Yaser Birjas – Fiq Of Love

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The speakers discuss the concept of love and how it is a combination of both. They stress the importance of passion and compassion in love, as it is a fundamental quality of human life. The speakers also emphasize the need for men to prioritize quality time and maintain healthy communication, as it is crucial to stay connected with them. The importance of physical touch, body language, and feelings of desire in relationships is also discussed, along with the need for practicality and engagement in relationships. The speakers stress the importance of showing love and respect for others' qualities, as it is a psychological problem that needs to be addressed.

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			If there's anything in this world,
		
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			anything in this world that causes nonsense, to make all sense, that would be love.
		
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			Because love
		
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			when people are love, they see the bride and the bride. Possible Impossible, impossible becomes
possible when you talk to them. They just believe and love and nothing goes for love, whatever it
		
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			is
		
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			no wonder that it became throughout the history of mankind. Until this day, as I was researching the
meaning
		
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			of love, I couldn't find I couldn't really find
		
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			a conclusive evidence or conclusive determination to say this
		
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			word
		
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			has been defined differently for generations, but they all agree on one thing, there is a mystery
		
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			to show you how mysterious love is mysterious way to
		
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			give an example here.
		
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			But if you're
		
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			most likely most likely, you're not married to love.
		
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			Cuz
		
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			you love most likely you love the first ever experience was when he was still young
		
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			was across the street
		
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			510 years more or less.
		
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			And you still happy with the
		
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			ups and downs.
		
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			Like you share a relationship with someone who wasn't your first person perhaps the one in the
second third. But still,
		
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			it works and function
		
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			comes to love my dear brothers and sisters, when it comes to a loss of power management
		
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			in many ways,
		
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			mentioned loss and the loss of power
		
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			in a way
		
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			that spoke about love and one of the greatest contexts but a loss of power that was speaking about
		
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			room
		
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			was speaking about the magnificent creation, the magnificent, visible gloss, he began last time the
competition this is
		
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			a loss of power began speaking about the creation of man.
		
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			When he created
		
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			the creation of all these cultures and languages, we spoke about so many great things
		
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			in between all this magnificent creation
		
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			was it
		
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			is this? He said no. This is one of the miracles among his son and this is what he was talking about
the mountains
		
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			among the sons, the ocean and the sea and all this stuff. A lot of confidence said that among the
standards this that he has created for you spoken
		
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			of amongst yourselves as well.
		
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			Start
		
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			with us, so that you might find peace and tranquility,
		
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			peace and tranquility. And also
		
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			find a piece of
		
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			knowledge that is one shade of love
		
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			is one shade of love.
		
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			Language is very, very expanded language very, very deep and profound language, some of the
		
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			Muslim stuff
		
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			passed away 700 years ago.
		
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			Once a whole book, on the subject of love, he says,
		
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			more than 60 different words explaining the meaning of love in different shades, when you must be
able to explain
		
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			things.
		
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			What's the meaning of
		
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			timing and soft, tender love?
		
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			What do you call it in English, the closest word for the passion, passionate love. So he put our
passion in love. And then
		
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			what does
		
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			this have to do with marriage?
		
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			Mercy is another form of love.
		
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			And love transforms. One
		
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			relationship to the other moves from down all the way out.
		
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			You say most of relationship or
		
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			most of relationship
		
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			with passion and love, the way we were taught in this culture
		
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			all these horrible things, everything's supposed to
		
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			exist.
		
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			There is no love.
		
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			Because it's everything about love, but how do they explain?
		
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			So, they say
		
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			unfortunately,
		
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			that marriage is all about love, and the only one condition or one category, which is the passion,
		
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			same method, the first thing we did was that,
		
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			but then we start saying the genuine qualities, a genuine sense of your spouse becomes very powerful
Of
		
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			course, all over the place. Now that you
		
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			see the reality of
		
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			it becoming.
		
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			So you have the option
		
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			as the only way
		
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			to do
		
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			but other people that go on to the next level.
		
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			And now one of these are many levels of blood, one of them
		
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			has mercy.
		
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			And then another word for actually compassion
		
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			which means passion and compassion.
		
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			In relationship he says replace it with your heart, passion and compassion.
		
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			Law says indeed
		
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			as
		
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			follows.
		
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			So this is
		
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			our last man and woman. This this position on the mandate in mind to love women and women and men is
a very natural thing. It is something that is very, very natural as a last
		
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			in favor of human mankind.
		
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			You should preserve
		
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			what is it
		
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			how you maintain that relationship?
		
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			This is what we're going to be talking about.
		
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			Now, when it comes to
		
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			when it comes to finishing, just like I said, at the beginning of the relationship, your passion is
love. But then
		
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			perhaps
		
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			more or less, and
		
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			they always
		
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			ask
		
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			why is
		
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			she said
		
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			she said
		
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			Merci.
		
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			Merci
		
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			in the same situation with a spouse is
		
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			holding on to her.
		
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			Again,
		
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			they're not.
		
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			They're not running on passion and love, the use of love. So when we look at those two extremes
right now,
		
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			how can we into this wide spectrum? How can I live through this spectrum without falling into the
practice of loving?
		
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			The initiative, love and mercy of passion and compassion
		
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			to Wales for longer
		
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			have to train and exercise both wings.
		
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			But we always focus on one when what happens.
		
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			So you have both so this is for the for the men, women, if you would like to survive in this
relationship do you want to polish and so on and
		
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			so hard on your love and your mercy? You need to balance that
		
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			passion and love, they always say, flowers, chocolate, candles and so on all these things
		
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			is much more than just candles.
		
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			And for those who just
		
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			revise.
		
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			I also tell them that
		
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			you will have the best guidance when he was
		
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			15 he was still cherishing those feelings even though he was an example, one time,
		
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			a long time
		
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			in his life, so when he became Muslim, he was a jerk on the one spot against the prophet
		
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			in
		
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			just one year right before the conquest of Makkah.
		
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			The Shahada embraces Islam. So as
		
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			the Prophet
		
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			then suddenly he puts his hand back.
		
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			So
		
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			what's going on
		
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			in your mind?
		
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			So what is your condition?
		
