that so by the way, you're
not going to find classical discussions in the books of filk about oral *, you will find
about *, you will find about * you will find about so many other things that were
known, but you will not find a detailed discussion about oral * because it was not
something that was common at all. Now, you will find very, very few references very few references
to it. And of those references is some scholars did allow it. The famous humbly scholar I'll call
the FBI that he said that a man may kiss the * of his wife before * without Carvalho
		

			and after *. It is mukou and he said this
		

			Same applies for a woman that she may kiss, demand Oregon with passion, he actually said this that
with passion she may enjoy and demand Oregon. And he also said this is the position of our thought,
the tiberi. And in the famous el fatawa and Hindi of Hanafi fits the famous fatawa Hindi that was
compiled, I believe, under the LM give rich timeframe, not 100%. So don't quote me on that. But in
the fatawa Hindi, it says that if a man inserts his Bible without Hindi is not that old, it's only
like 200,000 years old. So it's not one of the ancient books, but it is a relatively more modern
one. It says that if a man inserts his penis into his wife's mouth, some have said this is makuu and
		

			some have said that it is not mcru. So we have that reference there. And to be the famous Andalusian
scholar, he mentioned in his Tafseer that about al Maliki the famous earlier Maliki scholar, he says
that he quotes from last vlog which is one of the classical scholars of the Maliki method, that it
is allowed for them. And this is explicit brothers and sisters, it is allowed for the man to lick
his wife's Oregon yell has a hillbilly sign, it literally says to lick. So we have some very few
references that some of our scholars considered it to be permissible. At the same time, a lot of
modern scholars considered it to be impermissible, and I can quote you like five or 10 that and this
		

			is generally modern fatawa. As I said in earlier books, it's not really discussed. And they bring a
number of a number of evidences for this right. So the first evidence that they bring that it is
impermissible is the whole genre of verses that already quoted in a hadith that approach women, you
know, they are your cultivation approach them from their health from their field, and they say that
the mouth is not an orifice of cultivation, so allows you to think approach them from as if they're
feels as if they're cultivation. Now, this is a very weak evidence because by unanimous consensus,
it is allowed for a man and a woman to play together with each other's hands until * is
		

			achieved, and a man may * onto the body of his wife, and nobody will say it is held on and
he will do it intentionally. It does not contradict the verse, so it's a very weak way to refute
this. Another thing that they say that those who make it out on they say that the mouth is a noble
organ, and the mouth does Vicar and the mount recites the Koran. And so we should not put, we should
not put our private parts in it. And to respond to this one can say that, that might be a valid
point that it is a noble Oregon, but it doesn't make it sinful. It doesn't make it how long you can
say that it is discouraged. You can say that, you know, it's not befitting but to say it is how long
		

			is to bring Allah sin and allows maybe wrath or lust cursor, or you know, not necessarily wrath and
Chris, but you're saying that it is potentially punishable and the evidence or the notion that the
mouth is knowable and decode is done will okay. Riba and the Mima is a worst sin then, you know,
kissing the organ of your spouse, for example, and it is done by the mouth. So what are you going to
do if somebody does LIBOR? We tell him you don't read the Quran. If somebody slanders does both
done, we're going to tell him don't do it of Allah subhana wa Tada. So, the two are separate things
and you cannot bring the notion of to help him just because you said that the mouth is a noble
		

			Oregon, the max that can be said is that it is not a noble act, I can I can understand this. But as
I said, to say something is not noble does not make it sinful, in the eyes of Allah subhana wa Tada.
Now, I think one of the strongest ways to actually say that it is mcru or maybe more than mccoo is
to bring up the issue of an adjuster. And to say that, potentially an adjuster is going to be put
into one's mouth. And to respond to this one could say that the majority of the methods, actually
three of the methods say that * is not nitrous. Okay, so three of the methods actually say that
it is not nudges. And then one can also respond that by unanimous consensus, a small amount of ninja
		

