Tom Facchine – Don’t Be a Hypocrite

			Shaykh Abdullah would always give this example in his lessons in Medina, he would say that the
doctor can't be sick.
		

			He said, If the sick doctor tries to go cure somebody, not only is he not going to cure him, he's
going to give him his disease.
		

			And that's what we're talking about. You know, it's not to say that you have doubt that there's
another extreme here that we're not going to, we're not saying that you have to be a perfect person,
in order to give somebody advice or to correct somebody, there's no perfect person out there. If
that were true, that nobody would ever be able to correct anybody for anything. That's not what
we're saying. But there's the other extreme that's there to where you've got somebody who their
relationships are a mess. They do not have a good relationship with their spouse, they are not
living for a law, they haven't broken into that higher plane of purpose, where they're trying to
		

			bring about a laws will or allows wish onto the creation. And then they're sticking their nose and
everything. And they're trying to say you should be doing this this way. You should be doing that
that way. Now, you need to fix yourself first. You need to take care of you know, how is your
relationship with a lot. There's a funny story about us. It's one of these old Joe has stories or
National Intelligence stories. Right, where Nasr Dean Hodges the body, He's the judge. Okay. And
		

			some woman, she's a mother of a young child, she brings him to the judge. And she complains and she
says, My son is addicted to sugar. He just keeps on eating sugar all day long sweets, please pass a
ruling forbidding him from eating sugar or sweets.
		

			And that's really how just as come back next week,
		

			and he's kind of confused. Why do I have to come back next week, but okay, he's the judge. So she
goes she comes back next week. She says the same thing is like I'm here again with my son, please.
All he does all day long is eat sweets, tell him he can't eat sweets. He says come back next week.
He keeps on telling every week come back next week, come back next week. Finally months go by.
		

			And she comes and she says what's the deal? Like, please give me this ruling like making it
forbidden for my son to eat sweets. He's ruining his health. He's ruining his teeth, all these sorts
of things, won't eat his vegetables.
		

			And the judge finally says necessarily notice says alright, boy, you are forbidden from eating
sweets. No more sugar at all. And then the woman's like, thank you so much. But what took you so
long?
		

			You could have said that the first time I came in here. And that's where Dean Hall just said, Well,
I myself, I'm addicted to sweets. And so I had to stop myself first before passing the ruling to
this young person. So there's a lesson in that. There's a lesson in that, you know, like, we can't
be hypocritical, right? Even if you're right, you can be wrong. Right. And, you know,
		

			it's also hard on the next you know, like, anytime you try to correct somebody or try to, you know,
give them advice on something that's touchy personal, it can be hard on the neck, it's hard on the
ego. And so you undermine the effective ness of your advice if you're also not putting it into
practice in your life.