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			Me I fought against
		
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			democracy.
		
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			You come
		
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			in
		
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			Gilda
		
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			is
		
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			a science and condition and he was the head of the military.
		
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			When he came back, it was time for us.
		
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			So there must be some connection.
		
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			So we can come back to that. So law is adult for the man
		
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			who is the
		
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			man?
		
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			Who is the most beloved dude.
		
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			When you asked him a question
		
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			you asked the province of Alaska, who was the most beloved to
		
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			he just said.
		
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			And then he
		
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			was kind of surprised. He was thinking about the surprise, I said,
		
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			I don't talk about I'm talking about men.
		
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			I don't mean that I'm talking about men.
		
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			Which means Her father
		
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			is my best friend
		
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			will learn
		
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			to ask the simple question and it was very
		
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			unexpected.
		
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			The passion
		
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			among themselves.
		
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			Demand
		
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			is still
		
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			natural.
		
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			She can't carry the grievances of some of his wives, I guess.
		
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			But his wife was a very natural normal, I don't think he was was was.
		
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			So the
		
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			people that will send their gifts and the food and whatever they want to offer them
		
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			offended by that
		
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			who is best to gather references other than Bob the most
		
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			the most beloved to him.
		
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			So,
		
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			it is time
		
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			for some justice.
		
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			So, why
		
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			don't you love why you love
		
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			then he points to actually goes
		
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			there is a smoker
		
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			which means to talk
		
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			we have
		
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			some power to that extent.
		
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			If needed experiences
		
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			in common.
		
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			He was saying as we
		
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			express those through words through action,
		
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			this is not
		
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			this is
		
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			these are natural.
		
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			However, they are you.
		
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			issue of loss.
		
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			Do we say
		
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			the answer the business day we
		
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			know that why is that because
		
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			You cannot judge something
		
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			when it comes to love, it's something that you have in the heart. But what do we exactly judge? We
exactly just the action, the action, what do you do? How do you act
		
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			based on those feelings, some people they fall in love so passionately.
		
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			And rationality.
		
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			And a lot of all them accountable for the action.
		
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			Other people
		
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			will love them
		
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			was
		
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			an iteration of it becomes an issue big fish. So
		
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			agriculture becomes a big thing. However they
		
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			sum
		
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			against
		
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			against.
		
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			So Allah will judge the people based on the actions they take the love that they haven't been hot
		
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			and that's what
		
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			they said, but when it comes to love, it's in the heart
		
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			because it's invaluable.
		
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			However, we will judge the actions if you do it before love.
		
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			But it
		
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			isn't until you commit
		
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			adultery fornication was the first of all accountable for these practices. It has to be done in
order to fulfill that promise of Allah
		
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			tranquility.
		
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			Now, of course,
		
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			by choice, or by force,
		
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			or by choice, which means is it
		
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			up to this person?
		
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			Or does it happen by choice?
		
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			Wow. Okay, can I give you I'm gonna give you one minute, I want you to talk to the person sitting
next to you. This test you
		
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			chose, and let's see if you can convince them of that.
		
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			had no intention
		
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			on you.
		
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			Merci. Merci. Can
		
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			you just wake up?
		
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			You have never seen it before.
		
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			Guess what?
		
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			The answer actually is both.
		
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			And then after that
		
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			How are you?
		
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			Speaking
		
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			man, you
		
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			You see something that attracts you to them, right? So without you having choice, open your eyes and
do
		
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			what you love.
		
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			So that's what he says, fall in love
		
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			with love, in most cases of hackers by choice, sometimes a loss
		
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			for example,
		
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			they
		
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			just cannot say
		
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			how much they try.
		
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			They try they try
		
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			is not.
		
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			So this is something that was forced on them.
		
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			So what do you do in this case, when it comes to the law of demand, if you're not prepare yourself
for marriage, don't even try because
		
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			it consumes your energy, it
		
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			causes many people to become weak in their worship because it consumes them from inside.
		
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			But once you're ready for the person that
		
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			shows that they open your heart, you can open your mind,
		
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			open your eyes, and enjoy that.
		
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			And peace of mind for those who live
		
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			tested. Again,
		
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			this is somebody who has an image
		
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			so now
		
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			there is no way to control this easily. However, as a human being Allah
		
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			gave you basically
		
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			should put some restrictions.
		
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			Okay, I know I
		
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			can't.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			You need to
		
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			ask Allah to help you go through this. And
		
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			another question, why do people fall in love with a beautiful image?
		
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			You know, because all
		
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			you got to know
		
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			is one of these words of one, I read more than 36 different curriculums. And there was a very famous
paper which you all know the very famous statement that the spirit of bandwidth.
		
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			Many of these cases many of these stories, they base their relationship
		
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			on based on month on image on a beautiful image of Cinderella
		
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			Kennedy imagine someone just chases a woman, you know, all over the world all over the city, just
		
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			because of the shoe size.
		
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			Some of the shoe size issues and wherever.
		
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			Now, of course, unfortunately, this is right now this was
		
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			a lightning
		
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			strike. But they planted something in our mind that if you have a beautiful image, then you will
live happily ever after. Now most accurate all these
		
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			all these fairy tales, they always end with this statement.
		
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			And I've never I've never regretted any part two of this talk.
		
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			There will be just like anybody else
		
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			perhaps.
		
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			So but we don't say talk to so why do people get attracted to me? Kennedy
		
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			condition because we will
		
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			marry someday
		
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			But Was that something that means to you when you get conditioned to that?
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Parents, but why? Why? Why? Why their face is what matters the most
		
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			brings happiness. Why do we associate beauty with happiness? Why what's the connection?
		
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			Of course, we all want
		
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			the beautiful
		
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			image. All this is here will happen that question American has
		
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			an English language
		
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			learner.
		
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			And now this book is
		
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			another beautiful treatise on love. So he explains why people are beautiful. He says
		
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			he says
		
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			that we have created man in the best meaning the
		
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			most beautiful form. So for us, for us, we've been also raised to believe that beauty is associated
with work with perfection.
		
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			You will see a nice car.
		
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			Nice car design.
		
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			What
		
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			is beautiful,
		
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			beautiful, why they describe it as beautiful.
		
