Yahya Rhodus – Futuwwa Companionship

Yahya Rhodus
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The speaker discusses the importance of creating a strong relationship and avoiding harming others. They also emphasize the need for empathy and wanting to achieve happiness. The speaker uses words like "naive" and "verbal" to describe the culture of the Sahaba where individuals give the most. They stress the importance of avoiding giving too much of one's own time and the need for empathy in order to achieve happiness.
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While he was so happy woman, why Allah Hamdulillah we praise our

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Lord subhanho wa taala. And we thank him for all of his gifts,

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the vast majority of which that we do not even know even those that

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we know we are veiled by our knowledge of them, and what is

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hidden from the Divine Mercy and generosity Subhanahu wa Taala is

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so much greater than what it is that we know from the

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manifestations of His mercy and generosity subhanaw taala it's

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almost as if everything that we're able to perceive, that is canceled

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out in his nothing in relation to everything that is hidden in

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everything that is that we do not know. And Hamdulillah we think

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Allah to Allah specifically for having friends and brothers for

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the sake of Allah tomato cortada that you can share in these

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meanings and that you're reminded of when they're present of our

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purpose here in creation. And we're reminded specifically, of

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covenants, that is that we took that with our teachers in what it

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is that we need to spend our lives doing in relation to them. The

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vast majority of creation is in a state of complete heedlessness,

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this is a reality. And that when we look around ourselves that we

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find ourselves in a time that our Prophet described, and he said

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about this time, and that juxtaposed to the time of the

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companions because they found helpers in their society. And when

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he mentioned this immense bounty of those that adhere to his sunnah

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and bring life to his sunnah and that the Companions themselves

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were amazed at what the Prophet mentioned Salah Lai, Sanam is that

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he said min now Omen coming out soon Allah is that after the

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Prophet said that whoever brings life to my sunnah when my ummah

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has become corrupted that he will have the reward of 50 martyrs from

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among list are from among them, Oh, Mr. From among you, in what

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was our prophets explanation because is that you all find

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people to help you and they do not find people to help them. So in a

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time where things are difficult when we go out into the public

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sphere, and it's not hospitable to the meanings of la ilaha illAllah

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Muhammad Rasul Allah and in general, it does not encourage us

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to be present with our Lord is that even more so that we have to

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come to gatherings like this to get our weekly sustenance, but the

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beauty of it is, is at the heart is such that you could be

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outwardly in the very worst of places, but Allah to Allah has

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given you ability to be in the very best of places, and of

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course, is that it doesn't mean that you intentionally go to

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places where you know that you are prohibited for going you do your

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best to be where Allah Allah has commanded you to be and to avoid

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where he's prohibited you from being. However, if you're in a

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situation that is beyond your control, is it in your mind and in

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your heart in your soul, you can always be in the very best of

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places, you can imagine yourself and not older. Sharifa and the

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blessa role of the Prophet the power of imagination is amazing.

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You can imagine yourself standing before the Prophet sallallahu

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sunnah and you can imagine yourself circumambulating the

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Kaaba, you can imagine yourself with your teachers, you can

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imagine yourself with the righteous are in a place that

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you're specifically attached to. And just as Cydia Abdelaziz the

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bug says is that if you think regularly about one of the Olia in

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particular, to sign that you have a connection to them, ie that you

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have melted in spiritual sustenance that is coming your way

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by means of them. And likewise, if you have a Spanish special

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connection in your heart to one of the special places in which a lots

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of political data has placed in Bucca in them, it's a sign that

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you have a special that connection to that place in a receiving

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blessings through it. So we should imagine that these blessings

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places, and wherever we are outwardly is at our heart should

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very be in the very best of places, as the poet said in the

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poem that we recite that regularly, is that in bow that a

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knee was Amezaga for Tim Thilo holiday. Yeah, ASINs oddity is

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that if it becomes far ie, the visit of the Prophet his blessing,

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wrote the his mustard satellites, and I'm going to visit him, if it

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becomes so far, then it's difficult for me to visit the

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image of it. What I imagined in my mind of it is the very best of all

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images. And then is that the more we accustom our imagination to

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going to visit the prophesy said and this is something that we can

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do. There's nothing preventing us from every morning after we make

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will do is that in our mind is that we go visit the Rasulullah

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, this is a good thing to do. And the

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more you accustom yourself to imagine these places time and time

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again, when that actually happens outwardly, it's a very different

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experience, because it is through that process of imagination is

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that Shulk in our longing for those places grow

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And the more that we long for our place, the more than that we will

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want the outward and the inward come together wherever we will be

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physically present in front of those very blessed places, and

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hamdulillah the blessings of Allah subhanaw taala are great. And in

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the context of that brotherhood in establishing and having friends

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for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. Our very next etiquette of

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for to up, according to Imam a tsunami is woman L for to Woody

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atta, Allahu Malik one. It is from fatawa. It is a part of spiritual

