Wael Ibrahim – The Divorce Recipe

			If you're married couples and looking for divorce recipe This video is for you As salam aleikum wa
rahmatullah wa barakato Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah he sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam This video is being prepared to demonstrate 10 ingredients that could ruin any one's
marriage. We're not here to say that divorce is not allowed in Islam. In fact, it is permissible yet
highly discouraged and detestable in the sight of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So if you're going
through marital issues with your husband with your wife, perhaps you've been exercising few traits
that had led you to where you are today in sha Allah Allah In this video, we will demonstrate most
		

			common traits that can destroy marriage altogether and lead to divorce. Number one, our
		

			marriage is a partnership between the husband and the wife. It's not about one individual to take a
decision. It's not about my way or the highway. No, no, no, you shouldn't be stubborn. When it comes
to taking few decisions. You should learn to be an easygoing person humble enough to change perhaps
few of your opinions or negotiate with your spouse gently and nicely in a manner that suits you as
being Muslims. The Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Allah, Buddha convenient,
Ramallah not albumin? rumali not Allah Kula Caribbean Hainan sir, the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu
Sallam said, should I inform you for whom the fire is made unlawful harm that person will not be
		

			touched by Hellfire via the law upon every person who is gentle, kind and easy to deal with. So
number one recipe for disaster when it comes to relationship between spouses is being stubborn.
Number two don't beat each other up hitting hitting each other whether the husband beating up the
wife or the wife doing the same it is absolutely the closest way to destroy your marriage is to beat
up your beloved husband or beat up your beloved wife. Yes, we see the majority of the cases of
domestic violence our husbands beating up the wives but actually there are some cases where the wife
now have taken that courage to stretch their hands and teach their husbands lessons beating up each
		

			other is off the table the prophets Elias lm some of the description given by his beloved companions
Mel barbatos who lice Allah Selim Hardiman, while a Moroccan caught the process and have never
stretched his hand and beat up neither a servant or a wife at all in his entire life. The prophet
SAW Selim had demonstrated this kindness and gentleness to all creation Omar Seneca illa mattone
Lala meet the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was sent as a mercy to mankind and Allah subhanho wa Taala
is expecting from us to also show mercy to everyone on earth especially of course the closest
towards our husbands or wives or humble men or the Himachal Memphis Mr. Show mercy show mercy to to
		

			those who live on earth so that the one in heaven Allah subhanaw taala may show mercy upon you later
on on the Day of Judgment, but how could we show mercy to one another, if the hands do the talk
number three, divorce will now now now now bmm, and divorce more and the man to shouldn't always
threaten or blackmail his wife by this cheap card of divorce. Not every time you have a fight or you
have some disagreements, you go and say if you don't quit, I'm gonna divorce. I'm gonna send you
back home to your family. Not only that, but we have even people in the community who would come
along and encourage you to separate just because there is a problem had taken place between you and
		

			your beloved husband or your beloved wife. Remember, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam made it very,
very clear that there are three matters, no jokes about them. They are very, very serious. Just the
hondajet what has learned, if you are serious about them, they will be considered serious. And if
you are joking about them, they will be considered to be serious as well. One of them is divorced.
So don't threaten each other or lay the blame Allah protect us all with that cheap approach to
blackmail your partner. Number four talking about the past. Do you remember 10 years ago, you didn't
like my food? Do you remember the zillions of years ago you told me this? You told me that no need
		

			to bring the past when you're dealing with new fresh problems. Didn't you already live in peace
after this past problem? Why would you bring the conversation about it when you're experiencing a
new fresh situation? just deal with what you have today at this present moment and forget about the
past. It's already gone. If it will do anything
		

			thing it will add more fuel to the fire number five never make a supplication against your spouse
you never know when will alasa panatela accept such a no Do you ever make dua against yourself I
sometimes see couples coming you know for coaching counseling and all that and in in the middle of
the conversation one of them will say your law Please take me now and me once and for all so that
she can become happy don't don't pray against your partner and don't make die against yourself the
process of selling prohibited making a Doha or wish wish death upon ourselves the process and
prohibited that and of course don't curse anyone and don't wish death to happen for others
		

			especially if that person is the closest you know whoa Nelly bass hola como and to live as on their
own they are your garments that closest to your body is your garment that closest to you in life is
your spouse is your wife is your husband How could you wish death upon him or her? The Prophet
Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam was described that he never uttered these curse words, and and voila,
fashion, whatever but he was he never cursed anyone. He never used foul language. And he was not
obscene talker. That's your beloved prophet Panesar, sell them just do your best to imitate his
character. and problem solved in one of the generations and then curse the wind, the air, and the
		