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			Perfection.
		
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			That looks nice and beautiful. Why? Because for us beautiful means
		
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			beautiful.
		
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			So based on this beautiful,
		
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			handsome God, what is
		
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			associated with
		
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			these
		
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			beautiful, beautiful,
		
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			beautiful shows we must be.
		
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			That's what they find
		
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			is much more. When it comes to love and relationships. It is much more than just an appearance. So
what is it? What is it? This is the thing that we learn from
		
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			psychologists and therapists that from the practice of
		
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			when it comes to practicing law, you have
		
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			you had to rush for me to come to me.
		
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			Maybe after?
		
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			He says to me Well, honestly.
		
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			So okay, so he asked me, What do you suggest for me? I said I have the solution for you. What is
		
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			your solution?
		
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			She was
		
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			asked, okay, let's go and talk about love what exactly happened?
		
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			For most people, when they printed this out, they refer
		
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			to the sentence of love the feeling that
		
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			I stopped loving, which means I don't feel
		
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			don't have that compassion that I had before. So I asked him I said
		
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			Wouldn't it be
		
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			wonderful?
		
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			Blah, blah, blah. I said tell me. What did you love?
		
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			Okay.
		
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			I said so now what's going on? While
		
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			she's talking
		
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			He's not doing this anymore so you see that's what I mean by love love you love them for the actions
		
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			the action that they have the relationship
		
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			now that your solution is to reactivate love
		
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			So tell me what do you
		
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			got
		
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			look nice
		
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			chocolate with so many things right?
		
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			It was so nice
		
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			says don't do anything
		
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			for granted so she told me
		
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			Can you please say
		
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			based on an entitlement
		
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			so if you want to revive relationship you need to check Why did you love them before for what reason
as much as he was always nice to me, she was always respectful
		
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			so my advice was react in a
		
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			responsible way
		
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			if you know that you're watching this is these things from your
		
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			beautiful
		
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			spontaneous gesture
		
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			come back again.
		
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			Now you will never be too busy because it doesn't take much of your time.
		
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			determination and effort and attitude that's what
		
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			matters therapists they accidentally explain to rationalize love to rationalize and love that it's
		
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			true things one is the law theory and the other is the account bank account.
		
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			So, let's begin with the bank account the bank account What do you
		
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			propose somebody proposed
		
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			he wants to start the conversation immediately
		
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			you open a bank account and they open a bank account with a
		
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			checking account
		
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			checking account
		
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			but essentially
		
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			every time you do something what happens
		
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			to the account
		
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			every time you do something
		
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			so you keep investing in
		
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			chocolate bar you brought a chocolate bar reception
		
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			got so high yield investment in terms of recession.
		
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			So even these small
		
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			investments should continue to
		
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			invest investing, investing, investing, investing, you know, you're so so
		
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			busy with
		
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			whatever it is.
		
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			So once your product is changing, you're not important anymore. Ask
		
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			what they care about.
		
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			The most important
		
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			and that's when you start a mandatory response. So the man get the gun from his wife, you know the
things that he needs to do.
		
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			Even though that two kids right now.
		
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			But he's still the same for the
		
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			same thing.
		
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			Again,
		
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			they will be withdrawn from this account.
		
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			It was wrong was wrong with that.
		
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			There's not enough investment,
		
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			eventually gonna be
		
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			more than deposit. And at some point you're gonna find yourself on my hands.
		
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			So if you want to have a loving relationship
		
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			and
		
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			investments, it doesn't have to be something to use.
		
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			They will make the difference. And the second
		
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			they said the last time last time
		
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			just like a vehicle, and postcards out there.
		
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			And the customer says,
		
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			Now, let me just show you.
		
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			What do you guys thought to forget?
		
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			When the
		
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			most
		
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			majority of women, women, when it's half full,
		
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			they stop.
		
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			And they ask the guys, when they just start to fill gaps
		
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			in the middle of nowhere,
		
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			it just
		
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			function as long as it's fine. Don't stop No.
		
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			As long as the
		
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			do not stop, don't waste the time. I remember one time.
		
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			So the young man who came to drive me from the hotel to the
		
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			event.
		
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			So I don't I guess you're going to stop
		
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			wasting
		
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			you know why when they want to keep stopping you
		
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			like checkpoints,
		
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			checkpoints,
		
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			everything is okay. It just
		
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			is the
		
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			truth when you do this, we do that.
		
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			For men, as long as it's fine. Just don't touch it don't stop.
		
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			That's why
		
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			this is why why the industry is happy.
		
00:43:11 --> 00:43:13
			Or at least she's not comparison.
		
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			The highway that's when he wakes up when his wife gets upset.
		
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			And then one day his wife comes and says
		
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			he wasn't crossing his mind at some point that his wife would ever ask this question. But he was so
distracted was the highway on the road that he never stopped to fill gas? Why when they want to stop
for gas every now and then. Because they always want assurance in the relationship.
		
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			And this is how you should enjoy
		
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			enjoy
		
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			security.
		
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			But also
		
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			to check that I'm in because sometimes Yeah.
		
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			So check in every now and then
		
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			they don't have to check
		
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			once it breaks.
		
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			That's exactly the same thing. Why should I go on a vacation when we when we find a
		
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			bride
		
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			when she has all these things over so they never think of it as insurance.
		
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			So when it comes to the issue of marriage and
		
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			relationship, you will need to rationalize your religion.
		
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			Russia, Russia,
		
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			Russia,
		
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			what made you love them and what makes him love you these are the things you need to keep to keep in
your mind. And always keep doing keep doing it because they're locked in for
		
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			as long as you can.
		
00:45:19 --> 00:45:21
			So keep the maintenance going.
		
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			Now
		
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			let's see that
		
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			number one will come to the
		
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			store.
		
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			One thing
		
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			to love one of them is water formation. The waters have permission for permission meaning that every
time you do something good
		
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			thank you very much.
		
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			Awesome. Anything that is mentioned feels appreciated. And when was the last time SR one of the last
time they serve as
		
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			trash cans on the back of a dashcam and take it off without you asking.
		
