Waleed Basyouni – Trials Of Life – How We Deal With Them

			Number 11 who want to stay in who wanna study who want to stop here ohana Villa Haman shampoo
cinnamon Satya Melina Allahu Allah call him to help can help our local hamdulillah Buddha or
sallallahu wasallam. Mubarak Allah Nabina Muhammad Anwar nada and he will be Assemblyman Mehta
Sleeman. kathira am about old praise due to Allah and His praise and blessings and peace be upon our
Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his family's companions and his followers until the
day of judgment. I bear witness at a loss The only one worthy of worship and Muhammad sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam is lost on Final messenger.
		

			My dear brothers and sisters,
		

			about 10 years ago,
		

			around this same time, of this month, maybe a couple of months earlier,
		

			I to NASA rod one,
		

			my wife was visiting our pediatrician.
		

			Because
		

			my son was not feeling well. And I remember I was just landed from one of my classes in Houston
airport.
		

			And she called me and or the doctor, she talked to me, it's kind of strange. And he told me, I want
you to come straight to the clinic. Because I don't want your wife to drive your son. I was like
what's happening. And he said that I'm sorry to tell you that your son is diagnosed with leukemia.
		

			I wish I did. I need I wish I don't have to tell you that news. But that's what it is. The good news
is, if anybody has to have a leukemia, blood, a B, LL,
		

			which is something, at least something can be, you know, there is a higher percentage of survive.
		

			10 years later, I can look back at that day, and how I felt that moment how it was so hard. And by
the grace of Allah subhana wa tada and the support that he got from so many great families here in
our community, I was able to move on. And I can look at this moment in my life, and my family's life
as a turning point, that have changed so many of us to be better in many different ways, and improve
our lives in many different
		

			ways as well.
		

			As you might know, October is the month of the breast cancer awareness month.
		

			And as a father of a surviving child who diagnosed with cancer hamdulillah and also as a son of a
mother who died to a cancer.
		

			And Few days ago, the man who I consider my father, after my father,
		

			have done so much to me, passed away due to a long battle with
		

			lung cancer.
		

			So I thought maybe this will be a good opportunity to at least in the beginning of my heart, but
today as a person who I'm don't think I'm an A strange incident, I'm 100% sure that every single one
and this mustard now today listening to me, have someone either personally or someone from his
relatives, close or distance had to deal with this disease, which is cancer is over 100 types, and
any parts of your body can be affected by cancer.
		

			Cancer is basically
		

			responsible for so many deaths in the world. As a matter of fact, child a children's Reason number
two are the highest percentage of death among children. The second highest reason for death among
children is cancer. First one is accident.
		

			among adults, it's also responsible for the highest numbers of death, the second highest number of
death among adults cancer comes right after heart disease.
		

			So that's something interesting is to see or to be something that you should be aware of.
		

			In 2012, there are approximately 13 point 7 million Americans with a history of cancer alive.
		

			Anyone can develop cancer. However, the risk of getting a cancer increase in the age most cases
occur in the
		

			Middle Age, you know, the say, an adult middle aged adults or older, about 77% of all cancers are
diagnosed and people under the age of 55 years and older.
		

			In 2000, I believe 13
		

			they were
		

			basically almost 1600 people die daily due to cancer.
		

			Daily
		

			cancer, you know, as I said, like nearly one in every four death in America caused by death by
cancer
		

			and
		

			excluding skin cancer, breast cancer is the most commonly diagnosed cancer among woman on October is
the month where we creating awareness about or there's an awareness month for breast cancer. And
that's why I'm happy to announce that clearlight community invite everyone make sure on your way
out. To check it out, too, we will have participating in a run for cancer as a group are presenting
our community and we did this before in the past. And we will do it again.
		

			As I said, like 1% of all new cancer diagnosed in America goes to children.
		

			To put it in more perspective, they said,
		

			For when it comes to children,
		

			it is commonly between the age of one to 14, you know
		

			28% of them might be diagnosed with cancer. That's a very high number. And the most common cancer
among men won't be according to the number, prostate, lung and colon cancer, for women will be a
breast lung. And again, colon cancer, which is a very common among men and women and it's one of the
leading cause of death due to cancer disease is the colon cancer between men and woman combined.
		

			The good news is about this, I'm not here to depress you, especially if you're going through this or
you have a family member going through that the good news about those that the rate of death due to
cancer is dropping tremendously over the years, which is something we are very grateful and thankful
to Allah subhana wa Tada. First, then to those men and woman who dedicated their life to research to
treat everyone in the medical field somehow contribute to reduce the pain or healing lost my thought
I use them to heal the sick one we are in debt to them male as pathauto reward them tremendously.
		

			So,
		

			as I said, like for example, lung cancers death rate declined 48% from 1990 to 2016.
		