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chivalry, to let there be familiarity and closeness between

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you and other people, a to Aleph to carry yourself in such a way is

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that relationships are developed. And we've quoted this hadith of

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the prophet before. But it seems like it's one of these Hadith that

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we have to quote regularly, because our Prophet was that very

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concerned about the state of his OMA as we know, and that he wanted

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the OMA to come together. And he realized the importance of being

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upon one heart, and how dissension, the difficulty and the

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problems that it causes when it is there. And all of the

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righteousness is how they are one of the things they hate the most

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is to see two people mad at each other, or see two people not

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talking to each other. Or it's easy to see two people that

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bothered by one another, they don't like this, because they

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realize is that when that is present in any that relationship,

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or in any household, or any community, or any space, or any

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masjid or center, or whatever else, is that it will suck the

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buttock out of the room like a vacuum cleaner, it will just suck

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it out of the room, it will suck the blessing out of the room. And

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so our Prophet said this on the lottery, salam, Al, meno il phone,

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Lu phone, and this is going to be explained in the latter part of

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the what does it mean to be ill, and LWF la hazera, female Leia

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left with your left,

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there is no good and anyone that lie yet left who's active in the

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process of establishing a relationship with the other IE is

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that they allow themselves to be to they go out of their way to be

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friend others wala you love and there's no good and someone who

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doesn't allow themselves to be befriended. In other words, they

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don't allow alpha, which is this familiarity in this closeness and

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even this intimacy to take place. Because that intimacy is the

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opposite of having an aversion in your heart towards somebody, if

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you have an aversion in your heart towards someone, you don't want to

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be around them. If you have a deep sense of intimacy in your heart in

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relation to them, that loves a prerequisite for intimacy, it

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means that you want to be close to them, it means that you want to

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spend a lot of time with him. So our Prophet is saying is that this

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trait of OLFA? is of the utmost importance. And how can we do

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that? Is that you do that, according to imamo naui, was a

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beautiful commentary on this hadith. He says, this comes from

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having good character, and having what's called Sahaja to Tibet, you

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have an easy going nature, is it your easy to get along with your

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gentle, your loving, and you carry yourself in a way that builds

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relationships, and that makes them strong, you know what to overlook?

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And you know what to focus on? A lot of things you simply have to

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overlook, to awful is part of the deen is that where you actually

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act like it didn't happen, or you pretend not to even notice. If

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we're nitpicking we focus on every little detail, then there's never

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going to be relationship between us and anyone. There are certain

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things you simply have to overlook, you have to not pay

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attention to. And this is a part of spiritual maturity, that allows

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for these relationships to develop. And so creating alpha is

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one of the most important things of all, in any relationship, and

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in any household and in any community, and at the level of the

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home of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and you will be

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tested in ways that somehow that

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that test you in compromise if you're not careful, that OLFA and

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this is why that we have to protect it. So what is a mama? No,

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and I want to share this quote because it's so powerful. Is that

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why does OLFA this deep sense of love and familiarity and

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togetherness need to be there? He says because it is sub led to some

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biller.

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There is a direct relationship between those the relationships

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that we do

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develop ourselves in between is that are relying upon Allah, in

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placing our trust in Him and in His habit and in his rope

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SubhanaHu what to Allah? will be? Yeah, so it's mapping intimacy

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mean, and that when this alpha is present is that Muslims will be

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together will be the data enough for when they're not together and

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they can't have good relationships is that there will be an aversion

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in the hearts that will prevent them from coming together. And he

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says, but how do you achieve this OLFA he says with Tofik, Eli, this

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has to come to Allah, because you have a level two top bucket.

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Again, even if you're working on yourself, your nature overcomes

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you a lot of times. But if we always come back to agreed upon

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principles, which we have to start with, these are the principles

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that we agree upon. And even if our nature overcomes the way we're

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trying to be, we're going to come back to those principles. And he

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says the proof of this is the words of ALLAH to Allah, wa

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Tassimo will be heavily lie, Jimmy and so Allah Tada speaks about

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clinging to the rope of Allah, but he doesn't just leave it like

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that, like every single one of us is doing it in and of ourselves

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Jemmy and hold fast to the rope of Allah together. And so by having

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that relationships with people, it strengthens you, you are strong

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with your brother, you are strong with your sister, is that when you

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have that strong relationships, is that you're able to withstand much

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of the pole that is out there in the modern world that is pulling

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you to the very worst things of all, pulling you to things that

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are not pleasing to Allah to the reality of our society. And that

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unfortunate, we have to remind ourselves of this. And you tend to

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have to remind people of this, that don't truly understand the

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nature of the society anyone thinks is that society is neutral,

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is either naive or they are extremely unintelligent. It is not

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new, there is no such thing as neutrality. And anytime or in any

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place, there is no neutrality. You're either either ascending or

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you're descending, you are progressing or you are digressing,

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the society is not neutral. And in fact, there is a very strong

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undercurrent to a way of being that is that displeasing to Allah

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Jalla Jalla, we have to recognize this, the modern world is filled

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with fitna is it if you do not that take action, and tried to

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preempt this poll, and you realize that you are not just waiting in a

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beautiful little river is that there is a strong tide. And there

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is a pole that if you're not careful, is in and of itself, it

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will take you to a place where you really simply do not want to be.