00:46:12 --> 00:46:14
			Because most men are very practical
		
00:46:37 --> 00:46:38
			for the garden
		
00:46:44 --> 00:46:44
			space
		
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			very happy. Why? Because
		
00:46:55 --> 00:46:56
			it's efficient
		
00:47:00 --> 00:47:03
			and assembling again. So imagine that your husband one day
		
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			instead of pushing.
		
00:47:10 --> 00:47:11
			In this case,
		
00:47:12 --> 00:47:16
			please please come and say thank you very much. I really really appreciate
		
00:47:22 --> 00:47:23
			those words.
		
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			A lot of fun for
		
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			anyone who says to his brother does
		
00:47:39 --> 00:47:39
			this or not.
		
00:47:44 --> 00:47:45
			house should
		
00:47:48 --> 00:47:59
			appreciate his work on regular basis every single day. In the morning, in the afternoon. Remember,
when you do these things we appreciate
		
00:48:03 --> 00:48:06
			you come home for more. You're very tired. You sit down
		
00:48:09 --> 00:48:12
			it's the same thing every single day that you do.
		
00:48:13 --> 00:48:14
			It doesn't mean
		
00:48:25 --> 00:48:26
			said
		
00:48:31 --> 00:48:31
			the
		
00:48:33 --> 00:48:35
			same thing with the children.
		
00:48:39 --> 00:48:41
			What he comes up with it comes back
		
00:48:51 --> 00:48:51
			It doesn't matter.
		
00:48:55 --> 00:48:57
			And same thing for both of you
		
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			can imagine what some people are really like the second is
		
00:49:05 --> 00:49:08
			quality time, quality time.
		
00:49:10 --> 00:49:20
			If you ask most women actually have a survey that I do my workshops on the subject when I asked the
ladies What do they complain the most about the number one complaint women they have against?
		
00:49:23 --> 00:49:26
			What is the number one complaint one they have against?
		
00:49:31 --> 00:49:34
			It was which is true. But
		
00:49:36 --> 00:49:37
			they said
		
00:49:42 --> 00:49:44
			they don't listen
		
00:50:00 --> 00:50:02
			The biggest complaint I have about their life
		
00:50:24 --> 00:50:24
			optimal
		
00:50:29 --> 00:50:36
			solution for this problem is quality time, you know, when it comes to a husband, and she says I want
to talk to you,
		
00:50:39 --> 00:50:43
			because that's going to be talking about
		
00:50:48 --> 00:50:49
			is going to become 50.
		
00:50:50 --> 00:50:51
			So that's why
		
00:50:59 --> 00:51:00
			so that's the first thing
		
00:51:02 --> 00:51:08
			that the husband's gone for his wife to talk to her, when
		
00:51:10 --> 00:51:17
			they checked her husband is serious about this. Because you know, one of his biggest problems is
that is my house. So when he does
		
00:51:20 --> 00:51:23
			his laptop, for the TV,
		
00:51:24 --> 00:51:25
			that he can distract.
		
00:51:26 --> 00:51:28
			So they need that quality time, what is the
		
00:51:31 --> 00:51:38
			few minutes divisible attention between a husband and wife, just for them to talk not
		
00:51:39 --> 00:51:49
			to share information, as much as to just to communicate and connect with one on one of them. And as
they speak, men, they like to speak just to give them permission
		
00:51:52 --> 00:51:54
			to share emotions and
		
00:51:57 --> 00:52:01
			conversation when other activities such as visually you look at the guy, one speaker,
		
00:52:04 --> 00:52:12
			but the actual conversation in the center, why because there is not enough information as much as
inflation, which is very good. This is such an important
		
00:52:17 --> 00:52:24
			article, because it's very hard to read and design differently for legal
		
00:52:25 --> 00:52:25
			levels.
		
00:52:26 --> 00:52:27
			That's an amazing thing.
		
00:52:29 --> 00:52:33
			So quality times is what they want, they want to feel better. Sometimes
		
00:52:34 --> 00:52:35
			you have
		
00:52:42 --> 00:52:43
			to go outside
		
00:52:45 --> 00:52:47
			the home office, then you just got to
		
00:52:53 --> 00:52:55
			just forget about everything.
		
00:52:59 --> 00:52:59
			And
		
00:53:01 --> 00:53:01
			then come on.
		
00:53:14 --> 00:53:15
			He used to
		
00:53:17 --> 00:53:18
			send the army.
		
00:53:22 --> 00:53:24
			Imagine imagine those moments of
		
00:53:25 --> 00:53:26
			walking together.
		
00:53:27 --> 00:53:29
			Imagine walking
		
00:53:32 --> 00:53:34
			on this beautiful spacious place.
		
00:53:36 --> 00:53:39
			Talking and chit chatting with one another. So everybody want
		
00:53:47 --> 00:53:51
			to say one minute, but those memories will last forever.
		
00:53:56 --> 00:53:57
			Some allow
		
00:54:00 --> 00:54:01
			us to go all the way back.
		
00:54:05 --> 00:54:06
			Because you know
		
00:54:09 --> 00:54:11
			men and women they hate sometimes.
		
00:54:13 --> 00:54:25
			Why? Because for the night is focuses on destination and a woman facilities because when you don't
know where to stop, and then also focus on the road. So when she says
		
00:54:27 --> 00:54:28
			to mine,
		
00:54:33 --> 00:54:34
			she said nothing.
		
00:54:45 --> 00:54:59
			But it's quality time. That's what I told you both husband and wife. If you ever get together, to
talk to shop together and so on. Make sure that you decide on the time. How long would it take to
pay 10 minutes and stuff
		
00:55:00 --> 00:55:00
			For
		
00:55:03 --> 00:55:04
			you For the purpose of
		
00:55:18 --> 00:55:18
			receiving
		
00:55:26 --> 00:55:27
			which means if you didn't fit
		
00:55:31 --> 00:55:33
			in as it was between a husband and wife
		
00:55:34 --> 00:55:36
			or husband comes with one will mask it
		
00:55:38 --> 00:55:43
			will also do is that for men I get asked to be
		
00:55:44 --> 00:56:00
			they still have a monetary value. So that's why they don't give gifts very often. Because once they
say that they have been bringing big gifts and that's why they get disappointed many times in the
relationship because after all this sacrifice that's what I get from him.
		
