Tom Facchine – Hadith Series – #61 – Maintain This Relationship
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The speaker discusses the negative impact of cutting people from their lives, citing a Prophet's statement that people should not be cut off from their mothers. They also mention the importance of protecting oneself and maintaining a healthy relationship with their parents.
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Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in the La Habra, Alikum are totally on my heart, that Allah has prohibited people from cutting off their literally mothers. And in general, this means your parents. Allah doesn't like that we completely cut off our parents, and the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam just left it like that. He didn't say, as long as they treat you, right? Or as long as they're not toxic, or as long as they're this or as long as they're that. He said it and he left it there. And that's something that's kind of hard for us to hear these days, because we receive a lot of messages that tell us that we should cut out people from our lives, if
we think that they're toxic. And there's a reason why that's gotten to be really popular. And people feel very empowered by that because nobody should put up with abuse. Right? So if somebody's physically abusive to you, even if they're a parent, yeah, that's not okay. That relationship needs to be altered or even severed. If somebody is really, you know, emotionally or spiritually abusive to you. That's a problem. And that's going to have consequences. But on the other side of things, I think we've suffered from this sort of concept creep, where people are really quick to call every sort of unpleasant experience and unpleasant exchange and unpleasant relationship as well. It's
toxic. Well, they're a narcissist, well, I need to cut them out of my lives. And this is what I think this hadith can teach us is that it doesn't happen like that. There's going to be relationships, that they're not the most comfortable, happy relationships. But that doesn't mean that you just get to cut them out of your life. When it comes to your parents. You have a duty to them. Even if you don't get along super well, even if they undermine you or they disrespect you, or they do certain things that that relationship is in your life to worship Allah. And you got to strike a balance between protecting yourself and maintaining that relationship.