			Attribute among men and 23% from 2000 to 2016. Among woman and the difference between men and woman
due to a culture thing, because they say women usually start smoking in a later age, and they are
slower in quitting. While men start cancer in the earlier age and they quit earlier in age. That's
why the percentage is very big see how big it is? From 48 to 20. From 48 to 23%, breast cancer death
rates declined 40% from 1989 to 2016. Among woman the and the progress is attributed to improvement
in early detection.
		

			Prostate cancer death rate declined 51% from 1993 to 2016 among men calling cancer rate declined 53%
from 1972 to 2006 51% from 1993 to 2016 among men.
		

			So, as you see this declining is because improvement in treatment and early detections and also
prevention. Prevention can be an amazing tool to help yourself to help your family members. Tobacco
use is the single largest preventable code cause
		

			for cancer in the world, it costs 22% of causing of cancers death 22% of it due to smoking. So if
you try to, to make sure that you your friend, your family, you know what that sucked. I don't know
when you're gonna quit
		

			if you seeing people around you left or right, and as we start getting ready of cigarettes, jewel
come to the picture.
		

			And electronic cigarettes coming to the picture. And we've been hearing how many cases now in Texas
died to that as well.
		

			So, our Gila is even worse than smoking
		

			and I hope I'm going to call shall come out on his hotbar to speak about that, because that's a lot
of people think our gala is or hookah whatever you call it is lesser no problem than smoking and the
reality is not
		

			and and there is many research to show and reasons for it to be even worse than cigarettes.
		

			So prevention play a major role, there is over 2 million skin cancers are diagnosed every year in
America, the cert with a prevention like not too much exposure to sun, living in Texas, you know,
maybe job works,
		

			you know, not too much exposure or indoor tanning, you know will help to reduce the amount of
		

			people who diagnosed with that. So, my point is that there is a good news or in regard to
Prevention's in regard to treatments in regard to you know, early detection. So, take care of
yourself. Allah subhanaw taala gave us this body and order us to take care of it.
		

			But what I want to focus on the rest of my hope after those introductions
		

			is
		

			cancer or diseases one thing that we might struggle with in life
		

			but each and every one they have we have our sets of struggles, our issues my struggle maybe is with
my daughter or my son, who's giving me a hard time
		

			my struggle is my finances terrible I'm broke
		

			my struggle could be you know, a habit that I'm not able to correct
		

			a sin that I keep repeating my struggle it might be health issue. So people have a different sets of
struggles and I don't think it's one or two or three there's so many of things that we all struggle
with. And I always remember the story of this wise man when people start talking about their
problems. He said everybody writes his problem but it's in this container. Then after everybody
wrote their problems and put it in the container he said, Everybody pick one now randomly, so
everybody picks somebody else problem and when they start looking at the list of the problem anybody
out they said you know what, no, no, no, give me my problems back. You know, you can do with yours,
		

			I'm happy with you know, dealing my problems.
		

			Maybe my my husband is much better than your problem, you know.
		

			So, or my en la whatever is the issues you know, that you struggling with? So here we are saying
that I want to also give tips that will help us a lot when it comes to dealing with problems.
Regardless, what's this problem is because we will never live a life free of problems, will never
live a life that is everything going absolutely smooth. 100% there will be always challenges there
will be always no roadblocks, there was always hardship. inside the cabin, in a different era of
Beckenham from rappy have your hair today you can enter Khun Farid Amina Dr. tomasa
		

			this live will never be free from problems
		

			Akina Elmo him who raised the magazine, and if it had been
		

			different if it had, what is so important is not what happened to us in life, but how we deal with
what happened to us in life. And instead of just talking about your problem, I hope that this hope
bowl is inspire us to start talking to our problems facing it, taking some serious steps to make
change, before you run out of time, or you run out of even interest to solve the problem.
		

			Because sometimes you get excited about something and you just ignore it, you don't care for it. And
guess what, you never get excited about it again. That's why you should take advantage of this, you
know, interest that you have
		

			enthusiasm that you have in towards solving your problems, especially these long term problems.
		

			One of the things that I will advise in regard to this, number one, don't ever be led by your
problems. Don't ever let your problems lead your life. Control your thoughts. Don't let it you know
occupy your heart. It might come through your mind you think about it, but don't allow it to settle
there. Don't allow it to be the first thing to think about in the morning. Make sure when you wake
up in the morning and think about the most positive things and interviews are seldom taught us that
in the US, but
		

			in the US were held in San Juan ophira to Akbar Ahmed
		

			john Allahu Hina
		

			when you woke up in the morning and the most The first thing you think about and you concern about
is that after a talk about gender and how you will be there and you think about it in a very
positive way.
		

			Allah will filled your heart with satisfaction.
		