00:56:01 --> 00:56:02
			Because I
		
00:56:05 --> 00:56:22
			don't care about how much it cost what they care about the idea the thought that contains that you
will you have the passion in my mother's alley of Walgreens in the chocolate highlighted animals 50%
on sale. For me that's amazing.
		
00:56:27 --> 00:56:28
			Please share with
		
00:56:30 --> 00:56:30
			us
		
00:56:31 --> 00:56:33
			chocolate that makes
		
00:56:35 --> 00:56:35
			sense.
		
00:56:39 --> 00:56:42
			And manly gifts. What does that mean?
		
00:56:45 --> 00:56:54
			chocolates, perfumes, flowers, these kind of things and so on. So when they buy their husband, the
husband especially because his check the price
		
00:56:57 --> 00:56:58
			that's
		
00:56:59 --> 00:57:00
			why because
		
00:57:01 --> 00:57:01
			these are
		
00:57:04 --> 00:57:05
			some really practical
		
00:57:07 --> 00:57:12
			tools like gadgets, these kind of things a car for example, all this stuff so
		
00:57:15 --> 00:57:18
			please don't forget that you live
		
00:57:21 --> 00:57:24
			a better life for themselves. So
		
00:57:25 --> 00:57:26
			don't buy it a laptop.
		
00:57:28 --> 00:57:29
			This is the latest edition.
		
00:57:33 --> 00:57:33
			Let me show you
		
00:57:40 --> 00:57:40
			this
		
00:57:43 --> 00:57:45
			something such as a
		
00:57:46 --> 00:57:48
			while that he wants her to
		
00:57:52 --> 00:57:52
			know
		
00:57:54 --> 00:57:59
			is that you may or is exclusively for them that says you have a laptop
		
00:58:02 --> 00:58:04
			my permission for you make it
		
00:58:05 --> 00:58:06
			and
		
00:58:10 --> 00:58:12
			then name this.
		
00:58:16 --> 00:58:20
			In this case, you would know she was exclusively for
		
00:58:22 --> 00:58:23
			laptop
		
00:58:25 --> 00:58:26
			chances you must
		
00:58:30 --> 00:58:32
			be smart, smart.
		
00:58:33 --> 00:58:48
			Sometimes the way you do these things will be the most beautiful gifts. We don't have to buy some
expensive for a gift, something that has a beautiful child that will do the job number four to
service the meaning of actual service women specifically
		
00:58:51 --> 00:58:55
			rely on their husbands to do for them to show love
		
00:58:59 --> 00:59:05
			coming from war and wanted to keep the show me that we face because the house was not very close.
		
00:59:07 --> 00:59:09
			They have no idea how many times
		
00:59:11 --> 00:59:12
			but it has no children.
		
00:59:18 --> 00:59:19
			They just come in
		
00:59:26 --> 00:59:40
			so number two is to Arizona right now Mashallah. regardless how much you organize and you may use
you, you leave the game room, just leave it there for five minutes or less.
		
00:59:53 --> 00:59:55
			She doesn't she doesn't play
		
01:00:00 --> 01:00:01
			Video inboxes
		
01:00:03 --> 01:00:04
			in five minutes,
		
01:00:05 --> 01:00:06
			back to what was.
		
01:00:09 --> 01:00:12
			So for the men, whenever they come home when they see the situation like this
		
01:00:17 --> 01:00:19
			social emotion, instead
		
01:00:21 --> 01:00:30
			pick up these toys, put them away, put these pillows back on the couch and eventually do something
without being told to do.
		
01:00:37 --> 01:00:39
			It is too busy extending already.
		
01:00:45 --> 01:00:47
			What exactly is it suddenly
		
01:00:51 --> 01:00:52
			gets away from me
		
01:00:55 --> 01:00:58
			best choir and so forth without being told.
		
01:00:59 --> 01:01:00
			And many
		
01:01:06 --> 01:01:09
			more than this, and the love I have for you.
		
01:01:11 --> 01:01:12
			You cheer each other
		
01:01:13 --> 01:01:17
			on of seven acts of service. And finally, the physical
		
01:01:20 --> 01:01:21
			proximity.
		
01:01:23 --> 01:01:29
			When he walks around, you'd love to have all hands on, sometimes at the beginning of the
relationship.
		
01:01:31 --> 01:01:31
			But then after that
		
01:01:34 --> 01:01:35
			they don't actually
		
01:01:39 --> 01:01:39
			live in.
		
01:01:42 --> 01:01:46
			They have a sofa, they have the chair, and they have the loveseat.
		
01:01:48 --> 01:01:51
			Because, you know, I recognize most of the time,
		
01:01:52 --> 01:01:54
			you don't have children, yet, you spend most of your time
		
01:01:57 --> 01:02:01
			on the luck, because it's not actually two people. But we have
		
01:02:03 --> 01:02:14
			a baby. So in this case, we have extra space. But you still love the proximity goes. And what does
that mean? That physical touch, I don't mean by
		
01:02:16 --> 01:02:21
			experience for me versus show kindness. And that's what
		
01:02:24 --> 01:02:37
			she was crying, she said, some of us needs to come from the message when it comes back from outside
the first thing he does. So, the first thing is a random squat and against his mouth,
		
01:02:40 --> 01:02:45
			his mouth and then the company faces as well. What is that?
		
01:02:48 --> 01:02:52
			What does that mean? Is that going to be sweaty and smelly?
		
01:02:56 --> 01:02:58
			And then come back to what he said.
		
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			This is the this is not about the physical, you know for to go beyond that it is to show the love
and respect for the same thing. She said when he goes outside when he wants to live to the message.
She said
		
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			Why is fasting, fasting?
		
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			She said he used to kill his wife.
		
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			And then he would walk up to them as possible.
		
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			Because
		
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			she was talking about
		
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			he was
		
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			shaking his
		
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			head you
		
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			before it is worth way
		
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			more than just now is fast. It is an act of devotion to the message after devotion and on the way
out. What does that mean? That's
		
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			the beautiful kindness that shows love responsible law.
		
