Tom Facchine – Avoid This As a New Muslim – Advice for Converts

			So what not to do, if you're a new convert, I would say that in the majority of situations, you
should not make any major life changes or major life decisions right away, you got to wait until the
dust settles. There's exceptions to this. But this in my observation
		

			is usually true. Right? Because
		

			you got to get settled into your identity, you got to get settled into your practice, your whole
worldview is changing. And new information is coming to you so fast, you haven't really filtered it
out or settled in for yourself, you have to realize that the zeal that you have now isn't always
going to last, right.
		

			And so when it comes to a major move, like an international move, or even a national mover, cutting
off, like, certain relationships, or
		

			marriage, right, or these or divorce, or these sorts of things.
		

			Usually, usually, I think that the best plan is to just kind of stay put, and try to work on being a
better person trying to work on getting the basics down, have a stomach practice and get the basics
down. Oh, Sonic belief, try to find who are your trusted mentors is a huge problem. Some people that
get in with a bad crew from the get go. And the bad crew I'm talking about isn't some people who are
out at the club smoking and drinking and these sorts of things, and talking about a bad crew of
people who are giving very, very poor religious advice, religious advice, with no sense of,
		

			of the devil, no sense of of easing a person in no sense of how to put a person on like a roadmap
for success. So somebody becomes a Muslim. And now they've got friends who are telling them well,
you have to divorce your spouse, or you have to quit your job. Or you have to do this, you have to
do that.
		

			Man, I would be afraid for those people on the day of judgment, because that is some serious stuff
that you're telling, ya know, you have your evidence, and you have your quote, ready. But it's not
about that. It's about
		

			dealing with tough here, it's about two federal judges about easing a person in and that's why
ideally, conference have qualified religious leadership to be able to refer back to and to go to
because somebody who's qualified as a religious leader is going to be able to tackle things in a way
where it's, you're setting. First things first priorities. First work on this. Okay, you got this
down. Next work on that. Okay, you got that down. Next work on that. And this is part of the Sunnah,
because in the hadith of Mirage, or the Prophet Muhammad SAW, I said, I'm sending more out to Yemen,
he tells him what there you're going to have people from the people of the book, call them to tell
		

			he'd write the Shahada. And then he says, if they submit to that, then you move on to calling them
to pray.
		

			If they submit to that, then you call them to the cat.
		

			Right? So this is to the root. This is something where you have to put people on a roadmap for
sustainable long term success. You can't throw somebody you can't throw all of Ficus suna or, you
know, the whole set of Islam on somebody right at once. It's not going to work. Even Allah subhanaw
taala didn't deal this way with the companions. Right? He had to determine she had years where he
focused on Arpita theology. And then he went on to the cam, once they moved to Medina, and even that
wasn't all in one go. It was bit by bit by bit. This is something recognized by the scholars and in
classical texts about how you know the situation would convert is different, you don't treat a
		

			convert, like you treat, you know, your normal, even even your normal relapsed Muslim, right?
Because a relapsed Muslim usually has a sort of,
		

			you know, some sort of groundwork, some sort of foundation, you know, and they usually have a lot of
family sort of supports, or they have some sort of, they have relationships that they can kind of go
to a conference, a completely different story. Right? So don't fall into these sorts of crews of
people who are just telling you how you should live your life and telling Well, you got to make this
major change, and you got to make this major change. Be very careful about that. So that's general
advice. And it doesn't always hold true, but it often does.
		

			Slow down. Don't make any major changes until you get settled in and you're comfortable with your
new faith.