			says overlooked because you cannot, you know, protect yourself now what constitutes more, that is
going to be another controversy. And still, I would say that this argument of NASA, you know, as we
said, it is best to avoid an adjuster but in and of itself touching something that just or you know,
of that nature, it's not something that is going to incur a loss in and if it is done for a reason.
It is permissible by unanimous consensus, as I explained in the previous question, that you know,
person changes the diaper of their child and that might be not just or you cleanse yourself and that
is not just so you wash it off afterwards and it might not be noble, it might not be something that
		

			is you know, dignified, but something that is undignified does not become necessarily sinful in the
eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And therefore, what I would conclude is that oral intimacy is
something that one cannot say is sinful in the eyes of Allah, but at the same time, one
		

			should understand, frankly that this is a habit that we are picking up because of the prevalence of
it in the cultures that we live in. Not that there's anything wrong with every single habit, but
this particular habit, it was not something that was common or the norm in the majority of cultures
and especially in Muslim lands and cultures and that is why one does not find a discussion of this
in the classical books you find just as quick reference here and there. And generally speaking, we
do find permissibility in some of the previous or whatever. And I want to quote you a fatwa from
		

			one of the scholars who gave this
		

			regard with regards to oral *. He said, that In conclusion, it has now become clear that
oral * is not prohibited. But it is not the normal choice for committed Muslims and
Muslims. Despite the fact that oral * is not held on it is completely disgusting and does not
conform to the pure taste and the decency of a Muslims personality and, quote, I am sympathetic to
this. So it is not how long you're not going to be sinful. But at the same time, let's try to
cultivate higher and try to do that which is the best another photo from modern hanafy chef Mufti,
Ebrahim decide, he writes that it is mcru because the mouth is not an Oracle of Ages. And because
		

			the mouth is used for reciting the Quran, and for doing Vicar end quote. So makuu I agree with this
fatwa, that oral * is not how long, but it should be makrooh. And if the couple, three
feels that they must engage in this, they really should make sure that no jossa is avoided, and
nothing of that nature is ingested. And that of course, the pre med the or the pre seminal fluid is
measured. So keep that point in mind. And if it is done, then it should, it should not be something
that and again, I mean, the problem comes to your brothers and sisters, that people have been raised
in a society where certain acts have been absorbed by them, they want to do these things. And if
		

			they are told that it is not allowed, you know, within a marriage, it might actually cause problems
for many of them. Sometimes, people convert to Islam, and they are totally accustomed to a certain
lifestyle. So we we cannot give a blanket fatwa to every single couple, the default as I have said,
and this is the position of advocating is that it is not how long it is not sinful, but I'm not
giving the green light, it is mcru and one should strive to one's best to attain a more noble or
more purified level. But if one does it, one will not be punished by Allah subhanho wa Taala. And by
the way, interestingly, just interestingly, Jewish rabbis as well many of them, they also forbid
		

			this, and they say that it is not some time in the Orthodox strand. And also before I conclude the
center of this, this, this question, I want to again be very clear here, that
		

			this is something that is above and beyond normal *. So if a woman feels that she does not
want to engage in this, the husband cannot force her because she is required by Islamic law to be
accessible for regular *. If there's no, you know, other impediments, she is required by
our Shetty to allow him to have * with her. She is not required by our Shetty to satisfy
every fetish or every desire of his that is beyond that, which is mainstream and normal. And so if
she finds this issue problematic, she should speak with him and she should not be forced that having
been said, The flip side is well that if the husband, you know, it might cause problems as well so
		

			that they should try to find some type of, you know, middle ground or whatnot in this regard because
again, we want couples to find marital happiness within themselves. We want them to find sexual
happiness within marriage and from each other. And so these things need to be discussed within the
marriage and couples need to negotiate what what can and cannot be done within the confines of their
bedroom. But from a purely technical perspective, she should not be forced to do something that is
above and beyond what is regular * and you know, the two can negotiate you know what what
can be done and Eliza knows best