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			She says
		
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			touch them by his hands or by holding their hand as they're sitting together at home. So the last
one was the last one just sitting there on the dinner table.
		
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			As you're eating or having a cup of coffee or conversation.
		
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			A few weeks of your marriage and then after that.
		
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			So lovely.
		
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			And one of the most beautiful show our beautiful, beautiful show of physical
		
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			Chapter one.
		
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			The first one actually says on the,
		
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			on the
		
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			washroom facilities and so on. So she overheard, she overheard the other seniors in the method
playing with like having a show like a workshop or something like that. So as the the class, the
spirit of the armor, so she can
		
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			listen to
		
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			what she was doing. And as the thing
		
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			that he is continually he can see through, he knows she won't
		
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			need to say anything. So watch
		
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			out for her. And she came from behind. I'll show them the house. And then they had a window that
overlooks from the house.
		
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			So as she was standing behind this little dog,
		
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			and she was looking over his shoulder through the window to them as
		
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			she described that, he said what the
		
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			key was on his chin, but it is beautiful, this
		
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			dimension that that will not be visualized. Can you try to visualize how would they be standing
		
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			on the street, that doesn't mean just, you know, kind of you know, this head is like this. No, it
means she was
		
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			resting her chin on his shoulder.
		
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			And she's visiting the region with her face to hit it.
		
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			So hard to leave his head as well. So she will have his cheek on her cheek.
		
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			cheek on his cheeks all of a sudden, and why would you be hungry?
		
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			I mean,
		
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			I will suggest to your husband, which is a beautiful, beautiful woman's
		
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			body was waiting for her to finish watching he will say
		
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			no.
		
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			Then after some time,
		
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			finally, after so long, she said
		
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			she used to read a story. Many years after the festival. She said well, La Mancha channel,
		
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			I had no interest.
		
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			This position
		
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			makes you wanted to enjoy the position of tea on her tea.
		
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			The last position
		
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			such as a show of love, and
		
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			this was one of the most memorable moments in his life
		
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			is the status. And those are the last you know, in
		
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			the last few seconds and breaths from the
		
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			universal line cannot come closer to the end of the service line.
		
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			And the last few months, the last 14 days, he was nervous
		
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			about the AMA. And the last day he was unable to move on. On on he was unable to first of all,
		
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			he said to make him to ease his pain and suffering. So she would go on his bed with him on the bed.
And this is the body and rest his body on her chest and I want you
		
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			to sit next to him and she would dress his body on her chest.
		
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			She would hold his hand from behind. And she starts wiping with his Blitz attack resistant because
he was unable to decide.
		
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			When in those last moments, what she said the thoughts and his head was between her chin on her
chest so he was thirsty and he wanted because he also wanted to deal with it.
		
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			of woman like this, and this woman husband is dying.
		
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			What
		
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			was a nurse she had to be in that position. There's nothing for her husband
		
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			that she
		
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			needed the last one. The last breath She said her daughter came in and he has in his hand his wife
the the toothbrush, so when she
		
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			said she couldn't speak. She said
		
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			I know how much
		
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			said
		
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			she said yes they should be
		
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			and yes. So she
		
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			and she she
		
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			She She,
		
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			and she played another activity.
		
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			And then she was
		
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			stopped in the forest or vice versa.
		
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			And he starts cleaning his mouth. So
		
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			he said,
		
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			access. I've never seen the problem. So law there's suddenly been in his mouth went away. But
		
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			as it was credit for something special. And finally he puts them down
		
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			to the heart of companionship and companionship, that means I would like to depart. She said he
		
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			was coming and asked him if he wanted to stay longer.
		
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			Suddenly, she said,
		
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			I felt that way.
		
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			on my chest, which means
		
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			to the last minute, this lady she's telling us, I've never
		
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			I've never let go, my husband to the last breath is not
		
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			such an amazing show.
		
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			That's the genuine,
		
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			genuine
		
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			and really show
		
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			moments.
		
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			She says, manager may not often and
		
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			it wasn't my chest. I never go to the last minute, the last
		
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			thing she said, and the last thing ever started from this world was my slide.
		
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			Because she was so awesome. She was so happy. And the last thing is he from this world, what
		
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			what else can you say about this amazing, amazing and real example of love, from the logical sort of
life.
		
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			When it comes to love, as we said earlier, this is from a loss of
		
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			the above.
		
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			And it's a blessing from Allah.
		
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			oma, for those who like to enjoy that peace and tranquility and subpoena, they should pursue that
and
		
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			do
		
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			it because you enjoy it.
		
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			And if you don't find your joy, what's the best example is the example for
		
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			why we have problems in our marriages? Because we're not really going
		
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			to marriage and marriage.
		
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			Today,
		
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			university man, I'm sure when you go home, you don't go home empty handed.
		
01:13:08 --> 01:13:10
			To me for the chocolate bar.
		
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			And for the ladies.
		
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			Don't forget that you always compliment your
		
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			sister.
		
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			Me?
		
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			Yes.
		
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			My question is what
		
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			love
		
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			is love
		
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			is love. Why do people sometimes think of us as love?
		
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			If you check the different kinds of love different categories of love, this is one of these
categories, sometimes of romantic love, actually a romantic love is part of this as well. Because if
you take romantic love
		
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			romantic love
		
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			stories such as the famous story in English as well.
		
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			Now in every single culture, every single culture asset they have models
		
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			Not so among
		
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			the
		
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			most famous love story is called face balloon.
		
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			And if you ask them what happened,
		
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			the father of the girl refused to give the message to them. So she might have someone else. And as a
result of that, this man is
		
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			literally insane. He walks in the shovel, you know,
		
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			every time they mentioned,
		
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			he recovers, and you give, obviously these beautiful lines of work. But we're speaking about
something else.
		
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			So this is another project.
		
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			So why don't people sometimes used to be below.
		
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			And I believe that this is actually a psychological issue that needs to be filled in the thing
that's being and you know, it's a show of love. And that's a psychological problem, specifically,
the amount of things that show the show of love for what needs to be physical
		
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			sickness,
		
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			to show to show control by verbal abuse and emotional abuse.
		