			process lm heard him saying bad words against the wind and the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam
stopped him and he said, Don't do that. Don't Don't curse the wind for it is being commanded to do
what it is doing. Perhaps the wind was causing things to fly here and there. So the props are
simple. It is it has been commanded. And then he warned the man and of course all of us don't curse
anything for if it does not deserve the curse, it will go back to you it will return to the person
who have done the cursing. So we have to be very vigilant when it comes to swear words making law
against each other You never know When will our last family respond to that and if something evil
		

			befall you, as a result of that, you wouldn't be happy for yourself and for your partner. Instead,
my brothers and sisters let us learn to pray for one another even if we disagree even if we are
annoyed Yeah, Allah guide her. Y'all are open his heart You're lost, soften his words and heart and
mind and so on. And when when we do that for one another as couples, our children will grow up also
hearing those words and they will learn from us, I get a lot of youngsters who hate the idea of
marriage because of what they experience with the parents at home. Number six, do not grow grass, do
problems to others. You don't have to complain to your mother, you don't have to run to your friends
		

			and tell them what's going on between you and your wife. If this will do anything my brothers and
sisters, it would lead to a disastrous And not only that, but it may also lead to heat it feelings
and grudges from the in laws against both of you, you may end the problem and, and spend the night
together in peace but the family members once you complain to them about your husband or your wife,
they will never forget. And then they will feel that you both as husband and wife You will feel that
when you meet them next time. You know your mother in law would be looking at you differently or
your your brother in law will be looking at you differently and they might you know, bring up the
		

			problems and they might tell you like you don't deserve our daughter and whatnot. So don't extend
the problem beyond you and your wife beyond you and your husband number seven don't involve the kids
disagree all you want fight respectfully all you want, but don't involve the kids don't even let the
kids field get into your bedroom and talk decently about the problem that you're going through. And
even if if you decided to take aside perhaps someone will go to the bit to the end of you know the
corner and cry or do something Don't try to let the kids side with you. Did you see what your father
did to me? Did you see how your mother thinks Have you seen a woman like that before? Can you
		

			imagine Can you believe what I just said it's true it's happening in our homes unfortunately don't
involve the kids they grow up as I mentioned earlier hating the Constitution of marriage Little
wonder why is in a is on the rise because they don't understand the value of marriage if DC the
parents at war all the time. Number eight, don't leave home. How many times I've received phone
calls from husbands complaining that the wives packed up their clothes and left the house is I do
agree that when things go out of hand when it involves really physical, you know violence and so on.
Yes, other people must get involved. But if you're fighting over trivial matters, you don't have to
		

			magnify these little issues. Don't leave home for that. If the husband perhaps got a little bit
angry. I also don't advise him to leave the house. But if you wanted to go out to cool down and come
back and apologize perhaps if he raised his voice unnecessarily or if he said few words that really
		

			hurt his wife, they man up and apologize. There is no problem whatsoever if you made a mistake to
correct it by a nice and sincere apology, but don't leave your homes number nine disrespect he's not
a man I have never seen a good day with the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said that the majority of
women will be in Hellfire out we'll be learning Allah protect us all, because of this particular
attitude that they will live together in peace for many, many years. And when a problem come along,
they will say that we have never seen a good day or never seen a good moment with them. That means
such woman are ungrateful, but the same apply to men as well. Be respectful, don't call her names
		

			don't abuse her family members take her to see her parents respect is the one thing that would
actually build up a healthy home if you don't respect your wife. If you don't respect your husband,
why will your children respect both of you? Number 10 and the last on my list, he's a cheat cheat.
She's over generous enough with the blame game. Don't put a blame on your wife for everything that
she say Yes, she's jealous. So what try to prove that you're not doing something wrong. And sisters,
please not every time he do the wrong it means that he's cheating on you or he's doing something
outside. Don't continuously use the card because guess what many times because of the repetitive,
		

			unnecessary and untrue statements of that kind could lead your husband to do the wrong I'm not
trying to justify any wrong but don't be part of it. So avoid blaming her for being jealous. That's
something that all women go through. But also do not abuse him or accuse him for being a cheater. If
you didn't have a solid evidence. May Allah subhanaw taala protect our homes from divorce. Yes, it's
Hillel, as we mentioned in the beginning of this episode, but it is the most undesirable activity in
the sight of Allah subhanaw taala. So let it be the last resort and avoid those 10 evil ingredients
that could lead to divorce. And in that case, not only you and your husband or your wife will be
		

			suffering from the consequences, your children too will not be spared. A Salam aleikum wa
rahmatullah Harrogate