			Make sure that in the morning when you look at yourself in the mirror, you don't talk about you know
what my love handles going out of hand You know, you know I'm just anyway I'm just getting sick I
look terrible I am this I'm not you know oh my god the kids not Oh, I have a long hard day in front
of me now say it's gonna be a great day. You ought to belong medical hemtt I thank you for think of
the blessings of Allah be grateful and thankful The first thing you work up in the morning and see
how your day will go if no pay you know Kenny mucha Mita yeppoon in our na k Tommy Dabba either I'm
secto I'm sector with appear to dub
		

			something very, it's a metaphor he said. The beginning of the day is like you know, when you hold
basically the horse from that the rope or the saddle, you hold it so you control it, you control the
animals, the leash, you hold the leash, you control the animal, he said, that's exactly the morning.
If your morning is positive, good. That's the leash you control the rest of your day. What can be
better than a four iron in February in Arnold fedrick Anima shuda what can be better and praying
fetcher on time and starting your day with an Fatiha with reading or an with praying to Allah
subhana wa tada
		

			Don't let problems lead your live by constantly think about
		

			also letterhead akula how to do that fairly much accuracy topic. Also another manifestation for this
don't make your life is all about reaction to the problems that's happening to you. So what happened
all my life is about how to deal with those problems, how to react to it, I never good chance
actually just talk about my dreams about the thing that I want to do about the thing that I want to
enjoy in life. Because I always focus on the problem and the what I don't have the negative part.
		

			You know, so this is so important is almost not to exaggerate the problem not to think too much
about it, you should do take the necessary steps and you leave the rest of our last panel
		

			because sometimes our problems seems larger than their reality. Just exactly like the shadows look
so big, then what is really it represents
		

			another important point when it comes to these challenges in life Don't ever let your problems
defeat you from inside.
		

			Even if you are not out from outside don't allow it to knock you down from inside. See Sahaba they
allow animada home when they were defeated in the Battle of
		

			when so many of them killed and the people always felt this is the victory where you know that the
Yom Yom is better now we are equal blah blah blah and Sahaba were so you know it's so hard for them
to lose the battle. Why Mohammed Salim among them to see the process of ankle killed and people
tortured and disfigured and, and all those things that you know have took place in the Battle of
		

			listen to what Allah subhanaw taala said in regard to this particular incident.
		

			When he dies
		

			to move on. In mini lotto believer don't ever feel down less.
		

			If you're a true believer, don't ever look this problem defeat you from insight
		

			outside the inserted movement, something nobody can take it away from you
		

			at dignity, that strength that imagined
		

			In your heart, nobody can take it away. The only way it goes away, if you kick it out yourself.
		

			The only time you will be feeling defeated from inside if you allowed it.
		

			No disease,
		

			no disability,
		

			no problems, no one, control your heart except Allah and yourself.
		

			You're the one who control what's inside you how you think
		

			it is not because things are difficult, that we don't dare. Now, it's because we don't dare, things
are difficult.
		

			As the reality
		

			I'm terrified from height.
		

			I'm terrified from I always think high that I it's very intimidating for me to be in a high place.
But you know what I said, I'm going to conquer my fear. It's not because it's difficult. It's
because I don't dare I remember that code.
		

			And I did something has to do with height, you know, which is I never thought in my life, I'll do
it. But you know what I felt, I never I just did it. Because I want to make sure that I always able
to conquer my fear. Because he said, the best way to conquer your fear is through actions.
		

			And this is just an a silly example. But there is bigger things in your life. Maybe you're afraid to
take certain steps, maybe to start a business maybe to start a new life maybe to make a decision to
end this relationship. Maybe it's about time to depart from one another on my partner or my my you
know,
		

			whatever is the case, you suffering from it, you know, it's a time for me to confront this issue.
		

			And, and that's what it takes for you to basically to be strong to make that decision.
		

			In a visa solemn send method and mcminn can method in Nevada, the example of the believer is like
the palm tree, palm tree is an amazing three palm tree can be bad. Basically, the wind can bend the
palm tree all the way down, then it comes back again, bounced back again.
		

			There is no tree only like big trees, they don't have the wind, basically bend it It means break the
tree
		

			and nothing Nadella he attends in some mythology.
		

			And when I started
		

			the movement and movement when there is a pressure on them, yes, it's hard and bend you but you
bounce back. tarjay come on to Africa
		

			to the bicycle vesicle
		

			acts that's an interesting example. One of the benefits why the process arm said metal metal in the
example of the believer, like the example of a palm tree. And by the way palm tree, the older it
gets, the sweeter the dates are.
		

			So please check yourself. Now as you grow older, do your kids or your wife see you sweeter or all
the time borderline grumpy old man.
		

			Is that something you should check but because the believer the older he gets, it's like they bother
you though the older the palm tree gets, the sweeter the the fruit is palm tree, you can use
everything in it very beneficial.
		