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But one of the greatest that ways that we can withstand that poll is

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to have brothers and sisters for the sake of Allah to Allah. But

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the prerequisite there is at the heart be together. And one of the

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things that our teachers taught is that if you ever feel that you

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have anything in your heart for anyone, is that you force yourself

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to make do hours for them every single night until it goes and if

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that's hard for you, is that you keep doing it and you keep doing

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it and you keep doing it. And that if you want to even do a little

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bit more you make do us for them for the things that you actually

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yourself want the most. So not just a general dua, what you want

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for yourself, the things that you want to attain the things that are

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special to you in close to your heart is that you make those as

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well. And perhaps that there is a connection between this and the

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next etiquette that he mentions, which is also from fatawa. These

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great people that have this state of self control their way of being

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resembles out of the profits. He says well minute for to witty

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Asahikawa it is from fatawa to have this great trait of

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generosity. There are different ways that we could translate a

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Sahar and Karim there's different types of generosity, but in

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general, the Sahaba is generous, but it's a specific type of

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generosity. It is a type of generosity where you give freely.

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Well, you just give freely. You're not just generous, is it you give

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freely. And that again, there's different ways we can be generous,

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is that anytime that you give in excess to what you have, that this

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is that considered to be a basic level of generosity. But then is

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that

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You can give all of the time. And that's another type of generosity

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or you could give big things. And that's another type of generosity

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and so forth and so on. But the generosity of Sahaba is one of

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freely giving, where it's just you're able to let go, and just to

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give, and our Prophet sallallaahu Salam, Al Jana to Daraa us here,

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Paradise is the DAR it is the abode of the people of Sahaba of

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the people of generosity, it is their bowed and what is understood

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there is that that ugly trait of miserliness is one of the quickest

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ways is that we prevent ourselves from receiving the Mercy of Allah

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Gela gelato. This is where the people of generosity will be. And

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that as that has been said, is that my job and Allah Willian cup

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to Allah Allah sahab Allah to Allah has never made any of the

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Olia in a state other than that of generosity, their natural state

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Jebel Allah, Allah created the odia in this state is that their

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generous, this is the way they are. And the more and more I think

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about it, if you think about the special people that you have met,

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the people that others say that they are righteous. What I know is

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that God, Allah, who I heard, is that

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none of them are not generous, they're all generous. This is one

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of their traits. This is just how they are. They are generous

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people, and that someone who is ignorant, yet generous is that

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more beloved to Allah subhanho wa Taala than someone who does a lot

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of worship, but they are miserly.

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And so this trait of generosity is one that we want to acquire is

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that we want to that put into practice, and we want to be

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reflected at every level of our being. Because the more that we

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give, the more that we receive. And ultimately we do it. Because

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that this is a part of the HELOC be lucky law, which is what the

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moment always says about this hadith is that one of the reasons

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is the abode of the people of Paradise because this is one of

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the attributes of our Lord Gela, gelato. And the more that we take

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on those attributes in a way that is possible for human beings, the

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more it will be befitting for us to be in the place that he is

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reserved for those blessings, slaves and servants of his Subhan

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who went to Allah, may Allah subhanaw taala blessed us to be

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from them, and to bring the meanings of this mold alive in our

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hearts. And may we be people of presence, and may we receive

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everything that is that we're supposed to receive and gatherings

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like this, and to prevent all blockage and all obstacles and

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everything that is going to get in our way. And may we be strong with

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our brothers and with our sisters and have strong households and

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strong communities and strong relationships with the people that

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are around us, and may have lots of other good dad, there's a lot

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of people that are ill and then have problems and they're going

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through difficulties. Yeah, Allah Yara from the blessing of these

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galleys, not because of us, we know our sinful selves. May Allah

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forgive us since all of the sins that we commit openly in secretly

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out of anatomy, but from the blessing of our teachers, and from

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the blessing of the intentions that they established this

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gathering before even though in the most imperfect ways that we're

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trying to emulate them from their blessing in them being beloved to

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yada but I mean, we asked you to take care of all of our needs,

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inwardly and outwardly, everything that we need in these days and

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then these nights in relation to us and our families and our loved

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ones and those in our community and the needs of the home of our

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Prophet Salalah is sending we asked him to take care of them

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yada but it mean in the very best of ways you're humbled I mean,

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because you are the one supine who went Tada. They will take care of

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the needs of those whom you want in the way that you want. Subhanak

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We ask Allah to added to give us Tofik in all of our affairs, was

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on the law had I seen him or her mother and it was obvious lm 100

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Illa here on behind me

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