01:16:18 --> 01:16:19
			So non
		
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			abusive,
		
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			to just enjoy,
		
01:16:30 --> 01:16:36
			enjoy going after them, because he loves them so much, and they
		
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			enjoy, they love to see how much he suffers,
		
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			the Muslim should lose
		
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			money
		
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			training, I teach the students how
		
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			to qualify. So, if
		
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			you have an inner circle and
		
01:17:17 --> 01:17:17
			the inner circle
		
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			and the second one is bigger circles.
		
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			Core circle contains many main qualities that you should not come from, you should not come from the
question, why should not compromise
		
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			the
		
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			religious?
		
01:17:46 --> 01:17:46
			He said
		
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			if someone comes to you,
		
01:17:54 --> 01:18:00
			so we talked about the law, by the law, the practice of
		
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			relationship between them, and the last one.
		
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			Do they come today, but they fast?
		
01:18:09 --> 01:18:10
			they change their lives.
		
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			All these things?
		
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			Don't say?
		
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			Fine, but this is so dangerous. If
		
01:18:22 --> 01:18:27
			you have children, how are you going to raise a family that will vote for lots of animals, there's
no model now
		
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			that you really should think that it's very dangerous, in this case to be careful for quality, the
reference for
		
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			cultural references in terms of age and attendance of culture, in terms of color, in terms of the
sizes of a profession, in terms of you know, social status, all these things are cultural. So it's
not just about the
		
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			culture, it focuses on the person. Now,
		
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			I can't say anything about this.
		
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			It's a matter of personal preference. Some people they care about qualities,
		
01:19:15 --> 01:19:16
			from qualities.
		
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			But what
		
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			is called the qualities
		
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			and the relationship with the people, how those people
		
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			how they behave.
		
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			You mentioned about giving gifts to your spouses and there are certain special occasions like
birthdays, anniversaries,
		
01:19:46 --> 01:19:58
			Mother's Day Father's Day. So I I want your opinion on is it appropriate to what is the most special
memory to share with your spouse?
		
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			Birthday
		
01:20:10 --> 01:20:14
			birthday birthday and then your children's birthday your mom's birthday
		
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			and then
		
01:20:20 --> 01:20:21
			these special
		
01:20:23 --> 01:20:23
			occasions
		
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			and become social I will say the same for the best okay?
		
01:20:33 --> 01:20:34
			I think however
		
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			the wife doesn't want
		
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			to have this spontaneous Nashville again
		
01:20:56 --> 01:21:02
			the husband continues to have a list of some numbers for years
		
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			and one of these workshops
		
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			so here's
		
01:21:16 --> 01:21:17
			what happened
		
01:21:19 --> 01:21:19
			what
		
01:21:21 --> 01:21:21
			lady
		
01:21:23 --> 01:21:26
			what a loving action for you is
		
01:21:30 --> 01:21:37
			how do you show up to number one the number one top reason that I've seen so far all these workshops
		
01:21:44 --> 01:21:47
			loving quality husbands they want from their wife
		
01:21:56 --> 01:21:59
			No, it's actually cooking good.
		
01:22:15 --> 01:22:16
			The highest
		
01:22:22 --> 01:22:24
			most guys the physical
		
01:22:26 --> 01:22:26
			most of
		
01:22:37 --> 01:22:39
			you know
		
01:22:46 --> 01:22:47
			No.
		
01:22:51 --> 01:22:52
			No.
		
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			So how
		
01:23:10 --> 01:23:11
			what people look for when it comes
		
01:23:13 --> 01:23:13
			to health
		
01:24:00 --> 01:24:04
			perspective of Muslims and then what should a Muslim look
		
01:24:08 --> 01:24:08
			for me
		
01:24:13 --> 01:24:15
			have to exist before it even I
		
01:24:19 --> 01:24:20
			know
		
01:24:26 --> 01:24:28
			how would you even define that?
		
01:24:39 --> 01:24:40
			If you don't love someone
		
01:24:45 --> 01:24:49
			after a long period of love or loving relationships
		
01:24:53 --> 01:25:00
			in America 62% that's crazy, but almost 60 to 64
		
01:25:00 --> 01:25:01
			80%
		
01:25:09 --> 01:25:10
			happened last year,
		
01:25:11 --> 01:25:13
			only one month, and they cannot say
		
01:25:17 --> 01:25:21
			what is that? So eventually, how do we define love?
		
01:25:24 --> 01:25:30
			I want you to be practical. When you propose to someone how I should proceed or just
		
01:25:33 --> 01:25:42
			you need to look for your comfort zone, you need to reach comfort zones that don't look to love
them, because you will not be able to do
		
01:25:44 --> 01:25:45
			the exercise.
		
01:25:49 --> 01:25:52
			So you need to reach your comfort zone.
		
01:25:55 --> 01:25:57
			martial law by law
		
01:26:01 --> 01:26:03
			of attraction to them, you don't
		
01:26:04 --> 01:26:11
			want to sacrifice a lot for them to get to that point. But at least your comfort zone in this case,
		
01:26:12 --> 01:26:18
			proceed and move on. You can continue you can make engagement and start now in
		
01:26:20 --> 01:26:21
			case
		
01:26:43 --> 01:26:45
			Shura Council.
		
01:26:48 --> 01:26:55
			Were having problems. What kind of system do occur husband doesn't agree with this. Show me a
husband
		
01:26:59 --> 01:27:04
			looking for a couple, when they have issues, the husband has a problem, the relationship that is too
		
01:27:05 --> 01:27:06
			late is almost for me.
		
01:27:07 --> 01:27:14
			husband is not now he doesn't want to come because he says there's nothing wrong with the front row
with us. I have no problem with
		
01:27:16 --> 01:27:20
			somebody. But for me, I go to work.
		
01:27:21 --> 01:27:23
			And they also they hate to go
		
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			Why? Because they feel embarrassed.
		
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			They don't trust and confidentiality.
		