			And it has very low maintenance.
		

			So this is another thing that we should be very careful about when to deal with the problems.
Another point that I want to share as well is when you have a problem in life, make sure that you
don't just focus on the symptoms, you have to go to the root cause of this problem.
		

			You know, so many times we just want to put the lid in our problem. So many problems. So many times
we think if we don't look at it, if we don't talk about it, it will go away by itself. Maybe there's
certain things by time it will go away. But most of the real problems and real issues, you have to
deal with it. You have to look at the root cause for it. Like sometimes couples come to me. And
there is a problem. I said there is something way deeper than what you guys talking about. It's not
about going to this vacations or spending this money this way. That is a bigger issue, a trust
issue, a respect issue
		

			that needs to be dealt with.
		

			You know, it's not about the sun that you do maybe there is a deeper issue that you don't have a
strong Eman inside you
		

			that you need to work on it.
		

			So, here we say it is so important that we you know, we always try to look at these problems and
look at the cause root for it and how can we deal with it and we try you know if
		

			The plan doesn't work. It doesn't mean you change the goal. You just change the plan.
		

			Each try another way of solving the problem. Because I will guarantee you one thing, guys.
		

			And I hope you all agree with me. If you take 45 south, you're going to end up in Galveston. You're
never going to end up in woodlands.
		

			That's right. If every day you take 45 salt, you're never going to end up in woodlands.
		

			You're gonna keep going until you reach Galveston. So if you deal with the problem the same way
you're gonna have the same results. So many times colors
		

			you know, Masha,
		

			Allah, what do you do? Let's just go back to each other, you know, cause Forget about it. And when
you go back to each other, a husband and wife after separation, or a child and Father, you know
what? You take 45 south, you're gonna end up in Galveston. Good luck. If you want to live there.
		

			You're gonna save the same problem you have to deal with it again. So this is very important thing
to think about. You know what I can just do the same exact thing that I've been doing every time and
expecting a different result. That is something wrong in your new way of thinking.
		

			Lets kids do that. But not adults, not wise people.
		

			Anyway, I asked a las panatela new Illinois yakun when you have Jimmy and Jimmy Dore comedy calm
		

			I'm having to rely on the salatu salam ala
		

			carte. They say language is the dress of thoughts, the dress of thoughts.
		

			Watch your words how you talk about your problems.
		

			Don't use big words.
		

			Because we the way you talk about it, that's how we affect you. And I love what the processor told
us kind of funny Apple hire on earlier smoked.
		

			You know what you can say something good, remain silent.
		

			He makes sure I'll be in La shala mosquito shall be vanilla and Allah Yes, Yara.
		

			Allah subhanaw taala will make it easy. You know, Watch your words, always use positive words. Don't
use negative words
		

			and see how those will affect you. And instead of saying it can't be happen, I'll try.
		

			You know, he always tried to make sure that this is something you You always think about your words.
That's why we have bobbin alfalfa Shabaab of him didn't have any data. So what was the data? The
wording, the concept of what words that use is a very interesting concept in Islam. And he even
though he talked about this, for example, pilot nibs are seldom liable to come low any foul
together. What can the Latina hasakah cater for in alota, ba ba ba?
		

			Ba, ba what Mr. confy? He said don't say if I did this, and this would have not happened this way or
some something else maybe might have. He said Why? Because if you keep saying f you what you open
the door for the ship and when the ship on enter your heart will make you feel miserable, terrible
about yourself. The issue is not to feel bad about yourself. The issue is what can you do good to
make things better. So every time we talk about f f in the past is not going to really solve much
		

			fun. Finally, I want to make sure that you make a lot of
		

			profit or loss parent data to help you to overcome your problem. be optimistic. Always look at the
light. always expect the fudge the relief from a loss of Hanover to Anna. You know what this
optimism. It's make you real. It's not an idealistic things, not delusion. No optimism is really to
see opportunities when people see it as just a difficulty in your life.
		

			And finally, make sure that you consult if you have a problem.
		

			Don't complain but ask for advice. Ask for help. You will find a lot of resources. And I can say
this when I have my problem many times in my many of my problems. I will always like to go to people
and ask and consult and listen to them.
		

			So you know what I think today is a good day that you go get your problem solved.
		

			You take control over your life. And instead of letting this negativity taking over your life, to
get the life that you deserve. Don't let anything stopping you from what Allah subhanaw taala
created you for. He can
		

			Ready for you to be happy, to be free, to be strong, to be connected to him and anything connected
them is not weak is good.
		

			I asked you today to be able to, you know enjoy what little gifts and the blessings that Allah
subhanaw taala have given you and to become and wise and fill your heart with faith when you look at
your problems and when you deal with them as
		

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