01:27:38 --> 01:27:39
			So
		
01:27:41 --> 01:27:41
			this is very,
		
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			very good. And that's what I meant by Bing on a very low you
		
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			try to say fine
		
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			life without you know,
		
01:28:05 --> 01:28:07
			sitting on the sofa
		
01:28:16 --> 01:28:18
			which means an arbitrator for Merseyside
		
01:28:19 --> 01:28:21
			side and trying to reconcile
		
01:28:24 --> 01:28:24
			if the
		
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			political situation alone is possible.
		
01:28:30 --> 01:28:31
			Man, please.
		
01:28:34 --> 01:28:36
			I highly recommended the city council
		
01:28:37 --> 01:28:41
			is for the lowest common denominator.
		
01:28:42 --> 01:28:56
			So the husband is not really trying to not tell him that whatever you get from the counselor is
going to be an unbiased, it's not going to be serious counseling because you have to participate in
active participation of both forms.
		
01:29:13 --> 01:29:14
			Be
		
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			a slight problem of Muslim men popping in and out of marriages leaving behind and not providing for
them. What does not serve others. I wish it was only a slight problem.
		
01:29:30 --> 01:29:36
			The remaining husband and many guys, they really they think that they live the same life
		
01:29:38 --> 01:29:41
			for their children, that is
		
01:29:43 --> 01:29:45
			the stress so they move on
		
01:29:52 --> 01:29:52
			relationship.
		
01:29:54 --> 01:29:59
			So it's a serious problem and the last holding accountable deployment.
		
01:30:00 --> 01:30:03
			That day, the professor says
		
01:30:07 --> 01:30:19
			it's sufficient self sufficient extend a person commenced as they will, which means that because
boom, they're responsible for to go waste resources that you don't take care of
		
01:30:22 --> 01:30:23
			your child
		
01:30:27 --> 01:30:30
			or your ex wife and never fade child custody.
		
01:30:35 --> 01:30:36
			You will never
		
01:30:37 --> 01:30:46
			forget parents in the relationship after the divorce, you know, they lost a foster children, that's
a very, very serious issue and a lot more comfortable.
		
01:31:01 --> 01:31:02
			What
		
01:31:04 --> 01:31:06
			is a school
		
01:31:09 --> 01:31:11
			he comes back, he can help our children
		
01:31:13 --> 01:31:18
			expect their wives to be Superwoman the teachers, the teachers,
		
01:31:20 --> 01:31:27
			all the they want to do everything, their job is to walk outside raise the cash money, and then
		
01:31:29 --> 01:31:29
			well that is
		
01:31:31 --> 01:31:35
			the ratio traditional marriages, maybe some other countries in this society
		
01:31:37 --> 01:31:39
			and therefore talk relationship but
		
01:31:41 --> 01:31:42
			they have to open a system
		
01:31:44 --> 01:31:46
			or ask a man to go and you know, have a job
		
01:31:51 --> 01:31:54
			are also asked to come to the opposite. You
		
01:31:55 --> 01:31:56
			know, I'm asked
		
01:31:58 --> 01:32:00
			to help out when you walk
		
01:32:02 --> 01:32:05
			away and you know, some of these things.
		
01:32:07 --> 01:32:11
			Work on the house is a very serious for both of you do your best to
		
01:32:17 --> 01:32:19
			manage is made in heaven.
		
01:32:24 --> 01:32:28
			The question is based on the idea of the soulmate.
		
01:32:29 --> 01:32:40
			soulmate. That's the theory of romance in America, in the West in general. And where is it coming
from? And it's interesting, it's coming from the same Muslim scholar
		
01:32:42 --> 01:32:43
			and Millennium have gone
		
01:32:45 --> 01:32:45
			out of
		
01:32:49 --> 01:32:59
			history is that the Spirit they meet in the universe, and then they come back and when they leave
here that you know,
		
01:33:01 --> 01:33:02
			based on this database
		
01:33:04 --> 01:33:05
			so now they don't have
		
01:33:09 --> 01:33:11
			everything written. But
		
01:33:15 --> 01:33:23
			however, you are an active participant in that community that you take, take this make decisions and
take choices at making these things happen.
		
01:33:39 --> 01:33:39
			So
		
01:33:43 --> 01:33:43
			I'm going to show
		
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			you the way
		
01:34:06 --> 01:34:14
			how would you suggest a wife or husband then forecasts of something that she needs from him and the
relationship
		
01:34:16 --> 01:34:22
			ladies to take the bed as the chance to communicate these things.
		
01:34:26 --> 01:34:26
			Unfold
		
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			and go to the web. So it's a nice beautiful moment right now the app is amazing together
		
01:34:41 --> 01:34:43
			with for the Wizard of Oz conversation
		
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			and they don't communicate very
		
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			well on the list of speakers
		
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			because
		
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			they get really upset
		
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			So how can you have
		
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			quality time
		
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			look for a family husband is
		
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			gonna relieve that stress by giving a face away.
		
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			So
		
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			he will appreciate that once it is released, that's the best time to talk when it comes to luxury,
you know,
		
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			appreciate helping young
		
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			children, okay?
		
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			Look for the quality time, don't do the wrong time before the
		
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			program
		
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			is very important. Unfortunately, I haven't seen any code, you know, most
		
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			it's still there.
		
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			And
		
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			that's not sufficient, I also have 16 CDs already activated
		
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			is loving your spouse a lot means you are meant
		
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			to attach to this world.
		
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			That love becomes an obsession, that you stop doing your religious duties, because
		
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			what are the rights of
		
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			the one
		
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			everything
		
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			there is advice people against allegations against
		
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			responsibility,
		
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			responsibility
		
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			responsibility,
		
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			what is the relation
		
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			with the customer? What is known that culture as long as the compound should arrive? For example, is
it the responsibility to cook in the house
		
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			and so on?
		
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			Is it the job to go and work or service a home and
		
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			bring the money all defined according to a similar process a lot of setup. But this is not measured
		
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			by customer.
		
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			The horses after having children
		
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			when funds are
		
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			the best of funding older
		
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			children. However, the man is the responsible
		
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			party that says you know staff and staff.
		
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			Chairs should spend as much as you can.
		
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			So there is no way you can state the fact that you're responsible. But again as much as you can,
after all did your kids these are children
		
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			to grow
		
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			as much as possible.